 Ladies and gentlemen Hopefully, it's a thing work Y'all let me know if you can hear me. I want to pop on in the night and See by see let me know if you could hear me on here. I Didn't get to check my son. I see if I can I honestly don't even know the day of the week Invite old Instagram here See what that do y'all forgive me. Let me see here Knocking y'all see me. You can see me. You can hear me My desktop tonight still my Laptop so that's why it's a different Angle cuz my desktop sit on this side of my desk and my laptop be you know in the middle of over here on The side but this is your desktop and then now for me The picture is bigger on this desktop Because this one of them desktop that's by Like this here why so why do them than me? So I'll bless you now move ceiling. Okay, and you can see me on there, huh? Yeah, yeah, I Turned my camera up to 720, but I don't know if it's working right So y'all forgive me and I'm not no lighting specialist So y'all have to see me glow in the dark cuz I can really figure out in the light, but So yeah, I've been with my son for a couple weeks in Germany Supporting his soccer dreams and so going over there to Europe being able to play against the Europeans and just seeing how they play Much more aggressive more tactical. So give them a little edge coming back to the states It's a little more soft over here in the states Much less skilled in the states Sort of go over there and hang with them guys and see show itself that he could play But they really do it at you know that boost the confidence sometimes confidence is everything And I'll tell you you know, it's really not You know, it's not fair in the sense of For one being a father, you know being a father in the home It's a lot of men who leave their kids And that's the sad thing to think about and it's real Unfortunate that fathers don't realize what they're missing When they turn it back on their kids because they didn't have their father Or because they're not ready to be your father, but they ready to sleep around ready to sleep with a woman unprotected But not ready to accept the responsibility that comes With sleeping with a woman unprotected and just being over there with my son and Just serving him, you know happened to go get him fooled when the cafeteria got something that he's allergic to I'm driving over there in Germany, and I'm driving 20 minutes to get full 20 minutes back 40 minutes just to get my son something to eat 40 minutes to get him a foam roller to get him a little, you know, a little pressure point thing to get him a band And every day sometimes twice a day driving 40 minutes to get them something to eat Just serving him and supporting him in that It really, you know at one my heart just being able to show love in that way and being able to be there and support him And I tell you, you know that trip And it's the unfortunate thing about it is that trip costs by 17 thousand dollars and when you think about that, that's you know, that's impossible to do if You working and you making 30k 50k and And it didn't probably have to cost that much, you know, I probably spent a little extra like Upgrading the seed or whatever on the plane But still at the bare minimum just sending your child over there Just is 3500 with the group then flights, you know Minimum 5000 you spent it and then if you get your child and even that it's like when you think about it And so that's that's the the thing that is Unfortunate about that type of stuff is you wish every child could get that opportunity And you wish everybody could experience that but I realized too Not having things also develops Character and not being able to do certain things because the beyond which of that stuff really did not mean nothing to Majority of the kids that was there a lot of them kids went over there and still got in trouble and Acting up acting a fool you would think they'll be on their best behavior. So that taught me a lesson too just about entitlement Now listen y'all have a question make sure you hit the foot the hashtag queue in front of your question And So, yeah, make sure y'all Put the hashtag on there. So I see your question But back and gotta gotta leave again for one day Going up the interview Do an interview for the study and an interview Something else on there And you know what why touch on these questions? I got a video. I was talking about it But some of y'all what y'all sent me a video about the young lady who drove through the intersection of something and LA You know just condolences to those to the friends and family But that's that says a lot then y'all sent me another one by the young man who took the life of Guessing his child mother. She was a mother of six look like And that was real sad too and it just goes to show why I Gotta keep doing the work that I'm doing Why I gotta keep working and why I'm stuck on these relationships because It really shows you right there and them two cases that it's life or death You know a lot of time we just we play with it and we think relationships not that serious And that it's not something that we have to really talk about and teach about but it's life or death and when you think about it, it's like the stock market is not life or death and Invested in business and entrepreneurship is not life or death for that relationship Them relationships that's life or death and a lot of time we don't realize and process that so We'll be talking about it. It's hard to talk about that stuff because nothing you say is the right thing to say Got into a small disagreement told me he will call me when divorce is final or y'all forgive me too for being a little Sombra night because right now my body happens switch time. So right now it's 3 a.m in my body so Out of bed sleep, you know, three hours ago right now. So y'all forgive me. I'm feeling that that jet lag Got into a small disagreement told me he will call me when divorce is final still text to check on me like in pics on social media Would you consider that leaving? Can it still work? dated for two months Never been on back You put a lot of questions in there system I sound like you need a coaching session a little deeper than what we doing on here tonight and Just because you know when you talk about divorce and all of that Just based on what you said it sound like he just need a break Sound like he won't cheat in peace They told me will you be doing talks with Tony again? You know, I've been saying some requests for that, but I don't know if it's just from the people who sent a letter in and won't they they Question answered Now y'all know for anybody who sent a letter in the top Tony y'all know y'all always book a session now when the sessions are open So don't feel like y'all got to send that letter and wait on that letter and to be honest with you You send a letter in it's a good possibility. I may never get to it cuz it's over It's now about three thousand letters in there on that talks with Tony So you got to realize if I be at one a day, I'm only going to get through 365 in a year. So I have like four years more than that five six years worth of Letters in talk with Tony So I want y'all to understand that But I'm planning to get back to it. He'll soon I would you suggest working through a relationship where one partner lacks emotional Intelligence slash support well, you don't have to sit down and have a talk in a time of peace because Nobody lacks that You know, we choose not to have it we choose not to do right and act right, but that's when you've got to really identify Why is that person making that choice? Because a lot of time the person is choosing To act a fool because they don't want to be with you and they don't respect you So it's not really something that you work through You got to have emotional intelligence and support in a relationship and if you don't have that and you don't have a relationship and It'll be best to move on cuz somebody don't have emotional intelligence That means you can end up like that lady who was a mother of six and so you want to be very careful about that When should you move on from a friendship that you value a lot? Known him for eight years, but it feels one-sided well, what you have to realize is You can't expect so much from a friendship You can't expect so much for the boys that start school tomorrow You can't expect so much from a friendship So if for you to ask this question It sounds like that friendship is a little brown sugar like you got feelings for Because friends who just friends could not talk for years and talk again like nothing ever Like you didn't skip a beat could not talk for weeks And so when you when you're counting When you're counting what you're doing and you're keeping score then You may not really see that as a friendship and Then eight years and you keeping up with years, too You might want to evaluate your heart on that one and it could be one-sided because He in a relationship or he talking to somebody and you can't really a man can't have a female friend If he's talking to somebody because men know themselves and women know women So that's also why I could feel one-sided Why do men slash baby fathers always talk about you and the past relationship, but never the child Baby two months old. I left because of his attitude Well for one most men don't really Fall in love with a child that fast and so He really not even thinking about that child the baby too young Baby won't have to get old enough to start doing something and accomplishing something for the man who Is no longer with you to really care in a lot of cases It's not a lot of men that know how to love and know how to love a child and love a child purely and genuinely A lot of times you would know this when child start doing good on the track Or in basketball or football or whatever Then that's when a lot of that is get all super involved and excited because they start to see dollar signs But what what you really need to pay attention to is is is this man loving his child because this is child And that's what you really want to be able to pay attention to And Don't think about that down now. What's going on with that? New Zealand I miss a God bless you That's not going on in New Zealand. I going on Marion or marion forgive me how I pronounce your name, but welcome back to the state Don't you have a good time? Do you have a good time? Now to be in the chat you got to be a member Bart so welcome to the new members At the slide down I saw the brother Send a blessing to Onisha V Welcome to the new members Let's try Teara Blessing, let me see if I can find my spot where I was How do I not get frustrated in my single season? I feel like finding a believer is like a needle in a haystack well You got to keep becoming more of a believer yourself Because the deeper you Go in your belief then what's gonna happen is The deeper you go in your belief the more you're gonna be Pleasant and peaceful and walking by faith But see when you too much in the world and you ain't you know and you letting Instagram and that stuff right there get to you Then that's gonna slow you down But it's plenty believers out there. You also got to get where the believers are now I'd be a lot of unbelievers in the church too But you're gonna have to you know step out a little more I told you a guy approached me and asked And I got approached me and asked for my Instagram instead of my phone number Red flag I'm confused Whoo, he young minded he young mind But um, that's he young minded, but that's so he could get a full look at you That's so he could see you in a dress See you in a skirt see you in jeans See where you hang out see what you do see how much money you got That's really so he can fully get a full That's a man who grocery shopping for a woman You know, he's not really looking for a wife He doesn't really know what he wants in a wife and what he's looking for in a woman So he's just guessing and he taking the chances and so to help him figure it out He want the Instagram so he could see everything before wasting time and money on a date If your second and third angle Don't appeal to him or if he's looking for a certain thing Nah, it's a meek Being on this his screen. I'm on it show y'all little pictures bigger look like I see That's my eyes Like what I'm looking at like me Show that picture a little bigger I don't know if it was a whole picture and everything come fit in there or what? How do I deal with a man with a child? He's an active parent and Pay his child support, but he think he can visit and still have because she begs him I see if See at first hand, he'll do anything for me though. I tell you what That's a little little situation And so I was just talking about this earlier today when you go into somebody's situation And you see how that situation is set up If that's not the situation that's ideal for you then go on about your business But don't ever go into somebody's situation especially if it's involving a child and Try to change that situation Because that person for all three of them will end up resenting you So if you can't fit into the situation that he got going on and you ain't cool with that then go on about your business Go on about your business God day that says he doesn't like titles in a relationship. He says it's for little kids. I'm confused now. This is past tense So I guess we'll learn from the past but In the time of man or woman anybody say that they don't like titles In a relationship. That's a red flag Because ask him do he want a title on the job? I Bet he want a title on the job. I Bet if he on the sports team he want a title on sports team If you if you a coach you want to you want to be a head coach If you a player you want to be a star player You want to be a starting player? If you want a job you want to be a CEO you want to be a supervisor you want to be a manager So can't not like titles when it comes to a relationship, but want to title in everything else So anytime somebody say they don't like title. That's a red flag Because what a title does is it also comes with a set of standards and it comes with a set of expectations so if you say you my girlfriend and He got to be your boyfriend Then now that comes with the expectation of exclusivity and If you don't want if he don't want to be exclusive Then that's why he doesn't want a title because then he could say oh, we never work together And he wouldn't be lying. So that's always a set up That's always a set up. Yeah, trust me when I tell you Oh Chat chat getting a little saucy on midnight. I've already seen that from Joanne GG God bless you. I'll gotta forgive me cuz the chat a little long Welcome to the bless tribe appreciate the new members y'all Y'all is a blessing. Hey Tony. Hey God bless and I appreciate that Hey Tony, just want to say thank you for the work you do I've grown a lot of these last few months in my view of myself and how I deal with men's chain trash They just watching the video let God be a God bless and I Okay, love and God bless and I Yeah, somebody had that name as they Type of microphone good. I thought I was saying that on the brown This one ain't have no has no hashtag cute Do you believe that you have to date someone else to officially get over your ex baby dad Nazis for one. I can't fully speak to that because I don't know What it feel like to be a woman? Who have carried a baby from a man, I don't know what that feel like So that tie that a woman has to a man who has impregnated them and you have carried a Baby who is 50% of that man? I don't know how strong that is and what that feels like So I cannot honestly say but I will say that you should not have to use Somebody else to get over your ex. You want to use somebody now? But yes when you have new love it can replace old love And old feelings when you get you some new and fresh and healthy Because your heart can't hold all of that now you're gonna You can't be in love with two people at one time you could love two people now But you can't be in love with two people At one time so understand that That's a blessing now That was one of the books that we promoted y'all. Thank you for the authors who? Sponsor video Y'all make sure y'all support them if you able That was a blessing so that's showing up who she supported if I am asked on a date And I decide not to go due to being too nervous Is that a sign that I should not start dating yet? Or is it normal to feel this way if you've been single for many years? Now I would assume it could be normal to feel that way I cannot say because I've never been single for many years But I would assume that's a natural feeling but what you have to understand is that You got to make sure that what you listen into on here is building confidence and not Inducing fear so if you learning then you should feel confident about being able to recognize red flags now if you just on here looking and Watching but not listening and learning then you're not gonna feel confident What's the guy's just a love off for you and your family things personally getting through some tough times all the very best Hey, God bless your not sister. I Was gonna put you on the screen now, but it's just so far It's chat getting so long Thing getting out of hand God bless you now one way to get on the screen now miss running your husband or your wife see you Getting that VIP line It's not he'll be like speed they Now what y'all to do it put you make your name your app your Instagram Like the boy went up and asked the lady for Instagram create something I could take in Put something right on the screen But I have to go and click on her in the chat Yeah, y'all come on in now to the development meeting At this is software help y'all add a couple of feats along here So see when somebody when y'all when I for me to put you on the screen I got scroll all the way down to where you at Well with these her super chats I I need to be able to just click it at the top add it to the screen and keep my chat status stay still So that way ain't got to be scrolling up and down No more place Producer on the producer and the talent read that fast Can you split these explain how a soul ties created even in a one night stand? Well sister, I didn't create the term soul time so Based on the author, I'm not really sure what they mean by what he or she means by that So that's why you know a lot of time people say what tone in you know How you feel about a twin flame? How you feel about a soul mate? And how you feel about this how you feel about that and I say really a lot of times the true meaning of stuff is Just proprietary to the author so what we understand of what this could possibly mean of A soul ties just essentially how the Bible say when you Sleep with somebody when you in for an occasion that you not only sin against God, but you sin against your own body That you give this person a piece of you and you take a piece of them And what and what we have to realize is that when you lie down with somebody that is a very Spiritual act it's nothing casual about it Although a lot of people try to say that it's casual and that it can be casual It's nothing casual about it because it's so spiritual because you have to understand that we are spirits in a human body And so when you are sleeping with somebody what the body is doing What the body and the mind is doing is it is producing a human being it's producing a spiritual being that will be Housed in a physical body So that act is so powerful because it's two bodies coming together to produce a third and The transfer that happens is a very deep and Spiritual transfer it also is a physical transfer So just by that act that you know that act of mating Your your mind is the largest sexual organ So the data and the processing of what you're doing in your mind to take someone into your body and Just in a millisecond you're also processing all of the risk involved as well because not only can you conceive a child you can contract a Life altering disease you can contract something that is not curable and so This is high stakes gambling when you lie down with somebody Because even if you have on protection you still can't contract a skin to skin disease and Today right now you can be contracting microposs cold it So it's other things that kill you or Cascadia or could have you up a creep without a power when you lie down with somebody The other thing that you have to realize is the risk involved of you lying down with somebody especially like on a one-night stand who may have a deranged or crazed or obsessed Attraction fatal attraction So imagine if the person you sleep with It's the boyfriend of the young lady in LA who just took them six lives and Imagine when he came to you She followed him She got a track on his car. She got a track on his phone She followed him. He goes into your place sleep with you come out of your place And now she sit down in her car part across the street You come out thinking you finna go get you some Taco Bell because you know got your back blowed out and She the loosened the lug nuts on your tires You get out there you hit the highway you you get on up in speed your time come off You fly into the rail Get ejected out the car you fly off the side of the bridge Now see guess what you being you? They national news So that happened yesterday somewhere and no none of us nobody So what we got to understand is that and this what I think about as a man I think about this as a man. I'll say, you know, I could go sleep with me or one But what if that one that got her a little love flame got her a little man and This woman that she upset or she heard or she promiscuous or whatever it is and she want to sleep with me and I mess around and do that and Ask somebody who know about on the God Steve McNair the NFL player who? Was caught was found dead him and his mistress and I believe he was married See when when the Bible say the wages of sin is there That's what a lot of people don't think about if they're ultimately your pay is gonna be your life So when you in fornication See that when there's a thing called grace but see grace is A lot of people think grace is Boundless But grace has limits too That's why the lady was turned into a pillar of salt See the grace said you got time to get out of this city before it's destroyed But if you even look back You're gonna be turned into a pillar of salt and she looked back See grace also has a period where It's not granted and that's what we have to realize about Promiscuity and sleeping around see had I not changed my life and got married at 23 years old if I kept living the way I was living Eventually, I was gonna lose my life at the hands of a woman Who had an a fatal attraction or lose my life at the hands of a man? who I would have done slept with his woman or Would have contracted something that would have killed me or that I wouldn't have been able to get rid of See, it's at a certain point to what grace is no longer granted Now it now if you live and breathe then you still have been graced even if you live with some you can't get rid of You still have been graced and so That's what you got to understand is that this thing is not just physical It's spiritual and it's spiritual because it's emotional and it's mental Because when you lying down there you lying down to get up with something You're trying to get somebody hard You're trying to get you a release You're trying to form your connection You're trying to do something that you may not be articulating you may not be admitting But you ain't just getting up under nobody or getting on top of somebody for no reason And you're doing it for something and a lot of times we don't want to really Confront that and be you know honest about that Forgive me. Now when y'all sending these here, they don't show up at the top. I didn't see that show up at the top So I have to scroll in the thing Now listen now Sometimes you got to get in that VIP line Some cuz the club get full the club met trying to get full you standing outside the club like Chris Brown said so When y'all see his super chat pop or that's just somebody who they don't wait in the free before 11 line They get in the VIP line. So y'all got to forgive me. This is a free Q&A But when somebody in the VIP line, I got to go ahead and get to it for a disappear Why do men lie so much even when they are caught red handed? I don't want to lose hope But honestly doesn't seem to be a value that today's men possess Well, I'll be honest with you humans don't possess it men lie women lie And so really it's it go both ways when it's just a lying person It's just a lying person So understand that because a lot of times it's a lot of women today trying to date women because they tired of men And they get with a woman and realize that The women ain't no different It's just if a human is flawed a human is flawed And so understand that down and then two is if you ain't got no prison to put a man in He really don't kill nobody lies because you know He really don't care nobody lies because there's no consequences to the lies So that's why you don't tell it Why is the line of being and being where is the line? I've always had curves and I struggle with embracing my body because of being Since you well, I'm gonna tell you what When you see when you got curves, you also got to think about You got to think about the propaganda and you got to think about the messaging So the same way the world Try to make people of a certain color feel less about themselves because the world knows the true power of People of color is the same reason why the world will shame someone with curves because a lot of those who empower and Their women might not have the curves and the shape So with them curves now They know them curves gonna turn heads and curves gonna move mountains Encourage gonna get something done And so whenever you have something That can open doors and that can stop people in they tracks that can be Something that's a showstopper. That's all inspiring The world want to strip you up that make you feel bad about that Because you've got something that they don't have and so that's why when with curves are made to feel like that but it's like if you're not trying to Dress for attention and you're not trying to dress to show everything It just you put on jeans and your jeans don't fit you different You put on a dress the dress gonna fit you different you dress for your body you dress for your shape but if you're not trying to be a Temptress and seductive and you know trying to call problems In the church house at school house Then you got to dress how you dress and you got to be able to be okay with that You got to be okay with that and it's And the thing about it is it may not be Either it may not be the aforementioned or the latter Because that's in your mind and how you feel about yourself and then the out of beholder And so some somebody look at it and say oh that look great and somebody look at and say oh You know Maybe into many Oreos. You don't know how they gonna take it. It's gonna be so you've got to be comfortable with you Because some people gonna like it some people gonna love it some people gonna hate it and you can't get caught up in that and so Now the latter is when People judge you and place a word on you But that's more so about the physical act not about how you dress and today the the lines of how you dress are so skewed and blur that even conservative women are now dressing more revealing and With tighter clothes I Still you know I Still Am confused about leggings in 2022. I still just don't understand leggings Like that is to me is that it's leggings are so Sexual because it's really just like being naked with pain on and I just don't understand it. I'm just like man, like Is it just more comfortable? What did you rather just not wear anything or just jeans just too big? Short just too big is just is it too hot like but when I'm in the first half leggings I seen All I want But it just I really don't I Really don't get it not getting on too conservative don't too old school Do you think if a man becomes a widow or gets divorced he can begin after healing dating and staying abstinent? Till he marries again, especially since he was used to have a normal relation with a woman Anything is possible. Is it probable? No, is it possible? Yes But Anything is possible Don't do you think it's the same thing as if you were intoxicated by alcohol liquor to Still create a soul time. No, no No Soul ties just it's really just saying You created memories. It's really just you created a connection with somebody. It's not About it's not the same feeling of like being drunk or anything like that It's and it's not magical. It's it's really just saying you gave this person your body that's all that's all it is and Some people label a soul time is non-sexual like you gave this person your time your energy and your effort and so it's really just a Term that has a lot of definitions that was created by somebody and I bet the person who created it probably be like Listen y'all all y'all off base from what I was talking about You know and so We can't get too much can't get too caught up in stuff What you got to do is take the lesson and the lesson is is stop sleeping with people That's not your spouse. If you're not married stop having sex Point blank here are that's that's the lesson that just get passed in and everything else because see By the time you get married You're gonna know this person if they crazy You're gonna know Just how the energy is you're gonna know this person. So you're gonna know You could go get a test Get tested, you know what they got what they don't have You know everything about this person. So by the time you sleep with them You didn't did so much vetting that just really like the Not even gambling anymore Do you know the difference and when God wants you to influence a man? You're dealing with you though. God wants you to be with a man as heaven sent or ready-made well Nah listen There's no such thing as a ready-made man And I know women talk about that but guess what there's no such thing as a ready-made woman Me and my wife been married 15 years and we still It's raggedy We still learning each other. We still growing. We still trying to get better So for every person who see this Y'all stop believing there's such a thing as ready-made Every and anybody you meet is going to give you a headache Every and anybody you meet is going to try you It's going to test you every and anybody you meet I guess so sick and tired of women saying oh And not not you but I'm just saying general oh The man of God The man of God sin is not gonna be playing childish games He is not gonna be testing you Yes, he is Yes, he is because you know why even a man of God is a man just like David Who put your eyes on the front line of battle to have him killed so that he could have his wife You know me just like The man who wrote Ecclesiastes The man who wrote Ecclesiastes What what what that's all We talking about that they try to say the actual author of Ecclesiastes is unknown Like we all stop trying to get deep King Solomon When you read the book Ecclesiastes You just like my goodness what the world am I living for? Man sound depressed is all like those So listen man of God So I want y'all to understand You even meet no perfect No good no ready man every man finna have his set of issues That you finna have to work through the same way he got to work through a woman set of issues Because I'll be honest with you. I deal with mostly women writing me and I would be honest with you The state of women today It's scary to me I'm gonna just be honest with you Majority of women who write me Sound crazy But Georgia women who send me an email or did I interact with? But Jordan and when I say crazy, I don't mean that in no rude nasty way, but just sound like Starting to lose they mind Like just over analytical thinking too much trying too hard Like 80 90 percent of women. So I want y'all to understand How you see the problems in the men of today? It's men and women are mirroring each other Because just how these men be special in their own way Women today are special in their own way So in order for a relationship to work Both parties finna have a hands full Both parties finna have a hands full. I'm trying to tell you. I'm trying to tell you what they said The quote say a lot of people don't find success because it is Dressed in overalls and look like work That's why a lot of people don't have a happy relationship because it's dressed in overalls and it looked like work Because listen, it ain't easy because it's human. We have mood swings It's humans. We have insecurities It's human. We could be jealous. It's humans. We have control issues It's humans. We have just little quirks about us. You know, I was around a woman who She won't Her food to touch. It's all going in the same place And it's all coming out the same place What you mean, you don't want your food to touch So now a man got to deal with a woman Who the fool can't touch? Come on And so I said the same and then don't let somebody Get in a sorority Be right here ski we It's like come on now Y'all get too crunk by these sororities and need fraternity Like my goodness calm down and Then just and then don't let somebody Get elevated and they're thinking Oh, I'm gonna eat beer. Oh I'm gonna eat swine Oh, I'm gonna eat chicken. Oh I'm raw vegan It's like we got to put up with all that in a relationship. So now we can't eat sway through bite dog This is Mike Donald's this is the only restaurant on a hundred mile stretcher road on the romantic road trip We try to take and you're gonna eat bell peppers You have to splice it up. They'll tell me we got to eat We can't sway through Mike Donald because you don't eat cow. You don't eat me So now we're chewing on bun So this is what I want you to understand Anybody you get with Then dry you crazy But see we in here for happiness and convenience this ain't about that's what a lot of people think that Relationship just was out just whisk you off your feet. No a relationship is problem-solving It is risks management risk assessment is a problem-solving. It is critical thinking it is a class in emotional intelligence 101 that's what relationship is because it's about the two of you coming together and Coexisting so that you can make the world a better place So that the kids you have or the kids you adopt or if you just want to be dog parents That whoever and whatever you're raising Impact the world in a better way and if you believe us that you can win souls That's what it's about But it's not about just being Happy and all of that right there. So I want y'all to understand that now We all get out here and here's the thing and this what I used to ask everybody that I coach Are you being abused? In any way shape or form and are you being cheated on? If it ain't verbal emotional physical social financial or any one of those forms of abuse And you're not being cheated on Then you need to stay and make it work I'm gonna how about all they get on my nerves Oh, they leave in the toilet seat up all the two it in my off open all this snore Oh, they eat sloppy. Oh, they do this. Oh, they do listening is you being abused? Who is you being cheated on if not make it work? Because listen, you're not going to find nothing in a human that's gonna have you in a constant state of happiness God talking to says he doesn't like to talk on the phone He texts all the time went on the first day talking about a second date We face time a couple times, but he only calls when asked to Don't want you Don't want you You don't want them to do it They have man act when he when you want to be in something I understand that right now And when a man and let me tell you when a man like you he won't talk on that phone on the actual phone and Truthfully He want a face time unless he shot face a Man who text in you don't want you if all a man do is text him on If all the dude if all the man do is call you when you ask him to call you Listen, I'm gonna tell you when a man want you You're gonna now about be tired of that man. You're gonna be like Start calling me I can't even go to the bathroom And calling me When a man want you listen, you're gonna be a little slightly annoyed Because a man is is a circle I'm gonna and listen you could you could deal with a man that's in the sales industry just to find that out Put an inquiry in put an inquiry in online For a new car Look up your local dealership and right in online. Look at one of the calls and fill out on and fill out your information online And watch how that man get on your nerves That's how a man who like you gonna be I Feel like I've outgrown my three-year relationship. We have a two-year-old and she is our main priority he knows My focus is on God and Priority and I feel we are going apart. That's advice I'm willing to work Listen, so it's I'm gonna tell you right up I'm gonna tell you right up But when the woman He feel she outgrown it is a relationship over Relationship over because women won't love and relationship too bad So when a woman is over it, yes, it's a this around and I'm a gravity last couple of cuz I'm on this hill jet lag So recognize four o'clock in my body for a young gravity lab VIP Super chats. I missed a lot of questions in there, but I told myself. I'm just gonna do a hour tonight. I don't want to be on here You know Why is that she put Aaron gonna take 30 minutes trying to go in there? Might sent my cash out now sees these on him cash outs when I say cat I'm talking about the actual out. Thank God bless you. I'm sending that Thank God bless you now I've been dating and I see how this is the hill got a name on them So it is her name on Instagram if a husband on here watching It go fine on See that right there. Just a little tip right there for y'all. See I'll give me all the tip Get on here get on the hill screen Thousands of people gonna see this And one day I'll be officiating the wedding of a couple who met on the chat of one of my videos Because he's not a husband because see this I see how them curls dropping He could like that and say, oh, I like when I'm curl dropping. Oh search on Instagram Send a DM and see this what I'd be trying to tell women about That's how you shoot your shot Just show up in different places when you add to your story It put a ring put that colorful ring around your picture So now your profile picture is standing out So not a man see you when you look at his story. He see you If you like one of his posts, he see you if you come in a man with the praying hands On some he said it's good. He see you You ain't got to shoot no shot You ain't got to send no DM because he's gonna see you he gonna look at your public profile But probably you're doing too much because he might not want to follow you might not be following people So now you look at your public page now he shoot his shot See it's little subtle things like that. I've been dating someone for a year exclusive And he told me he's taking a trip next week one entire week with his ex fiance and his eight-year-old daughter To in why he said it's for his daughter. Yeah It feels for his daughter then you could go to He offered it feels for his daughter. He could say to you Can you get off or can you go? Because the ex fiance ought to be a wrong mature woman to understand It ain't nothing between them and so Listen, I'm gonna tell y'all this hill Will Smith stuff y'all be trying to do with the relationships Talking about oh, I'm just gonna be okay with you know Sunset going out of town with they ex listen Soul ties is real It's always Feelings you don't know people be talking about they over feeling they get on yeah, you suppress them. Yeah, you manage in them But it's feelings there. You're not finna be around a man I couldn't be around a woman that he used to blow her bike. I and He got a child from her And not have feelings for And they said well no something some man don't like their baby mama Yeah, the ones who don't like their baby mama not going on vacate week-long trips with If a man is finna go on the trip Listen They either finna be falling back in love one arm falling back in love on this trip You can't be platonic like that because as soon as you see the person and somebody used to sleep with Somebody used to cuddle with somebody used to laugh and cry with Somebody you had ups and downs with feelings gonna come back for one of them or Both of them So it's like this right here. If you want to be with somebody who have a child They got to have real boundaries That's not boundaries You got to have real boundaries and if they don't have real boundaries that mean that they are not ready for a new relationship They do not deserve a Brand new Relationship if they still got one foot in the last relationship talking about oh this by the time listen Kid don't really kill kid don't kill like that like Kid love a step-mom or step-daddy cuz that's another gift And lonely that bonus mama or that bonus daddy is nice to them and nice To they mama or they daddy kids don't kill Kids are treated step daddy just like they daddy will treat a step mama just like they mama my wife love her step mama give me and A step mom been us and she was a little girl love step mama And never said a ill word about her step mom give me Kid don't care about that. So if that man really is into you And he really want to be with you But one he know no week on vacation. He was legit You could take him You could take him if he all the way over her you could take him Or you take her to new york Then you take her to LA Or you go to new york i'ma fly in but got my girlfriend, you know Blase blase people do that all the time So you got to realize and understand You got to realize and understand that Y'all got to be careful with that co-parenting I have another call i have to hop into but it's always cool to hang out and watch you be alive Hey, god bless your brother. Hopefully when i'm done you'll still be doing things No I appreciate you my brother now see i hope this brother on here is on here for him And it's it's it's sad. I have a question Men will be on here because it ain't a lot of men trying to grow Now let us be talking about anything else, but if they be full of men God bless you not assistant nine. This Chevelle now who Rope and I used to have this Chevelle. It's it's a spell a little different the little car now Now Chevelle say It's not thank this Chevelle who says gotten curves on y'all I'll say listen Chevelle around here like that uh My angel little poem phenomenal woman on y'all And and Chevelle i'm glad you added you a little picture. You know you don't know you might reach up and on him And and i don't know who's on here now Somebody say somebody said blog at Harris Y'all see my name Harris How would you encourage someone to push past their fear to blossom into their greatness? I'm intimidated by my potential and I don't know why Sister a I got the same problem I got the same problem. I can't really help you on that, but what I do is I just do in spite of I just go in spite of This key is so much more. I could be doing so much more. I could be doing I say I'm getting ready to go now. Somebody else jump in the VIP line now one thing about the club I'm gonna close the VIP line We'll close the regular line We've got blushing now Britain came on here with her picture got a hell laid down And say come on $20 blushing I've been talking to a man that is an ex Co-worker of mine for over a year I stopped talking to him for some months because I wasn't ready He was really into me, but now he's acting distant should I move on we both have feelings Well, if he acting distant that's the thing that you've got to realize right there See the thing about it is This one thing I'm gonna get by women This one thing I'm gonna get by women. I tell y'all I answer questions about men because I don't fully understand women But I don't see so many women tell me That they cut a man off or they did not talk to a man because they was not ready And then say later now i'm ready And listen that ain't how that thing work Because men are too sensitive men are too egotistical Men are too territorial if you push a man away And he feels slighted. He feels rejected Then nine out of ten times when you come back or you let him back. He's gonna make you pay a price He's gonna make you pay a toll on that role And so you have to understand that It's gonna be A lot of times what you've got to do is When you're healing If you meet a potential person You keep doing your healing But you still talk to the person Because you got a few months Of just slow rolling So don't push a real potential person away Just because your mental blocks and telling yourself i'm hurting. I'm broken. I'm not ready Because you're just talking regular. You just you have a phone conversation You're going on a little platonic type date So you got a few months to keep doing therapy And or coaching every week and after about 12 weeks Of you talking to this person slowly But you're still working on yourself You're gonna be healed But what what happens a lot of times is and I wrote in my book heal before you deal and but I didn't I don't know what all it says what all it says, but I don't mean push people away Who could really be a potential mate? I mean You have to be in a way to where You're talking to them But you're not sleeping with them You're not using them for their body. You're not diving right in But yet you are still doing your work to heal Now listen now. I said, I'll get ready to go tonight Y'all okay What's happening? How can that be our p-line now? Listen, we're in a recession now y'all blessed and highly favored But somebody said we was in recession I'm blessed and highly favored God bless you now began therapy on top of gaining knowledge to be the best I can be tiki. I appreciate you. Hey, God bless you now God bless you So it's to say let me get this on in here now because that's your That's your IG Y'all trying to be funny now I was telling to say he don't close the VIP line Y'all trying to be funny now Now y'all come on here. You need to come on here with a picture now, especially if you're singling ready. This would be like speed day Why does he call every single day? Wants to spend almost every day together but can't commit and still have With a friend once or twice a week. So let's do you dealing with a degenerate You dealing with a degenerate You dealing with one of the men from the reality shows that can't get right There's so many red flags and what you just wrote. So that's the thing now And see this is the thing without what y'all have to understand the difference And this is why I have my little t-shirt that I wear to say caveats and nuances Because when I be talking about this stuff, it's caveats and nuances And what I mean by that is What I mean by that Is And it's hard to do and I'm gonna be honest with you women What I notice most women do not understand relationships Most women do not understand relationships. Most women cannot figure out men And that's why I have to do what I do because I literally Can give a woman A man entire playbook And if they go into a game That man still will put up 50 points On the touchdowns nine a football The man still put up 50 points and we're in 50 to zero and I gave the woman the playbook Listen, this is what he finna do. This is what he finna do. This is what he finna do And for whatever reason that's what let me know god made a wonderful love Because most women do not think in love And you that and that's why I talk about the caveats and the nuances because see right here I told y'all That when a man really want you he gonna get on your nerves So he took in It sound like when we read this question it sound like He fit the bill. Why does he call every single day and want to spend every day together? But can't commit So so you see I'm saying so call every day spend almost every day together He deposited 100 into the Love account another hundred into the love account And then But can't commit With drew 500 And still has a an unrelationship with a friend Want so twice a week withdrew a thousand The man put 200 dollars in the account And then charged it for 1200 You see I'm saying 1500 negative 1300 and this how you have to do When you take and you're going through this you kind of got to take and make it Into some math To where you got to have a scoring system the way you take and you say okay buy a phone call 10 points date 50 points Hell hands 50 points words of affirmation 50 points Quality time what else other 50 points but then you say okay Told me they'll call and then call minus 50 Said some rule minus 50 Got a call from somebody else ex-girlfriend minus 50 Minus 100 see when you go through that point system now you get to kind of see What what score is and so with this right here? This is the difference of This the difference of Love bombing and somebody who genuinely interested and what you are and what you got to realize now the fruit A lot of time fruit look could look the same But because because when you look at a lemon the skin Is the same texture almost as a orange When you look at a grapefruit But what's the difference between the taste of an orange? And the taste of a lemon That tastes hit different Now they both got qualities and attributes And so that's what you got understanding sometimes the fruit may look similar So the fruit is calling every day one spent almost every day together see But the root Can't commit and still sleep with somebody else and the fact that The fact that He's sleeping with somebody else and you know it That's minus 2000 Because if a man's sleeping with somebody and he tells you That's mind games That is to make you feel Inadequate that is to make you feel less than that is to make you feel unworthy That is to put you into a mindset of competition So if you Still talking to this man And he can't commit and he's sleeping with somebody else You lost yourself work You lost yourself work You you you can't as soon as somebody that is supposedly Supposedly trying to talk to you Tell you that they sleep with somebody got to go Yeah Got to go you if you stay after having this kind of knowledge that he won't commit to you and he sleeps with somebody else You might well go get Boo boo the fool tattooed on your forehead You might well go get a tattoo on your forehead If you deal with a man that will not commit and he sleeps with somebody else And he told you Sister listen I wake up in the middle of the photos in the morning Folder cemetery now. Look at us. See a Thomas. He's gonna come on here. Yeah, let me get that picture off She's gonna come right on here and get that picture off and name probably the same name on instagram Where y'all so listen quick Yeah, let me check now That's how you meet just Yep, that's her own instagram Because she followed me on the Nine one thing about the zeal now Now probably ten a name of one thing about a zeal now She know how to take a profile picture now. She ain't gonna She can't she don't play with you on that profile picture now That's what they listen. I ain't gonna be on here with no cartoon character So to say Just got back with my own all-boyfriend Moved into his place and says he would Be able to afford a ring if I paid half the rent I remember was a car practice while I'm doing he just every time I get a question like this I'm gonna tell the car for crack my neck I'm gonna just be on your crack their crack my neck Matter of fact didn't break it My Come on now zeal you can't be on his slam With your profile pictures and dealing with a eight-year on and on Come on. Come on. Now your profile picture don't look bad now You could meet you a husband Just offer profile picture the man might oh i'm like that name, but there's a sion or zeal That's the site Oh, okay All right, she looked like a woman. I've been envisioning Shoot you a little message something you blocking your blast now So if you blocking your blessing you blocking all your blessing truck You blocking your blessing system You can't you can't be on social media with your profile picture Up to date and you're dealing with on and off eight years And let me tell you about this because see the people who been Supporting me for a while. They already know who's on this right here a man Who won't you ain't gonna be off It ain't gonna be on and off a man who won't you gonna be on And a man who won't you i'ma tell you as men We know quickly if a woman is our wife And If a man don't marry you Within three years He got a lot of hesitation He really don't want to marry you If he won't marry you within three years, especially if he 25 or older Now under 25 the clock really don't start ticking until 25 So if you with a man when he 25 If that man ain't married you by 28 You really ain't what he want Now he gonna tell me different And he gonna tell you different But men know I knew from my first conversation and ain't the brightest You know bull Ain't uh You know Salted fry But I knew from my first In-depth conversation with my wife that that was my wife And I was 21 years old Listen men know Men know not do a man want to do right the jury is out on it Can a man is a man willing to grow and change the jury is out on it? But does he know if you hit white? Yeah He already know He already know on and off eight years This what he want to use you for for half of the rent And see this why I have to have security Because he proud to check your phone to look at your video history. He see you on here video Oh, so he trying to tell oh, he telling her my secrets. He telling her on warm I ain't tell her that I was just about to get half of the rent paid Oh, you got to pay for this tonic asking That's why that's why I have to keep shooting with me Just in case somebody want to jump back They got to get laid down Because this right here It's just This is um What's the definition of the word? I don't want to misuse the word I got a dictionary app on the phone I say I was getting ready to go and y'all go to send it the vip Messages Oh, okay. I don't know the second meaning of the word You that I don't know. I'm you the word tonight Ain't no second meaning that I'll try to get my look because y'all know on curse. So being at on curse. I try to use my word like asinine Because you got to look but it actually is not spelled with two s is this as So, I'm in there trying to get my curse word in it. I'm typing And it ain't spelled with that. It's as I and I eat now the first definition say extremely utterly Foolish or silly now this ain't that now because I don't want to do you like to I don't want to do you like to be your morning show boy People be on this program little boy. They'll make you feel dumb as a fossil rocks I'll be like what people ain't gonna want to send no letter in the way y'all be going people be for land people But listen, sister Just hear your heart won't love But what happened is this relationship that made you feel less than So now you keep dealing with this man for eight years Because you think that's all you worth you think that's all you get listen It don't take a man Under the sun eight years to know if he won't Marry a woman and then there is not a man That's fixing to ask a woman to pay half of the rent So he could buy rain That that right there. That's what I'm talking about is asinine not not you But just do what he's trying to pull And then and what he'll do is he'll have you paying his rent half of his rent and he won't even buy no rain He won't even buy no rain because for one a rain could be put on a pavement plan two It's so many jewelers now that take clarner and quad pay And a firm He could do monthly payments with zero interest Right down from green concierge.com He could go buy him a rain and finance it He don't need no help pan. He need help pan rent Because he didn't move into that place So listen and see this is a thing. This is why a lot of guys don't want to associate with me Because I can't sit up here and lie I got to tell the truth because I honestly my heart goes after y'all Falling for this and then I'm gonna tell you Me and my wife were watching something And the man was talking about the arrangement. He got with with his girlfriend or whoever she is And then my wife was like My wife say he looked like a cockroach Like how is she putting up with him? And how is he getting this kind of freedom in his relationship and he looked like a cockroach I say, well, I'm glad you said too because I was sitting here thinking the same thing because a lot of times Women be asking me questions And with the stuff y'all be doing and considering I'm thinking the man looked like god hand chisel But y'all be asking me by the question asking me question about a man who looked like this hill Look like different hill This uh tripod Man be looking like this hill soft And I'd be like, huh? You stressing And losing sleep Listen stressing. I know it's stressing. I just said stressing You stressing and losing sleep. We ain't talking to azir no more. We just need a look because you got a real profile picture If y'all be stressing having a headache over a man Who looked like the bottom of a shoe Look like chewed up bubblegum I'm like, wow I'm like at least stress and worry by somebody that you feel is You know just amazing looking the way you just enthralled when you look at them Well, I'm like y'all be putting up with The man got a bill belly Missing that two phone side I'm like beard don't connect I'd be like my good hella through Dylan I'd be like so listen. I just want y'all to understand like y'all got the It's just the just the state of Women in relationship. That's why I have to do what I do Because if I ain't not here, y'all gonna be out here paying rent It's when and it's women paying my man rent And y'all taught me what it mean hobo sexual. I didn't know what that was I say boy And I was I supposed to be done. I supposed to be done along 30 minutes ago, but my wife still ain't home yet. So She getting all the last minute target pickups and folders For the boy at school tomorrow That's kind of what I was trying to do with the um relationship credit dot com another another Relation of cold watching this Calling the manager right now Hey Tony gas gets so right now and boy listen here. He the tone about this little thing This little hey get right now. Let's do the apple. He do it that way we say it's ours And this we're gonna put a card game with it right now, too y'all be posting all the ideas and Y'all don't realize every relationship coach We watch me video human nature Human nature I watched throne Me and the throne of god, I talked to the lord, but I just know more people Be watching and so they can still idea Let me see This is a god blessing now I share With a gentleman my experience at church when I knew god Was in the room And he denied my experience his response disturbed my spirit Don't know how to approach the subject Any advice you don't have to approach the subject when somebody to show you What maya angelo told y'all when somebody showed you who they are listen what they don't art by god So if I go talking about god, I'm telling somebody about god The realness and the good the goodness of god And they don't believe that and they don't want to hear that this I got to go This I got going on art with you. I got to go No, hold on. I Computer About the install on Y'all let me finish all these last couple of vip submissions Got approved for a dream apartment, but I know how How important it is to be up beneath me Apartment is 50% of my income, but I feel it will motivate me Sister I'm gonna tell you what, you know Now where you live at That's different than what you drive Where you live at and so you know The apartment want you to make three times So you might not even be able to get it They want you to make three times what it calls. So that kind of Let you know right there what they want to see So unless you're gonna forge some numbers You might not even Oh, you already got approval. Oh, yeah, they see we get ready to go into a recession. They make an exception sister Because if you if apartment is 5k, let's know if apartment is 2,500 You supposed to make 7,500 You saying you make 5,000 I'm just throwing out numbers You ain't supposed to get approved for that So they uh And they coming in high right now because people just raised their prices right for the recession head So you need to top them down sister But if you feel like you're gonna got some streams of income, I can't tell you because that's how I am too I increase pressure To motivate inspired me to go hard For the you know think outside of the box And that worked for me. So if you if you could do that Then god bless you, but if you can't do that sister Then hey hey somebody sent the Cash out. Hey god bless you now. I sound like my wife back home. Okay So I got to go spend a little time with my wife because she Let me do this here I'm gonna go in here brush my teeth. See when you tired Everybody go to producing because right now in my body is 430 a.m So I'm gonna go in here brush my teeth I kiss on the white neck and stuff, you know, just out of the bottle grab a little bullet Look it on that Let get on the nerves a little bit Hey, but god bless you. We went 36 minutes old Waving on the queen to get back home I really appreciate the love and support to the moderators. Thank you so much for your help God bless you And uh caramel kids. I don't I don't tell her to do that and I don't pay her to do that either She just be posing that just to be a blessing to me and it really built blessing y'all y'all be taking care of me And so I really appreciate that And somehow she got all the Links and everything But hey god, that's all And um, this should be save on here, but we'll talk soon And Lucy you missed it, but you could scroll back and watch it Sister sales parents said it We heard a word of god Sister you wrong for on that money now My mom and dad let me take one out on them, but uh It's not some of the apps they only require and nothing you just could take one out But let's hope the app don't go out of business and they run off with everybody money But it's something I might help but hey god bless y'all We'll talk soon