 All right, so I'd like to introduce our next speaker, Alana Lemon. She is an entrepreneur, and she writes about the left-foot in her life. Each experience she's made has shown her strength, character, and courage. She's born and raised in Maryland. She did not pursue her dreams, and she prefers to follow her own dreams and that she become a writer and a poet. She said this role was easy, but the termination, meditation, and positive things allowed her to reach her goals. She's also the author of two published books. The first, Train Yourself, How to Treat Yourself, which you can purchase on Amazon. And the next book, Failure is Success. So, without further ado, I'd like to welcome Alana Lemon. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. My name is Alana Lemon, and I live in a red block of blocks. I'm old school, so I do have French knowledge. I feel that I'm young in school. Well, of course, I welcome each and every one of you for coming. Now, I'm going to tell you a little bit about myself, a background, a little bit, and a little bit about myself. Great. A little bit about myself, a short story about how I started blogging, and an overview of my talk. I am a motivational speaker, an authorist, a blogger, an entrepreneur, an entrepreneur, and a mom. That's the best you'll ever know. In 2012, I started blogging and workshops. One year after I wrote it, that's the way. On May 2nd, 2011, I fell asleep right in front of the cell phone. So, after all that time, blogging, I'm going to have to rely on my story and also read somebody or connect with somebody who has the same situation I've been in. Well, that didn't happen because I had right to blog. I was finding my own being. Depression, so far I've thought, there have been a current. Just life itself. So, I had to take a moment and regroup and figure out what I need to do. When I seek help, I got a therapist, I got psychiatrists, and I was on a journey. So, that helped me to evolve and to connect with people about my story. Now I'm going to introduce the owner of my blog. How did I do that? I had one question to ask them. It was right in Blackwell. Or do you mean that as an excuse to the president? And I'll answer that question at the end of my talk. So now, I will give you an overview of my talk. Why won't we have bloggers live? What is bloggers live? Five steps that can help bloggers stay in motion. Challenges you may face with blogging and unlocking the big secrets of posting. Excuse me. I'm going to open up my book from Captain Lee. When we came back into our own creativity, the neurons in our brain are defined the way we like them to be. There are a possibly 86 million neurons in a human brain. Neurons are responsible for processes and dimensions. So, why do we have bloggers live? Well, we have bloggers live because our environment changes. Revocating, changing jobs, and even having children, mental illnesses, diseases or disorders, relationship trouble, divorce, separation, miscommunicating or time apart, increased stress, work, relationships, and parenting, and perfectionism, having or trying to do everything perfectly. Most of y'all may know what is right or wrong. But today, I will tell you what is bloggers live. The condition of being unable to think of what to walk about or how to proceed with blogging. Now, I will tell you five steps that can help bloggers stay in motion. Remove the distractions. Remove the distractions being from TV, social media, peers, and family. Anything that appears with your voice. Sometimes you have to turn out, sometimes you have to turn out your outer sources to ignite your inner sources. So the confidence, go back and read your previous material. That can inspire you because you're able to see how talented you are. Plus, you can always change the words in your previous piece and create a whole new one. Just write it. My Angelina said it best. No matter how big or small, just continue writing. Something is always better than nothing. If you write one page a day by the end of the year, you have 365 pages. A whole year of blogging. Done. Relax. Everyone needs meantime. Time to clear your mind and regroup. Sit in your car, lock yourself in the bathroom, or schedule a massage to relax your mind and body and soul. And movement. Movement helps. Movement helps change your mindset. You just have to move. This has to move. It allows you to focus on something different. If you just sit down and try to create something that's still going to start out in your mind, you're able to get your juices flowing and you calm down, you relax, and you're able to produce what you're trying to create. So next, the challenges you may face when you're posting. When you're posting, well, I told you previous I lost my daughter from suffocation. Well, secondly, in 2014, December 24, 2014, I was diagnosed with miscegenetic disease. That's the way I ordinary disease, that, um, well, basically my body attacks yourself thinking it's a foreign object. So my body's pulling my phone out of the activity. So, I, everybody's like, again, I thought, well, since I had this, this, like, ultimate disease, I should have, I should have write something. I should have sent you the last, like, well, it's right, no, I know God, I know the doctors, they have no idea what I'm talking about. I'm like, well, it's going to be great. So, I tried all the, um, yeah, I was involved in Express Hot Cell, but when I, when I was diagnosed, I was going to go back to, basically, I was trying to do all the research I could do, what medication, what medication, like, what's the life expectation of my disease? It's like, 10 years, and I just lost my mind. At the time, I was only 27, and I'm like, are you kidding me? I'm not worried. I'm like, how? But all these different people, I was always seeing my kids graduate, like, what's going on? And then when I calmed down, and I started being grateful for the time I knew there, and I focused on the things that I cannot change, I would have to blog him every while for my story. So, yeah. Okay, that's good. He did not dare ever see your vision. At the time, we cannot even say our own vision. So, how can you expect somebody else to see your vision? Don't waste time on trying to prove yourself to somebody else. Just show yourself how great you are. And I'd rather act as if it were you. Yourself. Good luck to you. You are your greatest enemy and your biggest encouragement. You hold the key to your success. Sometimes we allow doubt, fear of failure, fear of success, to get in our own way, to get in our own way of reaching our goals. Okay, now, I'm going to unlock the big secret. It's simple. Just start posting. My five big secrets to posting, some people will resist these steps because they will take you out of your house again. Sometimes people are used to doing things in a certain way, in a certain path, in a certain time. And you do the sight of doing what's for you. I would like that. I would like, you know, I cannot exercise a lot of time, but it's just a lot. That's it. You cannot tell me nothing else. That's how I'm going to do it. But then when I realize that if I miss this a lot, then I just don't miss acquisition. So, why don't I settle my comfortable zone again? I still don't have the pulse to do it at a different time. So, sometimes you have to settle for the type of zone to get things done what you need to do. Count it out. I actually got that idea from no rodents. No rodents, naturally. She's the same name from there? Well, one day, well, she said a couple months that she couldn't get out of it. She couldn't get out of long time. And it counts that way. Five, four, three, two, one. She said, I told her, this meant what to me. I'm not able to get out of my bed. I did this. So, she actually did it. And she said, we got a bed. For now, I use it as a technique, but I use it for writing. When I'm sitting at my computer or I'm trying to write it with my own gang again, and I did write a song. I'm like, hey, Mona, what are you doing with it? So, I set up counting five, four, three, two, one. I use a higher number to make me think about it. It's kind of easy to find a phone or do you mind if I go right back to what I was thinking about? So if you use a higher number, it makes yourself really think, well, hold on. 1,547. No, no, is that right? Yeah, that is right. So it makes you really pay attention to what you're doing and it actually makes you really think about it. I do sense that me. The next one is writing it in a shout-out. Oh, man, this is for good, Mona. Because as we become adults, we have to do adult things. Go to work and pay bills and be able to earn. And sometimes we lose sight of who we are or the things that we do like. And it says I have adult kids and I have old kids. When I get pregnant, I go to my children and I play Barbie and I go to my daughter for the same song as her and I go downstairs and I play a new game out of the kids. Fortnite. There you go. Fortnite with my son. He was not suck at it but it takes a little comfort because I'm used to being a mommy. I had to go to dinner, I had to go to the meetings, go to work, I had to do all those things and go to the playground and run around, go draw a picture, go to the music hall, go sky down and do something that we ordinary would not do that will make you relax and have fun. So I went to the shout-out and I got planning. I was planning to get goals. This should work for some planners and this should work for non-plans. Well, I decided that since I was planning, and I realized that being blogged every single day, it does not work like that. Life happens, they have it and I was like, okay, what can I do to make me at least blog since I'm a planner. Instead of being defeated and overwhelmed and stressed out that I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do or what I want to do is how we manage. Well, that's what I decided to do. In my calendar, I have blogging in the box. So anytime during the week I can blog. And that allowed me to take the pressure off for what I had to do and allow my natural use of the flow when somebody's ready to work. So everybody should be able to contribute to that if you're a planner and not a planner. And change your writing tools. Change your writing tools is a good one. If you're using your word, go to Google Docs. Maybe some people are like, huh, what do you make of that? Or you can go, if you're taking a paper, if you're setting it in time, go to Squared or change the font size. You're changing the way your brain operates. Because your brain uses one set schedule, one set time, one way of doing things. And once you once you change the way, thank you, change the way you do things, your brain is able to operate for you. And the last time I changed my writing tools, changing my I had a school in my life. I had a school in my life. You give things to me. You're the person that gives everything to me. So, if we make something so big and try to make something so small we're able to do what we can to do. So writing a lot, I can't do this and that, but if you make a lot smaller, you're able to go forward and do what you can to do. Now I'm going back to the first question I asked. Is writing not real or do they use it as an excuse? Well, Capucho said it was. He believes, he can and he who believes, he can at both parties. So he who believes, he thinks he has a lot to write and he who believes he don't think he has a lot to write. So, it's up to you. If you believe you have it, you won't have it. If you don't believe you don't have it, you won't. And, you won't. So now, I'll just have to say I just have to say after speaking, thank you for listening and just believe in yourself no matter how you feel. You may feel like quitting, you may have no inspiration or loss. Whether you've lost or lost, always go back to your mind and your purpose. Why are you blogging and who do you want to have? As long as you follow those things, you should be able to blog. Right now I'm working on a website but don't feel the way you think you can contact me. Because I tried to do the website and I released up as so I think I need to pay for not doing it. You know my place. I should say it was like oh my gosh. Who's going to come to the website? Where can we see examples of your writing? I don't know. I think my writing is behind my work class. How often do you create content? How often do you post it? Honestly, I try every week and sometimes it doesn't work. So I just have to go with how my body feels. I don't want to feel pressure on myself. I just want to give somebody something real. So if I had to give you something real, I wouldn't take some time off to give you real content, real feelings, just the raw means. Instead of okay I have to be in line, I have to post this. It's something good but it's not telling you exactly how I feel and what I want my readers to read. So it's important for you to write in your voice when you're posting. Do you have a drop-off for people? Do you take those two or three weeks to post instead of a new week? Or do you get the same amount of hits? Right now I'm in a broken stage in the room so it's a hit and miss. Let me see how you can speak it. What blood should you start in? Oh, I lost my daughter in future down in the mountains. I felt so frustrated. So I thought that I can connect with the lines and I also can connect with some ideas that they would say that they do. Do you feel like you have now connected with the people in terms of the illness you faced and the loss you faced before you made those connections? Actually, I have experience with connections. It's okay though. There's not many people that lost their children to do like saves or miscarriage and stuff like that. My focus was trying to find somebody exactly like me. I didn't make the connections but we still know when loss feels like. So I can have a conversation with them even though her child gets suffocated but I still can connect with that line but I don't know what that is. I still haven't met nobody who I've seen yet. So it's a working product. I just want to say I'm sorry for your loss but the inspiration you're giving us all is tremendous. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Congratulations. I'm going to show my work to them. Thank you. Thank you. I don't know. I had to schedule those things not all at once but maybe once every day once. Actually, I know. I said I'm not taking it's to say I'm willing to write for my life. I'm not going to say anything. I try to do everything I'm old school. Give it a 1.32. I'm writing. I'm learning how to perform the internet and different things in my life but I try to do everything so I can stay up to date with and make sure I can sell you a thing. I'm not saying it's a big thing but at least I can understand you. So you think like when you type versus you said you write so which you feel helps you get your ideas out of writing which is actually physical or I can see the writing. Writing. I'm a writer. I like to paint again. It's just something special I prefer to paint. I'm not used to every single thing I do. Everything I'm handwriting first and then I go back in and I type. When you go back to typing do you change stuff? Do you get more ideas when you start typing? Usually when I go back in I type what I wrote and then second time I have an idea I write a note on a sign like this might make sense for this program but I don't know where it's to burn by writing. You keep what you have on the sign like underneath highlight and this might sound better but you still keep what you have because you never know how you can use an affirmation or something else. Don't waste nothing. So when you switch things up I love that like go from Word to Google Docs which I didn't resist me but I'm getting there. So also one of the things you do is just write and paper. Everything. I do write in my journal like when I travel a lot when I'm away I don't want to be on the computer I just need to wait for all these people to disconnect so I can't write general around and I'll sit in different places and just write. Can you share with us some of the stuff you can share with us? So the things that you write in your journal do you find yourself when you start writing and when you're writing for personal or for your blog is the process any different when you start out writing either way do you feel like it changes as you start actually writing? No, the same way. The same exact way. No matter if it's personal or if it's not personal but anyway, I write but that's the process I write I write on my own journal and I write because I had notes I had and then when I go back in like this stuff's not right maybe and she go this one she go here and I need to open up but I still have my original version I mean like it's kind of funny I don't want to change anything but when I open it but I copy that and I go to another one because sometimes you have to go back and change that up, you don't know and it's like I go to the other page and I copy in a place and then these things are right and I'm like okay this time I want it I'll be back with a pen or two and you're like no, this sounds bad I'll do it this way or maybe not Have you ever used online publishing like with medium or LinkedIn or anything like that? No. What's that? Well that's what I was curious I just heard that like you know there's a lot of people here I guess that have like websites on our sites and then like you can re-close to medium and then that will generate leads back to your website but I don't know exactly how that's done so I was just curious. Me either. I don't know if somebody in here may have knowledge of that that they can share but my theory is that each of them I mean I just find the idea of like posting online really scary so like when you brought up the perfectionism thing that's like a good part but it's like for anyone here who wants to have an online presence it's really really important and like I don't know if anyone has that maybe someone can share how you conquer it because for me I'm like oh it's not perfect it's not perfect I can't post it and then it's like I keep waiting and waiting and then it's like it bothers me because then I see things that people have posted and they're really really good I'm meeting what have you but they're not amazing if they have tons of followers and stuff and so I'm like why can't I just like get over myself and just put stuff out there and just wonder if anyone has that and there's any tools on how to like get over that because that's really one of my things is that sometimes you're your own worse enemy because you want perfection from yourself and most people are too many animals generation it's like you know so people just want content they don't care if they're a grandmother or a nonprofit they don't care if there's no spell words as long as they can understand you they get what they want from it they go into the next thing you know a couple of minutes later but I can connect you with my mother because I know as soon as I put something out there she's going to say oh my 23 you should have used it because I used something for emphasis I started with a dot dot dot and I just assumed she's going to give me some negative feedback immediately and then you just like it's going regardless and then you get a lot of positive feedback from other people so you just got to like flip that guy like like your mom though like for me when I was in college AIM was a really big thing so I took a lot of time to crash my away messages like the little profile you put or just the away messages themselves too and I did write it much like Alana said you write what you want to write and at the end is usually when I go back and I start seeing stuff or like you said writing notes and putting that on the side not so much for the AIM messages but in general but I spent a lot of time rewriting or re-reading things because I am a perfectionist too because I want to put out the best product it's not necessarily that I need but Alana said was like definitely going all the way through and not changing for the first part like writing what you're going to write and then going back and taking a step back looking at it is how I usually do it but I don't post as much for the same reason just because I don't want to be out there just posting a bunch of stuff and then come back later like oh well that was garbage why don't I do that one thing I did ever post recently though was really excited about it I wanted to make sure it was perfect I'm going to put it on my mail champion mail thing and then put it on my blog so I wrote it in both platforms and I read it on my phone one night and I noticed like the simplest of type those little things and I think reading it in a different platform like maybe you see it in a different way and so I go back and edit it on different platforms and that's all like reading on the phone hold on a second I'm going to go back and answer your question for perfectionism when I'm writing if you're going to see my if you look at my journals and I write something down and it's not written the way I want it to be written I will go to get it no I will go to get it because then I go to get it and then sometimes I had to stop if I keep doing that I'm not going to get nothing so you have to believe in yourself your work is good somebody out there will be dying to hear or read what you're saying you don't know if you can impact on the words you're writing if you're never posting you don't know what I'm saying like honestly most of the best information are in great sites most people dial all the important things they never decided to write that book or they never decided to try it or they never decided to be that teacher or that basketball player well my suggestion is but you still post with all this love it was perfect perfectly not because you would never have 97 you would never have the rest of your life just you don't need to write something that a lot of you have the wrong word you want to write it a second time you don't have 31 you never have written stuff so there's two extremes does anyone know number one blogger that's really great supposedly of course she's famous it's Paltrow group that's number one number two believe it or not with Donald Trump's daughter but those are like famous but it's interesting one of the worst bloggers I don't remember his name has the most followers unfortunately my girlfriend's a famous writer but they can't remember his name he writes horribly he has more followers than anyone it's amazing and he goes on all these trips around the world everything for free he writes horribly and yet he has more followers so it's very interesting you don't probably have to be the best writer just get lucky and I think you said it earlier remember in your purpose your purpose is not about the perfection it's about some message that you want to get across if it never gets out there you've defeated your own purpose sometimes you miss the moment I miss the moment a lot by waiting too long but I do like the idea of focusing on purpose because then it takes it away from like oh this is me but I do also have the recognition that any time we put something out there that we're curating our online presence and so I have to weigh that too purpose and why but also reputation even though you can change stuff and it's not written in stone people can take a screen shot and be like oh my god you believe she has a dangling participle or something and so I don't know just remember but remember the person who's criticizing you for the dangling participle is not part of your purpose they're not there for the right reason for the reason that you're out there so if it's an English teacher who wants to see this guy they've got to bless them and thank you for the input but you know what I mean because it's purpose and we're financing somebody always want to have something positive as long as you stick to your purpose don't hold on to nothing else stick to your purpose you're able to go on trying to go on that's why I say remove distractions because sometimes you look at all these social media things and you see who and what's going on and that can fit with you and yourself because you know what I'm talking about well I know I started getting myself out well my friends and I my friends went to college well they were going to graduate I went to college too but I didn't graduate great that was kind of funny but I walked across the stage I had two classes and I walked across the stage May 21st the same year and I was supposed to go back but life happened I wasn't able to go back at that moment and then maybe I'll go back and finish my two classes but I look at people's lives and that messes up with you like how can you prepare your life for somebody else because you're not that person, y'all have all different wants all different things to happen so focus on you what do you need to do for you that's all that matters stay in your grass, stay in your lane stay in your yard, it's okay to look over all the grass is looking a little bit over there I might pick up mine but if you're cool then grass needs to be tailed that doesn't matter just focus on you no focus on negative people because we're not getting to know that you look at people who do not have any success someone is coming once you can compare yourself to others all your life but you just have to drive yourself crazy that you should only compare yourself to others but you have to look at yourself and a lot of people you might think have this stuff together but they don't not everybody who was supposed to say they were an author was actually an author oh that's another thing you mentioned that because we're looking on social media most times those are still images anybody can post for a picture and make everything look pretty everybody's happy but you go inside the house it's terminal the husband not home but when you're looking just at the picture oh my god this looks so good anybody can post for a picture don't let them see cheese they look good they look like they're having fun but no they're not having fun you just stop and smile that's what I do and I shoot these wobbles they act like they're eating all of this and they put it down they get the free hotels they take pictures all the time I don't even want to say it they go on and it's all not to say it's just full time content creator a colorblind photographer and I've bullied my entire childhood I have three things fighting against me and I landed a job where I create content literally full time every day there are two tools I can tell you the writing stuff one is Grammarly it's a paint service fantastic for all those little things that you're going to wind up missing that everybody misses because they're human as a dyslexic writer that's my best friend right there Hemingway is great if you want if you think your content might be too I'm going to say grown up Hemingway will help you simplify it so that it's one down but still professional it'll help you simplify things and one piece of advice that I can give you which I think anyone who creates content will agree and I wrote about on my own blog a really long article about these three things that are against me and that was the hardest piece I've ever written and the one thing that will make your content perfect is hitting that publish button if you don't hit that publish button it's never going to be perfect perfect is wherever you publish and it'll evolve over time it really does yeah I'm not saying much but I got a lot out of it I'm just kind of not as sexy as it is but this has been my favorite so far and thank you for quoting Mel Robbins by the way you don't have to be excellent to speak it's kind of funny I don't care I mentioned it it's kind of funny but I had to basically take myself out of the equation and figure out what's going on my purpose is to impact people's lives from our story and from positivity so I can't be in the background I'm not going to get nowhere if I'm supposed to speak to y'all I have to step out of my comfort zone take myself out of the equation you've got to put all the things aside if it's going where you're trying to go so that's what I decided to do this might be scary but who don't get nervous everybody get nervous you go to the job in the first day the 25th anniversary all these things you get nervous in you never know who you should impact from saying something everybody's voice is important every single person has something to say and you never know that one statement you might say can spoke to somebody else I did it over here and they're like wow I didn't have to say that I can't have all ideas I just can't I have to tell you what's up there but sometimes you need help from somebody else thank you for being so sincere and honest and I'm very moved do you meditate at all I'm just wondering if you post or meditate actually I do it's kind of funny like I said I stopped the social media when I wake up in the morning I pray and then I turn on my meditation and I sit in silence and then I listen to motivational speakers because I want to get my day started I have to listen to positive people to do positive things and if I want to be a motivational speaker you should do the things that motivational speakers do that's my favorite if you're Johnston or Thomas there's a lot about what is his name Tom B Gary B Tony Rao I listen to a lot of people I don't care who it is, if you're speaking I want to hear it that's good I'm open I'd rather be open to anything because you never know where you can find inspiration or inspiration honestly any sort of campaigns like a couple years ago I was on the 30 days in October 31 days of blogging blog a day do you have any other bloggers you recommend or who you follow or do you join any campaigns to be more consistent with your blogging actually I don't I'm glad you said that I don't do that that's a very good question I really don't have any bloggers I follow but that makes sense I should have some bloggers that I follow what's your I'm sorry I was a little late your consistency do you try to put it out at the same time as a day no at first I tried to do that and I was in an overland frustrated I felt like quitting when I was kind of okay you gotta write your day and it wasn't like my thoughts wasn't coming I couldn't produce as fast as I wanted to so I decided to write it out on my calendar a week and you say one of these days I'm going to go off and that's what I did if I don't I don't I don't want to put no pressure on myself I want to give all my bloggers or my readers and when I give you rush you really get a rush job you're like okay this is good content but she's not really speaking to me right now I want to speak then I want to let them know like you go to my YouTube channel it's kind of funny I don't care how I look I don't care how I look I don't care what time it is I'll give you the bromie I'll let you know how I feel at that moment because if I wait any longer you're not going to see the bromie and I wasn't mad right now but now I'm going to talk about being mad but I'm not mad no more and you're not going to get the full effect of how I really work how I really feel I have a question, anything at your home I'm always open for suggestions I'm always into proving proving helps you grow I did a lot of problems and one thing I know is when you practice at home it always seems like it takes longer that's what I'm putting you saying because I was at home walking around and saying come here I'm doing it over and over again I'm putting my heart in hold that it's how it got so fast I had time to wake up it didn't work so I was for Laura extra sometimes you just take breaks just take it easy that way you can get interaction if I get interaction the past anytime I can I talk about all I'm speaking about I'm open to anything I'm open to anything anytime I'm in it if I want to capitalize I have to capitalize no matter what situation what was that you're going to you're doing good so how do you say positive that's a great push how do I say positive honestly player okay I'll put it this way before I go anywhere when I get my car I'll put protection around my car I like to say I hit my eyes, my hands my feet, my brakes my thighs the cause around me the weather so I pray for myself and people around me too it's not about me basically how I look at things I believe everybody is connected everybody can impact everybody everybody needs everybody so if I just not open to anything the world can be a better place if I pray for you too and then the other thing I say how I say positive that's the biggest one no matter where you go everybody honestly and when somebody comes to you with a negative attitude or a negative energy and you know that you did not do nothing wrong don't take it personally all you do is remain you stay calm even though sometimes people do push your buttons you're like hold what you're like oh no no no no we do the whole side we need to calm down I didn't even do nothing to them and once you stay in yourself you stay grounded if you bust with you if you're not busting back at them they won't even have to change that attitude or walk away when you walk away so I just pray, meditate be bravest honestly