 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survival Live video, I've just been walking around this park, I saw some cool birds out here as well, I'm sure those of you you know, I love birds especially interest in looking birds from different countries, speaking of which here's one flying out, here it comes, it's coming, there it goes, in this one I'm going to be explaining to you a situation that happens more often than we may know or see, I was gonna say more often than we would like to think, of course that's not completely true but at some point the narcissist does realise their fate, because for a certain amount of time they came in, they gained access to your life, had you under their spell, you were susceptible to their manipulation, you believed in their lies, held a position and things were going quite smoothly for them, had you worked it over time to meet their demands and expectations, while they were just sitting back and you were doing all of the work, you were creating this life for them, it was a fake life because you weren't really getting the recognition that you deserved, the treatment in response to everything that you were doing for them, but for them they were getting what they wanted, had a place to stay, they were in your home, they was using all of your stuff, washing their clothes, washing their dishes, you would take them out wherever they needed to go, we're doing all of the work and they thought they had their lives set up or rather set out for them, they thought they had everything panned out in the way that they like, they were comfortable, they had nothing to worry about, most often especially financially, so yeah they thought they had it all going with you, everything they needed, but at some point they do realise their fate, what is about to come and it will come on top of them like a ton of bricks, it is just a matter of time, it is the same thing for any narcissist, this disorder, this mental illness, it cannot produce long-term fruits of success, that is not possible and they especially can't do that on their own, they need to manipulate and use other people, which as I already know, they were doing that with you, they were manipulating you and they were using you for their own benefit, their own needs and they weren't concerned about your health and well-being, they weren't concerned about that at all, they may have made you believe that they were concerned about it, but in actuality that was not of any importance to them, that's just something they used as a distraction to make you feel more comfortable in that situation, while they continue to use you for everything you're worth, but at some point they have outstayed their welcome, at some point it is no longer effective for them to continue on that cause of action, it's no longer going to work for them, but don't misunderstand what I'm saying, that doesn't just mean they're gonna give up their act and start cooperating with you for a more mutually beneficial result, they will not do that and they can't do that, if they could do that they probably would have done it in the beginning, instead of faking it and giving you a false character, so we already know that they do not have the potential to maintain that sort of relationship with you and again hence the title of this video, when they realize their fate and when they do realize their fate, when they do realize that, they will then resort to more lies and manipulations, they will play the victim to gain sympathy, attention and support from other people and then they will go all out and seek to destroy you, to take you down, to take you out and the reason why is because you are like this support of the true reality of their inevitable fate and it's just by you being you, if you just continue living your life in a righteous and correct safe is just gonna completely fall apart, there's not gonna be anything left of them and I've said it before and I will say it again, narcissists are not even meant to be alive, they're only alive because of their enablers, fly monkeys and sources of supply, that's the only reason how they're still here, take all of these people away, what are they gonna do, their illusion, their false character, their alternate reality, it would all fall apart and they would be left without any support because they were never doing anything for you, they weren't providing anything of value to you, everything they did was negative, it was just taking value away, they were using you to support their false narrative, to support their false character, so essentially they were using you to their own survival because that is what they do, they survive at our expense and this is why they always have to orchestrate these situations, well at the same time they manage to pin the blame on the victim and actors though, they're just at the effect of it when in reality they are always the cause of it, they are always the initiators of these events and other people they look at it like if we can't beat it we have to join it, we have to join forces with it in order to benefit from it, that's how a lot of other people are thinking, sadly a lot of people do have a high mind, they're not thinking for themselves, but many of you may be surprised to learn that this family all powerful godlike character that is the narcissist is actually a terrified little thing, it's like the man behind the curtain in the Wizard of Oz, that's all they really are underneath it all, it is a front and at some point they do realize their fate, they realize that yes believe it or not as difficult as this may be to believe, all of their dysfunctional actions and behaviors they actually don't lead to anything good in the end, of course that is sarcasm, because how could anyone think of these actions, these behaviors could lead to anything good, of course they could not, of course they will not, they may for you when you are the effect of it so as long as you take accountability you can learn from it, you can make things better for yourself once you finally get away from them, but as it says, if a child's mind they don't take accountability, it's all about just pinning the blame on someone else and trying to hold you at the effect of it, which is actually a big mistake that a lot of times they may make, because then that gives you the power to decide what you choose to do from that point on, but at some point they do realize their fate and that is when they resort to more lies and manipulations, more distractions from the true problem, the true issue, which is at the core of themselves, that they are dysfunctional and that they are maladaptive, they can't assimilate into a society and live a normal life like a normal person, instead they have to be a leech and emotional vampire, they have to suck the life, energy or resources out of other people in order for them to survive, this is typically that those tend to be generational, it's something that they've learned from their parents and their parents may have learned from their parents that it's just carried down, this way of moving through life, this way of behaving in order for them to survive and the reason why is because they're just too weak to be independent, to create a life of their own or to create a life with someone else, but one that is reciprocal and mutually beneficial, something a narcissist cannot do, so if you are involved with one you will always end up getting the short end of the stick, it will always affect you in the end, it's always going to cause a problem for you and you're the one who in the end you're always going to have to deal with it, because they're not going to be coming to you and taking accountability for what they have done wrong and they think that they could just run off and just get away with it, they think that if they just afford accountability they act like it's nothing to do with them, they were not the cause of the issue of everything that went wrong with you in that situation, in that relationship, they think that if they just do that then everything will be alright for them, they think that they can somehow avoid their fate, because remember they're delusional, they have this magical thinking but they think they can just sweep it under the rug, just forget about it, it's not going to come up again if they just ignore it, but it doesn't work that way, they can hold on to their other supplies that enables their flying monkeys as much as they like, it's not going to save them, eventually believe it or not, even those who will get fed up of it as well and while they may not reveal that to you, they also stop supporting the narcissist and a lot of times the narcissist is left without any supply, they're left without any support, without anyone, I mean that's typically what happens when they burn all of the bridges, they're in so many situations, so many relationships, just as they were with you, just as they were with you, remember everything you did for them and you got nothing back in return, there was no reciprocation, so eventually you learn that all you have to do is cut them off, get rid of them and of course it's not far fetched to think that other people come to that same conclusion, because yes of course they do, there are other supplies that enable us, they're flying monkeys and a lot of times they burn the bridges, they're left completely alone, if they're lucky they might have one enabler, I mean they typically rage and they manage to get at least one person under their spell to keep around them, but honestly it is a nightmare for them, I know they act like it's not such a big deal, they're able to deal with it, tolerate it, back, it's cool, calm and collected, but there's a lot of things you don't know, after the narcissist finally realizes their fate and then they try to avoid it, because while you may not see it, you don't know what's going on behind the scenes, I can tell you I've seen some of the things already, my own experiences, I've seen things you would not even believe and I can tell you that they do not like being alone, very different to how it is for us, I mean as you probably notice what I'm doing my videos, I'm off and out in the forest and the jungle somewhere on top of a mountain, if there's one thing that I love it is my alone time, it's when I have time to think for myself, because unlike these narcissists I don't need to put on an act, I don't need to do a song and dance about it, I don't need to fake self-worth or self-esteem, for me it is real, I do have high self-worth and that does come from within, while as for narcissists they are very insecure, so they need the supply to prop up their false self, which means that they can never be alone, that's kind of funny when you think about it, I mean they often project this onto us, whether they're discarding us and they triangulate us, they're trying to send a message to you when they do that and they're actually revealing very clear vulnerability about themselves of how they can't be alone, that's how their idea of peace and happiness is to be with someone else and have another supply, because for them being alone is hell, even when it looks like they're alone, before you know it, they're hoovering you, they're coming back to you, they're trying to get your attention, so they're not really alone are they, but for us, I mean I can understand in the beginning, because I've experienced that as well, not recently, but before I do remember, I did experience that pathological loneliness when I was discarded, what I say discarded actually, I was the one who discarded the narcissist myself, and then in that moment, following that, yes I felt very lonely, I was at a vulnerable time and I was willing to settle for anything in that moment, and I did settle for maybe less than I should have, I mean when I look back, I felt like I feel like I had a good time, but when I really think back, it's not really a good time is it, when you're sitting alone in your home, and you know you just can't be on your own anymore, you just have to message someone, call anyone, because you just need some company, it's like you just need someone to put their arms around you, you just need someone on top of you, so that in that moment you don't have to feel like you are alone, and yeah I know what that's like, I've been there, I've experienced it, and yeah we will get back in the beginning, following the discards, whether they discard us or we discard them, it doesn't really matter, but for narcissists I'm talking more about long term, yes it does affect them initially, after the separation, especially as time goes by as well, as time goes by it just gets even worse farther, it affects them more and more without supply, I mean from my knowledge, from what I've researched, and narcissists can't go a single day without supply, maybe a few days at some point they're going to lose their minds, because there has to be something there to prop up and validate the false self, it can't just keep going and going on its own, without any acknowledgement, without anything to prop it up, there has to be someone there to validate it, to give it meaning, because that's what I, how I prefer to describe it, so then to be completely alone, that is really the ultimate fate of a narcissist, and what tends to happen in that moment, they will do things that you have never seen them do before, things that you would at least expect, I mean they will go all out and seek to destroy you, they will lie, they will manipulate, they will play the victim, they will do anything they possibly can to gain sympathy and attention, they might just come out on the streets and start yelling and screaming at anyone they could possibly find, just for supply, they might just go looking for fights, some narcissist, they might even hang around in a dark alley and jump out and rape someone, yes believe it or not it can actually get to that point, just even a single day without supplying for a narcissist, and that is their ultimate fate, but you know what they typically do, to prevent things from getting to that point, because the narcissist, they are very arrogant and prideful, I mean a lot of them, they don't really want to be out in the streets yelling and screaming in a desperate attempt to gather some supply, so they may develop a more sophisticated system where they enforce flying monkeys and they start a spear campaign, because remember these are all sources of supply for a narcissist, it's all sources of validation, and even you when you're invalidating the narcissist, they're so delusional and psychotic that can even act as a source of validation as well, because to them that's still a reaction, that's still a response, you're still speaking, your mouth is still moving, so that can still be distorted back into their realm, to mean whatever they wanted to mean so that they can feel better about themselves, yes we are going deep into the rabbit hole here, but this is just how delusional and psychotic they are, even your invalidation of the narcissist can be distorted, they can take it in their minds as something else, in their minds that means unpowerful and important, because you're reacting to me, that's how crazy they are, that's a lot of times they can't even see it, even when it's right in front of their faces, it's like they don't even know that it's there, because they're too busy looking at your reaction, they are disconnected from themselves, and that's why when they start to realize their fate they start the smear campaign, because they're disconnected from themselves, and they're trying to prop up and validate the false self, and all of these enablers and flying monkeys who gather around to this campaign, they are all disconnected from themselves, I've said it before, as within so without how a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves, so if a person is disconnected from themselves they're going to try to disconnect you from yourself, and they're going to be coming to you in an effort to do that, because you're making them feel insecure about their false character and their false reality, that's why they're coming to you, that's why they're trying to keep you of balance, because as long as you're stable and secure, and you have this sense of logic and rationality, that just reminds them that they don't have that, I can tell you this, when a person is truly confident in themselves and who they are, they're connected to self, they're connected to the true reality, if that's true then they want the same for you, they want the same for you, because they have that for themselves, so that's all that they have to give, they can't give you something that they don't already possess, as within so without how a person treats you as a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves, so when they enforce their flying monkeys and they start a spear campaign, they're trying to disconnect you from yourself from the true reality, because they're disconnected from themselves, they're disconnected from the true reality, why do you think they make a false character and a false reality and try to pull you into it, because that's more comfortable for them, they thrive in that because that's all that they know, of course that would be all that they know because their entire lives have been surrounded by sources of supply, enablers and flying monkeys, well we haven't, we're not narcissists, we haven't had anyone to pacify us and give us this fake comfort and validation, we haven't had that at all, so we've had to face the true reality, we've had to remain connected to ourselves our entire lives because that is the only way that we could survive, but for narcissists, no, they can't do that because their entire lives, they were disconnected from self, they were disconnected from the true reality, they were always operating from a state of psychosis in their minds and they want to bring everyone else into that so that they can feel more comfortable with it, so you see this is what they do when they realise their fate, they look at it like, yes I understand that my inevitable fate is coming and the main feature of this fate is the fact that they are going to be alone without any supply or without any high grade sources of supply, without any actual real empathic people who can actually give them what they want, yes they see it, they realise that their inevitable fate is coming, but they look at it like, if I could just bring everyone else into it, if I could fuck everyone else over and bring them all down with me, then at least then it's not going to feel so bad, if everyone else is participating in it then I don't look so crazy, I don't look so out of touch with reality, if everyone else is losing their minds as well and they're all against you, the one person who is grounded in reality connected to self and potentially you're the only person in that environment who actually knows what is really going on, everyone else some may know whether they know or not they don't really want to know, they'd rather not know, they'd rather continue to exist in their fantasy world where they can be the star of the show, where they feel like everything is under their control even though that does not correlate with reality, this is how we can see that yes they are in fact completely delusional and psychotic, they're experiencing a psychotic break from reality especially when they begin to realize their fate, that's when they feel like reality is coming down on them like a house of cards, they feel like they're getting sucked into reality so then they've got to hurry up and pull everyone into their fantasy world before the whole thing goes down and they go down with it, the worst part for them is they feel like they're about to go down on their own, it's not so bad if everyone else is stuck in it with them, well they didn't realize that most of those people were already there to begin with but then we have to remember that they entertain these fantasies, these delusions of grandeur when they're gaining their attention, their sympathy, their admiration from other people who they think are validating their false self, when in actuality most of those people they don't really like them anyway and they couldn't really give a shit about them to begin with, I mean that is the truth, that is the truth because you know what people really respect is when you come into them and you've actually got the courage and the confidence to talk about shit for real, to talk about the real truth and what really matters in life and not give a fuck about what anyone else thinks, when you have the courage and confidence to do that that's what people will really admire and respect and that is the truth, when it comes to all of this fake stuff but the narcissist is presenting this false image so that they can gain their attention and admiration or they're playing the victim to gain sympathy and support, no one really respects that of course even their enablers and flying monkeys they see that and they lose respect for them because they know it's all fake and they're looking at it like oh you have to go out and do that just for a little bit of supply and they may not have been aware of it before but the more that they see it and the more that it goes on yes they start to catch on to it and they start to look like absolute fools even in front of their own flying monkeys, I mean just think about it that's what happened with you that's what happened with me as well in the beginning we were infatuated by these narcissists we admired and respected the false image which we thought was real and maybe they played the victim as well we gave them sympathy support you don't think that this exact same thing isn't happening among their enablers and flying monkeys of course it is they just don't want to show you because that's not going to make them look good but that's exactly what's going on behind the scenes and a lot of these enablers and flying monkeys they don't even like each other anyway to you yeah they make it look like they're all best friends and you're the odd one out yeah they make it look that way it's nothing like that in reality it's only that way when you're around then when you're not there everything goes back to normal but it's not the normal that you're thinking it is it's not like you go off with everyone's living their best lives and then they put on a big show there's all these fireworks and celebrations and no no it's nothing like that everything just goes back to normal boring dysfunctional life where there's all of these problems all of these problems that they cover up if they wanted to deal with real life they would have dealt with you the right way instead of just sweeping it all under the rug they all live a fake life a false existence and that's typically how it goes in the end because like i said they realize that inevitable fate and they just continue with their lies and revelations they continue playing the victim to gain sympathy and support to establish their network of flying monkeys and enablers so what do they do in the end they just continue in their matrix in their fantasy world they continue entertaining these psychotic delusions until the end of their lives until the very end and there's just nothing you can do to pull them out of it anyone can try they'll rage at you they'll target you with their flying monkeys they'll play the victim to everyone else they'll paint you in a bad light if there's one thing they do not want to deal with it is reality we are the ones in reality on here this is why all of you were involved with these narcissists you couldn't deal with the manipulation and gaslighting things did not make any sense you found the true reality in these communities why do you think when you get on youtube and you listen to the doctors whereas dr les carter dr ramony whoever it is makes perfect sense when you listen to them never makes any sense with these narcissists because they're not in reality they never were and they never will be and they are going to continue in their fantasy world until the very end they're never going to accept the truth and what is the truth they're highly narcissistic their liars their manipulators they deceive people they'll do anything to gain attention to gain sympathy validation they gaslight people to make them lose their minds it's a losing sense of their reality they can't be alone they need the support of the group they're a hive mind they can't think for themselves they can't make their own decisions they just can't even survive on their own and what is the truth about you you're an empath you genuinely care about other people when you think back that's why you brought the truth to them in the first place isn't it you try to bring them into reality and show them how things actually are you try to bring the consequences of their actions to that attention the effects of what they had caused and how did they treat you when you confronted them when you brought this to their attention well they turned you away they gaslight you they shift the blame onto you they spread rumors and they gossip gossiped about you behind your back they enforced their network network of flying monkeys and created this false reality why because they couldn't deal with reality and it wasn't just you and I've seen it myself for my own life as well I've seen many situations in the past where certain people have tried to bring reality to these people they push it away they want nothing to do with it they never go into want anything to do with that you put reality in front of them they'll just turn away they don't want to see it and it's not just you there's been it's not just you there's been a many other people before you they've all tried to bring the truth and reality to their attention and when they do that they just rage they get mad or if you're a strong powerful person who is really grounded in reality they'll become more covert they'll do things behind the scenes to maintain their false reality where their rights and your wrong where they're good and where and where you're bad even though deep down they already know that that is not the truth they don't care they'd rather just play make believe just role play just pretend that they're okay that they're real because it's either that or they have to accept the truth but they're not real that they are very bad and very wrong in many ways and if they were to do that they would have to start from the beginning all over again and that's just too difficult for them to do even if they were to do that even just the shame of knowing that they had to start all over again even that would be just too much fun to bear so of course i can promise you they're never going to do that and if you want to reach them if you even want to get close to trying to get them to understand something that exists in reality instead of in their make believe world for you to even do that you have to enter their world with their alternate interpretations of reality which then you're not even in the real world at all you're in their fake world so that is the only way that you can do that as she is saying there in the live chat escapism weaklings yes that's what they are many of them they're heavily dependent on addiction could be alcohol drugs sex gambling shopping could be food or just people in general that enablers fly monkeys their supplies you know these things they typically boast and brag about and flaunt on their social media these are all their weaknesses the very things that they show to you these are all their vulnerabilities they're showing you what they can't live or survive without so yes shaney they are escapism weaklings they have all of these addictions all of these things that they are heavily dependent on and what about us what were we addicted to many of us may not be proud to admit it but let's be real we were heavily dependent on just trying to make them happy just trying to make them like us because we knew that it was in their best interest for them to do that yes we knew that from the very beginning it's not so much that we need to be liked because we're so insecure we can't bear it if people don't like us no i wasn't about that at all it's because as impasse of course we know it's in their best interest and that's what we were dependent on trying to make them happy but no matter what you do it's never good enough they're never going to be satisfied with you or anyone else but that's what they're going to do they're going to numb their minds without the whole drugs shopping gambling sex just people in general they're enablers they're flying monkeys their supplies these are all their addictions it's all a form of escapism from reality from the elephant in the room which is the fact that they are completely crazy because they managed to get everyone into it it's like they managed to create this new reality but i can tell you if someone just got off a plane today and they could see that environment and the way that they behave they would think everyone's lost their minds i mean can you imagine if aliens just came down to this planet and just saw how people behave it is crazy a narcissist want to tell us that this is the real world that doesn't make any sense we have the real world this is the real world right now what i'm speaking about in this video and i need everyone to understand this although they may seem so strong and powerful they do realize that inevitable fate and that's why initially they will hold on to you for dear life but then they realize you don't want to go down with them so they give up on lying and trying to manipulate you they realize that's not going to be effective anymore that's just going to be unfavorable for them so instead they try to lie to and manipulate other people instead they find other supplies they enforce their enablers and flying monkeys to protect this external reality that they've created which is really just it's that internal reality of psychosis that they're imposing onto the external world it becomes a shared fantasy or shared psychosis just because other people are entertaining it but does not make it normal or real it doesn't make it normal or real at all this is their this is their desperate attempt when they realize that inevitable fate and it means that they must i mean at that point you know some people say that there's a chance it's very rare but some analysis maybe they can't fully recover from mpd but they can develop a self-awareness and they can start to learn and live a more functional life where they're actually happy and maybe even develop a sense of peace with themselves once they realize that inevitable fate and it gets to a point where the smear campaign becomes widespread that's when their disorder and their disorder of the monkeys as well becomes fully ingrained at that point there is no going back it's permanent there's no recovery there is no going to be any sense of fulfillment or happiness for them once they make that decision there is no going back after that from that point on their disorder is permanent they can't recover from it after that because anytime that they think that their behavior is wrong and that they need to make adjustments in order to be happy and to find peace within themselves anytime that they even come close to thinking like that they just look around at how other people are being treated how you're being treated as the target and then it just reinforces it so that is how you know that at that point there is no going back for them it's permanent for them the saddest thing is that maybe they could have had a chance they could have turned things around i mean it is typically later in life in these very rare cases maybe where a person is in their 30s or 40s they may have some self-reflection they may develop some self-awareness when they start to lose all of their sources of supply so then they could have been some hope but when they start that smear campaign they are really pulling the trigger on their futures and that's the saddest thing i mean if you really are an impar you are going to grieve that that loss of potential in so many people of what could have been but then that is also what they will use to hurt you as well when they see that it's impacting you because they're not completely stupid of course they can see that they can make these links these connections they can understand your feelings in accordance with certain events yes deep down they do know that who they are and their reality is not real they are aware of that that's where they react so strongly in defense and in protection of their false reality otherwise they would just leave it alone i mean if it's real so what you don't need to protect or defend anything just leave it be you only have to defend and protect something when you know that it is falling apart and i'm just going to finish with that that's what i would like to finish with today because that's really it when you look at the disorder it's all about this defense this extreme defensiveness the self-protection it's very weak it's fake it's a facade when something's real but it's actually strong it's grounded in reality it's like all right let me just get on this and expose it to the world because if it's really cannot be destroyed but narcissists they have to go all out to protect and defend it for their lives because yes they sense that it is falling apart you start to see cracks in their armor the false image you start to realize that they're not who they said they were because if they were where is it they cared so much if they were real i mean of course there's a reason why there are potentially hundreds of millions of people around the world who are all logging on to youtube every day to watch these videos about narcissistic abuse i don't even trust a lot of statistics as they are they usually don't cover as many people as there actually are but i've seen one that said even in the u.s alone there's over 140 million victims of narcissistic abuse and i'm sure there's only 300 and something million people in the u.s so that's over half the population or almost half and that's just narcissistic abuse what about all of the other personality disorders and mental illnesses these people are fake you will never get what you want from them it will never pan out in the way that you think but one thing you can be sure of is that when you get on here you will get what you want from me i will provide continued support to you and i will continue doing this for as long as i can forget about all these false characters and this false reality with these narcissists when you come on here you will get the real world you will get how life is supposed to be you will get this real one to one intimate personal experience you will not get that from these narcissists and that's what makes them so weak and powerless to where they have to try to hold on to you for dear life or when they can't do that they think there's power in numbers not if all you have is a bunch of idiots who can't even do anything right am i right or am i right and if you believe that i am right do give this video a thumbs up down below let's get this message out there to other survivors other people who are being affected by this other people who are being tricked and fooled yes other people need to see that and let me know your thoughts about this video in the comments down below let me know what you think and hit that subscribe button and click the bell icon so that you will receive notifications for my future videos and if you would like to book a one-on-one with me you could just go to my website 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