 They're going to bring adventure into my life. So you go home tonight, and you sit down, and you think, oh, OK, kayaking, surfing, rock climbing. I could join an urban exploration group. You start making this list. You start making this list, and as you go into this list, you're going to get into what? A state of flow. You're going to start to get excited about it. It's something you want. It's something you've wanted to do, but haven't done enough of yet. So you go home. You've made this list for yourself. How do you think you're going to feel tomorrow when you come back into this room? You're not going to feel let down that you made the list. You're going to feel happy. You're going to feel, that's cool. I'm actually moving in the direction I want my life to go. I'm in that process now. I'm in that process now. And that's going to make you feel better than if you go home tonight and do a line of coke. It's going to make you feel better than if you go home tonight and you have some chocolate cake. It's going to make you better than if you feel better than if you go home and you go, geez, I'm just going to head out with the boys, and I'll worry about the list another time. We know that feeling. We know that you guys all know that feeling when you pursue something. You want something in life and you make another decision that will also make you happy, but it's only a short-term happiness decision. And there's always that disappointment that comes along with it. You guys know that feeling. We all know that. The more we do that, the more our state of mind gets degraded. So what I want, guys, I want to remind you of something. I want to remind you, first of all, we're talking about tonight. So first of all, guys, happiness has to be derived from pursuit. It cannot be derived from end outcomes. It has to be. Our state of mind, our happiness, our eudaimonic happiness, which is the one that doesn't have the massive bounce up and down, the one that's called general life satisfaction. It's about pursuit. It's not about achieving a specific end outcome. You must know what direction your life is moving, each and every one of you. Every human alive needs to have this eudaimonic compass. It's the direction upon which all of your life decisions are made. I know the majority of you don't have this. So how the hell do you know what decisions to make when decisions are put forward to you? Then you must make all your decisions based on your eudaimonic compass. You've got to make those decisions. Get into the habit. It's hard in the beginning. It's a bit tricky in the beginning, but once you start doing it, your quality of life, it starts to go up. It starts to increase. Your confidence in yourself goes up. You need this stuff whether you want to be successful, whether you want to be successful in business. James was talking about that in a state of mind where you're like, you know what? I deserve this. When you are someone who pursues this, guess what you feel like. I deserve. I deserve. Because I'm a man who's pursuing what he wants. And trust me, as a guy, when you live a life like that, there's a girl feeling that comes along with it. It's part of what you all want. It's part of what makes you more attractive to women. It's part of what makes you more attractive to potential business prospects, marketing people. It's part of what's going to get you a raise at work. Because if you've got that, yeah, I'm a guy who goes after what he wants. He's in the active pursuit of what I want. That makes you more attractive to anyone who matters in your world. And the guys, you, all of your specific goals are going to be short term and outcome independent. So all of your goals, anything you want to achieve in life needs to be outcome independent, guys. The second we rely on outcome, we're unhappy. If you don't believe me, look at every time in your lives when you've gone for a goal that depended on a certain outcome, you've got the outcome, what happened, you started looking for five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten other outcomes after that. The happiness of achieving that is incredibly short lived. Very, very short lived. Now to close off today, guys, I want to kind of give you all a present, a parting gift. Now, I've said a lot of stuff today, but there's one thing I can tell you all for sure, because I don't know any of you personally. One thing I do know for sure is that you will all have a, you don't want a goal that involves improving your life. You will all be interested in growing as human beings. And I'm quite sure that's a part of all of your Udermanic compass. And if I don't do anything more, it's going to be too easy for all of you to say, hey, that was really interesting. And then, and then, and then forget and then keep going on with this event and say, oh, I better learn something else interesting because I am, after all, giving away three days of my life to hear these talks. What are you? You're outcome dependent, guys. I want you guys, I want to anchor in all of you the ability to be happy because you're here, because just by being here, no matter how good you thought my talk was, no matter how good you thought everybody else's talk is going to be, just the mere fact that you're here in pursuit of something that you want, that's where your happiness comes from. So what I'm going to get you guys to do, I'm going to get you guys right now. OK, I want you to thank and to, sorry, congratulate as sincerely as possible three people around you right now as sincerely as possible, guys, get up and thank three people as sincerely as you can. Congratulate them for being here, pursuing the unimmonic goals. OK, guys, grab a seat. Congratulations. OK, I've just done something else. OK, it's called peer-based reinforcement. It's something that happens to coaches. The second someone's called a coach and they say to someone, you must always approach, you must always approach a goal. You must always follow your unimmonic goals. The second you start doing that. And the second you congratulate other people for doing it. OK, it creates this really powerful psychological effect that sits up and praising other people for it. I should do it myself. Ah, peer-based reinforcement works both ways. Someone else has come to you and congratulated you for doing something. It also anchors the fact that you doing that is the right thing to be doing. So I hope, guys, I hope that after today, you appreciate every moment that you'll hear is someone who's being in a state of achieving what they want, because that's how you be happy in life. That's how you win. Doesn't matter how much money you have. It doesn't matter how successful you are. It doesn't matter how many women you bet, OK? What matters is that you're happy. And if you're happy and you get the other things great, good for you. But if you're not happy, do we get you lose at life, OK? You're Charlie Sheen, winning. There's no point. There's no point if you're not happy. No point at all. So guys, thank you very much for being here today. I'm going to ask you all. I'm going to ask you all if you've got any questions, things you'd like to ask me about what I've been talking about. Questions to raise your hand, I'm going to. Cool. Yes? Hey, man. Thanks for the speech, man. Really resonated with everything you said. So I got into personal development about a year ago. And about six months ago, I started setting. So I got into dating, gymming. I was balancing all with university. So six months ago, I started setting yearly goals, three month goals, and weekly goals in, say, like six or seven facets of my life, right? So I'd be making weekly improvements in each facet. So then I was balancing it with uni, and uni got really overwhelming on top of everything, our relationship, we're trying to gym, we're trying to repress in development books. And so then to balance my state out, what happened a couple of months ago, I burnt out really bad. So I was just overwhelmed. So I was like, I need to balance this. In the morning, I'd be doing empowering questions, just to focus my positive state. In nine time, I'd be meditating, just to calm myself down. So could I just go take your take? And just how to pursue a balance and manage your stress while you're trying to improve yourself and develop? Okay, so I avoid burning out, yeah. Yeah, that's a good question, because balance is a really tricky thing. It isn't just tricky at uni, man. It gets harder as you get older. The more successful you wanna be, the more you wanna achieve in life, the more balance you gotta try to find. Ah, big question. So for a lot of us, this is the problem, guys, is more of you really have this question sitting at the back of your mind? Absolutely, I'm sure you do. So yes, that's a great question. So how to find balance, okay? The first thing is part of your great amount of stress, more than you probably realize, comes from having these result-based goals. This becomes a big problem. Having goals that you need a result from creates a lot of the stress that you're experiencing. A second part of it,