 And then he was a descendant of the cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is Jafar ibn Abi Al-Qalib, okay? So that's the first part of his bio His mother and this is for all the moms who are tuning in I'm a mother and I want you and I wanted to again honor Imam al-Lud's biography But also I'll honor all the mothers because we sometimes don't give ourselves enough credit But look at you know what we know of Imam al-Malud that his mother Mariam Bits Muhammad Malud ibn al-Nahi Was also very knowledgeable and she was her son's first teacher subhanallah Most of us are most of us are our children's very first teachers, right? But he actually memorized the Quran through his mother So again such a beautiful inspiration for all of us to reflect on as mothers and as children that the greatest School is is our is often time our home and our teacher is the greatest teacher that we have first teacher Anyway is our mother. Alhamdulillah. So he's a great scholar of his time authored many many books over 70 books And then you know, he passed away in the year 1905 So not you know, I mean, it's not that long ago, right? Alhamdulillah, but he did so much for our faith by providing this beautiful poem that Exams the diseases of the heart and we're going to talk about what that means in just a moment So now that we know a little bit about Imam al-Malud Let's talk about the next person that's really important to this because he brought this text Which is in classical Arabic to the Western audience He translated it from Arabic to English and then provided commentary, which is the basis Which is what we're going to talk about in this class as we go Dave, you know session by session We're going to talk about the commentary that she comes a use have provided So who is he? Well, we should all know him especially if those of us in California and the Bay Area because he is a Bay Area native Masha'Allah, but he's also a global scholar known throughout every region of the world Masha'Allah Tabarak Allah and he currently serves as president of the first accredited Muslim college in the US, which is Zaituna College Which is right here in Berkeley, California a huge honor for those of us again in the Bay Area and in California in general Alhamdulillah, she comes as a you know He we could say so many things about him and his acumen But Masha'Allah, he holds traditional advanced degrees Ijazad in Islamic law and theology as well as a BA in religious studies From San Jose State University and a PhD from the UC Berkeley the Graduate Theological Union Alhamdulillah, he was ranked by the Muslim 500 as the 23rd most influential Muslim worldwide huge honor Right of all the Muslims billions of people in the world Shahamza was ranked as the 23rd most influential meaning that his teachings Masha'Allah have spread to so many people and Alhamdulillah and most of those teachings are By way of books articles that he's written as well as classes that are available for people and lectures that he's made available online And so the books that he's published right here in this bottom Section include the border purification of the heart Which I just showed you the content of character another amazing book for parents again to look into the creed of imam at Tahawi and Agenda agenda to change our condition walk on water and the prayer of the oppressed Alhamdulillah all incredible Resources for us to have so Alhamdulillah Please keep both of them in your du'as as we go through this class because we would not be able to do this If it wasn't for their efforts and it's so important to be in a state of gratitude to our teachers and to those who again give us access and knowledge That enhances us and helps us on our spiritual journey. Okay, so with that said We're going to jump into this topic because I want to maximize the time that we have we have about an hour Maybe a little bit more if I take some Q&A's at the end, which I want to but let's proceed inshallah Why do we need to purify the heart this hadith? Which imam know we said is one of four or five hadith around which the entire religion of Islam is understood is Pretty critical to understanding why we have to do this process of purifying the heart and we're going to get into details again About what that means The Prophet said I'm sad that the hadith the halal is clear and the haram is clear and between them are matters Unclear that are known to most people whoever is wary of these unclear matters has absolved his religion and honor and whoever Indulges in them has indulged in the haram It is like a shepherd who herds his sheep too close to preserve sanctuary and they will eventually graze in it Every king has a sanctuary and the sanctuary of Allah is what he has made haram There lies within the body a piece of flesh if it is sound the whole body is sound And if it is corrupted the whole body is corrupted verily this piece is the heart So what does this mean the word sound right? It's kind of like strange because we think of sound we think of hearing we think of something that we hear But it actually has multiple meanings in this case. It means that if it's healthy, okay? So if the heart is healthy and you can we're talking specifically, you know We can we can interpret this hadith as the physical heart as well as the spiritual heart, right? And and that's what our scholars have done that it applies to both and and it's true from a medical or Physiological standpoint if you have a healthy heart then alhamdulillah everything in the body just seems to go smoothly A lot of people it's one of the number one killers is heart disease, right? A lot of people get have sick hearts and I actually have a picture of a sick heart coming up I just want to put that out there in case anybody's a little squeamish I'll give you an alert before I post it But I want you to see what happens when our hearts become diseased and then try to understand that the same thing can happen To the spiritual heart, okay? So this is why we purify the heart now another really important thing to understand is that there are different types of hearts, okay? So What we mean by that is here here are the eight types of hearts And we're gonna go through these the description of each one to understand that where People different people throughout the world are some people have different, you know, they don't have a sound heart They don't have a healthy spiritual heart or physical heart or again speaking about the spiritual heart here So these are there's eight different types of hearts that we learn through hadith or learn through Commentary or learn through aya's of the Quran and we're gonna now describe each one, okay? Here's the first one the dead heart in the Quran and chapter 50 verse 37 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says that verily in this is a message for any that has a heart or who gives ear and earnestly witness the truth so he's talking about the Quran itself that for people who have a heart and Obviously, this does not apply to the physical heart because if you don't have a physical heart, you're not alive, right? We're specifically talking about the spiritual heart that for those people who have a spiritual heart That's working that's functioning and who actually listen and earnestly or sincerely are trying to learn the truth The message of the Quran is gonna touch their hearts So what that means or the opposite or what this aya tells us is that there are people that Their hearts aren't working that somehow something's gone wrong that the spiritual heart is dead Right and these are the people who do not know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the way they should they don't worship him the way He commands in the way that he likes and the way that he's that pleases him Instead of worshiping Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, they just do whatever they want to do it doesn't matter It's like oh, I want to you know, not pray because I'd rather go and you know Have some ice cream or I'd rather go watch a movie or I want to go on my bike and take a ride bike You know ride around the court So whenever there's something that has to be done as a form of worship to Allah They don't do it and even though they know that this might cause Allah's displeasure and wrath They still go and do whatever they want. So these types of people are what we would say There's something wrong with their actual spiritual heart in that it's not functioning and it's probably dead now Can it come back to life? Yes, that's the good news. Alhamdulillah how? They have to humble themselves make toba to Allah and then they have to be willing to Listen and take the message Right, whatever like to listen to the message of the Quran and to listen to the words of the Prophet I said I'm with sincerity. This is how this kind of a heart can come back to life So the hardened heart. Okay, now I want you again I'm using this imagery because I want you guys to think about what happens to the spiritual heart, okay When a person stops remembering Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the way that they should and they stop You know doing what they should be doing in terms of fulfilling their, you know, Ibadah The heart starts to harden. Okay, the spiritual heart And so to prevent this from happening The answer that what we should be doing is always being in a state of remembrance as much as possible thanking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala feeling grateful for the blessing of existence For all of the blessings that Allah has given us our families for example our parents our homes the food that we eat the Drink that we have the drinks that we get to have the clothes that we wear all of the things that we have in life our Gifts that Allah's path has showered on us. He's blessed us with so we have to be in remembrance and gratitude to Allah And when we do that enough it prevents the heart from getting hardened. Okay, so that's why saying ma sha Allah Alhamdulillah subhan Allah insha Allah is so important to have as a practice a Staghfirullah right a lot of things we could say but as long as we're remembering Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala The third heart is the darkened heart, and if you notice in this picture, there's light, but it's not going through this heart Why because this heart is darkened and you know, we talked about the dead heart, right? Those who basically are just Indisobedience, they know that Allah's pranthana, you know is may may be upset with them But they continue to follow their own desires and those people. Yes, their hearts can come alive Through being attentive and actually witnessing the truth, but the people who still remain in darkness, right? That maybe they've heard the truth They hear the message and they're just not willing to accept it that those people they remain heedless They just are you know, they don't want to do what they're supposed to do They their hearts become darkened, right and that darkness is because they are Heedless, which means they're not fulfilling their obligations to Allah and then that what that does it actually makes them suffer in many ways They start to have Problems with their life in their life They may have mental health problems or other spiritual problems like anxiety depression fear They might start getting a lot of stuff and that's again. Sorry the reason for that is because a person who has peace in their heart That they have peace and they have light in their heart because they're remembering Allah's pranthana So when you don't remember Allah, this is the consequences that it starts to darken Okay, so what about the difference? So what's the difference between a darkened heart and a blackened heart? Well, we know from the hadith that the prophet said him said Verily when the servant commits a sin a black mark appears upon the heart So you want to look exactly like this picture, okay? Every time we sin every time we lie Every time we don't do our prayers on time or we do something that our parents told us not to do and We we make our parents upset or we do something that again is forbidden in Islam. Whatever that is The it's a sin and it it creates a black mark upon our heart now The hadith is hopeful because the prophets and said if he abandons the sin So if you say it's a whole lot you recognize your mistake and then you seek forgiveness and you make your tawba Then Alhamdulillah the black spot gets removed. It's like it wasn't even there and it's polished again But if you keep going back to the sin Then that sin or that dark blackness will increase and it just starts to take over the heart it's like the whole heart starts to get spotted with these black spots and then it looks like something like this right and Allah's Pran that it has an eye and the Quran also that talks about a covering, right? So this is what we mean that when a sin start to cover our hearts It's because of what we've done. It's our own sins, right? And this is why it's so important to make a Stuff for Allah every day the prophet said I want to make a stuff for Allah every single day And he didn't even sin But why is he teaching us to do that because he knows that we will fall into mistakes and sins But if we always go back to Allah inshallah, we'll be okay, okay? So the next heart is called the sealed heart, okay? And this is Allah's Pran that it says thus does Allah seal the hearts of those who do not know So there's the word in our Arabic is tabaa, which means to stamp or seal and Allah's Pran that it talks about how He seals the hearts of the disbelievers and those who transgress those who go against Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala who are disobedient to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala Allah puts a seal on their heart And so there are people out there who again they may hear the message of Islam But they don't their Allah's not guiding them because he's put a seal on their heart, okay a Locked heart. This is another heart and there's two more. Okay, so the locked heart This is Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala says do they not then earnestly seek to understand the Quran or are their hearts locked So this is really interesting, right? Because there are people who they have the truth and Hamdullah. They may you know, they're Muslim They they may have learned a lot of things, but for some reason They've put a heart a lock on their own heart And so this is the person is doing this to themselves, right? And that prevents them from reciting the Quran reading the Quran learning about the Prophet Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeking knowledge Doing their prayers on time for whatever reason. They're just maybe Again, their nefs is too strong and they want to just do what they want to do But these are people who put a lock on their own heart. Okay, and Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala is asking, you know Those people like think about what you're doing, right that this is you're the one that's putting that lock on your heart And then we have the blind heart. Okay, this is also important There's a lot of people who are just blind. So Allah's father says here Do they not travel through the land so that their hearts may thus learn wisdom and their ears may thus learn to hear? Truly it is not their eyes that are blind, but their hearts which are in their chests So there are a lot of people who don't seem to see, you know The importance of worshiping Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala of doing what they're supposed to be doing because They're forgetting they're forgetting that they were created for a purpose And so this is a verse is a challenge that says basically Go out and look right observe with your own eye How beautiful this world is look at the stars and the heavens and the universe and the sun and the moon Look at the waterfalls and the mountains and all of the beautiful things in creation the beautiful Animals that Allah's path has created some of them can camouflage and change their color Some of them, you know can can do so many incredible things So think about all of these Miracles in a way that we're witnessing when we look out into the world and Reflect that who how did this all come about if you're blind you're not seeing these things So that's why it's very important to be in touch with nature and to try to always go out and Maybe take a hike or go somewhere where that it connects you back with nature, right? I know a lot of children one of the things I love I love many things about children But one of the things I love about children is that you have a natural love most children do of nature You love to you know be out and about and you know whether it's you know Just being outside and playing in your backyard or going on a hike going mountain I mean to the mountains going to the beach You just like to be out and and look at the creation of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala So that's why children are always in this beautiful state of joy and happiness because they're in awe They love to see all of the great things that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala has made and created, right? So your hearts are mashallah fully you have great sight right a lot of other people we need to Learn from you because you mashallah have this this natural ability to see things that sometimes adults don't always see Okay, so Alhamdulillah So may Allah protect us again from all of these hearts and then the heart that we all want This is the one okay, so we covered seven so far There's eight this is the heart that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala wants all of us to have and that we should all want to have Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala says the day on which neither wealth nor children will be of any benefit Except for whoever brings to Allah a sound heart. What does he mean by that? He's saying that on that day the most important thing that you can come to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala with is You can't you know buy Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala's happiness with you You can't bargain with Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala It the most important thing that you can do is make sure that your heart is shining bright And healthy and sound there's that word again sound right which really means healthy vibrant alive Right and the prophesies said verily Allah does not look to your faces and your wealth But he looks to your spiritual heart and to your deeds So this is again another reminder that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala doesn't care How tall we are how small we are how much what color our hair is what color our eyes You know are or what you know other things that we have in terms of our physical appearance None of that matters. He doesn't care about how much money we have None of it the most important thing that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala wants from us is a really Sound healthy beautiful sparkling shiny spiritual heart. So How can we get that? Well, that's what we're doing This is what the whole class is about the whole class is to teach all of us How we can try to keep our hearts from getting diseased, okay? So this heart that I just described is Kalbun Salim that word sound in Arabic It's Salim and here is an I again in the Quran from chapter 26 verse 89 This says what? So when the only one who will be saved is the one who comes before God with a heart devoted to him Right a heart that's devoted to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala If Ja'a Rabbahu be called in Salim again He came to his Lord with a devoted heart, right? Very important that our hearts are clean for Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala So oh, sorry, I forgot to give you guys the warning Okay, if you can't look at things that are kind of you know with the human body I'm gonna put a picture up, but I want you to see it. I hope that you guys are okay with looking at it I know we have some kids that are 11. We have other teens that are much older So I'm gonna put it out there and let your parents hopefully decide whether or not you can look at this It's not too bad, but I think it's an important visual, okay? So how do we achieve a devoted heart a clean heart? Well, look at this picture on the right You see that healthy heart, right? That's what we all start off with every single person that's born, you know Healthy all infants. We're given this beautiful fresh piece of you know flesh in our body That just does what it's supposed to do really well it pumps blood and it brings us, you know Full health throughout the rest of our body, right? But over time because of things that we do there's people who eat really bad food But then there's other people who do things like drink alcohol, which is haram in Islam, right? Or they smoke cigarettes or they smoke other things or they do other You know type of just wrong things those things have an effect on their heart And it starts to do this what we see in the damaged heart It starts to cover the heart with disease, right? The heart is no longer working, right? And that's why those people sometimes have a hard time breathing They have a hard time, you know doing anything walking a few steps can for some people be really difficult And it's likely because their hearts have just been damaged for so many years And you know, it just prevents them from living a normal healthy life So the spiritual heart is the same way over time if you don't if you're not aware of the diseases of the heart What can happen is it starts to take over the spiritual heart Just the same way like the damage that you see in this physical heart, okay? So that's why it's so important that we first identify What the diseases are because if you go to a doctor, right and you say doctor I'm experiencing some chest pains and I think my heart hurts he he or she will send you for You know some testing they'll look into your heart and they'll then tell you these are the changes that you need to make If you want to get your heart to be healthy again They'll tell you to stop eating this stop doing this exercise more That's all advice to get your heart to be healthy again But you have to first identify where the problems are so for the spiritual heart. It's the same exact thing You cannot fix the heart if you don't know what the diseases are that affect the heart So that's what we are going to talk about in this class. So let's go ahead and look now. There are 20 diseases of the heart, okay? This is a long list, but we're gonna go over all of them by the end of the class and this is just the first 13 Here's the rest so I'm gonna go over each one of them and kind of give you again some commentary So that you understand what they all mean and how human beings can develop them Like how can someone get a disease spiritual heart? Well, we're gonna talk about that So let's go ahead and jump into the very first Five or six. We're likely because of time we had to do an introduction that we might not get to all of these I think we're probably only going to be able to do the first three, but I still wanted you to see them So let's just quickly look at this list The first one that we're gonna talk about is called miserliness or stinginess Okay, again the the English words are on the right column The middle column has the Arabic words and then the definition is in the right column So the Arabic word for being stingy or miserly is bohol, okay? And this is the definition is someone who is Holding on to their wealth and not spending it when it's necessary and they're being stingy or greedy They don't want to let go of their wealth for whatever reason, okay? So this is a disease of the heart for many reasons because which we'll get to okay But if you can imagine again in Islam the prophet salam when you study his life You know one of the things that he was very well known for was how generous he was he was always Helping people he helped everybody. He even helped animals. So if his generosity Wasn't just for you know, his family or friends. He helped complete strangers He helped people from all different backgrounds and he even helped as I said animals So to not be a helpful person or a generous person or a charitable person is To go against the way of the prophet salam that right in and of itself makes being stingy a very big problem Right and again, we'll get into that in just a moment The next disease of the heart is called wantonness which is butter and this is being way too Exuberant joyful, but that leads you to be reckless in your Extravagance and I know those are probably big words for some of you I'll explain what that means is that you a lot may have given you a certain lifestyle, right? Maybe you have a lot of money like maybe during all these, you know years You've gathered some money from family from, you know Your grandparents uncles aunts before your birthday for Eid and you have a lot of money And then you take all that money and you just want to spend it without really thinking about where Would be best to spend you're just like, you know what I'm gonna go buy like, you know 10 pounds of candy and then go and buy all these toys and even though you have a lot of toys And you probably you don't need all that candy. It's just because you have so much That you can do with all this money that you just let yourself go now for a child That's you know to a certain degree. Okay, but when you have an adult that has that problem It can really be become a big issue, right? And I'm gonna again talk it more in detail once we get to that The third disease that we're gonna cover for today is called hatred and this is Arabic and this is when you hate someone for really no reason no justifiable reason And it's definitely it's not for the sake of Allah because there's sometimes, you know If you hate something anything it has to be for the sake of Allah You can't just hate for no reason, right? And so we're gonna talk about how that disease can also really affect a person's overall spiritual state Okay, so those are the three that we're gonna cover today and then I'm gonna leave it open for some questions, hopefully But let's go ahead and get to the first one. So miserliness, okay? This is again bohol in Arabic So I want you to at home with your parents if you're there to repeat the words because you should know how they sound miserliness and bohol Okay, ha with a ha bohol now. What is that here? We have reminders from the Quran and hadith Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said that those who are miserly and enjoying miserliness on other men and hide what Allah has bestowed upon them of his bounties and We have prepared for the disbelievers a disgraceful torment So Allah is warning us very clearly that if you're a miserly person and you hide You're hoarding to hoard something is where you basically are just collecting, right? You're gathering things for yourself, right? And I don't know how many of you are paying attention But when this whole pandemic started a lot of people were running to the stores to get what? Piles and piles of toilet paper piles and piles of hand sanitizer And there were a specific people who got so much that they cleared out the stores So all the local stores in their cities They didn't even have any of these things available because one or two people took all of it for themselves This is completely wrong in Islam You can't do things like that because there were so many people who needed that stuff, right? They needed it to keep their families healthy and safe, but the amizer doesn't care about other people. They're selfish They're only thinking about themselves and then they hoard things maybe even more than they need There was actually, you know even shows I remember watching a few of them that go through people who have this disease of the heart and they go it they're you know It's like a documentary kind of which is where it's like a little news story where a camera crew will go into the house of a person and then kind of you know just show what how they live a lot of people have a disease called hoarding Okay, and hoarding is where you just can't help yourself You just want to gather as many things as possible Some of these people if you go into their homes, you know what happens you can't even walk through the front door You have to go through a window or a side door because the things that they have Get gathered or accumulated over time are so much that they go all the way to the roof of the house So can you imagine and some of these people like they have one specific thing like I remember watching one woman You know what she loved to buy? She loved to buy dolls So she would buy she was like an older woman So it's not like a little girl who just loves dolls. She liked to collect dolls So what she did is she bought so many dolls that they were taking over every room of her house So this is what happens with people who hoard right? They just keep taking and taking and taking not realizing this is wrong You're not letting other people also have their share and so it's a disease right of the heart the provost And I'm also said spend in charity and do not count it Lest Allah count it against you do not hoard it right do not be miserly lest Allah withhold it from you So this is a clear warning that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala if you are a hoarder Someone who hoards or miserly that Allah will withhold things from you too, right? So you do that to other people you're gonna have it done to you. This is really important to understand now This is an interesting fact Some of you may know this some of you may not Did you know that in arabic the arabic language the word for miserly or miserliness is compared to something really unpleasant That all human beings experience even you pretty much all of us We have all at some point in our lives experiences because it's just natural Thing but it's not very pleasant. Okay, and I'm gonna tell you what it is So check this out The miser ardently clings to what? His wealth, right And he hoards it up The word for cling in arabic is masek. Okay, everybody say masek. Okay What is masek? This is derived from another arabic word, which means constipation Omg, right? I see your smiling faces and laughing faces. I knew this was gonna get you guys to giggle a little bit But just think about it for just a second That the person right who is constipated is what they Are holding on to something that's actually harmful for them to hold on to Because you need to go right when it's time to go you need to go But if you can't go because your body has a problem What happens is it causes you problems, right? So miserly people are compared to a person who is in that state because they're clinging on to something That actually poisons them, right? What do we mean by that? When you have wealth and Allah swt has given you abundance of something In islam we have to give part of our wealth away, right? We give zakat. We give charity Why because that is a cat and in sadaqa that we give Cleans or purifies all of the other wealth that we have So it's kind of like a detox, right? Because we don't know if all of the money that we have is is halal So we give it part of it away so that Allah cleanses the rest of it for us But if you're a miser, what you do is you don't give sadaqa. You don't give zakat You're holding on to your money for whatever reason And so you're they compare you to a person who's in that constipated state That's why it's something so odious something so repulsive, right? We don't want to be misers just like we don't ever want to be in that physically very very uncomfortable state, right? So remember that word the word masak Remember what it means. Okay, so another also just to for those of you who might Again want to quicker definition? miser A miser is someone who's also cheap. Okay, so cheap people Stingy people miserly. Those are all the words that you need to know to understand this disease of the heart Now, how do you get rid of it? Okay, so important because as we talk about the diseases We also have to talk about the cures, right? We can't just Identify the diseases without figuring out. Well, how do I make sure I don't ever ever ever ever become a miser? Well, let's look at what our scholars have told us They've said first number one thing is to remember death Okay, remember that wealth is accumulated over time and a lot of people work hard if you look at your parents They work really hard every single day to give you the life that you have, right? They go to work early. They sometimes deal with really difficult people They're not always in the best state. But why do they do it? Because they have to they have to provide for their families So when you accumulate wealth, it takes time But also one of the things that we know about this world is that death can come at any time, right? And so you have to be grateful for what Allah gives you and use it in its appropriate time Without thinking that you have time to spend because we don't know we have no idea how much life We have in this world, right? We always have hope and we should always have the best Hope with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala But rememberance of death will humble us to know, you know, what what am I holding on to this for? And then we also have to learn how to balance our spending because it's perfectly fine to spend Your wealth if Allah's giving you wealth to spend it you shouldn't you know Hold on to it for no reason, but you also shouldn't waste it. Okay wasting your wealth is just Splurging buying things for no reason just kind of being careless. Okay about your wealth We should not do that and we should learn how to spend it for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala That's a balanced view just doing both, right? And then this is a really important point. So I want you to pay attention. Okay The miser is considered the ultimate loser Why? Because they don't use their wealth in this world because they're holding on to it, right? They don't want to spend they're holding on to their wealth And then in the next life, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala holds them to account Which means he's going to ask them about it, right? He's going to say why didn't you use that wealth that I gave you to help the orphans Or to help the refugees or to help The family that was struggling after their house went on fire, you know Or to help this person or that person Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is going to ask every single one of us How we where we got our wealth from and how we used it So the miser is going to be in a lot of trouble on the day of judgment But then if you think about their life on in this world, how sad because Allah's given you all this wealth But you don't want to spend it. That means you're not even enjoying your wealth You're just holding on to it for no reason. So this is why the miser is considered again a double loser Okay, important to know may Allah protect us all From miserliness. So inshallah say amen. Okay, we have to make dua to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala That he cleans our hearts so that we don't ever get these diseases, right? So it's so important to make that dua yalla. Please protect me from miserliness. I don't want to be Ever in this category of people, right? And also another thing that the scholars say is that the miser is usually someone that nobody really likes Not even other miserly people So kind of funny but not really just the idea that they're so, you know Like disliked that even other people like them don't like them. So think about that. We never want to be like that, right? So the next disease Is wantonness. Okay, this is called butter or butter in arabic. Okay And what is this this Allah's part that again verse Chapter eight verse 40 46 to 47 He says Do and do not be like those who leave their homes filled with excessive pride About their state about all right showing off before people and preventing others from the way of God And God encompasses what they do And then he also tells us he reminds us how many cities have we destroyed that exalted in their livelihood? Here are their homes now uninhabited after them except for a few What is that he's warning us that there were people throughout history That had a lot of wealth and they were very they're big show offs They like to show off and they had all this pride But they didn't do anything really good with with their wealth. They they instead used it excessively They they they Spent on things they didn't need right and that is Something that now the only thing that remains about them are the big homes that they used to go around and you know Show off about because they themselves were destroyed. So Allah reminds us that you know This world is something that's not going to last forever And so don't think that again You just having the wealth that you have and spending it on whatever you want that you're not going to be asked about that Right, it's important that we know there's a it's going to end at a certain point And we're going to be held accountable. So let's look at this Wanting wanting is the definition again is being so full of oneself and proud of one's lifestyle and standard of living That it becomes difficult to show restraint and control one's desires Okay So a person afflicted with this disease wants more and more and more of something Even if they don't need it just because they can have it So this is a form of greed, right? It's a form of greed to be To have this disease of the heart and a lot of people like especially adults what happens to them And this is by the way happening everywhere a lot of adults They end up falling into debt and what does that mean if you fall into debt It means that you Are spending more than you have and how do people do that? They usually go and get credit cards and you know get loans from other people They borrow money from other people And they do things that are just not right because they're trying to Live a certain standard of living like a lifestyle. So they'll buy like really expensive cars But guess what it's not with their own money They're borrowing money whether from a bank or their father or their mother or their brother So they basically can't control this desire to just spend spend spend And it ends up harming them and their families because if you can't control that Then it's going to you know affect everybody It's a and a lot of people they have you know Their their families fall apart because they can't control this disease of the heart So very serious disease. Now, how do we protect ourselves from it, right? Important to know that the treatment is similar to what we're doing right now. Okay We are all experiencing hunger, right when you deprive yourself you go through that process of Saying i'm not going to eat. I'm not going to drink What does it do it just instantly reminds you right of Of all the things that maybe you went a little overboard with it humbles you You start to appreciate what you have more you because usually when you just keep wanting things You lose the value of it, but once it's taken away you remember the value of it, right? And so another important thing to which relates to that picture that I showed you of the heart Is that a lot of different religions not just to slam Have what we call shared like universal beliefs that we we share the same idea about things And so among them is that too much food Actually harms the spiritual heart. Okay, and in fact could kill it So this is connected to wantoness because a lot of people who have wantonness Are are excessive in everything they do not just spending on wealth and material things but also on eating Too much and what happens is their spiritual heart becomes hard hard hardened Okay, that picture that I showed you of that heart that looks like a rock That's what happens to people who eat too much or who drink too much or who do anything In excess spend too much if you don't have restraint. That's what's going to happen to your Slowly basically killing your spiritual heart and the interesting thing the parallel Is that the same thing happens with the physical heart? When people eat really rich foods or and eat too much of it like if you're eating a lot of fried foods and Sugar and just things that are not good for you. They're you know, they're not Healthy foods that would promote health, but they're actually dangerous foods What happens is your heart actually becomes hard hearted with something called arteriosclerosis And this means that the arteries in your heart are hardened. They start to get really really hard Right and so similarly when you eat too much food your spiritual heart starts to also become hard So fasting is one of the ways to actually prevent yourself from getting this disease of the heart InshaAllah another one is to also seriously reflect on death And the hereafter And this includes, you know, the various scenes and states of death because death is a process, right? And then to think about the grave walking on the sirat, right? So if your parents or your Islamic school teachers have ever taught you that there's you know a life after this life We have different things that occur, right? We we have the soul travels the soul was somewhere with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala then It came to the womb of our mothers and then we're born into this world And then we're in the barzakh, which is the stage between this world and the next life And then we have the next life So it's important to know those steps because then it reminds you that you know what? You have to be better and you have to stop Being too greedy and wanting too much and showing more more control of yourself, right? And so then the last disease that we're going to cover is borad This is hatred very important because it's so Common a lot of people unfortunately They have too much hate in their hearts So let's look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the prophesies that have taught us First Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says oh you who believe stand out firmly for Allah and be just Witnesses right witnesses who are just they're people of justice and let not the enmity and hatred of others Make you avoid justice Be just that is nearer to piety and fear Allah verily Allah is well acquainted with what you do So Allah is telling us right away that if you are a hateful person, you're not going to be just full, right? You're not going to be a just person So we need to know that what's closer to Allah and what's going to please him more is being just So we cannot let hatred take over our hearts the prophesies that i'm also said By the one in whose hand is my soul You will not enter paradise until you submit to Allah And you will not submit until you love one another Spread peace and you will love one another Beware of hatred for it is the razor So he's using this word razor sharp thing object, right and he says now he clarifies I do not say that it shaves hair But rather it shaves away the religion So hatred is something that will chip away at our faith at our hearts at our spiritual hearts We cannot let it enter our hearts, right? And so again just to expand on this a little bit One of the consequences of allowing this disease of the heart to grow is that it Inevitably it makes someone unjust that we're you're if you can't let hatred Enter your heart for people for no reason. Oh, I don't like this person because I don't like the way they talk Or I don't like the way they walk or why do they have to you know have this kind of Shirt on sometimes people can get really silly, but they'll find really really ridiculous reasons, right to To not like someone and then they let that dislike turn into hatred And you see this happening a lot not just you know with adults But sometimes even children right children can bully and they can be really mean to each other for no real reason But it's because again, they've allowed this to enter their heart And so what one of the things we have to understand is also what how this takes effect Well, what hateful people do is they tend to focus on one specific thing, right? So you What you focus on one thing you don't like about someone or someone and then that fuels the hatred It just starts to make you feel more and more bad towards them And then what that does is you can't even see all their good qualities anymore You don't see anything but that hatred now we have a word for this This is called and it's a little bit sophisticated, but I trust that you guys can learn this It's called confirmation bias This is when you think have an idea of something and then you convince yourself of it And then that's all you ever see about a person or or anything Then you just think that that that's your that's the truth for you But the truth is it's not reality at all You've convinced yourself of something and then you keep looking for that thing And then you think that that's all there is in that person So that's why it's so wrong because we're very You know, most people have goodness in them, right? Most people are good It's just that maybe they had a bad day Maybe if someone said something to that and it wasn't very nice Maybe they were just having a bad day and you have to be more forgiving Instead of what getting straight to this feeling of hatred, right? Which is why um, you know making excuses for people which we're going to get to soon What that means is a way to remedy and to remove this disease from the heart, right? And so that point about again that you can't be hateful and also be a fair person at the same time is important to remember So how do we treat this disease of the heart? First and foremost, we have to acknowledge that one of the attributes of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is al-wadud Which is the loving one. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is full of love, right? And there's so many beautiful hadiths where he talks about his love and his mercy One of my favorite hadith I was just telling I think my kids yesterday or the day before Was about how many parts of love Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has, right? He has he says there's a hundred parts of his love Only one part of that love Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has put on the earth So that means that every type of love that you see All the animals all the you know forms of love between human beings mother child Sister brother uncle grandmother, you know husband wife all that love Is what only from that one tiny part of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's love the other 99 parts He is saving for us the believers on the day of judgment So love is such a big part of our deen and we have to be loving people, right? And we also have to remember that hate Is the absence of love so if you can have a hateful heart Then that means that there's a problem because in your heart love is removed And we have to help put some more love into your heart, right? And so that's why we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala always to protect us from this disease By by giving us love in our life and increasing his love for us Inshallah we can hopefully overcome it We also Want to be active proactive, right? So if you ever have bad feelings towards someone it could be a classmate It could be anybody a stranger what you want to do is stop And think about what's going on in your heart listen to your thoughts Or you know pay attention to what your thoughts are and then say You know what I don't really know everything about that person Is it really fair of me to think all of these bad things about them? That's not right. I shouldn't do that. Astaghfirullah. Allah forgive me You know, I want to actually be better. So I'm gonna do something even more More than just say astaghfirullah. I'm gonna do something better Which is what to make dua for that person So that's one of the ways that you can remove hatred from your heart Is that you go the next step you take it, you know to the next extra step and you say I'm gonna make dua by their name. So you actually if you know their name if it's a stranger, you don't know their name That's okay. You could just say that person right Allah knows who they are and you say, oh Allah give that person guidance Always that's the first thing you should ask right that they're guided Because we want everybody to have guidance and we want everybody to To know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and for him to be pleased with them And then you can make other da'as that you want for them Okay, so very important to do that and to do with sincerity and then to remember the hadith, right Allah the prophet said him taught us that none of you has achieved faith until he loves for his brother Or sister what he loves for himself. So this means that if you really want to be a good muslim You have to love Other people the same way that you love yourself, right and you should want for them what you want for yourself This is how we become the best muslims that we can become And uh imam know we by the way said that this hadith is universal brotherhood, right? It's not just for your family if you have a brother in your family or your muslim family But it's for all humanity that we want All people to have to be better and to be in a better state So that's how we inshallah grow in our love for other people and that Love will remove the hatred from our hearts inshallah ta'ala So i'm going to stop here you guys because We are just a little bit over time or almost at the end Rahim This is our second session of purification of the heart Thank you again all of you for being here We covered a lot of information on tuesday and i know I watched the video afterwards and i know it was going a little fast at certain times And i apologize if i was going too fast, but i'm going to do this sort of summary every class before we get into the new material So don't worry and if you have any questions the chat box is open But it's uh, oh it's going to come to me and my co-host sister homera who is also here and she's going to facilitate So if you have certain questions about anything that i'm saying at any time feel free to use that chat box And just you know, let's uh, enjoy the rest of this uh this program together inshallah. I want participation especially right now So right now i'm going to just do a quick refresher by first asking some questions to see who is really paying attention on tuesday, okay so first Can who can tell me the name of the author Who wrote the poem That was written in arabic We went over his biography Okay, so if you can type it in the chat box. I have someone who already mashallah gave their answer very quickly I love it. I love that you are on it, but i'm not talking about the translator Okay, i'm talking about the person who actually mashallah noor. There we go Noor got it jazaki la khair and noor you wrote the right answer imam molud or imam al molud, right So imam molud is The one who wrote the arabic text, okay, and he's the one whose poem The next person Translated so now if imam molud is the one who wrote the arabic text Who is the one who wrote the english? translation of his text Okay, mashallah. There we go. We got bilal We got yasin and actually before all of you He he answered first san, right? You're the one who said Hamza yusuf first so that was very good mashallah, but that was for the translator So good job at least you guys know the names of these two very important people So imam al molud is the one who wrote the arabic Text, okay, he wrote the arabic poem about 200 years ago Shea hamza yusuf who's still alive and well. Alhamdulillah. He's here in berkeley. He translated it into english So make sure you know his name. It's very important You know before we jumped into the all some of the diseases I described a couple or a few more than a few I should say different types of hearts Who can tell me first the number how many hearts? Are there described in the quran hadith or in the commentary of some of these texts? Very good. Mashallah. You guys are all getting the right answer. So let's look at the chat to see who answered first Um, I think this is is is han, right? It's it's on or ishal ishal and zaynah Okay, so I have ishal and zaynah Mashallah and then raheel. Very good. Alina nor all of you gave the right answer. Mashallah. Amen Yasin saqib aisha very good ismail Mediam awesome job you guys you guys are paying attention. I love it. Just like a lot of hitting Okay, so now a quick question of all different hearts That we covered Which is the most important one? Which is the one we should all have and we should all want to have Very good. Mashallah. You guys are coming with the answer so quickly. I love it. So Okay, Yasin nor misha Ishal very good aisha afnan mariam Um alina. I love alina. You said the shining heart everybody else said the sound heart very good So the shining heart the sound heart very good Does anybody remember the arabic word for it because that's the english meaning Who can tell me the arabic word or the term? It's a term Okay, who remembers the arabic? Let's see Oh, mashallah mariam. You got it. Kalb salim or kalbun salim. Very good mariam. Mashallah. Tabarak Allah Awesome job. I wish there was like a point system, but very good. Okay, excellent Now we're going to go to the first three diseases that we covered who can type the first three diseases Okay, very good. We got miser or miserliness stinginess Or okay good and mashallah issan you wrote the arabic awesome. You wrote bohol. I love it So you gave me some of you've given me the english some of you are giving me the arabic. Oh, this is awesome Very good. Okay. Let me just quickly pull up my uh slides because I want to make sure I am um Have have everything ready here. Okay. Bismillah. Okay. Very good. So let's see. I'm sorry. So go back to the chat So you guys got miserliness. What's the second disease of the heart that we covered? So we covered miserliness, right? Which is bohol in arabic Very good. Mashallah wantoness. Yes, and butter awesome. Ahsan and afnan. You guys are on the thing You you definitely got it and then noor noor coming in sliding in with all three answers in her In her response. Mashallah. Very good noor. I'm going to see who else remembers the third one The third disease of the heart. Give me the english And the arabic if you can remember the arabic as well Okay, let's see very good. Ehsan got it. Great job. So mashallah noor. You got all three Excellent raheel yasin aisha. Great job. So bohud, right? So we covered Miserliness, which is bohol Wantoness, butter and hatred both you guys rock. Very good job. Thank you guys for for mashallah giving me Again that sense that you were paying attention and that you retained which means that you're remembered What we talked about that's really exciting. All right, so now we're going to go ahead and move into today's lesson Okay, so for this i'm just going to quickly cut out my camera So you guys are not going to see me and then i'm going to Go into the screen share So you guys will see my Desktop as soon as I expand this. Okay, let's see. Bismillah One second you guys. Sorry I'm gonna do that This should hopefully be So let's see Why does it not expanding Huh Sorry guys. I'm trying to make this expand. It was working just a second ago But let's quickly check why this isn't working Bismillah Presenter of you. Hopefully it'll come right on. Okay. Just give me one second Bismillah There we go. Yay. Okay So thank you again for your patience. Here we go. So now you guys should be able to see the entire screen Not a tiny little screen. So we're going to go through the slides some of the slides that we saw last time and We'll go through all of these hearts which we talked about. Oh, there's that picture Okay, and here's the full list of the diseases of the heart This is what we covered the first three we covered last time which is miserliness stinging us Wantonness and hatred which you just talked about now. We're going to go into number four Which is iniquity or transgression? Bari, okay? Bari in Arabic and the meaning of this is it's hatred for other than the say or excuse me Harming anything in creation without a just cause. Okay, so if you ever cause harm to something without reason This would be bari. Okay, so let's go ahead and talk about bari We're going to fast forward through all of these because we already went there. Here we go So bari is harming anything in creation without a just cause which means without a good reason If you're going to harm something like sometimes, you know, you'll see Adults or kids just people walking down the street and then they see A bug and they just squash it Right, why would you squash an innocent bug? That's not nice That bug was just living its life. It didn't do anything to you So we don't harm things without reason, especially if you're just, you know, walking by something or you see people pulling out Grass or flowers, you know when they are at a park, you'll they'll just go and just start pulling at things We want to be careful not to cause harm to anything, right? In creation, so those are just smaller examples but of course this can be a big problem if it's not checked right because With the diseases of the heart some people can have like just like with any disease you can have Like a mild kind of version of it or like a really serious So a mild version would just be wanting to like destroy things, right? Just harming things destroying things destroying property destroying Like I said innocent creations like bugs and animals kicking a cat or a dog. These are all haram. You cannot do that It's not permissible, right? But when it gets In a worse form this can be very very dangerous because it can lead to a lot of terrible things happening, right? So the word bagh is derived and this is again important to know Because it explains the meaning and how we got the meaning of this disease of the heart It's derived from the arabic root word for desire So bari is desiring something so bad that you're willing to harm someone or something else for it Like you're you know, whatever that thing is that you want You're willing to destroy something else. This is why it's such a dangerous and terrible disease of the heart So Let's talk about how this can be come in a in a bigger form in the worst form possible, right? Bari is something that leads often to obsession with power So if you look at some of the world's most notorious leaders like the worst leaders throughout history They were afflicted with this disease, right? And they caused mass Genocide genocide is when you kill a lot of people at the same time For no reason just because you want power. Maybe you don't like a particular group of people, right? And throughout history that's that's definitely happened where people have harmed Entire Villages cities groups of people just just because they they wanted to and for no good reason Just because they didn't like them or they wanted power So bari can bring a lot of harm if it's not treated, right? It causes this disease again of power and wealth Other people that are also have this problem are criminals Right people who steal for example or who destroy other people's properties? Why do they do what they do? It's for you know, maybe they want something right if a if a thief goes into Someone's home They're not caring about the safety of that family or those people inside the home They just want what they want But maybe if they're you know confronted by someone they will hurt them because they want to run away Before the police come and catch them. So they basically really don't have that value for human life And they'll do whatever they can to get what they want, right? Which is why it's so dangerous. So Criminals thieves they have this disease But another group of people Also have a version of this disease and that's something a term that you might all know which are bullies Okay bullies want sometimes to become popular or liked by certain people or they want power Right like a they want to have other people scared of them So what they do is they'll ridicule mocks sometimes even fight people who are less, you know Maybe weaker than them or smaller than them all just to get something for themselves. So they don't really care So this is why again, it's such a dangerous disease of the heart Allah's proud that tells us and warns us about Barry right he says that all faces shall be humbled before him the living The subs the subsisting eternal hopeless indeed will be the man that carries iniquity on his back So he's saying that the person who has this disease of the heart is going to be hopeless On the day of judgment that means that they're not going to be safe because they Caused so much harm to people in this life that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is going to call them to account He's they're gonna have to face him and then The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said Who's islam or uh, sorry abu musa reported that they said they asked the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam a question They said oh messenger of Allah whose islam is best right and he answered The one from whose tongue and hand Muslims are safe so Making sure that you don't cause harm to people right with your words or your hands Is a big part of being a muslim so you cannot have buggy and be a practicing muslim at the same time If you're someone that causes people harm With with your words or like I said with your hands. This is definitely something we have to treat we have to stop that behavior, right? So inshallah that is what we have for buggy and here's the treatment for it So the first part of the treatment that imam al maulud suggests is Having certainty that the day of judgment is real And that every single person is going to face Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And be asked about why they did what they did and that nothing escapes the knowledge of Allah, right? He Knows everything. He sees everything and he's the most just All people are going to be asked every single one of us will have to Answer for what we did so we should know that and once you know that firmly Then it should protect you and prevent you from From iniquity from bari from doing this where you harm other people Another thing is to remember death Okay, remembering death is similar because you remember like I have to leave this world So whatever power I want whatever control I want whatever money I want. It doesn't last It's going to eventually it's not going to matter because I can't take it with me when I die, right? And we don't know when that time is for some people they live a long life other people Maybe not that long, but the point is all of us We only we don't take anything with us when we die, right? That's the only thing we take with us is our good deeds, right? Or our deeds and then we're going to be asked about that on the day of judgment So very important to remember these things frequently and the more you remember them it prevents you from having bari Okay, so that is the first disease that we're going to talk about today Now the next one is kind of related because Certain parts of bari or bari is is fueled by the desire for something, right? You want something and therefore you're willing to hurt people for it So that desire is what we're going to talk about now when we talk about the next disease of the heart Which is love of the world or an arabic hubad dunya. Okay So the love of the world is something that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala warns us about in the quran Because it's something that can distract us, right? It can take us away From worshiping Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So he tells us here in chapter 6 verse 32 He says and the life of this world is nothing but play and amusement But far better is the house in the hereafter for those who are pious. Will you not then understand? So he's trying to tell us like don't get too caught up in this small World a short world because it's not going to last very long compared to eternity, right? We're going to be here For a short time and we should just focus on what we're supposed to do which is worship Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And then the next life is so much better. It's longer We're going to be with our loved ones and we won't have all the problems and the issues that that we have in the dunya So basically stay focused And then he says let not this present life deceive you Which is to also just kind of warn us like don't be tricked by the dunya Because the dunya can be so distracting right if you like I said start working worrying about money and clothes and cars And all the different things you want You'll just forget to do other things, right? It's that's the power of the the dunya is that it can basically take you away from your responsibilities to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala To your parents your family your work It can just take you away because you keep wanting more and more and more so The provisional actually gave us many different hadith that talked about this disease of the heart But there's one in particular that really talks about The time that we're living in now, right? Where he says that nations are about to unite and call each other to set upon you Just as diners are invited to a plate of food So then someone asked is it going to be because of our lack of numbers that day? Will we be small in number? So what the processing just described he said that the muslim umma Is going to uh base there's going to be other people that are going to come and just kind of start taking From our lands, you know, like the the muslim lands throughout the world The way that a person who's really hungry comes to a dinner table and just jumps on a plate of food So they were kind of confused because you know, they were strong people So they didn't understand like how could that be and so their immediate Thought was maybe it's because we're not going to be that many There's not going to be that many muslims And that's why we're going to be so powerless like all these countries are going to be able to invade our countries And take what they want. So that's what they were thinking, right? So they asked is it going to be because our numbers like we're going to be small in number and the provisional said no You're going to be many On that day, but you will be like the foam that floats on the ocean So the provisional is telling us is that the the in terms of numbers population Muslims are going to be very like there's going to be a lot of muslims But there's uh, we're going to be like the foam that floats on the ocean And i'll explain what that means in a second and then he says Allah will remove the fear of you from the hearts of your enemies and put Wehan into your hearts. So two things are going to happen. These Forces that are invading in muslim lands. They're not going to be scared of you. You're not Strong people. They're not intimidated by you. You're weak basically and And they put wehan into your hearts, right? There's some wehan. So then they were like, wait What does that mean? So they asked oh messenger of Allah, what is wehan? And he said Love for the dunya and hatred for death So what he's basically telling us in this hadith is that That that we even though we have large numbers, right muslims are large in population We become weak and we're so weak that other Forces can we'll start invading our countries and taking things from our countries So some of you may know people from certain parts of the world I for example was born in afghanistan, right? There's many other people who Were born in different muslim lands who have had this experience where Other governments other people came into the country took what they wanted and left, right? It's happened in iraq and syria and so many other places in the muslim world, right? And so Why does this happen? Well the prophet said i'm told us it's because we he's putting the responsibility back on us, right? He said that we have an love for the dunya Right, which is and we'll talk about, you know the different types of love that we can and can't have And we have a hatred for death So we don't want to meet Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala because death is really one step closer to meeting Allah, right? And so anybody who hates death, they don't want jannah. They don't want to meet Allah So if you have both of these Problems or issues then it's is it, you know Any wonder why you see so much of the muslim world in the state that it's in it's because we need to Not have these diseases of the heart, right? Both of them are diseases of the heart love for the dunya and hatred for death So now let's just examine this a little bit more, okay The froth of the ocean this is a really good analogy Look at that man in the first picture how small he looks in compared a comparison to the foam, right? The foam of the ocean depending on where you're standing can go really really far So that's it's a pretty, you know large swath of foam that you're looking at here And this is just one little, you know area up in the world But oceans are huge they make up the most, you know Part of the of the entire globe, right? It's water So but look on the right picture and you see that it's like soap, right? Doesn't it look like soap, right? So when you go wash your hands and you lather your hands really well and then you see a bunch of soap in the sink That's what this looks like. It's light. It's airy. It has no weight Which means it's not something strong, right? It's not something strong So the problems I still am use this analogy to say We're going to be a lot. There's going to be a lot of muslims and right now there's about Almost eight billion people in the world And one I think about 1.5 or 1.6 Billion muslims in the world So we are one eighth one eighth of the world population and mashallah muslims are in every part of the world Okay, we're not just in certain parts. We're everywhere But even though we have that many numbers, are we as strong? No, we're not we're like the foam of the ocean and why because Too many of us are afflicted with the disease of hubba dunya Okay, and what is hubba dunya? Here we go This is hubba dunya You wanting all of the best of the best of the best of the best You want a huge house. You want the nicest car. You want gold and jewelry and money And the you know eating the most lavish meals and all the nicest accessories You just keep wanting and wanting and wanting that you It starts to make what in your heart greed, right? It builds this other disease of the heart greed where it's just never enough Right, and this is kind of what we talked about on tuesday wanting this wanting this is you can't control Your desire for things you become prideful So these all these diseases kind of you know affect each other If you have wanting this or love of the dunya You're probably going to share a lot of the same qualities Which they are that you just keep wanting more and more and more and you start to have So you have greed and you start to have pride, right? So these are the dangers of Having hubba dunya is that it makes you keep It leads to these other dangerous diseases right greed and pride So again, we're looking at You know extra when you when you're doing when it's out of balance. It's excess. It's too much Hubba dunya is when that desire for these things takes over you. Okay, and so Let's look at again the other consequence of hubba dunya because not only do you get More greedy and prideful, but you're probably going to become very forgetful So this is the danger is that if you spend all your day Daydreaming about money and about all the nicest clothes and food and the big house and the fastest car And just all of that stuff you're going to start to forget certain things that are very very important Number one, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you know, this is the problem. This is what shaitan wants shaitan Remember, he's our greatest enemy. So he wants nothing more than for us to forget Allah Forget our prayers forget the prophecy said him and so what he does is he distracts us by making the world Look so shiny and like exciting and fun fun fun that that's all we want We just want to have fun and just have the best of the best things So people afflicted with this disease of the heart. This is what they do They'll just sit home and they'll just be thinking about all these things. But then guess what happens They forget to pray They forget the prophecy said him Right. They forget Allah. They forget to give charity because they're too worried about making money for themselves Um, they they don't want to fast because they want to eat all the best foods and just spend, you know All this money on on the best experiences going to the fanciest restaurants They forget to go to the masjid They forget to study and to learn, right? We're supposed to learn every day of our lives. We should be learning something, right? They don't spend time with their parents. They forget to take care of their family Pay their debts because usually you can't keep this lifestyle If you have hubba dunya, you start to get credit cards and start borrowing money And so you get debt. Okay. The debt is when you owe people something So a lot of people with this disease also have wantonness Which is the which we talked about too that it makes them go into debt. Okay They also forget to stay in touch with their friends Take care of their responsibilities. Take care of the earth They don't care about taking care of the earth Because all they care about is wanting whatever they want, right? And that's why uh, they'll spend a lot of money on clothes and other things not realizing that The more money you spend on things the more it causes, you know pollution in the world, right? We there's a lot of pollution that happens because of factories and all of the You know cheap materials that that go into making certain products So as a muslim we have to what be more responsible with our spending and not just keep spending spending spending And then the last thing or another thing is death You don't remember death and that's the very thing that you should be Remembering to protect from this disease of the heart, right? So very important to know the consequences of love of the of the world now Um The next thing to remember is the you know the treatment. How do we treat this? Well, we said remembrance of death, right? That's one of the ways that we can treat this the provost license said remember often the destroyer of pleasures Okay, and he meant by that death that death destroys pleasure And so all those things that we taught that we showed in that picture They're all things that are nice nobody's saying they're not nice But again if it takes Over you the desire to want those things and all you care about is having things and you know just being Seeking out whatever desires you have Then it's a problem So the best way to remedy that or to fix that is to remember death Okay, and then also another treatment is being balanced In how to love the world and all that it contains In a way that's pleasing to Allah because The opposite of or the you know loving the world is not necessarily a problem in and of itself It's when you love the world to a point That you love it more than Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala more than other things, right? You just keep wanting more of the dunya and you don't want to ever leave the the dunya because You want to extend your life as much as possible so you can eat drink Go on vacations and just have a lot of fun go to parties They're fancy clothes. That's the problem, right? So there is a way to have a balanced love for the world And that's part of the treatment as well. Okay, and here it is So first we have to understand that there are five categories of love of the world, okay So there are things that we have to love obligatory why jib Recommended man doob permissible mubah Reprehensible makrooh and forbidden haram. So basically what this is is every single thing in the dunya Can fall under one of these categories? right, for example something that you should love is what the Quran right the book of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala The seerah of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam things that we have in this dunya right the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself The kaaba there's you know the the masjid and nabui Basically any house of Allah or any good place? We should love those things, right? And then there's the recommended right the permissible what you can like what you can Love it's permissible for example to love certain foods or even like we talked about on tuesday if you have a Love for really nice expensive things. That's not a problem It's if you don't have a balance with that love that you would be willing to harm someone to get that thing, right? Let's say for example You go to a store and you see a watch and this watch is so beautiful and you're like oh my gosh It's the most beautiful thing in the world. I want this watch. I want this watch. I want this watch Okay, now if you go back home and you look at your piggy bank or you go and you ask your parents like hey Mom dad, I want to do some chores in the house because I really want to purchase this watch that I love What chores can I do and then they tell you okay? You can do this this and this and you start saving your money, right? There's nothing wrong with if you saved your money and you said I'm going to go buy buy that watch because it's a nice thing and you worked hard for it, right? but if you Wanted that watch and then you thought about it and you said oh, man. It's like 500 dollars I'm never going to make 500 dollars. How can I get this watch? What can I do and then you know shayton will come and he'll kind of give you an idea He'll say I have an idea Go to the store and distract You know the the person at the checkout place and just go grab it real fast, right? This is how shayton works. He comes and he whispers to us things, right? So he might put that thought in your mind and now all of a sudden astaghfirullah You have what this is iniquity, right? This is causing harm because of your desire the desire is so much You can't help yourself. You're willing to harm someone or something for it, right? So we have to be very careful of that but as far as wanting the watch that's perfectly fine, right? Um, something reprehensible or makru would be for example to Delay your prayers. Okay We should pray on time when the prayer comes in As soon as you know that it's the haras or maghrib. You should pray If you make a habit out of delaying your prayers This is not permissible or it's a reprehensible. It's makru. It's disliked. Okay. It's not haram. It's not, you know Uh, it's certainly not, uh, you know recommended or permissible. It's makru So you have to know the difference that everything in the world falls under one of these categories and then the forbidden We know are haram. You should not like, you know, alcohol Or eating certain foods that you know, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has forbidden, right? That would not be very good at all to to uh, to love those things which Allah dislikes So love of the world is about having a balance about understanding that everything in Allah's creation Falls under one of these categories. Okay And then the prophesies that i'm warned because remember where when we talk about Love of the dunya being a disease of the heart that does not mean that the answer for it is to hate the dunya No, no, no, astaghfirullah The prophesies have actually told us and warned us do not curse the world The fort god created the world and the world as a means to reaching the knowledge of god So what he's saying is that don't think that You know the opposite of hubba dunya is to have a bad View of the world and to be like, oh, I hate this place and I want to leave And I can't wait to go to jannah and you have a very bad opinion of the dunya No, we should have balance. There's good in the dunya and there's harm in the dunya And we love that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves and we don't love that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala doesn't love That's how we look at the dunya and that's balanced People with hubba dunya, they don't have balance They love too many things that distract them from the worship of Allah. That's why it's a disease of the heart But to say I love Allah's creation I love the sun and the stars and the moon and the Parks and the rivers and the lakes and the trees and the oceans and the beaches And the good delicious fruits and the vegetables and the beautiful animals That's actually very good. We should we should be grateful to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for The beauty of the dunya that he's placed us in because he could have placed us in a dry planet like mars, right? Mars is dry. There's no barely any water there. It's like a giant desert He could have put us in a planet like that But he put us in this big Huge beautiful Basically garden, right that it's so amazing and there's just so many things that we can Appreciate when we look around all the colors that we see and the different variety of animals as we said, right? And flowers and flora and and trees These are all reasons that we should have what immense gratitude to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So the balance is so important to treat haba dunya You have to have a balanced view and the best thing to do is just to say i'm gonna love everything that Allah loves Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he is what the most beautiful and he loves beautiful beautiful things So we can always Love that which Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves and he he dislikes foul things, you know things that are not good So we should also dislike things that are not good. Okay Very good. Alhamdulillah. So that was the second disease The third disease is called envy or hasad. Okay, what is this? This is a huge disease of the heart Okay, and a lot of people are afflicted with hasad. What is it? It is a form of Jealousy, which we're going to clarify because sometimes Envy and jealousy are used to to define hasad, but they are slightly different But before we do that, let's look at what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says specifically About this disease he in chapter 4 verse 54. He says or do these people envy What Allah has bestowed upon them from his bounty Okay, and we'll again explore what that word means and then he says seek refuge from The evil of the envier when he envies, right? And this is we all know this this surah, right? Qul awudu bi rap al falak, right? Insha'Allah, we all know this surah. This surah is describing the envier. Okay And then the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said stay away from hasad from envy for hasad Eats up good deeds like fire eats up wood So I want you to imagine that okay when you go put a fire somewhere if you've ever been camping or if you have a fireplace As soon as you put that firewood in and you light it up. What happens to the wood? It starts to crackle, right and then very quickly you see it Just there's smoke and then all of a sudden there's this roaring fire If you come back and check on that after a few minutes part of it will be gone The wood is turned into ashes, right? So here he's warning us that having hasad Which is a type of jealousy and again, we're going to define it in a minute Is so bad that it eats up good deeds like fire eats up wood So let's understand the difference between envy and jealousy because like I said, it's usually used a lot the same way Um and jealousy or envy is the desire to have something that's not yours. So basically Let's say you go to school, okay Or you're at the mall or you're at the masjid or wherever and you see someone who looks your age Okay, maybe they're 15 16 maybe they're 12 13 But another person who looks your age and they're the same as you if you're a boy He's a boy if you're a girl. She's a girl You look at them and they're wearing a shirt that you like Maybe it's got something on it that you like too. Maybe if you're into legos the shirt is on legos Or maybe it's got unicorns and butterflies on it But whatever whatever you see this person who's the same age as you're wearing You really like what they're wearing And you wish you had it, okay Now it's not yours, right and you don't want that is so envy is like you don't want them to have it It's like why do they get to have that? That's not fair. I want that It would look better on me and you start having all these really really bad thoughts That's envy, right? It's spite. It's basically this desire that turns into this resentment Towards the other person, okay Where you just really don't even like that person anymore and you wish they didn't have it because it bothers you It bothers you that they are wearing it and that you're wearing something that is maybe an older Thing or that you've had for a while or what it's not as exciting So you the envy just turns the into your heart into this, you know, really resentful, uh, you know Thing that that you just can't think anything positive about that person, right Now jealousy is an emotion, right and it typically refers to the negative thoughts And feelings of insecurity fear and anxiety Over an anticipated loss of something so if you're worried about losing something That can be jealousy, right? Like oh, I wish I didn't uh, you know, I Like if you're comparing yourself to somebody else that they have something But it's not that you necessarily want them to not have it You just wish you could have it too or if you already have it You're you know, you wish that you didn't lose it. So there's these it's a different feeling It's not about the person themselves that you're looking at. It's just about your own insecurity That's jealousy, right? But envy is actually wanting the other person to lose what they have So it's not just that you like it and that you want it for yourself and that you're Insecure over it. It's that you actually want that other person to not have it anymore And that's why it's so much worse. So envy is much worse than jealousy, right? Jealousy can just come from like I said so many different things that may happen to you and it may not even involve another person It's just Something that you want, right? Whereas envy is directed towards another person and that's why it's so dangerous Okay So what's the treatment? Well, first again, and we see the same thing keep coming up if you notice most of the diseases of the heart The treatment is almost all of the ones that we've learned so far is remembrance of death, right? Why well one of our uh, the sahaba abu darda said he who remembers death often Then his delight becomes less and his enviousness of others diminishes So people who remember death a lot they just stop really caring about what other people are doing What they're wearing how much money they have what clothes, you know, what kind of car they drive They don't care because they're more worried and more concerned about the next life Right, that's what the remembrance of death does it makes you Focus on what's important and you stop worrying about other people And you realize like Allah is the one who distributes that means he's the one who gives Everybody whatever that he wills for them. So for some people they're going to have a lot of money But guess what having a lot of money is a big responsibility And if you don't do what he expects of you you're going to have a lot to answer for right So it's not always so exciting if you think of it that way For other people he might have given them knowledge and he expects That they teach and use that knowledge to teach other people, right? So every the everything is given By Allah, he gives to people according to what he wants and therefore There's no reason to be jealous because you have certain things blessings that other people don't have right We all have things that not everybody else has So the best thing to thing to do is not focus on what other people have But rather focus on what Allah's given you and be grateful for it and remember again That death when it comes you don't take anything with you Except for your kalbun salim, right? That's all we should want to take with us more than anything else. We want that Sound heart, right? But nothing else really matters So that's why the remembrance of death is so good. And then imam al ghazali also said what And this is to help clarify, right? Because not everybody who has these feelings is Afflicted with the disease itself, right? So he said that if someone hates envy and is ashamed That he has it or she has it in her heart Then that person is not really an envious person So if you've ever felt that way about someone where you might have felt envy Maybe you went to someone's house and their house was bigger than yours Maybe, um, you know, you Saw someone at school and their car They can't their mom and dad came and picked them up in a really nice sports car And you were like, man, I wish my parents could have that You know, if you've ever had those feelings But then later you realized or maybe you're realizing right now as we're talking about this that those feelings aren't good to have And you feel bad about it. Like it's it's like all stuff for why wish I didn't think that about that person Or that thing that's a really good sign It means that inshallah you don't have envy Because it's natural sometimes to just see something that someone else has and like it That's okay It's but remember envy is when you don't want the other person to have it anymore And you wish that they were to lose it. This is where it gets really bad, right? So if that feeling has ever come in your heart All you have to do is say astaghfirullah. May Allah forgive me and inshallah Try not to have that feeling again And remember that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one who distributes everything, right? Okay, so one thing to Clarify here is that there is an acceptable type of envy and it's called ghipta. Okay And this is being competitive For the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Okay, that's called ghipta. And this is perfectly fine So there's the harmful envy which we just talked about and now we're talking about the acceptable form But there's two particular things that you have to have ghipta for. Okay So you can have ghipta here is the hadith. There's no acceptable envy in ke ghipta except for two people One who has wealth and spends it towards good causes The other is one who has wisdom and teaches it to others So what this tells us is that you can have this competitive good ghipta For a wealthy person Because you will see them that they're able to do so much, right? They're able to maybe build a masjid for the for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Or you know a given charity to all these different really important causes And so you look at them and you're like, oh, yalla, I wish I could have Wealth too because if I had money I would do this that I would do that and I would buy my mom a beautiful home And I would buy my father this and you want to just give your money for good, right? That is ghipta and that's perfectly fine And then the other type is when you see someone who has wisdom, right? They're knowledgeable Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given them knowledge of the dean or maybe they Went to school and they were able to You know do really well in school and they're now working and helping so many people You can have ghipta for that type of a person because What you're doing is saying well if I had the same opportunity or the same blessing that they had I too would want to do good works So everything is connected back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala with ghipta It's not that you don't want the other person to have it It's not because you have hubba dunya Where you just love power and money and wealth and status and all you're focusing on is wishing to have those things This is about doing good to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and that is permissible. So we can definitely have that Okay, so inshallah. I think this is yeah, that's the end of the presentation today you guys So let me stop here because I'm going to do about three a day. I don't want to overwhelm you guys There's a lot of content. Okay, so I want to make sure that you guys, you know have clear answers To your questions if you have any so let's go ahead and use the remaining time that we have for q&a So inshallah. I hope you guys enjoyed the presentation today. We talked about Iniquity, right? We talked about Um hubba dunya. We talked about envy. Mashallah. So three Um diseases of the heart, but let's go ahead and hear from you guys. I'm going to check the chat box now Okay Bismillah. Wow, there's a lot of questions here that's Is it okay for one to envy without knowing that they are envying so very good, but I think uh You asked that question and I answered it, right? If you have This feeling and you're not aware of it There's no responsibility on you, right? We're not held accountable for what we don't know So if you ever had that feeling then just say it's okay because you didn't know that you had envy And now you're asking Allah to remove it from your heart that oh, Allah Let me be happy with what you've given me and not worry about what other people have And actually be happy for them too, right because that is even better If you're if you see someone succeeding if you see someone have something Right, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that you haven't completed your faith, right until you love for your brother or sister What you love for yourself? So if you want really strong faith like iman And then you want to be happy for when you see someone else have something say alhamdulillah. That's great Allah gave them that thing that shows that you actually understand that it's more Uh important to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and to be content with what he's given you Then to ever let these feelings of hasad and jealousy enter your heart Where you um, you know want audibula Harmed on someone else just because you can't control your own desire, right? The desire is so strong that you actually would want someone else to lose it. That's why it's just not right, right? Okay, so let's look at the rest of these questions. You guys have so many mashallah um Okay, so someone asked and this is a good question because it's important What if you're scared of death and how to remember death, you know being scared of death, especially for some of you who are younger It's perfectly understandable You know, you're just starting your life and all of a sudden you're being Told about death it kind of can seem like well, you know, that's uh, that's a little too much for me And that's understandable But we kind of have to look at this from a different lens when we say to remember death That doesn't mean to get dark about death and just to start thinking about all the scary parts of death It means to just think of it death as a like we're all travelers, right? And that's how you have to really look at yourself is that alas panopada He created the soul to travel through different worlds. Okay, so before we were here, for example Where were we right before we were born? We were with alas panopada and then he put our souls Into the womb of our mothers and then we came into this world So we we are we've already been traveling. We just don't have a memory of that So when you think about death, you want to just think about it Like it's the next part of your travel, right? And it's not something to be scared about because you're getting closer to alas panopada And as long as you have belief and iman inshallah, then you'll be okay, right? That's the most important thing and that's why alhamdulillah your parents are doing their Responsibility of teaching you your religion of teaching you who alas panopada is of teaching you who the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is Teaching you how to pray teaching you how to Have all of these things to know all these things inshallah so that when you go to the next part of your travels Which for most of you inshallah is going to be a long long way from now So you don't want to think about it like oh, it's going to happen tomorrow No, we're just saying that death is a natural part of life Everything it's just kind of a cycle of this world, right? And so when the our time comes inshallah It's just the next part of the travel and then the final place the final destination Is inshallah going to be in jannah where we're all going to be together with our loved ones And it's going to be the most exciting time and we can't even come you know compare anything to it Nothing we've ever done in the dunya can compare to what's going to what's going to be waiting for us in jannah So you want to look at death like that like well if I want jannah I kind of have to go through this part of the travel, right? I can't skip it But that's it not to get dark about it. Okay And so I hope that answered your question. Let's see. There's a lot of good questions here. Masha'Allah Okay, so very good question about killing a bug if it's annoying or in your house So there's a difference the example I gave was on the street Minding its own business or at a park or in this, you know school yard or in the sidewalk even, right? That bug is living its life. It's not a pest But if a bug becomes a pest in your house or you're threatened by it, right? There's some very poisonous spiders for example And you're afraid is this going to bite me? Is it could it harm me? That's different right and in that case. Yes, you can absolutely protect yourself if you have to My boys they're on the the chat here. We have this plastic bottle and it's called a spider catcher Okay, well, that's what we called it. It's really just a plastic container from an old I think is it almonds? Maybe a sink can go grab it but it's basically just a container that we got from cosco and Once the almonds or whatever was inside of it finished Then we put a label on it and it's called our spider catcher So what we do is if we see a spider anywhere in the house We quickly go grab the spider catcher and we scoop it up and we take it outside That's what we do because we try to be very mindful about life in general So if we see bugs that are not harmful or maybe that are you know that they're not moving fast and flying at you You could easily scoop them up then we'll do that but everybody's different. I know some people are very You know, they have phobia right arachnophobia. That's a real thing They can really get like you scream if they see a spider, you know, you have to preserve your life and if you feel Scared to that level head inshallah, but try to Again, if you can not kill if there's no harm, that's the point of it Okay, as long as there's no harm especially in nature like we should never Kill things in nature. That's just really not right because that's not in our home That's that those things are where there should be a lot created The world for all of us to be in right and it's not fair to say. Oh, I'm just bored right now I'm going to go squash a bug for no reason all the black. This is actually completely forbidden. Okay All right, so let's see Um, can you still okay? Isn't a person going to become sad if they think about death So I hope I answer that question I should because if you think about death as just death itself Yeah, you might be sad, but if you think about death as really just a part of the journey to jannah It's not so sad, right? So it's really the way that you think about death Okay, but the point is is when you remember death what that's reminding you is Watch it. Watch yourself, right? You're telling your nefs and shaytan. No, I'm not going to um I'm sorry one second. How did that happen? Is seen Okay Yeah, sorry you guys That got um, I don't know how that happened, but we are not taking over the cameras Okay, please because this is being recorded So don't take over the cameras Let's see here Okay, Bismillah. So back to the questions here Um My dad there's it So I'm just going over because I'm getting some repeat questions here. These real diseases Okay, so yeah, we do have someone who said I'm naturally scared of spiders Um, yeah, if you're really afraid that it's going to bite you that's understandable. Okay. Um Yes, if you are You know working with an animal and you accidentally hurt it There's nothing that's okay. You know as long as it's accidental things accidents happen, right? Sometimes you might Run into it or poke it and it gets hurt Just, you know, try to take care of it because animals do have feelings, right? There's that beautiful Story of once when the prophesies said I was with his companions. They were out somewhere and he kind of left for a little bit and uh What and one of the sahaba he saw a bird's nest And he just thought hmm. I want to go take it So he just took a nest full of little eggs and chicks And he put it in his, you know Part of the caravan and then they started walking and the prophesies suddenly eventually joined them and when he joined them All of a sudden this bird from up top started flapping its wings really really like vigorously Which just means like intense, right? And so he looked up and then the prophesies that I remember one of his miracles is that he could communicate with animals Very similar to to who which other prophet? Let's see. Who knows which other prophet could communicate with animals Right, but he could very good mashallah. Hassan so he could communicate like um prophets who they meant So he understood from this bird that What was happening that someone It's a mother bird that someone took her babies So then he immediately turned to his companions and said which of you Has hurt the feelings of this mother bird and taken its babies and then that sahaba was like, oh Sorry, it was me and then he ordered him to put it back where he found it So the brawl says i'm in the words that he used he's telling us what That animals have feelings. Okay That's really important for us to remember because They do have feelings and so if you accidentally heard it I used to have a cat and there were times where you know We were playing around and she would scratch me and then I would kind of paw at her and we were playing But if I ever felt like she like I did something to her I'd be like, oh, I'm sorry juju You know there's times actually she would sneak past me and I'd almost accidentally trip over her, you know But I felt bad because I you know accidentally. I didn't know she was there So you we have to remember their animals. We're going to be held accountable But just to to be you know nice enough to at least say sorry and to try to make them feel better But as far as it being a haram or a sin if you do it on purpose. Yes, of course, that's sinful It's haram, but if it's an accident inshallah, okay. All right, so let's see Um Very good question. I have a question about bari. Is it where narcissism comes from? You know, um Potentially what you know, it could it could very well come from that I mean if you are willing to hurt other people for power Then it's likely that you have you know this problem that you or this belief that you think you are Better and more valuable Uh, you know as a as a human being than other people and that's really the root source of narcissism, right? You think of yourself as better than other people and you're willing to hurt other people if you have to So in a way inshallah All right. Um, so very good. All right. Thank you guys We have come to the end of the session and you guys a lot of your questions were Um, or very good questions. I think that I thank you all for for um, participating MashaAllah, that was awesome And uh, we will have um, inshallah Let's see. Sorry. Let me check the date the next class we have is going to be next Tuesday. Okay, so one week from Well, no today's thursday I was going to say one week from today not one week a little less than a week from today We'll see you inshallah at the same time from 5 to 6 p.m. For the next three maybe four sets of uh, of Diseases inshallah Okay, so inshallah. We'll see you guys. Let's go ahead and end in dua. All right Bismillahirrahmanirrahim To believe it. All right. Alhamdulillah. Thank you guys again. I hope you enjoyed the class inshallah We will see you next Tuesday. All right, and if you have any further questions Hold on to them for me and come back next tuesday. We'll get to them eventually. All right. Assalamu alaikum everybody wave I'm gonna go through the whole camera. Yay. I get to see all your beautiful faces. MashaAllah. Thank you for being here Alhamdulillah. All right. Take care and have a wonderful wonderful iftar. Okay for those of you who are fasting If you're not fasting make dua for your families make dua for all of us. Okay. We need your du'as. Your du'as are very powerful All right All right. Salamu alaikum Bismillahirrahmanirrahim. Asalaamu alaikum. Rahmatullahi wabarakatuh Again, Salamu alaikum everyone. Alhamdulillah. We are here for our third session of purification of the heart Thank you for being here I made a few announcements before we officially began to those who are here early just to again Keep everybody on the same page. We've switched over to the webinar format So the chat box is open and I invite you to participate via the chat box I'll ask you some questions right now because I want to begin inshallah And we'll begin like we did last time with a bit of a little bit of a quiz Okay, so if you remember from last two sessions that we had Or if you have notes, maybe you want to take those notes out and quickly look them over. Okay And the first question I have is who can tell me Who the original Author is of the text the arabic text that we are talking about here Okay, because there's a person who lived 200 years ago about 200 years ago Uh, very good. Alhamdulillah. So we have some answers. Good job So i'm just going to make a slight correction because all of you have answered the same answer So his name is actually imam al-molud. Okay, so a lot of you are responding imam molud Which is fine. It's like a quick way of saying it but the accurate Name is imam al-molud. Okay. I just wanted to clarify that very good So alhamdulillah. This is imam al-molud's text and he lived about roughly close to 200 years ago Um, who is the person who translated? The the book from arabic into english. What's his name? Very good. Mashallah Excellent. Okay, and what uh, where does uh, shea khamza all of you, mashallah Who are answering had if you were the first to come in very good and shamina second bilal third Awesome. Great job you guys. Amen as well. Great job and leila all of you are answering it wonderfully Where does uh, shea khamza currently live? Where is he situated? What part of the world? Bay area. Oh, there we go. We got bay area and then we got yasin with the correct answer berkeley very good So he's in berkeley. Uh, does he have a special um, you know place that he works at? And if so, what's the name of that place? Who can tell me the name of the place? Very good. Mashallah. Amen. You came in there and had it as Had it you said zaytuna, but amen got the full answer for zaytuna college. Very good. Awesome. You guys sorted yussef Bilal yasin, um as well. Awesome. Okay, so next, um, we we right away talked about the Uh, a certain number of hearts Who can remember the very first heart that we talked about? Okay, there were a certain number Um of hearts you can tell me if you want the number of hearts, but what was the first one that we covered? Very good. Mashallah. So ismael answered eight Awesome. Good job ismael and then yasin came with the first Heart as the dead heart. You guys are on it. Excellent. The first heart was in fact the dead heart very good And what's the last heart called? If you can give me the arabic name even better The last heart that we talked about Very good. Amen came in with the sound heart. Awesome. And what's the arabic of the sound heart? Mashallah. Very good. Shamina. Awesome. Great job. You guys you guys are doing really well. Mashallah. Okay, so, um, we covered a few different, uh, you know diseases already Who can remember the very first disease that we covered? The first one Okay, yasin came in with miserliness. Very good. What's the arabic? Bilal you answered me before I even finished that question. You are awesome. Great job. And it's done very good You guys know the arabic terms. Awesome. Uh, what is, um, the disease of the heart now I'm going to switch up the questions a little bit to try to pay attention to the definition. Okay What is the disease of the heart where you're Too you can't control your, uh, excitement and it makes you prideful It makes you maybe want to spend on things a little bit too much It's like you can't control it. It's too exciting and that leads to, uh, extravagance Uh, very good. Awesome. Afnan. Great job. Wantonness. Very good. What is the arabic, uh, of wantonness called? Afnan again. Look at you. Masha'Allah. Very good. That's so exciting when you guys get it right like that. Awesome Okay, so there's another disease of the heart. I want I'm going to give you the arabic term I want you to quickly. Okay. It's like lightning Uh, you're gonna type it out the english of it What is the english meaning of the word? Who can tell me board? Wow. Afnan man. Masha'Allah. You are just ahead of everybody right now, huh? You're coming really quick Super fast. Masha'Allah. You guys are awesome. Okay next This is the disease of the heart where you harm People or things for no reason whatsoever. You're just not having a good day and you you you feel like you can hurt something Awesome. Bilal came in with it with the word iniquity. Very good. Bilal. Masha'Allah Who can tell me the arabic Name of that Bilal, you're like right there with me. How you know what I was gonna ask, didn't you? Very good We got Bilal. We have Ehsan and Afnan. You guys all three of you got the word. It's bari bari, right? Great job. You guys I am so impressed. Masha'Allah Okay, this disease of the heart the Prophet s.w. Said in a hadith. He was worried that towards the end of time We would be like the froth of the ocean and he said we would have wahen In our hearts and then hit the companion said what's wahen? Yeah, Rasulullah, and he said this disease of the heart. What is it? Very good. Masha'Allah. Ehsan bake awesome love of the world Heba dunya. Now you're on it. See that's what I love. Ehsan you went with the English and the Arabic in one answer Pay attention you guys. That's a really smart way of getting the full answer, right? He's showing me He knows both great job. Masha'Allah TabakAllah Okay, then we went on to another disease of the heart. This is when you See something in someone and you can't Control your desire for it and you actually want them to lose it. What is the Arabic of it? There we go. Masha'Allah. Excellent. So Yasin got this Ehsan again came through Bilal Shamina All of you you guys got kind of all answered at the same time. It just came rolling in. Amen Taslim. Good job. Awesome Very good. Alhamdulillah This is a disease of the heart that the Prophet s.w. said it consumes your good actions like fire Consumes wood What is the name of that disease of the heart? Let's see who was paying attention It consumes your good actions like fire consumes wood Is it jealousy? I kind of tricked you guys there and some of you fell for it, but Shamina Or i'm sorry. Who is the who did I see aisha came through it is envy you guys envy Remember envy and jealousy are kind of used, you know oftentimes You know to mean the same thing, but they are slightly different Envy you want the other person to lose what they have jealousy You just want it and you're insecure about things. Okay, so that's why where it comes from whereas envy is just really You know about having it and wanting the other person not to have it so very good and has said very good How to thank you is the Arabic word for envy excellent You guys are really doing wonderful. Masha'Allah. Tabarak Allah What is okay? This is the trick question or not trick question This is the bonus question. Let's see who can get the bonus. Okay, if you get this one Masha'Allah Allah's you're really paying attention So let's say Ahmed. I'm just making up someone Ahmed sees Bilal and Bilal is memorizing Quran And he's got juz i'ma memorize and now he's on to the 29th juz and he's doing really good And then Ahmed goes man, I wish I could be like Bilal He's got so much Quran memorize. Why can't I do that? I'm gonna go find a teacher and I'm gonna do this. What is that called? Yes Bilal got it Masha'Allah. How how perfect is that right because Ahmed and Bilal Bilal you're you're on it. Masha'Allah. This is ghibta. Okay. Ghibta is what? Ghibta is a good form of jealousy, right? It's when you're competing for good things So when you're trying to gain knowledge, what's the other reason that the Prophet ﷺ said you can have a ghibta for? So if you're it's good jealousy, right? It's good to compete with with someone for this. So one is Knowledge, what's the other thing who can remember? Come on. You guys can do it. You've been doing amazing so far Wisdom and knowledge kind of go hand in hand, right? Because you have to be wise, you know Or if you have knowledge, hopefully you're wise, right? Um, okay, very good. Afnan Masha'Allah. It's what your your gave is I think a pretty good answer and Yusuf as well Wealth or Sadaqah. So the means to To do things right? So if you see someone who has a lot of wealth, you can have Ghibta for that person as long as your intentions are good, right? You want to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so you have that jealousy like oh I wish I had that kind of money so that I could do a lot of good in the world, right? Like help orphans, right? This is a great cause, right? Or build a masjid. So there's a lot of Great things that you should be doing with the money and if you have Ghibta for someone who's wealthy That's okay or for someone as knowledge. You guys are so amazing. Jezakim al-Akhirah. I love that you guys are paying attention and you're remembering stuff that makes me so, so, so happy So may Allah bless all of you. Now. Are you ready to start our third session because we're going to introduce you to three new diseases of the heart You guys ready pay attention now. Okay, or any take some notes If you want to let me go ahead and pull up my presentation to make sure that we are ready So my first screen share Bismillah, and I you should be able to see my screen and now we're going to go into presenter mode and boom Okay, you guys see it. Yeah, inshallah. Let me actually pull up the chat so I can see what you guys are saying um So what do you guys see on the screen? You see week two Sister has said looks perfect Okay. Alhamdulillah. Thank you. Jezakim al-Akhirah sister. All right. Here we go ready So week two we had week one last week. We did two sessions. This is where we're at now So we're going to cover these diseases this week inshallah. Okay For today's session. I only did the first three Just because I I didn't have honestly enough time to prepare more and also number 10 is a big one And I want to kind of focus on that a little bit more on thursday So we'll get through the remaining four inshallah on thursday. Okay, but for today We're going to go over blame worthy modesty Which is hayat demim and then that is holding on to One's wealth. Uh, oh, I'm sorry. Did I not oh no? I think I unfortunately forgot to Um cut and paste the proper column here on the right. Let me go back to the previous slide I hopefully have it here somewhere. We're just going to do a quick rewind rewind to here. This is uh, Where did we go not here here? All right, so we're going to go to number seven eight and nine. Okay, so my bad I forgot I didn't properly cut and paste this definition part of it. So I apologize So number seven blame worthy modesty is shyness or cowardice that prevents someone from addressing a wrong Or inquiring about a need. So what does that mean? It means when you are too shy to act in the in a time where you should act Let's say you're listening to a teacher like myself or maybe you're at the masjid and there's a khutbah going on And they say something that is um, not clear like maybe I say something too that's not clear And then you're like, oh, should I ask or not? Should I say something? Should I raise my hand and go teacher teacher? I didn't understand that right sometimes Our shyness prevents us from acting when we should So we're going to talk more, but that's just a quick example of that. Okay Blame more these thoughts These are thinking about things that are prohibited. Okay, like if you're just letting your mind Kind of wander on and you're just thinking about things you shouldn't think about and we'll talk about what we mean with that Okay, but anytime you have thoughts that are just really pointless or it's a waste of your time That would fall under bloom already thoughts and then fear of poverty So that is when you're so afraid of you know, not having enough food or wealth or material things That it creates this anxiety in you and it almost basically kind of destroys the way that you live your life Right a lot of people and it's somewhat kind of could be tied to Miserliness because if you have a fear of poverty it might lead you to become someone who's hoarding their wealth Right because it's like, oh no, I can't spend too much money because I you know I'm going to be poor or I'm going to not have a home to live in or and those thoughts can kind of just really take Someone to a very dark place where they lose, you know, complete trust and all us upon that So we're going to talk about those three diseases today. So let me now fast forward really quickly Let's see how fast I can go. Okay, and I'm going to click as fast as I can. Okay But how fast was that? Nope, here we go. Here we go. Wrong one. Okay, so here we are we are on Again blame worthy modesty. So first before we even get to blame worthy modesty, let's be clear about what the word modesty means, okay So most of us we know this word. It's a very big part of our Faith, but sometimes we need to really have a broad understanding of modesty Because it's not just about our clothing. Okay, a lot of times when we hear modesty It's reference to dressing modestly, right? But it's more than that It's about being humble and not showing off and when we say showing off this obviously includes Showing off our bodies, right, which is why we dress we cover We dress modestly because we don't show off the things that are private, right? Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala told us to be modest in the way that we dress So it's about not showing off our bodies or our good deeds skills strengths Whatever gifts Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala has given us if he's blessed us with if you're a modest person You don't show off. Okay, why because you're confident You don't have a need or a reason to be a show off Someone who shows off they're insecure, right? They're insecure They feel like I have to show this because then I get attention and if I get attention It makes me feel good about myself Muslims we don't look to other people for attention. We look to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala He's the only one whose opinion of us matters So we don't feel the need to walk around and strut our stuff And you know Show our skin because a lot of people in this culture, right? You see them all the blah and as the temperatures get warmer They start, you know wearing inappropriate clothing, right? And when they do that Our job as Muslims because we don't judge people, right? We do not judge people We say that Leave everybody to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala and I have actually a really good story That that I'm going to share in a moment about not judging people But but what when we see someone who's dressed in an inappropriate way We show our modesty by what lowering our gaze, right? So here Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala tells us tell believing men to lower their glances and guard their private parts, right? So you lower your eyes so that you don't see things that are immodest and you also cover yourself, right? You cover your area a private area that is pure for them God is well aware of everything they do and then say to the believing women. Oh, excuse me. Ah, where am I? Sorry, you guys I'm Butterfingers here. Okay ah I'm trying to move this little chat box because it's in the way of the text. So I apologize Okay So say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty That they should not display their beauty and Or an events except what must ordinarily appear, right? Our hands our face that they should draw their veils over their bosom So you see where hijab we cover ourselves, right? This is how Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala instructs Muslim men and women to dress we dress in a modest way, right? And I'm just going to quickly tell you guys a story that this really actually happened to me I was once um At an airport and this is a long time ago where I was younger and I didn't know a lot of things and I thought that You know, I'm better than people because I was wearing hijab And so I did I kind of let my arrogance self righteousness, which we'll talk about right? It's sometimes you get a little too You think of yourself as better and this is dangerous as a disease of the heart But if you don't know it's a disease of the heart then you can have it So when I was much much younger this happened to me where I was In hijab and I was at the airport And I was waiting for my ride and all of a sudden I see this woman and she gets out of her car You know, she's uh, you know when you're at the airport and you're waiting for people to pick you up You have to kind of wait there and all these cars are coming and going So she got out of her car and she was dressed very uh inappropriately She was wearing shorts very short shorts and like, you know a tank top And I just looked at her and I judged her I did I thought like wow why is she dressed like that? It's so wrong and I had all these negative thoughts and then subhanallah She ended up it was kind of a very strange experience for me because I'm just waiting there I don't know her she's a stranger But she ended up closing the trunk of her car and she saw me And then she started walking towards me. So I'm like, whoa, what's going on? Why is this woman who's like a stranger walking to me? Right, what is she gonna say and I'm like, you know, so I kind of was like a little like You know just paranoid like what's gonna happen now All of a sudden she comes and she stands in a very humble state very humble She has her head down and she goes salamu alaykum I know I'm not dressed very appropriately You know, may Allah forgive me. I'm a muslim. I'm a convert And I'm raising my son to be a muslim I saw you and I was so happy because I thought maybe you can help me give me some Recommendations for children's book because I want to raise my son as a muslim So she's saying all of this stuff to me subhanallah, right? She's not dressed modestly. I'm dressed modestly But this is where we look at the hearts, right? Her heart was in such a good state because she recognized her mistake She was humble and she wanted to be better But I led arrogance in my heart, right? I thought I was better and I was judging her And then Allah he's the one who made this whole event happen, right? She I There's no way I would have ever thought she was a muslim the way she was dressed But Allah wanted me to have that experience because it did it changed my mind about a lot of things I I started to really look at my heart more and say, oh sigh How could you have let your heart become so filled with arrogance that you walk around judging people because of the way that they're dressed, right? That's not for you to do You you don't judge people. We don't judge people. We we know what's right and what's wrong But we leave the the judgment to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, right? He's the only one who judges so when we say that yes, we live in a society where a lot of people Are not dressed appropriately Our job is not to look down on them because they don't know many times people don't know This woman she was a convert and she was trying to be better So, you know, just like islam took 23 years to complete some people they take time getting a good habit So we just have to leave the judgment alone. But what we do instead of judging them We turn our gaze away And we wish well for them that Allah guides them, okay? So that's what this hadith is telling us to lower your gaze Don't you know judge other people lower your gaze and I wanted to share that story so that you have an example Of when sometimes it's not black so black and white, you know, you might see a muslim and think Oh, they're amazing and then you see someone just like that and think look at them But if you really, you know judge that situation, who was who is better and who wasn't right? She was much better than me and that was a humbling moment for me And I'm so grateful to Allah that he did that for me because it literally changed Everything my perception of everything was different than I started looking at the diseases of the heart And realizing I had a lot of them and that's how I Hamdullah benefited from this amazing Science of you know purification of the heart. So, okay So now what else do we know about modesty? Okay? Here we have another hadith Where Qur'an ibn aliyas reported that we were once with the messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam When modesty was mentioned to him and someone said oh messenger of Allah is modesty part of faith And the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said what rather it is the entire religion Subhanallah, so this is a very big part of being a muslim Then he said verily modesty abstinence reticence of the tongue but not the heart And deeds are all part of faith they bring gain in the hereafter and loss in the world What is gained in the hereafter is much greater than what is missed in the world So why did I put that phrase reticence of the tongue but not the heart in yellow? Because this is telling us that reticence means when you're holding back right you're holding back Um, we should hold back with our tongues when we uh, you know, maybe there's a situation And that that uh, you know, we don't like or you know that where the judgment might take over We shouldn't comment but not in our heart in our heart. We should be very clear about what's right and what's wrong Okay, and that kind of ties into what blame worthy modesty is So let's uh be a little bit more clear here So again modesty something's a whole religion every part of us we should uh, I mean Our part of our faith thing is uh modesty is a big part of that but we have to understand that this um Quality has to be in balance right between one's spiritual heart and one's conscience So here we have praise worthy modesty activates the conscience right and protects the spiritual heart It helps one to lower the gaze Protect the heart from being exposed to things that bring it harm But blame worthy modesty Impairs the conscience and by extension the spiritual heart It prevents one from acting or speaking up when it is necessary And it invites cowardice into the heart to become a coward, right? That's what blame worthy modesty does you're you're not very courageous When you have blame worthy modesty and this is not part of our faith We should be people of courage with a lesson on about it, right? So let's look again at some examples. So for example, as I said earlier Not asking questions about one's dean out of shyness So if you're ever not clear about something but because you don't want to embarrass yourself with your friends In the class or you you know, maybe in a situation where you don't know all the students You feel a little awkward about talking remember this you don't want to have blame worthy modesty It's much more important that you speak up and you don't have to speak up right then and there Maybe after the class, right? You can go to the teacher and say Mr. Or you know sister or brother or who you know, sheikh or sheikh I didn't understand when you said this. Can you please explain it to me? But not to be shy in the class and then even after the class go, oh, no I don't want to go up to the teacher and you know, um, and and have uh, you know This conversation with them that's too embarrassing because then it's like I didn't know And everybody else seemed to get it and I don't want to look like I'm not smart And all of those thoughts that's what blame worthy modesty is right when you sit there And you have this conversation with yourself that you're too worried about how you look in front of other people Um, and it prevents you from learning, right? And so at the bottom you see this hadid here At each uh, the prophet's wife May Allah be pleased with her said How excellent are the women of the unsought? These are the women of medina, right? They do not allow shyness To prevent them from asking questions and understanding the religion So she's making an observation here that says what that look at how amazing these women of the unsought are they Ask their questions. They're not clear about something. They're not going to go. Oh, I'm just gonna That's okay. I'll pretend like I understood it, right and it this doesn't have to just be for religion You know, let's say you're in a math class or you're in another class You know, you should you know have the courage to always if there's some knowledge that's being taught to you And you don't get it to make that a priority instead of yourself, right? It's not about how you appear because very wise people are okay admitting that they don't know Imam Malik who was one of the great four imams Uh, you know of the schools of fiqh that we have he was known to very commonly say I don't know when people would ask him questions He would say I don't know and this shows not that he doesn't have knowledge But the opposite that he's actually very wise and he had I mean he was very very knowledgeable He's one of the great imams, but he had the humility to know when he didn't know Right and so we shouldn't let our shyness of not knowing Prevent us from knowing that's what blame worthy monstay is one example Another is not standing up for someone who's been wronged. So if you see a situation, let's say there's a bully Right and he's bullying or she's bullying someone and you're just standing there You know, what's wrong, but you can't find the courage to Say something right or to do something to put a stop to it We find this problem everywhere now in schools and in other places a lot of People not just youth, but like adults too They freeze up and they don't say something when they should and then they watch and instead unfortunately with phones now They're recording it, you know So it's like here you're watching someone get beat up in front of you and instead of acting You're just going to record the video like that's really not good Right because you're you're not helping these people at all the one who's doing the The harming and the one who's being harmed both of them need help Right and that's what most Muslims are called to do the process and told us we help You know the oppressed and the oppressor and we help the oppressor by stopping him from being oppressive So you want to separate people when they're fighting because you know the one is getting hurt But the other one is also causing a lot of damage. So let's Help both of them if this happens, you know, especially with friends or people that you know You should be worried about both not having the courage to Stand up to an unjust person. So in the first situation, you're not protecting someone who's being harmed But in the next situation, it's where you you're not confronting that person Who's doing the bullying right and saying listen what you're doing is wrong and you need to stop it This is all you know part of again What what can take over someone if they have blame or the modesty And then also not participating in something worthwhile and beneficial out of shyness So this is similar to um, you know What we've talked about which is you see something either that's harmful that you should address or that's beneficial But your shyness prevents you from getting it like the knowledge, right? Or let's say you you know, everybody all of your cousins and friends want to go somewhere And um, maybe you uh, you're kind of like let's say they want to go roller skating Okay, and you've never roller skated before but the idea of it is like oh man I don't want to do it because I I don't know how to do it and I don't want to go and embarrass myself Um, so then you you don't go you end up going. No, I don't want to go All because you let this shyness prevent you from actually benefiting You're going to spend time with your cousins and friends. You might learn a new skill But there's a shyness there that prevents you that's blame worthy modesty. Okay So hopefully this disease is clear now. How can we get rid of it? Or how can we treat it? Well, the first thing is that you put the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala before anyone else Okay, you're always thinking as muslims were always always always thinking first Will this make Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala happy or will it not make him happy? That is it with everything that you do from the moment you wake up until the moment you sleep That should be your thought process and everything because everything we know as muslims our deen is complete. Allah's given us answers About everything through the provisional example But our deen we know right and wrong and we know and if you don't know that's what you have your parents for and other people You ask questions But in your mind you that's how you check yourself and that's how you prevent shaytan From making you do things that are wrong. You have that question Is this going to make Allah happy or not happy and then you act right? But this is how we should be so if we start putting that into practice You'll find that Even if you're uncomfortable something if you're thinking okay if Allah will be happy with me I'll do it Then inshallah that courage will start to grow in your heart because you're always thinking of making Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala happy with you Okay, and um I see a quick question. I'm seeing the chat box, but i'm sorry I'm not able to answer every question, but this one is an important one that I do want to talk about real quick If you're scared of getting hurt, okay Now the word vulnerable comes from uh, I think it's greek or latin from bonus, which means to be open to injury Okay, um, and it means to be open to being wounded Okay, that's why we're when we're ever in a situation where we're afraid to act Yes, that's part of it. We're worried. We're worried that we're going to be rejected or embarrassed or humiliated All of those things, right? But part of the youth experience is you're kind of in a test Phase of your life where you're leaving childhood and you're growing into becoming an adult And just like every adult before you all of us went through the same experience And every child after you will go through the same experience where you have to kind of test things out And and get better and better. It's like a practice sort of phase, right? So if you want to grow and kind of go through that process, uh, you know a little bit in a better way without too many Bumps along the road, then you have to say, you know what? There's a first time for everything and I got to try it I have to muster up the courage and even if I'm worried about everything. It's okay It's probably I'm probably making too much of a big deal out of it in my mind Because if there's you know adults in the room, inshallah, they're all mature enough They're not going to laugh at you or embarrass you or anything like that rather They'll probably encourage you even if things don't go your way Let's say like go back to the roller skating example If you're gonna if you don't want to go roller skating because you don't want to fall, right? I've it's happened to me several times even as an adult You know you can either fall and then make yourself feel bad and think oh my gosh I'm so embarrassing and oh, why did I do this? I'm so uh failure. I don't even know how to roller skate I have no coordination and let all those negative thoughts come in your mind or you can say Dude, I just roller skated for the first time and it's okay At least I had the courage to do it and even if I fell oh well people fall in the time even professional skaters fall There's people who've been at the olympics and they fall So falling is just part of human human, you know experience gravity is a force So it's not that big of a deal and instead of letting you know You know shayton or your own naps make you feel weak. You want to say you know what? Let's just get back up and laugh it off. It's no big deal. Whatever You know when I used to do when I was a kid I would always like if I tripped over something I would always pretend like it was a new dance move. So I would just be like, oh, yeah Check it out. That was that was just me being cool and I would just say something silly and then everybody would laugh Right because my attitude was I'm not embarrassed by this I'm a human and it's okay to fall or have you know slip here and there even if you're talking like I've been speaking publicly for a long time. Sometimes when you first start off you you get nervous and you're like And you say things like that it's okay Because the more you do it the better you get at it and then you look back at those times you just laugh like, oh, yeah That was me practicing, you know as my practice runs and it's okay to have those experiences So you got to get out of that mentality that oh my gosh I'm I'm good. I'm so scared of being looked at and embarrassed strong people are like, you know what? It's okay. It happens. You know, I'm just going to keep trying to push forward. Okay, so thank you for that question Now another thing to get rid of this is to ask questions when you don't understand something force yourself get into that habit I don't get it. I need more clarity because you know what it's not that you necessarily have a You know, like you don't you didn't understand it and you're there's something wrong with the way that your brain worked What if it's the teacher? What if the teacher didn't explain things correctly? I'm a teacher Certainly we are not perfect. There's times where we don't do a good job explaining something So the students are confused. That's our fault. That's not your fault So what you want to do is if anytime you don't understand something Ask with humility, right? Don't assume that the teacher just failed to explain it, right? Just ask with humility and say teacher. I'm sorry. I didn't quite understand something But remember that it might not be that you didn't understand it. Well, it might be that the teacher didn't explain it Well by asking with humility and then this is always good. You allow the teacher to correct themselves, right? the teacher will come back and And hopefully explain it better for you inshallah So but find that courage to be I'm going to ask that question Okay, and then practice more courage and use judgment when you see something wrong or an injustice For example, you know, I said about the bullying thing If you're seeing a situation where there's a physical fight You don't have to jump in. Okay. What I said earlier about stopping the fight and separating the people I'm not saying to necessarily get into the fight and hurt yourself or get hurt You don't need to do that The judgment comes in to say this is wrong and instead of watching it happen and freezing Oh my gosh, this is whoa. This is crazy. I'm just gonna watch it. The judgment says This is wrong. I need to go get an adult and you you're the one that leaves your backpack tells a friend Watch this. I have to go run and you go get the nearest teacher and say teacher teacher come here. There's a fight happening That is being a wise person because what you're doing is saying I don't want to just let this happen and unfold and have an injury and someone really get hurt You know, there's been some really terrible accidents You know recently like last year. I remember reading a story about a fight that happened at a school And one of the students was unfortunately killed He actually died because when the the other student hit him he fell and on a something like a cement Piece that was very hard and his head Hit it really hard and he was injured and then he eventually died So you never god forbid want to let people in that type of a situation get all the blood carried away But imagine you can save lives just by going and getting an adult Okay, so that's what courage does and that's the opposite of this quality of blame or the modesty So inshallah, that's the first disease of the heart. We need to move forward to the next one. So let's go ahead This is gonna. Um, this is about the next disease of the heart. So did you know Sorry, let me move this. I don't know if you guys can see all of everything on my screen Like the chat box and everything but if you can sorry So did you know that the average person average person means, you know, you can't obviously go around Asking every single person on the planet So what we do is we just kind of take a poll and then determine How many people from that group of people this would apply to so the average person has about 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day That's a lot of thoughts Right if you think about it from the moment you wake up until you sleep You're thinking all the time your brain never really shuts off Even when you're watching something like on tv or playing a game You're well for playing a game your brain is definitely active But if you're doing something more passive like watching a show or a film your brain is very active because it's understanding everything It's processing everything. It's taking all those images in right? So there's a lot of activity and thoughts that are happening But of those thoughts, this is what's really fascinating 80 percent are negative Subhan Allah is not sad. This is why is that the case? Why is that the case that 80 percent more than 50 percent of our thoughts are negative thoughts? Right, they're not good thoughts. Well, we have we know from our tradition. Shaytan is real right? He he is the whisper He likes to take away good feelings good thoughts good experiences even our prayers Right when we stand up for prayers He loves to distract us and suddenly we're thinking about things that we weren't even thinking about at all Because he likes to just put all those thoughts in our mind So 80 percent of those thoughts are negative and then 95 percent are exactly the same repetitive thoughts from the day before So we tend to think about the same things over and over and over and over again This is the human being. This is why you know, we say Allah has created us with these, you know issues and we have to do the work of purification of the heart and of the you know of the Of the mind and of the tongue and all of the things that we have We have to purify our thoughts. We have to purify these things and there's ways to do that inshallah Okay, so let's look here next slide Um So what are specific things that we shouldn't think about? Okay, because negative thoughts can fall under a lot of different Category or you know, we could cover a lot of things, but we're going to talk specifically about two things First thing that blame more these thoughts that thoughts that are not good Our thoughts that are about the nature of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Okay We have Allah swt has revealed himself to us through the 99 names that asma and husnah Which are the attributes of Allah swt and of course we have the quran which are his words and only his words And then we have the hadith could see which are Sort of like their revelations that Allah swt gave to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam In the quran they're in the hadith But all of these things are Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala teaching us about who he is Right. So for us we only base our knowledge of Allah swt on what he's revealed to us But sometimes our mind can start wandering and we start imagining things and we think about things that are not good to think about With relation to what does Allah look like and how is he all of those thoughts are We have to turn those thoughts off because there's Allah swt that says lesa lesa kamith lihi shay right, which is what there There's nothing in creation that is like Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Okay nothing in creation Which means that No, there's no way that we can try to imagine Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in our mind Because everything in our minds is from what we see and what we know in the universe, right So it makes no sense to try to think about Allah swt when he's told us that there's nothing That you can even come close to that would be similar to him. So don't even try but Have the hope that inshallah We're going to inshallah see him in the next world. That's why we want to go to jannah the greatest prize that we could possibly have Is to see Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in jannah Okay, so this is why it's so important that you just turn off that thought and say i'm not going to have those thoughts About Allah i'm going to wait for the great prize of seeing him in jannah So that's the first thing that we want to You know again address and then the other thing is to think about thoughts about other people like their faults, right um A lot of times people will just waste their time thinking about other people Whether it's a stranger or someone you know if you're just wasting your Those precious thoughts for 60,000 thoughts and you're thinking about things that you shouldn't this is the this is the What falls under blame worthy thoughts, right in the Prophet's list him said here He said there is a tree in paradise reserved for people whose own faults Preoccupied them from thinking about other people's faults So subhanallah if you spend more time on your own self and trying to fix yourself Then you do thinking about oh, why does this person dress this way and they have such a bad habit and look at you know Or they you know they play uh basketball like this or you know, we can get very judgy about what people do, right? We'll pick apart everything about them. Um, that's how wrong you shouldn't do that, right? We talked about this a little bit. I think last time when we said there's libet In the heart Where you actually can you know have bad thoughts about people in your heart? And this is liba, which is you know gossiping and it's really one of the worst sins So, um, we want to stop that right and the Prophet's wasn't promised a tree a special tree in paradise for people Who were more worried about their own situation. So hum that are really important for us to think about Okay, so Next slide here So how do we um treat the this disease of the heart? What's the way to fix it? Well, we study the 99 attributes of Allah's path that are commonly referred to as asma al husnah We should know the 99 names and try to really understand their meanings and you can ask Your parents questions like maybe one uh attribute every day, you know And in 99 days, you'll know all of Allah's panah's attributes or if you want to do more than one but you can really make it a very good exercise of Just getting closer and you're a better understanding of who Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is right by studying them and then Remembering again as we said that beyond our abilities as human beings to really capture Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So we shouldn't even bother But at least if we try to connect to Allah's path through his attributes It will deepen our love for him and it'll help us to Again follow his commands and prepares us For the hereafter where we hope to see Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and finally all the questions that you have about Well, this doesn't make sense and I never understood this you can ask him then inshallah You know, we just have to be patient and then imam al khusadi said sorry Oh Here we go. Sorry Imam al khusadi said that the way to word off distracting thoughts Is to cut off their source Avoid the means that could create these thoughts if the source of such thoughts is not stopped it will keep generating them Okay, so there are some things that And that uh, you know or some people sometimes that make you have bad thoughts about other people And you have to you know have don't have blame worthy modesty, right? You have to tell That friend maybe you know what maybe we shouldn't make talk about people because it's not good That's really good. You're showing courage to tell that person It's wrong and you're preventing yourself from falling into bad habits and cutting it off from the source So sometimes that's what you need to do. There's also other, um, you know, like television can be Bad music can be there's bad elements in television bad elements in tell in music So if you're getting thoughts because of a certain show that you're watching Or music that you're listening to stop very simple because if you don't then those thoughts will just keep coming back Right, you just kind of have to cut them off at the source Like, you know, this is making me not feel good or I don't feel positive after this So I need to really, you know, stop this stuff Inshallah, okay, so that's how we, uh, correct this disease of the heart. So the next one is Let's see here The next disease of the heart is fear of poverty Okay, so let's talk about what this is. Well, first Allah swt says to us in sort of the Baqarah He says those who in charity spend of their good Deeds by night and by day In secret and in public have their reward with their lord on them shall be no fear Nor shall they grieve so Allah swt is telling us right here whoever does, you know Good deeds we spend in charity and we do our, uh, you know our good works in in secret and in public Maybe there's times where we want to show good works because we want to encourage other people But there's other times where we just go more inwardly and it's more private In both of their Situations our reward is with Allah and he is telling us we if you're do these things and you do them the right way The way that the process have taught us you won't have any fear There's nothing to be afraid of because you understand that Allah swt that is always with you right and that he's the one Who blesses us and and he he gives us All of our gifts our food our water our clothing our shelter our families All of the things that we have are from Allah He distributes them to everybody and until the day until we leave this earth We will have our sustenance our portion right some people get more in this world There's people who get more more wealth And some people don't but everybody gets what is what Allah decides for them And we have to respond by being patient And grateful that's so important that we're grateful for whatever Allah's given us because all of it is a treasure right And so here the Prophet's license said charity does not decrease wealth No one forgives another but that Allah increases his honor and no one humbles himself For the sake of Allah but that Allah raises his status. So charity does not decrease wealth when you are a giving person You should know especially if you given charity that you you're not just because the money's leaving your hand, right? It's like oh here's a hundred dollars and I have to give it to this You know organization or this poor person on the street It might feel like you lost a hundred dollars, but you didn't this hadith is telling you you're actually Gaining more and the reward will come Allah swt that I will Bring that one hundred dollars back and more to you at some point And I've had this happen to me so many times I can't even tell you where you know you give for the sake of Allah and then all of a sudden it is It's it's he breathes you maybe the same day You know two three four times that amount, right? And I've had people have the same story They've written a check and then in the mail like the next day they get the exact same amount for that check That's happened to people before or twice the amount, you know So subhanAllah we should never despair that Allah subhanAllah is always with us and he repays generosity with generosity. Remember that He repays generosity with generosity so the next slide here Remember that when you have hopeful thought of the problem is is if all you think about all day long is money And it's all you see right and it's you're just afraid of losing it that what happens is You're likely not going to do your obligations to Allah subhanAllah or your family You're probably not going to be very good with your prayers. You're certainly You know won't be good with zakat and giving away sadaqa You might not even want to go to on hedge because you're too worried about how much money it's going to cost you Oh, man, it's cost like four thousand dollars to go to hedge I don't want to do that because what if I you know, they'll have enough money for Next year or this and you start thinking about all these things So it prevents you from doing good deeds and even your prayers because if you're afraid of You have hoven faqad you might work over time And let's say you work so much that you forget to pray Because you're too worried about getting money So this is a problem with being obsessed with money and not remembering that Allah is the one who gives to everybody And everybody will get what they deserve Nobody will take away if Allah destined for you to have something and he it's written Nobody and nothing can prevent it from coming to you. So you just have to have that trust, right? But this is the danger of letting greed Or you know a hoven faqad which can sometimes lead to greed enter the heart. Okay So, uh, another thing to also remember, excuse me Is this uh verse from the Quran where Allah's father says Take from their wealth a charity by which you cleanse them and purify them and invoke blessings upon them What does this mean? It means that Whenever we give charity, it actually cleans our wealth for us. Okay, so I'm going to explain a little bit more what that means Um Where did that? Oh, here we go. So this was supposed to be before the other one. That's okay So if you see this, uh, cute adorable little, uh, boy, I'm thinking boy, maybe girl because she's got earrings on So let's just assume boy or girl either way. It doesn't matter What is uh, let's you know, he doing right? He's washing these these clothes. Okay He's washing them with his hands Most of us we probably have never done this because our parents are taking care of our laundry They put it in the washing machine that comes out magically clean, right? But if you really think about it when we play right on the left side, let's read Sometimes when we play we get our clothes dirty in the mud Sometimes when we eat we get stains on our clothes from food Or when we work on an art project, right? We get some paint or glue or glitter all over our clothing When we cook our bake, right? There's egg splatters oil splatters, you know flower And our clothes can get really messy a chocolate, right? Whatever it is We know that we have to wash our clothes to keep our bodies clean and the rest of our clothes clean because otherwise If you leave that dirt or that filth on your clothing, it's might get on something else, right? So we understand that when it comes to our clothing Well with our money with it's the same concept that there's parts of our money that we're not always sure Is it coming from a halal source? You know, is there anything that maybe this money was involved in at some point that wasn't clean? Let me clean my money. Let me clean my wealth, right? Just like this boy is vigorously, you know, scrubbing away the the dirt from the clothing And how we do that is through sadaqah and charity When we give part of our money for the sake of allah, subhanallah says it purifies the rest of our wealth So whatever else we have saved is clean even if there was something, you know that maybe wasn't halal Part of that wealth, right? So this is how charity works. It helps to clean our wealth and it's such an important part of that, right? So let's see here. Uh-oh So here's the treatment, okay So how do we treat for fear of poverty? First, we have a good opinion of allah subhanallah and we remember that he is the one who again Distributes to his creation whatever he wills, right and we should have trust in him He has no need for anything that we do, right? So even when we give for the sake of allah or anything we should remember allah has no need for any of that, right? And he says here in the quran Chapter 51 verse 57 he says I do not desire From people any provision, right, which is anything nothing nor do I desire that they feed me So nothing we're doing is increasing allah subhanallah. He is above all of this everything, right? He's not a human. He doesn't have needs the way we have needs So when we do something for his sake, we have to put, uh, you know, remember that he, you know We're not losing anything, right? We're actually gaining it because he has no need of what we give And that and then the prophet said told us that contentment is a treasure that is never exhausted So we all want treasures, right? Everybody wants a lot of wealth and power and all of these things that we want one one Well, the greatest thing that you can have is to be content, which is to be just grateful like alhamdulillah You know, allah's part that you've given me Um, a great life and i'm grateful for my health for my family for my, you know Pets for my siblings for my clothing for my toys for everything you just start naming things randomly, right? My books my school my teachers, right? I'm grateful for my friends So to be in a state of contentment, it's like this treasure. You just wow, there's so much of it, right? But you have to do that as an exercise You have to think about all the things that he's given you and really sit there and go wow I have so much to be thankful for right because there's a lot of people Who had everything and then boom something might have happened where they've lost things and they spend the rest of their life Saying, you know, I wish I could have those things back And they might be simple things that we take for granted things that we don't even realize You know, I remember like my teacher on the sheikh hamza actually he talked to us about you know Think about like eyelashes, you know, how many of us have actually sat and thought Subhanallah, we should be so grateful for eyelashes because They're so tiny. They're so small and we have them. We were born with them But they have a huge function because without eyelashes Um, things can get into your eyes. There's a lot of problems and then you can't see very well There's people who have to constantly lubricate their eyes and keep them moist Because they don't have you know protection from these eyelashes So there's things that same with the hairs in our nose The hairs in our nose are so important because they protect us from having problems when we breathe But how many of us, you know, look to that and go wow, thank god I have hairs in my nose, right because who thinks like that But if you actually think about if I didn't have these hairs in my nose And all the green stuff inside of it that traps the dust particles That's what those things are right the b-word. You guys know what I'm talking about people pick at them Gross, but anyway, it's another conversation But those things are important to our health because If we didn't have those then all of those the dust that is in the air Would go into our lungs and we'd be coughing all that time So do you see how all those founders created us with this incredible machine Where if you start thinking about all of its parts, it's like wow, wow, wow, wow, wow amazing even a heart You know how much blood it like pumps out I don't know how many gallons hundreds of gallons of blood every day or maybe thousands It's a lot of blood that the heart is pumping through our system But it's like a machine. It's incredible So this is what contentment does when you're grateful to a loss panel at that It just opens this feeling of like I have so much. I have a treasure already I don't need more and then you don't have fear of poverty. Okay, inshallah So that is the session for today you guys. Alhamdulillah Those are the first the three that we're covering today. I want to hear from you So we have a few minutes left very few. I'll take some questions if you have I know there was a lot of conversation as we were going But let's see if there's any questions about what we've covered if you want to retype your question In a few minutes we have I'm happy to To answer your questions. Okay, this went up And then just a heads up about next week. I think I have um, let me see You know, that's so next week we will go over. I'm not sorry not next week on thursday We'll go over ostentation relying on other than god displeasure With divine decree and seeking reputation heads up just for fyi But let me go ahead and stop screen share here and you can now talk. Um, inshallah, okay So let's see here Questions i'm going to get back to the chat box How many sessions will we have inshallah? Well, thank you for asking sweetheart We have thursday next thursday this thursday and then the following tuesday and the following thursday So that's one two three more sessions after today All together six sessions For whatever reason, um, we may need to add one more because we don't finish them all I'll let you guys know If the possible seventh session but for now three more sessions inshallah Okay Okay, so quick questions here. Uh, what if you're terrified of losing something other than money? So a very good question. Um, you know, if you're afraid of In this world you have to remember that allah subhanatana if you're if you ever lose something of value or important to you In this world inshallah you have the hope of you know, be patient with that loss because there's Nothing happens in vain, which means there's always a wisdom of why things happen to us in this world Always and you have to remember that allah knows what's best for you. So maybe in that loss Something really good can happen, right? For example, I'll tell you um, there, you know, there's that organization called mad mothers against drunk drivers, right? There was a Mother I'm assuming I think it was a mother but she her she lost her child in a car accident because of a drunk driver So what did she do? She took that energy, right? That terrible loss It was a horrible thing to lose a child is the one of the worst things that a person can go through But instead of you know Doing just being in a state of sadness for her whole life She said I am going to make sure nobody ever experiences what I went through and she started this organization called mad And now it's international. I think or definitely national But everybody knows it and it's to prevent people from drinking alcohol and driving So she took that loss and did this amazing thing that's helped millions and maybe billions of people in the world So you can turn loss Into something positive if you always have a good opinion of Allah that if he took something from you There's a reason for it and inshallah with your patience He'll replace it with something better and he'll use you to do a lot of good with it if you're patient But if you think like, oh no, I've lost it and now the world is over and I'm gonna fall into a state of depression Then you're forgetting that Allah is uh, you know He can give you anything you want and you have to turn back to him And just ask him to give you patience with that loss and to replace it for something with something better for you in this world And or and reward you in the next world with it as well because you know, some things are hard on us, you know Um, I lost for example my pet How many years ago maybe nine years ago and I think about her all the time and it hurts It hurts because I loved her and it was a difficult circumstance But I'm hopeful that inshallah. She's gonna be with me in jannah. I really do I pray that Allah's part of that helps bring her to me in jannah and I get to see her So I always hold on to that hope So if you have a loss of something always remember Allah will inshallah reward you with with your patience. Okay? Um, let's see. What if it's cyber bullying? So I'm assuming that has to do with uh, blame or the modesty If it's cyber bullying you should also speak up if you see, you know, someone on social media You know treating other people poorly you can talk to them directly and say, hey, you know I've noticed that you're leaving really mean comments and trolling people If you know them like let's say it's a school classmate or something, you know Have an courage to say something but you know, if it's a stranger Um, and your you know account your you know, I would always say be careful because Some of you are really young But if you do have social media presence and your name is visible and people can easily find you You want to kind of watch how you engage people online because there are a lot of bad people online But I think if you're a young person, I would just you know, take it to your parents and say listen I have you know, this person or this whoever that's I think They're being mean and they're being cyber bullying. What should I do about it and talk it through with your parents? They'll help you figure out if that's something you should get involved in or not Okay, but be be cautious just because again the digital world We don't have full control and there are a lot of evil people out there Okay So let's see. Mashallah. Can you continue this class? I love this. Oh, how sweet I just thank you. That is such a sweet comment. I love doing it. Well, I I wish I we were all in one together Room together because it would be a bit more engaging But I love that you guys love it that really fills my heart So thank you for that lovely comment Um Yes, it's called blame or the modesty. Okay, so the class is called blame or the modesty Mashallah, very good Okay, awesome you guys. Well, I think I answered all of your questions that I can see Um, oh wait, what if you do? Oh, yeah, no, I think I've answered all of your questions Thank you for being here again. You guys are awesome. They all bless all of you and protect all of you Have a wonderful iftar if you're fasting remember me and my family in your du'as, okay And remember to study because remember I'm going to quiz you guys on thursday with the rest, okay And talk it over with your family. Teach them. Be the teacher, you know, if your parents weren't listening Say, let me teach you about some diseases of the heart today. Okay, and take it from there All right, you guys have a wonderful evening. Salamu alaikum. We're gonna Welcome all of you to the fourth session of purification of the heart We are going to go ahead and maximize our time as much as possible and jump right into the First part, which is the review, right? We do a bit of a review Um, and I do that by actually asking you guys some questions I'm hoping that you remembered what we covered last session on tuesday And I'll go ahead and ask you Who can tell me and remember these answers are coming to me only, okay? So i'm the one that is able to see exactly Who is providing the answers and I will list off the um the answers as they come in And make sure to recognize, you know, the order so that those of you who are, you know, doing what we should be doing remember we talked about Which is uh competing for good. It's a good thing to do So I like healthy competition and I'd like to see you guys jumping into the chat box and answering right away So the very first question is This is a disease of the heart That prevents you from speaking up from Acting when you should if you see something Unjust or you have a question about something you get You know, you're you don't have the courage to speak up. What is that called? Very good. So masha'Allah amen, and that's man. I don't know which of you answered Maybe you guys can uh put a or o first so that way I know who to address But great job you guys answered first masha'Allah and oh amen you came back with the um With the arabic as well hayad amin very good So blame worthy modesty or hayad amin is the modesty that prevents you it's being shy But not in the shyness that's good, right? We have shyness and shyness is a beautiful quality The provisional is shy and it's a wonderful quality for us to have But blame worthy modesty is when the shyness actually prevents you from doing the right thing Right and the right thing is making sure that if something's not clear that you're being taught That you get clarity because you don't want to walk away confused Or if you see something bad happening in front of you that you speak up and you say hey, that's not right And i'm going to defend or speak out against this thing. So good job All right, um, you guys are not going to be able to see the answers because the chat box is not open to everyone Okay, we are controlling the room for many reasons, but primarily for security reasons Okay, so the answers are coming to me and i'm seeing them. So don't worry about your friends Or other people seeing your answers. I'm seeing them and I will make sure to acknowledge Who is saying what okay. All right. So good job. So the next, um question i'm going to ask you Is let's see here. I got to look up my presentation um How many thoughts roughly Do we have Every day if you can give me the range And tell me about how many of them are negative. I know this is a big one, right? Um, and how many of them are repeat thoughts from the previous day So first question was how many overall thoughts can we have? What's like the maximum that that number I gave you two numbers I said anywhere between this number And this number of thoughts every day people have on average Who can remember? Oh, mariam. Masha Allah excellent You came right in with the full range So people can have anywhere from 12 000 to 60 000 thoughts a day excellent job Mariam and zekariya. Masha Allah you came in answering 95 percent are repeated thoughts excellent And you also said zekariya That 80 percent are negative. So great job. You distinguished between the two which is so important So when I when we're asking questions make sure to be clear, right in your response So zekariya actually wrote 80 negative 95 repeated awesome. That's the kind of Focus that I want to see attention right that you're paying attention to the question I'm asking you and your answer reflects that because if you just give me a number I'm not sure what you're answering right and I'm making it a little bit challenging because I don't want it to be too simple I know some of you are masha Allah too quick and I I gotta give you a challenge. Otherwise, it's not going to be fun, right? So Great job on answering that question. All right. Um Let's see here Hmm What other question can I ask you? Okay This is again, I'm I'm I'm getting a little tougher with my questions because I see that you guys are too sharp Masha Allah This is the treatment for Or the treatment for this particular disease of the heart is to know the names of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Okay, and if we study the names of Allah, it helps to control something it helps to control this particular disease Who can tell me what the disease is in english and arabic one answer? So it's I want the full Answer in english and arabic and this by the way is not is from last week's or on tuesday session So we're only focusing on those three diseases of the heart that we covered on tuesday Some of you are giving me answers from far Back, but nope, uh, we're looking at again Thoughts, um, yeah, excuse me. I have the last three sessions. So let's hear I have oh masha Allah Affnan excellent Affnan you came through you gave me exactly what I wanted you gave me the english And then you gave me the arabic excellent The disease of the heart that is treated by studying the 99 names of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is called blame worthy thoughts in english Khawd fee mala ya'ani right which is Um blame worthy thoughts in arabic. So affnan gave me both answers awesome Great job affnan next time Just for your sake because I don't want anybody to beat you to it Try to type them all in one answer because you gave them to me separate But I want you to do it fast, but do it also consolidated. Okay, so that way you get boom both of them in Great job. So khawd fee mala ya'ani is uh is when you have thoughts that are blame worthy You shouldn't have them and a way to control your thoughts is to one of the treatments is to remember the 99 names of Allah's Very good. Okay. Um, let's look This uh is something that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said Will clean and purify Um our wealth. What is the thing that cleans and purifies our wealth? It's something that we all do Very good zakaria and zoa and dania masha'Allah both of you answered correct answer zakaria You came with sadaqa, which is awesome. And then uh, uh zoa and dania you guys came with zakat So both of those aren't correct Answers right sadaqa and charity is both giving so that's why you both got a great job and um That we covered under What we covered under which disease of the heart when we talked about the importance of charity, right? And the prophesy said him he actually said that uh contentment is a treasure that is never exhausted He was speaking really about being in a state of gratitude And when you're in a state of gratitude it helps to protect from this particular disease of the heart Again, we're talking about the ones we covered on tuesday. So which hadith or which um disease of the heart was that in reference to? Very good. Amen. And othman you guys got it. Masha'Allah excellent job fear of poverty Faqar are very good. So when you're afraid of being poor becoming poor It's a disease of the heart and the way to Treat that disease of the heart is to increase in your gratitude to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala You're showing your gratitude and you're content when you have contentment It means you're very happy with whatever Allah gave you. So that's one of the ways awesome Okay, you guys you did fantastic may Allah reward all of you very proud of you guys you all did great So we're gonna go ahead and move on to today's lesson. Okay Let me quickly pull um do the screen share and hopefully we'll get this Going right away. Insha'Allah i'm gonna present Just give me a minute present and here we go Okay, so uh, also, let me open up the cute the chat box so that I can see what you guys are saying All right. Whoa There we go Let me drag you over here. So hopefully you guys can see everything right? So here we go We are beginning week two. This is the second week thursday's lesson So let's start with a quick summary of the disease of the heart that we've covered this week. Okay So remember tuesday we did blame or the modesty blame or the blame or the thoughts fear of poverty Today I said we're going to go over the next four. We have ostentation, which is riyadh We have relying on other than god We have displeasure with divine decrees And we have seeking reputations summa So this is what we're going to cover today. Okay, so let's go ahead and start so ostentation Okay, this is a very I know it's a big word. It's kind of like, huh ostent what ostentation Okay, everybody should say it if you're home. Just say it to yourself ostentation What is ostentation? This is the Arabic of it is riyadh This is when you show off or you you're doing the things to get attention and praise From other people and not for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Okay It's dangerous because it means that you care more about People and what they think about you than you do about pleasing Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So ostentation, right And this is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us that in the Quran that everything we do Will be rewarded appropriately. Okay, and that means according to our intention So whatever your intention is Then Allah will reward you and so there's a hadith a famous hadith where there's three people That in this dunya, they achieve things and they did things Because they they made a claim they said it was for the pleasure of Allah But on the day of judgment Allah reminds them. No, you didn't do it for me So the first person is the knowledgeable person who went and you know became very knowledgeable And they said that they did that for the sake of Allah But Allah tells them on the day of judgment. No, you went and got knowledge so that people could call you The most knowledgeable and praise you for your knowledge, right? It wasn't for my sake The other person is a wealthy person who gives You know their money for they say they're doing it for the sake of Allah But Allah really knows what's in their heart and he reminds them and he says on the day of judgment No, you didn't give money for my sake. You gave it so that people could say about you You were so generous such a generous man that man was And so Allah tells them on the day of judgment you get the reward for what you did Jezza and we felt that means that you get your this is your you already got your reward you did it for the praise So you got the praise, right? And then the last Category is a man who goes to jihad, right? They fight for and for the sake of Allah spot that in a war And they die saying that they did it for the sake of Allah But Allah reminds them no you did it so that you could be treated, you know Hailed a hero like oh what a heroic man he was he fought with sergeant baller and strength You did it so people could praise you and that's the reward you already got because people praised you so you got your reward So ostentation is really dangerous because if your intention isn't for the sake of Allah Then this is what happens is you actually end up losing The reward of what you're doing And whatever your intention was That's going to be what your reward is you won't get the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, right? So, um, that's why we have to remember and yes, thank you at the as teslim says This is why we're taught in the mal'amala binyat, right that every single thing that we do is based on our intentions So if our intentions aren't right, we are not going to We're going to get whatever our intentions are and that's why it's so important to always make sure your intention is for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Okay, so let's look more at this disease of the heart So, um, Riyah is so dangerous that the Prophet's wife son actually gave it a special name Okay, so this hadith he said indeed the thing that I fear for you the most is the minor shirk Which is associating partners with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Okay, so when we associate partners That means we say that Allah has you know help like he's got helpers And people you know who have the wrong idea about Allah's father We'll say certain things about who those helpers are we of course Allah doesn't need no help He has no helpers. He is one right? That's a very big part of being a Muslim So he's saying here that he he's fears for us the minor form of shirk So that his companions were like wait, what what's the minor shirk because they understood that shirk Was just Saying that Allah has partners. They didn't know what what a small minor means small right major is big Minor small, so they were like, what's minor shirk and he said Riyah Riyah Showing off So there's two forms of shirk There's one which is saying that Allah actually has partners And then the other is is doing things for other than Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala right whenever we do anything That is not for the sake of Allah and we're doing it for the pleasure of other people Then it's kind of like we're making those people Partners with Allah right it's not the same as worshiping them But it is making them so important that we start doing things For their pleasure instead of looking at the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Okay So and I see some questions you guys I will get to your questions But we'll have to wait till the end so don't Exhaust yourselves right now typing too much about the questions wait save them and wait for the end Okay, so in another hadith. This is actually a really good hadith because it's giving you an example The Prophet's son gave the example of someone who was making the event right and while making the event they think wow I bet the people think that my voice is beautiful Right and so that is an example of Riyah right and another hadith the Prophet's son said that Riyah is so dangerous It's sneaky that it's like the black ant on the black rock in the night with no moon Right, it can sneak up on you like this So you have to pay so much attention to your intentions Otherwise these thoughts will come inside your heart like let's say you know You're at the masjid and you're you're taking a class right with a teacher And then the teacher looks at you and says if you're like if you're an older boy Let's say you're a teenage boy 15 years old And the teacher looks to you and says Ahmed. I want you to lead the prayer today Okay, it's mahan a prayer and you have to lead it and you're like what me and the teacher says yeah And you know, alhamdulillah, you know Quran you've been studying it and then as soon as he tells you to do that You kind of get this thought in your head Oh, wow, I'm gonna get to now recite in front of everybody I'm gonna You know get on the microphone and a whole masjid is gonna hear my voice Wow, everybody's gonna think I'm such a good reciter of quran That is it. Yeah, it's entering your heart. It makes you want to kind of show off, right? So you want to be very careful because if you're ever asked to do something like that It's a responsibility, right to lead people in prayer is a huge responsibility So it should kind of be heavy on your heart. Not like, ooh, I can't wait to show off, right? That's not how you look at it. Okay, so let's look at this I like this example of the ant, okay? So if you look on the left, okay, I have this ant It's in broad daylight, right? You can see ants when they're in day. Can't you? um You can see them if they come on your counters in the kitchen or if you're walking even on the sidewalk You'll see a trail of ants in the daytime But if it's nighttime if it's super dark, right and the you know, there's no moon out Um, and let's say you're sitting outside if you've ever gone camping or you're just kind of in nature If you're sitting somewhere and you there's not a whole lot of light, right? Then if an ant comes up on you or a trail of ants, you might not see it at all, right? That's why the analogy is important to kind of reflect on that you if you're not paying attention This this disease of the heart can creep up on you just like an ant that's in that's dark itself It's a black ant on a black rock in the middle of the night can sneak up on you So think about that whenever you have anything That you have to do always question your intentions ask yourself. Why am I really doing this? Is it really because I want a lot to be happy with me or is it because I want People to praise me and compliment me and make me feel special and I want to make I want to look My I look at myself better, right than other people or I want uh, you know, I want excuse me I want other people to look at me as though I'm better Maybe better than my cousins or my siblings or my best friends or my classmates I want my teachers to think I'm better than them. This is rea. So we have to be so careful. Okay, very important thing All right. So next, um, we're going to talk about the treatment. So how do you get rid of this? Well, the treatment that imam al-molud talks about in purification of the heart Is that you should increase your hidden good deeds So the things that you're doing in private You should start increasing those deeds like if you let's say for example You feel like really grateful to Allah like some maybe you're lying in bed and you're like Allah Thank you so much for giving me my family and my home And this life that I have, you know, I there's so many people that don't have a home They don't even have their parents even though probably I said him. He didn't know his parents, right? I mean, he barely knew his mother. He never met his father. His mother passed when he was six years old So there's so many kids your age who don't have what you have a lot of them have been through really difficult times So if you ever feel that great sense of gratitude, right? Um, the next day for example, you could come and go Mom dad, you know last night I was in bed and I felt so much gratitude to Allah And I just was praising him And I was you know, you start sharing what you did, right? And what you felt you could do that and then you and you could say I'm gonna go and pray to rakat and you know You know do this or I'm gonna go give salat you want to do something right to show your great gratitude to Allah You could do that in front of everybody in front of your brothers and sisters and everybody listening Or you could say This feeling I have is for Allah it really is and I don't need to share it with everybody So what I'm gonna do is I'm going to maybe when everybody goes to sleep Or you know right before fudger if I can wake up because now most if you guys are waking up a little bit early For sahur with your families Then maybe you go and you wake up a little early and you pray you make will do And then you go to a private place in the house And you just pray your to rakat and you have your moment with Allah and you don't really need to Share it with other people. You don't need to come the next day and broadcast right broadcasting is like announcement everybody I just prayed two rakat or I prayed 20 rakat where I did a thousand vikr You don't need to do that because when it's truly for Allah he already knows He sees it. He knew that you were going to do it before you even thought of the idea So you just have to be happy that alhamdulillah Allah knows that I did this for him And not worry about what mom says what dad says what your brothers and sisters think of you or your teachers You know, you don't come the next day to school and report it to your teachers. Oh, guess what I did You know, just keep those things hidden So you want to increase your hidden actions because that will make you less likely that you have this disease of the heart riyadh And then here is you know an example of the process I'm actually making dua for protection from riyadh because it's such a sneaky disease That all of us we have to be so careful of getting right even he made dua for it Subhanallah because back before um, you know, there before islam the Quraysh the people of mecca they used to make hajj But in that time it's called the period of jahiliya. It's called the period of ignorance They didn't know they weren't muslim what they would do is when they would make the hajj Because remember the hajj was, you know, in honor of prophet ibrahim aleyhi salam and ismail aleyhi salam They created the kaaba. So they were a lot of the people in that time They would still do the the hajj to honor them, right? So when they would do it, they would be very arrogant about it and they would make it a big show Like I am going to go do the hajj and they would, you know, kind of brag about it So the prophet aleyhi salam did not want to do anything like those people So he actually here he asked, oh, Allah, I intend to perform hajj Please free free me from ostentation and seeking fame like I don't I'm not doing it so that people can say Oh, I made hajj, you know, I'm doing it for you But he himself would make dua that Allah protects him from that So we should certainly make dua that we um that Allah removes that from our heart that we don't do things to show off Okay So that's the treatment for uh ostentation and of course we should be humble and always know that whatever we're doing is Is because of Allah's prophet, he loves us and he's drawing us closer to him And he doesn't like arrogance. Those things are not good to have showing off. He doesn't like those qualities He loves humility Right and he loves things that are done in hidden secret for his sake So increase your good deeds that way. All right, so the next disease of the heart. This is right Yata wakala ala ghayr Allah, which is relying on other than God So this is a disease of the heart because if you get too used to Relying on people you can easily forget that Allah is the one that he is the one who gives you every good deed Right or every good thing. Excuse me. Every blessing you have is from Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala even if it comes through your parents your grandparents your teachers your You know aunts uncles whoever If you recognize or if you always remember that all good deeds no matter what come from Allah Then you learn to also put your focus back whenever you have a need You go back to Allah. You don't go to people with your needs, right? So here Allah's prophet tells us he says do not call unto any beings other than Allah These are these are capable of neither benefit nor harm, right? So anybody else other than Allah they are not capable of benefiting you or harming you, right? It's just don't go to them, right to do so is there for a guilt is a guilty of wrong doing When Allah afflicts you with something no one can remove it except him So basically this ayah is telling us Turn to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala for everything, right? For good when you need something and when you're being tested go to him for help Don't go to people Because people can't benefit you or harm you, right? And then he also says here seek your livelihood from him and worship him alone Reminding us again. Don't go to people for your needs, but only go to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, okay? So This is an important point because one of the things that Muslims don't do is beg, okay? We believers don't beg people when we have a need whatever that need is we go to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala first And we ask Allah for help. Yeah, Allah, you know, maybe You're worried for example about money or you're worried about your health Or you're worried about your someone you love, right and that you You know, you you you want protection from them that Allah protects them from harm So if you have some need that's heavy on your heart You go to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala first and foremost and you ask him Please help me help my parents help my loved ones and you make those da'as very important to always do that first Then of course you can look to see In your life if there is a place that you can go to seek help Because begging and seeking help are not the same thing Begging is and we'll talk about the difference Right, but begging is is where you You're not asking Allah for help at all. You're just turning to someone and saying please please please give something to me, right? That's not the same as actually Looking to places or people that are there to help you, right? So there's people for example in our community Excuse me, some of them Have a hard time with making enough money to pay for rent and food and clothes And so that's why we have zakat, right? We have zakat through the masjid Because we are supposed to look out for each other. Allah gives to some people more than he gives other people So those of us, alhamdulillah who he's given a lot to the our job is So that's all that's right and it's Sister hosay your video has paused So let's wait just one minute everybody sister hosay will be back up It just is a little bit of um Internet issue it will be resolved exactly Apologize for that, but I was saying that We don't beg in islam because begging a lot of times people who beg what happens is people can be so cruel And they end up humiliating them. They kick them out They spit on them. They kick them and this is Allah doesn't want that for us He doesn't want us to ever be treated that way, right? And so we he tells us not to beg because we should have an honor in the way that we We conduct ourselves And so if we need help we turn to the masjid we turn to different places That offer support and services hospitals clinics if we need certain things And we we get help right but we do not Beg and here look at the problems I said on what he says here at the bottom He says by the one in whose hand my life is right? He's talking about Allah It is better For one of you to take a rope And carry firewood on his back Then for him to go to someone and beg who will either give him or refuse to give him anything So here the problems is doing the same thing. He's protecting us. He says Go get rope go get some firewood and sell that that's better for you Even though it's heavy labor to go get rope and collect firewood chop down wood You know, you might get splinters you might cut yourself But he's saying that's better. It's better to work hard And earn your money than to go and beg other people, right? Who can either give you something or may not it may actually end up Humiliating you and refusing you. So he's also protecting the honor our honor by telling us this So let's talk about this a little bit more. Look at these people, right? I like this example of carrying The back right because it's showing you that working for our needs is more pleasing to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala right Even if it's difficult, right Because we're putting our trust in him And we're not making it difficult for others when you go and beg someone else You're actually putting that person in an awkward situation too because it's like, oh, okay Sure here. I'll give you my money. What if I needed the money, right? What if I was what if I had like 10 dollars in my pocket? And I needed it to go buy something important But now that you've put me on the spot I feel weird and I have to give you my money and all because you didn't want to work for it, right? So when you work for it and you actually are willing to do something as strenuous as taking firewood on your back and Look at this lady in the middle picture, right? This but she's probably an older woman But this is what people of you know belief and and integrity and they you know have strong work I think is when you do something, right, which is very important in Islam Um, they're they're willing to work even into their 70s and 80s You see some people mashallah working because they don't ever want to beg people So you have people all throughout the world. They understand this we should understand it too And begging right is making it easy for yourself, but you're making it hard for other people and that's why it's discouraged So we don't turn to people for our needs. We go directly to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, okay? And so I hope that's clear. This is the part of relying on other than Allah, right? Hey, it's okay. I'll read Allah So the treatment for this is get in the habit of first and foremost if you have any need whatsoever To ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and sometimes people think like oh, you know as a kid Let's say what are your needs? You know, maybe you want to go to Some vacation you're excited about summer break because you want to go somewhere. That's a want, right? You have to know the difference between want and need But even those wants if you really really want something You go to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and ask him for it, right? My boys for example, they love Legos. They could do Legos all day long and so You know, if they really really want Legos, they should then Go to Allah and say yalla, please put it in my parents heart to get me this Lego set that I want Please yalla, and maybe something will happen. Maybe, uh, you know, their parents might not necessarily get it for them Maybe their grandparents will surprise them with an Eid gift or a birthday gift This happens all the time right where a child or someone will really want something But that if you turn that want into a dua and you go to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Then you start to realize that all good everything that you ever want is always from Allah anyway, no matter who it comes through So why even bother asking a person about it? I'll just ask Allah for it and he will inshallah find a way to get it to me So always do that first ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala first And then the other thing is also to start to lower your expectations from people Because to be honest as an adult, you know, you most of you are young You'll see that a lot of people are going to disappoint you in life, right? And it's just natural because not everybody can always think about everybody else So what happens is sometimes, you know people are there for you. Sometimes they're not Sometimes you call your friend or your sister or your cousin or your brother and you say, hey I need help and they go. Sorry. I'm doing something else. I have my own family I have my own obligations and it gets kind of hard to hear that all the time But if you stop asking Right people You stop turning to people and you just start becoming more self sufficient, which is you know what? I'm going to just start learning to do things on my own because it makes me not depend on people And I'll also ask Allah for help like Allah send me the helpers You know, I am not going to bother other people. I need help But I'm going to rely on you to bring me that help, right? This is a show of great man And so we should get in the habit of doing that as opposed to depending too much on other people And then dealing with disappointment And dealing with you know, so many problems that come when someone says to you For example, I'll be there. Let's say you you're moving. I mean this happens to people, you know And you have to move your whole house, okay Packing up your boxes and lifting up heavy furniture by yourself isn't easy, right? So there's sometimes people who've called up their friends and you know, whoever and they say hey, can you help me? I need to help and then they're like, sure I'll be there But then moving day comes along and all of a sudden Uh-oh, there's nobody Like two people show up or not even maybe one person shows up out of all these people you called And everybody's texting you that day or calling you the night before sorry I have to go somewhere else and I didn't even know and I had an appointment and my mom needed this And so now you're sitting by yourself going I rented a moving truck And I don't I don't have any help and it just gets really hard, right? But if you start saying I'm not going to do that rather Ya Allah give me the means and the ability to just get things done Then you can maybe Hire someone or you know someone that when you pay people it's a little different right people will show up But but the point is is a little open an opportunity or a way for you to get what you need Because you use the means that he gave you if he gave you wealth you can like I said call up a service and ask them to help Or he can maybe you know send someone your way that is also in need Of work and now you're both helping each other out, right? So Allah will do that for you inshallah, but turn to him first This is how you treat this disease of the heart of relying too much on other people. Okay, inshallah So alhamdulillah. I hope you guys are Is everything clear? And quickly check the q&a make sure there's no issues with my screen or anything or my volume, right? It's good, right? All right, so let us Bismillah go to the next one So sakhat al qadr. This is a displeasure with divine decree All right, this disease is when you cannot accept when something happens Or has already happened and you keep thinking why why me why did this have to happen to me? Okay, so let's say for example You lose your wallet Okay, or you break your ipad or your phone You're playing and then boom it crashes or an accident happens and your brother does it or your sister does it They break your toy Very easy to let your nuffs react and get mad. That's a normal response. Okay And we're all going to do that in our lives until we learn better, right? So it's okay to do that because you're a human being and you're reacting But when you think back after your emotions calm down a little bit if you keep thinking Why did that have to happen? Why why why and you keep going like just over and over Whatever it was and it replays in your mind and it really bothers you that it happened This is when this disease of the heart is manifesting, right? It's coming out Because if something if Allah if something already happens and Allah decreed it to happen, which means it's his will Then you just have to accept it right because we don't always know What's good for us and what's not good for us? That's really the bottom line We really don't and that's why this ayah in the Quran Says what it may be that you dislike something Though it is good for you And it may be that you love something though it is bad for you and god knows and you do not know Okay, so this is a really good Time to just kind of talk about this because as you guys grow up in life You're gonna have to do certain things that you might not want to do because you think You know, you're looking at it from a physical or material perspective. For example, let's just say Medicine, okay. There's some medicines that are bitter. All right And when you think of even taking them, you're like, oh gosh It's so disgusting. I don't want to put it in my mouth. I'm gonna throw up and And you're just making it seem like it's the worst thing in the world But that medicine is healing for you. So if you take the medicine It's gonna help you In some way or another, right? That's there's certain things that Allah's made in this dunya like that that they're not They don't sound good. They don't taste good. Your nafs isn't gonna like it But in actuality, it's really good for you. The opposite is also true. For example There's certain things that if you eat too much of it It will have the opposite effect, but the nafs almost pushes you to do that How many of you have ever eaten way too much sweets? Right because it was so good Whether it was ice cream or it was candy or it was cookies or it was birthday cake Right, you've eaten something because you're like, oh my god. That looks so delicious And you end up feeling Sick your nafs is telling you keep eating it your taste buds are like Meaning because the sugar and so keep eating it, but then unfortunately what happens give it 10 15 minutes 20 minutes And boom that stomach ache comes in and the stomach ache causes so much pain, right? Um Sorry, did you guys hear what I said? I'm getting messages that it froze again. I don't know what's up with my internet today I'm so sorry. I was talking about the aya that says it may be that you dislike something Though it's good for you And it may be that you love something though It's bad for you and you don't really know a law is the one that knows So the example we gave was about medicine that's bitter, but really good for you Or candy and sweets that's good and taste good But too much of it is bad for you and sugar Just generally speaking can cause a lot of inflammation and problems in the body So when we eat it, we have to be controlled in how we eat it. Otherwise a lot of problems, right? So this is how the world is generally there's going to be a lot of things that are not always pleasant to do But it's good for you even fasting. Some people are not that happy fasting because it's like, oh man I can't have my cereal in the morning or my coffee and you know, they kind of get caught up in all the things that they can't do And they forget that fasting is amazing for your body. Your body is like This machine and when you fast it helps to heal itself. There's all this repair happening, right? So fasting is incredible. But yeah, if you're letting your nerves, uh, you know think about fasting It's not going to like it very much So Allah knows better. So when he tells us to fast, that's why we fast because he knows what's better for us And so when we if something happens, we have to just accept that our lord knows better And we have to be happy with whatever he wills for us, right will for us if it's in the past Obviously thinking of the future This is different because it hasn't happened yet. So you can make da'a like oh, Allah protect me from this And don't let this happen to me. We don't want obviously bad things to happen But if certain bad things happen already Then you have to be willing to let go instead of letting shaytan Make you replay it over and over again with why why why right? That's what we're talking about And so another really important point to a year is to know that all people in the world Are in four different situations at any given time and sometimes you can be in more than one at the same time But let's look at let's understand this the first is that you're in blessing, okay So if you're in blessing that means everything's kind of going great for you. You have alhamdulillah family you have Money you have education you have a lot of good things in life and things are pretty good, right? Alhamdulillah, you have a lot to be grateful for so what Allah expects from you if you're in that state of blessing Is that you continue to be grateful, right that you're continuously Alhamdulillah. Thank you Allah and you are you're using those blessings for good So if he's giving you wealth and money that you help people in need if he's giving you knowledge You teach people if he's giving you a skill or a talent you do it for good, right? You use that talent for the good of humanity. You don't use it to destroy People and to cause harm to people, right? That is how we express our gratitude to Allah The second is that you're in a state of Bala or tribulation, which means that You're being tested that there's some difficulty that you have It can be with wealth. It can be with your relationships, you know, it can be with your health But there is a problem that Allah is testing you in and what is he expecting from you? Is patience are you going to be patient with me because you're going through this difficulty? Or are you going to react and be, you know, not happy? And this is what displeasure of the divine decree is because sometimes people are tested and they have a hard time Accepting Allah's will and then shaitan comes along and says yeah And they start, you know, but he starts putting all these bad thoughts in your heart And it can cause problems But when people have the right understanding then they know that when they're being tested like prophet ayyub alaihi salam, right? He was tested. He lost all of his children. He got very sick. He lost his home. He lost everything Everything everything everything and though he responded with what sabrun jamil beautiful patients, right? So did prophet Yaqub, right with when his son Yusuf was taken from him These stories that we learn about the prophets Teach us about beautiful patients even the provost alaihi salam himself. Look at his life As we said, he didn't know his father. He lost his mother lost his grandfather his uncle He buried his beloved wife his first wife Khadija, the Allah anha or the mother of the believers He lost her and then he lost five of his six children. He had to bury them Himself and he went through famine where he was, you know, him and the muslims were starving They were persecuted. There was so much that done to them But through all of it, did he ever complain? Did he ever say why me? I'm the prophet of god Why are you doing this to me? Allah? Audhu Billah never never would he ever say those words Because he had so much iman in Allah and he understood that everything even the hardships are always good Because we don't know what's good for us, right? So beautiful patients is the response The third is if you're guided alhamdulillah, we have guidance. We're muslim Allah Loves us. He's drawing us close to him And so we have to know though that though we are praying and we're fasting We should never let arrogance enter our heart and become self-righteous when you're self-righteous You start looking at yourself as better than everybody else So that's the response that is expected of you if you have guidance Allah wants you to realize that it's from him and not to become arrogant with that guidance Don't think you're better than people even non muslims. You don't go around Treating people like your neighbors or people in public Like you are better just because you're muslim you wear hijab and you fast or you have a beard None of that matters. What matters is heart Only known to Allah, so hello Mr. Hussain you froze just for a minute there you're right now. Yeah, my internet is not supporting us today I'm fortunate maybe if you have two or three people Attending the session right now. Maybe one of them can log off and that oh, you know, that's a good point Yes, senior is smile. I'm gonna ask one of you guys to get off of the ipad Okay, get off and share because It's possible that too many people are using the internet in this house and we're weakening the the signal Okay, so get off of it, please. All right, so if you're again in guidance Um What is what does that mean? It means that you should be grateful to all this product because as we said there are people who may be drinking alcohol today But maybe in five ten years from now They've made toba and and they're now Huffle of Quran. Maybe they've become a half of the Quran. How do you know? You don't know what their future is So you always want to look at everybody as you know what not my place to judge I'm just going to be a good person and do what i'm taught by the provost I said, which is always want good for people won't guidance for people instead of thinking i'm better than anybody right and then the last uh disease of the heart or i'm sorry the last state excuse me I'm getting so many messages my My brain is okay. So the last state that people can be in is disobedience, right? And so People fall and they fall by by you know, not uh doing what they're supposed to do, right? They make mistakes That's another way of saying they're making mistakes So people sin they don't do sometimes what they're supposed to do And if that happens then the response is to keep going back to Allah to make toba to Allah subhanatana To ask Allah subhanatana for forgiveness. That's the the response that you should have so anytime you make a mistake Don't think like oh, i'm so terrible. Allah will never forgive me never think that that's from shaytan because he wants you to To flee away from Allah because you know, he's making you feel bad about yourself Rather just think Allah is the most forgiving and like he says even if your Sins are like the you know the foam of the ocean or they reach the sky Keep coming back because the more we come back to Allah He will uh, you know the better it is for us because we're we're showing him That we love him and that we know he's so forgiving And so that is the response of someone who's in that state of disobedience So it's again so important to remember if Allah will something you let go, okay? And so the treatment again of Having this is that you remember that really Allah subhanatana is the only one that knows what's good for us We do not know right and then to reflect on the life of the prophet Asalaam think about how much he endured all the things we talked about he lost so much But he never ever complained ever about any of it not even once he understood that all of it was from Allah And he accepted accepted it and then also remember That whatever happened to you whatever the thing was that you're not happy about it could always be worse, right? um, and or it could you know Alhamdulillah that it happened in in some material thing Right, it was like a thing that you could replace you can replace a bike You can replace a phone you can replace things like that And it wasn't in your dean because having Problem in your dean is far worse, right? So if Allah is testing you in a material thing not a big deal, right? So we just are grateful that alhamdulillah it's in that and nothing else And then that it's in this world and not the next world because we don't want to be tested in the next world Right, we always ask Allah for protection from that, you know from any punishments in the next life Rather for whatever mistakes we've done or things that might have that aren't good Let us, you know deal with those things in this dunya instead of the next life So this is how we treat this particular disease of the heart, okay? And now we're going to enough. Oh, wow. We got to speed it up because I want to answer your questions So seeking reputation summa is the last disease we're going to cover today We did four usually we've been doing three But we're going to try to squeeze in this four and if we go over a few minutes It's okay and child. I hope your parents are okay with that But seeking reputation This is a really important one because you guys are growing up in a time where social media is everywhere Okay, you see a lot of people even young kids your age or younger There's people who have youtube pages and instagram pages and tiktok and snapchat and twitter and facebook They're everywhere and what's happening to them. They're getting very very famous and they're making a lot of money So a lot of kids tend to think ooh, that sounds so cool. I want to be like them too. I want to be famous I want to be known But it's a disease of the heart to ever want to be known to people And to to start airing your talents and good deeds and bragging about your what you do That's a disease of the heart. Okay, and so we have to be very careful About letting that just because again, it's something that we're seeing Everywhere that we end up also falling into this behavior Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the only one who exalts people exalt Bringing people up right making them special. So Allah is the one he's you exalt whomever you will only Allah does it And you debase whomever you are debases the opposite So if exalting is to make someone important and and you know, give them that that status to debase Is to lower them and humiliate them. That's only in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. He's the only one who can do that, right? Indeed you have power over all things. So we recognize that we shouldn't look for reputation or Fame with people though. It's it's pointless and we're going to talk more about that in a second But also here's the hadith whoever seeks reputation whoever wants to be famous In this world Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will expose them on the day of judgment So this is a very serious thing if you want fame in this world Then that's the risk you're taking that Allah will Humiliate you and expose you on the day of judgment to everybody and we don't want that We never want that we want our intentions always to be pure for his sake And we don't want fame because fame is quite dangerous. Okay, and here i'm going to explain Pursuing fame there's a phrase called chasing the carrot. Okay chasing the carrot is something that They used to do back in the days these poor horses and animals, right? They would have to sometimes travel and do a lot of physical labor For human beings before we had cars and all of these other things So they would these owners would got you know, they thought hmm How can we get these mules and donkeys and horses to keep moving? What how what incentive can we give them? What reward can we give them that will make them keep moving instead of stopping in their tracks and resting right? So what they did is they would tie a carrot to a stick And they would put it on the wagon or they would put it right here like in this example And it would hang in front of the poor donkey or the horse or the mule And the animal doesn't know it's thinking it's within reach because if something is hanging in front of you Naturally you think i'm going to walk towards it and then get it right? So that's how they would trick these poor animals to keep working keep working keep working But that phrase chasing the carrot also applies to fame That what the pursuit of fame is it's like chasing a carrot It's you're never going to get the carrot the poor animal never really got the carrot until the end right maybe when they arrived Finally after miles and miles and miles hours and hours. Maybe they would get a carrot, but That's what famous like is that you work towards something that's never you're never really going to get Then you see a lot of people working so hard to be famous But they end up actually destroying their relationships losing a lot of money And there's so many people who think like you know someone will come because there's something called being scammed Right a lot of there's a lot of scammers scammers are people who are very good at tricking people So they come around and they'll tell you oh I'll make you famous and i'll make this for you and you'll get a show on tv And you'll be known by the world and you'll make millions and millions of dollars Just give me five thousand dollars and i'll do that for you So you think wow for five thousand dollars sure if i'm going to make millions and millions i'll do it And so you are innocent right you're pure hearted and a lot of young people fall for these kinds of tricks They don't have life experience right unless they have parents and people are teaching them these things But some kids end up getting scammed a lot because of false promises And so it's like this it's like they're just making you chase that carrot But in actuality you never get the reward that you that they promise you and that's why it's sad because so many people end up getting hurt um And losing a lot of things for fame and so we never seek fame with people We only seek to be known by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So the treatment of summa like riyah, right? Which is to show off summa enters the heart because of something called rafla Rafla in is the Arabic word. It's actually a disease of the heart. We're going to cover soon But i'll just introduce it now. It's heedlessness. It's when you forget the priority like what's more important So when you have rafla, it will lead to riyah and summa both of them ostentation and Wanting reputation wanting people to hear about all of the good deeds that you were doing. Okay So um heedlessness is where it starts It's because you forget that Allah is more important than anything and anybody else And as soon as you forget Allah then you start thinking about fame and wanting to be popular and wanting to be known And uh thinking that good is going to come from people No good comes from people, right? No good all good comes from Who Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so don't give up or don't forget him because once you forget him Then other people are going to start taking you away and distracting you from him So um hiding your good deeds and not sharing them with people Similarly to to riyat right is a really good way to prevent summa from entering the heart, right? And again, um, this is a hadith whoever displays his good deeds to others Allah will display his bad deeds on the day of judgment So so important that we understand not to show off. So if you're memorizing Quran or you've got some knowledge or you did something really nice, maybe you 50 dollars of your a sadaqa or your gift money Maybe grandma gave you a lot of money and now you want to take some of it and you want to give it to a charity You don't go around and tell people those things Keep your good deeds hidden. They're between you and Allah and he doesn't need you to announce them He already knows right and then know that no good can come to you from people But all good is from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and you should seek to be famous with Allah Right seek fame through him not through people because people don't do anything for you But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala if you make him your number one priority Then he will Exalt you right that aya that that aya that we talked about before He will make you important to people because you made him important And that's also a hadith whoever makes Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala priority and puts in his pleasure before the people Allah will be pleased with them and he will make the people pleased with them So this is also a very important message and the opposite The hadith says that whoever makes you know the pleasure of people before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Allah will not be pleased with them and the people will never be pleased with them So if you put the making people happy before making Allah happy Nobody will be happy with you. There will always be haters, right? I'm sure you guys know that term who are always Saying negative things about you so people will never be happy with you And then Allah will also not be happy with you. So it's like you're the ultimate loser Not a good plan, right? So it happened in that all right you guys. So that is the final Presentation for today. I'm opening it up now two questions. I'd love to hear from you guys So I'm going to go ahead and stop I'll come back here And you guys can see me now, right? So let's look at the q&a and see what kind of questions we have any questions Go ahead and let's I know it's six o'clock But I'll I'll go a few more minutes because we had those interruptions And we also added a disease today. So we went a little bit over But I'm happy to answer any questions that you have inshallah Okay, anything at all? Oh, some of you have to leave. Okay. Well, thank you for being here. Um, salam aleykum raheel And a son. Thank you for coming. I know it's six o'clock. You guys have to leave. But again anybody else I'm looking at the uh, oh wait. Oh, you guys are on q&a. Oops I'm on the chat. All right. Let's see here. I was looking at the wrong thing. All right. Give me just a second Um, okay. I'm gonna get rid of these answers that you guys put here Someone's asking how many more classes do we have we'll meet inshallah next week And we'll see on thursday of next week if we need one more class. Okay. Um Oh, okay, so some of you are unable to access the Chat, but that's okay. If you can't access the chat message me on the q&a Um, I'm still going through I'm just joined. How do you know who he's talking to? You Okay, Bismillah Can people see my questions your video is freezing you guys are so cute. Um Which one of the four diseases is the worst, huh captain? I don't know who captain is Um, interesting name there. Ask which of the four diseases is the worst Well, you know, all of them are bad. All the diseases are bad But I think you have to really look at which one is Affecting you right for each person. It's going to be different for some people, you know We likely most of us have a lot of these diseases, right? It's Something that we all have a different degree. Some people have More than they have, you know, displeasure with divine decree So it really depends on each individual person to look inside their heart and go, man, maybe I have Summa, maybe I I do like for people to know my good deeds and I do have Riyadh. Oh, no This is not good. And so you got to work on that especially when we remember, right Riyadh Was what the Prophet said and told us he was most worried about that for us because it's a form of shirk And shirk is the worst thing that you could ever do It's one of the most, you know, it's the thing that Allah says he does not forgive to associate partners with him So, you know, if you're asking me from all of these four Surely ostentation would be up there, but I think individually it's going to differ from every single person You have to look into your own heart to determine which one is really the worst for you. Okay um Okay, so we're getting a question about bribing Does it mean when someone bribes someone that's ostentation because they're willing to bribe for their approval Better scores for some tests rigging competition. I mean, that's just broad, you know, if you're bribing people To basically get something that you didn't earn. That's broad. That's that's really bad And yeah, if you're doing it because you want to show off And you want to act like you've earned something you didn't earn Then sure it's all of those things, but that's a really terrible thing to do um Okay Marshall I'm getting really nice comments here Okay, so we're getting a question that says That harm can only come from Allah. What if someone has a gun? Well, okay, so let me explain What we mean by that, of course human beings are the ones that enact bad things on earth Allah is not doing those things, right? However, it's by his permission That he allows us to do things, right? He's given us free will, right? So it's by his permission that human beings can act Right, so if he didn't give us permission to act good or bad, we wouldn't be able to do things So when we say that it's by the will of Allah that something happens That's what we're talking about But the one who's doing the evil act, they're the ones who are causing the harm not Allah He's not causing it It's the evil person with the gun who's doing that, right? And so um, but even that if you want, you know protection From something like that you have to turn to Allah because he's the only one who can really protect you from those types of things Is the q&a a new thing? Um, it's a feature on this webinar. Uh, yes How about showing off to our family members Maya? Very good question. Yes Showing off in general is not a good thing whether it's to your family to your friends To your grandparents. It doesn't matter. It's a quality that you don't want to have Now um getting encouragement is different, right? If you are Starting something let's say for the first time and you're just trying to get better at it And you like to be encouraged then your parents or your teachers or the elders in your family They should know that it's okay to maybe give you a little bit of attention in the beginning when you're starting off something Right, like when you first start to pray or you first start to memorize Quran or you take a class Or you're working on a talent um a skill art maybe a an instrument you're doing Or a sport that you're playing It's perfectly fine for uh you to maybe want a little bit of Feedback some validation because you're just starting off. You're insecure, right? We're all insecure when we do something for the first time. We're not sure of ourselves So sometimes you might want people to know that you did something Like you know and you might share But this is about making it a habit, right? If five years into something you're doing and you still like to brag about it This is a disease of the heart, right? So you want to make sure that you know the difference because encouragement From family members like maybe you want to share with grandma what you did or your aunt or uncle or someone That's fine. But if you're doing it because you just like the attention and it makes you feel proud of yourself Or you like to make your other Kids or that you that are your age feel less than compared to you This is when it's definitely already asked. So I would say Watch out. It's a disease of the heart and remember it's like that sneaky sneaky ant, right? That little black ant it can crawl up on you. So you want to be very careful, okay to not let it um Enter your heart Okay, should you still try to learn from us? Very good question. Should you still try to learn from a knowledgeable person who doesn't have good intentions now? I'm not sure who uh, how you would know what their intentions are But if their intentions are bad, you should have learned from them. Okay You should try to seek out. I mean if they make their intentions bad to you You should definitely not you should stay away from people like that Because they're that's not good to encourage them We would say this is enabling right if you see a muslim Who's doing something they shouldn't be doing if you look over it like you gloss over it like oh, okay I'll it's not a big deal or okay. I'll just go along with it Then you can you're kind of enabling them to do that But if you say wait a second, but that's not a good intention. You shouldn't do that. That's wrong. That's wrong Then you're reminding them also, so you're protecting them. You don't want them to be in trouble with Allah, right? So I would say if they make their intentions known to you that they're not good intentions Then don't enable them make the offer them guide them in a good way and look for maybe a teacher Who's got really good intentions inshallah, but if you're thinking that their intentions aren't good That's suspicion and you shouldn't have suspicion from because you don't know what's in someone's heart So unless they tell you that their intentions aren't good. Don't go by what your suspicions are. That's not right. Okay All right Oh, I have someone who said I love your classes. Well, thank you anonymous attendee. I love you too And I love doing these classes. So sweet um Yes, the google form you can get for signing up for this class on the mcc Facebook page website, you'll see it there inshallah. So please check that Um, what if you're doing something for the sake of Allah, but you also want a little attention? You know what? So that's a good I hope I answered that in the previous question wanting a little bit of attention for You know just to feel like I said encouraged is good But don't get dependent on that because it will become a habit And now you're not even sure am I doing it for Allah anymore for i'm doing it for the intention But if you just in the beginning of trying something new like I said, you just want to get kind of Used to it and comfortable with it. That's okay But pull back as soon as you start seeing that you're doing it That that's the first thought that comes to your mind. Ooh, someone will notice me Ooh, I hope they know that I got, you know a really good test score I end that i'm gonna you know that my teacher was you know, or I got awarded school I hope my mom tells them and I hope you know, my dad says this about me that I won my soccer game You like you want people to hear all the stuff that you know that that where they're bragging about you That means that you like the attention too much, right? And so you shouldn't do that you should say, you know what Allah knows everything and as long as he knows and he's happy with me That's all that matters to me and I'm not gonna Build my self image based on what people think because people are always there's always going to be some people who come And they'll have something to complain about it's like you'll never really satisfy people Whereas Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala just by doing something with the right intention Um, he is already happy with you, right? And so that's why making sure that we please Allah before anybody else is so much better Then wasting your time trying to make people happy because they're always going to be those people that are not really ever happy with you Aw, thank you Kinza. You're so sweet. You guys are so sweet that you're asking Giving me all these lovely compliments. Jezek al-Akhid and may Allah reward you guys for making the time to be here That's a great honor for me to teach you Um, so how do you know if Allah is talking to you? Very good question So obviously, you know, we are in this world and Allah when he when we say that Allah communicates to us certain things It's not like the way a human is talking to us where we actually are talking to them But rather it's inspiration. This is called halat that it's a it's a feeling that you get and so whenever you're Feeling to do really good things where you're feeling Like you should be doing worshipping Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and you're getting or getting really good dreams that are You know, some people are dreaming about amazing things like the Kaaba or they see the Prophet's life to them Those things are gifts from Allah So there that's a form of communication that Allah is speaking to us, right? So you have to listen to your heart But anytime you are being drawn closer to Allah's power that that is a way where Allah's speaking to us Insha'Allah through the khawak through that inspiration that that you know telling you to get up and do something Go read the Quran Right. Go pray extra prayers those extra ibadah that we do and we do them in secrecy We do them for Allah. Those are all ways that Allah is drawing us close to him. Alhamdulillah So thank you for that lovely question um And then is complaining the same as a displeasure with the divine decree excellent question bilal. Thank you What a great question Complaining to Allah is perfectly fine. Okay, because he's the only one that Is in control, right? So it makes sense if something happened and you're not necessarily happy about it Let's say for example, you have a pet Okay, I used to have a I mean I've had pets before but I used to have a pet that I loved She was very special to me and I lost her under a very difficult situation I won't go into the details because we don't have time But the way that I lost her was hard for me, right? But I had to accept it the way whatever happened it happened and let go, right? um But my pain that I was feeling I you can't just turn it off and on we're human beings, right? It's not like a switch So you take that pain and instead of being Angry that it happened, right? Like why did I have to lose her? You say, you know Allah my heart hurts But I'm patient with your decree I have trust in you and then you keep remembering that this world is you know only for a short time The next world is forever and in the next world Allah will give us whatever we want So yeah, my Dua is that I will be inshallah reunited with my beloved juju In jannah, you know, I lost her in this world It was you know, not a good situation But I accepted it that it was it happened not by my planning certainly But my hope in Allah is that he will reward me for my patients and then give me her in jannah And that's where you take your complaints You you can certainly not always be happy with something that happens at Allah wills But it's that beautiful patience that says oh Allah This is painful for me But I love you more than this thing And I will never lose hope in you That is true. Amen. And so do that always remember Allah never puts you through something for without a reason So even if you're being tested with some difficulty that there is always a greater meaning to it Have sabrun jamil with Allah and watch what will happen He will replace your loss or your pain and he will increase you in blessing And he will remove that pain and distance you from that pain inshallah Because of your beautiful patients But the opposite if you just become grumpy and upset and angry And you have displeasure with the divine decree This is all from iblis because he wants you to be stuck in bad feelings all the time and depressed and angry That's not from from our tradition. And uh, Hamedullah, we're we're muslim and we have we have belief in our lord, right? Okay, so I think I've answered all of your questions. We have gone over 15 minutes. Oh, man I'm so sorry, but thank you to all of you for your um, oh, it was a cat My pet was a cat. Um, that's who I lost my my cat juju But thank you all for your amazing questions. I'm sorry for the screen issues that we had, but thank you for your patience Next uh, tuesday, we'll come back for week three more diseases of the heart to cover And I'm looking forward to that inshallah I remember to study and go over your notes because there will be a quiz InshaAllah and I look forward to seeing you guys and thank you so much And have a wonderful iftar. Keep us in your doors. Okay Make da'a for me and my family and everybody at mcc for making these classes possible sister. Humira Who's also um here? Facilitating make da'a for her and her family. All right. Walaikum everybody. Um, I'm so happy to be here with you again Uh, we're this is week three already, huh? We're Coming towards the end, but we still have a couple sessions left So we've covered a lot mashallah And let me actually pull up Sorry one second go through the presentation so that we can get to Some of the questions which you guys know, right? You know all of this I've quizzed you a lot about the author of the text, which is imam and molud and the translator of the text Which is shehram ze yusuf, right? You know all of this mashallah Um, but and we've covered all the eight hearts, right? So here we're just going to quickly go through them. We've covered all this stuff last week we talked about um three different diseases And we um, I wanted to actually quiz you on them real quickly Uh, so let's just see here. I want to make sure I'm in the right one Right list. So we have 13 14 15 Okay, so we covered last week a disease of the heart That talked about When you do something but your intention isn't for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to see you But rather for someone else to see you. What is that disease of the heart called? And how did I excuse me? Allergies we have the windows open today So my allergies have been up. So anybody want to tell me what's the disease of oh wait, let me check the chat box Sorry, um, it was kind of behind there. So The question the question is when you good mashallah. Yes, me and you got it. Awesome Ostentation is the disease of the heart where you are trying to get attention With your good deeds from other people, right? You're you're doing it for that neah What is the arabic of the word ostentation? Let's see who knows that Hmm Very good raheel awesome. So smile. You got it confused. Riyah is um Wait, hold on. Did I read it wrong? No. Okay. I'm sorry. You got it, right? So raheel and a smile. You both got it, right? I read it wrong. So riyah is yes ostentation excellent And we got la la haydara very good. So three of you came in with the answer. Awesome Mashallah, and then raheel is coming in with the next Disease of the heart which I was about to ask you already jumped the gun and gave you the answer That's awesome. And you gave me the arabic very happy But let's see if others can remember as well. This next disease of the heart is When you put your trust in people Right, you're not you're you're looking too much at the people in your life and asking their help for everything Um, and you forget that all help or all assistance really comes from one source, which is of course Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So what is that very good? Zoya excellent relying on other than Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So when you put your trust or you rely on other than god that is a disease of the heart and mashallah, like I said Raheel gave us the arabic because anybody else give the arabic. I want to see if anybody else can Come up with it Anybody else the arabic Yeah, okay. I'll get a lot very good. Mashallah Excellent leila raheel, of course came in first with that answer and a lot like excuse me not leila And then a smile you said a lot of something, you know, you'll get some points for that So excellent mashallah And then the last one I saw some people also giving the answer for it But those of you who don't know because I'm the only one who can see the answer Well, myself and sister. So those of you who don't know yet What is the disease of the heart when you are not happy about something and you're Kind of like why me? Why did this have to happen to me? Right, what is that called? Okay, awesome. So again mashallah Raheel came with both the english and the arabic excellent job Displeasure with the divine decree. This is a disease of the heart And it's very good zoya and dania as well You guys are coming through that's fantastic. Mashallah. You guys are paying attention. I love it So great job We have so much to cover you guys because there's quite a few diseases of the heart left So, um, inshallah. Oh, and then yeah, we did another one. Oh raheel you reminded me. I forgot Whenever you're trying to to so there's ostentation is showing off But when you want people to hear about your good deeds and you want to be popular and famous Um, that's also a disease of the heart which we covered, right? And that is sumat or seeking reputation very good you guys So I forgot that we did four last time Great job, but we do have quite a lot of content to go through today So let's go ahead and get into the presentation. I'm going to quickly go through um the presentation from last week because we covered all of this Uh, we did to hope for a thought that oh no, that was the week before so third I mean tuesday, so thursday is where we did these four ostentation or lying on other than god Displeasure with divinity and seeking reputation. So now we're going to go to week three Okay, and I have a slide. Where is it? It's coming. Here we go. So week three. So alhamdulillah A lot of content left. So for today, we're going to cover these three, uh, diseases of the heart false hope negative thoughts and vanity, okay? uh, tula al-amal tula al-amal al-sua adhan and al-ajib And uh, the definitions are right here and we'll go over each one separately. Okay So let's go ahead and jump into it inshallah um False hopes the first one. So false hopes is the belief that you will live forever Okay, and that belief that oh, I have all this time Makes you heedless, which is careless like you're just not Really caring about uh, your responsibilities is first and foremost as we talked about The most important responsibility we have is to worship Allah's power that so if you start, you know becoming Heedless that means you won't pray on time or you miss your prayers altogether Or you just kind of you know, don't really care about Doing good deeds as much because you're too busy Thinking oh, I have homework and I have to go I want to watch this movie and I want to listen to this Song or I want to play this video game or you get caught up in life And then you keep thinking it's okay. I'm young or I'm this I'm that later on in life I will you know do more good work. So why do I have to do it now? Right? I'm a young kid or I'm you know, I'm I'm a youth I have all this time in my life So that is actually a disease of the heart because nobody knows How much time we have and whatever time we have we should Use it in good deeds, right? We should use it first and foremost again to worship Allah's power and then to be good to his creation So a person Again like this They just they waste their time a lot. They who have this disease They waste their time because they think they have this false idea That they have a long time to live And so Allah says about such a person that when death comes they're gonna suddenly wake up and they'll say Man, I wish I had sent ahead some good for my life Like I wish I did more good deeds because now it's too late once we die, right? It's too late And then imam Ali told us he said that You know most people people are asleep and then when they die, they will wake up So what does that mean? Right? What does it mean to to wake up after you die? Well The idea that people are asleep is something we should kind of better understand that there's a lot of people Who are walking around us in a sleep-like state? Right because when you're asleep, what are you doing? You're dreaming, right? So there's people again who are in a dream-like state. They're walking around. They're talking to people. They're Going to work. They're eating. They're just doing a lot, but They think that this world is you know, gonna go on forever And because they're walking around in a dream-like state They are forgetful that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Expects them to do certain things and they have to do those things And that also death is imminent, which means it's always around right death is around us and People are dying every day every minute of every day even within seconds. I don't know the exact Statistic but every we could probably say maybe every few seconds someone is dying, right? So we have to be realistic and then also that the day of judgment is real so When someone when we say someone is asleep and then they wake up when they die That means that all of a sudden the dream of the world is over and they realize like oh Now I wish I had more done more good deeds. So it's a very dangerous state to be in. Okay, this Having false hopes. So how do we treat it? Well, you have to as we said remember that death is real and inevitable And that no one and nothing escapes it and then understand that life has phases So a lot of you who are youth, right? You're in a phase of learning of having fun. It's a very exciting time to be a child But once you get older as you get older, you're going to get more and more responsibilities And those responsibilities are important and you have you can't let that fun of youth Start to affect your responsibilities that you just keep wanting to play Like a child for your whole life. All you care about is fun fun fun and entertainment That is not right and that's not to say you can't have fun. Of course. We should have fun But love made the dunya enjoyable for us But we should not live to have fun and that's the difference So if you want to play with your legos or you want to play On the computer with the video game or you want to play a board game or You want to do art or play an instrument or anything a sport That is something that you can do once in a while just because it's enjoyable But if that's the only reason that you Um, you know like to wake up in the morning or you're all your day is just that thing Then you're going to forget a lot and a lot of people that's what happens to them They'll get so caught up in a movie or a video game that they completely Forget to worship a lot and i'm going to show tell you like how these things can be so addictive I watched a documentary which is like a movie last week about the dangers of you know Certain things about the internet and video games and part of that documentary said that there was a group of people I won't mention the country, but there there's a country Where the people are so addicted to video games and I want you to think about this because it's real and they actually showed You know a room full of people on their computers playing video games But they said that it's very common in that country That the people are so addicted to their video games. They actually Wear diapers They will wear these are adults They're not children. They're adults who out of the villa because they don't want to break from the game They think that it's okay for them to wear sit in their Seat and just wear a diaper So that they can continue playing their games out of the villa. I mean that's a level of Extreme that we should all say a stuff for a while. We should never want that but this is the danger of thinking Uh, getting careless with your time and thinking. Oh, it's no big deal. You know, I'm just gonna Um, I have plenty of time when I'm older and then I'll do things So let me just keep having fun fun fun No When you reach the age of adolescence, which your parents will talk to you about hopefully if you don't know about it yet But it's the age where a child starts to become more like an adult Well in islam when that happens Then you are considered what ballet, which means that you are now accountable So you have to uh start doing all of the same things you have to start fasting and praying you are treated Like an adult and so you can't just think oh because i'm still in school and I am treated like a child Maybe by other people that I shouldn't do my responsibilities No, we have responsibilities to Allah and we should fulfill those responsibilities And then we also know that we worship Allah and the real fun Is in the next life jannah is where we're gonna have a lot of fun And we don't have to worry about going to the bathroom in jannah So there's no need for diapers. We can eat and we can enjoy life and everything is great inshallah Okay, so that's what the treatment is to keep your mind focused Death is always near. I shouldn't think I have that much time and I should remember to prioritize And worship Allah as he deserves InshaAllah, so this is the treatment for the disease of the heart to lalama false hopes So let's go ahead and go to the next disease. So negative thoughts. This is su'adhan Okay, so su'adhan is a very serious disease of the heart because It's just having suspicion or bad thoughts about someone without really any evidence, right? There's nothing at all that you would that would tell you that someone is a bad person or that you shouldn't like them Except for your own thoughts So it's not like you saw them do something bad or you believe that they were Guilty of something bad because there was evidence. You just have a suspicious Mind or heart and then you start to think really bad things about them. Well, this is not permissible Allah swt. That tells us in the Quran. Oh, you who believe avoid suspicion for some suspicion is sinful So when you have you let your heart become suspicious of people It's not good to do that unless that person like if someone comes and they have You know, they have let's say their hands in their pocket And one and one and their finger looks like, you know, or something looks like maybe it's a gun or a weapon That's not being suspicious without evidence You could look at them and go that person looks really suspicious. Why are they walking around with their hands like that? Is that a gun in their pocket? Oh my gosh That's and you could you know protect other people because you're acting on that thing thoughts But that so that's not what we're talking about. This is just having a bad thought about someone for really no reason at all And that's why it's not permissible And then the other thing is that we have to remember when you have negative thoughts about someone for really no reason The danger is that it's usually going to not stay inside of you those thoughts want to come out So you want to wait till your friend comes or your sister or your brother? And then you want to say oh look at that person They look so weird and then you start both of you mocking them and making fun of them And I bet you they're like this and I bet you you know, you start talking really badly about a person And they're totally innocent. They've done nothing So this is the danger is that you start to what lead to bad words and then you got Another person involved too and now whatever they do is also on you, right? So negative thoughts are Problematic in so many ways you they they're just showing that you have a suspicious heart But then also leading you to gossip and to bring someone else into sinful behavior with you because when you gossip You need someone else there with you, right? You're doing it together So this is why the prophet said warned us that he who believes in Allah And the last day must either speak good or remain silent So this is a warning about speaking good But of course like we said negative thoughts if you don't stop them They'll lead you to not speaking very good. And so it's a disease of the heart that can cause so many problems and so This is also another really important hadith to to remember Every day when we wake up in the morning our limbs, right Which are different parts of our body as is in this picture here They actually all go to the tongue and they say oh tongue fear Allah like fear Allah tongue because the tongue Gets us in trouble and it's connected to negative thoughts Like I said if you have a bad thought about someone it's not going to stay inside you Eventually it's going to want to come out and then now you're lying maybe about someone you're gossiping You're spreading slander which are all like, you know really haram. They're not acceptable So this is why your body aware of the danger of the tongue Asks the tongue like fear Allah and then it says Why because we're going to be punished or rewarded based on what you do So if you're straight, which means you speak the truth and you fear Allah Then all of us will be good But if you're not then you get all of us in trouble, right? So your hands your feet your eyes your ears all of it is like basically telling the tongue stop Getting all of us in trouble because you can't control yourself right and but again the tongue It doesn't act on its own it acts on what's going on in the heart and in the mind So this is why you have to be careful of those negative thoughts because it will eventually lead to negative actions for the whole body Right so very important disease of the heart for us to know So the treatment this is the process. I'm telling us very clearly What not to do first you stop being suspicious of people Okay, then you don't look for faults in other people and you don't spy Stop trying to find Someone's problems, you know some people they that's all they do they just Watch people all day long and look for things that are The flaws in them or faults of them Or they you know, like you'll be in a classroom setting or in a meeting or at the masjid And there's people who just like to watch other people Do something that's going to embarrass them that they can laugh at that they can mock And then they go and tell their friends or whoever. Oh, yeah, this guy in the masjid You did this and then guess what happened then you did this and then you're just looking for You know, it's not a good thing to do because all you're doing is spending time Wasting your time actually And speaking ill about another person who's totally innocent. They came to worship Allah or do something, you know Whether you're at the masjid or somewhere like the library or a restaurant or anything people are there to do something And now you're just making fun of them, you know, it's really wrong So you don't look for faults. You don't spy. You don't watch people, right? You and he also says do not be jealous of one another because sometimes Negative thoughts come from jealousy and hasad, right, which we talked about before Do not a dessert which is like to cut your relation with one another. Don't Cut off ties and do not hate one another. Oh And oh Allah's worshipers be brothers Allah which Allah has ordered you to be right So all of these are ways that we can protect ourselves from having negative thoughts They start with those suspicions, right? Don't have suspicions in the first place and don't Actively try to find things that you can talk about someone else about don't get yourself involved in that type of Deed because it's a bad deed and it's haram and it's usually like I said Lee it's That kind of stuff says suggests that you're likely jealous Or you have envy of the person or you're just someone who likes to waste your time Doing things that are wrong. So in every case it's It's not Acceptable and that's why the prophet is warning us not to do these things. So this is how we inshallah stop Those thoughts and to remember that the angels are recording everything, right? All of our good deeds are being recorded. So nothing will be forgotten You want to be very careful that if your negative thoughts turn into negative actions that Allah is Counting all of that and that's what you're going to be held accountable for on the day of judgment So don't think it's just going to you know, nothing's going to happen, right? Be very careful. So that's the disease of negative thoughts Um, now the next one Is let's read this one here. Did you know that there are some people afflicted with this next disease? And they can't help but see themselves as very very special They actually walk around very proud of themselves And often looking down on other people They completely reject the fact that every good that they have is from Allah swt So in this picture you see, I'm sure you can see what they are. They're just a bunch of eggs, right? But if you look at this egg on top, it's got some special things, right? It's got a shiny color and it's wearing a crown And it looks at itself as better and that's why it's walking Actually on top of these other eggs and they're definitely not happy about it, right? But there are some people that walk around this way because maybe they Allah gave them wealth Or they gave he gave them beauty or he gave them Privilege and power maybe they come from like a family that has a lot of power And whatever it is that they have they become very What arrogant and and and vain about it and we're going to talk about this word, okay Vane, what does that mean? So vain or vanity or a job is a disease of the heart where someone is so full of pride for their for their blessings Um, they could be about their appearance, which is the way they look or achievements So you could be vain about your your school work. Let's say you got really good grades, you know And your teachers you were top of your class and you won some awards at school That can make you vain where you start to think that you're really good and you're better than other people, right? And when you get stuck on Thinking that it's coming from you This is the disease because to say that Allah gave me a blessing Alhamdulillah, I'm so grateful for that blessing. There's nothing wrong with recognizing The gifts that Allah's given you, okay But when you think that you are the reason for those gifts like you're giving credit only to yourself And then you treat other people a certain way This is clearly a disease of the heart because Allah is the source Of all of our good and we're going to talk about that in a second. So the problems I saw in here tells us Eat and drink Give charity and wear clothes As long as that does not involve any extravagance or vanity So what he's telling us here is enjoy the blessings of your life, right? Eat and drink Allah's given you a life where you can enjoy good food and good drink Alhamdulillah, that's great and give charity wear clothes So you can actually wear nice clothing and be a charitable person, right be a generous person But don't do it in a way that makes you feel like you're better than other people or With extravagance, which is you're going over the top, right? If you eat and drink and let's say You only eat at the best restaurants, okay I can't ever eat at this restaurant because it's not, you know, it's not clean enough for me or it's not This enough for me and you just kind of are very boastful about the fact that You want to eat a special kind of food and it's, you know, very Decadent which is like rich and maybe it's a very expensive Meal but that you walk around and you just carry yourself like look at me. I'm so better I only eat at the best restaurants, right and that's all I put in my body Or when you wear clothing You also do the same thing. You only wear brand name clothing and oh, I would never shop there, right? I would never go to that store because I don't their clothing just is so below my style I need the best of the best and so this kind of attitude That you are Better than other people and even that can happen when you're being charitable. There are people who are very Arrogant even when they're giving to other people They're acting like they're, you know, so generous and you should be so thankful that I'm even looking at your direction And giving you money or giving you food or whatever that they're giving So here this is a clear warning like do things because we're human and we live in this world We can do certain things and enjoy those things But make sure you do not do them in excess, which is what extravagance is where you're going over the top And you're just being really a little bit too much too extra as they say Or you're doing it with vanity where you think that you are so special That you're better than other people and you know, we're going to explain a little bit more about this So Now arrogance is very closely related to our jib. Okay The difference is that arrogance requires two people So if you're an arrogant person and that's coming it's one of the diseases we'll cover soon boasting in arrogance It's coming but if you're an arrogant person you need other people, right? To display your arrogance to like so you walk around Again treating people like they're less than you and not good, right good enough vanity doesn't need another person Ojib is really just about a person being so Full of themselves Thinking that all of their good is from them that there's no mention Of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that you know, they're not really thinking about all of the great The gifts that Allah's given them and they don't make gratitude to Allah But rather they attribute all their good deeds to themselves So what what Ojib and how they're different is is the attribution, right? That uh, well, they're I'm sorry. They're both attributed wrongly, but they're it's also the audience for Ojib You don't need an audience. It's you're the only audience It's it's it's you it's you thinking that you are good-looking because you you know have great Jeans or you know your skin is you take care of your skin and you you have a great You know the sort of Makeup routine if you're if you wear makeup or your hair is so nice because you take care of it But you constantly keep again putting the focus on yourself, right? and then Kibbutt or arrogance, which we're going to again talk about soon Is where you think all of these things and then Excuse me You actually treat other people like they're less than you and you Puff yourself up in front of people both of these qualities are interrelated Insha'Allah, okay, so um and insha'Allah. I'm sorry. We'll we'll talk about it more when we get to boastful Miss and arrogance, but it's important to understand that they're very very closely tied And then you know the danger again of vanity and arrogance is that it it allows this Pride and arrogance into the heart, right? And the prophet said i'm told us that no one Who has the weight of a seed of a single seed of arrogance in his heart or her heart will enter paradise This should make all of us never want to ever have our job or be boastful Show off, right? We talked about ostentation. Ria. We talked about summa We talked about all these diseases of the heart which really is about Showing off and you know being and allowing these things because they kind of all work together eventually Right you you start to develop all of these diseases of the heart But at the root of it is that you deny that the good that you have is from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And all that matters is that he is pleased with you And instead you start focusing on other people and trying to show off to them And then you start thinking you're better than them. So this is how it all works, right? So it's a trap of shaytan and so You know in this hadith when the prophet said him said that about The weight of a seed of arrogance in his heart Someone was like but what if like a man loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes, right? So he's worried because he's like, uh, oh, I don't want to have Eragans, but I at the same time I like to have nice stuff What about that? Is there anything wrong with that? Right? And then the prophet said him replied He said what verily Allah is beautiful and he loves beauty Eragans means rejecting the truth and looking down on people So this is not about not having nice things. Okay Um, you can definitely like nice things and have nice things. It's about your attitude When you walk around in those nice things or when you're, um, you know, again getting certain attention for things How do you see yourself with regards to other people? That's what this Disease of the heart is talking about. So let's again explore this just a little further So here's this hadith again the same exact hadith, right? Um, so I want to make it clear Um, the seed that we're talking about look at these are seeds. These are multiple seeds. Okay in someone's hand Now when he tells us that the weight of a seed he didn't say a lot of seeds He said a seed right one seed of arrogance So you can see how tiny A seed of arrogance is and he's telling us if you have that much arrogance in your heart You will not enter paradise We have to make a lot of coba From this disease of the heart if we have it and ask a lot to remove it from our hearts and to Ask him to protect our hearts from it because we don't want to ever think of ourselves In a way that is arrogant whether that means we just are so prideful of what we have And we walk around even within our own hearts and go. Oh like I have such nice eyes and my Teeth are so white and my hair is so beautiful and my skin is so this You know like whatever the thought is that comes to you That makes you feel prideful is a dangerous thought because you're not Remembering it's all from Allah and he can take it away Any minute there are so many people that had you know a lot of good and khayr in their life And everything was going well and it was taken away a lot of stories Like if you ask your parents to tell you the story of prophet ayyub Aleyhi salam and see how he was tested. He had everything He had a great life and then Allah tested him And took everything away and see how he responded But that can happen to someone at any time in their life. So if you start to Think these things that's the danger is that you can have them taken away from you Instead always say alhamdulillah. Thank you. Allah for all of the blessings You've given me for my health for my wealth for the parents I have just constantly remembering it was all from Allah. It's not from you And even if you go further like in school and you get into a good college and you get a great job Eventually inshallah that'll happen for all of you where you will succeed You want to always remember that every part of that success is from Allah all of it Even if you did the hard work Even if you uh stayed up late and you worked on a bunch of projects and research Research papers and and did a lot of work on tests and exams and you did all the work yourself You can't say that it's your work that led you to that success All of it is from Allah because Allah is the one who gave you the means to do it He gave you the brain the capacity the time All of that comes from him and if he didn't give you those things You wouldn't have been able to achieve any good in your life So this is how we push back against those those thoughts is no It's all from Allah and i'm just going to always they say thank you to him Instead of letting my heart get puffed up And thinking of myself as something special because you know a lot of them You'll find that adults and other people in your life They'll start to compliment you more on certain things and this is how Some of these diseases can take root because those compliments feel good It's nice to have someone say wow you play basketball so good or oh my gosh You're such a talented writer and you speak so nicely and look how well you're dressed And oh, I love your hair and oh, you know and they just throw all these compliments at you It's very natural for the human being to like those things But you have to remember if you start to believe that those things are from you And then you let that to make you feel Special like that egg in the beginning. There's definitely a problem there. Okay, so Back to the hadith and you see the different pictures here, right? The man who was worried about all the he loves to have beautiful clothes and shoes Nothing wrong with that, right? Allah loves when we take care of things And we we beautify things and we have beautiful possessions Because he himself is beautiful. So to be To love beautiful things is not the problem It's when you let those beautiful things make you feel That you are what better and you look down on people. So if you look at this picture This is kind of how you want to imagine someone who is full of arrogance Whether they are arrogant Have arrogance or vanity because they both can have the same attitude of feeling superior to other people Okay, they just feel like they're more special extra special And they see the world in this way where it's like I am so Big and important and I matter and you're just this tiny little person and you don't matter very much This is stuff for a big problem big disease of the heart. We should all ask Allah for protection from Okay, and so how do you treat vanity? Well first as we've been saying you have to realize that Allah is the source of all good And you have to be grateful to him always never stop in your gratitude to Allah And you have to remember that he's aware of everything we do So those thoughts that you're having And you know, don't think that you can hide those thoughts if they're there, he knows they're there He knows everything and so remember to check your heart to You know go inward like when you're having a thought about yourself You know, let's say like I said, you're in A competition, you know at the masjid or maybe you're in the boy scouts or the girl scouts Or maybe you're in something else, you know, that's happening at school If there's some type of a You know competition going on and you start thinking of yourself as like, you know what I'm gonna win I'm really good at this. I'm so You know better than everybody else and I'm I'm so much smarter than everybody else. I've got this You know, even if it's a thought in your own mind Right, you have to stop and go stuff it a lot. Why am I thinking that all good is from Allah I shouldn't ever think that about myself, right and just ask Allah if you want to win You can certainly compete But don't do it with those thoughts, right? You want to check yourself And then to remember Or the Allah tells us here Above all those who have knowledge is the all knowing that is God, right? Allah knows everything And what comes to you of good is from Allah So every good thing that you have is from Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala And every bad thing that happens to you is from your own self. That's the the rest of the ayah But anyways, so the other thing is also you never walk around With arrogance in your heart because of the way you're dressed your accomplishments Education work wealth your lineage if you're cultural, you know, some people are very culturally proud You know, they like to say well, I'm from this country and I'm this and where I come from this family None of that matters to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala. What matters is what we talked about in the first session Halbun Salim that beautiful heart that you take to Allah. That's what matters more than anything Not all of these other things So you don't want to let those things make you feel arrogant towards people or vain So here is another hadith. That's an important one Because it clarifies something here. So when the prophet said him was teaching people, right? He said Whoever drags his garment out of pride Will not be looked upon by Allah on the day of resurrection. So what that means are there's some people in this world Especially in that time and even there are places where they still do this like royalty or people who are who see themselves as very High bread, which means like they are you know, come from a very high family and You know, they see themselves as maybe they have power or wealth or name or status They will sometimes wear clothing that drags on the floor and a lot of celebrities actually do this too If you look at some of the big awards that celebrities get for movies or music You know or even just Other big events that celebrities go to a lot of times Most of the stories about the event are with the clothing that they're wearing and they'll go on the runway or the The red carpet. Sorry, not the runway the red carpet, which is where everybody comes before they go into the event There's like hundreds of cameras taking pictures of these people and they are Coming out of their cars. Sometimes some of these people because their outfits are so Like this they they they're very long. They have Assistants like people they're who are helpers Carrying their dresses like women and sometimes men too if they're wearing like a long coat or something But they'll have like people that work for them behind them Carrying this long Train And it's just dragging on the ground, but they do it to say I'm so wealthy I have so much money that I can wear a dress or a suit or a coat or whatever And it can just drag all over the floor behind me And everybody will know that I have come into this room because I'm so important This is the attitude that a lot of people Have when they dress this way. It's a very arrogant attitude. So when Allah says Whoever drags his garment out of pride, right? Um, there won't be looked upon on the day of judgment What a Abu Bakr who was his best friend, right? Uh radi allah and he worried he got worried because he's like what Like dragging the garment like my sometimes my robe, you know, they used to wear Certain clothes that were sometimes it would fall to the ground or slide down So he was like, oh my gosh And I don't want to have be part of this group of people So he panicked and he said One of my robes slides down if I'm not cautious like if I'm not paying attention What do I do? And then the provost I said I'm what he calmed him down and he said very clearly Verily you are not doing it out of pride So this hadith tells us first what we shouldn't do But also to remember it's the attitude that we're talking about It's not just the action because Allah the process and taught us right in the mal'amalu bin niyat, which is Every action that we do In this world is judged by our intentions So Allah is looking at the Heart of the person who does this because some people maybe it's their culture like for example Someone's actually asking about wedding dresses in the comments. That's a good point Because in many cultures the wedding dress should have a train It's kind of like part of you know being the bride So is the intention of that bride to walk around saying i'm better than everybody No most brides don't think that you know most people are good people They don't have that arrogance or a lot of people but When you so that's like a cultural thing But if it's done with the intention of pride, this is where it's really wrong, right? And this is what we're talking about Vanity Where you walk around and even though this hadith is talking about dragging the garment you also want to look at Wearing certain clothes but still feeling prideful because as you get older And then you guys start working and getting your own jobs and money You might want to buy some really nice clothing and you might want to start getting some things that you could You know couldn't afford when you were a kid But now that you're making your own money you want to buy maybe a purse or a wallet or a car or anything Where there's something that makes you feel really good being wearing that thing But check your heart and check your intentions because if in your heart You start to think like look at me. I'm so cool. I have this You know Name brand name purse or look at my watch or my glasses or my hat or my car or whatever I'm so much better than everybody else. This is what we're talking about It's a it's a disease of the heart of being overly Vain and thinking that you You know did it that it's all Because of you that you have those things and you forget that Allah is the one who gave it to you And then it leads to arrogance, which is you start to think about other people that they're less than you And all of this is completely Wrong in our faith. We do not engage in that type of behavior. So we stop it at the root, which is Alhamdulillah. Thank you. Ya Allah for everything you've given me and I recognize that just as you gave it to me You can always take it away from me and I'm just grateful to have it and that's it. You don't You know go beyond that Okay, so that is the last disease of the heart that we're going to talk about today And then we will have our next session on Thursday. So let's go ahead and go to questions Inshallah, I want to hear from you guys. Who has some questions some comments Who wants to know more about These diseases of the heart as we've been talking about Let me look up here Someone said, okay, there was a celebrity at the Grammys who dressed that way Um, yeah, they had a long dress. Oh, I see it all the time with celebrities A lot of them will have their Their dresses just trail and behind What if you're holding the trail? Well, if that's your job, you know what? You're just doing your job. You're getting paid. Some people need work You know, you don't want to tell that person that they're a bad person Um, a lot of these people like I said, it's just their job. They have no choice. They have to do it but So lala's asking is a wedding dress with train okay as long as you're not doing it in vain Well, I think again because it's a culturally accepted tradition I don't have a clear like fatwa or anything that says yes wedding dresses are okay But we can take the meaning from this hadith that says it's really about the intention because sometimes You might um, you know have a garment that just is made a little longer than maybe you would have liked But you needed to wear it at a wedding or some event Can we say right away that that person is arrogant and and or prideful? No, it's about the intention, but it's preferred to try to avoid any type of display That could maybe make people think that about you, you know that you are that way So if it's avoidable you can avoid it, but I can't you know, I don't uh have Clear answer as far as our certain dresses okay because they're culturally accepted It's more just to say that the intention is what we're looking at inshallah Okay Someone is asking you only talked about hating on people. So are you allowed to still hate on things? So I think this was referring to the sue event So it's a good question. Uh, I mean, I think it really depends on the situation To have negative thoughts in general to be a negative person is really not a good quality You're likely not going to have a lot of friends if you're always they call them right the debbie downer for example Which is like a term that's referred to someone who's always down Who's always like just negative energy right negative Nancy? I don't know why they're always women names We need to come up negative ned. There is actually negative ned. So it's not always women But the names are just like like they're just names that describe people that sometimes have way too much negative energy So you should not Make it okay to say. Oh, I'm not gonna have sue event on People but sure on everything else. I'm just gonna walk around being negative. No Try to have a positive view of things right try to be balanced and if something Is is you know bad sure you can think badly of it because it is bad, right? You don't have to think positive about you know a swamp or a sewer You know that's gross. It's dirty. So you can be like to something like that But uh, you know when it's just things in creation or objects, you don't need to walk around with a negative attitude Okay Let's see. We have a lot of other questions here. Can you wear expensive clothes? We did talk about this in previous sessions. There's nothing wrong with wearing nice clothing, but it's really a matter of How much right like if if you are insisting on only wearing a certain brand or a certain Type of clothing and you refuse to wear like normal clothing or that other everybody else wears Then there might be you know something you want to look at there But if you like to have some nice things and you're looking at quality because sometimes more expensive things are made really well They're tailored and they're made like with Better stitching and you know better fabric Um, and you like to keep there's nothing wrong with that at all as long as again You recognize that these are gifts from a lot and you're not extravagant extravagance is like where you're doing it too much It's not balanced. It's and and it's likely again because you think of yourself Maybe as better and so there's other problems there that you want to look at if that if if it leads to behavior Where you know you just want to go and like I said You are exclusively only wanting to wear a certain type of clothing and there are people like that That are very kind of snobby when it comes to these things so that we want to avoid that, right? um So oh good question Can you compare for example with your friend that you have a better voice in quran? Would that be a good competition or bad? That's a good question, you know If you're both like studying to be Reciters or you're both in a quran class and the teacher is Helping you both on your skills to become better reciters and no more quran There's nothing wrong as long as it's a healthy competition But you shouldn't you should want your friend to also succeed, right? So this is where want for your brother what you want for yourself really matters because just you know Being in a competition with someone that you That your friends with is is fine as long as the spirit of the competition Is uh full of love and it's not You know something where it's like I don't want you to succeed because I want to win That's you know not good like they call it sportsmanship sportsmanship is to say May the best person win and really truly mean it So if you're in a competition with your friend and you're both working really hard You succeed he succeeds you should want him to succeed for her if it's a girl and you should keep Going until the judge or whoever it is your teacher decides who the winner is and be happy for them but If it's like you're competing to the point where you really don't want them to win because you have to be on top of it And that makes you feel better. That's definitely a problem You know, so that's not a form of healthy competition Healthy competition is wanting good for everybody And celebrating like just the excitement of the competition, you know Like oh, we just we got to compete with each other It was fun and then letting you go because at the end of the day, especially with quran There's nobody who loses, you know if you You're a winner in in every case if you won the competition of recitation according to the judges or not You're a winner with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala because for you to spend your days Practicing and trying to become better at the book of Allah already you've won You've won more than you could even imagine So just don't make it a big deal like oh, I have to win this Title or this award or this thing. No when Allah sees especially if you're a youth And you are so connected to his book. You're already a winner, right? So Okay, we have a few more minutes left I'm scrolling to see these questions making sure I don't miss because I always Hear it. Well, at least for my kids. Mommy. You didn't answer my question Is hating on cigarettes bad? Sure. That's a great question actually because When we hate something hate is a very strong word first of all, right? But when we hate something it should always be Tied with whatever displeases Allah So you can hate things that you know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the prophets that I'm didn't like or they hate it, right? So sure any type of a intoxicant or drug or, you know, like alcohol Things that are harmful Sure, you can hate them because they they there's no benefit. It brings harm to the world. It brings harm to people, right? So that's perfectly fine. That's a good question. Thank you for asking Um, Let's see Thank you, sweetheart. Uh, raheel john. Thank you so much for your very sweet comment. They have to leave I appreciate your um, you're taking the time to thank me and your very, uh, kind message Salam aleykum to you and your brother. Let's see. Um, I have another question So I have a question that says what if someone was wearing really nice shoes And then his friend was wearing like ripped shoes, right? So the shoe that his friend is wearing is not in a good condition And the guy with the nice shoes says mine are newer and better, right? Is this permissible? Well, you guys, I hope you know the answer if you're going to make someone else feel bad because they're Clothing or what they have is not as nice as you and you want to show off And say mine are better and nicer. That is not Good at all to do because as we just said A loss pat that it may have blessed you with nicer shoes But your character isn't very good, right? If you do something like that, that's not having good character Good adab is not ever making someone feel bad or looking down on them and mocking their things And making them feel like they are less than you that's bad adab So even if your shoes are good the bigger issue is that you have bad character and that means that you're Probably not in good state with Allah So you should ask Allah to remove that from your heart that I don't want to ever make someone feel bad Because of the way they're dressed and then comparing with my stuff because I have nicer things No, that's not Humble you should have humility and as we've been saying know that whatever good Allah has given you He can always take it back So and the quickest way for that to happen is to show arrogance, right? If you show arrogance you the blessings will be removed from you and the opposite is true If you show gratitude and humility And you're kind to other people and you do good deeds Allah will increase you in your blessings So it's up to you. What do you want? You want to risk losing all the nice things you have or you want to keep them, right? So inshallah, you shouldn't do that Um, oh, thank you so much. Mashallah sister Shaisa for your very nice comment. Um Oh mashallah Okay, I think so I'm trying to jog my memory I think so. I need to know how old you are because this is a youth class So I'm not sure if I'm talking to a youth or an adult, but thank you sister Shaisa for your lovely comment I hope to meet you again Um, what are your okay? So I have another question What if you're trying not to make them feel bad or the person says something mean back, you know If someone is being like petty and they're mocking you don't go down to their level You know be above it. Just look at them and say I'm not going to do that because you're you know, you're wrong And Allah is not happy with you if I say the same thing back to you or I give you a comeback Then I'm the same as you because you said something rude and not nice And now if I'm trying to defend myself and do the same thing How is that any better, right? So when you have people that are mean and rude, it's just better to just let it go Um, and not to make it make give them the importance, right? Because if you sit there and you go back and forth and back and forth You're telling them that I'm going to give you my time But your time is very important and you should say nope I'm not going to waste my time on that And that sounds actually a much stronger message to that person because they want you, you know Sometimes people are incite you they want to make you angry. They want to make you mad So if you're like, uh, I don't I'm not doing that I got better things to do than waste my time on on that It'll upset them even more because they're like, oh, I really wanted them to To get a reaction out of you. So that's actually a more powerful position to just say Nope, not having it and to walk away instead of Giving in fighting arguing back and forth and then everybody's kind of like, okay This is pointless and either or that or it could turn into something heated and you end up Causing a bigger problem, right? So why do that? Just walk away. You're in a position of power and control And the other person's just left there by themselves with nobody to complain to So you win Okay, masha'Allah so um So I get another question. This will be the last question Then we'll end it if someone has nice shoes and another person has a nice shirt Is it okay to tease each other? So whenever you're competing and it's all out of love Um, you know, it's all good if it's if it's out of love and there's a spirit of Um, of you know, just happiness and and teasing in a gentle way There's nothing wrong with that But it's when it starts to get really mean And you're looking down on people and you're letting that into your heart. That's when when it's a problem. Okay All right. Alhamdulillah. So thank you everybody for being here. Just like more Insha'Allah, we will see you on thursday. Okay, so come back for Our what is it fifth class? No sixth class is on thursday. All right Insha'Allah, we'll go ahead and then thank you. Just like a lot. Thank you. Amen And please say salams to your family as well all of you Thank you guys. Insha'Allah, we'll see you thursday. We'll end in Dua Is it All right, just like we're in Salam. All right, everybody Take care of that. Okay. Alhamdulillah. Bismillah Thank you everybody for your patience I am sorry for being a little late today I actually was recording another class that went over A few minutes and so I um quickly messaged Sister Hormero. She messaged me actually and I let her know that I'll be a little late So I appreciate your patience. Um, I want to get started with as we have been doing a little bit of a review So let's talk about Some of the diseases that we covered last week. Insha'Allah, okay So, uh, let me actually open up the chat box. Make sure you guys are all listening and paying attention. Insha'Allah, okay Uh, oh, you guys are so sweet with your comments. Thank you. So the first disease. I'm going to ask you about, okay This is when you um When you think things that aren't necessarily true And one of the hadith that we're taught about this is that the Tongue will wake up every morning and tell the body to fear Allah Uh, what disease of the heart did we learn that talks about negative thoughts and you know, this Ability of the tongue to take you into that. Um direction Okay, there we go. Mashallah So we got afnan and bilal very good Both of you afnan and bilal message pretty much the same time with the correct answer So negative thoughts, I kind of gave it away in my um, I subtly put that in there to see if you guys are paying attention But you answered before that anyway So negative thoughts is the disease of the heart and this is called Su al dan or su al dan, okay So when you have basically, there's no evidence. There's no proof whatsoever You just have a bad idea of someone, right? So that is called su al dan And okay, so great. I'm glad you guys are on it now. Um This disease of the heart Has to do with let's see. I'm going to try to keep it a little Not so predictable because I see some of you think you're already putting in answers before I ask So that tells me you think I'm too predictable, which I probably have been Um, but okay, so let me see here Um for this, okay, let's see this now. I'm going to get you This when we talked about this hadith we related a hadith or a saying I should say a quote by imam ali Uh, radi allah an and he said that people are asleep and when they die they wake up Which disease of the heart related to that? To that quote Awesome, masha'Allah zoia and dania. You guys got it right away. Great job false hopes So thinking that you're going to live forever, right? That's the problem with It's a disease of the heart if you think that you're going to live forever It makes you careless and heedless, which we're going to talk about today In this world and it's kind of like you're walking around asleep You're not really Awake to the world, right? You're you're in a dreamlike state because you're not paying attention to what's really going on in front of you So very good. Awesome. You guys Okay, uh now this disease of the heart Had to do with suspicion And not being suspicious of people right having thoughts about people for no Reason right just thinking uh or wanting to Look into prying right prying behavior being suspicious. You're trying to find out information about people with really no reason Um, so let's see who got this very good. So raheel excellent negative thoughts. I went back to the same one I'm not going to be predictable you guys Okay, good job. You got it. So you might get a question uh or multiple questions on the same disease, okay So this disease of the heart has to do The prophesies that I'm taught us that it's very much related to kibir. Okay So this disease is related to kibir and which we'll talk about soon, but um The prophesies him taught us that no one has the weight of a seed of of this particular quality in their heart will enter a paradise What is it? Okay, very good. So amen. Uh, and if man, you gave us the english, which is vanity very good Um, and bilal also gave us the english, but uh, la la haydara. She came with both answers So great job vanity and a job. Okay, so anytime you're vain right being vain is is Being consumed with self adoration adoration is like you admire yourself. You adore yourself. You love yourself That's vanity. And so it's really about the individual and themself and you're not Giving Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala any credit for anything. You're just oh, I love myself. I'm so smart. I'm so talented I'm such a good basketball player. I'm such a good tennis player or I can play the piano or I dress so nicely I have such nice hair. So you're just constantly very focused on all of your qualities, but you don't Give credit to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. So that is a job And then kibir, which is what the arabic word for one of the diseases of the heart, which we're going to talk about next week is arrogance, right and arrogance is Is requires so it's different in that it requires other people So a vain person is just very consumed with their own feelings of importance But an arrogant person is not only vain, but they also Look down on other people. So that's the way that you tell the difference that Vanity doesn't require people arrogance does But they both can sometimes affect each other or one can certainly lead to it the other if you are vain and you keep You know increasing in arjab, you're likely going to develop arrogance, right? Where you start to look down on people and so that's why we talked about that hadith very good Okay, and so another question and this will be the last one and then we'll continue Let's see here This one Maybe a good one One that is not so predictable Hmm. Okay. So the prophecy I said when we talked about a hadith here where where He taught us that he who believes in Allah and the last day Must either speak good or remain silent Which disease of the heart was that about which disease of the heart did we cover when we talked about that? anybody know Very good. Okay. Awesome. So Ahsan came with the answer so as the negative thoughts. Yes to Have negative thoughts remember the danger of it is that it often leads to false speech or wrong speech and so That's why we related this hadith is because usually you can't keep negative thoughts to yourself So it actually is is dangerous in and of itself as a disease But it also leads to other diseases like gossiping and backbiting and speaking ill of people So that's why this hadith is remind it's a reminder for us that whoever believes in Allah on the last day If you're a muslim Just speak good. Don't speak ill of people so it stops the negative thoughts from from leading into even worse Okay, very good. All right. So let's go ahead And pull up the presentation One second. I just needed to do something. All right. So get your if you have notes So if you're taking notes, I don't know if you are but this is the time to get it because we have a new presentation And let me get that ready Let's do that. So we are on week third three thursday And here we go screen share boom share And present Okay, here we go All right. So you guys ready So today as we talked about last on tuesday, I told you guys we're going to cover these diseases this week So we already covered the first three false hope negative thoughts and vanity and now we are going to cover the next three Anger hudab heedlessness rafla. So we got the g's today. Okay today is the day of the g diseases Okay for arabic. Anyway, or rein not g. I should say rein So rein diseases, okay, and we'll talk about what each of these are. Let's go ahead and get started So the first one fraud rish This is a huge one. Okay huge because a lot of people Uh when they, you know, uh, think about You know making money or just getting ahead in life They shaytan will come into their hearts and tell them, you know to do things that are not right just because The greed or the desire for that thing just overtakes their heart And this is the problem with fraud is that it leads people to do things that are haram for example If you're let's say you're selling something, right? And some of you may know for example There's a website called craigslist. Okay, and now we have a lot more websites But this is just a popular website. Okay that a lot of adults Use to sell things that they don't want so they may sell like junk, you know But it's the way that they take the picture or describe that thing. Let's say it's a piece of furniture Okay, let's say it's a couch And um, a person will take the nicest picture filters, you know, make it look super amazing And they'll take the front of that couch and it looks like a decent couch And they set the price and now you have all these people going. Oh, that sounds nice. Okay. I'm interested and um And someone may even come and say I'm going to pick it up And then that person if they're if they have a rich what they'll do is they'll do a few things Okay, first of all, they're hiding the problems in the couch, which may be the back of the couch Maybe there's marks that they've painted over With with paint or there's gashes, you know, sometimes couches if they're leather or fabric They can have you can, you know, things can happen and they get cuts So this person may have completely hidden all of those things And what they'll do is if they're really crafty, they'll say, you know what? Pick up time you can only come at night time. Okay come at like after The sunset and the the buyer has no idea why right the buyer is like, okay If that's the only time that works for you, that's fine So they go and they go and at night time they're dragging this big couch from the garage or wherever onto the car So they're not even able to properly inspect the couch, right? This happens a lot And then they they make the money transfer they give the cash and now they go home and they Go on their couch and they're thinking it's gonna look just like that picture, right? It had it looked really nice and comfortable But they suddenly sink in the couch and all of a sudden the cushions collapse, right? The cushions go down and there's all these, you know, maybe noises And then they're what what's up with this couch? It's not even comfortable And then they go around the back or they turn it flip it upside down and all of a sudden There's all these holes and problems and maybe even you know cobwebs got nose It might be just like I said a piece of junk that this person took so much time To present as something that it wasn't so I just you know, that's a piece of furniture But people can do this to a lot of things like a car Or even a house. There's people who Scam right this word scam you should know to be scammed is to trick someone to Have someone sell you something that is not Real or not true or not as good as they're making it seem So there's a lot of scammers that will scam people out of big purchase things, right? Cars homes jewelry So you'll go to the jeweler and it'll this has actually happened before which is very you have to be very careful If you if you ever get jewelry or like, you know, especially gemstones or certain stones To be careful who you take that jewelry to to clean it if it's a real diamond, for example There are some jewelers who are known to do this. They will Take your ring and go. Oh, I'll clean it but my tools are in the back Right and you're just standing around waiting for them to bring you your diamond all polished and nice and shiny But their themes they know exactly how to remove that diamond really well And then they'll go in the back and they'll replace it with like a totally different false, you know stone Cubic zirconium, there's all these different stones that can be mistaken for A real diamond and if you don't have a jeweler's eye or a tool I forgot what they're called to actually look at the diamond You would have no idea That that was not your diamond because it looks just the same and it fits perfectly into the ring or the necklace or whatever it was earrings So There are people who do things like that. They trick they scam they steal And they justify it because they're greedy and they have Desires for material things that take over them. So you have to be very careful and that's why You know, Allah swt warns people woe to those who give less than what to do So this is a perfect example of someone who has gish So if you go and uh, you know in in many world markets and even in some markets here, like if you've been to sprouts, right? Um, they have those scales that you can go and weigh Your uh, like if you want to get certain treats or even beans and rice you can weigh the the item, right? And then you uh, you um, you go and purchase it Well in other places they have scales and have similar things But they might not give you the full weight Of what you paid for or they'll might take some off or they might not give you the best quality of what you want And they justify this because it's like, oh, I don't want my you know, uh food to go bad I have to sell it so it's old Let's say it's like meat or it's something that's been sitting out for a couple of days They will mix stuff, uh good stuff bad stuff with the good stuff And you don't know until you get home and then you take out let's say it's like a bag of fruits, right? And you take it out and you're like, what? There why are all these rotten fruits in here? How did this happen? Well that seller they tricked you, right? So this is a perfect example of gish, but alas pandan has warning Never to do that. There's no justification to trick people. It's haram. You cannot do that and so There's actually a very famous hadith Where the provisionalism was once passing by a pile of food And he put his hand into it and his fingers touched something. So he was in a market, you know And he he saw some food and he he put his hands into it and he Asked the person he said what is this and the man said it got rained on because he the provisionalism touched Um the wet part right and so when he touched the wet part He was wondering why the seller, you know, why it was there in the first place What was this wet thing and the seller said oh well rain got on it And he said why didn't you put that wet part on top of the pile so that the people could see it? Right because if you see food that is dry from the top But then the middle of it is spoiled or wet You probably would not want to get the middle of it But if you're just scooping it up quickly and you're not paying attention It looks like all of it is dry, right? So he's telling the man Why didn't you do that? And then he tells him very clearly a warning He who deceives does not belong to me And then another report is he who deceives is not one of us Or he is not one of us who deceives all of them are saying the same thing Which is if you trick people to deceive people is to lie to trick people You are not counted as part of the umma of the provost. I said i'm he's telling you you're not in my umma You're not part of me. You're not part of my this belief this faith of islam Clear warning we as muslims do not trick people. It's haram. Okay Such an important disease of the heart and we should ask a lot to free us from it because shaytan can Make someone justify this especially if they're desperate for money You really need something you might think oh, man, it's okay They don't need to know that you know this phone Let's say you you're trying to sell your phone or your computer That it has all these problems and that there's a virus on it and that you know, it's missing a button I'm just going to sell it. Anyway, you know, don't do that. You can never do that You have to tell people everything that's wrong with the item Upfront and if they still want to buy it, that's on them But you trying to deceive them into buying it is totally forbidden. Okay All right So the treatment for a gish is to realize that a las panter is all knowing and all seeing and every single thing that we do We're going to be held accountable for and nothing that you get no money No food from fraud is worth it. It actually is haram. It's it's it's going to cause you harm Okay, anything that you get that's That you get from a haram source or because you did something haram There's no baraka in it and it can actually cause problems for you You could if you bought food with that money that you just Cheated someone out of it can make you sick. Um, there's so many problems that could come from that money or whatever you got From this transaction. So that's why there's no baraka in it whatsoever And there's no point to do it. You actually could invite harm on yourself Even if you think oh I'm going to make so much money and i'll do good with it part of it No, the fact that you got it to by tricking another person All of it is ruined. Okay, so you don't want to uh ever justify that kind of stuff and then also remember That the words of the promise license that you know to for him to say that you're not from among us or from me Is such a clear warning all the black that we would not even be considered a muslim If we do something like this. So you want to say is it ever worth it? You know, even if i'm going to make some quick money and I really want to get something else Um, or and or I think that oh, it's okay. There this person doesn't need to know everything These are all the whisperings of shaytan. He wants you to do something wrong And then he wants you to be uh, you know hurt by that thing So we have to ask us to respond that for protection, but that's the first disease. It's rich. Okay All right. So the next disease This is a big one. Okay. Radha anger We all know what anger is Even young children can get angry, right anger is a human emotion And it's something that can be easily triggered based on a lot of things sometimes we get Uh hangry for example if you're fasting in the month of ramadan And you've ever just gotten annoyed or short tempered Because of for really no reason it's likely because you're hangry you're hungry and you're angry at the same time So anger can come from that or it can come from Someone uh provoking you to provoke someone is to you know, push their buttons to get them annoyed to be a pest And you're just trying to make them angry, right? So there's a lot of things that can make us angry But when we when anger is a problem It's when it's for other than the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala because there's good anger which is necessary, right? There's anger when someone is doing something wrong and it's a clear, uh, you know Wrong action and an injustice towards a person or a group of people You we should that should anger us for the sake of Allah We should not look at that as something light and then that makes us Call I mean it makes us act, right? So when you see someone let's say being bullied in front of you and you know that it's wrong If your response is anger for the sake of Allah then you go in there and you try to stop the injustice, right? So that's a form of healthy anger Anytime or or anger towards things that are or haram, right? Like for example The existence of certain things in the world should anger us like alcohol Alcohol there's no benefit to it whatsoever. It destroys lives Um, so many people innocent people have died from alcohol So the fact that alcohol exists and that people drink it and that it's in restaurants and it's in stores That should anger us when we walk down the aisle of A grocery store and we see bottles and bottles of disgusting alcohol It should fill our hearts with anger for the sake of Allah You know not anger where you're just letting your emotions out, but just like stop for a while. Why are people doing this? This is so bad for you and it ruins you know People's lives so anger Is is something again that when it's for the sake of Allah, it's healthy But if it's for other things that are not tied to the sake of Allah and it gets out of control And then you start to not just be Experience anger, but you become Anger that that's all you are you lose your your your sense of Calm you don't know how to you don't have adab you start to maybe say very hurtful things Abusive things or you start to get physical, right? There's people who when they get really angry They lose so much control that they may physically React and that could be Hitting something or someone pushing something throwing something breaking something So all of those are examples of when anger is out of control And it can be very dangerous, right? And so Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the prophet sallam throughout the Quran and the hadith We have warnings about those who are quick to anger and that let forget themselves and that they Completely get overtaken by anger. So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala describes He says those who spend in the cause of Allah During ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon people who forgive people And Allah loves the doers of good. So he's describing for us Who the doers of good are the people who do good are the ones who restrain their anger Who forgive people and who? spend You know for the sake of Allah whether they have ease or hardship So these are all great qualities that people should have Especially restraining your anger another Two hadith that are really important to know a man once can't ask the prophet sallam What was the worst thing that one incurs concerning God? What that means is, you know, what is the worst thing that could happen to someone To make Allah upset, right? And the and the or what could what's the worst thing that someone could receive from Allah? And the prophet sallam said his wrath and his wrath You know, of course is is his chastisement his punishment, right? So the man asked how can we avoid it? I don't want ever to see the wrath of Allah I don't want to ever be punished by Allah and he said do not become angry So he's telling us that if you don't want to see Allah's anger and wrath Do not become angry As as you know people where you're just walking around always mad and you're Pushing people and hurting people and just being cruel because that's what angry people do they start to just be very careless and Just hurt people, right? So He's telling us clearly don't become angry Then we have another man. He came and asked the prophet sallam give me advice And so he's asking the prophet like he in remember the prophet sallam could say anything anything to this man The man just said give me advice But the first thing the prophet sallam said is do not become angry. So the man's like, okay And he um, you know, he hears it and then he says um Well, what's next, right? Because he's kind of like, okay. I got that don't be angry So he asks again and the prophet sallam replies again Do not become angry and then he asks a third time and again The prophet sallam says do not be become angry So this is huge because the prophet sallam is really trying to get a message across That if you want good advice The best advice This is the advice to live by do not become Anger such that all people see is your rage and you lose control Because that control that you lose can lead to a lot of harm People have died because someone's lost their control You know, this happens all the time in this world where someone lost their control Their anger got the best of them and then they uh, they killed right because of that And so there's so many stories throughout, uh, you know, the sierra of that happening as well And even the the story of the sons of adam, you know, habil and qabil if you study the story of the sons of adam that you know Qabil is the one who killed his brother out of anger and jealousy. So This is very powerful Reminders for us that human nature if we don't control these emotions a lot of damage can be done, right? So you always want to think about Not losing yourself to anger. There's nothing wrong with Having anger as an emotion because it's a human emotion But it should always be for the sake of allah inshallah, okay So let's look more at this because this is certainly not over one of the um scholars or scholars have uh said that That anger is similar to a hunting dog. Okay, so if you look at this picture here Here's a man and he has I believe it's a hawk. Maybe it's a bird of prey I don't know exactly what maybe it's a I don't know my sons might know But it's a hawk or a sunbird and then you have these three dogs and if you see What is the man doing? He is holding Them all by a leash. He is restraining Those dogs those dogs move by his command When he tells them to go they go when he releases the leash They they they go and when he tells them to come back They come back. That's the relationship that a man a hunter has with his dogs or his animals that Hunt before him. They're trained. They know exactly when to act and when to stop back right step back So anger the scholar said is like having a hunting dog, right without training And if you have a dog that can hunt, but there's no training It's never going to go and get what you needed to get And it's not going to point you in the right direction So it's of no benefit to you the dog that is trained will benefit you when you hunt And you let's say, you know, you're um, there are people who hunt for food You know, they don't have grocery stores like we do. They actually have to go outside And you know bow and arrow or gun or whatever they're using they hunt for their food and what they do is They rely on animals to go and Capture the food right these sharp They have sharp eyes right these birds of prey The falcon the hawk whatever it is it will be able to the eagle it will be able to You know, basically fly around the the area of where that animal was was hunted So if a man, you know uses his bow and arrow or a gun and he shoots down an animal From a far distance this hawk or this bird will be able to Let the dogs know where to go, right? So they all work in this amazing, uh, you know, sort of Synchronicity together But the dog is important because he's the one or she's the one if it's a female dog That is going to go and get the animal that you just hunted And then bring it back to the hunter, but if that dog isn't trained it will have no idea what to do It's going to go running around all over the place and playing a game of fetch and you're standing there going That's my dinner. Can you please go get the animal? I just hunted if you're really this is your lifestyle, right? So you need a trained animal. So anger in a similar way It's only useful if you have control over it and you've trained it It's actually harmful and doesn't benefit you if you don't train it So so important. What a great analogy that our scholars gave us So inshallah think about this next time you get angry Is your uh hunting dog out of control? And is it benefiting you at all if it's uh, if you can't call it back because if you can control your anger Similarly, like blowing a whistle or maybe calling the name of your animal It will come back to you But if you have no control and that animal doesn't answer to your call Then that's what anger can become if it's not checked. Okay, so really important disease of the heart to understand Now there's a few different cures, okay, or ways to uh to treat this So first and foremost imam al-molud. He talks about this in the book, but um, also other scholars have talked about this Is to remember that extensive praise and goodness associated. Um, oh wait Did I cut and paste the wrong thing? Hold on. Uh, oh, sorry Oh, yeah, i'm sorry. No, no. I read it totally wrong. I apologize. Okay So the first cure is to remember that there's a lot of praise associated with being a forbearing person and having humility to be forbearing is to be patient that you're able to You know not give into those emotions and just have a really stable presence So we know that there's so much praise for that. So remember it's really good to have those qualities and then um See the ahmed zaruk, which is another very famous scholar said that the main reason that people get angry is because they're filled with themselves Their egos get in the way So our egos are nuffs when it is a very, um, you know, too strong It gets in our way, right? So we have to just kind of let go not allow that Every word someone says to us or everything that they do that may bother us that it pushes our buttons and that it makes us Uh trigger it right that we suddenly feel all these this anger towards them because um people are That's just life, you know, this world is uh full of a lot of people We have eight billion people and some people you're gonna get along with And some people you're not um going to get along with right And so some people are going to make you happy some people are going to make you mad and angry But you have to be in control of your emotions and not Just you know go this way or that way you have to say no unless it's for the sake of a lot I'm not going to just let people constantly make me angry. I need to use my own brain, right? So very important. Now the next cure that imam al-malud recommends Is is recognizing that nothing takes place without Allah's permission There's no power or might except with Allah So remember that and to also remember right so that everything what that means is that everything that happens is Because Allah allowed it to happen And so if you're being tested in a moment where someone or something is upsetting you It's an opportunity for you to be the best Form of yourself, right? And so look at it as a test from Allah Instead of focusing on the individual or the person who's bothering you look at it Like why did Allah put me in the situation in the first place? What am I supposed to learn from this lesson and then you act right? And so and he also shared that remember that There whatever we do in this world Allah will also do that to us So this is called reciprocity if we are people that are walking around angry And not nice to people and you know have that Allah will show us the same He will show us his anger. So we have to be very careful We don't ever ever ever ever want to see the anger of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So we should not be as the prophet warned us in the hadith before We should not be people who are angry and who are so that we don't get Allah's wrath, right? So these are just some of the things to think about there's a few other things that we can do So we're taught the prophet's lesson and taught us that when we are angry, of course, there are certain things that We can do in the moment, right? And in the moment we should learn how to respond So the prophet's lesson taught us that if we're you know angry and we're standing up, we should sit down Okay, so sit down immediately because Just by changing your position can sometimes change your mood, right? You can be a little bit more relaxed Plus if you think about it when someone's angry And they're standing up it makes them feel very powerful because you're big you're puffing yourself up And sometimes you're you know standing a little taller and looking a little bit more aggressive, you know when you're when you're Say talking to the other person who's upsetting you you might even Go closer to them to look more scary and intimidating Or maybe even if you lose your control completely you'll you'll want to push them or do something you harm them, right? All of that can come because just because you're standing up and you're feeling like that, right? So when you change your position and you sit down it can calm your state now if you're sitting and you're angry Then you go into a lying down position It's really awkward to be super angry if you're lying down, okay, and I don't uh want you to um to to do that Like intentionally, but maybe it just for practice just to try to see how it feels when you're lying down To pretend even to be upset with someone it feels awkward because lying down is such a relaxed position, right? So That's what we should do and then we should seek refuge in Allah, right? We say Al-Babillahim and shaitan al-Rajim We try to stay quiet and then we're told to make will do A will do is very powerful because it has a cooling effect anger is It gets us hot, right? It's our blood pressure actually goes up our temperature goes up when we're angry because the heart is beating faster So there's a lot of physical things that are happening So once you go and you make will do that cooling effect of the water Just calms you down and suddenly you're able to maybe Think better about what you said and you know you kind of just have a better response or maybe you're calmer So make will do and then ultimately the best thing to do is to pray you ask Allah's Pantalla for guidance for control For forgiveness because if you've said things that you didn't mean or regret You need to go and ask for forgiveness from Allah first and then from the person or the people So all of these are ways that we can be in the habit of practicing our To get down from that state of anger and also breathing. I didn't write it here, but breathing Is very important, right? When you're in a state of heightened emotion when you're really really angry Just take a deep breath Hold it in Let go that can immediately calm you down just forcing yourself to change Your position and everything you're because otherwise your words are just going to keep coming And like I said the angers might it's like a flame. It just grows more and more So this is the way of calming all that down. Okay So here we say, um Okay Now this is uh, I know a little interesting image I found but I thought it worked perfectly With this hadith Once a man grew angry and the provost lies said him noticed how When the face shows extreme anger it resembles shaytan, right? So he said I have a word if spoken Will remove it from him. It is I seek refuge in god from satan the accursed, which is the english for Aoud the billah him and a shaytan the regime So this picture I thought was perfect because he's a man But look at what's happening to him his face is turning red. Look at the veins in his forehead He has steam coming out of his ears His teeth are looking sharp and quite scary. He's even frothing at the mouth, right? Which is yeah, someone said it looks ridiculous I agree, but this is what some people look like when they're really really angry and You know if you've ever You know been in this state one of the ways to really rethink about your you know your anger response Is if someone were to videotape you if you ever You know are in a situation like that You know it's maybe something your mom or dad can do Where they just videotape you for a little bit and you can see yourself later And you might be shocked like what that's how I talk and that's how I look Yeah, because when you're so angry you're not aware of yourself and that's the problem you lose all control So you can look really weird or like this person And just very very intense But this hadid the prophesier is telling us if we want to Remove the effect of anger Remember where does it come from? It's iblis right iblis is Um is the one who angers us and that's why we seek refuge in Allah from him So someone's asking smoke doesn't come out. Yeah, our smoke doesn't come out We don't have that but we do get hot and sometimes You know sweaty So that's kind of what it's like, you know when you think of smoke from a boiling pot of water, right? It's it's heat. So think of it that way that we have heat that's coming out of us, right? So, um, but very important hadith to remember. Okay, so How do we oh so that those are the treatments? Excuse me. So now we're going to the last Uh one which is a rafla heedlessness. Okay Rafa, this is a very uh crucial one to understand. Okay a lot of this some of the scholars say this is actually one of the root diseases to to uh all of the diseases of the of the heart So rafla is purposely turning away from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Um, and it's it's forgetfulness, but it's it's like, you know, but you're just not You want to do what you want to do and there are people who remember we have will we have free will we have the choice Right to do right or wrong. This is the test of the human being So if you know what is halal and what's haram and you know what's right and what's wrong But you don't follow or obey Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and you want to just do whatever you want to do This is rafla, right? It's completely Giving in to your own desires and turning away from Allah and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala many warnings about About this he says and be not of the raflun, right the heedless ones And then he describes them they are those upon whose hearts Hearing and sight Allah has set a seal and they are heedless So because they turned away from Allah Allah has turned away from them and we never may Allah Protect us all from ever being amongst those who Allah ever turns away from or who we turn away from him, right? So, um Here is another really I think powerful image because it teaches us the difference between those who Remember their lord. They're not forgetting Allah, right? They are remember remembering Allah He says what the prophet said and said that the example of the one who remembers his lord In in comparison to the one who does not remember his lord Is that of a living creature compared to a dead one? So when we look at this image, we see very clearly There is a living vibrant beautiful Life giving because trees give life, right? They give life to all the insects that are living on them They emit oxygen for us to breathe. We give them our carbon dioxide They're benefiting creatures. They're benefiting the earth. They're People find shade under the tree Right all these animals so much good comes from a living Tree, right and that is the believer the believer that remembers their lord so much good comes from them They're beneficial to the world the one who is not remembering Allah is basically like a dead Tree that is in a desert and that really there's no benefit whatsoever from all right. There's no benefit There's no shade. There's no fruits. There's nothing. It's just a dead structure that stands in the middle of a of an arid dry landscape and It actually may even invite The attention of vultures and snakes and other creatures that really are harmful So all of this is to tell us that Which is the when you forget Allah. This is what it does. It makes you like a person Uh, that is just of no benefit You are actually even harmful in many ways right to people and to the creation of Allah So you are uh, you have the choice. What is it going to be? Where would all of us rather be if we could go into this picture on which side would we rather be on right? That's I think very clear So, um, this is I thought was a good visual for us to To understand ghafla Now, um, how do we treat ghafla? Allah swt that it says Warn them that on the day of regret which is the day of judgment when the matter will be concluded on that day Everything's done right? While now they're in a state of ghafla and they do not believe so one of the treatments is to remind people that On the day of judgment, you know, that's it. You're there's nothing you can do at that point So, you know, you need to wake up from your sleepy state and start to Make tauba go back to Allah swt that I asked for his forgiveness And you know start doing what you should be doing and warn people, you know in this world before it's too late in the next and then, um Also remember that our prayers our duas are not answered. Okay, so Here the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a hadith call upon Allah with certainty that he will answer you Know that Allah will not answer the supplication of a heart that is negligent and distracted heedless So the heart of a person who has ghafla Is in this state where even their duas will not be answered um, and so Very important you want to be free from that and so again There are people who will say they're muslim, right? And I just want to explain There are people who will say that they're muslim, but then they do not pray They may, uh, drink alcohol. They may gamble They may do things that are explicitly haram Uh, you know, uh, non, uh, halal foods So these people they know right from wrong They still say they're muslim, but for some reason they do not, um Prevent or they don't do what they're supposed to do They fall into sins and they become forgetful of their obligations to Allah So this is the group of people we're talking about right that they know right from wrong But they still choose to do wrong So we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala from protection from all of these diseases that he protects us from red from Rich from red up and from, uh, from heedless as rafla. Okay, so we always find that I forgive us all But this is the class for today We have one last class on tuesday where we're going to be going over The rest of the diseases and it's going to be a lot So we're going to have to move very quickly next week to cover six diseases instead of three double the amount But some of them do kind of overlap. So with things that we've talked about before So inshallah, we will um, you know, just try to move as quickly as we can But are there any questions? So i'm going to go ahead and stop the presentation And now we'll get to your questions inshallah Let's see any questions What about very good questions? So I love this question. Thank you. Amen. Um for asking I even asked about fixing broken broken things and selling them. There's nothing wrong. We call this refurbished So if you have a refurbished item, that means it was broken. There was something wrong with it It was old But you went and you tried to fix it enhance it make it working again As long as you are clear with the seller that this is not a new product, right? That it is something that you yourself maybe or you had someone to repair it But that it's that it was broken and you've repaired it. That's there's nothing wrong with that The point of rish is that you're trying to hide those things You're actually not being clear with people you're purposefully Hiding the flaws because you're afraid that if they know that it was broken, they won't buy it So you're just not even going to tell them in the first place. That's when it's fraud and that's when it's haram um What was the treatment for fraud? Did we did I not go over that? I don't remember now if I did I miss that one? I hope not. Um, let me see. I thought I went over it But I think we talked about yeah knowing that a lost partner sees all that you do, right? That nothing escapes his knowledge And that there's no benefit in ever taking something that you know consuming Something that was bought or or that you got from fraud that it actually causes you harm Okay, so if you like I said, let's say you made ten thousand dollars selling a car that had Engine you know damage that you didn't tell the buyer You know, maybe it was in a car accident Or there's a you know category of cars that are called salvaged. Okay a salvaged vehicle is a vehicle that was in a car accident Or it was um taken by the government for some reason But it was there's something wrong with the car that it's not it's what we call a clean title It's not You know it has damage or prior history of damage those cars When you sell them if you're the seller you have to let the buyer know Oh, by the way, this car was a salvaged car. I you know, I didn't get it from the from a Car dealership brand new I didn't buy it from one owner with no previous damage This is the history of the car And so um, you have to disclose that information because if you don't and you sell a car because from the exterior The car looks nice And the person is like, oh wow, this looks like a great car for this price I'll get it and then they go home and then a month later All of a sudden they're having engine problems and now they have to spend thousands of more dollars to fix it That is totally haram and it's your fault because maybe had you told them Oh, by the way, this car had damage They would have said, you know what? I don't think I want to buy it because I don't have the money In case it has more problems down the line I need a good reliable car and then they go buy another car. So you have to just be honest Insha'Allah, okay um So we have what if you judge someone but you don't Mean to but you accidentally always do it, but you don't mean to very good I love that you asked that question, um captain because anytime you have a disease in the heart that you don't Uh want to have and you are repulsed by it and you hate that you have it This is a good sign And so Allah will not hold you accountable for thoughts that you're trying your hardest to push away And that you're not happy about so don't worry That's not that doesn't mean that you're a judgeary person or you're a bad person It's when you like to think about badly about people and you like to make judgments and you kind of just You let your mind go off and on and on That's when it's a disease of the heart, okay? But if you're really struggling and you don't like it, but a thought keeps entering your mind Just say all the bit of Isha'Allah and move on don't make it a big deal Don't sit there and beat yourself up over it and go and say i'm a horrible person No, because if you didn't have that thought uh intentionally then it was probably just West wasa from shaytan because you know he likes to whisper and to make us think bad things So don't worry, okay? Oh, no kinza. I'm so sorry to hear that. Um, I hope you and your father and are safe Someone shared that they were in a in an accident and I pray that you guys are all safe um Let's see here If you're really poor, then are you allowed to deceive? No Uh, you cannot deceive people even if you're really poor. There's no theft There's no begging uh people. There's nothing fraud none of it is permissible whether you're poor Or rich it doesn't matter. It's wrong and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the one who provides So if you're in need We're supposed to turn to Allah if you're hungry and poor you turn to Allah and you ask him to provide for you And he will the money will come the food will come There are people all over the world who are homeless who are poor But they still eat every day or maybe every other day But they eat and they still have Something because Allah is the one who provides for them InshaAllah, okay um Let's see Oh, thank you lala very sweet. I look forward to seeing you on tuesday and you're very welcome She thanked me for taking the time to do this. Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking the time to be a part of this You guys are so sweet um Okay, very good. Bilal asked this great question. Thank you. Bilal. You said earlier that ghish leads to haram income How can you purify your haram income? We talked about this um when we talked about? Miserliness and we talked about the importance of giving zakat and sadaqa and realizing that none of that Diminishes your wealth. It doesn't take away from your wealth and it actually purifies your wealth We also talked about it. Um, what other disease remember? We did that washing now. I'm forgetting my stuff But when we did the washing of the clothing um fear of poverty we talked about it when we talked about uh Khuf al taqar we talked about how zakat and sadaqa purifies any haram wealth that you have Okay, yes, if you give sadaqa it will purify your wealth inshallah You know, we shouldn't uh knowingly have Haram income, but if you don't know If maybe some of your income is haram, then that's the way to purify it inshallah okay, um Let's see. I'm just wanting to make sure I get all the questions a lot of comments coming here um Someone asked what if a muslim killed a hundred people is he still a muslim? Okay, well there is a very famous hadith that actually speaks to that um where a man came this was a long time ago and he came to um Uh a christian, you know, and he said I have killed 99 people. I think it was a christian It might well i'm not sure actually don't quote me on that I think he was just a religious leader of his time in that time But he said that he uh, you know had killed 99 people And so then he asked him he said I want to be better. I'm Person, but I want to get better. I want to make toba I want to you know be get close to god. Will your god forgive me and that man said no He was like nope, you know, you're too You've done too much evil. Um, there's no hope for you. Sorry So the man was so overcome by his anger and this is a good story because it relates to anger He was so overcome by his anger again that he ended up killing that man So now he's killed a hundred people eeks, right? This is a pretty awful person, right in terms of what he's done So he's killed a hundred people But he makes he wants to make toba. He's not muslim. He's never You know had good guidance before and he wants to become a better human being so He goes and he finds a muslim, uh, you know, and he asks him he says You know, can I uh, or I want to become a better person? This is what I've done Can I will your god forgive me and that man tells him yes, but you have to leave This place that you're in because the place that you're in is not good It's corrupt and it's part of the reason why you are you've done all the bad things you've done So go to this other place and he told him where to go And he said over there Are really good people and they will make you better. They're believers, right? They're muslims muslim is a believer, right? They're they're people that will Make you better. So just go to those people So he was so happy because he never thought That he could be forgiven for all of the crimes he'd done and here someone gave him hope So he was so excited that he ended up, you know going To that place and on his way Something interesting thing happened. He died. Okay. So he dies Now when someone dies, there's two different angels that come if they're a believer and they're muslim Well, the angel of rahmah comes right and that angel comes to take the soul and then uh, the If it's a non-believer or a bad soul, then the angel of torture comes, you know There's different angels and they each have their own job And so that person because they're not destined for, you know, they they they were a bad person That angel takes them. So when they both come, they're like looking at each other like, huh? What are you doing here? What are you doing here because it's usually one or the other not both Um, and of course, alas pandal is knowing He's witnessing everything and he's he he decides to send jibril alaihi salam to go and give them You know instructions on what to do because they don't know what to do So when jibril alaihi salam comes he they explain to him what happened and then he says he says the order the command is That you have to measure The distance from Where the man was like where the city that he was leaving from To where he was going and whichever place he was closer to where he he's passed away. He's died on the road Whatever place he was closer to the angel will take him So if he's closer to the place the bad place The angel of torture will take him and if he's closer to the good place the angel of mercy will take him so They measured the distance and he Was one hand spanned So a whole distance of the hand closer to the place that he left from So at that point the angel of torture was ready to go take his soul because that's what the command was And then angel jibril said wait And he said i've been commanded to what do what to constrict the earth So that means he brought he squeezed the lands together So that he was now closer to the place he was going And then at that point this is all from Allah right because Allah can forgive anyone He wants to and he saw the sincerity in this man That he wanted to be better and he wanted to be a muslim he wanted to be a believer And so even though he was taken and his soul was taken before he could do all of those things Allah still forgave him and he accepted him as a muslim and the angel of mercy took him So this story is related to us a lot of lessons that we can take from it, right? About anger and the danger of it but also of the mercy of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So to answer that question for the person who asked Allah is the only one who can judge Us according to what we've done and he's the only one who can forgive or not forgive So it's entirely up to him. But that hadith Is specifically about someone who killed a hundred people. So that's why I thought it was important to share it Um, thank you for asking. All right, you guys we have gone over our time and again, I apologize for starting a little late Thank you for being here. Thank you for spending your your afternoon with me We look forward to the to tuesday's last class inshallah And uh, I yeah, there's a lot to cover. So inshallah, we'll start on time We might go a little bit over let your parents know But thank you so much again. Oh, thank you captain Jazakullah. I love having you in this class. May Allah reward all of you and decrease all of you inshallah We will um, thank you. Amen. Thank you so much Again for your for your lovely comments and we need your doors. Remember, it's the last 10 days We need your doors. You guys your doors are very powerful I'll take a child's doors any day any day you give them to me. I'll take them So please Keep me and my family in your duas all of you even though I don't know all of you personally You're still in my duas because uh, you're beautiful children and I love children And I pray that you and your families all of you that Allah's Protect all of you and give you the best of this dunya and the next and that you have a most Remainer of your month inshallah Have a wonderful evening and we'll we'll catch you guys on tuesday Salamu alaikum Salamu alaikum you guys thank you for joining us for the last class. I know we're just talking about how Time zipped by but subhanallah here. We are Seven classes with you guys and I really appreciate those of you who've been in attendance Have been on time coming every week, and I hope you've been benefiting from these classes So just like we'll hit and we always want to accept all of our efforts. There's so much to cover today So i'm going to make this quiz that I normally do with you guys I'm gonna just kind of shorten it a little bit because we have a lot of Of information to go over today. So last Third to thursday, excuse me thursday. We covered three diseases um, this particular disease has to do with not really taking seriously Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala commands So, you know, you just are kind of being carefree Irresponsible with maybe your prayers. You're not you're just not taking things seriously What disease of the heart describes a person who is knows about Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala But isn't taking their faith seriously and then they end up falling into sin Who's got this I got answers, but nope those are not the correct answers you guys um No No, not yet. I don't see a correct answer. Normally you guys are on it where um Where is I don't see nope Hello captain uh Don't cry on the inside So sweet So, yeah, I'm asking about very good. There we go. It's an excellent heedlessness That's the disease of the heart. It's when you become to become heedless is become is to become careless You're just too distracted with life With how exciting things are so you're not doing what you should be doing. Okay, very good. So this next disease this is when you React in a way to something that is imbalanced and it can lead to harm And you know, it's an emotion that we have but you you if you don't have balance Then it can control you. You're not controlling it anymore Okay, very good. So we have an answer From yasin in the english, but what's the arabic yasin? Gotta come with both esan bay. That's what i'm talking about You gave me the english and you gave me the arabic. Good job. So it's a gada a gada been anger So remember to do that. Okay daniel also a good job All right, so then the remaining one I hope you know this is when you're trying to get rid of something or sell something Or you're maybe presenting yourself in the wrong in a way. That's not true Right, so if you're selling something and you're hiding defects You're hiding something that's wrong with it or you are trying to misrepresent yourself What is this disease of the heart called? I'm looking very good. We have raheel excellent Or wait, i'm sorry esan day. Forgive me. I saw I got the names are coming too fast esan once again You've got it. Masha'Allah. This is rich, which is fraud. Okay, great job. Again. I'm sorry to cut this portion Short, it's just that we have so much to cover. So I need to use my time wisely. Okay All right, so let me go ahead and present or pull up the presentation Bismillah, we are at week four I'm going to get the present screen I should be super fast by now at this, huh? All right, here we go So inshallah you guys can all see me and see the presentation So week four we've got six diseases of the heart to cover. Okay more than normal, right? We usually have three so double the amount. That's why we're going to get started. So Bismillah Let's go ahead and look at what we're covering. So we're going to cover a rancor We're going to cover boasting and arrogance. We're going to cover displeasure with blame antipathy toward death Obliviousness or obliviousness to blessings Derision, okay So all of this is going to be explained to you as we go through this Bismillah I'm just gonna again check the chat box. I see messages coming through. All right. Let's go Bismillah number one. Okay. This is extreme anger. So ghadab. We know is anger That's out of control and imbalanced real is the result of unchecked anger that leads to violence So when you are overwhelmed by your anger to the point that you actually cause harm to another person or something This is real and rancor is it's kind of this, um, you know inciting the disease that wants you to do something Beyond just feel something because ghadab is your feeling Whereas will want you to act on that anger. So it's a it's a much worse form of of anger And so here we have Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is telling us in chapter 59 verse 10 Our lord forgive us and our brother and who became who came before us in faith and do not place into our heart's rancor For those who believe our lord, you are kind and compassionate So we should be making dua to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala asking protection From this disease of the heart because it's such a toxic disease, right? And then anis of ematic reporter that the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said To me so he's speaking to anis when he was younger, right? He was anis was about i think 10 years old When he um became came into the service of the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam So he said oh boy if you are if you are able every morning and evening to remove any rancor From your heart towards anyone then do so Oh boy that is my tradition and whoever revives my tradition has loved me and whoever loves me will be with me in paradise So asking you know removing these feelings from your heart is going to bring you closer to the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam So it's such an important thing to do and we should not ever want to have these types of negative feelings Because they're not in line with his way. Okay So that's a real let's look more into this So one of the things about real that we have to understand is found in this quote by alia ben avitalab. He said Do not scold people too often Because verily too much scolding Leads to rancor and hatred Too much is bad manners so And you guys are children or some of you are younger, right? You're youth So you know how it feels when someone pulls you in a harsh way and you know Reprimands you which is you know Stops you from doing what you're doing and scolds you yells at you maybe Calls you something that's not very nice because they're angered by something you've done, right? Um, how does it feel it doesn't feel very good, right when you're scolded in a harsh way and it's all often Like maybe every day there's children. Unfortunately, they're in homes where someone's always yelling at them You know someone's always telling them what they're doing is wrong and this can turn into really difficult or More complex emotions for that child because they're feeling shamed, right? This adult or maybe it's a sibling, you know, it could be other people too But it's a way of an older sibling, right? It's a way of shaming someone in a really harsh way when you scold them, right? They may have done something wrong You know, so it's it might be that they need to be stopped and to be corrected But the way that you correct a person really have to be careful because it can cause more problems So this is what he's saying is that when you scold Someone and I used images that would relate to Some of you because it's a youth class, but even adults scold people all the time, you know, you have Parents who are elderly scolding their, you know, older adult children Spouses are scolding each other Siblings scolding each other into adulthood. So this isn't behavior just for children even employers, you know A boss may scold his employee in front of people, right? A teacher may scold their student So this is just a normal human thing that happens when someone loses their their comportment, right? They're they're just they're being there. They just lose control so This advice is to say when you do it too often, this is what happens It actually leads to rancor and hatred on both people's On both on the part of both people if I am always scolding you, you know, and shayton is loving it Right. He's the one who causes all of these negative emotions between people He might put hatred in my heart towards you Rancor in my heart towards you Because I'm annoyed. I'm annoyed that I'm always having to correct your behavior And so I start having all these resentment feelings, right these negative feelings But the one being scolded like here in this first picture, you know That child you see that finger right in someone's face It feels really bad to have to have someone, you know, shame you You it's very natural that a person who experiences that often Even for someone that they originally love like a parent or a teacher that it turns their heart Against them and it invites this very toxic emotion called real rancor So this is why we don't do that in our tradition. We don't shame people even parents You know have to be reminded not to shame people, right? We have to be very careful and and cover people's faults Take children to the side if you want to correct their behavior, but the shaming is a big problem now the Pictures here, you know, look you see this boy. He's getting upset back at his mom So he's also losing adept which is what the other problem is is that not only does it invite resentment and rancor But you also start to lose adept with with people because you are constantly being picked on and that makes you just Highly, you know reactive to other people. So you end up, you know, just losing your adept And so and like I said, all these pictures show the effects of what happens when you school too much Really important for children to understand this but also parents if they're tuning in To understand this as well all of us educators adults have to be really careful When we're interacting with people that we don't do this because it's it's never there's no benefit in it whatsoever Okay, so let's go to the next slide So if we see here the prophesies said him now the opposite right his total opposite message subhanAllah He says you must be gentle Verily gentleness is not in anything except that it beautifies it And is not removed from anything except that it disgraces it So we have to be gentle in pretty much everything that we try to do right? And so here you have images of a different type of teaching moment, you know Where the mothers are trying to you know relate to their daughters You know what you did was, you know, you shouldn't have done it and of course, you know, I just picked these two images But fathers should do this with their sons brothers should do this with their younger brothers and sisters and and what have you Spouses should do with each other But these are just simple examples of being a little bit more gentle when you're correcting And you can see they're smiling, right? They're actually in a positive state Because they're both understanding that this is you know, a teaching moment and we're going to move past this That's how conflict should be handled. Okay, so How do we remove if you have a real in your heart? Well, one of the advices that imam al-Mudud offers is that you show good will to the person That you have rancor for so if you have real towards someone where you really are just so Angered by them that you're like, oh, if I see them, I'm gonna just punch them or I want to hurt them because that's what real is Remember it's anger that makes you want to hurt someone, right? Sometimes siblings, for example, they feel this way if you are in a family where you are all You're bickering a lot with your brothers and sisters. First of all, that's pretty normal But if it ever enters your heart to want to do something to harm them That's what this is and you have to be very careful from that. Okay Because a lot of things can happen in a heat in the heat of the moment They say in the heat of the moment if your anger gets the best of you like we talked about last time You can cause a lot of harm. You can harm someone permanently God forbid So you want to be very careful with this disease of the heart But a good thing to do is separate, you know, the heart from the heart A good thing to do is separate, you know, initially if you're if it's a fight or an argument And then try to force yourself to do this where when you're in two separate spaces, you know And you know, you're if you're this takes time in practice So don't worry that if it's hard or it almost sounds impossible to do Over time as you mature it will be easier to manage your emotions Where you just start to think about the good of that person Because you know, especially if they're in your family or they're close to you They're as good in them. It's just in that moment over that particular issue All you can see is the bad and you're angered So you can't see it But you want to force yourself to do that because the more you do that the less Likely that you will allow real to enter your heart, you know that you'll realize that's a wrong thought I shouldn't think about harming my, you know, sibling or whoever, you know, I shouldn't think about that That's haram. It's wrong. And so you'll start to push that out of your heart Also, you want to recognize that One that by having good in your heart, you actually Deprive yourself of Allah swt's forgiveness, right? So the brothers I said warned us here or he's relating to us Hadith Qutsi that Allah swt has said about his forgiveness on Mondays and Thursdays, right? Allah swt that forgives People except who forgives everybody except for two people and those are the two people who are fighting two believers who are fighting They don't get Allah's forgiveness So when you have Ranker in your heart in your heart, you're You're not being forgiven. Ya Allah, you know, that's that's the worst state to be in That Allah will not forgive you and he says to the angels when they come to tell Him that these two are fighting. He says Leave them until they set things are right between themselves. Like he's not forgiving them and he's turning from them We never want Allah swt to turn from us and to not forgive us. So this is why it's such a dangerous disease of the heart, okay All right next we have Let's see here The next disease and i'm checking time just to make sure I don't go over So we have Fakhr and kibir and this is boasting and arrogance. Now, you're going to see some similarities with You know what we talked about last time vanity or a job, right? Vanity is a form of arrogance. And so this is the extension of that. So let Let's look here. Um, first, you know, these diseases are the diseases that are associated with iblis. Okay Um iblis remember he had envy, right hasad for adam alaih salam But he was also incredibly arrogant with Allah swt. He actually talked to Allah swt when he, you know, commanded him to Um to make sajda to adam He spoke in a very rude and disrespectful way and which is why he is who he is But he says to Allah, do you see this one whom you have honored above me? Right stuff for Allah. He's challenging Allah. Like how could you? Uh, you know choose this one he's talking about adam alaih salam above me If you delay me and now he says if you delay me until the day of resurrection I will surely destroy His descendants like his children all the children of adam except for a few so iblis is you know Full of arrogance. Astaghfirullah for him to speak to his own creator that way, right? And then he says in another verse in chapter seven verse 12 He says What um, one of those panthera says to him asks him what prevented you from prostrating when i commanded you? And he said what qala ana khayru min i am better than him So this is boasting, right? This is what the definition of boasting is He's arrogant with Allah and then he's boasting like i'm better than him. Why should i why should i bow to him? Right, astaghfirullah. You created me from fire and created him from clay and then astaghfirullah So we don't want ever to have any qualities that are close to iblis ever And alas part that says Allah does not love the arrogant and boasting one So he specifically tells us in the Quran that these two groups of people That he doesn't love them So you never want to be yadda bilah from any group of people that alas part that doesn't love, right? So that's why it's so so dangerous. So let's look you might recognize these pictures, right? boasting and arrogance are paired together because arrogant people Look down on others and make them feel inferior. So You know you're arrogant because you think you're superior to other people And then the boasting is what the words that you say to make them feel that bad, right? You you want them to feel low you want them to have doubt about Themselves so you boast you tell them how much more talented you are than them how much better you are How much smarter how much better looking, you know, oh, I have my hair is nicer my eyes are nicer I'm better at this sport or at this game. I'm better in my studies. I got this grade, you know I'm you know, I did all my work and you just started showing off all these things, but you're doing it for the Intent of making the other person feel bad because you truly think they are lower than you you look down on them Just like again these two images that we have this is the perfect example Of what arrogance does it leads or boasting it leads to this type of behavior, right? All right, so the treatment for boasting and arrogance first we realize that all the good that we have Is from Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la and that we always have to be in a state of gratitude Right and that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la knows Everything we do he's fully aware. So it's a you know, same treatment that we found for for a jib and some of the other You know diseases that we talked about ostentation So Matt all of these where you just start to forget that Allah is the source of all of your blessings And that he can remove them at any time. So you want to remember that Whatever thing you're boasting about or arrogant about they didn't come from you You don't have them because you just were you know have them They were given to you and they can always be taken from you Okay, so that's one of the ways to put that fear in your heart, but this is not acceptable behavior um, also You never want to walk around thinking that yourself yourself anything, right? And this is where you want to check your Self-image is it tied to The way that I dress the way that I look is it tied to these superficial things right about me? Or is it about my character? Like what are the things that I'm so prideful about? But uh, check yourself if you ever you know connect your Self-image to the things that you have because it might put those feelings of Pride and arrogance in your heart. So these are also Very important and this is the same slide we used again for the previous diseases of the heart So you might recognize them So let's go ahead to the next disease. Remember we have six to cover and I want to make sure That we are um on on target here. So Let's see one second Sorry Bismillah Okay, so we have displeasure with blame is carat of them. Okay, and this is Not liking ever to be corrected or criticized even when it's constructive Constructive is what constructive is when you When someone is trying to correct you because not to make you feel bad about yourself or feel down But they're actually trying to help you right so sometimes you might have Your parents or teachers your cousins or siblings someone Correct you right but they do it in a way that is Makes you feel like they're mocking you right that's clearly wrong And and it's okay to feel like well, that's not nice because the believer whenever we should never be humiliated or humiliate ourselves So it's normal to not like When someone seems like they're mocking you while they're correcting you like if they're telling you what's wrong with you Why didn't you know that? Oh gosh, you're so not smart, you know If someone says that to you and then they tell you what the answer is or what you should do better That's totally wrong. You know that person is also now being boastful, right? It's a form of arrogance to do that to show That you are so much smarter and that you're this person that you're correcting doesn't know So we don't do that, right? But if someone is trying to just teach you Something and you yourself don't like it. You just don't you don't like them ever to tell you that what you did was wrong And immediately you have an attitude problem. You might even you know say something back to them like whatever Yeah, oh, yeah, you don't need to tell me or it's none of your business mind your own business This is probably because your your enough is just doesn't like to be corrected And this is uh again, it's one of the diseases of the heart because The believers always want to be better, right? If you're a muslim You want to be the best person that you can be So if your fellow muslim or friend or whoever is trying to help you To become a better person you don't take offense to that you actually look at it like thank you Thank you so much because I want to remember Present my heart My qalbun salim to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and I want to um I don't I want to be free of all of these diseases of the heart. So if you can help me cleanse my heart You're helping me. Thank you. That's how you look at it, right? And so you have to have a very good attitude about that But if you feel embarrassed if someone, you know, if you make a mistake let's say you're in a classroom setting and you get the wrong answer you raised your hand and then You got the wrong answer and then you're you sit with that and you feel bad and you feel like you're annoyed And embarrassed and you kind of want to hide and maybe you never want to go to the class again This is all part of this disease of the heart Okay, it's you're you're having a hard time because your nuffs doesn't like to be wrong And then if you think about what others Think of you you're too worried about their opinion of you them liking you More than you're thinking about the truth or Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala This is also another sign that you have this disease of the heart So you want to be very careful and pay attention to yourself because sometimes, you know these things like I said They're subtle but if you um if as a as a muslim you're always looking for two things truth Right and to please Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala these are the most important things for us So if someone, you know, if you have a problem with that and you'd rather Not be You know have an honest Exchange because you'd rather cover your faults and pretend like they don't exist Because you're too worried about your image then you're not thinking about the right things, right? So really important to distinguish that okay, so Here's the treatment for displeasure with blame. It's to be more concerned about being a witness to the truth Right, that's what we said believers are concerned about what being a witness to the truth even if it's against themselves Right Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us in chapter two verse 143 And thus we have made you a just community, right? He's talking to the muslims that you will be witnesses over The people and the messenger will be a witness over you So to be a witness over the people means that you are a person again. You're just You're you're you're you know, you you speak the truth and you fight for justice for all people But you can't do that if you're not concerned with the truth, you know And that's what a person with who has this disease of the heart. They're not concerned with the truth They're concerned with their image So they don't care about whether or not something is right or wrong. They care about if they look Right and they don't look wrong. You see the difference very important to know And then we should have modesty before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Instead of focusing on being embarrassed in front of people, right? Our priority should be to have modesty before Allah And that's why you know, you want to really think about why do I care what people think of me? But not what Allah thinks of me rather I should hold my head down because If if you know, you do you make a mistake and someone's correcting you Your heart should be more concerned with being modest with Allah instead of embarrassed the people And this is you know from the prophecy said and he told us Two things verily every religion has a character and the character of islam is modesty And then he says directly be modest before Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala as is his right So he actually Needs, you know, this is the right of Allah that we show modesty in front of Allah That we're not worried about people as much because people are in front of you But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the only one who matters His opinion is the only opinion that matters You could spend the rest of your life making all the people in your life happy But if you're doing it in disobedience to Allah You're you're the ultimate loser, you know, even if they give you Mountains of gold and crowns and call you all these amazing names If you got all of that by disobedience to Allah, but you made all these other people happy and rich You know what unfortunately, that's your um, you're you're like I said, you're the ultimate loser There's nobody Worse than that person who's just living to please the people and forgets Allah like that's ghafla beyond ghafla, right? So you have to think of the opposite I need to make Allah happy and this is actually also explained to us There's a hadith that says the person who works on pleasing people And and not pleasing Allah Will the people will never be pleased with them and Allah will not be pleased with them And the one that focuses on pleasing Allah's path that are over the people Allah will be pleased with them and then he will make those people pleased with him So it works to your advantage To put Allah subhan Allah first Because he will be happy with you and then he'll make everybody else happy with you And you'll you'll see the difference. You'll see being you'll be treated with respect People will want to listen to you They'll you know, invite you to things because you're prioritizing Allah But if you're doing it for other people, they're not there's you know, as I say haters There's a lot of haters in the world You could spend so much time doing good for people But they'll always find something to pick on and you know complain about and you'll you'll see it in your life That human beings are not easy to please So why put all of that energy in pleasing them whereas Allah is easy to please And then he has the power to uh change your circumstances so that you find ease in your life It just makes sense, right? So prioritize All right, the next disease of the heart This is called antipathy toward death This is a disease of the heart because it tells us if you have a Problem where death the mention of it, you know that if someone mentions something dying or someone passing away That you can't handle it, right? It gets you to a place of you just um You shut down and you don't want to you run from the conversation You get upset. No, no, it's too depressing. I don't want to talk about I don't talk about Spooks me out freaks me out scary You have to be careful because that means that you likely have too much of an attachment to this dunya And you like this dunya so much But you don't realize that by attaching yourself to this dunya You're causing more distance between you and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala because the way for us To meet Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is to leave this dunya, right? So if you want to meet Allah if you have the desire to meet Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala Then you don't look to death as this horrible terrible thing You understand the death is like a door that you have to go through to get to the other side, right? And so that's how you look at death. It's not like this terrible thing. It's just something has to be done And so here's a hadith that we have Whoever loves to meet Allah Allah loves to meet him and whoever hates to meet Allah Allah hates to meet him It was said oh messenger of Allah Does hating to meet Allah mean hating to meet death? For all of us hate death, right? And then he corrected he said Salaam he said no Rather that is only at the moment of death, right? But if he has given the glad tidings of the mercy and forgiveness of Allah He loves to meet Allah and Allah loves to meet him And if he has given the tidings of the punishment of Allah he hates to meet Allah and Allah hates to meet him So this is important right because It's okay to think of death and be a little spooked out by it But you don't hate it in the sense that you don't You can't see that it's you know leading to that meeting with Allah So to to Dislike the idea of it. It's a normal human thing. Most of us don't you know Want to think about those things just like this sahabi said he said it very honestly Nobody who loves death, right? It's sad. It's a sad thing. You lose someone, right? So Um, that's not the point here. We're not saying you have to love losing people We're talking about is not having this feeling towards death that you Forget that it is as I said a passage to the other side where you meet Allah So you just have to look at it like it is what it is We're all going to pass and that's why Allah tells us in the Quran He says every soul shall taste death, which is just a fact everything dies Flowers die. I got flowers from Mother's Day And we had to throw them away the other day because they died They were gorgeous for you know a week or two And then they started to die and decay and wilt and then the water gets brown and it just kind of spoils Food dies how much food is thrown away every day because it dies Animals die. There's roadkill every day on the roads. We see poor animals dead Flowers of trees, you know, there's so many things that die stars stars die, you know, so um The point is is everything dies and that's just the nature of this dunya Uh, alas that I says in chapter verse excuse me 62 verse 8 The death from which you flee will overtake you Thereafter you will return to the knower of the seen and unseen He will then inform you of all that you had been doing So death is coming for all of us when it happens Allah knows but we don't We don't run from it We just accept it as part of life and we are grateful for every day He's given us and we make the most of every day. He's given us Okay, that's that's how the attitude is about death and then here we look I like this sort of imagery right because we've got to have be honest Look at the phases of life. We all started in this childhood infancy stage and we can become toddlers Little kids and adolescent pre-adolescents and teens then adults, right? It's kind of just moves into these different um, you know Ages and and then look at the end of life, right everything kind of We go into this growth period and then it starts to come back down. We're getting smaller We're shriveling up our bones get shorter people who are tall and their youth suddenly they don't have as much height Because we kind of just start to come down a little bit This is the nature of life and then we return to the graves, right? People come inshallah they make da'a for us because there's a whole, you know Phase that happens between this world and the next life called the barzakh and that's where people who have passed on They're in that realm And inshallah they're in a good state all of our loved ones. They know when we go to visit them This is all in the knowledge of Allah But we have a positive understanding and then we know that again We're all returning back to from where we came from we came from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala And we return to him which is why we say inna lillahi wa inna ilahi raji'un when someone passes away Because it's just the natural Thing that happens, right okay So how do we get over the fear of death, right? Because again, we said that it is Reflexive to have You know To be afraid or to be not, you know, just death makes you uncomfortable But you have to remember that there is comfort in death for the believer, right? We see it as a As leaving this place, right? Because the dunya is a place of discomfort if you're looking at it We have sickness. We have we have pain grief loss There's a lot of hardships that come in this dunya and that's by design So when you look at leaving this place of problems, right of filth like, you know Dirtiness, there's things that are not pleasant even smells Sounds that are not pleasant foods, you know things that taste don't taste pleasant There's a lot of things that are not pleasant in this world When you think about leaving this world and going to the next world where everything is the opposite It's amazing. It's incredible. It's beyond our imagination. It's everlasting nothing dies Everything is clean. It's uh, it's fresh. It's new and it's within minutes and you know Seconds whatever we want in our mind will come before us. So there's just think about that So that's why when we again Think of leaving this place. We don't look at it as a final act We look at it as a transition. We're going to the the next better place, right? It's an upgrade And then here's a quote from a famous Scholar who says she have a habit. He said that in death there are 1000 Reposes, sorry, there's a misspelling there. It's supposed to be reposes No n for the muslim as long as you are in this world There is not a cell in your body that does not experience pain, right inflammation, right? That's a form of pain inside the body and disease Once you are out of this world all of that ends So when we leave this world all of that pain that our bodies go through right where we are We need to stretch and we need to twitch and we need to do this and that and drink And eat this or go get an ice pack because I have pain here. I need a Tylenol I need I need medication. I have a fever all of that that happens to human beings throughout our lives It comes to an end and we finally have repose reposes like rest Okay, and then the prophesies that I'm encouraged the remembrance of death Those who do will be blessed with certain qualities So if you remember death often and not as a sad thing where you sit there and think about oh my god Going in the grave and you freak yourself out. No, we're talking about just that It's a reality and it can happen and we all go back to Allah And you just kind of are aware of it happening that you become more content Which means you are satisfied in life more You have a lack of greed and covetousness. So when you remember death a lot, you don't you're not really Concerned with the dunya. So then you become more generous and you're not as greedy, right? And you have more energy to achieve good deeds Because you are You know motivated that you know life isn't precious time is precious And you need to make use of your time. So you have that motivational drive And then you have you're increasing in toba. So all these amazing things that happen as a result of The remembrance of death. So this is a way that we treat antipathy towards death. Okay So next disease is obliviousness to blessings. Nisya Nisya Nirmah This prevents one from recognizing the blessing that he or she has And makes them display in gratitude to Allah swt and then negativity to his creation When you are a negative person, right? You're just not Ever grateful for what you have you always find flaws. You're always complaining Nothing's ever good enough for you. Um, and your attitude about life is just negative negative This is the danger of this disease of the heart is that it makes you ungrateful to Allah But also you just have an energy that nobody likes So a lot of your people who have who know people that are like this or have this disease They don't want to ever want to be around them Never if they are sitting somewhere at a let's say at school or at a coffee shop and or at a restaurant And then they see that person coming They want to turn and hide. It's like, oh god, there's that person. I don't want to see them Why because they're so negative. They're always complaining You're I can't I can't handle it. It's such negative energy. It makes me feel bad So do you want to be that person? No, nobody wants to be that person that people hide from, right? Um, so the Prophet's like said, I'm also taught us whoever's not grateful to the people is not grateful to Allah That means couldn't ask them if you're not grateful to people Then that means you're also not grateful to Allah. So this is How we have to understand it's so important to be in a state of gratitude and this is what this disease does It takes you out of the state of gratitude completely. You're blind to the obvious blessings Allah has given you So something just to keep in mind So, you know in order to prevent this from taking root, we have to increase our gratitude, right? How do we do that? Well, we have to understand that there's three different types Of gratitude the first we call it shukr. Shukr bil qalb And this is gratitude of the heart This means to be grateful from the core of your hearts and have iman Shukr bil lisan is to be grateful by praising Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala with his attributes, right praising him And then shukr bil jawara are your limbs and this is by doing good things with the physical body That Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gave you you do good deeds. You pray your prayers on time. You're fasting You're giving zakat. You're giving help. You're giving advice. You're teaching You're actually using the body in the right way. That's a form of shukr So you it's not just sitting in with your tasfi and going alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. That's not enough That's just lisan, right? You have to look at it as all three That's all three years are important. We have to have all three forms of shukr And then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us also that he never changes any blessing He has bestowed upon a people until they first change what is in themselves Okay, so just to keep in mind if you want to change your negative situation Maybe your hot life is hard and that's why you're negative Then this ayah is the answer to you that he will not change your condition your state Whatever it is. It's happening for you until you work on yourself So you have to start doing this what we're doing here. Let's get the nefs You're cleansing your heart. You're trying to become a better person You're pushing yourself to be more concerned with other people than to be selfish Right, you're being more generous with your time as we said those are all good steps And then inshallah Allah will bring the relief. Okay And so Also, it's very important that you get the practice of being more grateful Like it's something that you actively do Why because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells us if you give thanks I will give you more. It's such an easy formula If you want more blessings in your life, if you want more happiness in your life The way to get that is what be more grateful Just be more grateful say alhamdulillah. I thank you Allah Thank you for everything that you give me and really saying it out loud or in your own heart and enlisting Those things, you know, there's a lot of you need even non-muslims There's research like there was these two scientists who did a study Here it's by sacramento, uc davis But they did a study where they took people who had all these like health problems And real big issues going on in their life And what they did is they had them do a Gratitude journal they started getting in the practice of of journaling and really Recognizing all of their things that they are grateful for And just by doing that for you know a few days or a week or month or so They their physical symptoms started getting better They're sick whatever injuries or problems they had What they're as they said like their body was healing and then also emotional healing from you know, whatever depression or anxiety or things that happened trauma in their life And like all of these really positive things started happening for them The only difference was that they started doing this. That's it They started changing their mind and taking focus of their brain instead of letting negative thoughts come in Which oftentimes are from shaytan. He's the one who's whisperers, right? He likes to make us feel bad you Cast him out of your heart by increasing in gratitude And so you want to make a list like this and of course the first and foremost thing You should always be grateful for is to know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the provost That is the greatest blessing of existence is that we know our lord and we know his beloved And then of course you look to your family and home life Your health your friends your time the fact that you have time to do things Safety it's not in the list, but you know safety food and drink Nice clothes material things all the things that you have But think about them deeply because there's a lot of people who don't have even one fifth of what you have How many kids don't have their parents? How many kids are born as orphans? They don't have more than one Outfit they only have one pair of clothes. They some kids don't have shoes They're they're homeless or they're you know living in such impoverished Situations where they don't even have Shoes so they have to walk around and then get injured You know playing can you imagine playing or trying to play who Many of them don't even have time to play because they're forced to go and Collect you know soda cans and garbage so that they can make some money or to do some You know they'll go far from their home because they they're desperate for to eat So they'll go look through garbage cans and and do so much because they're they have nothing But they have to do that barefoot. They don't have shoes They don't have toys you have some my kids they have a toy room I'm telling them all the time like be grateful for your toys Do you know there's children who's never who've never seen a toy before they've only played with sticks and rocks They they have no idea what a lego is They have no idea what a doll is they've never in their life seen these things or electric stuff forget it They don't know what electricity is a lot of people in our world are living in really difficult situations so You have to be grateful to a lot that he gave you such an amazing life You know and that's why the more you do this Then you're spared from this terrible disease of the heart where you don't even you can't even mention The things that you're grateful for that's what people like this are they're so negative Nothing's ever good enough, right? And then to remember the more grateful you are the more you'll get Allah. So generous so This is the last disease of the heart and this is called Hes which is ridiculing Okay, and making fun of people humiliating caricaturing lampooning Anytime you try to take someone down and really just mock them to a place Where they're humiliated you have to know right away. This is haram on every level Allah's power that tells us in chapter 49 verse 11 Oh, you who believe do not let people mock another people For it may be that these are better than them Nor should women mock other women for it may be that they are better than them and do not taunt to one another Nor insult each other with nicknames Really powerful reminder that you if you're someone that just likes to mock groups of people like there's a lot of people Who make racial jokes, you know, they like to make fun of certain groups like certain races And they'll you know do terrible things to point out the things that make them look different or speak different like languages whatever But they'll either you know, they'll just mock groups So this is what i'll say don't mock groups of people and then he's also saying don't mock individual people because It could be that one is better than the other so very um clear warning that this is haram, right? So let's look at this I mean anybody who's ever been in a situation where you felt bullied, right? It's a terrible thing to be the receiving end of that because Especially if it's I mean, they're shaming, right? You're being shamed in front of people. So it's a horrible feeling And then there's a lot of sometimes harshness Because in their words, so it's not just they they might they might be taunting, you know making sounds But oftentimes they come with words that are also very hard to hear very damaging. So this is why we say Words can be weaponized. Okay. What does that mean? A weapon is what it's something that you you you discharge and then it sends Something to a target and it's supposed to harm that target, right? So your tongue has the ability to discharge the same way a gun or an arrow bow and arrow It can discharge words That come out and then they land on whoever you're speaking to So if you weaponize your words, that's what it's like to the one who's on the other end of it It's very painful To hear that and so, you know, we never of course want to be those who bully and mock Every male love forgive us but to see that it's um, you know, it's it's like what we saw with scolding It can have a really negative Effect because not only does it cause so much pain as you can see in these images They're all crying because it's hard to hear people teasing you and mocking you But you know what the the danger is that this if shaytan Is around and he will try What he can do is basically Take that those feelings of shame that the person being mocked feels And turn it into rancor He can do that very easily Because he'll take this uh bullied soul and he'll just work on them. How could they do that to you? You know, they're such terrible people. You should teach them a lesson. Who do they think they are? And this is why all the blood you've had we've had many times in history throughout history where the bully The one who's bullied excuse me turns into a bully Because all of that those feelings make them feel that they have to Get back right this revenge enters their heart this need for revenge And that of course is from real because it's the anger of being shamed And being mocked that turns into wanting harm on the other person. This happens every day But throughout human history much of uh our greatest Human tragedies have come out of this Uh happening, you know that that someone or a group of people were mocked And then they came back fierce Fiercely and attacked even worse than what happened to them. So we have to seek refuge from this It's a terrible disease of the heart, right? So let's look at um the treatment First of all, we should know that this is a sign of ignorance right away There's many reasons but you know one incident is when the prophet musa he was asked by his people because he told them he gave them an order To sacrifice a cow and when they heard that he wanted them to do this They replied are you mocking us? Like why would we do this and his words are clear? He says I seek refuge in god from being ignorant Which means the one who mocks is ignorant, right? This is how we see this aya So you're just an ignorant person if you do that behavior and that's why he's like no, I would never mock you I'm not an ignorant person, right And then it's also a form of arrogance Because usually people who mock do think of themselves as better, right? This is why you know, they kind of hold themselves a certain way and then they do the whole pointing of the finger It's very it's called posturing when you posture You're showing that you think you're stronger and better So you puff yourself up and you then you talk down to people So this is why a lot of bullies that's how they do and that's why you see bullies in school for example They'll pick on kids that are smaller or younger Because they like that power dynamic to show I'm stronger and more powerful than you, right? It's also How the blood arrogant, right? And so this is why we have said nani said Do not belittle anyone for he or she may be a saint of god. What does that mean is that Everybody in the world nobody knows who they are to Allah Just because someone might you might not like them or they say something to you Doesn't necessarily mean they're a bad person. Maybe there was a misunderstanding. Maybe something happened. For example, I'll give you an example So This is just I'm making it up, right? But this happens all the time. It's a hypothetical hypotheticals like, you know This is an example But this scenario has happened Many times to many people because I've heard it from people and I know what happens You're at the masjid. Okay, and you're walking by And there's someone that you recognize and maybe it's kind of like there's a lot of people But you look over and you smile and you say salamu alaykum and they walk right past you Nothing no words right So what could happen is you Start to think about it and then she thought of course is right there with you and he's like wow How rude who do they think they are? You they totally saw you and they ignored you Oh my gosh What a disrespectful person and now you have this terrible opinion about that person. This is called what su-adhan remember? We talked about negative thoughts So when you rush to thinking the worst about someone su-adhan, right su-adhan So You thought all of this because that person didn't say salam to you but what if What if and this could happen right especially now with hijab and let's just say it was a sister What if she was On her air pods and she was just Someone just gave her the worst news ever someone was you know called her in a panic emergency And she's rushing out of the masjid as you're going in because they're telling her Oh my gosh, you have to come your house is on fire, you know something like really intense So maybe the sister saw you but she's Having some information being told to her that is so shocking to her That she cannot even acknowledge you Um, is there a bad intention on her part to hurt your feelings? Is there a bad intention on her part to disrespect you to ignore your greeting? No, she's a human being But you're not seeing what is happening because you're assuming the worst That's why we have to make excuses for people those air pods if she has air pods or a headset are hidden from you And you're just you know seeing her walk past you But the reality is known to Allah And that's why you don't judge people because you don't know Who they are to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala one of the scholars said about umar, you know Omar ibn al-Khattab. He was um, you know a part of the the mushriqin before he accepted islam And so there's a famous quote that says that umar Was beloved to Allah even When he was worshiping those idols When he wasn't muslim because in the knowledge of Allah Allah already knew who umar was and who he was going to be and That he was going to die, you know as one of the greatest companion or you know second greatest companion of the Prophet's life Right. He already knew that about him So even though umar didn't know that and he was still you know Bowling down to the idols He was still beloved to Allah because Allah knew his ending And that's what we have to understand is we don't know people's ending Nobody none of us know how people are going to die and a person can become Beloved to Allah in their last and final moments, you know, I had There was actually a video that was going on earlier this morning And it was this very sweet lady. She had become a muslim She's like a maybe 90 plus maybe close to 100 years old her name is mediam And she's learning a dua and she's reciting it And I just was like subhanAllah. She just became muslim at the very tail end of her life You know, she's she probably doesn't have that much life to go But Allah gave her islam so late in her life and inshallah that's someone there you go You could have seen mariam in her 40s and 50s and 60s and 70s And maybe even her early 80s and you would have thought all these terrible things about her But look at where she is to for her to have guidance Before she leaves this world may Allah protect it for her that shows you she's a beloved of Allah So you don't know where people are going to end and that's why you should never ever ever Have bad thoughts where you are not just ridiculing and mocking people But then you're also all the below making claims about about them like oh those are you know, they're such terrible people And they'll you know, Allah will never love someone like that. Sometimes people say these really awful things like oh He you know, they're gonna go to hell. They'll say things about people go to hell Yeah, the below who are you to ever say that to someone you should never say that right? So we have to be very careful and then also that Allah's father says here know that those who mock people in this life Will be mocked in the hereafter For it is a divine law that God recompenses people with the like of what they have done so On the day of judgment a lot of the things that people do the evil people do in this world They will have that same thing done to them In jahannam. So this is why you want to be very careful out of the black From ever doing anything that displeases Allah because he'll teach you A very serious lesson. Yeah the below later down the line that you don't want to learn So may Allah protect us from all of these diseases inshallah. So that My dear beloved children um Is the end of this presentation. So just to because we do have a little bit of time And someone I saw briefly ask about a summary Let's try to do what we can in the few minutes We might have to go a little bit over parents. So if you're able to please keep your kids here for just maybe 10 minutes more Um after the hour because I want to try to do it A summary of this inshallah. Wow, there are a lot of slides. I I forgot how much effort this was But it was worth it. It was worth it for all of you. You came here every single Day and I truly truly appreciate that. So let's look here. We started with purification of the heart This was the what text of imam al-molud al-molud and he is a martinian scholar, right? And then we have What do we have about him? We have I'm sorry, she comes to yusuf is the what? Who is he the translator of the text, right? So, um, here we go. This is biography. We went over these details, right? And then we talked about she comes that he is the president and founder of zaytuna college right here in the bay area remember Alhamdulillah make da'a for both of them. Do not forget imam al-molud. Do not forget she comes to yusuf You have to make da'a for them if you enjoyed this class You should make da'a for them before you make da'a for me if you're making da'a for me I hope you are but you should make da'a for them before you make da'a for me, okay Um, and then we talked about why it's so important to purify the heart because the hadith, right? The prophet doesn't told us there's a piece of flesh that if It lies in the body if it's sound the entire body is sound and if it's corrupted The whole body is corrupted. Verily this piece is the heart. So subhanAllah is so important This is the number one thing that we are going to present to Allah on the day of judgment It takes uh, it's so important that we focus our entire lives on keeping this heart clean So then we talked about the eight different types of hearts And we said that there are uh, there's a dead heart, right? Which is here then we have the hardened heart and each heart has its own problems. Okay, so that's own Qualities that we need to understand how it happens how they become this way The darkened heart the blackened heart the sealed heart the locked heart The blind heart and then finally the sound heart the kalbun setting. This is the one that we want So we just described the qualities of these hearts then, uh, we went into comparing and contrasting the effects of disease on a physical heart and the effects of disease on a spiritual heart that it's very similar it hardens Right and it prevents the heart from working the way that it's that was designed to work Same with spiritual diseases. So here are the list of the 25 diseases that we have We have uh, miserliness wanton this hatred iniquity love of the world envy blame or the modesty blame or the thoughts Fear of poverty ostentation relying on other than god Displeasure with divine decree seeking reputation false hope Negative thoughts vanity fraud anger heedlessness Ranker boasting and arrogance displeasure with blame antipathy toward death Obliviousness to blessings derision subhanallah all of these we went through And we're just gonna again go through them we went through bochal Which is miserliness we talked about how it's related to the word mesek Which is or comes from the word mesek, which is uh, you know the same from constipation because when you have bochal You're holding on to something that actually harms you right and we talked about that We talked about butter to have this unbridled Feeling that you just can't control yourself that makes you prideful and do things in excess Right and the disease of we talked about bochal having hatred You know again of others it makes you an unjust persons. You have to be aware of hatred Right. Um, then we moved on to iniquity buggy harming anything in creation without justice or just cause excuse me You can't just go around harming things or people, right? This is haram. There has to be a reason if you're protecting yourself You're feeling in danger. That's one thing. But just because you feel like it. No, there's that's not an excuse Uh, right. We talked about love of the world Habbah dunya the dangers of attaching yourself to this place because it makes you distracted from the remembrance of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you'll start to Do more sins you'll fall into sinful behavior And then it'll increase you in many of the other diseases that we're talking about Because habadunya according to some of our scholars is the root of of all diseases Then we talked about how again the prophet said warned us that Towards the end of time would be like the the foam of the ocean We would be weak there would be a lot of us But we'd be weak and it's because of habadunya It's because we're too preoccupied with money money money money. We want all the nicest things. We want the cars We want the homes. We want the jewelry. We want the delicious food. We want everything It's like we just want to consume eat money And that's why the prophet told us that the son of Adam his mouth will never be full Truly until he's in his grave and it's the dirt of the grave that fills his mouth So here we see this character here. He's just stuffing his face with money Well, it's never going to be enough because that's what habadunya does. It's like an empty bottomless pit And this is the other problem too is that you start daydreaming You're not thinking about the stuff that matters, right? You're not thinking about Allah or the prophet or giving and going to the masjid and doing good works Because all you're thinking about is what getting money and getting things that you want, right? So the remembrance of death is how you treat that And then we talked about also the different categories of of love of the world, right? And then we talked about hasad and how again when you Have hasad you have envy for other people you want them to lose whatever blessing they have We distinguish between jealousy and envy jealousy is having that feeling Of that there's something missing that you want and that you But it's not necessarily tied to a person envy is where you actually have Someone that has that thing and then you want them to lose it. They're distinct But they're very related as well and both of them you want to remember death This is a good way to get rid of it. We also distinguish between Healthy and be right you get that when you're competing with Other someone else for the sake of the pleasure of Allah. This is called a ripta and this can be done primarily in two ways which is When you see someone of wealth and you want to have increased wealth because You want to do good works with that wealth and wisdom if someone has knowledge You want the same knowledge because you want to also be able to teach So in these two cases is perfectly fine to have ripped them Now we moved on and we talked about the The rest of these diseases here, which we'll get into blame or the modesty, right? This is when you're you lack courage and you don't speak up when you should You don't ask questions when you should and it can stand in the way of you being a person of justice, right? You you actually may turn away when you see a situation that needs justice and needs your attention because you You don't have a balance. You're you're thinking too much about maybe your image or other people You're not thinking about doing the right thing. Okay So then we talked about our thoughts, right? And how to control our thoughts that we have anywhere from up to 60 000 some say, you know Even more than that thoughts a day 80% of our thoughts are are negative 95% are actually repetitive And so we have to be very you know control the flow of our thoughts, right? And make sure that if we have blamed more of these thoughts That we know that those are from shaitan and we should not entertain them Those are thoughts about the nature of Allah swt that we can never Know him beyond what he's already revealed to us through the 99 names through his book But trying to imagine him is just all from iblis. We don't do that And then thinking about thoughts about other people, right? Just assuming the worst like we talked about earlier So then when you think about bad people in the absence of any evidence just your own thoughts and minds and suspicions It leads you to Having this disease in the heart playing with the thoughts fear of poverty is similar or kind of tied to hovedunya You just want want want it's insatiable You can't let go of your wealth when you should which is also similar to miserliness So it really contributes to a lot of other diseases growing from this idea that oh my gosh, i'm not going to have enough I'm not going to have enough, right? And so you're all you're doing again is you're thinking about money which makes you Um compromise your principles and your religious values So you start to uh, you know forget all the things that you're supposed to do to with Allah swt For Allah swt that is that your worship of him But also for your family because your mind and eyes all I can see is money money money money Okay, and so you want to be very careful from that and then also the importance of charity Um, this is how we Protect our hearts from it because we know that we our wealth never diminishes when we give for the sake of Allah swt So this is how we increase our reliance on Allah and remove this disease of the heart We talked about Yes, just this that was the point about charity cleansing your wealth Then we moved into the next um disease of the heart, which are ostentation of the eye This is when you show off and you're getting trying to get attention from people For the deeds that you're doing and these could be religious deeds or otherwise You just like the attention you want people to you know see you and you're not doing it for the sake of Allah Subhanallah anymore. This is a called what the minor shirk We want to be very careful from this because you are all the associating partners with Allah Which is the worst of all things that we could possibly do is to say Allah has partners Well, when you start to do things for people and not just Allah, that's in a way what you're doing You're putting those people as if they're the same as Allah in terms of your importance So you want to be very, you know in terms of the way you're prioritizing them So you want to be very careful never to uh to fall into this very very dangerous thing We also talked about how sneaky it is that it can creep into the heart the same way that a black ant on a black rock And on a dark night can undetected unknown and it's very subtle So it's something that you have to always check your intentions always ask yourself Why am I doing this is it for the sake of uh being seen and having titles and oh You know people praising me and complimenting and making me feel special or is it I don't know about that right um, and then we talked about Having trust in any other than Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala right? This is when we call on other people and we don't put our trust in Allah We never beg for example begging is considered reprehensible. It's not a good thing to do We turn to Allah and then of course if we need really Help, you know assistance with something we can look to our masjid or our you know There's sometimes different organizations in our community that offer services to people That's different than begging begging is going and making people feel uncomfortable and asking them to You know to put themselves in a burden for your sake, which is why the process said that it is better for you to um, hold on let me get here Where's that hadith did I skip it already? I think it's on the previous one. Sorry. Yeah that you um No, there's a hadith about selling wood. Did I miss it? I think I missed it. No, I don't want to misquote it But there is a hadith that says the bros awesome said that it's better for you to the sell wood You know collect gather firewood and sell it then to go and beg people Okay, so I don't know where that hadith disappeared. I thought it was in here, but that's okay. Mashallah. So here are the answers for For that for relying on other than god, then we moved on to displeasure of the divine decrease This is when you can't you know, why me? Why did this have to happen to me? Something happens. Something breaks. Something falls You can't get into maybe a class or some program that you wanted to go to or a trip He falls through maybe you had a vacation planned and then it doesn't happen Why why why why whatever it is that you're you know upset about and you're denying the qadr of Allah This is the disease of the heart And so we talked about that and then we moved on to seeking reputations. So Matt, which is similar to Ostentation, right? You want people to hear about all of your good works not necessarily You don't have to see you but you want reputation you want people to know what you're doing So you kind of throw in, you know things here and there because ultimately it's like you're you're chasing fame, right? You you you're chasing that carrot, right on a stick And so we talked about that and then the dangers of it Right very similar to the uh, then we went into false hopes negative thoughts and vanities So tula lama, this is where you think you have all the time in the world and you can do whatever you want And you're not really thinking about Um, you know the fact that life is unpredictable and Allah can take you at any time and when you do that and you have too much Hope then you become what heedless area? Careless with your worship of Allah because you keep procrastinating everything. I'll do it later. I'll do it later I'll do it later. This is the danger. That's why Imam Ali said people are asleep when they die They wake up So you have we have to wake up before we die, right? And that's uh, we can't have false hopes when we do that So remembrance of death is important negative thoughts to and then this is when you just again think badly of people for no reason It's haram And the tongue is you know every day our limbs wake up in the morning and it admonishes the tongue because It says fear Allah for our sake. We're with you But we're going to be rewarded or punished based on what you make us do So if you're straight, we'll be straight if you're crooked, we'll be crooked so the tongue is You know a very dangerous and we have to be very careful with what we say because negative thoughts Leads to negative speech. That's why we're mentioning this You can't just have a negative thought about someone and keep it inside of you You you usually almost always want to share it with someone else. Did you see what so-and-so did? Can you believe them? Oh my god, I can't stand this person and now you've committed a riba, which is why it's so dangerous. Okay Then we talked about um, this is arjab, right? Vanity where you think you're so amazing and you can't Help but just stare at yourself all day and praise yourself and you're taking selfies and it's like oh look how cute I am and then you want attention you keep posting those Images because you want people to look at you and just want to be like you. This is all arjab. It's vanity And you're basically self obsessed then we have Uh, we talked about again how the process and warned us about because arjab and arrogance are tied. They're connected, right? They warned us about these diseases, right? And so there's a lot of Things we covered this in today's class as well. You can go back and look And then we went and did fraud anger and heedlessness. This was on last thursday We talked about gish, which is fraud where you're trying to trick people into something that they're not fully aware of Just to get something out of them some material gain, whether it's money or a job or an opportunity But you're trying to use trickery in order to do that. This is completely haram, right? We talked about the story of the process and the food, right? And then we um talked about aghada anger and how anger for other than the sake of allah. SubhanAllah is can be easily You know It can cause harm and it can lead someone to lose their cool and control So we have to restrain anger many many hadith that talk about that And then we said that the the scholars have used this analogy that it's kind of like that hunting dog You have to command it. You can't just go wild on its own. It's not going to help you It's not going to do what it's supposed to do anger has a purpose. It has a utility So you have to rein it in and then keep it on that leash until you need it again But it shouldn't control you okay Then we talked more about how what to do if you're angry, right the processes advice When you're angry if you're standing sit down if you're sitting down recline make wudu pray That coolness from wudu calms the fires of of you know anger and then of course say Because the shaitan and shaitan will run from you We talked about how once the prophet saw a man. He actually looked like You know his face got red and kind of like shaitan and the process and told him again I have a word if spoken it will remove this anger from him all the way So then we talked about khafla right and how people become heedless and forgetful of allah And the dangers of that and how that happens is because they again know right and wrong But their love for the dunya makes them completely turn away and the process told us the danger of being Not in the remembrance of allah versus being in the remembrance of allah is the comparison Of someone that has life and someone that's died or something that has life and something that's died And here's that image for you to see the comparison the contrast the contrast And the heedlessness is treated by remembrance of death All right, and then knowing that your prayers are not answered if you're heedless, right? So if you have any desires or wishes in this world, you're not going to get them if you behave heedlessly Then today we covered all of these rancor right we talked about all this so I don't need to review Fakhhar and kibir We talked about khafla dham. We talked about khafla mothe and then we ended on or missyadun naira and then we ended on Okay, so alhamdulillah. That was your quick superfast review For whoever asked for that. I hope that was helpful to you inshallah Let's see. I know some of you might have to go. I don't want to keep you But I do want to see if there's any questions you guys and I want to thank you again I will try to see if there's any questions, but I want to thank you again for Being such a engaging and awesome audience. Well, ahi you made my ramadan very special It was a lot of work to put all this together But like I said, you were so worth it because every day when I would work on this I would imagine the sort of excitement that we would have in our Q&A's when you guys would be rushing to answer It was so cute to witness that and all of your amazing questions and insights That you've had throughout these seven sessions have meant a great deal to me I really really thank you from the bottom of my heart for spending your Tuesdays and Thursdays With me or if you're watching them on at other times, whatever time you're giving to this. Thank you It truly truly means a great deal Now, let me see if there's any questions inshallah and In comments from you because I'd love to hear from you guys too Anything that you think we can do better next time. This is the first time I'm doing it this on this format for youth Usually I've taught it a couple times now and it's you know weekly sessions Lower slower pace certainly, but yeah, let me know if there's not anything else here. So I don't think I have any questions Yeah, I don't see anything here or maybe I'm just not Thank you, it's not John very sweet So the cure for displeasure with blame did I not go over that? You know is you have to humble yourself and know that Allah Whatever blessings you have Allah can, you know remove that for you But also to know that you're you know, it's you should be grateful when people correct you they're doing You a favor because they're getting you close to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala So to just humble yourself and to know that we're all works in progress, right? But to be appreciative that when someone corrects you That it's a good thing and to thank them for it All right, so How did that we stayed over a little bit? Let's see these comments you guys are sweet. Thank you. It's time for the office to you Raheem. Thank you for this class. Oh, you're so sweet. Just like your luck hidden. What a nice compliment Mashallah. Thank you a the man. Amen. Mashallah. Thank you You guys really appreciate it. Thank you captain I'm so I'm so curious about who captain is because your name the others I know who they are their names are a little clear, but I'm very curious captain. Who's your who are your parents? Do I know your parents? Let me know who they are Alina, okay, sweetheart Alina. Well, I hope I can see you and meet you Alina one day Inshallah, but thank you all for your very kind comments. Just like more head and keep us in your door. Okay Okay, we'll say give give your mother my mother my salam inshallah, please but keep me and my family in your doors and I hope you guys have an amazing rest of your month. Remember tonight is a very very special night Very special. So make sure your du'as are strong and if you haven't written them out yet You should maybe write your du'as. Okay, because tonight is a powerful night Inshallah all the nights of Ramadan are powerful, but there's something special. Of course, we know about the 27th So write your du'as out, you know and really think about it. It's kind of like what we talked about with that gratitude, right? So inshallah, I really hope to again see You all in the near future in better circumstances. Hopefully then on lockdown Jezakumul ala ukhaydan, please make do it for all of the mcc staff, especially our dear brother Muneer Who's going through a challenge right now in his personal life make do it for him and his family That all his father brings them all ease Make do it for sister. Homera my co-panelist who's been amazing. Okay. She's been here every week staying Even though she has a full-time job and she has to work and she's got meetings And she probably does not want to be on a computer all day long, but she has facilitated and made this class possible I think sister. Homera so much for her time May Allah bless her and all of the people at mcc who make these programs possible and all of you again And your families may Allah reward all of you. Jezakumul ala ukhaydan will end in du'as Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wa alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam tasneeman katirah Bismillahir rahmanir raheem Wa la'asir inna l-insana la fi khosir illa ladina aminu Wa amir salli hati wa tawasabu l-haqi wa tawasabu l-sabar alhamdulillah Allahumma balighna Laylatul qadr inshaAllah Yes, make that du'a ya Allah. Please let us let us experience Laylatul qadr inshaAllah inshaAllah amin Jezakullah khaydan Alhamdulillah. Salaamu alaykum