 When you try to possess, you'll become a devil. If you possess something absolutely and say it'll bring unbearable pain to you, when it brings that kind of pain, it'll cure you. When this piece of life is alive to its core, then you'll find everything is fine. Namaskaram, Sadhguru. How can one overcome possessiveness in a relationship? Don't try to overcome possessiveness. Just possess something absolutely and say, once you know the pain of trying to possess something, once you know the pain of that, the pain will heal you of possessiveness. You're trying to overcome possessiveness is not going to work because you already tried, isn't it? Obviously you've tried, you've failed and that's why you're asking me. Possess absolutely, whether it's your husband or your child or your… even your home or even your dog, try hard to possess it totally. You will see it'll bring unbearable pain to you. When it brings that kind of pain, it'll cure you. So, why is it that you want to possess? You know, in India or anywhere in the world, if you say somebody is possessed, what it means? The one who is possessed is a victim, but one who possesses, you know who he is? You are just that. When you try to possess, you'll become a devil. No, no, no, I love very much, but yes, with good intentions you will become a devil. That is the problem about possessiveness, very good intentions. And how do you know devil has no good intentions for you? Who knows? How do you know God has good intentions for you? Only the… only the propaganda says so, but you don't know for sure, isn't it? If all this is God's making, all that's happening in your life, you don't really know whether he has good intentions for you or not anymore, isn't it? You know for sure? You know for sure? You don't know. And you don't know whether devil has bad intentions for you, you don't know. But one who is… one who possesses is usually a devil. So, with good intentions, when we said somebody is a devil, we did not question his intention. We only are talking about the result of his action, isn't it? Yes, we are not questioning his intention. We… a devil of a wind. Maybe the wind is blowing with good intention, but because it's devastating your home, you call it the devil because of the result, isn't it? So, if the result that you are bringing about is painful, you are the devil. Your intentions may be good, but the result is painful for somebody around you, then you're a devil. So, if you manage to possess, you must be a devil. And these victims who are possessed by something else, they can cause hell of a lot of problem to everybody around them. Have you seen them? So, if I tell you don't possess, you're not going to stop anyway because this is a very deep-rooted problem. This is not going to go away because of somebody's advice. Please don't possess anybody. He's not going to go away. You may shift your objects of possession from this to that, but the longing or the need to possess is not going. You may shift your object of possessing from this to that because you're wanting to possess something is essentially coming from a certain sense of unfulfilled experience of life, a certain sense of being incomplete. All you are trying to do is fulfill yourself. I want you to understand, you are not trying to be rich, you are not trying to be ambitious, you are not trying to be possessive. The answer is same for greed, for anger, for hatred. You are not trying to be all this. All you're trying to do is somehow find fulfillment, either by embracing this person or by killing this person or by taking what he has or by taking him. Somehow you want to fulfill yourself because you are unable to bear the incompleteness of who you are. Try hard, it will not get you anywhere. So all I am telling you is you try everything. You try greed, you try possessiveness, you try love, you try lust, you try what you want. If you realize it's not getting you anywhere, you must be sensible enough to shift. If something is not working and you're going on this, doing the same thing, then you're an idiot beyond redemption, isn't it? Don't listen to my advice, try something. If it works, go on that path. If it doesn't work, leave the nonsense and try something else, isn't it? And you will see none of these things will work. All of them will create a sense of as if it's going to work, but they'll deceive you later. Try hard and see. Don't try in a lukewarm way, try absolutely. If you try absolutely, within twenty-four hours you will know. If you try off and on in lukewarm ways, it will take a lifetime to know. Then if there are twenty-four qualities, you need twenty-four lifetimes to realize this doesn't work, this doesn't work, this doesn't work, this doesn't work. If you try really hard, within twenty-four hours you will know it doesn't work. Whatever it is, your problem. Go all the way into it. You'll see within twenty-four hours this is no good. It will never work. It will be hundred percent clear to you. Once it's clear to you, I trust your intelligence. The only thing that I trust is intelligence. Because life is intelligence. The tree is blossoming. It is a certain intelligence. The very earth that you walk upon is intelligent. There that you breathe is intelligent. One way of looking at life is, life is just an explosion of intelligence. What you call is creation. And what you refer to as the creator is the ultimate intelligence, isn't it? That's the only thing you can trust right now. And that'll function only if you go all the way. If you go like this, it'll give you a false sense of comfort and soles. You can carry on with the stupid things for a whole lifetime. You know it doesn't work, but it's not intense enough. So give yourself absolutely to whatever nonsense you're doing very soon. Within a day, you will know it doesn't work. It doesn't work. If you realize it doesn't work, I believe you will shift. Can I believe that you will shift? Something doesn't work and you're sure it doesn't work. You will shift. Fulfillment, completeness is not going to happen by getting this or getting that. It'll only happen when this piece of life is alive to its core, that the very source of creation in this you have divine. Only when you have touched that, then you'll find everything is fine. Now you can play life like a football game. You're on when it's on. When you want to switch it off, it's on. Then nothing is a problem.