 So if you've been following me you know that one of my main goals and challenges in life has been trying to figure out how to have that 10 out of 10 success in all the quadrants of your life. How to be more successful while also feeling well internally and also really just kind of becoming the kind of person you want to be in all the different aspects of life. But in this video I want to share a really interesting reflection I had this morning about why so many of us fail to reach our goals and the three-part approach that I think is really really necessary. Hey guys, Alex Hine, author of the personal development book Master of the Day. So I've included the first link below this video is for a free journaling worksheet that'll help you figure out exactly how to get your life together and plot the next steps going forward to reinvent yourself and design your dream life. So it is the first link below this video you can check it out you'll also get an email every week. So first I want to show you the thing I was reflecting on this morning. This morning I was just kind of reflecting and I was trying to figure out what really made the difference on the years of my life where all of my dreams came true and on the years of my life where I applied the manifesting principles hard or hustle hard and nothing happened. So check this out here I was writing this down and I wrote down based on all I've learned studied and failed here's my current algorithm for fulfilled success that enlivens the spirit meaning success that does not result in you feeling worse internally because you're not pushing all the time. All right I wrote down the first is your beliefs which really make you believe in limitless possibilities and this results in exponential manifesting. So the speed you reach the goal and the size of the goal you can reach. The second is your ability to trust and recognize your intuition and you recognize it because you are drawn and intensely excited. This leads to what Paulo Coelho calls finding your personal legend and I think of it as Dharma like a divine purpose. And then finally you have to change daily rituals which is something about the way you fundamentally act on a daily basis and these lead to habit and character change. So this is like the three part system the inner and the outer. Let's talk about these a little bit more because I think this was really really enlightening when I thought of it. Reflecting on my most successful years in terms of feeling well and being outwardly productive I noticed three main trends and you tend to see most people on YouTube or most personal development people only focus on one of these. So the three are first belief work second Dharma and personal legend I'll leave it at that generally and the third is really habit and character change. So when it comes to belief work the point of belief work is that it leads to exponential manifesting right you can even put belief work that category as the manifesting content you see on the internet. I knew this girl when I was 16 who was an absolutely stunning girl any way you cut the cake beautiful like a model incredibly smart the best in her class she conducted herself well she was a virtuous woman and she was fun and playful she had it all. Everyone was into this girl but because of her family life her dad who was a drunken police officer he'd come home and he just was not happy and would yell at his family and would hit his wife and he just drank a lot. This girl who was an absolute one in a million unfortunately her self-image was that she was garbage because her dad the man in her life didn't treat her like she was somebody special didn't praise her for being good at sports and being smart in school and working hard and conducting herself well instead pretty much everything that she heard from him was a criticism why aren't you doing this you're not doing enough get me all this and so her internalized self-image was one of someone who's not that desirable despite the fact that she was brilliant and looked like a model and was sweet and fun the girl didn't have a flaw you could find but her self-perception was in the garbage and so every guy that this girl ended up dating was so surprising just these bummy dudes no careers smoking cigarettes hanging outside school just like the degenerate archetype for this girl that any guy in school would have killed to be with but her self-perception her belief was that her value is down here and everyone else was up here and so that directly created her life and you see this in the same way that people who tend to be at the lower end of the job spectrum almost never tend to apply for jobs that are higher paying because they think i'm worth entry level right we always think i'm worth entry level rather than i'm willing to work to get paid double entry level so the first is that this idea of manifesting and belief work all of what it is is that we get what we believe if i believe i don't deserve an amazing woman in my life all of my behaviors will sabotage the ability to get an amazing woman if i don't believe i'm worth six figure income all of my habits will betray me and they will not let me have that goal occur in my life so the beauty of the belief work the manifesting work whatever you want to call it is that you psychologically prime yourself for this one belief which is that anything is possible at any time so beliefs specifically influence the speed you reach your dream and the size of your dream that you reach with the same amount of work now the second essential concept is that you might have heard this idea of just working hard grinding follow blah blah blah but there's another refined nuance where people say follow inspired or excited ideas it's really really fascinating when you hear the stories of some great people throughout history whether it's robert frost or emerson thorough some of these great poets and zen masters throughout history that they tried so hard to be successful and then when they finally said screw it i'm just going to follow what i internally feel is right and speaks to me and excites me and then their careers exploded you know robert frost and thorough i think it was robert frost specifically but two of these creative types had moved to new york city because they had believed that like all these other big creatives in new york you gotta move to new york to make your dreams happen and guess what their dreams didn't happen and it wasn't until they ended up going to the remote farm to work on their work their dharma their purpose what excited them not what they thought they should have done that they had the most productive career most productive output of their entire life and so there's this idea paulo quello was interviewed by opra the author of the alchemist and he said that you know you are betraying your personal legend when you do not feel enthusiasm and excitement about your life i have found that some of the things i have pushed the hardest at only exploded when i was drawn to something and i trusted that intuitive feeling it's that feeling where you date someone and there's a mutual draw and it just works there are hiccups there are weird awkward moments but it just works that's what it feels like when you are kind of on the right track when you're following your bliss as joseph campbell says when you're following that right track of your dharma you're drawn you're no longer pushing or having to fight with resistance now the third part is really habit and character change i'm not here telling you that you can visualize a book and your book will write itself i know that because i've written multiple books and none of them were written that way no one would tell you if you're diabetic to not change what you eat or do an exercise you know if you wanted to get a girlfriend or get a boyfriend yes do all the inner belief work but what's going to work visualizing that or putting yourself out there more if you want to write a book what's going to work thinking about my book all day praying for it or spending one hour a day writing a thousand words a day and if you want to take that amazing vacation what's going to work trying to manifest it or putting away two dollars a day in that rainy day jar there's no way to get around the fact that on some level you're always going to be doing something most likely there is synchronicity there is magic in life but if i'm willing to bet my life on what it takes to really be successful it would be these three pieces together it would be the belief work which is anything is possible at any time it would be figuring out what is my dharma or my purpose what does my gut really say if i shut out the world and the third would be if i had to change one fundamental habit i did every day what would that be and i found that following this three-part series has been the most effective way to really turn a non-material dream into a reality consistently for almost any quadrant of your life so i hope that helps you guys i think this is really important because most people focus on just manifesting just hard work or just something in between expecting magic to happen but i've only seen that it happens when you combine all three of these so i hope it helps try it out and again download the free goal setting uh journaling worksheet beneath this video it can help you plan out exactly what to do to reach that next stage in your life check it out down there below and i have two recent videos on this topic right over here