 All right. How many of you are excited for this topic today? We're talking about how to build a lasting marriage, and we're going to be sharing. Each of us, we're going to be sharing five things that we've learned personally, or from our perspectives. Five things. There's more, but we kind of narrow it down to five things that stood out to us individually regarding the marriage and what helped us to survive, what helped us to weather the storms, and what helped us to get where we are right now. And then we're going to be taking some Q&As. I'm sure people would be. We've got a few that have submitted on the social media, so we'll try to go through some of those, and then we'll take some questions over the chat here as well to stay interactive. OK. By the way, before we start, you were watching a promo before we started a race to deliver conference that we're going to have November 4th through 6th here in Tri-Cities in Kenwick, Washington. I would highly, highly encourage you to come out in November. Take those days, pray in fast, seek the Lord, come out to this race to deliver conference. I believe that even if you receive deliverance, even if you've been to our past conferences, or maybe you receive deliverance of ministry even on Zoom, there is something special when we get together in the building. There's this energy, there's power, there's this glory of God. You're going to experience another level of freedom. You're going to experience another level of presence of God. You're going to be activated in spiritual things. I mean, you're going to be refreshed. You will be, if there is other things that the Lord wants to set you free and deliver you, it's going to be an amazing, amazing atmosphere. Listen, you don't want to miss it. As a matter of fact, I tell people and everyone that's following our ministry, you need to make it a yearly thing where you come physically to Hungry Jan, specifically to one of our conferences. In Muslim world, there's this thing that people go to Mecca once a year. There's millions of people that gather there. They come there once a year for this big festival of worship. And it's a great thing. I mean, obviously, it's a false religion, I'm not saying that. I'm not encouraging that. But it's a good habit for us Christians have to come into the place, especially the place where we've been spiritually fed, the place that we admire, a place where we receive from. You come and visit that place once in a while. That was a custom in an Old Testament in the Bible where people would travel to the temple once a year to celebrate and to bring a sacrifice. And so I encourage, highly, highly, highly encourage. We're willing to spend easily $3,000, $5,000, $10,000 on a vacation, which it's a good thing. You go there yourself, with your spouse, with the family, and enjoy yourself, relax. But we're sometimes reluctant to spend $5,700 to go to a spiritual retreat where we get charged, delivered, touched, re-energized, and we get blessed for a spirit. So I highly encourage you, November 4 through 6, book the flights, book the hotels, do it early. Plan on being here because you don't want to miss what's going to be happening this year. Every year we go from glory to glory. So yeah, enough of my rambling. We are just going to drive right in. I see some people are sharing this broadcast. So go ahead. If you just tuned in, like the video. Share this video on your timeline. Send it to somebody. Maybe text somebody. Say, hey, Hangry Jin is talking about marriage. You should tune in. Maybe somebody who's struggling in marriage. We're going to be praying afterwards. So it's going to be powerful. And hopefully we can answer some questions and give some very practical advice how to have a long-lasting marriage, how to have a happy marriage, and most importantly, how to have a godly marriage. Amen. All right. Maybe you want to kick us off a little bit. I know you lost your voice a little bit. So we're going to take it easy on you today. But we're going to tag team. Yes. So forgive me. I hope you guys can understand me. I lost my voice. Unfortunately, perfect timing. But we decided to narrow it down top five for myself and then for him, from his perspective of the things that we saw throughout our years that really helped, or life lessons, if I could say it, taught us that what we need in our life in order to not even just have a happy marriage, but a fulfilling marriage. And of course, I'm going to start off with the first one. And then he will share his so that way I can save my voice. But the very first one that I have to say, and I'm sure some of you may already know those that are believers, is I wrote down, I have to have a better relationship with God than with my husband. I think at any given time when you are seeking or pursuing your husband or spouse, may it be, more than your relationship with the Lord, you begin to idolize that spouse, that individual, seek them out, and then they become, not just your idol, but your resolution, your solution to absolutely everything. I'm talking about your needs. And it says in Philippians 419 that the Lord will supply all your needs. But the thing is, is that the Lord can't supply your needs as if he is absent in your life. And that part I have to say, as spiritual as it may sound for us, maybe we are tired of hearing it. We hear it through podcasts or other messages and you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, have a relationship with the Lord. But I tell you what, that we've gone through some really dark moments, moments where we, we're on the verge of divorce, moments where we were really trying to restore our relationship and life hits you, life hits everybody. It's no one. And I mean no one has a perfect life. Through tribulations, we are perfected through them. And so when you go through things, you do not want to lean on each other. You want to lean on the Lord together. And so that is what it is, is that you constantly seek the Lord more than you seek your spouse. When you seek your relationship with the Lord more than your spouse, what happens is, is that you begin to see your spouse, not the way you see him or her through their- Not the way they are. Not the way they are, not their past mistakes. But the Lord just starts to give you a vision of how they, how he sees them. And that is something that happened with me where I began to pray very specifically. And if you're taking notes, if this is something that you're wanting to learn in the sense of like, how can I get myself out of a mess or I'm on the verge of divorce or I don't have feelings anymore or I don't have love anymore for my spouse. I'm tired of him or I'm tired of her. You know, I'm constantly fighting, constantly arguing. I want you to write this down. Write down this very specific prayer and begin to pray and ask the Lord, Lord, how do you see my spouse? How do you see him? And I encourage you to keep saying, keep praying this and it may come right away and may come in a couple of weeks but the Lord will give you visions, sometimes dreams, sometimes who will impart certain prophetic words, words of scripture. And that's what happened for me. He began to paint this picture of my husband, the way he saw him and really just it gave me such a deep, how do I say, something that I'm called to be a helper and encourage him to get to that place, to constantly encourage him. I couldn't do that if I am constantly looking at his downfalls or his mistakes or his shortcomings because- Which there's plenty of them. Yeah, there's plenty. I'm just kidding, but really, I'm normal. But really at the end of it all, it's really about the Lord imparting how he sees your spouse and then you're able to take it to prayer. And then after you take it to prayer, you're able to take it into the natural and begin to speak life and prophesy life and encourage them and see them the way the Lord sees them. And that truly means that you are a helper. You're not breaking him down or her down based off of what you're seeing. The expectations, they're not meeting. They're not meeting your needs, et cetera, et cetera, and so I encourage you is that let, make sure that you have a better relationship with the Lord than you have with your spouse. That means you wake up early or go to bed a little bit later, whatever time throughout the day that you can find based off of your season and really make sure that you are having a relationship with the Lord, that you're talking to him and that you're receiving and you're hearing from him, you're reading the word of God, that you're really just getting that impartation if I could put it that way. And that's what's going to make it long lasting. That's what's going to give you grace for his downfalls, her downfalls, their mistakes. You're gonna be able to forgive easily. You'll be able to see them a different light. You'll begin in a very graceful way versus constantly bitter, resentful, unforgiving, and just so tired and exhausted because guess what? When you start to feel exhausted and tired and bitter, you're no longer operating or being led by the spirit, but you're being led by your flesh. And that's what we naturally do. We are living walking flesh, but I just encourage, that's my number one thing is always that if I'm ever kind of, how do I say, not having as a strong relationship with the Lord, I notice immediately that I'm seeking his from him too much that I'm like, you know what? I need to take a step back and go back to the Lord and pursue him. He is not able to be God. He's not, he's my spouse, he's my spouse, he's incredible. But the thing is, is that whatever he does, compliments, gives, and speaks my love language, that's only extra. That's just an extra thing that I get to enjoy, not being for the fact that that is my literally source to everything. So that's just kind of a little bit what I want to impart with the first point for myself to everybody. And I think for me, that's also a top of my five, list that we're gonna share if we'll have time to share all five each of us. But that, there's definitely, she said it all of it. I just, I like this example that I saw once, is that imagine a triangle, right? You got a tip at the top and then you got your two sides at the bottom. On the bottom two sides is you and your spouse. And then the higher you, the closer you get to God, the higher, you know, as the closer you get into God, the closer you get to each other. Because at the end of the day, you cannot idolize your spouse. You cannot idolize your wife, your husband. You can't expect from them what only God can give. You, when you get into marriage, you have to go into marriage with the mindset of giving, not getting. Come on. Because the problem is that, is that most people get it. Oh, he makes me feel good. Oh, she makes me feel like a man. Oh, you know, he provides for me. She does this, that there's these expectations. There's some healthy ones. I'm not, we don't have time to touch on that, but there are things that become overly, overly dependent on a spouse where the Lord is not in a picture or the Lord is a second place or the Lord is somewhere a spare tire in a trunk. You know, so. The last resort. It's his, yeah, he's the last resort. And so definitely as well for me is God first. I know one thing is that, you know, if I'm having issues with my wife and I'm having a bad attitude or I have something, I'm not, I'm misbehaving in. And she would tell me like, oh, you know, you did this, you did this, you know, you've been mean and this and that. And you know, in my stubbornness, I can fight it. I can fight with her. I'm a pretty good debater and she'll tell you that. I can debate my way out of almost anything. Almost every time. But the thing is that when you have a genuine relationship with God, you can't debate with the Lord. You cannot, he'll always win. And the Bible clearly says that you can't have a genuine relationship with God if you're not good with your spouse. It hinders our prayers, but Apostle Paul says. And so you secure your relationship with God, you will be fulfilled. And out of that, now you can take out of Bible, it says out of good treasure of your heart, you know, you're brilliant forth good, out of the bad treasure of your heart, you're brilliant forth bad. Now, when you receive that good deposit from the Lord, now you can bring it to your spouse. Now you can bring it to your marriage. Now, like she said, you can see your spouse in the Godly way, not from his past, her past, mistakes or surecomings. And yeah, and it changes relationship. So that's, I 100% agree. This is number one for lasting marriage and for happy marriage is to keep God in the center. And it will look different for you. That's something that I was, when you were talking, I was thinking about, don't try to, don't try to mold your spouse into your type of relationship with God. So good. So good. And I think that's kind of, in the beginning of our marriage, we were trying to adjust and see, for example, I had a certain habits of prayer and spending time with the Lord, which usually because I lived nearby the church, because we live nearby the church, I would come to church and I would spend time with the Lord. Like she does not like to do that. She needs her room. Sacred closet. She needs her Bible and a notebook. She turns on some worship music and she sits in the corner there with the Lord somewhere on the couch and she might have her coffee cup with her tea cup or just a water cup. And then she will be having an amazing time with the Lord. To me, it's different. Me, maybe it's changing now a little bit. I don't know if I'm getting older or why, but it's so, I come to church because I have that ability. I pace back and forth. My prayer are often very energetic, very full of activity because if I don't, I fall asleep. And then once I got my breakthrough in prayer, then I can have the time of meditation, reading a word and that for her it's opposite. And in the beginning I was struggling with that, trying to like, well, come to church with me, let's pray together, do this. And we did, we did. Night prayers together and other stuff, but you have to allow your spouse to have their relationship with God. Don't impose your way on them. And you have to trust God that they have a relationship with the Holy Spirit and let them be led by the Holy Spirit in their relationship with God. Now I understand Bible does say that we as a man, we are priests in the house, but it doesn't mean that we dominate and we dictate how they should pray and how they converse with God. It means that we take responsibility, a spiritual responsibility upon our shoulders meaning loving our wives, loving our kids, providing for them, praying for them and covering them with our prayer. That's what it really means. Authority means responsibility, not domination and control. Come on. And so that's what they now would say about that add to the spiritual aspect of it keeping God, keeping God first. The second thing for me, and we're gonna just kind of go back and forth, I think four guys from guys perspective is to have humility. Is to have humility. I think if I'd say probably proportionally wise guys struggle with pride more than girls. Oftentimes girls might have different areas, maybe certain insecurities and other complexes in their character and their mindsets and things like that, but I think one of the things, especially in marriage, that pride will arm the man, she should listen to me being right, trying to prove something, trying to kind of like that pride, especially if you're a spiritual leader, that spiritual pride, I hear from the Lord and all that stuff. And even just a pride of being right, which I know no guy, and please guys, I'm from this, for me in the chat, no guy likes to be wrong. I didn't think anybody likes to be wrong, but it seems like guys take it a lot harder, they just don't like to be wrong. My wife, when she was wrong, she was like, okay, whatever, I just thought maybe whatever. She just kind of brushes it off and it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal. For us guys, for me personally, being wrong, it hits your ego. Am I talking to somebody? And so I think one of the biggest things and one of the biggest things is to be humble. That's the characteristics of Jesus. Jesus was humble, we need to be Christ-like and Jesus said to love our spouses the way he loved the church. And the way Jesus, all of his approach, his ministry was a servant, it was humility, was never dominating, proving your point, protecting your ego, protecting your pride. It was always approach of humility and servanthood. So I think for me, I think that the 15 year lesson would be, from the guy's perspective, it's having the heart of humility. I'm a big boss, I'm the head of the household, I'm the priest, I'm the man of the house, you do as I said, I can never be wrong and this ego, this stubbornness and all that stuff. Be humble. Bible says that the Lord loves humble people and he extends grace to the humble people. Learn to humble yourself, because there's two things. You either humble yourself, Bible says, humble yourself under the mighty hand of God, either humble yourself or you will be humiliated. Being humiliated is a lot harder than choosing to humble ourselves, choosing to admit that we're wrong, choosing to admit that we've messed up, choosing to admit that we were hasty with our decision, with our anger, with other stuff, so be humble, guys. It's okay to be wrong, it's okay to make mistakes and we should acknowledge it and be humble about it. Come on, I want to add to that because there is a point that I also wrote down that talks about humility, but it says in Proverbs 31 for the wife that the husband, there's a scripture and I can even pull it up where it says that the husband trusts her with his heart and that is such an honor when, because a man is very fragile, as he said, about not just the ego, but also with their feelings. They don't know how to express or even how to communicate certain things, especially if you were growing up that way. There's also all sense of different cultures, dynamics and things like that, so I understand that not everyone may relate to this, but for a good majority really could relate to the fact that a lot of men don't know how to express their feelings, their emotions and that was something that we also had to go through. The part of our brain is not very well developed. Not at all and so for me, as they say, that you always have to guess what the woman's thinking, but honestly, I think that's so false. I mean, we can jibber jabber and we can, again, I'm not talking about everyone. There are some that are different, but I'm saying a good majority. I mean, hey, if you ask and if you know how to ask, we will tell you. We will let you know what's going on or express it, especially if you are coming in a way of not in a sense of offensive or demanding, but really out of genuine care and saying, hey, what's going on? We are more than happy to express it to you. Maybe it will take us a while, but we will talk it out. What I've found in our relationship, but also in the people that we counsel, I'm talking about people that are newlyweds, people that are five years in, 10 years in, you know, whatever dating season. A lot of them struggle with the communication is that I have to guess how they're feeling, like I don't know what's going on in their mind. And so I just really encourage the fact that for the woman that when the man does yield, and I say this yield by saying, you know what? I was wrong. That you don't, you know, carry a flag and say, I told you so, I told you so, and like really just like, you know, dance over him saying like, yep, I knew it, you're wrong. You were wrong again. Like don't, no need to do that, right? Like he already surrendered. No need to make them feel worse than the fact that they're in humility kind of just saying, you know what, I messed up or I did wrong. Because right at that very moment is very crucial. That moment is extremely crucial for the man to say, can I trust you that I have literally showed you a vulnerability that I have said, hey, you know, I messed up, I did wrong. Or they're expressing their feelings like, hey, I'm having a really hard time. I'm fighting depression. Or you know, I'm questioning if I'm a good provider. Or I'm questioning if I'm, you know, good enough. Or they're literally opening up to you a little bit. Don't hold it against them. Don't put it over their head. Because that very moment is very crucial to say, will I be able to trust you with my heart? And I assure you they will remember as much as they maybe not say it, they won't use it against you in the sense verbally, but they'll take a mental now and they'll be even all the more reserved and it will take you even longer to have their heart open up to you. So that's just food for thought. That is just an encouragement that if your spouse is, and this goes to the men as well, if your wife is saying, hey, I'm sorry, I did wrong. Or hey, you know, this is what I'm going through that we consider that sacred because that is part of our heart. And we as a spouse to one another and as a marriage unit, we should be a safe place. And I wanna ask you, don't think about your spouse right now. Think about yourself. I wanna ask you, look at yourself and say, am I a safe place for my spouse? Can he or she come to me and be like, hey, can you pray for me? Hey, this is what's going on. Or are they able to talk things out? And I'm not saying that a lot of them can just talk their emotions out. Like I said, we're 15 years in and it's still sometimes I have to be like, hey, what's going on? Tell me what's going on because it's naturally doesn't come to him. But guess what? I don't take it personal. I'm not taking it personal on the fact that like, oh my goodness, like he doesn't wanna talk to me. He doesn't trust me. No, I just know that that's just how he processed things. And so that's another food for thought. Don't take everything personal, not everything his bad days are her bad days or things that are going on are necessarily always them. Majority of the times when it's the man, when the husband, it's usually not personal, but when it's the woman going through a bad day, usually it's personal because usually we're so affected by the men. And I see a lot of girls laughing and smiling because it's true. A lot of times it just works a little bit different. But again, those are just two side notes. So I don't want to derail anymore. So I'm just gonna give you my point number two, which kind of falls into the humility. Just speed it up a lot because we're already 40 minutes into it. So we just have this grass to surface. So let's, we do wanna share, we wanna share all the points. So we're just gonna go through them a little bit quicker. Some of them are self-expondentory and then we'll take some questions. So some of the things will be covered in the questions Q&A afterwards. So the other one is a serving heart will serve you well. A serving heart will serve you well. And that is living that selfless life, right? Where we are able to not again be the Lord where you're meeting their needs, but at the same time where you're able to, you know what, like in the humility, know that, hey, I'm here for my spouse, right? That it's not always about being self-centered, it's all about me. That through all about me, you know when it's all about you, when you do not know how to negotiate or compromise, that's a clue for you. If you do not know how to negotiate and compromise, that's a clue for you that you're really on a self-centered mode because when you're not able to yield and be like, okay, I'll compromise, I'm talking about TV shows, movies, the AC or the heater, I'm talking about those like small, simple stuff, how you deal with finances, where you're going on vacation, those type of things that are like your everyday basics. If it's always how you want it the way it's supposed to be, that there's this controlling aspect that it has to be this way, and you start to recognize like, oh, I don't know how to negotiate or yield or compromise. Like I said, that's a clue in that you're not allowing to be able to serve your spouse at that very moment, whatever maybe their want or their need is. And I have something that as I was thinking and drawing on this thought about humility, is if I don't serve in humility, I will be enslaved in manipulation. And I say that because anytime when you are not operating in humility, you literally are going to be enslaved in manipulation to get your way. As I said that if you are not in the mode of serving and helping out and being that person is like, what can I do to build or help build this marriage? You go into the mode of I need him or her to fulfill my need. So I'm going to do and say whatever in order to get my way. And doing that is called manipulation. So if you are not in the mode of servanthood, you will be enslaved to manipulation. You'll start to manipulate in order to get your way. And when you do that, you are driven by a different force versus humility versus doing it the right godly way. And it can get you in a very dark place because you're manipulating with feelings and emotions. You're dealing with things that are kind of playing games with their heart or with their mind. And we don't want to be that. Once again, we're going back to the fact that you want to be a safe place for your spouse. Very good, very good. The next thing that I have from my side that I've learned over five, 15 years, sorry, is would be to learn to forgive quick. Learn to forgive and release grudges, release forgiveness quick and not to hold it and not to let that brew over time. Not to let that, not to hold that Bible says, not to hold our anger until the sun down, right? Not to stay angry, even, we're starting to be talking about the spouse, just with another person, not to, meaning not to hold our anger, not to hold our frustration, not to hold our, you know, hurt or unforgiveness towards our spouse, that we learn to release, let go and forgive quick. And sometimes you have to learn to forgive before they even ask for forgiveness because at the end of the day, at the end of the day, unforgiveness holds you prisoner, not the other person, unforgiveness, it's like drinking a poison, hoping the other person will die from it. And so one thing that I've learned that I noticed is that be quick to forgive, be quick to talk it out, be quick to release some forgiveness. Sometimes the other person is just not going to see your point, not going to see how they hurt you. And you stay mad at them or manipulating them into saying, I'm sorry, what truly they're not is not helping you or them. And so to live in constant forgiveness, to live in constant purity of the heart, purity of the heart, not holding grudges is a way to have healthy marriage, to bringing that to the Lord, bringing and releasing it to the Lord and allowing the Lord to work on our marriage on us and then working it with our spouse. And then oftentimes what I find is that you're kind of mad, you piss at the person, but you release it, you forgive it. And then you can actually have a healthy discussion, not out of a place of bitterness and like, I'll show you, I'll show you what you did to me. Like, I'll hurt you back, but we can have a healthy discussion. Say, no, this is kind of what this is what you did. It hurt me, I forgive you, I'll let it go, but it really wounded me, it really suppressed me, it didn't make me feel good, it made me feel yucky, it made me feel, you know, so you discuss that and then, you know, it's different when it's coming out of a healed heart and forgiven heart versus when it's coming out of a heart that is bitter and unforgiving because it would always would come up in the form of manipulation and stubbing and hurting back because hurt people hurt others. Yeah. Another one I would have to say is, and it kind of goes off the forgiveness, is taking 100% ownership. I find that in, as you grow up, this is not just in marriage, this is in relationships in general, that we love to do the blame game. We like to blame our friends, we like to blame our leaders, we like to blame our pastors, we like to blame our spouses, we like to blame our family, our parents, you name it, we love to blame and every time you blame someone else for the state that you were in, you will never take responsibility of what you are at that very moment or ever grow from it. A sign of maturity is taking ownership and being responsible. It's not necessary saying I'm responsible for what they have done, I'm only responsible for how I respond and what I do with it, amen. And I even sense some of you that are here, that are on here, are struggling with spouses that are fighting addictions. They're addicted to maybe alcohol, cigarettes, pornography, certain things that they're battling anger, maybe they're addicted to TV or they're addicted to sports or something that they have replaced God and they idolized something else to fill that void inside of them and so they're struggling. And what happens is that they're not owning or taking ownership of what's going on inside of them and that is why they're stuck in our struggling. Don't do that to yourself. If you are in a victim situation or if you are in a situation where you're dealing with insecurities, you're dealing with unforgiveness, resentment or some type of emotion of heaviness and anger, I want us to take that moment of ownership, to taking responsibility and saying it's not because of him or because of her or because of this, but you take that situation and you bring it to the Lord and say, Lord, this is what it is. Help me to respond to this correctly so I can heal and move on so that I can learn from this, so I can mature from this, so I can grow from this because what good is it if you are stuck forever from what they have done 10, 15 years ago, amen? What good is if you drag what has been completely over and something that we need to bury and what we need to do is to take ownership and we cannot look to our spouse and say, fix my insecurity, fix my fear, fix what my depression, make me happy. You are responsible for your happiness. What your spouse gets to do is enjoy it. That's what they get to do. They are not the ones to make you happy. You are called as your own ownership to have your happiness. The joy of the Lord is your strength. That's different, but what I'm talking about is that you are responsible of your happiness. They just get to enjoy it. They are not your source of happiness. They are not your answer. They just get to enjoy the wholeness of who you are becoming. And so take responsibility and ownership. If you are insecure, if you are battling with fear, take it to the Lord. Allow the Lord to help you because he is our greatest problem solver. Holy Spirit will counsel you and guide you and correct you and direct you on how to deal with what you are dealing with, amen. So we need to stop shifting blame, stop taking them and saying, it's because of you that we are here. It's because of you we are at this state. Anytime you do that, you have paralyzed your growth. Anytime you shift blame, you have paralyzed your growth. You have stopped growing. What we need to do is say, I cannot change my spouse. I can't change this circumstance. I wish I could, but what I can do is pray about it. What I can do is intercede. What I can do is be in the right mind and have grace upon me to be able to respond well. And the Lord will do His portion as I do mine, amen. And so that was a huge, huge thing from going from the age of 19 and my teens into my 20s and now into my 30s and realizing that I have to own my weaknesses. I have to own how I respond. He cannot do it for me and anytime I give it to Him, I tell you what, it just gets messy. He fails me, not because He's terrible. No, it's because I'm responsible for that, not Him. He is responsible for Himself, amen. And so we cannot paralyze our growth. Let's take ownership today. What can you do in your situation that you're in right now if you're struggling in your marriage? Things are not going good. I don't know what it is. Maybe your spouse, like I said, isn't an addiction. Maybe there's a heaviness that you seek mentorship, that you seek, you're listening to this faith building, that you're going to these things, that you're logging in and you're trying to feed your spirit so that you're still encouraged, that you're doing your part, take responsibility of yourself, amen. And the Lord, as long as you're taking your spouse to the Lord, the Lord will do the rest. And so that is a big, big lesson and that has helped me not be a leech, not paralyze my growth and not have Him be my source, but I go to the source and then God talks to Him when He's out of tune, amen. And so that's what I have to say about that. What do you think? 100%. Were you listening? Yes. We're having some issues. We're having some issues with the internet. We're trying to resolve here, but 100%, taking 100% ownership, taking 100% ownership and because at the end of the day, you can't, you can only work and change you. You can't change the spouse. You can't change their behavior. You're not God. And even God does not force Himself on us. He works with us. And so, but by taking control of what you can control, which is yourself, which is your emotions, which is your thoughts, then you can become self-sufficient. You can work through it with God and then trust God for your spouse. And hopefully your spouse will do the same thing and if two people take 100% responsibility for themselves, then they can bring good things, health, happiness, satisfaction, harmony to the marriage. She's long-lasting, successful and it's good. And so, it's fulfilling, it's 100%. You know, if you expect the other person to fulfill you, again, it comes back to the whole point. Number one, we're talking of nobody can fulfill you but God. Come on. And so, you take responsibility for your relationship with God, 100% of it. You take responsibility for your character, your actions, your words, your thoughts, your emotions and then you have something to offer to your spouse and vice versa, your spouse does it. It's a never-ending flow of life in your marriage. Amen. Okay, if you are being blessed right now about what we're sharing so far, we've got a couple more and we're gonna go quickly. I know time is ticking. We do wanna spend time ministering to you guys but if you are receiving and if you're enjoying this broadcast, go ahead, drop one in the chat on Facebook, on YouTube, on Zoom. Those of you watching on Zoom, if it's being beneficial and helpful to you, wave at me, let me know that you're receiving and it's useful to you, that something maybe, some new things you're learning and some things are shifting in your mind. Okay, wonderful, wonderful, yeah. We got people responding on Zoom, on Facebook, on Instagram, people are watching, people are receiving. Amazing. Amen. Next thing that I'd say that on my list, I don't know, is it three or four, but next thing that I have on my list is in 15 years, I've learned this. Both of us process conflicts and tensions, stresses and fights differently. Like the way I process things and the way she processes are probably can't be any more opposite than it is. The funny thing is, there's the saying that opposites attract before you get married and then they distract when you're married, right? When I was dating my wife and I thought we had so many things in common, like oh my gosh, we got this thing in common, this thing in common, everything in common, we're like totally alike and then when I got married I realized we're actually completely polar opposite of each other. And so we had to learn how to reconcile this opposite side and it actually makes life interesting because I think like I'll probably be bored and my wife all constantly reminds me, like you, your life would be boring if you were married to you, like you. And so she brings excitement to my life, she brings spice to my life, she brings fun to my life. I think I'm a bit of a boring person and so she's a lot more fun and so it brings a lot of color to my life. But that being said, because we're two different people, we respond, we respond to conflict extensions and fights differently. For me, I go to sleep. I'm like, this is too much for me, I don't wanna talk because if I talk I'm gonna say something stupid that I'm gonna regret and I'm gonna have to apologize for to you and to the Lord. I am just, you know what, let me go sleep on it and then when I wake up I'm like, whew, whatever. Everything's good, I'm gonna move on. And then here she's sitting there and she's simmering inside because, you know, it's came to the boiling point, it's like, oh my gosh, like what do you mean? We just have this big issue, we gotta talk about it. And then, you know, my response is like, dude just get over it, like it's done. It was yesterday, like we slept on it and I'm done, like you know, I moved on. Like you move on too, you know. And to understand that, you know, the way she processes is different. So how do you process when things come to that and how is it different and why does it piss you off when I go to sleep? When we're fighting. I bring up that scripture that you're not supposed to go to bed angry, you know, and I'm like, you're making me sin. You know, you're leading me into being sinful and so I can't go to sleep. I have to be a place of how I process things is through conversation or talking things through in order to be on the right page that that means the world to me. But as we said earlier, he's a great debater and he knows how to debate his way out of everything and so he won a lot of times like, okay, this is just the better way to go about it because I will say things that I'll regret and I don't wanna say things that I'll regret and this is the way I'm going to deal with it. And I have to respect that too. Like I do want to share that is that that's a clear boundary, right? He's literally warning me, saying is like, if you're gonna push it, I'm gonna say things that are gonna be extremely harmful. I'm not in a good state of mind. And if we keep pushing and I'm talking to the men or the woman that know how to push the buttons. I mean, say- I'm pretty good at it. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about? If you're- 10th spiritual gift from the, I don't know, but it's probably not from the Holy Spirit. Yeah, it's definitely a weakness, but it's okay. Good confession. But I mean- The confession time of pastoral marriage of Hungry Jen. So he knows how to push the buttons, but here's wisdom. You can keep pushing it. If you are someone that isn't like me, that needs to process and talk it through and really just get to a place of neutral, like, okay, we forgive each other. Let's move on. This is what it is. But as he said, he doesn't. He just goes to bed. And then here I am pondering. I can't sleep. I'm going through 20 bajillion ways of how to solve this problem or whatever, and saying like, okay, I need to say this or this, whatever. And I'm not, and I'm losing sleep. I'm not sleeping. And so, you know, I've told him that it, you know, over the past couple of years that it's time to sacrifice. It's time to negotiate Ilya. And you need to stay awake and listen to me until we process this. This is the time to sacrifice sleep. And so he has a couple of times. So we've definitely got progress, but- Yeah, I think definitely. This is where you learn from each other. You know, you learn how you process and that you learn how different ways you process things. And sometimes, you know, she learned like, hey, I'm just gonna give him room. I'm just gonna let him sleep. I'm not letting him off the hook, but I'm just gonna let him sleep, you know. And this way, I come down emotionally and then I actually can reasonably approach the conversation to speak and then she can present her way. And usually I'm a lot more reasonable in that state of mind. Yeah. I notice oftentimes that fights do happen towards the end of the day and what happens towards the end of the day? You're more tired. When you're tired, you're more emotionally compromised. That's true. So sometimes sleeping on it is a good idea. And sometimes you dare not to go to sleep and at least you get to a truce. You might not get to the peace treaty, but you get to truce so that both people can rest and then approach it again in the morning. So depending on the situation, depending on the depth of the situation, depending on the severity of the situation, depending on the topic, there's certain topics that can wait. You discuss them when you're in a better state of mind. And there are certain things that you just don't go to sleep. But yeah, husband, if that's you are like me, you don't go to sleep on certain topics. You solve them or at least you get to the truce. You know, you kind of mend it enough that you can rest, she can rest, you can rest and then approach it and start it up again in the next conversation and the next morning where you guys are in a better state of mind. So there is sometimes you do it one way, the other sometimes you do it the other way. There's always give and take. And I'm just gonna say just a quick thing about the whole boundaries. Like I was saying, he was giving me insight to a boundary where he's saying, look, don't push it right now. Or I'm emotionally compromised. I'm really exhausted. I don't have it in me right now to be able to have a, how do I say it? A reasonable and wholesome conversation. So let's just meet here. If you push me, you will get something that I don't want to have a conversation about. Like I'm saying things that you don't, you'll regret saying. So for those that like to poke and get your way, this is the time to respect the boundary, right? Where you just like, you know what? Okay, I just don't want to fan the flame. I don't need to add to the fire. I'm just gonna yield and be like, you know what? Fine, let's come to a conclusion at this moment. We'll talk it over the next day. And usually he goes to morning prayer, ladies and gentlemen. And he comes back repenting and saying, sorry. So I'm saying 70% of the time, not all the time. Sometimes you. Like majority of the 95%, he's repenting. So, you know, we win at the end. Amen. Yeah, okay, fine, you win this one. All right, all right. So you get the point. Somebody said, I was watching, by the way, we're watching comments. The comments are coming in. So we're gonna hear soon start taking Q and A's and addressing some of them. Somebody mentioned and said, you know, when he goes to sleep, I feel like he doesn't care. It might be the case, but it might not be the case. It might be honestly that, like I said in my particular case, oftentimes it's not that I don't care about the relationship or the fight. It's just that I know that I'm not in a good emotional state. And I know if this thing keeps going that I might say something out of character that I'm gonna have to do more apologies on. And it's not that I don't care, it's just I want to get emotionally rested and then discuss it and then talk about it when I am in less heightened state of emotions. So, but there are people, I'm not gonna discount that as well, there are people that use that as a way of avoiding conversation and then next morning they don't address it, they don't talk about it, they don't apologize it, they don't ask the spouse how they're doing. So it's true, you know, it could be a way of avoiding but it also could be a way of, hey, I just need space right now, let me come down so that I can have a reasonable and healthy conversation or at least, you know, within reason, a conversation within reason. So, yeah, that's not always, it doesn't always mean that is an escape of a lazy route, okay? All right, the last one that I have on my list and then we can discuss that if you have something we can add and we're gonna start taking Q and A's is fight fair, fights are unavoidable, fights are good, fights are healthy for your marriage but you gotta fight fair, there's two types of fighting, it's a street fighting, anything goes, you gotta survive, okay, you fend for yourself, you gotta survive, it's a killed or be killed type of a fight and there is, you know, boxing, let's put it, boxing is less brutal I guess, I was gonna say MMA but let's put it boxing, it's cleaner, it's fair, there is a referee, there's rules, you can't hit below the belt, you can't hit on the back of the head, you know, there's different things that you can and cannot do in boxing and you have a fair fight and at the end there is a winner, there is a loser or there's a draw, okay? And that's something that we have to have in our marriage. If you're trying to avoid fights, you are just postponing the inevitable and nuclear explosion, okay? Because you can be reactive or proactive and I believe that having smaller fights along the way, it's being more proactive and resolving your issues in the flow of time, in the flow of the events and as things are moving versus ignoring things, sweeping things under the rug and letting things build, letting things boil on inside and then things come to an absolute explosion and nuclear disaster and nuclear fallout that takes deliverance, that takes counseling and they take years of mending something that could have been processed along the way and so fighting fair, well how is the fighting fair, how does that look like? It's not, to me, it's not manipulating and she addressed that more and it's also, it's using a specific type of language. Fighting fair to me is like, instead of saying you made me feel like you, you and then the word you is a jabbing word, it's a jab, it's a nasty hit. It's using their past against them. It's using things that you've discussed and settled and made peace about it, you bring it back up and you keep jabbing and that's a dirty hit that's a illegal hit in a marital context. Instead of always saying you, you, you made me feel, I think better phrase, to still address your feelings and present your feelings, say I feel like instead of you made me feel like and then again it comes back to what she said taking ownership, 100% ownership, in this case taking ownership of your feelings, okay, I feel like, okay, not you made me feel like, that's the moment you say you made me feel like you gave the ownership and control to the other person but when you say I feel like, then you say these are not my emotions, I mean these are my emotions, they are not your emotions, yes you might have contributed to these feelings but these are my emotions and I am hurting instead of you hurt me, you did this to me, you did this to me, I'm hurting and then it really disarms the other person instead of when you go you, you, you and then the other person feels like, well I'm you jabbing at me, I gotta defend myself, and then the other person comes at the other party, you did this, you said this and it's back and forth, back and forth, you, you using manipulating, using the past, using foul language and other things like that and it's all of that you, you, you instead of I, when you always suddenly say I, the other person will feel stupid to be like, oh yeah, you, keep saying you, you, you all of a sudden it's like you disarm the person, you take the knife out of their hand, you take that stabbing tool out of their hand and you're like, and they realize wait a second, you're hurting, okay, you have to be an absolute idiot and you have to be then at that point an absolute like heartless person when you see somebody hurting, not to help them or at least pause and be like, wait a second, am I causing this pain, am I causing this hurt, am I the source of this, right, because my spouse is hurting, but when you go you, you, you in this back and forth, jabbing and going back and forth, you don't even get a chance to stand back and realize am I hurting the other person, am I causing pain, am I not addressing, am I not hearing what they're saying and so this is kind of a few practical tips on, few practical tips on having a fair fight. You have to have a fight, you have to have challenges, you have to have debates, you have to have discussion, heated discussion, those are good because this is where you find balance, this is where you find out what the person really thinks and you navigate, you learn to navigate their emotions, you learn to navigate your emotions and hopefully come to a lasting peace and so yeah that's, I mean there's probably more tools and there's books that can help you with that but because of time I'm just gonna give you a few practical tips how you can have a fair fight. Yeah, that's really good. And I think it's also just good to remind each other, like hey, you're saying always and he does such a good job because just when you get passionate in a conversation you'll say you're always doing that so you're never having those ultimatum words and he'll remind me, he said hey, you're saying the word always, he's really good at doing that or me vice versa saying hey, you're saying you, like you're making it personal and so reminding that person as you are being argumentative that you're saying hey, we're not playing, we're not fighting fair right now, like let's take a step back and just be like okay, you're right, you don't always do that and then move on and so it's just good to remind each other even if you are in the middle of an argument to remind yourself like whoa, whoa, whoa, let's have a clean fight versus breaking each other down, we are trying to build each other up, arguments are absolutely healthy, they have to be there in order to kind of not necessarily create friction, but to resolve friction and that's the way to solve problems is sometimes you have to have a little bit of friction before you get to a resolution. 100% And on that somebody said you and always, these two words only belong to God, not to humans. Come on, yeah. These are absolute words, these are ultimatum words when you say oh, you always do that, that means that every single time without deviation they do these things and if they once have deviated from that behavior then you can't use the word always. So those words are very powerful words and really those words are only belong to God because only God is perfect and he can always do that or he can never do a certain thing and so just those words are not necessarily necessary in our vocabulary in the context of marriage. Come on, and because of time I'm just going to merge two points of mine into one because in all retrospect it's kind of like a sub point anyways, so but I find these to be crucial because really it is what really makes your marriage at the end of the day outside of your relationship with the Lord because when you have a relationship with the Lord your character grows, amen. And so my other big point was growing in character grows the relationship and it really is at the end of the day how that when you are in a relationship with the Lord and you're with Holy Spirit and you're under submission of the Holy Spirit he can take your personality and he can mold it into how he wants it to be through every book that I have read when it talks about the Holy Spirit he always says in every man of God and woman of God book that I've read is that he takes your personality and he will mold it to what he truly wants it to become the becoming of you the things that were put on you as a child the trauma, the abuse, the verbal abuse the things that were said to you in childhood the bullying, you start to develop this personality that you truly weren't supposed to be you were supposed to be a shining light but what really happened life dimmed it but in the hands of Holy Spirit you can have a beautiful personality and so I wanna just encourage and just minister to those people that are listening that even if you are five or seven years in or maybe you're not even married yet and you're like, man I hate my personality and I don't know why you may be saying that maybe because you feel like you're not confident you're insecure, you see all of the bad versus the good inside of you I just want you to know is you can submit your personality to the Holy Spirit and every time you are with the Lord as it says in Galatians 522 is that the fruits of the Spirit will come upon you you know where you are faithful, long suffering kind, joy, peace, you know compassion all those things, those are those things that merge from your character that you can be kind in unkind situations that takes character that you can believe and you can have faith in situations when it seems hopeless amen is that you're steadfast when things are really pressing on you but you choose better your attitude is in a great place when you have every right to be negative you have every right to doubt that you choose better that is a character that is defining you that the Lord is molding you in that is giving you the grace to choose the higher road, the narrow road the road that nobody wants to take the extra mile that nobody wants to walk in but you go the extra mile you go into the place of spirit of excellence because that is the character the Lord is evolving inside of you and that you get to use that and have that in your home amen and I can't help but say and this is something that I just like is one of the passionate things about me is that the devil will not dominate I will dominate in Jesus name as he said in Genesis chapter one and two that we are called to be the ones that will have dominion and we are supposed to be the ones that have authority so if there's darkness that you're fighting in your home that there's an opposition I want you to be reminded today you carry authority you carry the light of the Lord and that through that you get to dominate you get to have the say because Jesus had the final say he said it is finished and through the cross we have that life of abundance as he said in John chapter eight he said that I have given you the life of an abundance more than enough the overflow and that is even for your personality and your character I find that we are supposed to be men and woman of God children of God being the greatest example that we are supposed to be the head and not the tail we're supposed to be above and not beneath we are supposed to be blessed that whatever we touch shall prosper amen and through that that we will be people of integrity that we are trustworthy people that we are people of our word that we are people that are faithful and loyal even when we have temptations amen so this is just something that I'm passionate about but at the end of the day your character as your relationship will be just as strong or just as good as your character and your marriage will be just as bad as bad as your character is right because it is the outcome of bad decisions so is there anything you want to add to that I mean some of these items that we talked and points talked and all of them point back to character character is the foundation foundation of your and strong as your foundation that's as good as your house will be as big as it can be as big as you can build at that point and so like what my wife said is that submit your character come on your flaws personality your personality traits to the Lord oh I'm just a you know I'm just a sad person you know Holy Spirit can take that and he can make you a happy person he can help you to be happy or I'm just like I'm just like a snappy person or I just have this rude personality or this or this you know we can't make excuses for our personality we what we need to do is we need to submit our personality to the Lord come on and then the Lord will help and shape our character our personality and help us to be better and help us fix our foundation and help us to live according to the principles of God and enjoy long lasting marriage long lasting loving relationship fulfilled relationship and Bible does say two are better than one two are better than one you know that that together you can accomplish so much more spiritually Amen physically come on financially yes in every aspect of your life they can be your best friend your confidant they can be your partner in life in business in ministry in at home raising children it really is the promise of God for you and then don't give up if your marriage is shaky if your marriage is kind of you know struggling listen the Lord loves you Amen the Lord wants to help you don't discount that area in your life don't kind of just throw it to the side well just because it's five years it's been bad all it is what it is I'm staying with my husband because of my children so I mean I don't have any hope for it now listen there is hope yes when you have Jesus there is hope we're serving a miracle working God we're serving a God we're serving God that restores broken hearts restores broken marriages we see that in our ministry we hear the testimonies through our ministry and listen good marriage love and marriage is your portion too Amen and if you believe that let me see some shouts in the chat drop one drop some praise emoji drop some heart emoji if you believe that good marriage healthy marriage is your portion for you in Jesus name so right now what we're gonna do is we're gonna do this because of time we're gonna do this rapid fire Q&A we're not gonna spend much time I think we covered a lot we're just gonna do this little quick rapid fire we're gonna go through some of the things that already been submitted to social media and then while we do that while we do that you drop some questions in the chat and we're gonna try to let's see we're gonna try to answer it if you just joined and you're watching this broadcast make sure to hit that like button we're at 193 likes on YouTube so can we get to 200 let's say let's go to 220 let's get 220 right now let's hit that thumbs up let's get 220 likes on it as well as on Facebook if you're watching let's hit that like button let's hit that share button let's share it with somebody I believe that there's many couples out there that could be blessed by this broadcast and then the press that would be praying I believe that that prayer we're gonna make a significant impact on people's lives and marriages will be restored hearts will be restored so if you could pull up some of those things that you had we're just gonna go quickly I do want you do want and maybe not every single one of them but whatever we can answer so we're just gonna go quickly yes, yes all right, let's do let's do this one how to deal with alcohol drinking in marriage if your husband is prone let's just say husband or wife is prone to habit of drinking almost daily what can wife do not to escalate but to help the situation and get him to stop you gotta pray you gotta pray we're reading him telling him that to stop I think he realizes probably himself that he needs to stop and I or him he she or whoever the spouse in your that has the issue whether it's a whether it's pornography whether it's alcohol whether it's any sort of addiction gambling addiction oftentimes they realize they know they wanna stop oftentimes they even want to stop themselves but they just don't have power in themselves oftentimes behind that is a demonic force or generational curse and without going too deep into it you got to pray for your spouse pray fast for your spouse address the spiritual issue address the spiritual root and make sure that whoever if you are the one that's seeing your spouse in alcohol and if it's getting abuse if it's getting worse make sure you have someone that you're talking to on counselor that can help you draw the boundaries because at the same time like if it's getting worse this is where you need another mediator involved to help you because sometimes you get so emerged into the situation that you'll do anything and everything but sometimes you being there and accepting the abuse and it gets getting darker and darker I'm talking about them draw their crossing the line I'm talking about verbal physical abuse this is where you need a third party to get involved to help you process the right decision making where you may need to kind of cause a separation for a little while so they can understand where they're at if you don't all that you could so that that's just another piece to that that you make sure that you're getting counseling as well definitely if it's getting physical especially when it's getting physical you know that that to to get to get outside help at that point next question how to be how to be positive when your spouse is alcoholic get a lazy husband I don't know what do you say but by but by on a serious note good hard working husband is a good thing maybe help to bring a little balance but you know it's it's it's not it's not a bad thing when they're working hard and providing for the family because that's what God called them to do and so try to understand number one and try to help bring balance to them let me speak on this because I I have had this in my life and I think that it's like he said it's extremely great quality because you see a lot more laziness than anything these days where they have no motivation so I find that like that's more of a difficult situation versus someone that's a workaholic there's a lot of reasons as to why that person may be working like there's an addiction to that it could be something that they're trying to pursue or fill a void right or they're trying to avoid something whatever it may be pray for your husband pray for your spouse is a workaholic that they will get that fulfillment from the Lord and also I think that there's also practicality I know there's some spiritual aspects but there's practicality so something that I did in our relationship is I drew a line as our growing family we have three girls now and where I committed Saturdays and I was really ruthless with this I did not allow anyone unless it was a wedding and sometimes give or take a baby shower, bridal shower, things like that but outside of that it was less of texting it was less involvement on social media I still am on but it's very limited and a majority of it is my full on focus with the family now I did this for about two and a half years with him, their give or take doing things you had to be involved in ministry being a business owner, being an entrepreneur sometimes you have to sacrifice Saturdays or weekends to keep the business going so the other spouse needs to understand that sometimes you have to sacrifice so that they can be the provider that they can bring that financial aspect to the home so there has to be that practicality and understanding but I do wanna say that I drew that there's always an atonement of being broke yes, yes, so there's that part too so but at the same time I think that in the heart of the ones that are concerned of having family time is you create it, you know woman create from a house to a home and what you can do is create an opportunity for them to see and say you know I'm missing out on this, like I want to see you know the fact that like I wanna be part of the family or I wanna be part of these Saturdays and you know we've been doing the Saturdays committed to family only or friends and stuff like that for about three years and so now we you know have a great time we spend time with family on the weekends and it feels more like it's I would say more well balanced so there's a spiritual side to it where you can pray that he you know kinda gets himself where he can fill that void and then to practicality create a schedule where you can have a fulfillment where there's some family time yeah I think most people don't struggle with that that's the other thing that they're struggling with all right so what we're gonna which is gonna go quick okay why do you do when you're not where you're going through a period where you don't feel like loving okay love is not a feeling it's a choice you keep loving feelings will come back let's go next what role should family friend except family community have in your marriage Bible says leave your father and mother and become one flesh friends are good family is good by your one single unit and you make the decisions and the yeah I mean I think that the more people that are involved and have a say to your marriage the more drama you're going to have so it has to be something where you kinda keep it secluded and it's between you and your spouse friends should be friends there shouldn't be your counselors your mentors or something that should be they should be involved into your marriage so the more people that are involved the more family that's involved the more they have to say the more drama you're gonna be so it's up to you how much drama you want Chris on YouTube saying how do you make a partner see that they are doing what they're doing is hurtful to you when they refuse to see what they're doing is wrong you have a you know you presented in the right kind of way without manipulating without stabbing like we were talking about and they still refuse then you are you know you gotta pray and ask the Lord the Lord will reveal that to them and the Lord will work on their heart and I think that's a main thing again again we're not talking about abuse if it's abuse it has to be addressed differently by bringing a third party for mediation and then maybe even separation if things don't get things don't get better let's see what else we've got any questions so Gladys question on Facebook what are some things a wife can do to encourage a Christian husband into deliverance from things that are harming him the marriage and children really honestly it's it's prayer Amen it's prayer I mean and it really is prayer and being reminded that it's not personal that you're not fighting him you're fighting what's behind him generational curses things that are holding him and gripping him so to get very specific in your prayers also we have to be prayer warriors and a lot of the things is also understanding the insight of prayer you gotta pray specifically not just like oh Lord help him no tear the veil off of his eyes let him see let him receive that deliverance speak to him encounter him in his dreams you know so on and so forth I mean go down to the details listen to testimonies of those ones that have received deliverance from the ones that have a spouse that needed deliverance that you do whatever it takes but that you don't take it personal that you realize that you're fighting the principalities darkness that is operating behind the scenes I think that really helps for you to kind of persevere through the struggle and being reminded that you're not fighting him you're fighting something that's operating behind the scenes next question from YouTube is how do you avoid verbal abuse conversation with your spouse when both are angry? Take a pause, cool down let your emotions settle down and then resume the conversation resolve the issue okay next one we got from social media how should the couple handle conflicts with parenting style that's actually something we also had to do and address her parenting style or how she grew up and saw parenting style versus the kind of parenting style that I grew up with was very much different and this is where doesn't mean hers is right or Ron mine is right is wrong we actually begin to learn what begin to learn what is the biblical way of raising children and we agree that Bible will be our standard and we go from there now there are preferences there are preferences and this is where you negotiate this is where you negotiate some things I'll be like oh I want children to do that but maybe I'm not home for most of the day because I'm at work I'm doing this and that I'm a business admin she's the one that's with the kids all day long and she's like hey I'm fine if they do that or I want them to do it this way I don't want them to do this way she's at home she's taking care of them she gets to dictate the rules so that's my approach and that's gonna how we gonna settle on certain things but Bible is the ultimate standard we learn what the Bible says how to raise kids not how I was raised or how she was raised and this is just gonna be really quick because we both came from different backgrounds and that happens to a majority of people that you come from a different family background so what we do is be teachable be having a teachable spirit where I was reading books we wanted to learn the biblical way and we have so many resources YouTube, children, psychologists, you know like they all are out there and they are on a Christian aspect books and I was reading and I would read to him and I would say hey honey let's this is something that I want to apply to our children this is how I want to apply to our parenting we were open to be teachable we were an open book and we were just learning so we're learning as we're going but we weren't stubborn and saying no this is how it was done and this is how I'm going to do it we completely erased it all and we said you know what we want to learn so we became teachable by learning from others and resources and that's how we started to build off from that and learning from others we're talking about Christian based counselors, writers, authors, preachers what the Bible says about how to raise children do I spank children sound like absolutely no physical spanking well what does the Bible say about that you know do different things different sorts and so we decided you know we're going to we're going to learn how to do it the biblical way and then the rest will fill in with the preferences cultural preferences you know and our own personal preferences somebody's asking us do you have a dream vacation you'd still like to go together yes there's many places but one particular one that we've been really wanted to go this year I don't know if it's going to happen or not but we really wanted to go to Switzerland it's a beautiful country and we really would love to go we really would love to go there with my wife and have a good time it looks beautiful and winter or spring or summer winter, spring or summer any season so if the Lord puts on your heart to buy us a vacation package in Switzerland may the Lord bless you we will receive it with gladness in our spirit and our bodies and our minds and so we will be forever thankful but or jerking aside that's the one I already have it what goals have you achieved what goals have you achieved these couples oh gosh I mean our goals are constantly moving you know we've set goals we achieve them move on in different season different goals there was a season where we tried to do things together in the ministry you know we wanted to be together in tandem and then things change and shift both of us were different places different times she was pursuing a career I was doing business then I was more involved in the ministry then I was involved last and she was involved more she was involved less and so all these goals and things have evolved and changed but at the end of the day we do have big goals that we are constantly kind of striving for is to serve God together to serve God with our family and to establish our life, our marriage our financial situation and at the end of the day to be used by God and always be in the center of God's will this is kind of the main thing that drives all other smaller goals underneath sometimes you know hey we want to start this business hey we want to get there financially we want to buy this one hey these are all small minor goals and we some achieve some not but the main goals is that we want to serve God together as a family unit as a couple and we want to always be in the center of God's will whatever it looks like wherever it looks like and how ever it looks like that's the main goal and we constantly strive to hit that yeah we just want to raise up our children to be part of the ministry that they become part of that world that it's not like they are our world our children but they are part of it that they will be raised up to prophesy that they will be able to see that they carry authority in Christ at a young age and really just carrying that legacy of ministry in the sense of really building the kingdom of God here wherever we go and so yeah that's our ultimate goal and everything else is just extra somebody's asking have you dealt with conflicts in your relationship so too many to count we wouldn't be where we're at right now without them without them healthy conflicts healthy frictions or good frictions dealt in the right way bring you closer and these experiences how is your relationship strengthened by these experiences that's how it is when you go through things together you work them out you grow closer to each other you grow closer and trust with each other you grow closer with intimacy of each other and so if you use a problem you can use a problem to your advantage to make you closer or to your disadvantage to drive you apart and the way to do that is not being selfish but selfless because the way to separate or to be torn apart is when you're only thinking about yourself because then you can't be really truthful you can't be the one serving you can't be the one saying hey how are you feeling on that side of the things and so you have to kind of yield and that's the only way to do that yeah somebody's asking what has been the most challenging time during your marriage well for us it was kind of 2-3 years into marriage a lot of things happened I believe most of them were spiritual but there was a lot of things that we were going through on personal level there was a lot of emotional things that we were going through we needed both of us needed deliverance this was leading to our deliverance as well all of my businesses that I was working on I was doing really well and it was fairly successful pretty much crashed down to the ground we were reduced to nothing we were kind of forced to move while already being married to you forced to move back to our parents because we couldn't afford anything I mean it was a very dark and very very deep season for us I mean I was totally depressed I didn't want to do anything and that was affecting our marriage, our connection between each other and I led to a whole bunch of other things they came and so yeah it was a very dark and challenging I'd say 2-3 years of our life and if it wasn't before our pastors and mentors few leaders that came around us we would not be here together that's why we strongly believe in the community and the Godly community mentors and pastors being transparent with them bringing them into your situation getting those people to pray for you to mediate for you when we were going through a deep season in our life it was really like I was at the point where I came to my dad who was helping me who also happens to be a pastor of Hungu Jain and he said listen I'll do whatever you want me to do and he'll really be like okay on Thursday you take her out to date I'm like okay I'll do that on Friday you buy her flowers I'm like okay I'll do that I don't feel it, I don't want it I did it for myself and to do as he was telling me to do and then feelings came back it took a while but I'm a stubborn man and had a bunch of demons that I had to get rid of and get delivered that scone for prophet to be just a church and on her end it was similar different issues same thing she had mentors in her life that were helping her process helping her talk through it alongside through that process. So very difficult times but we made it by God's grace and today we're helping others, countless couples. And I think that like when we went through such dark opposition it exposed the darkness that it wasn't just us that couldn't have a relationship. That was when we... Curses behind it. Right, that's when we realized we gave our life to church I mean to the Lord and we're serving in the church we dedicated our full free time to it and so sometimes you get shocked that bad things are happening inside your life when you're like I gave my life to the Lord and all this is happening but really what was happening is that the enemy was exposed the generational curses were exposed and so we said you know what we're not going to live like this and so we went to Scotland to be Joshua that church and we received freedom and that generational curse got broken over our lives and we were able to build a family with a generational blessing in Jesus' name and man. Yeah well you got to answer this one. What's your favorite memory with your husband so far? Really? I can't think of that so fast right now. Being married to you every day. Oh okay, hilarious but yeah I take it. What's the best marriage advice that works for you? We already shared it. Advice on opposite... view advice on opposite sex friendships. You can't be best friends with opposite sex it will never lead to anything good especially when you're in a relationship and married. When you're in a relationship married you are you don't have opposite sex as close friends you have no acquaintances otherwise it's not going to lead to anything healthy anything good and it doesn't have to be physical it can be emotional emotional affair is also an affair as much as it's as much as it's physical so opposite sex friends is a dangerous thing stay away from that so yeah wouldn't you say that babe? Yeah I think that you know they don't say it's a sin but it's definitely not wise but when it's not wise it leads to sin yeah and the enemy never comes with two horns and a and a tail saying here I am he always comes innocently right that's how you bite the bait where your husband or wife is not coming through so you text a friend and that's that's where it goes so when you are married that means that there's a huge boundary in line with the opposite gender on both fronts and that's only because you don't want vulnerability and you just don't want to give enemy any access to causing any type of division 100% current book you're reading as a couple we don't like to read books as a couple she reads books to me and I read books I read books myself and she reads books herself you know there's something about I think I saw a I do want to answer that one though and we can come back to this somebody asked about you know do do devotionals together no we don't we like our own spaces I talked to the Lord she talks to the Lord she has stuff that she wants to talk to the Lord you know so you know I'm I'm not in that I'm not involved in between that and same thing I don't know it's just we do pray together at night yeah we do pray together at night now that we have children we pray together with our children we put God in the middle of a relationship I know people that they have and develop a very good devotional devotional time with their with their spouse I mean I don't know how deep there is and I don't even know if it has to be deep at that point we there was few there was few times we tried well and I think we like we also I mean we read together those like in the same vicinity right we're in the same location listen to podcast we listen to podcast when we're driving things like that and we talk about it or if I if I have a scripture where I'm like hey what's your thoughts on this or if there's a theory or something that's kind of debatable that I saw on social media that's about you know spirituality we love debating we love talking we love conversing on all of those serious aspects so we do communicate those things but only do devotions we're very individual about it where I have my my time it's very sacred it's very special to me it's very between me and the Lord and but we do pray together I pray for him he prays for me just the other day I prayed for him and I was and I had a word of prophecy for him and I feel free and able to do that for my husband it was it's not awkward it's not like oh can I pray for you no I'm like hey I want to pray for you I have this prophetic word that I just want to pray over you and he allows me and vice versa so it looks different for other couples some people just love it they love doing bible study together we just do a different in that and that I think that's completely okay I think there's a blue screen okay yeah well her phone died and that's where we had social media questions so I think that I did see some questions when I was going through and I'm gonna quickly brush through it and we have to start ministering already it's time again it's a very big subject and it's we were thinking maybe even to split in two parts but next couple weeks it's going to be different different type of broadcast and next week going to be praying specifically for healing so if you have any issues with your body if you have any issues with or you know somebody who needs healing from the Lord next week is going to be very powerful we're going to be praying for healing and God's going to be touching but I did see a couple questions that I do want to address when it comes to you know can you have can you can you date a non-christian and then get married to them because they said are there I've seen couple examples where they want them over for Christ in that manner I have I have friends and couples that that well at one I'm not going to say couples just one particular that it was a successful dating to convert type of a thing and now they're married go to church and serve in a church and so but I know being in the ministry of 15 years I know countless devastated stories that it did not end up well for them ended up in divorce and did up an heartbreak ended up in a difficulty in life that took them years and years to recover so I see it as an exception I don't see it as a I see it as an exception I don't see it as a rule Bible actually is quite clear about that is for us for Christians not to be equally yoked and so just to address that now what if you are married and you have an un-christian spouse already you know there's nothing you can do about it at this point Bible honors marriage and we should stay married and we should pray for our spouse and be a good spouse at home be a light at home be a Christian at home that through that they can see the light of God through that they can get curious about God and God can use us to bring salvation to our spouse and we pray for them we pray for them we intercede for their souls and and we love on them and we're being a good example a good Christian a light and at home so we do not belittle them we do not pressure them we do not manipulate them to to for into a conversion that does not work we don't make ultimatums if you don't go to church with me I'm taking the kids and I've heard this I'm taking the kids and I'm out of here I'm done and so listen it's the best thing you can do is be a light be obedient be loving and pray pray pray prayer moves mountains by faith all right I think that we we have to start wrapping up and we want we do want to pray we do want to pray for you we do want to pray for marriages we we've been reading the comments somebody said why does it mean to intercede for them it means praying for their salvation it's an intense prayer for their salvation standing in the standing in the gap standing on their behalf before the Lord pleading for them and so right now what we're gonna be doing since we were talking about marriages since we've been talking about relationships we're gonna specifically pray pray for that we're gonna pray against spiritual things but first I sense the spirit of God right now he wants us to pray for the healing of the broken hearted for the healing of the broken hearted that God would there's a lot of people I'm looking here and by the spirit of God I see that there's a lot of people that have been hurt by previous relationship or hurt by a current relationship and if that if the heart is not healed and bleeding it will be very difficult for you to love your husband your wife it'll be very difficult for you to be to to genuinely intercede for them it'll be very difficult for you to be alighted them and love them unconditionally if the heart is bleeding and right now I just want to pray over you and I want to ask for God's healing touch over your heart over your emotions right now in this prayer as we're going to be praying I want to ask you to forgive those that hurt you maybe it's your ex maybe it's your current husband or wife maybe they've cheated on you maybe they've been verbally abusive maybe they have been emotionally absent maybe they you know said something done something to you they maybe their addiction they hurt you whatever it is right now as we're gonna be praying for healing if you truly want to receive healing you must relieve release forgiveness and I'll ask you that you would name them by name in this prayer as we're gonna be praying and say Lord I release forgiveness to so-and-so I forgive them for hurting me I forgive them for saying these words over my life I forgive them for saying this and this for doing this and this Lord I forgive them I let them go and just from the depths of your heart from the bottom of your heart forgive them because that's when you truly can be free and you can truly be healed and as you as you release the forgiveness we're gonna be praying for healing and then we're gonna go into deliverance we're gonna come against generational curses we're gonna come against the demonic strongholds in your mind in that area we're gonna come against spiritual spouses that are tormenting your life not allowing you to get married or if you are married they torment in your marriage they're removing intimacy we're gonna come against those things and because you forgave and because you received healing those demons will have to go those curses that will have to be broken over your life so we're gonna do that in this manner in this sequential order because it's very important that we follow this process because it will guarantee freedom in your life and breakthrough in your life are you ready to pray if you're ready to pray drop one in the chat right now if you're ready to receive this prayer if you're ready to participate in this prayer drop one in the chat those of you on zoom get ready to receive prayer as me and my wife i'm gonna connect to your faith and we're gonna stand in the gap with you we're gonna stand in the gap for you right now during this prayer come on somebody yes lord yes lord yes lord hallelujah right now i'm i'm as i'm beginning to pray you begin to forgive all right you begin to forgive prayer forgiveness father i pray for every person that is watching right now i pray for every person that is watching right now for those that are wounded god for those that those that are already weary god and tired that hard god from abuse from constantly maybe carry the load of the relationship the load of the past abuses lies and cheating and and and and and failed promises constant setbacks in the area of relationship father i pray for all of those that are watching right now in the mighty name of jesus christ lord right now as they're releasing forgiveness right now as they're releasing god every grudge as they're releasing every unforgiveness that they're holding in their heart to that particular person to their spouse or to their ex or to their whoever it might be right now lord i i lord i pray that you will set them free right now from that prison of unforgiveness that prison that would that was whole that they they locked themselves in themselves with their with that with that grudge and our forgiveness in a mighty name of jesus right now just begin to say begin to name said lord i release so and so i forgive them as you have forgiven me lord i don't hold against them that thing and you can name it specifically on multiple things that they have done for me or done to me lord i release it into your hands lord you are my vindicator you are my judge you are my protector you are the one that's going to look after me lord i am not going to seek vengeance i'm not going to seek justice lord i release them right now in the mighty name of jesus christ come on just for a few more seconds let the spirit of god do deep work in you let the spirit of god do deep work of repentance and releasing forgiveness releasing forgiveness if you begin to cry if you're gonna be you know begin to be getting emotional it's all right let that run through you sometimes that's the way you get delivered or even if you begin to just scream and yell out of control because all these emotions are being released the demonic spirits that are attached these emotions are being released let it happen this is a moment of your healing this is a moment of your deliverance and without releasing forgiveness you can't be truly free or heal just few moments from now we're gonna begin to pray emotional healing we're gonna begin to release emotional healing is my wife gonna pray and prophesy over you you will be you will be receiving that healing in your soul in your heart but right now your moment is to take a step of faith and to release that forgiveness and the trust god that god's gonna do what he needs to do that god he is a god of vengeance and you don't have to wait for it that he is a god of justice and you don't have to bring justice yourself he will do what he needs to do but you have to release it right now in jesus name thank you lord thank you and father i give i pray those that are struggling to release forgiveness because of how much pain they went through give them the strength right now by your spirit give them that faith the gift of faith for this moment to release the forgiveness in jesus name strengthen them god strengthen their heart that the determination there their spirit to release to deeply to truly to genuinely release forgiveness in any grudge any bitterness that they're holding in jesus name thank you lord thank you lord thank you lord i believe that you're ready right now to receive healing to receive healing i i sense even deep in my spirit right now that as we're gonna be praying for emotional healing some of you will receive physical healing arthritis will go yes joint pain will go yes some of the chronic sicknesses will go skin issues and diseases will go right now as you're gonna be released from that unforgiveness and that bitterness you're holding right now my wife's gonna lead you into a prayer she's gonna pray over you and prophesy over you and declare over you a prayer of healing of emotional healing and physical healing and that we're gonna go to war against your curses and demons that are attached to you in jesus name praying yes lord we thank you we thank you father for this very special moment i just want each and every one of you that can hear me that is in your room just invite holy spirit into the room invite him to your soul and allow him just to work on you on a deeper level i thank you lord that you are showing them those moments those root issues that are causing them to remain in that trauma to remain in that whirlwind that they're constantly in that same cycle where they can't hold a relationship where there's that self sabotage where it's a broken relationships that it's always ends up worse than it started lord i pray father that you're giving them wisdom on be able to have a wholesome relationships in the mighty name of jesus i i just sense neglect and abandonment some of you have people that have walked away from you and it just decreased your self-worth your value you're saying that i'm not good enough i'm not enough to have a great relationship or to have a loyal relationship we break that lie that's all over your mind in the mighty name of jesus that moment that we uproot that moment that seed was planted when your father walked out on you when your mother walked out on you in the mighty name of jesus healing in the soul that started in the family line in the name of jesus lord i pray that you release your anointing that lord they will sense your presence at this very moment and being reminded as you said in first peter i have not forgotten about you that you feel like you are unseen you feel like you can't that you're forgotten about that that god doesn't care about your relationships he doesn't care about your marriage you're barely holding on you've been married for so long lord in the name of jesus reminded at this very moment that you see them he said in his word at first peter i have not forgotten about you he said in his word i will never leave you nor forsake you may it have been your father may it have been your husband or wife or mother but he says i will never leave you nor forsake you in the mighty name of jesus may you be reminded at this very moment that he is with you as we speak right at this very moment in the room in jesus name let the healing begin lord i thank you the healing of the soul in the name of jesus we break generational curses in the mighty name of jesus right now of divorce of divorce specifically of divorce there are some of you that cannot commit to relationship you walk out before they can because of the fear of the same cycle jesus we break that lie off of her in the name of jesus cindy you deserve a good relationship in the name of jesus lord we just release a new level in her life father i thank you i thank you god that you're gonna bless her lord a new level of healing in the soul healing in the relationships wholesome in the relationships i want you just to speak over yourself right now say i declare and i decree an overflow an abundance in my relationship in the name of jesus thank you lord thank you lord that you see all things in jesus mighty name in the mighty name of jesus i decree and i declare healing to the soul right now in jesus name father by your spirit right now locate them in their bedroom in their living room in their car whatever they're watching from right now in jesus name i release your fire i release your healing touch into their soul right now in jesus name every feeling of abandonment every feeling of rejection every every slow self-esteem because because of the rejection and abandonment right now i speak health and healing in jesus name every healing of emotional and physical trauma every word that was spoken over you that you're not good enough you never get married if you're not with me right now i break that by the spirit of god in the mighty name of jesus christ over your life in the name of jesus thank you in jesus name every covenant of the devil every promise that was made right now every spiritual spouse right now i break that right now in jesus name i break that over your life in the mighty name of jesus every curse that was spoken over your life over your marriage over your relationship you will never get married you will never amount to anything you will never have a successful marriage you will never have intimacy in your marriage you will your marriage will never be as good as how we had it right now i break those words over your life i break that influence over your life in jesus name receive your freedom receive your deliverance in the mighty name of jesus holy ghost fire holy ghost fire holy ghost fire holy ghost fire all over your body holy ghost fire all over your mind and your soul right now in jesus name i consume every darkness by the fire of god every demon hiding in your destiny every demon hiding in your life every demon hiding in your marriage in your relationship every demon sabotaging your marriage your relationships right now i command you lucia grip over gods people leave once and for all never come back right now right now right now out in jesus name every demonic curse of marriage and remarriage every demonic curse of setback in the marriages every demonic curse of lack of intimacy and cohesion and harmony in marriage right now i break that in the mighty name of jesus christ in jesus name fire of the holy ghost all over you right now fire of the holy ghost all over you right now this is your moment to receive in jesus name there is an anointing of god that's flowing through this broadcast there's a power of god that is able to break your yoke and your curse today is your day of freedom today is your day of deliverance mark this day in your calendar because this is the day when your life will turn around this is the day when your marriage will turn around this is the day when you will be able to have a successful marriage successful relationship that you couldn't have before in jesus name i decree that over you i declared over you by the authority of jesus christ given to me right now hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah i speak against a divorce that's threatened in your marriage those of you that facing divorce in your marriage threat of divorce right now put your put your right hand on yourself right now put it on yourself right now in jesus name that threat of divorce right now that plan of the enemy to bring divorce and separation in your marriage i break that scheme i break you right now in jesus name you demon behind a divorce right now i command you lucy grip come out leave their marriage leave their life in jesus name fire the holy ghost fire the holy ghost be free right now be free right now be free right now be free right now be free right now in the mighty name of jesus christ i pray for those marriages that are broken that are broken no intimacy no harmony right now i pray for restoration in jesus name supernatural restoration i pray for feelings to come back there are people that are watching you have no feelings for your spouse and you tried every trick in the book you tried to love them you tried to feel that love you you tried to have those feelings but you just don't have feelings for them right now every spirit behind lack of feelings and emotion in your marriage right now i command go out leave them right now i command feelings to come back i command feelings to come back i come back feelings and emotions to come back to rise back every demon that suppress those feelings right now in jesus name be removed every blockage in their feelings be removed in jesus name complete restoration harmony peace joy unity cohesiveness respect for each other intimacy there's there's people that are watching right now and i sensed it by the spirit of god there's people that are watching that you live as a husband and wife but you're not intimate you have no intimacy you just dry in that area there's no devil stole intimacy intimacy is good in marriage it's like a glue it brings you even more closer together but but demons they robbed you of it they suppressed it they took it away and it's not god's pun for you it is god's pun for you to be intimate with your wife with your spouse with your husband and to enjoy intimacy and to have great marriage right now i pray for intimacy in your marriage in jesus name i have a sense right now to pray for husbands those that have issues in in in the area of intimacy and i'm specifically want to pray for uh what's the thing called uh when you can't have erection i want to pray for testosterone levels and and inability to have an erection you just you know there's a physical problem with your body chemical physical problem oftentimes behind those things i don't deny that there are physical sometimes physical factors but oftentimes behind those things are demons and right now i want to pray against that and i'm gonna pray for healing as well and complete restoration in jesus name i come against every demonic spirit especially with men that have no ability to have erection no ability no ability to have desire for intimacy or lack of that desire right now in jesus name erectile dysfunction pastor rickard thank you i appreciate that every erectile dysfunction right now whether it's spiritual whether it's physical right now i speak healing into that area i speak deliverance in jesus mighty name fire of all the ghosts fire of all the ghosts fire of all the ghosts receive freedom in that area right now in jesus name in the mighty name of jesus christ thank you lord thank you lord right now i'm gonna come against and pray against every spiritual spouse every spiritual spouse every spiritual spouse in jesus name every spiritual spouse having sex in the dreams having wet dreams having family in the dreams uh i'm talking about uh after those dreams that you you're agitated with your spouse i'm talking about after those dreams you have no desire no no one to have intimacy with your spouse i'm talking about attacks in the dreams that affect your intimacy and affect your marital life or lack of marital life a lack of desire even to have a marital life or having a healthy godly relationship oftentimes behind that is a spiritual spouse and right now i come against every spiritual spouse i come against every demon tormenting you at night in the dreams i come against every sexual dreams every wet dreams i come against every sleep paralysis every traumatizing sexual dreams rape in the dreams sleep paralysis in jesus name i break the demonic influence over your life i break that spiritual spouse i break that curse over your life in jesus name fire the holy ghost fire the holy ghost be free right now in jesus name be free right now in the mighty name of jesus christ i rebuke your spirit i rebuke your spiritual spouse in jesus name receive your freedom receive your freedom receive your freedom receive your freedom receive your freedom right now in the mighty name of jesus hallelujah hallelujah i see that the lord is moving the people that i can see on zoom but those of you on facebook and youtube and even those on zoom if you experience in something during this prayer you felt like you received freedom or maybe you experienced something physically over your body some sort of a sensation you know and any of you feeling hot your fall electricity go to your body maybe you're yawning screaming crying excessively you know having a manifestation being delivered you feel something lifted from you if maybe you didn't have a manifestation but you sense like something has just lifted from you right now begin to testify for the glory of god begin to let us know that the lord has touched you and that you are that you received you had some sort of experience experience with the lord you receive touch from the lord you receive freedom from the lord so right now let's begin to confess and begin to testify to the glory of the lord of what he is doing in jesus name i believe these prayers when we pray these prayers we're not just praying them because we need to take up time we're not praying them we're not like a possible pulse as we're not beating the air we are addressing specific entities that are behind your sabotage of your marriage or lack of it in jesus name thank you lord thank you lord i thank you for your freedom i thank you for touching people i thank you for setting people free i believe and i know deep down in my spirit after this broadcast after this uh stream that that there will be marriages that will be restored that we will hear these testimonies like we heard this lady who was who joined us actually on accidentally for many years for 20 some years had no emotions no feelings toward her husband constantly had that resentment toward her husband no intimacy in her husband and during that prayer she just she received freedom of deliverance she said like that the sky became bluer the clouds became fluffier she's like when i looked at my husband i had this overwhelming sensation of love and emotion and this feeling for him and for the first time in in decades they had an intimate relationship finally and then just things got restored and and even though her husband doesn't believe or understand deliverance but trust me he he understood the change in her life okay he didn't need to know that there was demons behind it he knew that the wife was one way now she's completely different i believe that after this prayer we are going to hear similar testimonies we're gonna see people get into the relationships getting married because that that that blockage has been broken we're gonna hear testimonies of people their intimacy getting restored physically they uh their their body is functioning different desire for intimacy will come back the friction and marriage is gone and restored and so uh come on somebody i i believe that people even physically during this prayers got healed in jesus name do we have any particular testimonies on zoom i see some things are coming through facebook and youtube hallelujah hallelujah people are experiencing yeah yeah people are people are experiencing the lord people are experiencing freedom people are yawning people are being delivered i believe that the lord is setting people free i just i'm deeply convinced that your marriage will make it turn around after this prayer that things will shift in your marital life those those those torment and sexual dreams and being violated in your dreams will stop from today you will not experience those anymore those of you that tuned in in the beginning when we were listening to this testimony of a prophecy that i gave to what's her name su su her name suki suki i forgot what was her name but she testified through the prophecy was revealed that she's experiencing these sexual dreams and they stopped and she has not been experiencing them ever since that prayer so i believe same thing the lord is going to do uh the same thing the lord is going to do uh for you there's couple things that i want to pray there's two prayers that we're gonna pray just um one of the things that my wife really because of her voice i'm gonna pray it over but uh that's something that she really sensed to pray is for those people for those couples that want to have children but they're not able to have children we're gonna pray for that and second thing that i really felt uh deep right now as i was talking to pray for i know there are couples especially women here that their spouses their their husbands are not believers or they used to be believers they walked away from the lord or they're very very cold spiritually i want to pray for those people i want to stand with you together for your spouse if you need these two prayers if you need those two prayers drop something in the chat let us know that hey i in the need for bairiness or for my spouse to be saved just drop that whatever whatever we want to receive for for prayer if you have a need you're not able to you're not able to conceive and you really believe in god for uh for miracle right now just drop that in the chat or if you're believing god for your spouse to be saved for your spouse to be saved drop that in the chat and we're gonna shortly right now next minute or so we're gonna be praying we're gonna be praying listen if you've been blessed by this broadcast you've been blessed by the ministry of hong gujian what we're doing in all this weekly broadcast that we're doing i encourage you and i challenge you to become a partner and to become a sponsor of this broadcast and to come together with us and to do the spiritual work that god has called us to do uh with with your financial support and with your giving in your donation whether it's one time or whether it's monthly whether it's weekly where we will be able to do a lot more right now we're planning crusades to do in philippines in south africa next year and and and uh and then open up to more crusades around the world and within united states and of course all of these things they take they take finances it takes takes quite a bit of finances um and so with with you partnering yes maybe you can't be praying for deliverance for people yes maybe you can't go to philippines or south africa or other places but with your money you can be there with us and you can make a difference with your money you can be doing the work of god as we're doing it through this broadcast and to this through the streams because it does take finances does take resources does take people to uh run the systems run the equipment um you know constantly ministering and serving people and and and all that stuff it's not you know as much as we are able to have volunteers and help 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our heavenly account so you can give by going to hankvijen.com slash donate we have vinmo we have cash up we have paypal those handles are hankvijen on those platforms you can give in a super chat here on on youtube we're not begging you to give we're not forcing you to give we're not manipulating you to give we're asking you to come alongside with us and and bear this burden uh and let's live this life for jesus let's live this life not just worrying about our earthly uh treasures and storing our earthly treasures but let's live our life where we store in our our heavenly treasures where when we get to heaven we will meet so many people that say you know because of your support you don't know me but because of your support i was able to tune in online i was able to attend that conference i was able to travel to hankvijen i was able to go to this meeting i got prayed i got saved my marriage got restored i got delivered you know i got healed all the stuff and it's because of your support and your help so let me pray for those that are giving and then we're gonna pray for uh the people that have spouses they're believing for salvation and the people that are believing for fruit of the womb of getting a getting pregnant and having a child father i pray for those that are given right now in jesus name lord i pray lord that the windows of heaven will be open over their life i pray father that you meet them at the point of their need you know uh lord those that are giving uh out of abundance lord may you add more to them especially in the heavenly accounts lord those that are giving god out of their need and out of the lack i pray that you become a jihua jaira god more than enough i pray for those that are struggling to find a job or those that have been applying for promotions god the lord as they're sowing as they're giving lord that they will receive supernatural breakthrough and promotion in their life those that are believing for contracts or they're believing for blessing in their life financial breakthrough lord to go to another level lord i pray that they will release that right now over their life in jesus name bless them in the mighty name of jesus thank you lord okay right now we're gonna be praying first of all thank you guys for giving thank you for partnering thank you for coming alongside with us and right now we're going to pray for salvation of our spouse so if you have a spouse that you believe in for salvation let's unite our faith together and those of you that are watching and you don't have a spouse that is not saved you and your spouse are serving the lord could you unite with that right now with those that don't have that blessing in their life let's pray together for them stretch your hands toward the screen and let's believe for them and with them and those of you that want to receive the prayer also stretch your hands towards the screen and let's pray father in jesus mighty name i pray for every person that is watching right now i pray for every person that is watching right now that have a spouse that is not a believer or spouse that walked away from the lord for spouse that's struggling with addiction uh struggling with sin right now father i pray that you will locate them in jesus name i pray that you will locate them by their saving grace in the mighty name of jesus touch them right now touch them right now lord dispatch your angels to encounter them and their vision and dreams and various circumstances or or situations in their life god i pray that you will encounter them and that they will be saved in the mighty name of jesus i decree and i declare that they will find salvation god that they will find you god even this year before this year ends god that they will come to know you and they will come back to you and that they will serve together as a as a family unit as spouses god before they will serve together and they will love you in jesus name i speak salvation i speak salvation i speak salvation i speak deliverance into their spouse in jesus name father i unite with your faith well i unite with the faith of your people i unite with the faith of your people and i believe for breakthrough i believe for deliverance i believe for salvation of their soul in jesus name i come against every demonic spirit that's hindering them to to to to receive salvation every demonic spirit behind the addiction right now alcohol addiction especially weed addiction right now cigarette addiction gamble and addiction pornography addiction be broken over them in jesus name receive your freedom in jesus name thank you lord thank you lord thank you lord thank you jesus halloween i believe i'm gonna hear testimony i believe we're gonna hear testimony of your spouse being set free being healed in jesus name and one last prayer that we're gonna pray do you have any waste left or do you want me to pray i'm gonna pray right now for those people that want to receive those people that want to get pregnant they want to have children but they're not able to have it sometimes there's a physiological problem there's a there's a physical problem behind it oftentimes it's it's a demonic problem and so after you exhausted all your resources all your medical avenues and all is left is gone well god is all that you need come on and right now the god that you put your faith in the god that you trust he will be the god that will produce a miracle in your life and you will have a miracle child not just a regular child not just a just a child but it would be a child that would be marked by god will be a child that will be marked by gods anointing over their life and they will do special exploits for the kingdom of god in jesus name right now if you're watching with the spouse both of you put your hand on your stomach on on on uh on the wife's stomach if you know for example if you're maybe a husband and you know that you also have issues low sperm count or this or that whatever just then put your put your hand there on the on on on that area right now we're gonna pray for for healing and for for for deliverance for you in jesus name um if you're a woman put it on your womb if there's issues there maybe fibroids maybe uh you know an ability to get pregnant for one reason or the other maybe hormonal imbalance that don't allow you to get pregnant because of that whatever it is there is no limitation to the spirit of god and god that you've put your faith in like i said again will be the god will that will bring your miracle to pass in jesus name i am so ready to pray for you i have i'm just full of faith right now and let's connect to get a stretch your hand throw the screen with one hand and the other hand on your on yourself in jesus name i rebuke every spirit behind behind infertility i rebuke every curse behind infertility right now in jesus name i command you out of their life out of their womb whatever it is right now whatever spiritual attack spiritual blockage right now holy ghost fire all over you in jesus name receive your healing receive your deliverance receive your breakthrough in this area right now in jesus name i speak forth your pregnancy your conception right now in jesus name every time that you had miscarriage or things went wrong or things uh things got complicated during pregnancy right now i rebuke that right now over your life i rebuke that over your life in jesus name every demonic sabotage during your pregnancy every miscarriage right now i rebuke that over your life in jesus name receive your freedom receive your freedom receive your healing in jesus mighty name i speak healing to the organs to the reproductive organs every hormonal balance i i command it to become normal right right now in jesus name any physiological deformities or issues in in a womb with the reproductive organs right now be healed in jesus name every low sperm count right now be healed in the mighty name of jesus christ every fibroid issue that's making it difficult to get pregnant right now i command you to be dissolved come out in jesus name live that body in the mighty name of jesus be healed be healed be healed be restored i command every reproductive organ right now every reproductive organ right now to be restored to the original creation of christ to original creation of god how god created you to be in jesus name in the mighty name of jesus be healed be healed be healed i command that wound that womb to be open now i command that womb to be open right now i command your womb to be open right now in the mighty name of jesus christ thank you lord thank you jesus thank you lord thank you believe that this prayer is gonna bring about miracle in your life it's not prayer but it's faith in a miracle working God that will bring prayer through prayer we just release it we just declare it and we establish it in the mighty name of Jesus Christ thank you Lord thank you Lord thank you Jesus hallelujah hallelujah I believe that this has been impactful and blessing if it has been just drop one in the chat if you if you if you really got blessed by this broadcast by these prayers by these pointers that we shared practical guides and advices that we've given if that's been if that's been good for you you received it you enjoyed it just drop one in the chat praise emoji heart emoji whatever it is thank you for tuning in thank you for being with us like I said next week we're gonna have something special next week is gonna be our healing service next week is gonna be our healing service and so we're gonna be praying for healing so if you know somebody who has a sickness if you have a sickness next week you don't want to miss it which is gonna go at it specifically for healing there's gonna be specifically there's gonna be an anointing for healing next week and you don't want to miss that there's many many testimonies from next week of various sicknesses and diseases from small to too big from from pinky herding to cancers leaving next week and so God is the God of impossible God is the God that works over distance or physically and so I believe that next week is gonna you can't miss it next week so next week mark your calendar don't miss it if you know somebody who has infirmities who has sickness who has a disease in their body who struggling with constant sicknesses cycle of sicknesses tell them to tune in next next next Wednesday they don't want to miss that and then we have some amazing things that are coming up in the future as well so with that being said thank you for tuning in thank you for so into this ministry thank you for becoming a partner thank you for supporting by watching by sharing by sharing by sharing with other people we really appreciate any kind of partnership and support whether it's prayer whether it's finances whether it's just word of mouth and spreading the and letting people know about this ministry so thank you so much thank you for being a part of the stream until next time shalom