 It's a and it's a deep question because it isn't even obvious whether the question are there things you should value is a reasonable question Or that it can be reasonably answered The thing I can tell you about that that's most closely allied with my own experience. I don't mean personal experience but say experience as a clinician is that Aimless people are in real trouble Now I don't necessarily know why that is and I don't necessarily know What that means for what your aim should be But I've certainly seen for example like if you had to make a choice which all of you will in the next five years or so between pursuing something like diligently and establishing a fixed identity because of that or Remaining bereft of choice and drifting I Can tell you that if you drift by the time you're 30 you're going to be one miserable person Now I'm not sure why that is exactly and I'm not exactly sure that that necessarily means that Picking something and sticking to it, which is a form of apprenticeship is better than drifting It depends on what you mean by better But I can tell you that not catalyzing an identity seems to be a mistake and it's a fatal mistake by the time you're 40 It's very very difficult to recover from it at that point because You're not young anymore at that point and if you try to catalyze an identity at that time Which sometimes can happen you're competing with all these like young shiny people and it's not who are much more full of Potential from the perspective of an employer for example, then you are it gets pretty dismal