 When the narcissist realizes You were the right choice. It's a very big topic today Because yes In some situations they do Eventually realize that you were the right choice And we're gonna talk about Exactly what that is like for them and And Of course what they do When they realize that There's maybe something that many of you have experienced already or It may be something that you will experience in the future It will take time It's not gonna happen straight away Anyway before we begin I am in another city now Another apartment just moved in here Yesterday me and Nala Have a good time here and I'm actually very close to Lego land Which I always wanted to go to But I never got to But now here's my chance They may take you with me as well really great views here. You can see part of the condo there. It's very big And I'm very high up 27th floor Lego lands just around the corner It's a really cool lake here, but it looks a lot better in the day The main part of the city is down there. You can see all the skyscrapers But yeah, it's a cool place Having a great time here Really enjoy my travels And I think Nala is too, but yeah Let's get straight into it When they realize that you were the right choice Because many of them do realize it at some point Remember they always need supply That's what they're looking for and Yeah, at some point they realize that You were a great benefit to them They realize that they should have been grateful for you they should have appreciated you but they didn't and It's surprising for many of you That after everything you did for them, they just couldn't appreciate you Because you're expecting them to think the same way that you do That's the problem. You don't realize that these narcissists have a different mind they think differently than we do and You could argue that they have more experience But then do they Because they never take accountability And I think the key thing with experience Is that when things go wrong we do take accountability Because that's the whole point of the experience it's so that we can learn But they don't do that and that's why There are always arguments There are always problems Because Because of their lack of accountability throughout their lives They have a stunted emotional development They're not emotionally developed At the same level that we are They're not as emotionally mature They're not as emotionally intelligent and that's why they just Can't understand things the way that we do That's why there's so many misunderstandings so many arguments Because they weren't at the same level as you Emotionally That is why That is why they just couldn't understand where you were coming from When there was an issue an issue this didn't get you It's kind of the same as if you imagine You're rowing a boat You and the narcissist you're rowing a boat together You're both on opposite sides of the boat. You're rowing away And You're not getting anywhere. You're both rowing as hard as you can But the boat is going nowhere And the reason for that Is because you're both rowing in different directions That's why Because there were conflicting Motives Your motive may have been about Love and connection Building something together Working together And theirs was just their own self-interest That's why it didn't go anywhere So At some point you realize that and you have to break up You have to separate Because you realize that they're just too selfish They never think of you they never consider you It's just all about them and what they want So You move on and after everything they've told you How they've made themselves out to be Your guess is that they're going to be fine without you Because they always acted like they never needed you anyway and Maybe they were good at some things They may not have been emotionally intelligent But they may have been intelligent in other ways There may have been some things that You learn from them about Things that they showed you how to do Because there are certain things that they need to do To get what they want from people So you may have learned some things from them And assumed that They know what they're doing So they've got no problem moving on without you You saw something good in them That's why it was hard for you to let them go That's why you held on to them That's why you waited for them all of that time Because you thought one day they would be something great But they were never anything great for you They never made the effort to be anything great for you So eventually you gave up You let them go You separated You went your separate ways And you assumed that With these things that they are good at In the ways that they are intelligent Maybe they would just move on and find someone Who was better for them than you were Someone who would bring out the best in them Make them a better person And then they would suddenly realize everything they did wrong They would change their ways And be better for this new person There would be everything that you ever wanted them to be And they'd love you to think that That's exactly what they want you to think They'd love you to believe that they've just moved on You know, everything's great This new person accepts them They've changed their ways They're loyal and devoted to this new person And They're going to get married and have children If they haven't already And yeah, they just got a great life without you They would love for you to think that But that is not the case It never turns out that way Because you can't just go from Being who you are To changing overnight into something else Never works that way It takes years of work And that is work that they're not willing to do They're never going to put in the work to do that So even when they go somewhere else and find someone else It will start going wrong again Doesn't matter who that person is Doesn't matter how great they are It doesn't make a difference They will be saying the same things to the narcissist That you were saying They will have the same problems and issues that they had with you But the narcissist is going to do the same thing As they did with you as well They're going to disagree with this new person They're going to fight with them There's going to be a lot of arguments And you may never know about it But at some point they will just discard that person too And then they'll find someone else again And they'll play the same games again The new person will go through the same things That you went through with them It's just another part of the cycle So they keep going from relationship to the relationship But each time it fails Years of their life goes by Until They finally start to notice a pattern In some situations They finally start to develop some self-awareness And they realize that They are the common denominator In all of these situations It gets to a point where they're like All of these people can't be wrong All of these situations That I was in Maybe there was something wrong with me Is what they start to think After many years have gone by Many failed relationships And Yeah, when this happens There's a good chance that You're not dealing with someone With full-blown narcissistic personality disorder Because it's very unlikely that Someone like that would ever Become a self-aware It's more likely that it's someone with Narcissistic traits Because Although it's difficult people like that Can Receive some input Eventually So Yeah, at some point they notice The pattern And then that's when things start to make sense They start thinking back to when they were with you They remember All of the things you said to them All of the arguments and disagreements Which back then didn't make any sense to them But now It makes a hell of a lot of sense Things are starting to add up They're starting to realize Where they went wrong What pushed them not only you away But everyone else as well They put the pieces together It all starts to make sense They finally get it They've woken up but by the time They get to that point It's too late Too much time has passed You've moved on with your life You have a completely different life To when you are with them You've had so many new experiences Gained so much more knowledge You're in a completely different place And throughout all that time While you've been healing and moving on And all of these years have gone by and you're doing better You're happier and healthier You may even be in a new relationship You may be married You may have children and Yeah, while you're Experiencing all of that They've been struggling all of that time and Naturally, they're gonna think back to when things were better To when things were easier More convenient So naturally they're gonna think back To when things were good To when they were with you They're gonna think about all of those arguments All of those things you said But back then they couldn't understand it Back then it didn't make any sense And that really gets to them Just makes them wish If only I had more awareness If only I could see What was right in front of me the entire time Because they couldn't change When you wanted them to They couldn't be that person that you wanted them to be They couldn't be that And they need some up inside When they finally get it Because yeah, there's always going to be other people There's always going to be other sources of supply But they're not going to be you They're not going to be That one that got away Remember These narcissists want the best of the best And that's exactly what you were for them They've got to have someone who is Powerful Wealthy and successful Or someone who's physically attractive Or someone who's intelligent Someone who knows how to do things Someone who knows how to make things happen Only problem is There aren't many people like that to go around People like that Are in high demand A lot of people out there want a person like that But not everyone can have one Because they're rare A lot of you On here who watch my videos You are rare And it's highly unlikely that the narcissist will find Another person like you The odds are that they have to go down And what tends to happen is that As they get older They find Supplies that are less and less Fulfilling for them Which just builds up the bitterness and resentment Because they just keep finding people Who lie to them People who trick them People who cheat on them People who wait about shit People who are using them for money Using them for sex And at some point they just get sick of it They can't take anymore They get fed up And they think back And realize that The entire time you were the right choice They realize that you were the one for them It finally starts to make sense But by the time they realize that It's too late They know they burnt the bridge They did all of these things to you They hurt you endlessly They fucked you over So how can they come back now? They're not going to come back Because they see it as though they'd just be Giving you the opportunity to reject them To humiliate them But of course They're still narcissists Or they're still narcissistic at least So they're very arrogant They're full of pride and ego So why would they do that? Why would they come back? Deep down they know they don't deserve you They may act like they're better than you But deep down that's not how they really feel They know that they need you That's why they stayed with you for such a long time But they will act like they're fine without you As though they're in a better situation But in reality their life is falling apart So they'll stay hidden They'll stay away But they'll still be watching you They'll be spying on you Because they want to see what you're doing They want to see if you've moved on They want to see if there's a chance for them to come back But just imagine how embarrassing it is for them To see that you've moved on And You're happier and healthier Than you ever were with them And now you've got more money You're more successful You've got all of these things going on in your life And they haven't made any changes They haven't improved anything They haven't done the work Just imagine how embarrassing that is for them To know that they haven't made any progress They had all of that time And they wasted it They were messing around Not doing anything productive It's kind of sad when you think about it Because remember All of that time they spent with you But while they were with you They were never grateful They never appreciated you Nothing was ever good enough They never realised that you were the right choice While they were with you No, it's only when you leave Or when they leave you And then you just move on And then some months or years go by That's when they start to realise That you were the right choice They have this epiphany But then it's too late By that time you know it's too late You know that even if you did take them back It's not going to benefit you It's not going to improve your life It's just going to make you worse It's going to hold you down But there was a time When you wanted to help them When you wanted to fix things for them But now you're no longer there Now you've moved on And they will be spending many nights alone Sitting in their room Thinking What a big mess they've made They threw everything away Everything that was good for them Because you were A great supply Their lives were so much better When they were with you And at some point they look around And realise that They realise that Yeah, they had a better life Their lives are nothing Compared to how they were When they were with you But what are they supposed to do All they can do is accept that It's too late They had a chance When you were there for them When you did care about them They lacked awareness They didn't recognise Your value When they were with you But as the Proverb says Water seeks its own level People Gravitate towards other Like-minded people People who are on the same Level People who Are on the same frequency Like attracts like So they end up with people who are just like them People who don't value anyone Or anything People who are down and out People who have no morals People who cheat Line steal Think about it That's where they belong anyway Because that's exactly what they do Why should they be around better people People who don't do that stuff When They're doing it All they're going to do is contaminate good people And maybe that's why it works this way Maybe that's why Like-minded people gravitate towards each other You know what They wish they could have another crack at you They wish they could have a second chance with you They would love that Before you figure them out Before you knew what they were trying to do They'd love to go back to that time Because now they're going through all of these things They're very angry Very bitter Because they just keep finding people Who take advantage of them People who use them for money People who use them for sex People who ain't about shit People who pretend to have all of their stuff Going on in their lives They're pretending to be something they're not And even the narcissist at this point Can see right through them They know that those people are fake They know that now But they also know that you weren't anything like that They know that they didn't have to go For those things with you You never lie to them You never try to take anything from them You never try to take advantage of them But now everyone else That they come across That's what they're trying to do And they've got fed up They're tired of it And they realize And they realize that All along The entire time It was you You were the right choice for me But now it's too late I fucked it up And I can't go back Yeah, they realize it At our point Some of them do Especially those who are only narcissistic They realize it But they never thought it would come to this They never thought that they would end up stuck In the situation that they are now in They never thought that they would have to struggle They thought they were going to move on And find someone better But it just didn't work out that way It doesn't work out that way In reality And all they can do now Is to themselves and wish That they could go back To that situation with you To where things were safe Things were secure Stable Predictable Comfortable Because now they finally realize How good you were to them They realize that you were the right choice The right one The real one But now what are they supposed to do All they can do is just Move on But then they can't even do that Move on to what It's not hard to find a good person I mean it is hard to find a good person These days It really is And especially With what they're looking for Because they're not just looking for good people They've got to have someone who Is Powerful Attractive It really now is I mean there's really not many people Out there like that Why would they settle down with them They would just use them Because Many narcissists they don't age well They don't take care of themselves And they just get older and older And They just More and more They're deteriorating Physically And mentally To the point where they're no longer good For anyone They don't age well Many of you if you see the narcissist Five, ten, twenty years later You will be shocked You wouldn't even recognize them But that's not because they've Made any positive Changes It's because life has just taken a toll on them All of the people they've had to deal with All of the failures Yeah that affects them And you will start to see it They will bring them down It's sad but this is just how it tunes out for them Some of them really do Realize one day That you were the right choice And they're just sitting Sitting to themselves and thinking What's the point Why I'd have to realize that now When I can't even do anything about it But it's their fate It's just how it is I've been going to the gym more as you can see Working on my body Exercising Eating well Motivation I encourage you all If you're not exercising And going to the gym You need to do that It's very good for healing It will help you Not only physically But mentally as well You will feel a lot more relaxed After a good gym session And that doesn't mean it has to be intense Even just the light workouts Just get on the bike And Just do 10, 20 minutes a day That's something And you will notice the benefits from doing that You will feel better straight away So definitely If you're not going to the gym That's one tip I'd like to share with you today Is to do that Very important for your healing Big bed This is for me And there is another bedroom here too If someone wants to sleep over A view from this Bedroom as well A lot of nice buildings here You can't see Lego land from this side But I'm Actually within walking distance The lift I can see it But yeah, this is it The apartment Going to be here for a few more days So there will be 139 live viewers Please give this video a thumbs up If it resonated with you It helps the channel a lot The views have been going up a lot Lately Which is great to see Soon we will be At 150,000 subscribers Massive achievement 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