 Why is the Bay Area known to be so bad for dating especially if you're a guy and is there a possible solution to it? Let's delve into it. Dude. There's hella 49ers, bro We got to talk about this because Andrew the Asian male internet is Surprisingly agreeing with this UC Berkeley professor who is under fire for telling guys to get out of artillery range of the range between San Francisco and San Jose because apparently for some reason that people enlisted off a thousand of them It's really bad for dating for guys, right? And this was a white computer science professor at UC Berkeley I believe he's married to an Asian woman from Asia But anyways regardless he came under fire because it was like an inappropriate thing to say and like the the student discord But a lot of people agree because this has been talked about for decades guys Have you heard of 49ers the fours that act like Niners? I listen I'm not saying how true it is, but there's a bunch of reasons why people say it's true We're about to break it down. Make sure you check out small ass us at small ass sauce calm You know it's interesting Andrew because usually like the white guys opinion on dating sometimes There's like going against the Asian guys, but apparently they agree. I've heard the same thing about Seattle I believe it is primarily driven Andrew from the tech industry Which brings a lot more heavy volume distribution of men versus women, right as a result I guess the women get really picky and The guys are just like man. It's just not a fun time to have Also people were talking about how there is a lot of ABG's in the Bay Area But of course if you are not a top ranked Kevin win ABB You have no appeal to the ABG's and that actually hurts it for I guess the nerdy guys who have been there or even like an average guy Another big reason is traffic So I heard this and I've seen this from friends and people with multiple people I've told me this and this is listed that SF residents really only date within San Francisco And that goes the same for Oakland and Berkeley residents too because the traffic can get so bad Is that you you don't want to be 30 45 to five minutes an hour from each other So you're just dating within essentially your borough a lot of people also said that Asian engineers are seen as less Cool than engineers of other races and then a lot of Asian guys dress poorly here because they're engineers And that just confirms and perpetuates pre-existing stereotypes even though in LA That's where all the stylish Asian guys move or New York where that stereotype is more broken in real life Yeah, and they also say there's an imbalance where Nearly 60% of the people in the Bay Area are men meaning that women get to be more picky And if they're more if women get more choices then they're obviously gonna have even a higher standard and you know Gonna get to exercise that and take advantage of that situation right right right It's very interesting to see places Andrew go famous for being bad for dating Seattle the Bay Area And then people actually like lose their careers because they stand on business so bad like this white guy Trying to like say it in the computer science chat Not like by the way, that's an inappropriate place to make that comment right even if the comment was true I'll tell you this I spent a lot of time in the Bay Andrew LA, New York, Seattle, Houston, Texas Dallas Fort Worth DFW and Seattle reminds me of a Bay Area light by the way And I just agree with this guy's breakdown In generality, but I will say that you know, you could optimize it different ways Like if you were to become a club promoter Obviously be a bartender work at a bar You would be trying to optimize for like the pings and ultimately an overall not that optimal fishbowl Right, right. You can optimize. I'm saying for your own individual positioning even within A game that's like not the best game to be playing right Also, I'll say this it's just like colleges. You know how there's party colleges hyper intellectual colleges And there's dry campus colleges that completely have no party seen in America Cities are actually kind of the same way We went to the University of Washington agree with me or not either not famous for partying No, not not a huge party school Yeah, I would say that most people rank UW like a 5.5 out of 10 But yeah, if you were like the best looking guy in the best frat For sure, you probably still had a crazy time. You know what I mean? So there's a lot of individual movement within uh macro narratives Well guys, I'm shocked that when you got a bunch of computer coders and nerds together that it was started to uh Be hard to date because essentially you're meeting The the what is it the Nash equilibrium like not everybody can get the hottest girl If everybody goes for the hottest girl, then nobody gets anything. Um, one thing that I will say is this is that uh His solution Was to just increase your radius So let's say you're using a dating app and you're just looking at like a 20 mile radius in the bay area This guy says the only way to break this dating curse in the bay area is open up your radius to 100 Miles therefore you're matching with girls and women from sam uh from las vegas and la la as well right and la essentially or like All of northern california is no so you have to mong chik extend it To 100 miles is what he said david is that an actual viable solution for most people if they meet somebody 90 miles away I guess If you are gonna stay in the bay area because your parents are there and you just feel so many allegiances that you can't break Then I can see how that's like optimizing for within a situation that's never gonna be great Like I said, um, everybody just said sf sucks for so many reasons san jose to san francisco They call it man jose apparently because of the of the gender disparity Somebody said that you know for me I was able to get abg's once I got really buff and really ripped and I had some tattoos But then I realized they were just liking me for the look because the abg girls wanted to be with a rough buff Tattooed bodybuilder guy, but ultimately my personality was more with the fob girls the international students. Yeah Yeah, that works that happens But but you know what the key was and this guy had the optionality because he was super ripped Yeah, well, they just need to import some more nerdy women from maybe other countries to the bay area somehow I don't know how you're gonna attract them give like, you know what I mean like How do you gonna attract more women to the bay area? And then so if the bay area is a big place that is imbalanced where there's more women than men I mean more men than women Yeah, more men than women than what cities have more women than men new york city and or fashion marketing Lotta lot art art is here Hey, listen guys, stereotypical or not those you look at the stats of those fields There's fields that are heavily men weighted heavily female weighted. It just is what it is still in 2024 Um, somebody said uh, the problem with a lot of nerds are is that they like abgs But abgs are looking for a abb kevin wind type that is high level And they super do not fit what the abgs are looking for but then you got a computer programming guy or a guy Who's like marketing at yelp and wants the abg? Either yo man, you guys got to stop thinking about abgs like this man First of all abg is an aesthetic second of all real abgs do not want your average computer programmer Even if you get 99 times out of a hundred if they get with a coder He's not going to be typical just so you know he coding crypto illegal programs. So please Shut up about that and keep it moving somebody said man I feel like sometimes in the bay area specifically sf white nerds are more sought after than even a slightly cool asian guy Uh, and then people obviously posted the photo of the guy who even said that I will say this that is true Especially in the past. I actually think it's less true I think a white nerd in sf andrew is actually even starting to struggle because like we said andrew not every white nerd Is fred again or diplo like those guys are like kind of nerds because they make music And you know I gotta do all the stuff on the computer Um, somebody just said it's because the nerds mostly chinese guys confirm the stereotypes enough to perpetuate it The uh classic and 70 said nope. It's because you want your parents around and somebody just said man Come to the midwest, bro The midwest is great man because you don't even have to be stylish You just got to be a cool dude with a beer in your hands and then somebody else said come on man Let's be serious the midwest. I don't care if it's free from these dynamics. That's like the last place I would possibly want to live as an asian guy and they went on to name the pros and cons of every region Andrew this guy said if you want to be an asian guy you move to texas houston You got to be sporty and masculine. Would you agree with that? I agree. I agree in the east coast You have to have the mind of an elite school finance, bro Regardless of whatever industry you're in you have to be like you got to be smart witty ambitious in the east coast You have to be like the wolf of wall street of whatever your lane is right Somebody just said midwest horrible to live no asian culture. No asian food. No asian restaurants. No asian communities Somebody said arizona might be underrated the southwest. You like it. Andrew. You've been to arizona a few times phoenix Arizona's not bad And then somebody just said the west coast asian enclaves tend to mimic the worst parts of asia when it comes to materialism And uh, even though they are pretty nice and then the east coast asian conclaves and who feel like ghetto parts of east asia like flushing All right, that's hilarious by the way We always say man you gotta check out the 626 in gabriel valley if you want that easy breezy chinese american life Um, i'll tell you this I think the bay area if you're rich and you're raising a family probably some good systems But if you're a single guy you want to go on five dates a week A bad place to be well, yeah I don't know why you would go to the bay take a high level tech job that's very demanding and think that your dating opportunities are gonna be like Extremely vast like just you have to understand what game you're entering you're entering like coder land Like there's gonna be a lot of smart people. They're doing a lot of great things. They're advancing There's a lot of ai guys You're gonna have a lot of great conversations about everything from crypto to ai to ride sharing to all these different to even a dating app That's based in the bay area. How funny is that? You know, but actually tinder came out of la so that kind of makes sense Right, right, right more of the fun apps come out of la. Um, I would say this Also, there is a lot of different types of people in the bay area But I notice more of the azn like abg abz, you know daily city san osa Whatever you want to call east san osa type they more like stay within their world It's not going to be like, oh, they just met you because you got a uh Degree from northwestern or northeast or they don't care about that Yeah, I would say this if you are a tech guy and you're in the bay and you have a good job And you can do it remotely then obviously spending time in different cities is going to benefit you So then you're still part of the bay area company, but you're actually enjoying the life somewhere else You're saying take advantage of work from home or remote work Yes, but as far as solutions on how to beat the game Extend your radius to a hundred miles is what he said I I couldn't even imagine doing that to be honest for myself But I don't know maybe it works for other people some if you're a good enough product Maybe a girl will drive in from central california. I'll say this a lot of life is about fishbowl positioning Okay, which fishbowl are you putting yourself in or what pool of fish? Are you fishing in here's the thing though? You got to make sure your lures are strong if you want to use the pool analogy And if we're going to be fish living in different fishballs Andrew You still got to fish max and be the strongest fish you can be Regardless of the I mean it's like it's twofold It's the fishbowl positioning, but you got to be a strong fish yourself Whatever that looks like whether that's just optimizing being cooler getting better Stuff that we talk about on this channel and stuff that we review Of course family considerations do will come into play lifestyle friends priority. It really depends It's just all an algorithm with different equation splits. You weigh it all out guys Listen, a lot of asian people get a math. Just do the math make the decisions execute All right, everybody, let us know in the comments down below Is the bay area really that bad for dating and what are some suggestions? Specifically for bay area dating. This is really interesting because uh, I heard Manhattan has more women than men Also, Seattle, I throw Seattle in there as is as suboptimal unless you're born there Oh, you mean as a not a great place to date a great place if you want to date A hundred women in your life before settling down Don't go to the bay or don't go to Seattle unless you're fred again Anyway guys, let us know what you think in the comment section below until next time. We the hop hop boys be out. Peace