 Hello, how's everyone doing? Just wait for more people to come in. I've got a great message for you all tonight Okay So when the narcissist realizes They messed up When the narcissist realizes they messed up you won't always know about it They're not just gonna come out and tell you what they realize they messed up a lot of them They're gonna hide in the shadows and act like everything's great and you may be fooled into believing That they don't even realize it. They're just gonna Go on with their lives Because of their pride and arrogance and act like it doesn't bother them When really that couldn't be further from the truth from the devaluation phase on woods The narcissist always wants to act like you're a problem and then Whether they discard you or you leave them They want to act like there's so much happier without you when the truth is They always needed you more than you ever needed them as I said in my recent live video When I was with the narcissist in my life, I Didn't really have anything I didn't have much money I Didn't have much going on in my life and They always looked down on me They made me feel like I wasn't good enough and Many of you as you may know if you saw my recent video one of the ex-narcissist Ended up addicted to drugs and the last time I saw her she was very miserable She didn't really have anything going on in her life and yet When she left me she acted as though she had all of these big dreams as Though she was going to be making things happen And that's no different from the other narcissist. I was with and then the last time I saw her She was working at my local supermarket When it wasn't long before that That she was telling me that she's living her best life So you see There's no way That they couldn't realize that they messed up when narcissists leave you and they downgrade And they enter this downward spiral of destruction and disappointments How could they not realize that they messed up but they're so delusional They have to trick themselves into thinking that they're in a better situation now Because their fragile egos just can't take it But I just had to share my personal experiences with you Because I know that's the best way to make people understand If you've moved on and it's clear that you're doing better without them That you're meeting better healthier people You're successful in your work life You're making more money Maybe you've got a new home A new car You're traveling All of these things will make the narcissist realize that they messed up And I know a lot of people say It's not all about money But really when it comes to narcissists it really is All these people really care about is money power and success So if they leave you and then you Develop more power You become successful You have more money Of course, they're going to realize that they messed up They're not going to care so much If they just see that you've moved on with someone who's Healthier or treats them right That's not really gonna bother them And in fact I've said in my videos before especially My most viewed video of all That as soon as you engage in any sexual contact with someone else That's when the narcissist realizes That you're not their property That's when it's easy for them to detach from you And just forget about you So they're not going to be thinking they've messed up then If anything they're going to be looking at you like you messed up Even if it does appear that you've moved on with someone healthier And you're in a better situation with someone who treats you right They're not going to look at it like that They're just going to see it as though you've been tricked and deceived by someone else Because remember They see people how they see themselves Everyone's fake. Everyone's a corn artist Everyone's out to get you So that's exactly how they're going to see it But no doubt If you can see that the narcissist has downgraded after they left you They've entered a downward spiral They've lost a lot of money Maybe they lost their job. As I said, I believe that COVID is the narcissist karma I know that it's There are a lot of narcissists who are struggling with this It seems that it would typically affect Narcissists people who are self-absorbed and lack empathy So when they leave you they really do descend to this downward spiral They become miserable Because you are their life support you sustain them Many of them lose their jobs They downgrade and They just go for whoever they can find really just Whoever's gonna be A doormat for them Someone they can push around Someone who does whatever they want them to do Because that's the kind of person they want And when you stood up to them When you told them that you're not going to tolerate their bs That's when they knew it was over That's when they knew they had to find someone else But yeah, the ex-narcissist that I was with They both downgraded They both They both ended up with um With jobs that they're not really proud of or got a bit of a back off Um Yeah, they both ended up in situations that they're not really happy with But yeah, you know, that's just how it goes. I mean With a lot of narcissists, you know, they think That they're in like these These better situations after they leave you They think that the grass is green on the other side And it just isn't you know, it's just it isn't It isn't always like that for them It's the um, it's the delusional thinking And it's also magical thinking But just because they see it a certain way They expect you to see it that way too You've just got to trust your intuition Trust your gut, trust your gut instinct about What you've seen from them so far Don't let them trick you Because remember narcissists are all about illusions They're all about trying to make you think something that's not true I don't know. It's hard, you know, when they leave you They're very good at making it look like they're riding off to the sunset And that they're so much happier without you It's just like When you first met them They made you believe that they were everything you wanted When that just wasn't true You later realized that it was all a lie That that wasn't what they were really about So yeah, you know, I think it's very important Like when you're watching these videos and talking to people in the comments Sharing your experiences That will help you to stay grounded in reality Because these narcissists What they really want to make you do is They want to take you out of reality They want to make you Live in their fantasy world Where everything is perfect Everything is right For them When in reality it just isn't like that Especially not for narcissists These people are miserable You've only got to remember the devaluation phase Just remember how they treated you Is that how a happy person treats someone? And when they leave it doesn't just magically change They don't just suddenly become happy with someone else They don't just start treating someone else right No, that's what you saw that was who they really are That was their personality And you have to remember that It's always just a matter of time until they do realize that they messed up But when they realize it They're not going to tell you They're not going to give you the satisfaction But yeah, you know, as I said With the ex-narcissists of my life They left me And I know they're both miserable I know they're both dissatisfied With their current situations And as you all know, my life completely changed After they left me I spent four months traveling the world I completely upgraded my life Now I get to drive luxury cars I'm actually In a three thousand pound suite right now While My ex-narcissists One of them's still probably addicted to drugs The other one Is working in my local supermarket And I know people say it's not all about money success To narcissists it really is That's all they really care about So when they leave you Or when you leave them and you move on And you start to embed without them You become happier healthier More successful Of course they realize they messed up Of course they realize that they would have been better off with you But especially if they left you How is it gonna look for them to come back? And then they don't even know if you're gonna take them back They'd really just be putting themselves in a situation Where they could be humiliated And that's just something a narcissist is not going to do They're not going to take that risk Narcissists are very prideful and arrogant That's right and Anne Silver The very superficial materialistic I mean You know as I said my life has completely changed since they left me I became successful I make a lot more money now I can have whatever I want And I'll be the first to say Although money can make someone happy Money isn't everything You know what really matters in life? Connection Helping people Improving people's lives That's what really matters You know if you won the lottery today And then there was something you're passionate about Something that you still do every day Even if you just won millions That's what really matters to you And I know Even if I won the lottery I'd still be doing this I'd still be making these videos Because this is what makes me happy Sharing this information Improving people's lives This is what really counts Connection Community But that's something the narcissist will never get And that's why they're so miserable They think that chasing Money power and success Is going to make them happy one day But it never does And most of them never end up becoming successful anyway Everything's just pretend with them It really is And you know it's pretend because Whenever you talk to them Whenever you see them they're always putting on a show They're always acting like they're so happy And everything's going so perfectly in their lives When that's just not reality I have good days But I have bad days too Sometimes I'm happy Sometimes I'm sad That's just real life And that's just something That a narcissist will never get to experience Because they're too afraid They're too insecure They're too worried about their image and reputation They're too prideful and arrogant When if they would just let all that stuff go And just allow themselves to be vulnerable for a moment It would completely change their lives When you move on And you do better without them And it's clear that they downgraded They do realize that they messed up Even if they never show it Even if they never tell you They do realize I hope everyone's having A good Christmas Eve I know it's hard with this pandemic A lot of things are closed and A lot of things have been cancelled There's lockdowns everywhere People can't see their Families or friends But I'm happy that we have this community I'm really happy that I built this channel For all of us To share our experiences And to support each other Like I said, connection Is what really matters And I hope you all enjoy your Christmas I did have a A Christmas premiere Just earlier today And there is another one tomorrow For Christmas Day So I hope you can join us Then as well I know a lot of people have been discarded Around this time There's definitely a lot of discards Around Christmas Birthdays as well Whenever they think they can hurt you the most Because that's all it's really about with Narciss It's all about how much they can hurt you Never Going to have a connection with someone like that You can't connect with someone Who's constantly angry Or afraid Try connecting with someone who feels love I can promise you You'll have a completely different experience But yeah That's the message for tonight The Narcissists will realise they messed up I hope that this video has been helpful to you If you would like to contact me My email is Coachingatnarksurvivor.co.uk I also have Instagram Narcissivor YouTube And we do have a new website as well It's www.narcissivor.co.uk And you can go on there And Read my blog posts But coaching sessions And Also join our support forum I think we've had a few members recently But we're just trying to grow it more and more We're hoping to have a good community on there Where people can share their experiences And knowledge So do check that out on the website Thank you for joining this live Merry Christmas to all of you And I will talk to you in another video Very soon