 Hello, my YouTube family. Welcome to another Knox Viva Live video. In this one, we're going to be talking about the most hurtful thing you can do to a narcissist. I'm just going to get right into it. The most hurtful thing that you can do to a narcissist is to reject them. There's nothing they fear more. There's nothing that hurts them more than rejection. Whether it's you rejecting their proposal or idea, or just rejecting them altogether. Rejecting the relationship because they're very sensitive to it. They're very sensitive to any form of criticism. They don't like to feel like they're not right. To feel like they're wrong. They have to feel like what they think, what they feel. Those have to be facts. They see their feelings as facts. And they're not looking at everything that they've done to you. They focus on the effect rather than the cause. They're only looking at your reactions to the abuse rather than the abuse itself. So they're seeing it as though there's no reason for you to reject them. As though they've done nothing wrong. As though it's completely unjustified for you to do that. But in reality, you may be well within your rights to reject them. After everything that they've done to you, you just want to set boundaries you want to protect yourself. Because you never know what they're going to do next. You can't trust them. But again, they just focus on the effect rather than the cause. They're not looking at their actions. They're not looking at what they're doing to you. All narcissists really care about is their own feelings and needs. They are self-absorbed and they lack empathy. They have no consideration for you. And this is why rejection hurts them so much. Because it makes them feel as though they're inherently bad. As though they did everything they could. And they didn't really do anything wrong. They tried their best. And yet that still wasn't good enough. That's how they see it because they're not looking at their actions. They're not even really considering the effects that their behavior is having on you. It's just all about them. They're self-centered. They're only thinking about what they want. They're only thinking about what they can get out of you. And of course when you reject them, they fear that loss of supply. And they anticipate losing the benefits and advantages that come from being involved with you. And this is why they hate rejection so much. They may also fear exposure. They may fear that by you leaving them, you may threaten to expose them for who they are. And of course they don't want that to happen. They live in denial. They're doing everything they can to protect their false image and the illusion. But this may be surprising for many of you to hear. That yes, the narcissist hates rejection and they're actually very sensitive to it. Because they do hide that beneath this facade of pride and arrogance. As though they're the best thing since sliced bread. As though they're unaffected. They're untouchable. When in fact the opposite is true, they are highly sensitive to any form of criticism or rejection. And it doesn't take much to set them off. And often what they will typically do, if they fear that you are going to reject them, they will try to beat you to the punch. They will try to reject you before you reject them. But many of you, you may question yourself. You may question if you had done something wrong to them. Or if you weren't good enough. When the regard is they sense that you disapproved of something they said or did. So they were already anticipating that you are going to reject them. And that is why they then had to reject you first. Because the most hurtful thing you can do to a narcissist is reject them. And they don't want that to happen. They don't want you to be in that position where you have the ability to reject them. They don't want the shoe to be on the other foot. They don't want you to give them a taste of their own medicine. They want to be the ones who do that to you. Because they want to be in control. They want to be in an authoritative position over you. Where everything is on their terms. Where everything is under their conditions. So yes, because of their sensitivity and their fear of being rejected. They may just reject you first. But don't let that affect you. Don't let it make you think that there's anything wrong with you. A lot of times they're not even thinking about you. It's just all about them. They're self-absorbed. And they're doing everything they can to manage the perception that they have of themselves. And they do that through the use of other people. They view people as extensions of themselves. You're just a mirror to the narcissist. You reflect back to them how they want to see and feel about themselves. Nothing hurts them more than rejection. And in fact, you could say that that is the only thing that does hurt them. Because even exposure or just anything that they feel like is a threat to their false image or the illusion. That's still rejection. That's all that they really fear is being rejected. Especially where it puts them in a position where they feel like they should or they have to reject their own false self. As though their false self is not good enough. Because remember a long time ago they abandoned their true self in the place of to then create a false self. So clearly this false self is very important to them. And they want to protect and defend it at all costs. Which makes them very sensitive to rejection or criticism. And when you do reject a narcissist they can be very unpredictable as it will cause a narcissistic injury. Which will be followed by narcissistic rage. If you're lucky they may just come back to love bomb you. Or they may become passive aggressive. Or in some cases they will stalk and harass you. They may triangulate you with someone else. Or they may even start a smear campaign against you. They will become very very vengeful. And they will seek to punish you. Because when you reject a narcissist they see that as abandonment. And as though it was unjust as though you had no reason to do that. Because they're not going to listen to anything you say about them hurting you or abusing you or whatever else that they've done. They don't care about that. They don't care about what you have to say about them. All they're concerned about is your reactions to the abuse. That's all that they're considering when you do reject them. And they will then use that to justify their actions. And them seek and revenge to punish you. So be very cautious if you do reject the narcissist. Because they can be very unpredictable. You never know how they might react. I hope this video was helpful to you. 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