 When in reality, if I know everything about your external world, I can only predict 10% of your long-term happiness. 90% of your long-term happiness is predicted not by the external world but by the way your brain processes the world. And if we change it, if we change our formula for happiness and success, what we can do is change the way that we can then affect reality. That's right boys and girls. In this video, we're going to be talking about why the BTS army will always win and the mating rituals of fireflies and what we can all learn from them. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, sometimes what I like to do is pull different topics from pop culture and see what we can do to improve our mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So yeah, this morning I make my little morning cup of coffee and I do my little twitter scan see what's going on. There's a lot of trending hashtags for the Las Vegas Golden Knights as usual and then I see this hashtag that says project boy with love and I'm like, well that's interesting because BTS just released a song called boy with love like what's going on. So I click on this hashtag to see what's going on and the BTS army is out there doing work. All right so what they're trying to do is get boy with love to be like the number one stream song over on Spotify and on other platforms and I'm going through, I'm going through all these hashtags and I'm just seeing something just absolutely phenomenal and it is this BTS army working together to get boy with love to number one and they're like using this hashtag to like share tips. Some people are saying like they purchased the song multiple times or made multiple accounts to do this and they're like saying hey you can do this too and da da da da and they're all doing this to rise boy with love from BTS to number one and I'm like huh that is phenomenal and it had me thinking when I'm watching this because first like one of the reasons I'm doing these BTS videos is to see like what's going on right like those of you who know me and you've been subscribed for a while I am just like fascinated by like human nature our behaviors what's going on in society I'm very intrigued by the way the mind works so I'm watching this and I'm just like what is going on and it reminded me of an amazing book I read by Sean Aker so those of you who don't know who Sean Aker is he is a professor of positive psychology this dude is amazing. They see this they say Sean why do you waste your time studying happiness at Harvard seriously what does a Harvard student possibly have to be unhappy about embedded within that question is the key to understanding the science of happiness because what that question assumes is that our external world is predictive of our happiness levels. The first book of his that I read was called The Happiness Advantage and he's very scientific so he takes all these different studies that they've done to see what makes people happy how to be happier so I highly recommend that book The Happiness Advantage but last year he came out with another book called Big Potential so I didn't even know what this book was about I'm like oh Sean Aker he's the man I'm gonna get this book like this dude is even like on the Oprah Winfrey Network like regularly right talking about positive psychology happiness and all that so I get his book called Big Potential and his entire book is about what we can do to work together to achieve success as well as happiness in our own lives but the whole goal of that book is working together so one of the things that this book starts out with is the mating ritual of fireflies all right so when fireflies are trying to get their groove on okay like what they do is you would think you would think that each firefly would like try to be the biggest and the brightest and say yo look at me look at me I'm this bright firefly come mate with me but that's actually not what happens what they actually do is is that they they sync up they sync up so rather than like flashing all like this they sync up like this and they flash together and their success rate of finding a mate during mating season sky rockets because they're working together so when we look at what the BTS army is doing constantly for BTS like they could be selfish about this they could say you know what I'm gonna be the head of this BTS army I'm gonna lead the troops I'm gonna lead everything here are my ideas this is what we're doing right but they don't they all work together and that is one of the reasons why BTS is so successful and so popular and 33 year old men like me find out about and we're like what the heck is going on because they are working together so the point of this video is I want you to start taking a look at your life and and see what you could do to start working with others to achieve success all right because I know so many of us we struggle with things like social anxiety or we're introverts or we're just like selfish and self-centered and we don't like working with other people you know like some of you might be college students or high school students and you hate group projects right but here's the thing I am a man of science okay so when I look at books like Big Potential by Sean Aker and look and see what the BTS army is doing like you can see that it is proven that working together helps you achieve the goals that you want to achieve by working together so for example like in school I know you might hate group projects but building these relationships and working together they are the best ways to get a higher grade right think about your job okay work is a very great example of this because a lot of people at work they're trying to be the brightest firefly right they're trying to do everything they're like I want the raise I want the promotion I'm thinking about you know my family my well-being the things that I want to get my house my car right and everybody at work is trying to do their own thing and shine the brightest but think about how things would change if you started working together working together to impress the boss rather than being the brightest shining star at your office see what you can do to work together okay the other thing that I think about regularly since I even started out on the YouTube platform and this is something that we see a lot in just all other areas but there are so many YouTubers out there who just want to do this thing by themselves right they don't want to collab with anybody they don't want to work with anybody like a while back like I was doing a ton of collabs whether I was doing videos together with other YouTubers or I was bringing other YouTubers as guests over on my channel like one of the reasons that we don't work together with people is because of our inherent nature of being selfish and self-centered we think that somebody else is going to take the light away from us somebody else is going to take the attention away from us by by them giving getting some of that spotlight is taking away from us and that is not true in any way shape or form so a lot of people get isolated they get very selfish and self-centered they focus on their own thing but that's not the way it works and like I wish I would see more collaborations in the YouTube community there's a ton of YouTubers I watch and I'm just like huh you would work great with this person and you guys would make an amazing video hell like even when it comes to like music I love love love love collaborations a great example of that is look at Marshmallow all right Marshmallow is absolutely killing it this dude is a DJ but most of his successful songs are collaborations with other people like one of his newest collaborations which I absolutely love because it's with one of my other favorite bands which is churches right he also did a collab with Khalid he's done collabs with so so so many people and he's rising to the top of the charts because he's working with other people rather than just trying to do this thing by himself do you remember when like I believe it was Diplo and Skrillex came together a few years ago and worked together like collaborations are the way to do this thing and this is why we keep seeing the success of BTS as well as the BTS army and why their new song Boy With Love is going to rise to the top of the charts and stay there and whatever future song they have is going to do the same because they know how to work together all right so I really want you to think about this stuff and I get it I get social anxiety is a thing being an introvert is a thing but like the other thing the last thing I want to say about this is this is why a support group is so beneficial some of you who know me you know that I am an addict and alcoholic in recovery and you know so many people fail at this thing I'm one of those people I kept failing I kept relapsing because I wanted to do it by myself it wasn't until I found a support group to help me through that very difficult time that I finally stayed clean I've been clean for over six and a half years and like you don't even have to be an addict in recovery you don't have to be like just a support group like if you're struggling with depression find other people who are struggling with depression if you struggle with anxiety find other people who are struggling with anxiety if somebody who's been through trauma find other people who have struggled with trauma this is one of the reasons why there are support groups for war veterans there are support groups for first responders there are support groups for victims of domestic violence because everything in life is so so so much more difficult to do on our own we have to remember that as human beings we are designed to connect with other people so when we try to do things on our own there's a much higher chance of failure all right so go out there and find your support group and find the success that you deserve all right but anyways anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you are all amazing and if you would like to help support the channel get access to some perks and benefits like our monthly Q&A and all that stuff you can click or tap right there all right so thank you so so much for watching go out there and work together and I will see you next time