 Hi, she was seven, I'm back. So today's video is going to be about marriage. How do you choose someone to marry? Okay, so this is just my opinion. And also I've seen a lot of things in my life, seen a lot of couples, seen a lot of marriages. So I'm just gonna show, I'm gonna share. Sorry, I can't show you, but I can share with you what I've seen happen with certain types of marriages. Okay, so the first type of marriage, equal or the man and the woman makes the same amount of money or equal money, whatever. This partnership, it lasts, it's pretty good for a while, but then one either starts making more money than the other one or one wants to take some of their money and spend it more selfishly than the other and then things become unbalanced because one feels like they're sacrificing more than the other one is and it's not fair anymore. For example, if two people make about the same amount of money and one wants a new car and the other one sacrifices so that they can pay for stuff for the kids, lessons, sports or something else, like maybe to move into a nicer place while the other one gets what they want. Now, when it's time for that other one to sacrifice, so this person can get what they want that sometimes they don't wanna do it. So this is where that struggle comes in. Another type of marriage is when you marry someone with more money. For example, if the man marries a woman with more money, he'll never have say so in anything. He'll never have the final say so in anything. He's always gonna have to go through her, check through her and then she's gonna look to him to contribute and even though he makes less money, he's gonna feel like, wow, all my money's going away. She's out shopping buying whatever she wants and I can't do that because I don't make as much money. So that's gonna fill off balance, make him feel less manly and then he's gonna look elsewhere and start probably paying more attention to women who will make him feel more manly. Okay, so the next kind is the type where the man makes more than the woman. This is, to me, this is the best one. Why? Because first of all, the man can feel like a man and the woman can feel like a woman. He's not asking her for anything because he makes plenty, okay? She's making money and she can save her money and do whatever she wants with her money because he doesn't need it, okay? So she can save for kids' college, she can buy nice things, go shopping whenever she wants and this is that. She has the option to work, like she don't even have to work because he makes enough money to take care of everything. So when she doesn't wanna work, she can stop, she can get seasonal work, she can work from home, she can do all this type of stuff. So this one works out good because this is, I think in my opinion, this is the best way to go because the woman feels feminine, the man feels masculine, he's already gonna be making money. It's not like he's struggling, he already has countless ways to earn money and it's just no big deal. Any woman he got with, he was gonna pay as far as having a wife or a child, he was gonna allow her to do what she wanted to do, like stay home or work, whatever her choice was, okay? And then there's the other kind where the man makes all the money and the woman doesn't make any money and so she's at the mercy of that man. Now when you're at the mercy of a man, you have, his ego's gonna kick in. If you're not doing this, if you're not doing that, he's not gonna give you anything if you don't have access to his bank account and if you're married and you have access to his bank account, you're very, very lucky. But most men who make all the money, a lot of times they won't allow their wives to have half, I mean, access to the bank account, they'll give them a separate bank account and put allowance in there, you know what I mean? And sometimes this works, but then it's frustrating when you want something and you have to ask, okay? That's very frustrating, so. Ladies, I suggest if you're gonna get into that type of marriage, have a savings. Start saving money when he gives you an allowance or have a side way to make money that doesn't require you to leave your house or anything because when you want something and he's mad at you, he's not gonna give it to you or he could be a couple days late on giving you something or to your allowance and stuff and so it's not good to have to totally depend on someone for financial banking because what if they're mad at you, okay? So it's always wise to have a savings. It's always wise to have a backup. It's always wise to have that. I forgot who said it. It was some celebrity, it's called FU Money. Like if you want out of that relationship, you have enough money to get up and leave, okay? So like I said, the best balance in a relationship is when the man makes more money and doesn't ask the woman for any money but she also has money of her own that she doesn't need to really ask him to buy her extra stuff. All her money is her money, you know what I mean? To me, that's one of the best type of relationships and if you're smart and you do have the type of relationship where your man has all the money and you don't work, if you're smart, you're gonna save and you're gonna have an emergency fund or a spending fund and stuff like that and while you have all this free time, you have plenty of time to start online businesses, do something creative that go to school, all this kind of stuff. So you could eventually have money coming in in some sort of way. So this is why I say be careful the type of man you marry and be careful the type of woman you marry because you could be having a great career as a man thinking you're all high up and mighty and you were all this and that when you were single but when you get with a woman who's equal and what if she climbs the corporate ladder faster than you do or what if she gets starts getting more pay raises than you do and now you're here. So that's why when you marry equal, it's always gonna change. You're always gonna be equal, one could lose their job, one could be promoted, one could be fired, one could get laid off. So I don't think it's cool to marry you're equal because when one of y'all falls off or gets off balance, who's gonna take care of the other one? One has to be stronger to lift the other one up, okay? One has to be stronger and the female is not really gonna ever wanna lift the man up because he's supposed to be strong. He's strong physically. He's the bigger man. He's supposed to be the one to lift the female up. So women are gonna look down on guys that they have to pull up, okay? So it's very important to consider these things before you choose a partner, okay? If you're a man and you wanna get married, you find a woman that makes a little money but not as much as you. She's not gonna have all the say so. You're gonna have to go and talk to her and ask her what's your opinion on this. She's not gonna make decisions for you because you ain't got no money, okay? So men and women, I know y'all think y'all know what y'all want in a marriage but let me tell you, money is the number one reason people divorce. So make sure as a man you feel like man and ladies, make sure as a woman you feel like a woman, okay? Don't feel like the man and the breadwinner, the family and this, this, and that because that's not what's gonna make you feel feminine and want to be in the mood and you're gonna look down at your man and you're not even gonna be in the mood to be with your man and he's gonna say, well, why don't you love me anymore? And blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So very important to get someone who can pull you up, who's stronger than you ladies. Men's very important that you can support and provide for a woman in her time need. Like especially if she gets pregnant and has kids and she can't work, you need to be able to be that man, be that foundation. So also, as far as working, a woman should have the choice. She should be like, I don't feel like working this year or I don't wanna work this year, I just need to take some time off to raise the kids, to do this, to get the house in order. She should have that choice. If you depend on a woman to keep your house and to keep your rent paid, to keep the bills going, then you're not really, you shouldn't really even have a family. That's just my opinion. You should be able to hold it down. You should at least start saving money in the beginning of the marriage, just in case. I think a lot of people get it confused in this day and age that women are just, are supposed to be just as equal as men. But like I said, women and men would never be equal. They will only be complimentary to each other, okay? When men can have children, when men can produce children and go into the labor and delivery world and push your baby out of them, then we might be equals. But we're never gonna be equals. We're only gonna be complimentary. And if you're, like I said in another video, if you're a male and you want an equal partner, you're gonna have to go get another male because those are the only two partners that can be equal. And ladies, if you want an equal partner, you're gonna have to get a female because those are two equals, okay? When you say equal, it's parallel. It's the same thing as having a same-sex relationship, okay? Where are the roles? Where are the gender roles? Where are, where's the femininity? Where's the masculinity, okay? So I say this, and I know a lot of people are gonna disagree, but I say this because in marriage, things change. You think it's gonna be all good in the beginning. Oh, we both make the same amount of money or we both make up money. Oh, this isn't it. But as soon as you want something extra, as soon as you want something more, it's gonna change. It's gonna be like, okay, well, I don't think you should get that car because this, this isn't it. So now, all of a sudden, you can't get the car you want. Now it's like, okay, no, you can't get that sports car. You have to get a minivan. Why? Because, you know, I'm gonna be paying the rent. You're gonna be paying this car now and you can't afford to pay this. You know, it's, when you have the money, you can get any car you want, okay? You can say whatever I'm getting the car I want. Okay, you're gonna have to sit back there and you're like this back and forth with someone about the type of car that you're gonna buy with your own money, okay? So, I tell you all that because a lot of guys are like turned off by marriage now because they can never fad them taking care of a woman and having, you know, the things that they want in life as well. They're always afraid of a woman for some reason. They're afraid they're gonna get got. But if you get your education, if you save your money, if you make wise financial decisions, you can afford a wife who won't cost you anything because you'll be making that money anyway. You know what I'm saying? A lot of people will troll on my videos, but I don't see wealthy men trolling on my videos because this is like a chump change to them. They're like, oh yeah, I got a woman. Some of them have more than one woman. I got a woman in this town. I got a woman in this town. You know, it doesn't matter. They're not afraid because they know financially they're very abundant and women don't scare them. Okay? So a lot of guys who are gonna argue in the comments saying, well, I make this, this and that, that's nothing. Okay? If you have to worry about your financial situation by adding a woman, then you don't really make money. Okay? That's not real money. That's bachelor money. Save up till I'm old. Hopefully get into a retirement community so they can find my dead body in case of die because I'm not gonna have no kids because I'm afraid that someone's gonna take my little money that I worked so hard for. That's not even real money. Okay? Yeah. Y'all can keep that. And they're so worried that these women want their money. If you don't make over a certain amount of money, women are not gonna look at you in a certain way anyway. They're just gonna, oh, he's a nice guy. He's a nice guy to date. He's not the kind of guy to date for money. No, bypass. You go to the one with the real money who doesn't even think twice. Okay? And I know a lot of women are gonna ask me, well, how do I meet a guy with money? How do I meet a guy with money? Change your environment. Hang out with rich people. Hang out. Change the people you hang around. Change your environment. You know, you're not gonna be able to find a rich guy in a poor part of town. Okay? So use your brain. All right? You're not gonna be able to, you're not gonna find one in the dollar store. Okay? No, okay? Maybe, but it's gonna be a very long shot, okay? So, y'all dress up, dress your very best. Look cute. Go out, find some new spots to hang out. Men, if you're looking for a woman who's, you know, decent, you know, don't just have sex with anything that gives you the attention, you know? Most men like challenges and what they used to. I don't know if they do anymore, but. If you have to chase a woman, she's worth it. If you don't have to chase a woman, she ain't worth it, all right? I'll see you later. Bye.