 special relationships and holy relationships you know just you know what that means and and just what I think we were just talking about like people saying we want a holy relationship and we're gonna like I know you Michelle were saying that I want a holy relationship or you want to make this a holy relationship and how it's very clear like this whole world is a special relationship you know everything here is a special relationship whether it's our environment or hot or cold we have like this special and how the Holy Spirit is it making us you know he's gonna use our holy relate use our special relationships to bring us to holiness like it's not making them holy we can we got a holy before we you know let's make this holy so you know we're gonna work with exactly what you believe with so I thought that was a good one to go into yeah it's it's also very I'd say more realistic to to start out it's kind of like when you're working on something and you kind of have a baseline if you just open your mind to the idea that this whole world is so cosmos is a is a cosmos made and projected from specialness and that that's the baseline then you don't run into the trap of starting off to think that okay I somehow stumbled upon this holy relationship and it feels really good but I don't want to be especially cautious and fearful and concerned to not blow it like don't blow it reminds me of that there's a scene in the movie Solaris with George Clooney where he's recalling how he he met this this woman and how during their first meeting he her name in the movie is Rhea played by a Australian actress and how in the movie he he keeps seeing this woman rare across the the room and he's like watching her watching her he's having a conversation with one of his buddies but finally his buddies aware that he's not paying any attention to him he's got his eyes focused across the room on rare all the time and so finally his friend says go to her and then George Clooney you know his friend says to George Clooney because he's a psychologist and he says something like maybe she could use a shrink and and friend says don't we all need that because kind of we're all insane on this planet and everything but I think it goes over there he starts talking making a little small talk and there's small talk and there's small talk and then finally she's just very still and she just looks him in the eye and she just says don't blow it and but that's how kind of relationships go there's a certain pressure to relationships if there is a connection or an attraction and a sense of flow there it won't take long before this little voice in the mind comes in there and goes don't blow it like this could really be something good this could be what you've been looking for don't blow it but we've talked about in the group over there at the chapel today it was more no you have to you have to have a little more humbleness just to start to come into this to say that this whole cosmos was set up as a special relationship as a God substituted as a substitution for spirit and so spirit is not in your mind saying don't blow it spirits like saying okay we can work with this whatever you seem to be in that the specialist gets projected out to to climb it and to food and to textures and sizes and shapes and colors and it's all flipped upside down so that it seems like you can have holiness or holy relationship as like a conscious goal but without understanding the context of the world of specialness and it's the same with relationships you know it's good to just be reminded of the context that they all start off special because that that's why that they're very nature is what they are and then as you keep practicing with the mind training and releasing the the judgments the expectation the attachments and so on so forth then they are the mind is purified it's not like the interpersonal relationship for these purified it can seem like that becomes more and more like a reflection of the holiness but yeah that's the context so it's it's actually a very healthy context to see it in that way we had that movie the time traveler's wife in the last retreat we did and you know what friend the best friend's partner is like well how come we never heard about this guy when she first when they first hear about this guy you you're you don't even date and now you're talking about this guy with such love and everything and the partner goes give her a break she's codependent like the rest of us you know it's like that's one of those little lines that gets slipped in the movie like don't forget the context context is egoic the context of specialness the context is codependency if you're swimming in a pool it's a codependent pool and you're asking the spirit to like lift you up rise up out of the pool but don't go thinking that you're swimming in the pool of the holy relationship and the pool just may go off a cliff and turn into Niagara Falls you may just so much in the holiness I heard some noise what's that it's like that movie was it called the this film down in South America the mission this giant igua zoo falls you know and the guy goes over the thing you know don't don't fool yourself into that you're floating along in the holiness and then we'll be careful you may go off off the edge it's it's quite the opposite