 What's going on you guys? Welcome to the Single Guy Channel. My name's Lloyd bringing you practical and actionable dating advice that really works. Today we're going to talk about how to keep a girl interested. So for these guys that are being able to attract a girl at the beginning, it seems like they're interested, but then later on you're having problems, like maybe after a first date, maybe after you've been talking for a little bit, maybe after you've had sex, or maybe you've just been like talking for a little bit, it was going well at the beginning, and then you lost her. So for these guys that are having this problem, and a lot of my students, a lot of my viewers and people that come to me with these questions have these problems. Okay, so first I'm going to tell you what's going on, why these girls are getting bored, or they're leaving, or maybe they're just losing interest, or whatever it is. I'm going to tell you the steps that you can take to keep the girl interested, and overall how to make sure that this doesn't happen to you in the future. Because if this problem is happening to you repeatedly, I can almost assure you that you are the reason the girls are losing interest. Okay, so why do girls lose interest in the first place? Well, there's a multitude of reasons, but basically what she thought at the beginning of when she started seeing you, or when she started talking to you, she doesn't think that anymore. So something changed, okay. I guess whatever opinion of you she had in her head is now different than what she feels now. And look, there's some stuff that's not within your control. Certain people are just going to change your mind, and you can't control what goes on in a girl's head before she meets you. Like, if you look like an ex-boyfriend who she used to date, you can't really change that. But there's a lot that you can change, and so I'm going to talk about in this video. Okay, so one of the things that I see guys, and this is the first tip that I'm going to give you, is that keep an aura of mystery about you. You want to be a little bit mysterious with women. So if you go on a first date with a girl, let's say she's really interested at the beginning, and you reveal a whole bunch of information about yourself, like you tell her everything in your life, well she's kind of already learned everything. Like there's no mystery. There's nothing to look forward to. There's nothing that she can learn about you in the future. So she's probably going to get bored and maybe move on to somebody else who will give her that sense of mystery. I've made this mistake plenty of times on a date where I was so into this girl at the beginning, and I just revealed everything that I could possibly think of in my life. I would have never thought I would just be like telling her a bunch of all this stuff. And then she just learned everything about me. There wasn't anything exciting to learn. And then she just kind of moved on to another guy after that. So if you're a guy where that's happening to, I would highly suggest that you only reveal a few things with her at the beginning and keep a little bit of mystery there later on. Now when I talk to women, I don't do that. I kind of reveal a little bit about myself to them, stuff that I do, things that are my hobbies. And I let her kind of, I guess, inquire as to more information about it. And so I think that strategy works a lot better. In this case, less is more. Step two is she's probably intimidated by you. So don't be so intimidating. For a lot of the guys that are really attractive at the beginning, they're really good match. Maybe they got a great thing going for them. Maybe they're really good looking, whatever it is. Don't try and be that big, lofty person because a lot of times, especially guys that haven't had a whole lot of success with women, they tend to think that they have to be up here and the girl is going to want to get with them. That's not really true, okay? Women already know that you're up there. And what they want to feel is they want to feel a sense of comfort with you because attraction does have a lot of different parts. First, you have to attract the girl, then she has to feel comfortable with you. And if you've been out a lot, you know that a lot of times comfort beats attraction. They're going to go for the guy they feel more comfortable with. But if you're a guy that's bragging all the time, but if you're a guy that's like, you know, is talking about how great you are and you know, she, I'm not saying she's not going to believe it. What I'm saying is that she's going to feel like, oh, like, like this guy went on a freaking yacht party last weekend and I literally stayed at home and watch Oranges the New Black. Like, he's not going to be interested in any of my stories. We're just, we're not going to get along. And a lot of times girls will say that, oh, you know, he was really good looking and like, he was whatever rich or something like that. But we just didn't click. A lot of times they say that you just don't click for this particular reason. So what I would invite you to do and what I do when I'm talking to girls is I like to, you know, show them that I'm just kind of like them. Like we're just two people that are doing the best that we can in life. Because sometimes when they hear about my job, like, I have a following on YouTube or like I'm a self development coach, like, or a dating coach or whatever, like they get a little bit intimidated by it. And so like, I just, I don't like to talk about it too much, but I will say a few things about it and then I'll ask them about what they do and then I'll show them that they have, you know, a lot of great things going on in their life too. So now we feel more at an even pace and now we feel more comfortable with each other. And a lot of times that keeps girls around a lot better than just acting like the top biggest bad, most badass dude, you know, on the planet. Tip number three is don't show too much interest. I see a lot of guys when they meet a girl that they really like, you know, they text her a whole bunch. They make her the number one priority and the girl just gets pushed away for that reason, especially if it's a young girl. If you're too into her at the beginning, she's going to think something's wrong with you because she's innately insecure and she thinks if a guy is this into me, there's going to be, he probably doesn't have a whole lot of options going for him. So he must not be a great catch. And sometimes they're wrong about this. Sometimes you're just really into a girl. But what I would do is I would measure, you know, if you've been going out for a girl, like, don't be texting her all day, like have something more important to do besides that and then just always texting her all the time. In this case, I think less is going to be a little more. But it will lead into my next point, which is, you know, tip number four, which is don't show too little interest. So you have to find a happy medium between these two. Obviously, if you've, you know, gotten with a girl and you've been on a date with a girl and you're too into her, she's going to be pushed away for that reason. In this case, if you're planning things way too far in the future, like you're saying, oh, and then we're going to do this and then we're going to do that, she's going to get scared, she's going to run away. However, if you show too little interest, like if you slept with a girl and you think, like, this girl's in the bag, like, I don't have to do anything to keep her around, she's probably going to feel neglected, she's not going to feel good about herself. And if she's any bit intelligent, she's probably not going to message you and hang out with you again because she doesn't like feeling like that. So in this case, yeah, like, I would be, you know, you don't have to, like, message her all the time, but when you do message her, pay attention to what she's saying. Actually, take the time to respond and tell her about your day and tell her some of the stuff that you're doing and make plans with her again, okay? If you do want to see this person, don't think, oh, I'll just hit her up, like, Saturday during the day or Saturday at 2 a.m. and she'll be down. Like, if you're playing that game, like, certain girls who are really, really into you will be down for that shit, but most, and the smart ones especially, will not. And the fifth and final tip is have an exciting life. If you are the type of person who is just kind of playing video games still on the couch, you have a regular job that you're not really into, and then you go out at night and then occasionally you'll get a girl. Okay, sure, maybe you got some characteristics that she's into, but she's going to eventually realize that you're kind of a boring dude and you don't have a whole lot going for you. And women get with a guy, they want, they want a good storyline to happen. Like, if you, hopefully you've been seeing about this, that every single little thing makes for, if you do these things wrong, it doesn't make for a good story, but if you do them right, it makes for a great story, you know? And if you have a type of job or something you're not really into or you're not really passionate about doing anything, you're not really going anywhere, you're just kind of like doing the same thing every single day, that's not an exciting story either. Women want to get with a guy who can give him an exciting story, an exciting experience, and overall an exciting life. And if you have the characteristics to make that happen, then you're going to keep her interested and she's going to stay interested in you and not be going after other guys, she's just going to want to be with you. But if you don't, you're not on your own path, then chances are she's going to get bored and she's going to run away. And the crazy part about this is, they will never tell you. No girl is ever going to come up to you and say, hey listen, the reason why I stopped being interested in you is just because you're just not that ambitious. Like she'll just, she's never going to say that to you, she thinks she's going to hurt your feelings too much, but really you have to look at yourself in your life and realize if that's the things that you've been doing, you probably know it. And if you have been doing it, it's time to change. And so the next time you get a girl that you really like, you can keep her interested and you can continue to do that. So hopefully you guys got something out of this. If you've made it to the end, consider subscribing. I come out with videos like this every single week. If you're interested in my weekly one-on-one mentorship program where I teach guys exactly how to do this sort of thing, hit me up, send me an email, thesingleguy2017.com. You can also send me, send a request to the new Facebook group that I started. That's where I post all the stories that I'm, you know, not going to post here. 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