 Hi, this is Greg from n5d.com and today we're going to be talking about control and controlling others There are two different types of personalities out there. We have the type a personality, which is more aggressive and Controlling a lot of people are of the type a personality are Extroverts while if you're a type B personality, you're more relaxed and laid-back and most likely an introvert like me but a lot of people don't know about me is I am a Libra, but I'm also a triple Libra and a lot of Libras out there can attest that We're constantly Seeking balance what people think about Libras is we're always in balance, but it's the exact opposite for example, I Work usually 10 12 15 hours a day Seven days a week 365 days a year. I've been doing this since 2009 There's not a lot of balance there You know often I try to go to the beach every day and I tell people I actually have to force myself to go and people think I'm kidding But I'm not because I'm a workaholic and I do have to force myself to go there So I can ground and do my work there and I end up like I said working there anyway Because what I end up doing is my walk of gratitude where I'm sending out Actually, I call my spirit guides gardening angels friends and family on both sides of the veil galactic neighbors and friends higher self Mother earth creator source in universe. I bring them all together and I Envision that the the whole entire beach is one big family reunion because when you had when you envision that you're sending out this energy That's completely different when you see everyone as family and Then I do what I call a love bubble work Meditation where I ask my posse, you know creator source universe spirit guides guardian angels friends of family on both sides of the veil Right down the line to go with me and to send healing loving energy to everyone on the beach From their heart center and extend it out as far as they want throughout the planet galaxy universe and multiverse and then I do a meditation where I go into my third eye and You can check out the video before on how to open your third eye and I look at the what kind of visions I get from there and That's basically what I do when I go to the beach. So even when I'm at the beach, I'm working And you know, so I'm trying to find balance, but constantly working My mother is a type a personality and Generally most of the woman that I've dated throughout my life have been type a personalities And this is how the law of attraction works. The law of attraction will bring you that what you need to learn and Because my mother was a type a controlling personality. I never confronted her when I was a kid So universe would constantly bring me and just about every one of my relationships a type a controlling female and It wasn't until maybe eight ten years ago that my sisters and I were at my parents house and My mom was laying out everything my sisters and I would call my mom the agenda queen Because she would always structure everything six o'clock. We're gonna be doing this and you know, 730 we're gonna do that and so on and so forth and Because she had everything all structured out. I said, hey, no, that's it We're down here to relax. We're gonna have fun. No more agendas not when we're down here this time and she backed down and My sisters were like They couldn't believe it that I stood up to my mother, but she needed it and I did it lovingly, but And she's been a different person. She's respected me for standing up to her and basically putting her in her place now I've been married a couple times my second wife is a nurse and when she was a child She would get these Visions she's a psychic and she get these visions. Sometimes the visions weren't very nice and as a child especially in a Deep-southern Christian background when you get those kind of visions, you know It's not gonna be looked upon very nicely So she ended up suppressing her abilities and what she ended up doing was putting herself inside a box Because of the abilities she had scared her and they weren't really accepted by her family And I thought it was such a shame because here she is a nurse and if she could see something that was going to happen in a patient and perhaps Alert the doctor about what's going on. She could be saving lives But this is her path. This is her journey and I hope that someday she wakes up and uses that to her ability and humanity's best interests So when someone controls others, it's usually something within their own life. That's out of control It's kind of like when somebody calls you a name. Hey, you're stupid What they're doing is they're projecting and reflecting back their own insecurities They're projecting their own secure insecurities on you hoping that you'll reflect back something back to them like like no No, I'm not stupid you are well, that's it's childish to begin with but Generally, that's what happens. We project our own insecurities on other people and this is what's happening with controlling people as well So they do have positive attributes, you know, not all controlling people are just complete control freaks They are gonna bring you things within your life that you need to use your own discernment with And see if it is for your highest good because sometimes it may be in your highest good what they're telling you But because the message is coming out as you need to or you got to do this You know, it's the way it's being told and we're gonna get to that in a minute So, you know people basically What I was just talking about they they'll mirror back to you that which you need to learn So even if it's coming from a controlling person There's a lesson to be learned so try to look at that with discernment see what the lesson is and Step back almost like an observer It's your best way of approaching something like that So if you're controlling others your your challenge is to relinquish that control And that's a big challenge to do especially if you've been a controlling person for all your life The best way to do that in my opinion is to use tact Give people options also For example We've all said this to someone you got to check out this movie or you need to watch this movie. I Don't need to but if someone said hey, there's a great movie out. I think you might like it You know if you want to check it out go for it That gives the person an option. It's not telling them what to do It's more like, you know, hey, if this is something that's up your alley. You might be interested and I would easily accept that kind of Proposal versus someone telling me you need to even though it's something harmless like check out a movie, you know It's still controlling other people So be careful about how you say and what you say to people how you say things and what you say to people so the bottom line is that no one likes to be controlled and Just remember to use tact if you're a controlling person and to use you know, just Give the people options, you know A B or C at least give them make them seem like it's their choice when you're trying to at least persuade them To whatever it is that you know, you're trying to get across to them That's it for now. This is Greg from in 5d.com