 are you guys still together? I still love her. are you guys still together? I'm mad about some things she's, I guess she's not mad. Jason almost called my number one on me last night. there it is! what is up everybody this is chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health so what I like to do is pull different topics from the youtube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being and a big part of our emotional and mental well-being is the relationships that we're in so make sure that you subscribe and ring that notification bell so as some of you know I'm in the middle of writing my book rewire your anger and I just posted a different video I was about to start writing but then I saw I had a bunch of tweets and dms and messages on discord like yo you gotta watch this new Jason Nash video so I'm like all right I guess I'll check it out so I decided to record this before getting back to my book and writing it so anyways before I get started if you're new to my channel this channel this this video or my videos they aren't for Trisha Payness they are not for Jason Nash there's a very slim chance they will see my video this video is for you okay if you can relate to the relationship that Trisha Payness and Jason Nash are in this is for you if you have friends who are in a relationship like Trisha Payness and Jason Nash this is for you all right so I've done some videos in the past on Trisha Payness and Jason Nash and one of my most recent ones was them doing couples therapy with Katie Morton which was cool kind of I'll touch back on that in a minute but this is such a toxic relationship and I'm going to give some tough love and I want you all to keep in mind okay and please this is my disclaimer for the video my recommendations are for this specific scenario okay and what I mean by this specific scenario things have always been bad all right they haven't been dating too long things have always been bad they don't have any children together so that's what I mean and I'm saying that because pretty soon I'm gonna give some of my thoughts and suggestions and some of you who have been in a relationship for like 20 years and you just started fighting you're gonna like question what I'm saying this isn't for you okay this is for people in this specific situation but anyways let's get started gonna be bad if I go to Trisha's it's gonna be really something I don't want to do I don't want to go there we're gonna leave we're gonna leave on bad terms it's gonna be last night because I'm leaving I'm not staying there and I'm not even gonna stay there for the camera and be like so you can end your bit so you can cut from this to me staying there by Jason that I'm not doing it if you if you get too angry you can just leave and I'm not gonna stop you I won't stop it it's not that I'm gonna get too angry I'm just like I don't want to be back in so yeah like that first clip this is what I'm talking about like if you're consistently fighting end it end it okay if you just started in a relationship I made a video a long time ago about how this person's not going to change something that I see so many people do in relationships is that you get into a new relationship it's terrible from the beginning but you are so afraid of being alone that you stay in that relationship and you're just waiting for that person to change like if you are watching this video feel free to comment down below how many of you have wasted months or years in a relationship hoping the other person would change hoping that the relationship would get better right like like I said this is different for like married couples who have been together for like a decade or years or whatever you might just be hitting a rough patch but in Jason and Trisha's specific scenario this has been wrong from the very start they've been fighting from the very start what I mentioned in one of my first videos about Jason Nash and Trisha Paytas which is also interesting a lot of a lot of no not a lot I won't say that some people are like why aren't you giving Jason Nash as much crap as Trisha that is all perspective because both of these are two very very broken individuals and the analogy I always give my clients is never in the history of logic has it worked where you take two glasses you shatter them on the ground and you scoop them together and say okay this will work like that's what people try to do all the time like oh wait you're broken I'm broken too you know what we could probably have a really healthy relationship together that's not how it works now um one of the the arguments I get all the time is people say oh oh so you're saying broken people should never get in a relationship no we're all broken but when somebody is in the midst of this thing and they're not working on themselves and they haven't healed just a little bit that is extremely selfish it is extremely selfish I say this from personal experience as somebody who stays single for over a year and a half when I first got sober I knew that it would be selfish me to pull somebody into a relationship with me even though I hadn't worked on myself yet but so many of us are so selfish that we're more concerned about being alone than we are worried about ruining this other person's life I don't know sometimes I don't like being surprised when someone tells that's going on David everything's happy here it's a harmonious situation oh my dramatic why I'm not being dramatic you're being so dramatic here we go okay this I sent some weird going on I would tell you all right so I just want to point out this body language right here the body language in this right here so something that a lot of people say and if you don't believe me check the comments come back in a couple days and check the comments a lot of people will say Jason Nash and Trisha paid this this is all fake their fights are fake this is fake fake fake they do it for views and like here's the thing all right the first thing is body language doesn't lie okay the best actors in the world like people like Brad Pitt I don't know why he's the first one that came came to mind but like they cannot even fake body language that well okay so you are giving people way too much credit the second thing I'll say is you give people way too much credit like if you are somebody who thinks that Trisha and Jason are faking all of this you have lived a very sheltered life and I say this is somebody who has not only been a crazy person but has surrounded myself with crazy people and toxic individuals all right this is normal in their lives so it's my assumption that people think that this is all staged because they've never actually met people like this in real life but trust me they exist I used to be like this but anyways back to the body language you see throughout like the first half of this conversation like this scene if you will Jason Nash's arms are covering his stomach okay this means okay this means that the brain is reacting to feeling threatened to feeling worried the reason your arms cross and fold like this is because all of your vital organs are in this area so when someone's crossing their hands over their stomach that typically means they're nervous and they're uncomfortable so guys by the way if you're out there at the club or at the bar hitting on a girl and her hands are crossed over your stomach take that as a sign that she's probably not interested and she might be a little bit afraid of you so one of my biggest concerns one of my biggest concerns with people in general is that they're wasting time in therapy um so a lot of you who follow my channel you you hear me say like get therapy get therapy like you like if you have the resources to get therapy do it like one of my biggest gripes with youtubers is when I see these youtubers who are making hundreds of thousands if not millions of dollars a year complaining about their mental health but they aren't allocating any time towards therapy now Jason and Trisha are both people who have gone to therapy many times and it really bums me out because they do videos with Katie and like it almost makes me feel like they're just doing it for views they're not doing it to help themselves and that's that like whatever like I am an optimist and I think that the videos that they do talking about therapy and stuff might encourage somebody in their audience to get therapy that is a bonus but for them specifically it seems like they're wasting their time okay and here's why I say that I follow them I follow a lot of youtubers and what I'm always doing as somebody who works in mental health treatment and watching somebody are you taking what I'm teaching you and using it right because if not you're wasting your time like I work in drug and alcohol treatment I've seen people come back five six seven eight times right and then maybe their insurance runs out and they can't come back to treatment and they're begging and saying I need help I need help and it's like how much more can I teach you like how much more can I teach you like the the the order of therapy like kind of like the lifetime of therapy is like you go in there and you first it's it's time to figure out the root of your problems right where is this coming from is it coming from your childhood is it coming from your parents is it coming from trauma what is this coming from is it coming from mental illness what is that okay here's the root of the problem here are coping skills to work with that maybe it's medication maybe it's dbt or cbt maybe it's support groups maybe it's meetings maybe it's I don't know it's so many different things but if you leave that office and you don't do anything with it you are wasting your time you're wasting your money this is what I say we talk about the problem but focus on the solution like if you're just going to therapy to vent about how terrible the world is how terrible your relationship is and you're not doing anything you're not taking any of that advice and using it out in the real world then you are wasting a bunch of time all right like when I always teach people in treatment is that the groups that we do the classes that we do the one-on-one sessions that we do those are not the important part of treatment the most important part of treatment is before and after how are you dealing with the people in your life how are you dealing with your parents how are you dealing with your husband or wife or significant other how are you dealing with your co-workers how are you dealing with your siblings like you could sit there and listen to me talk in front of a group for hours on end but if you're not taking what I teach you and using it out in the real world it is a waste of time all right so that that is just one gripe that I have because I see some youtubers who are always talking about therapy but I don't see them saying like oh my therapist taught me this grounding technique or oh my therapy gave me this really cool journaling exercise like I never see that like when you watch Jason and Trisha throughout this video neither one of them say hey honey remember what the therapist told us right David it was it was so scary that at one point I actually just started laughing like I she almost won me over with how crazy it was like I almost went to her side to the dark side and was and just completely flipped and was like all right let's just be crazy together but then I stopped and I was like no that right there is proof of not only how crazy Jason is but how crazy I used to be like I had to include this clip because like I got the chills I just got the chills again thinking about it like this is why I was in no position to be in a relationship because the crazier a woman acted the more I was attracted to her like you guys I hope you're paying attention to me that is not how normal people think the crazier you act the more emotionally or or or verbally or even potentially physically abusive you are the more I'm attracted to you like we gotta pump the brakes like this is where self-awareness comes in this is why we gotta this is where we gotta sit down and say whoa this is not normal this is not healthy I should not be attracted to somebody for acting crazy right like there is a story that I'm not going to share right now but it was one of my biggest moments of clarity and I'm like I am messed up because this woman who I was talking to we weren't even like officially dating and she would just act completely bananas and I'm like I love this so much that I'm like wait this is not healthy right and luckily me and her never got into a relationship and now I'm dating the beautiful Tristan but anyways I want you to step back and take a look at that in your own life are you like extremely attracted to people who are emotionally abusive or verbally abusive by the way I will link up in the info card a video I did a while back as a follow-up to my one of my first Jason Nash and Trisha Paytas videos the the video was called why you date who you date it is a worksheet that my mom who's a psychologist gave to me and I use it in treatment she uses it with her clients so if you're curious as to why you are attracted to these things make sure you go check out that video wait why did you almost call the police I'm not gonna say she can say if she wants I'm not gonna throw her into the bus I literally didn't do anything I mean what she did like wasn't that bad I was blocking the door for an hour and a half I sat there he went into that bathroom and I sat there but then she sat right here wait wait she sat here like a prison guard and I was like Trisha get out of the way I'm going home I want to go home I need some time to myself she's like no no holy is this true and this this scene right here is why I titled the video I'm worried about Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash like that's not cool like this that that's not cool like Trisha has admitted that she's been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder um Jason has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and when it gets to a point where people are like blocking doors and stuff like that especially based on the fact that they shouldn't be dating anyways like like that's not that's not good it's not cool it is not healthy in any way shape or form I almost made a video talking about how I think David Dobrik is enabling both of them but I don't think he is I think David David is really real about the situation but he's a good listener as well and um he tries to lighten up situations if you want me to make a video about David Dobrik as the friend of somebody with a crazy crazy friends who have a relationship let me know because a lot of you watching this are not in a crazy relationship but you're observing your friend in a crazy relationship so if you want me to make that video let me know but anyways if it gets to this point where people are blocking doors and you think that you have to call 911 and all of this like just let you know that is not healthy all right and it blows my mind watching these two sit down with somebody like Katie Morton and just breeze over all of those things yeah we just kind of argue every now and then like no another thing that will waste your time in therapy like some some people ask me like what's your best tip for my first session of therapy be honest be 1000% honest tell them everything tell them every single thing on earth all right you have an hour with that person I know a lot of us like to like to tiptoe around and like feel the therapist out and let them feel us out a little bit no go in there and say listen I'm in a relationship it seems crazy as hell I need you to tell me if this is normal I need you to tell me if I need to get out like that's what a therapist is for like don't go in there sugarcoating and BS save that for social media and the the view you want to give other people of what your relationship looks like how you're all happy and everything's amazing but when you go into a therapy session tell them the gods on its truth okay anyways like this got me pretty heated like a huge part of mental health is your relationship guys and like people are sitting around millions of people are watching Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash and I think I think a lot of people are justifying their insane toxic relationships by watching people like this and that's one of the reasons why I make these videos because again this video isn't for Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash this video is for you all right but anyways let me know down in the comments below like your thoughts your experience toxic relationships let answer the question I asked you at the beginning of this video have you wasted months or even years with somebody waiting around for them to change all right let me know down in the comments anyways I need to get back to writing my book so if you liked this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you 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