 Is someone in your life causing you distress? Do you feel that this person is not truthful with you and may even be keeping you away from other people that love you? You may suspect that you are being gaslit. Gaslighting is a type of emotional abuse in which the abuser undermines your perception of reality. The gaslighter manipulates their victim into falsely believing they are inadequate, lonely, overly sensitive and constantly at fault. It's important to be attentive to signs that you are being gaslit so that you can address this and seek help as needed. These are five subtle signs you're being gaslit. Number one, they constantly lie to you. You may have noticed that this person constantly lies. They might lie outright to your face. They may also deny things that you confront them with. You might remind them of something they said or promised you when they'll insist they never said or did such a thing. Their actions don't seem to match their words. Among some of the worst lies they might tell you is that everyone else around you is a liar. They might manipulate you into believing that you can only turn to them for truth. Number two, they intentionally confuse you. All of these accumulated lies make you question your own feelings and reality. Gaslighters are aware that confusing you leaves you vulnerable enough to be manipulated for their benefit. In addition to lying, they may confuse you by telling you or other people that you are crazy and dismissing your feelings. As a result of all of this, you may find yourself questioning your own sanity, feelings, and judgment. Maybe I am too sensitive, you might think. You question whether other people will believe you or blame you instead if you try to tell them about the gaslighter's behavior. You might falsely believe that people around you think you're crazy and even struggle to make decisions because of how much you've grown to distrust your own judgment. Number three, they make you believe others are against you. Part of why you begin to feel that others think you're crazy is that the gaslighter purposefully makes you believe that other people are against you. They may tell you that certain people think you're wrong, useless, or crazy. This is another one of their lies. By making you believe that others are against you, they make it seem as though you can only trust them. The gaslighter isolates you from others, giving themselves more control. This will likely leave you feeling vulnerable and secure, alone, powerless, and trapped. Number four, they attack you. Do you constantly feel like you're being attacked? Contrary to what they might tell you, this may not just be your imagination. Gaslighters are typically able to identify what is important to you and how to use it against you. If you value your friends highly, they may work on convincing you that you're better off without them. Gaslighters also project. For instance, they might be a cheater and yet somehow they constantly accuse you of cheating instead. As a result of this treatment, you may wonder if there is something wrong with you. You may find yourself feeling inadequate and worry that you are simply too sensitive. Number five, they wear you down over time. One of the key aspects of gaslighting is that it wears you down. Victims of gaslighting are not foolish or weak. It isn't as though gaslighting behavior is apparent and intense from the very beginning. One of the most difficult things about gaslighting is that it can creep up on you. Their behavior may start small, snide comments, or little lies here and there until they gradually build up as you feel more and more vulnerable and confused. Over time, you may find yourself growing weary and emotionally exhausted. Do you relate to any of these signs? If you or someone you know is a victim to gaslighting, it's not something to be ashamed of. Find fault in or feel foolish for. Gaslighting worsens over time. The smartest person can fall prey. After all, gaslighters are master manipulators that know how to control others and toy with emotions, making logic feel hazy. They may make you believe that no one will listen to you or that you shouldn't seek help, but this tends to be a part of their methods to keep you under their control. If you suspect that you or someone you know is a victim of gaslighting, please do not hesitate to seek help from loved ones and or a qualified mental health provider. Did you find this video helpful? If so, please like and share with a friend you think could benefit from it too. As always, the references used are in the description below. Thanks for watching. Until next time, take care, Psych-Goers.