 Why do narcissists mistreat you? Why do they treat you badly, cruelly or unfairly? Why do they cause pain and suffering to you without feeling any concern about it? Why don't they behave according to the principles of equality and justice? Covert narcissists mistreat you because in their minds they believe that they are the victims. They believe that they are at risk of danger or harm. They believe that they have been tricked or duped. They feel helpless and unable to defend themselves. As though they are experiencing misfortune or ill treatment. They believe that the situation or environment is unfair. This is their justification or excuse to mistreat you. This is what makes them think that it is okay. Although they may seem forceful and aggressive. They really believe that they are defending themselves. They really believe that they are protecting themselves from danger or harm. Even if there seems to be no real perceivable threat to you. Covert narcissists feel vulnerable. They feel as though they are constantly exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed either physically or emotionally. They feel as though they are constantly experiencing some form of abuse or neglect. They need special care, support or protection because they feel like they are constantly at risk. They can take up a lot of your time. You may find that your entire life revolves around the Covert Narcissist. You may find that you are waiting on them hand and foot. Doing everything for them serving their every need. But nothing will ever be enough for them. They will never be satisfied. No matter how much you do for them. It will always be taken for granted. They will always demand that you do more and more for them. Until you have no time for yourself. Until your entire life revolves around them. But you could spend years of your life fulfilling their every need. And they will still turn around and say you did nothing for them. They are ungrateful and unappreciative. But this has nothing to do with you. It's not that you didn't do enough for them. Nothing could ever be enough for them. Because they don't feel enough for themselves. They don't feel capable or secure enough on their own. Which is why they require constant physical and emotional support. But no matter what you do for them. They will always feel like you are against them. They will always feel like you should be doing more. They will never be grateful or appreciative for what you have done for them. Because they have a strong sense of entitlement. They believe that they are inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. They believe that they are stuck in an unfair situation or environment. They are arrogant. They believe that they have superior importance or rights. To the point where they become overbearingly assuming. Insolently proud. Showing a rude and arrogant lack of respect towards you. Ill-mannered. Impudent. Not behaving well in social situations. Because they believe that they are superior to you. They believe that they are more important than you are. They feel entitled to special rights, advantages or immunities. But this is all just a cover up. For how they really feel about themselves. Deep down they feel weak and inferior. They feel as though they are not good enough for you. But they have to trick you into believing that you are beneath them. Just to keep you around. If you knew your true worth. You would be wondering what you are even doing around them. You would realize that you are the one who is experiencing a lack of fairness or justice. But they don't want you to realize that. Which is why any time that you do experience an act of injustice. They will ignore it or act as though you deserved it. They will make excuses or justifications for their behavior. Reasons for why they did what they did. They always have an excuse for how they treat you. But there is no excuse. Abuse is wrong. And nobody deserves to be treated that way. You deserve love and respect. You deserve to be valued and appreciated. And that is why the COVID narcissist has to keep you around. Because they recognize your value. They recognize that they need you. But they cannot give you the proper value and respect that you deserve. Because they would be allowing you to reside over them. They don't want you to reside over them. They want to have power over you. They want to be the ones that make decisions. They want to direct your behavior and the course of events. So they have to keep you in a state where you constantly doubt yourself. Doubting your worth. Making you believe that you are deserving of ill treatment. Never allowing you to recognize your true worth and power. Narcissists mistreat you. When they are not getting what they want. They believe that it makes them the victims. And as victims. They believe that they have the right to defend themselves. In any desire they choose to. Regardless of how it affects you. Regardless of the damage they cause. All that matters is them getting their way. Them getting what they want. Because they are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They do not have the mental capacity to consider you. Because they are constantly in survival mode. They constantly feel at risk of unfair treatment. They always want more. And they are never satisfied. The worst thing you can do in these situations. Is to cave in and comply with that every demand. You will be given their permission to treat you as their doormat. And as their personal punching bag. They will become used to using you. To meet their every need. And they will become used to using you for emotional support. But they will never value or respect you. Because in their minds. Anyone who hands over their treasure. Without expecting anything in return. Is a fool. In their minds. That is someone who is not worthy of respect. They see your kindness as a weakness. And they will exploit it. They will try to milk as much out of you as they can. While making you believe that you do nothing. And using that as an excuse to mistreat you. And expect more from you. But it will never be enough. They will never be satisfied. They will always expect a higher standard from you. Because they expect more from you. Than they expect from themselves. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate. My pay-up and link is in the video description. Couching and Crying is a good name for me. And I ask for your coaching at gmail.com. Thank you for watching. And I'll talk to you soon.