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My email address is in the video description If you would like to make a donation You can do this through the live chat or through my PayPal link, which is in the video description Narciss hate love Many victims of Narciss to abuse Believe that they can love the Narciss into loving them But this never works The Narciss was abused and neglected as a child Every day for many years they were told that they are not good enough for anyone or anything It was drilled into their heads daily that they are not lovable They do not deserve to be loved When you try to love the Narciss, it's an insult to them It may even cause a Narcissic injury The reason for this is because what you are doing is basically too little too late The Narciss is thinking in their minds Where were you when I needed you as though They expected you to know exactly what they wanted at a specific time and place before you even met When you try to love the Narciss, it triggers them to reflect on specific times and places Where they really wanted to be loved They really wanted to be accepted but no one was there for them So when you come along many decades later and try to love the Narciss It's a joke It's an insult Because in the Narciss mind They have been waiting there for years and you never showed up when you try to love them You are displaying something they wanted for a very long time and never had It's as though you are peeling off the scab from their wound The Narciss was once a child who wanted nothing more than to feel loved and accepted by their Narcissic parent They did everything they could in an attempt to win their approval They may have done everything the Narcissic parent wanted Worked hard in school Cleaned the home and made dinner These are all attempts to win the Narcissic parents approval Of course Narciss take everything for granted They can never be satisfied or fulfilled and nothing is ever enough for them So when the child did something to win the Narcissic parents approval Such as working hard in school and Getting a B in an exam The Narcissic parent is not thinking about how great it is that you got a B They are thinking that you are not good enough because you didn't get an A Even if you did get an A They might be mildly satisfied with that But once you've got it They are already thinking about what you need to achieve next And that A is quickly forgotten about so the Narciss as a child was constantly chasing the approval of their Narcissic parent Something which is impossible to achieve They wanted nothing more than to feel loved and accepted by their Narcissic parent decades later You come along and try to love the Narciss It's a joke to them an insult They become frustrated and resentful towards you Like they probably were as a teenager towards their Narcissic parent Because it's too little too late They needed that love and acceptance a long time ago Narciss also have a deep hatred Towards people of the opposite sex This is due to a trauma they experienced when they were younger Which they never reflected on or try to resolve Since then they have decided that all men or women are this way. It's a learned behavior Where they have assumed that love is just something you use to get what you want It's not something meaningful or something you take seriously They see it as a weakness Something to be exploited to extract whatever it is that you want from that person Due to their traumas They have become self-absorbed and now lack empathy They don't care about what anyone else wants So the only way the Narciss is going to stick around Is if you give them what they want whether it's money material things or sex Giving them love isn't going to work Because it will only be seen as a joke or an insult And will likely cause the Narcissic injury When you try to love the Narciss it is seen as a weakness To be loved is to be known accepted and understood The Narciss believes that they are beyond human understanding They are too complex to be accepted by you when you try to love the Narciss You are threatening their belief of being unique in the Narciss mind They are thinking that anyone can have love Anyone can be loved Even animals The Narciss looks down on these weak vulnerable people Trying to love each other And how they do not require such basic standard emotions or qualities Which everyone else so desperately desires As I said earlier The Narciss does not believe that they are lovable The Narcissic parents put downs and criticisms were programmed into their minds as a child As the Narciss got older They developed an inner dialogue or inner critic You may tell the Narciss that you love them But the Narciss does not hear in what you are saying All they are hearing in their minds is their own inner voice Which may be saying that they are worthless and insignificant It triggers them to reflect on all of their faults mistakes and securities flaws and imperfections Reminding them that they are not good enough They are not worthy or deserving of love this may not have anything to do with your motive You may be trying to tell them that you love them, but the Narciss cannot hear what you are saying Because they have been listening to that internal dialogue their entire lives They don't really care about what your motive is What matters is what they are hearing in their own minds So you could try to explain to them that you do not hate them and your motives are not negative But it's not going to affect how they see you They are not going to believe what you are saying to them because of the internal dialogue The inner critic in their minds The Narciss cannot accept being treated respectfully by you It makes them feel uncomfortable They expect to be treated bad or in a negative way It's as though they are almost waiting for you to act in this way towards them This is why they will appear to push and provoke you for no reason Their inner dialogue or inner critic will even devalue you and focus on your faults mistakes flaws insecurities and imperfections Now you are not good enough for them You are not worthy or deserving of their love They do not feel comfortable with you liking or respecting them They do not feel comfortable with liking or respecting you It goes against their internal dialogue. They're inner critic It goes against what they were told by the Narciss's parent Which is now what they believe about themselves So they will push and provoke you To fulfill their expectation of you treating them bad or in a negative way It eases the tension within them It makes them feel more comfortable Their disorder is fixed in such a perfect way Where the exact things that they need to hear from you The exact things that they need to understand Which would override their internal dialogue or inner critic are the exact things that the disorder Has been programmed to deny and block out the most When the Narciss witnesses a person display love to someone else Whether it's someone in their family or a person they don't know This will cause a Narciss to gingery The Narciss is pathologically envious and jealous They might become passive aggressive Or they will plot to separate the family or sabotage and destroy the relationship Because that display of love is triggering the Narciss To reflect on their lack of love for themselves and other people You may believe that you love the Narciss Love is very high on the emotional vibrational frequency chart While Narciss are shame based individuals And shame is the lowest emotional vibrational frequency Which means that there is no way you could really love a Narciss When you are around them you will be pulled down to a low frequency Within the range of fear What you experience with the Narciss was not love It was attachment For love to exist The two people must be self-love abundant And are mostly vulnerable with each other Narciss are predatory Always plotting some form of abuse or manipulation on someone Which means that they are rarely even in the present moment They are always ruminating in the past or anticipating the future This makes it impossible for them to ever experience love Whether it is abuse or manipulation There is no love I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe Thank you for watching