 Because that must mean I don't like him because I don't want to be that That's like a cult That's literally a cult. Yeah after the interview Shane Dawson did with Nick Crumpton the former business manager of team 10 It leaves us asking is team 10 a cult What is up everybody? This is Chris from the rewired Soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel My channel is all about helping you to improve your mental health and what I like to do is I like to take things from the YouTube Community or pop culture and try to use that to teach you how to improve your mental health and a big part of that is Relationships with friends and other people and stuff So if you're into that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos I have been recapping all of the Shane Dawson episodes and Talking about different mental health subjects But before I get started with this video and talking about the cult aspects and friendship and things like that I do want to give a shout out to Danielle right here. Check this out. She tagged me on Instagram me and her We're actually matching today. We're both wearing the same rewired soul shirt I will provide a link to the shop or you can check the description. But yeah, my beautiful girlfriend Tristan She made a bunch of designs. So go check it out tag me on Instagram if you end up getting one or a coffee mug There's also coffee mugs. All right, so anyways the enemies of Jake Paul Shane interviewed Nick Crompton and I want to focus on the part where Nick talks about how pretty much the way that team 10 Operates they sever ties with anybody who leaves and Jake might take a personally and all of that now I just want to touch on this. I I Shane like I don't know It's interesting to me with all the reviews and like people are saying like oh Shane like made you know episode 2 way too Dramatic like listen listen that Shane that's just what he is and like so I'm not gonna like harp on him Like one of the pet peeves I have is like when people call things cults and I'll explain that towards the end of the video But like that's just what Shane did like Shane's like oh that sounds like a cult This sounds like a cult like you're either with us or you're against us when you leave you disassociate You don't talk to them like he blocked me He wouldn't talk to me that is he did he cut communication from Tessa and all the other people that love And that's like a cult like it like the aspect of it sounds like the aspect of the cults, but it's not a freaking cult But more importantly like the topic I want to bring up with you is like these these kind of severing ties relationships because I I can definitely relate to that And I'm somebody who has trust issues and I don't let people get in too close because I've been hurt like that So when it comes to Jake Paul and team 10, it's hard to say without knowing them Why why it is like why it is that they do that Jake in his case from what I've seen it seems like an ego problem It really does seem like an ego problem but I think most of us like me and you we deal with this in a different way and The best thing I can relate it to is like work, right? One of my personal experiences that I had was at a job I had before the treatment center the place I was working. I worked there for a while It was the first job I had after getting sober and like man Like I built like really strong relationships with the people there I worked there for about a year and a half almost two years and we built really strong relationships Like we hung out outside of work and we didn't just talk about work like, you know They would invite me to holiday parties and like, you know, we would hang out and just all of that and When I ended up Leaving that company I was like I was shocked and hurt because So many people just would not talk to me like they wouldn't talk to me and it it hurt so so so much And I'm like, okay. Well, this is why I don't get close to people because I don't want to get hurt And like that's not healthy for us. You know what I mean? So what one of the things I want to say is, you know, especially looking at somebody like Nick Crumpton and things like that If any of you deal with this in your life like with kind of like clicks or little groups Or even if it's work like there's an old saying that when people show you who they are Believe them. That's really important. So like I want you to evaluate the certain friendships that you have like Like don't think for one minute if you have somebody in your circle who's treating somebody else poorly And maybe it's cutting off a friendship or never talking to them again Like don't think that they won't do that to you in a heartbeat Like I made a video not long ago about Elle Mills and terminal uniqueness. This is a great example Like oh, it wouldn't happen to me. That would never happen to me. A great example is a Relationship, let's say a relationship where you got with somebody and the way you started that relationship was them cheating on somebody else Right and you're like, oh, well, they would never do that to me and then later down the line They cheat on you like no they showed you who they were Believe them. All right Um, I could do a million videos about trust issues What I what I would say is is this like my standard my standard of people who are close to me. It's pretty high It's pretty high. I'm a very sociable Charismatic outgoing guy, but I have very few people who I keep close to me Um, I would say the only time that this would affect you negatively and your mental health is if it's becoming Isolative if it's fueling your depression But the best suggestion I have for you like is to take baby steps with trust like let people in a little bit Have them earn your trust let people in a little bit more have them earn your trust and things like that Because if we keep this wall up constantly like isolation Isolation is just the worst thing you can do for your depression You have to have people who you can turn on not turn on that'd be bad turn two and that can be through Facebook groups If you don't have people like in your area or like look on meet up calm whatever it is Like I have a lot of friends who I've met through gaming and like we're close But we're not like super close, you know, but I have conversations with them a lot, but I think it's important to Recognize like when this is happening to other people and that's that's a good time for you to evaluate like is this a good Friendship or relationship that I want to be in right now, right? So the other thing that Shane kind of brought up was like the rules the rules of the house, but I in my years on YouTube I've never seen a squad Have a house have rules. That was another thing. I hit a bunch of rules or something In the beginning but they They were encouraging people to be better. It all feels very And he said, yeah, there's like rules. That's kind of like cultish. No, it's not Like I would imagine like that's a smart move You have a bunch of young people moving into a house like you want rules So I did not go to treatment. I did not go to a drug and alcohol rehab center when I got sober I went through a sober living home. Those of you who don't know what that is It's a house. It can be owned by a company or by a person and it's where sober people live people trying to Stay clean and sober and there were rules That's the way it was. There were rules. There were guidelines. It was to keep order in it It was to make sure that people cleaned up after themselves and all sorts of stuff So I'm not really surprised about rules even though Nick kind of said, you know That was just mainly for the beginning but yeah, like Rules are there for a reason and I know a lot of us like hate rules But like if you're somebody like me, especially people like who are in recovery from addiction like especially early recovery like We're not very responsible people like I hate to tell you but I tell my clients this all the time like we're not that responsible We need rules. We need guidelines. Like I hated it. I hated having a daily chore I hated having to make my bed. I hated having a curfew and all these other things But like left to my own devices in early recovery. I would have been a hot mess I would have I would have done all sorts of crazy things like I might have gone out and relapsed I would have hung out with the wrong people and all sorts of stuff. So Here's my little thing about colts. All right, and this video is gonna take a turn But surprise we're gonna talk 12-step recovery So I have a whole playlist about like getting clean and addiction and 12-step programs But you know my relationship to 12-step programs has changed over the years I'm not as active as I used to be for different reasons. Maybe I'll make some videos about that But one of my main gripes is when people say That 12-step programs are like a cult. I'm like you are out of your mind like the reason why this is a pet pee for me is because like there's a few things I'm fascinated with okay One of them is serial killers. The other one is colts like there are some great documentaries Like I don't know if you watch that documentary Wild Wild Country on Netflix. That's a cult. All right there's also this great show on Hulu called the path or did any of you watch that one show with Kevin Bacon called the following and it was like that was perfect for me Because it was like serial killers combined with a cult very interesting stuff So when people say like 12-step programs are like a cult like they are out of their minds like Like when Shane was talking about this and like oh, you know, it's kind of like a cult like Colts like either sever ties with you or they try to like chase you down and get you to come back and stuff like that like if I miss 12-step meetings like nobody comes looking for me like I'm on my own You know like well, I will I will say this and this is for any of you out there Who are in recovery or you know somebody in recovery? I share this story, okay? Like it's important to understand that every 12-step fellowship every 12-step meeting is gonna be different And I like using my platform to share about this like I want to educate people about this a lot of people Do not go to 12-step programs because of misconceptions and all sorts of stuff so Every every fellowship is different and there was one fellowship. I was going to which I loved I loved it It was every single Friday night. I absolutely loved it no matter how my day was going in early recovery I knew I can go to that meeting on a Friday and somebody was gonna say some stuff in there That just really lifted me up and gave me motivation gave me inspiration, you know, like it was amazing Absolutely love that group, but I wasn't like too involved with it. I just went to the meetings Well, as I started to meet people and know people like they were for a bat lack of better words And here's me being hypocritical they were running their specific fellowship like a cult right in certain aspects in certain aspects They were running it like a cult. Um, just for example, I remember them just saying people were no longer welcome at the meetings And I just completely disagreed with that. I'm like, are you serious right now? Like are you serious like these are people who are fighting to stay alive and you are not welcoming them back to the meeting And it was for stupid stupid stuff like one guy just did something That is sponsored told him not to do and this is why I educate people in early recovery about 12-step programs Sponsors are there to give you suggestions only. That's it, you know, like my sponsor for example back in the day You gave me a ton of suggestions. Some of them I took some of them I threw in the garbage, you know But he didn't just like banned me from like a meeting. You know what I mean, but I told this story because okay, so here's a great example Yesterday I made a video about better help and this conspiracy that better help is a scam Like I'll always be honest with you guys I'll always be honest like I'll be honest that some 12-step meetings suck So, you know what I did I was in a city with probably a hundred meetings a week So I just quit going to that meeting. That's it. Like I was fighting to stay alive I wasn't gonna let this one meeting take this thing that I had away from it I was gonna let one meeting lead me back out so I don't have a son anymore So I don't have my life anymore. So I lose my family again You know what I mean like in early recovery I get it too because I used to be the type of person where I was just waiting I was waiting for somebody to give me an excuse to just leave and never ever ever come back again So I just want to let you know so like I know a lot of you who are new to my channel You are not addicts or alcoholics in recovery. You know, I do kind of a broader kind of Mental health discussion on my channel, but like I think it's important to learn this stuff because addiction Effects one out of every 12 people in the world, right? So if you know 12 people, you know an addict or an alcoholic So now you have just a little bit of knowledge that you can keep in your pocket So the addict or alcoholic in your life and they're trying to say oh 12-cent meetings are like a bar Right and all that nonsense you link them to this video or you haven't shoot me an email and I'll drop some knowledge on them All right, but let's do this down in the comments below like going back to the whole like severing ties like Have you been a part of any group or or like an experience like mine with work Where after you left people just sever ties with you How did you overcome that? Are you still trying to heal from it? Let's have a conversation down below in the comments. 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