 Hello people! Welcome back to another video. Today we're going to be talking about suicide. It's a bit of a sensitive topic, I realize that, and it's definitely gonna be demonetized by YouTube because they don't like that kind of stuff. It's not good for advertisers, but I'm gonna do it anyway because it's a topic that's quite, it's quite close to my heart. I've had quite a lot of experience with suicidal thoughts. I have it on a daily basis to be honest the past seven, eight years of my life. I'm 21 now, so I started when I was about 13 or 14 to have quite recurrent suicidal thoughts and I've had attempts in the past. So today I'm gonna go through the main reasons why people commit suicides. I'm gonna set it out in a couple of different points. This video is basically just an important set of things for you to try and regulate if you are suicidal and it also gives you some points if you're someone that you love or someone that you're friends with, suffers with suicidal thoughts and how to help them in those key points and those key areas in order to make sure or help keep them alive, which is the main important thing in this video. So the first aspect of suicide usually comes from pain. So when you're very severely depressed your poor mental health manifests as actual physical pain. It's not like any sort of pain that you could describe in like other sort of terms, so it's not like a physical pain that is very easy to locate where you're in pain but when you're severely depressed your whole body just sort of feels like you're you know you're suffering or you're like bleeding out or something but it's really difficult to describe. This is one of the main reasons why people want to end their life because it's a very uncomfortable thing and the issue with it is that depending on how long you've had it for and depending on severe your depression is the pain can be, it can interact with the negative force that you have about the future in yourself and make you feel like you want to end it. It's just insufferable and it's prolonged and it's all the time from the minute you wake up to the minute you go to sleep sometimes it goes up and down in waves but it's always there and it's very difficult to live with that. There is a crossover between chronic pain and depression this is because it's sort of the same thing it's sort of a withstanding long physical or mental pain that makes you feel like you can't do anything about it and it's it's horrible and it impacts your daily life and your ability to do things, your ability to enjoy things because even if you're having fun you've still got that sort of background dull indescribable pain in your in your body and your mind that you can't really get rid of. A lot of people who don't understand depression very readily compare it with being sad. I could tell you that being sad is completely different to being depressed. Being sad does not give you that sort of horrible pain that you get with depression. Sadness can also feel quite cathartic especially if it's you release it and you cry but with depression it's it's very difficult to cry because it sort of keeps you under a level so if you imagine this being the level where you're gonna cry and you're gonna release it and feel good after and feel sort of cathartic about it depression sort of stays under that and just keeps prolonging itself for days and days and years and months and it can be very very difficult to combat but there are a lot of ways that you can combat this sort of physical pain. This is through things like exercise and you know laughter and socializing and distractions so those are sort of the the main things that help you deal with that that pain as well as um psychotic medications um antidepressants they can they can help a bit with that. Not entirely but you know it's from person to person it may may work very heavily for some people and for other people it may just sort of dull it down a little bit. You know a lot of people who are depressed they tend to to drugs and alcohol and unhealthy ways of coping with it in order to get rid of that pain. The dopamine rush that you get from from drugs and alcohol and and whatever sort of mitigates the pain that you feel and that's why a lot of people turn to that but there are other ways of dealing with that stuff you know the supplements and exercise and as I said laughter and stuff like that. The next point is an issue with hope and is an issue with positivity. When you've had depression for a long time your brain changes. Depression changes your brain in the short term when you have it but if you have it for prolonged periods of time you sort of associate yourself with that that depressive feeling and a lot of the thoughts that you have the negative thoughts that you have about the future and your hope that you're going to get better and the hope that you're going to be successful and have relationships and friendships it can sort of be very ingrained in your mind because especially when you you're suffering for a long time you have it's it's sort of um it's sort of self-fulfilling because you're depressed and you're hopeless about it so you don't do anything about it and then that sort of tells your brain because that you you can't you can't get out of it and there's there's no point so ways that ways to cope with that if you are depressed um is to and I know I'm not going to say to think positively because it's a very difficult thing to do when you're depressed and you can you obviously if you if you've talked to people about it before and psychiatrists and counselors they'll say try and think positively and it can seem very condescending but the main thing to do is to try and not mitigate those negative thoughts because it's very difficult to not not do that but try and slip in a few positive thoughts even if it even if it kills you to slip those little positive thoughts in there and try and like build up your your natural reaction to to issues and life events um by doing it on a regular basis and you can it can actually help and a little bit with that another thing to do with that is making sure that you make promises the promises that you make to yourself you're going to do them um so this means don't make promises to yourself and know that it's a very difficult thing to do and not do it because you're teaching yourself that you can't have control over yourself the other aspect of that is making sure that the things that you do are very very small um and they gradually increase and as you as your depression sort of alleviates and making sure that you do those things each time you do that you tell yourself that you can overcome it and that you can have control over yourself that it can make you feel a bit more hope in yourself a bit more confidence in yourself that you can do with it and it's it can be very invaluable things try and try and learn to do um especially with myself i've had a lot of times where i promised myself that i do these remarkable things and sometimes i achieve them because i put the work in and sometimes i don't and there's times that i don't really not my confidence in myself and it can exacerbate a lot of the negative feelings about the future and hope and it's a very important aspect of why people commit suicide because obviously if they're if they're gone if they're not alive anymore then they're not going to have all those those thoughts and they feel like that's the only way to get out of it because it's not going to go away because that's how they think and they think negatively and they don't have any hope about the future and it's it's a very difficult place to be the third point is this is one of the big big sort of things is a belief in in some positive things about yourself this can come in many many sort many forms a lot of the time a lot of depressed people if they have that pain and they have the no hope about the future there's there's something else that really keeps them keeps them from doing it and that's a belief that them being around is going to be positive for the people around them for example if you don't feel good about yourself and you don't feel like your ending your life is going to affect people in in any sort of way and you may even believe that if you kill yourself it's going to positively affect people because they will have to deal with you or if you feel like you're a horrible person you need to do bad things and then when people and if people reinforce that and you know get annoyed that you can get upset at you it can really sort of exacerbate the the feelings that you you'd be better off better for people and that you weren't alive this is is one of the sort of last things that you need to kind of keep the check on this is one of the things that other people can help with a lot the way that if you're trying to help someone who is suicidal the way that you can help with this is by telling them that they are a good person and that they can do things these are these are called positive affirmations when you're depressed you're very susceptible to other people and other people's opinions of yourself so if someone that loves them quite a lot or is a good friend of them it tells them they're a good person and tells them that they bring positive positiveness to their life and other people and you know if you if you're in a job you can help people you know if you're a scientist or you social media or or media if if you if they believe that having them being around is helping people and people like having them around then it can put a stopper on their desires to kill themselves if you're suicidal yourself you can help with this as well an important thing to do when you're depressed is to try and keep up your morality and your view of yourself you can't be going around doing stuff that's bad for other people you need to sort of try as much as you can to be sustaining and doing doing positive things like helping other people you know for example with myself i started a youtube channel because i was incredibly depressed and in a very bad suicidal state and i felt like i wasn't helping anybody and i wasn't any good in the world and having that sort of mindset where having you being around helps other people and people appreciate you and appreciate the effort that you put in it can make you feel like there's a point to being around even if you don't enjoy life even if you're in pain so that's sort of the end of the video i'm just going to conclude it a little bit so it's sort of like a triad if you think about it you've got the reasons why people kill themselves the things that keep them around and the things that if they're not you know reinforced positively and in each sort of section of the of the triad it can lead to somebody firstly being in a lot of pain secondly not feeling any hope not feeling like they could get better feeling like suicides are the only option and then the last thing which is the opinion of themselves and whether it's good for them to live and whether people want them to live and whether they feel like they're negatively affecting someone's life either people around them or positively affecting someone's life if you're trying to take care of someone who or trying to support someone with mental health issues taking into account that triad that those sort of free things and trying to alleviate that and trying to focus on that even the just the last bit just the last bit about making them feel like they're worth having around can do wonders for people this is where where support network's people come in talking to people who are depressed telling them that they can do it and they're worth having around and people are not going to feel positively if they die and it may seem like a very obvious thing to you but depression changes your brain very heavily and that sort of image of of helping people and feeling like you bring you bring positivity and joy to someone's life other than yourself can keep people around as I said talk to people positively give them give them positive affirmations make sure that they feel like they are a good person and that they're worth having around and it can do immense wonders for you know suicide prevention I know it's been a bit of an intense video there's been a lot of videos recently about depression and and suicide on my channel I realize it's a pretty heavy subject and not many people are very they don't particularly want to watch this kind of stuff but if you if you're depressed this is this is for you guys if you're considering suicide this is for you guys I know it's incredibly it's words cannot describe how horrible it is especially if you've been having it for a long time or maybe it's just come out of nowhere and it's really intense working on those things can help a lot and telling each other and sharing this video with people that you know can help a lot for you as well because they'll know what to do and not many people know how to to help with suicide they just turn to the normal things of you know I think positively and you'll be okay and you know all that kind of stuff that doesn't really help so thank you very much for watching it's a little bit of a shorter video than usual I'm trying to shorten my videos down as much as I love talking on the camera and I love just keep it in it going and stack it up the time on the camera and yeah I need to start fixing that stuff don't I if anybody out there who is is is going through a really rough time I'm sort of at the point of my channel where I'm growing but I have the ability to talk to people individually so if you go to my facebook page at Asperdisk Grove just like just like how it is on the youtube channel you can send me an instant message and I'll try and help you as much as I can with that I've got a lot of experience with it and I know it helps and I'll try my best and I do care about you a lot which is why I'm making this video I'm not going to make any money of this it's just for that that purpose if you like the video please do like it it helps a lot with me and it helps me keep going and understand that it is a good video and people want more of this stuff if you subscribe to my channel you know it's growing quite a lot recently and I'm really excited to see how how far I can take it and any sort of support just a little click of the button would mean incredibly so so much to me tell me what you think in the comments let me know what 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