 What makes the narcissist leave you? What makes them leave as though they never cared about you? What makes them leave and not want to come back? Many people assume that the narcissist left Because they found someone better Because you weren't good enough for them Because the narcissist needed more and while the narcissist would love you to think in that way It's not always the case Most often the reason why the narcissist will leave you is because you're starting to wake up You're seeing through their BS You see what they're really about You start to realize that you deserve better You take a step back from the abuse and begin to focus more on yourself You begin to reflect on what you want and nothing will trigger the narcissist want to leave more than that The last thing they want to see is you focusing on yourself Thinking about what you want That's like kryptonite to a narcissist because they wanted to be all about them They want your constant attention They want you to be constantly focusing on their needs The narcissist leaves you Because you're no longer tolerating their BS You're starting to realize that you deserve better You're starting to see that this person has no respect for you or for themselves And this puts the narcissist in a panic mode When you take a step back They begin to fear that maybe you're going to find someone else The narcissist cannot deal with rejection There's nothing more painful to a narcissist than the feeling of being rejected and They will do whatever it takes to avoid that painful experience They will try to beat you to the punch by trying to replace you In anticipation of you replacing them whether or not that was what you were planning on doing This is what they will assume Because they are paranoid and hyper-vigilant and Deep down they know they're giving you nothing of value They know they have nothing to offer Nothing that's going to make you want to remain around them So they're anticipating you leaving them and They just want to beat you to it Many people assume that the narcissist left them because they found someone better But that just isn't true more often than not The narcissist will downgrade But in their delusional minds It's an upgrade because at least now They're with someone who is susceptible to their manipulation Someone who believes in their lies at least now They get an attention and admiration From someone who doesn't know what they're really about In their minds That is an upgrade because once you had figured them out You were no longer giving them the attention they desired You could no longer see them as something desirable or attractive After everything they had said and done to you and that was what caused them to devalue and discard you Because anyone who doesn't validate their false self is trash garbage That's just how they see it if you're not going to live in their delusional reality You're completely worthless and insignificant and They will toss you aside Without a second thought The narcissist leaves you Because they feel exposed They feel that you have uncovered their true intentions or motives They feel that they have no other choice Than to make an exit plan a quick escape Before everything collapses on top of them everything they built with you Was like a house of cards it was built in a weak foundation and structure and It was liable to collapse at any moment Because from the moment you met them The narcissists gave you a false character They were pretended to be something they're not Pretended to be something they thought you wanted them to be and they knew from the very beginning that I wouldn't last They knew it was going to end They knew that there was going to be no future In something that started out as a game Thank you for watching. I hope this video bears it with you. Please like comment share and subscribe Click the bell icon for see notifications for my future videos Check out the new Narc Survival website at www.narcsurvival.co.uk Where you could read my blog posts, bug coaching sessions and join the support forum. If you are likely to donate My paypal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries you can email me at coach at www.narcsurvival.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon