 I'm trying to see if I can find my little son. Hopefully my Wi-Fi working in, not Wi-Fi. I'm on phone service in here, computer office, and so I don't need that trouble. Y'all got to forgive me, I ain't got nothing to stand my phone up on. Want to pop in for a little bit, just because I didn't get to shoot a video today. So I want to pop on in. And I'm on the road, going to be home for a nice little bit after this, but duty calls for those of y'all that did not know if you knew here. As a mentor, life coach, consultant, whatever you call it, I work with sports teams. It's one of the things, I don't promote it online because I'm not looking for business in the area. In that area, it's kind of just referral, me being a former college athlete and having made every mistake that an athlete can make and having pro-potential, but not using it. I go and I talk to athletes just about choices, decisions, consequences, and doing the right thing. Because they hear from the guys who made it, but sometimes hearing from the guys that didn't make it because of our choices, it helps them out. So that's what I'm on the road doing right now. And I'll be back home soon. But until then, working from the hotel and wanting to pop in just for an hour, just going to be on here an hour. I know I always say that. I'll be on here an hour. And then I'll be off of here. House of Jasmine, not really. I don't really collaborate with YouTubers. For one, nobody asked me to collaborate. But then, too, it's just a lot of things with branding that happens. And so just one of the things I teach in my personal brand course on Tony Gaston Academy is just about protecting your brand. Imagine when you think about it, it would have been a great collab to do a collab with Bill Cosby and great collab to do a collab with Harvey Weinstein before all the stuff came out. And so that's really why I kind of stay away from collabs because I really don't know how people live their life. I do interviews, you know. But even with the interviews, it got to serve a purpose. It got to be to reach a new audience. It got to be to reach something totally different. Like one of the interviews, I had done an interview a long time ago, but they just put it up on the other channels. It was a total different audience, you know. And so spreading the message. So that's how I go about it. Now, if you have a question, put on hashtag Q in front of it. And again, I'm just going to be on here an hour because I need to call my wife tonight. I want to get to bed at a decent time. I was up late last night. So I'm out here working. I'm looking too crazy. So let me see. Listen to a woman's influence over 10 times. What? Camille, you're one of the greatest of all time. I ain't never heard of that. You must be exaggerating. 10 times? Tony, how can I get my son's dad to leave my home that I own? Says rent is too expensive. Cheated on me multiple times and I'm mentally exhausted. Since I'm not really sure on that because that probably falls into like civil law and stuff. Civil stuff. So you may have to talk to an attorney or to the police station. And you know, you may need to be able to talk to somebody in full to share more about him because that's a dangerous situation. So it would kind of be unwise of me to speak on a situation like evicting a man without knowing the full complete history and story to know if he cuckoo for cocoa puffs. Y'all got forgiven. I had to take the light from back there and plug it in over here because I come over here wanting to light over here and I'm like, listen, I need to be doing a podcast in the dark. So I got no light, so hopefully y'all could see me. Mr. Gaston, will you be doing a video for new life coaches? If you're a new life coach through my course, we do monthly calls. Or if you're on my mentor.life, we do monthly calls. Through my mentor.life, we just had one. And I have, I think, videos on YouTube about life coaching, but I probably could do one in the blessed business tribe. I so wish I had me some. Y'all forgiven. Let me try to stand this here. Can prude up a little bit. I'm gonna sit it on top of my pants to have it a little higher. See that ingenuity. That's why we invented so much stuff. I had to fold these pants in half, set this up a little higher. Why would a guy be into a woman who is the age of his older mid-30s and he's mid-40s? Well, you gotta know men. Do you see the way these men out here talking on e-podcast? Are you surprised? Come on now. Come on now. Are you surprised? You hear the way to eat guy talking today? That ought to be all the answer you need. Linda Brown, God bless you now. God bless you now. Linda Brown, God bless you. Don't want my boys having the same habits as their father, soon to be ex-husband and their dad and granddad have same characteristics, talks and womanizes what to do. You gotta introduce them. You gotta introduce them to resources. On Tony guys at academy.com I got a course for young men 13 to 18 and you gotta introduce them to resources so that they see real examples of real men. And one day I may just shoot all of it. I may make that course free here soon and just tell everybody, hey, you raising a teenage boy, just go get this here course. And I may shoot similar videos and put it on YouTube and just put it on a playlist. Just post them all in one day. So anytime y'all ask, I just could see into that playlist for young men and just having heart to heart real talk with young men from a virtual mentor perspective. Been dating this older man for about six months, treats me like a queen from flowers, arrangements and motivation. I'm 26 and he's 44. I like him, but it's hard for me to see past age difference any hope here. Well, I tell you what, if you don't leave that man alone he gonna be on a podcast in the dark now because that right there and I see that's part of the problem of what they be talking about. That's really why these guys out here mad because y'all don't be liking them but you talking to them. The reason why he treats you like a queen is because he old in Methuselah. Now 44 is not old. That's very young. But in relation to your age he old is dirt. He too old for you. And so the reason why he treat you so amazing this lady got mad at me. She was a Caucasian lady. She really understand how much I be blocking people. I love to live that first time. Oh no, I think I blocked her. I think I blocked her. Let me stop lying. She gonna see there. This is what I'm talking about. You just be saying stuff and you don't even be knowing. Blah. Man, don't come on my page. Y'all forget the elbow. Been in a sleeve all day so he ain't got no lotion on. Y'all give him a second to get a little a little lotion for the elbow. I'm rollin' around in the room and it's chill, I can't tell you. I cannot tell you why I'm rollin' around in the room and it's chill. I could have got up and walked. Y'all forgive him. I can't tell you. I can't tell you. Y'all even give him a little lotion for the elbow. Now listen to me now. So the reason why older men treat younger women so good is because you're revivin' him. You're revivin' him. You're bringing him back to life. Just like they say, still got a rule back. That's what you're doin' for him. You're bringing him back to life. So he feelin' that libido. That libido go to jumpin' on. He go to thinkin' he gettin' the testosterone deposit from dealin' with ya. He do ya like that. So that's all you got to understand. It's kinda like it's your young skin. You see what I mean? So it's like if you look at my face I'm 37 years old. Somebody say Tony, you look 17. What? We like young skin. So as humans, if he 44 or 20 something or 30 something, you so much younger it's like having something everybody like a new car versus an old car. So it's really these guys that age and single. If they haven't had a wife that they don't age with, you know, like fine wine then they want something young to revive them and make them feel alive again. Because they go to lookin' at their own, they like, oh, 44 year old woman that been toe out the frame, toe up from the floor, woe out. So he go to thinkin' about that cause he lookin' at his 44. Now there's some 44 year old women that's still virgins. It's something that's only been with a couple of men. You know, a few men. It's something that ain't really had no real relationship experience. But just in his mind, he's got a lot of miles on him. He lookin' at women his age or judging them thinkin' they got miles on him. Too many miles on him. And so he wanna try to get them something that he think is could have more miles on her than the 44 year old do. But that's how he judge it. And that's how me personally I'ma tell you. As a man, as a real man I think it's kind of irresponsible. Like I'm 37. If I was a single man I wouldn't want no woman 27 years old. I wouldn't. My wife 35. That's now about too young. That's about too young for me. Cause sometimes she like to play too much. And I'd be like, oh goodness I shoulda got some out of my age. Cause she be having too much energy for me sometimes. So I could not imagine having a woman 10 years younger. So that just let me know a man that's kind of hella in a different space. Which I can't say too much about this cause my homeboy woman is 10 years or more younger. My barber. Wife 10 years or more younger. You know I know men closely. But that's what let's y'all know I'll be telling the truth. Cause my truth I'm right on the toes of the guys that be right next to me. And when I be talking about that you know what have you. Age differences. What advice do you have for someone who is trying to change bad habits and life around. First step. Well Malcolm what you first got to realize is that any habit that you want to break it ain't going to kill you to do so. I think a lot of times you know our brain is wired to feed into those habits but first we got to have a knowledge and understanding that we can do all things. Especially through Christ who strengthen us. And so when when I want to change my life I made a decision and then I said I'm not going to do this thing unless my body physically forces me to. And then I realized my body didn't physically force me to do anything. And with every passing day I got stronger and stuff start to just fall by the wayside. So really it first comes from a decision. It's not really about a trick in the book. It's not really about none of that. It's about a decision. You know House of Jasmine on the Q&A nights it's only for Q&A. So the reason why they'll take you out of there is to try to keep the chat clear just so we can have questions. So they'll delete everything that's not a question. Just because as you see it's millions of questions that are missing because the chat going so fast because when y'all put stuff that's not a question it moved, it moved all the the questions up. You see how just the extra commentary that people putting and so I try to get as many questions on these as I can. We only got 44 more minutes. My job is taking up a lot of my time physically and mentally. It's impacting reducing my time with God. What can I do? Don't let nothing take you from God. And what you got to realize is God don't need a bunch of time because you could talk to God all day. So while you're doing your job every breath I take I'm talking to God. In between every sentence I I'm talking to God. So you got to realize that God with you all day you could be talking to God all day even while you're working you need to be talking to God. But just get up 15 minutes earlier and just and later and pray. Get on your knees or later or whatever however you pray and you just say your prayer you know God with you all day so it don't have to be this religiosity. You know God is a spirit. He's not praying to a man so a spirit you talk to a spirit anytime every time. Am I wrong for not wanting to be honest with my friend about her long distance relationship after 17 years on and off he won't commit their careers keeping them in different cities. Well no you're not wrong because some friends don't know how to handle the truth and they get upset. Now you say 17 years listen that ain't rocket science she know that relationship ain't about nothing but that's better than nothing so she comfortable where she at cause she got something and some people will rather have half of something than nothing at all so that's all that is just found my boyfriend had a hidden tiktok account and was following 19 girls he's 35 I'm 28 I broke up with him I'm in shock did I exaggerate Lord forgive me for laughing now Lord forgive me for laughing you broke up with him over the tiktok over the hidden tiktok now listen he definitely got a lesson he definitely got a lesson you breaking up with him but yes that was a little drastic that was a little it's a tiktok now if you found a nasty app that he subscribed to if he on the fans site if he on the hub then that's totally different but the tiktok yeah that's bad you need to check them have a real heart to heart let them know this is absolutely 100% unacceptable now you broke up with him so you can't just take that back you got to see if he gonna say hey I apologize can we work this out when he say that now he know that you don't play no games Cheryl Marie God bless you now he know you don't play no games Gina Jarelli God bless your boyfriend terrific most of the time very kind but has out of the blue four unrages then acts as if nothing happened thoughts nothing out on me Gina you gonna have to get on that real quickly so what my daddy used to tell me he always used to say son in a time of peace prepare for in a time of peace prepare for so you gonna have to when he you know Ratna he calm you need to have that conversation with him tonight and you might want to have that conversation over the phone and say hey I want to talk to you about these outbursts that you have do you think you need to go to therapy or is there some else you need to do because the last time you had one that was the last one that I'm gonna be able to deal with and you got to be straight to it you got to be direct with it you got to handle that you can't deal with no type of temper tantrums and all of that how can I stop over our sleeping with other now he active in child's life but not wanting me I keep thinking about what he's doing now that he's through with me you know you got to feel it you gonna have to feel it until you heal it so process the thoughts identify with the feelings think it through think it through and get new knowledge in the process so read the books take the courses do all of that and as you getting new knowledge you gonna start to realize okay we weren't a fit we're not meant to be by you giving him your energy you blocking your blessings from meeting the one that is for you so the more you get knowledge the stronger you gonna get because what knowledge does is it's basically replacing the old thoughts it's replacing what we thought we knew and so that's why they say knowledge is power because the more you learn the more confident you become so it's that confidence that's power Samantha God bless my girlfriends invited me to a speed dating event personally I don't agree with speed dating the speed dating prepare you to socialize if you haven't been dating in quite a while well don't do anything you don't agree with me personally I would not do speed dating I don't really think it's wise to make a hasty decision to have a love minute to talk to somebody and then have to decide on whether you want to get them your number or not when the setting is rushed whereas yeah if you meet somebody in person it might not be that long but at least it's not rushed and you can ask them questions if you want to you can fill things out the other thing at most speed dating events is kind of like a different form of online dating it very it may be one real man in the event and a lot of the men might be paid actors by the by the host because the host need to make their money the event planner need to make their money so they got their cousins in there they got married men in there they got listed in the company event planning especially right now at well we're supposed to have our mask so y'all looking at each other at each other eyes blanking y'all in there trying to send signals because you got your mask on and then if not you could be on to a speedy hospital bed if you would know without the mask on and y'all doing these speed talks somebody y'all that see 19 on the crime right in your face so me personally I don't recommend it I just recommend getting out the house one old fashioned way because let your tell your friends calm down why does God bless people who live in willing sin you say he doesn't bless mess well that right there is contradictory and you know what you saying it just because something look good don't mean it's a blessing you got to understand that a snare a snare look like a blessing but it got a hook in it so when you go fishing this fish over here looking at this fish and this fish over here getting jealous oh my goodness look at that blessing this fish got fish warm up bite your bait this fish over here like oh sorry about your luck thought you had a blessing and that's what you got to realize just because you see people get a new car get a job that don't mean they got anything to do with God that don't mean they got nothing to do with God so you got to realize God don't bless mess because if God bless us in the midst of our willing sin we'll never come out of sin so that ain't you know that ain't biblical sense God ain't gonna bless nobody no sin now he'll give you the strength to come up out it he'll give you the strength to change your life and then on the other side of that change you will get you a blessing God bless you now Tex Coco hello Mr. Tony I want to know how come an insecure man is the most angry man um it's just when a man is insecure he unpredictable he's unpredictable and he's uncontrollable and he's insufferable so insecurity is why a lot of people are put in the ground meaning from that the H word H you know put in the ground lives are taken from insecurity not confidence so that's why and see the thing is is a man can take you out with his bare hands so an insecure man is prone to anger he's prone to being irrational and so you never want to get too comfortable with an insecure man because you never know what's coming when you got an insecure man you got to sleep like this which technically mean you going to die early because you ain't getting no sleep because this is how you got to sleep when you got to an insecure man and me being a man and being a former insecure man I know about it all too well and a lot of men insecure and don't know they insecure they don't think it's insecure they think it's being a man they think being controlling and being jealous and them 21 questions and all that they think that's being a man they think that mean they care about a woman and they call it territorial but it's insecurity so you got to run from that down but I need to put share in the share I need to have share one of them games winning some money with them quick hands but hey if y'all don't put the hashtag Q in front of your question share a friend to get you up out of there okay God bless you now chat this for questions now I know some people they not to this point in the video because they go to the live and they scroll it back and they watch it but the chat is live so they come in and I'm way up here and they way back down mother of five soon to be divorced four children from ex husband not dating I have my three B's six K a year constantly approached I'm guessing that six figures what I mean thinking about me with five kids and six K salary so share I'm guessing six K mean six figures well it just depend on the man one is an adjustment even one so two mean maturity so it depend on the man if the man immature he might think how much child support she getting if the man mature he he gonna say I got to really love her because he gonna have to be able to cultivate those personalities and navigate those personalities and to you know hopefully you ain't got the baby kids you all remember the cartoon baby kids and the kid was running that man crazy and so sometimes you can have baby kids and so that's something to right there when you got five kids dating really don't need to be on your mind you really need it because because you don't have love you don't experience that like you can't be thirsty to jump back in them when you got five kids that's the basketball team that's that's a starting five so you want to focus there first and a man who wanna be with you you want him to sweep you off your feet like that shouldn't be something that you focus on because as we know being parents it's one child is a handful I got two boys and it we all over place it's all you got five now you got five under 18 only the ones under 18 count as you know to the man as like your responsibilities like real responsibilities if they all under 18 then you need to pump your brakes you need to pump your brakes you need to focus on getting them schedules together make sure you know if you got to get you a nanny assistant what have you vet them background check all that do your whole nine and have your little sister have your little sister can three kids be a lot I got two and I and I got help my wife got help and it's a lot so the thing about it is what we have to realize about love and relationships is it's a gamble so that's why we're supposed to get all the knowledge we can get before we go into it because it can cost you everything and that's why I teach so much on this because it's a gamble when you're looking for love and so when we have freedom of choice but we don't have freedom of consequence so when you have children now it's time to then pause because now your life doesn't isn't about you as much as it is about them because you brought them in the world without their permission and so you got to make sure they protect it there they're secure they're prepared they set up because when you go back out if you focus on dating then you're going to be half you're going to be half good at dating and you're going to be half good at being a parent and so you got to be able to master the one before you bring in the other because the way we are today especially with all these toxic male voices out here you got a lot of men that's going to come in and they nasty so if you you don't know what he into and a lot of men so much into the nasty movies and hands a look that drive them down some roads that they could be into what you raising you catch my drill and out of seeing this with women that I know personally women out on coach to where they have multiple kids like three or more and they want to date and they so ready to date that they blinded and don't see the signs and the next thing you know the man that they're dealing with you see what I mean is out of line with what with who they raising and so you have to be able to taking you know take your time got to be able to take your time to where you know you got things managed right why do so many men lead with a meta professional guy in first class on a flight because work politics religion he invited me out and then led with literally slap him not see listen says listen don't don't ever in your life slap nobody male or female I know I know you was offended and all of that right there but you could have lost your life okay because you don't know who you're slapping if somebody gonna come out the mouth like that with you it's words sticks and stones may break my bones but words have never hurt me now it was offensive but you could have got your purse and just left because if a man crazy enough to lead with that he could be crazy enough to take you on up out of here so now you'll get took up out of here over some words so I want you to remember that because that may happen in the future you get to stuff you go about your business and then to you know if and also now next time if you meet a man in first class okay you got to some money but in first class now if talk to him on the phone you don't FaceTime with because see the thing about it is men a lot of men mine is being and the nastiness is being reinforced a lot of it being reinforced is being perpetuated like the gentleman in the dark who told men if you go on a date after after nighttime hey that right there got to be on the table so see this man had that mindset because this being reinforced this being taught so now here you is you to put physical hands on this man now if he would have put physical hands back things would have got out of hand and that man literally could have heard a message like that from the man sitting in the dark and thought that it was okay and that's why I try to tell these men we got to be careful with our messages because one guy came in my comments telling calling the man in the dark a professional man he told me I need not speak out against a professional black man because I could be sitting the wrong message to my following I say that's exactly what I'm doing is sending a message ain't the wrong message but I'm speaking out against it because it is absurd and I'm going to do that all day every day serve you don't like it then get you a ticket but that's the thing that's what I'm trying to tell these men now that could have went real bad and so understand that it's a lot of men that ain't been raised right and so you got to take your time and you got to keep your distance you got to get to know a man first before you just jump in this space and we got 25 minutes left now doesn't mean anything when a man spares a woman yeah it mean that either he it mean he got a good heart it mean he's a he's a good dude he a decent dude he feels like you're not the one and so he instead of lying to you leading your own messing up his harvest he'd say hey this not the one you're not the one you know we ought to part ways and so it mean a good dude decent dude at least how do I put my best foot forward to date right get the knowledge if you get the knowledge everything else will fall in place so get the knowledge everything else going to fall in place because you'll know what you're looking at when you see it hey I'm a 23 year old single mom with 3 year old son I am a LVN maybe you meant P N LVN I feel lost and alone any advice I don't know what LVN mean that's a nurse you're 23 years old so what you need to do is you need to get off social media unless you on here getting knowledges getting knowledge so you need to be able to go on social media go right to the channels that you know that's going to teach you something and anything out of that you need to stay off of that the reason why you feel in that way is because you comparing your behind the scenes to other people highlight real so you looking at other people your age and other people older than you and you comparing yourself to them but if you start to look within and you start to focus on you and you set your own goals and you create a plan of action toward your goals and you stop looking left and stop looking right and you focus on raising your child and you keep your eyes on the prize you're going to do wonders you're don't surprise yourself but comparison as the quote says comparison is the thief of joy I haven't told any of my days that I'll be a medical doctor when I graduate in May I want to assess insecurity level of men is that a bad thing no it's not a bad thing and I'm not really sure how you going to assess the insecurity level by not telling them you're not going to see but being a doctor is going to work in your favor and it doesn't matter how a man feel about that if he is insecure you'll see that you won't see it if you hide that status because he may he'll still show it he'll still show it now the thing about telling that you're going to be a medical doctor is that you could get you a gold digging man who don't like you but stick around because of your trajectory and see that's the thing that's the gamble of looking for love and that's what I'll try to tell the men who's saying they want to know up front before they go on a date if a woman is attracted to them sexually and I'm trying to tell these men that ain't how this works we don't know what we're going to get that's the purpose of dating see if you can hit it off to see what it's going to be ain't nobody going to come with a whole sign on their forehead on exactly how they feel about you what they think that's what I'm trying to tell these men so the same thing go for women when you go on this date and you meet these men and you tell them you know they say what do you do well I'm in school I'm in med school right now finishing up or you know residency or whatever it is okay cool well if he a doctor he might you know think that's cool on a business owner a hard working man he might think that's a cool thing and then you judge his character so the way you can tell is what you have to realize is humans can't really fake in its entirety for more than like a year so if you start dating everything going good around that year mark some signs going to start to show if not earlier how I'm a nurse now y'all doing good now we got doctors on here nurses on here six six figure earners people in first class hey y'all on here doing good my goodness I thought I would pull down the country you know I ain't no I ain't no y'all y'all it's all education I'm about to say a little education you know somebody hating on you they put love in front of it because I ain't got y'all education I'm about to call y'all education love destiny elevation God bless you God bless you I'm gonna end the live hitting the button boyfriend been divorced a year says marriage scares him now see listen I'm not all about to answer that but you see how all these successful women in him but men are rather hate they don't mean then to come on in here getting the best tribe and meet their wife they're rather call me a simp and a panderer then to come on in here and meet their wife could have a real connection to where he know this woman is in a place getting her mind fed not getting told what she want to hear getting it it's called right down the middle some stuff gon' sting it's gon' soothe it's gon' flatter a battle but it's gon' be the truth and sting or soothe but see men don't think like that they're rather go to the club get on a dating site to go to a place of substance and meet a woman of substance so to y'all fellas that just be passing by and just be being nosy just being nosy touchin' old and if you single then gon' get in the community and do your little networking might meet your wife and at least you know she ain't on no twerking channel she ain't you know she gettin' knowledge dating a man who has an exceptional personality and good qualities only setback is our conversations at a very surface level and aren't as deep as I would like can it work take the conversation deeper you know take the conversation deeper all you gotta do is ask a better question so this could hone your conversational skills you know don't just wait on a man because a man might not know how deep of a conversation you wanna have but he may be trying to walk on eggshells because it's a lot of sensitivity in our world so a lot of women are extremely sensitive like the sister who found her man got a fake TikTok she broke up with him over a social media site she just broke up with him they ain't do no coaching first they ain't have no just boom done and then the lady the man said she say she put hands on him that could have cost her her life or some piece of her health so a lot of women are sensitive so when you say you gotta this a great guy seem like but he tipped on it could be because of it's so many women on edge because it's so much toxicity in this hip world that a lot of women on edge men getting used to seeing women on edge because of these men with these messages that they putting out here that's putting women in harm's way it's putting women on edge rightfully so but you know I'm 40 and only 30 year old men professional, successful approach me why don't men my age approach me should I try dating a younger man seems like a doomed endeavor you just got to increase your exposure rate so get in some clubs get in some other associations have your little set outings get out the house at least three times a week go to this lounge go to church, go to Barnes & Noble go to Starbucks and just increase your exposure 40 year old men approaching you that's a good sign it must mean you look younger than your age it may not be as many 40 year old men in your area and a lot of them could be married a lot of them could be married so as you increase your exposure rate you going to meet other men now what I recommend is not going more than three years younger because women mature faster than men women on average are more mature than men so if you 40 you need a really mature 37 year old or a man up to 45 but when you increase that exposure it's going to increase the odds how do you stay positive in dating in that society you have to understand that where you have that message you going to have these messages over here so it's going to be a remnant of men that's doing the right thing and trying to do the right thing trying to go the right way and so you just have to keep the faith and you got to realize that that's just on social that's on social media it ain't going to permeate everywhere in society it's trying to but you have to be you got to know that it's going to be balanced to the scales and the good thing about seeing that stuff you going to learn the mindset so when you meet a man you going to pretty much know on the first date if he is of that mindset mindset and that's going to protect you you going to be able to move on about your business Zen, Chi, God bless you God bless your sister they're doing all kinds of good I met a guy on an app I live in Austin, Texas he lives in Dallas, Texas he is so sweet I love his block stutter he texts me every day though I'm 27 he is 31 so he in your age range by one year we got 13 more minutes on here he said I'm about to yawn and so listen to me you got to find the words to talk to him on the text and let him know that you okay with his block stutter that you okay and that you don't mind communicating with him and if you all are going to build something then he's going to have to be okay and trust you to understand that he has a block stutter now the thing is what you have to realize you met him on an app that's a red flag the other thing what you have to realize is sometime me and lie I remember going up to a lady in the mall when I was a single man and we had a flip phone I flipped the phone and I typed on the love in the text message area hey my name is Tony and I got a sore throat and I can't talk right now so I want to know if I can have your phone number and we can talk later when I get healthy and she looked at it and smiled, thought it was cute put a phone number in there kind of find out she got an old dope boy boyfriend I say woman, you about trying to get me don't give me your phone number woman you got this dope boy and so I had to get on and then she wanted a friend box me because she wanted her thug and I went all the way thug enough and but I was lying I was lying because she had a a tiger on her thigh and just I wasn't sure how to talk to somebody with a tiger on their thigh you know or the kitten paws or whatever I can't remember who had that on their leg that was a rapper if it would look him or somebody and so I was like no I need to come up with some other kind of game so I faked like I couldn't talk so I say that to say you know gotta keep that in mind YouTube be playing around you know how to show you how many people on here it keep flipping to one person so I don't know if that's when my service going out or what like YouTube we all stop playing on here with the nonsense not sitting out there in Palo Alto I'm trying to do my lie there out there in Palo Alto playing keep hitting the button come here come here now Amina come here they got this culture bumpkin on here let's hit the button on him and it will make it go to one and we'll see what he does you know he might just get off here cause we're trying to listen to this anyway we're trying to watch this other lie that's more interested and so they keep hitting the button and they keep going to one saying one person on here it's like YouTube I know y'all sitting out there watching the lie stop playing with the lie now out there in Palo Alto messing around with stuff child father haven't seen her since June of last year every month he make a different excuse that he have to work overtime or he have things to do what should I do Tony help well you got to shift your mindset sister to reality check bless you you got to shift your mindset to if it's meant to be it's up to me meaning that you got to see your child as 100% yours because you there instead of moderators y'all can take off now y'all can rest for the night y'all can rest we only got 9 minutes left so y'all can rest to moderators thank you so much for the help tonight really appreciate it but a lot of times it's hard when you waiting on 50 when you feel like 50 and you waiting on 50 so you got to shift your mindset and say I'm 100 I'm 100 and this on me and stop telling yourself I'm 50 and I need this other 50 in order to be complete and so you got to do that and when you do that then that mindset shift gonna make you feel 100 100% responsible and although it's not fair life ain't fair and this the situation you in so you got to make the best of the situation and stop waiting on him don't have her waiting on him you know or him I can't remember if you say you had a boy or girl and you know your child so you got to speak your child language and you know when the child ready for the truth and or you know a version of the truth how do I get in the blessed business tribe looking for tips well you in this here so under my video is you may see see perks when you click see perks it'll open up and you'll see where I say blessed tribe right up under to say blessed business tribe and so does your birth your book course teach you how to create a guided question journal if not can you do a video on the blessed business tribe I can do a video on that but the birth your book course will it won't teach you how to create it because that's your work of art so you have to make it make sense to you so my book 31 days the purpose is basically like a guided question journal to where each day is a different question and it got the lines for you to answer the question and each question the questions go in order so if I want to help you find your purpose I would say you know what would you say what are your passions and then I would say well what are your gifts a passion is what you love to do a gift is what you naturally good at you might not be passionate about though okay you told me your gifts you told me your passions now how can we marry the two and then what does that look like in the world so if you say my gift is writing my passion is writing we're going to marry the two the product is writing a book starting a blog writing a screenplay and then so I my questions guided you to where I wanted you to see what I wanted you to hear versus me just telling you so just make the questions go in order just as it makes sense in your mind and then how you you know somebody that kind of give you some feedback single mama three I'm a medical assistant and my kids share separate fathers one of the guys is keeping my daughter as a secret it's hard to explain but if you watch my video you'll understand well I know I ain't got time to watch your video and so if the question don't fit in here then I really gonna be able to help you on that right there sister so this right here so what you need to do is go to my mentor dot life my mentor dot life this right here just for a little light stuff right here that right there Jasmine that's a little that's gonna be a little heavier lifting so you got to find you a coach on mentor dot life and work with your coach and talk through that right there talk through that okay deactivated most of social media have so much peace without it will a man find this odd not at all he'll find that very good he will absolutely love that my wife didn't used to have social media and boy I loved it that I had all to myself and now she got social media and social media take up time you're just on there scrolling you're looking around and then all these random ideas coming so now I'm seeing stuff in my house and then nothing I know I see this come offline and I see this right here idea and then nothing I know this come offline so this man come to me I was at a flag football practice one of the dads come up to me he say yeah man my wife say she want to go to the Atlantis in Bahamas I say do she follow my wife on Instagram he say yeah I say we just was in the Atlantis Bahamas and my wife were posting the whole trip he said oh man that's where that come from so she doesn't see your wife over there he say I'm going home and tell her that I know where this idea come from he said I'm just sitting here wondering like why in the world out the blue she want to go to the Atlantis in Bahamas and that's how social media do us men and women but so anybody I wish I didn't have social media I wish I could get rid of this social media now listen if my audience is your demographic you come with the right pride ooh let one of these venture capitalists offer me 900,000 for my Instagram that got 900,000 people all right y'all well it was nice knowing y'all and I hope everything all the videos I put up to help you I'll be talking to y'all later do you hear me I'll be on that social media so fast but you know when you gotta reach people and that's how people know how to get in contact which you got to have it so anybody who could do without social media you got a job and your job don't deal with clients online you get a paycheck whether you got social media or not delete it delete it I'm telling you now I mean you can watch these videos but even if you need to delete these videos I ain't gonna be mad at you I ain't gonna be mad at you go about your business literally be in my head all day I learned to love God and do the work and obtain and apply with hey God bless you God bless you Lord poor out in a life that right there that's the mindset right there you can always see the lotion bottle that's different from my Asher elbows now I don't get down like that I don't get down like that I don't deal with hands a lot that's for my elbows you can always see the glass half full or you can see the glass half empty it's some women that they come and they see the message and I'm sharing the real and they say oh this just depressing me I just ain't gonna never have nobody and then some women come you know like that and some men come half full half empty so it's all about your perspective and how you see things now it's a good old game on the TV so I'm about to get on ready to call my wife and get a little bit of a game in my system hey well I'm gonna tell you what we're gonna end the Q&A I got a couple minutes I'm gonna talk to you now listen to me I'm gonna pop on here when I can get on here and Lord willing it's gonna be real I got the it's so much I'm ready to retire I'm ready to ride off into the sunset I'm ready to do something different but it's so the toxicity getting so loud that I realize I can't come down from this work right now that I got to keep doing the work because if I shut up the scale's gonna be so unbalanced and it's a few other you know men out here that's trying to help me out and talk some sense so I got to stay in it so I could help them so we could balance these scales because we have a lot of we got a lot of toxicity going on we got a lot of nonsense going on but I sure been thinking about opening me some other businesses and doing something else and jazz go boy look here this here do get draining but I say you know what the Lord gave me rest yet the work got to be done so I'm gonna keep doing the work the best of my ability and I really appreciate you to the men and the women to the fellas who be being quiet but supporting I appreciate you somebody asked that today and let me explain that before I go now let me explain that before I go somebody asked that the lady sent me a clown a clown video and remember what I told y'all remember what I told you the circus will always have a larger following than the classroom because a clown is more entertaining than a teacher remember that but the lady sent me a video of a clown and he talking about you know why y'all think it ain't a lot of men that follow and support Tony Gaskins and he said another brother name but the other brother name he said he don't even know that I'm going on 15 years of marriage the other brother Jeff was called in a scandal cheating on his wife we not the same we are not the same but the reason why a lot of men don't support me is because my message is exposing men in the dark so what men doing in the dark I'm bringing it to the light so if a man is not ready to grow my light is too bright so it's kind of like a demon running from a righteous spirit that demon don't want to approach a righteous spirit because spirits repel so when I come with a light a man in the dark who trying to stay in the dark gonna run the other way the only men who gonna support me are men who trying to go into the light with me and that's what you got to understand so men think that because it ain't a lot of men being vocal about my message and sharing my message that that mean that my message ain't to help men no the men who be here a lot of time they listen in silence and they growing and they learning in the dark to come into the light and they being healed and they working on themselves and they being quiet and the reason why a lot of times men don't want to share nothing is because it is uncomfortable for a man to speak up for women and for a man to say let's be fair let's be honest let's walk in love let's not take advantage that's such an uncommon message that most men are afraid to carry that message if they not directly being benefited from it now if I told men ay come go on tour with me ay come do this with me and they saw where they saw dollar signs and they thought oh this might be some money in this and all kind of men come out the woodwork and that's what we got today that's why we got the guys who talk about relationships this so many of them they talking about it the wrong way and on the wrong side but they doing it because they think they gonna make a lot of money and not realizing they gonna realize in a lot of money in this it really ain't no money in it not if you really trying to be set up you really trying to be comfortable you gonna have to have other businesses I got over 50 streams of income I know that though because I'm not a business coach so I don't teach on that I stay in my land and I serve my purpose but my money come from all different kind of ways I had 13 companies at one time and have to try to downsize them and try to consolidate a couple of companies that could fit under one umbrella but I had 13 companies at one time because God thinking I'm on line just getting wealthy off of relationship talk I'm trying to create generational wealth talking about love and relationships but see that's the ignorance of some men that they had so far up they behind and they don't want to grow and learn so they just want to hate and the thing about it is men so territorial because like I say if a man is insecure they gonna think that supporting another man make that other man look better than them whereas a real man gonna say if this man talking about something that I can't talk about something that I don't know a whole lot about then I'm gonna support him in that lane right here and then I'm gonna do me in my lane right here and so if I see a guy talking about something I don't know much about I'm gonna go watch his videos hit the like button, hit the subscribe button and I'm gonna support him in his lane and then I'm gonna stay in my lane and do me but the thing is when a man taking and elevating when a man is elevating a manhood when he elevating and going to another level if a man wanna stay mediocre then he fears greatness he fears a man elevating he fears a man cutting out vices and getting over things that's holding him back and so what happens is a lot of men will say well hey if this man represents this and represents this and represents this he may represent a better version of a man than I do I don't promote him because I don't want my girlfriend or my wife to see him and see what he represents a manhood because I don't know if it's real and I don't really believe it's real because I don't believe in men and this is what he telling himself he's saying that he's never seen honest men the fact that men have never so sold for my whole career all I have read from guys is he's doing that but he doing that to get H.O.S he doing that to get P and that's all guys would say and the reason being is because but they're not realizing is that that is a testament to how few real men that we've seen in our life that we can't look at another man and see another man as a good man we got to see every man who claims to be doing something positive as a scam artist and what happened is we have men who got a whole lot of knowledge but they've been turned over to a reprobate mind so they've been turned over to the devil and so they go to they talk about all of this black people stuff black people stuff black people stuff but then they overcharging for courses they overcharging for consultation they getting people money and they scamming people so they start saying hey I'm building a school they raise millions of dollars and they never break ground on those schools so now here go these men who are doctors and philosophers and all of this they doing all this talk they doing all this talk and so other men look and say hey this man over here doing all this talk he raising millions of dollars talking about he doing the school I ain't even seen now piece of land bought I ain't seen no ground broke so this man over here Tony Gaston must be a fraud and then he see the pastor in his city get caught in adultery he see the relationship coach get caught in adultery his daddy walked out on his mama his brother put hands on his sister on his girl he done put hands on his girl he got multiple baby mama so he done cheating on every woman he done dealt with so when he look at himself and he look at the man he know he does not see examples of real manhood so therefore when he see a real man he can't believe that it's a real man because he hasn't seen enough examples of a real man so that's why a lot of men don't support other positive men and ironically the men who are positive who get support it's because they're not challenging men in the areas that men are most weak in so you see I seen a brother who he calling himself pan-African and he wearing he born in America but he wearing the dashikis or whatever you call him and he calling himself pan-African and he doing all of this talk he attacking the white man but then the next thing you know it's all these text message and all this stuff release or him sleeping with all these strip him sleeping with strip him in and out with strip and so it's like all this knowledge and all this energy toward the white man but can't take none of that energy and put it to self-discipline in the bedroom and in a relationship preaching black, black, black, black, black but can't find a black woman and treat her like a black queen instead treating black women like peasants and then some of these men who doing all this talk about economics and all of this right here and black, black, black, black want to get black women and then have two, three, four girlfriends two, three, four wives and black want to talk about black empowerment while they breaking the back of black women and so when they see somebody like me who represent who represent a one woman man who is loving this woman the way Christ Lord of church that name Jesus Christ they fear that name because when you have a spirit in you that is in opposition to a righteous spirit you going to fear the name of Christ demons shutter and shake and run when they hear the name of Christ and so when they hear me say the name of Christ they get so scared because they know my light going to expose the darkness that's in them and so they run to these other gods and they run to these other religions that's going to pacify and condone their irresponsibility and that's going to give them the right to have multiple wives or multiple girlfriends and have no consequences have no regulations have nothing to ask them to sacrifice in the areas where they most weak and so that's the thing so you got all these men black power, black power, black power and then breaking the back of their own black women but want to talk about black power my black power is in uplifting my black woman and loving her and loving Christ love the church that's when I'm going to show you my black power at first and then raising my black sons that's when I'm going to show you my black power at first before I go get out in the street and march I'm going to take care of home first but see it's a lot of men they going out in the street and marching but they ain't taking care of home and so they ain't taking care of home and then the next thing you know it's like okay well what the world going on and that's what we got to realize and uh we're not arguing about the bible and don't get blocked on here trying to argue about no bible because we ain't even said nothing about no bible we talking about black men and how black men treat treat they black women but yet talking about black this, black that, black that and it's like black wall street you first need to take care of black main street meaning your household and you got you a woman that you loving and you cherishing and you treating like a queen then you can go out and talk about a wall street but what does it gain what do we gain to gain the world and lose our soul what do we gain to have all of this externally and not be able to take care of our temple internally and understand that okay Gloria and you got the preface what are you saying now because while I'm on here talking you just can't be posting stuff without no preface you got to have preface on there y'all know y'all know I won't be playing now you know got to preface that put a whole full sentence on there so listen that's why you don't see a lot of okay thank you Gloria that's why you don't see a lot of men that support me because I get it I'll be honest with you it's hard for me to support me it's hard for me to support me and the reason why it's hard for me to support me is because I have to challenge myself every day I'm crunching my toes every day I am checking myself every day I got to grow every day my flesh wants to talk any kind of way to my wife to do everything that every other man is promoting your flesh always gonna want you to go to the OU but I got to consecrate my spirit daily and I got to step on my toes daily so every day I wake up and say Lord why did you call me to this why you couldn't call me to finances like Dave Ramsey Lord why you couldn't call me to build the houses you know why I couldn't be a fisherman like Lord why you call me to confront the area that men struggle with the most that I struggled with in my life the most and the Lord remind me I turned Saul who was a persecutor of Christians into Paul who end up writing 13 books in the Bible and so that's when I realized that God will use us in the areas where we struggle the most and so people always try to discredit people who have gone through something for teaching about it they try to discredit it that's why I say you know if you're single and you don't went through a divorce teach about why you went through that divorce and what you did wrong instead of teaching the opposite you know teach about what you did wrong and so we have to understand that and that's why it's a battle and so guys I'm gonna tell you I remember walking through the airport in a Charlotte do you know I have never it's so many men that recognize me even with my mask on that let me know how hard men be looking at me online that they recognize me with my mask on that is the gift of a woman a woman could recognize if I had on some my whole face cover a woman to be like oh that look like Tony have line painting on Tony Tony Gaskin that's how women be do you know it's men that I be walking the other way and they'll be like hey Tony Gaskin I ain't telling you no lie and every single man I done met have come up to me and say hey man you ain't told now lie but you ain't lie at all I have never had a man meet me in person and tell me hey you know you're lying you know you're lying and you know you're wrong you pandering never every man I have ever met the only man who have something to say be online be online when I meet men in person they ask me for a picture they say man my wife gonna love this or man my girlfriend gonna love this or man my sister think it's gonna be blown away can I take a picture with you hey man you be telling the truth man I don't be wanna hear it I don't be wanna hear it man keep doing what you doing that's what I hear from men but online men want to look tough and cool for other men so if a man is saying hey you need to get one woman you need to be 100% faithful to that woman then a man gonna say a man can't support that a man can't retweet that can't repost that unless he in the dog house with his woman that's when I get most of my support from men when they trying to get out the dog house very rarely I have a handful of men who not in the dog house who gonna support me publicly and openly because they man enough to not be jealous to not be insecure to not be in competition and that's how they you know that's how they'll be the reason why I don't get the opportunity to support other men because I'm working because I'm in the field I'm doing the work if a man not doing this work then he watching other people do the work and he doing his work in his lane so the men who they doing their work in their lane and it's not my lane I support those men I'm on their channels subscribing I'm liking you know I'm sharing it with my clients and I'm gonna support that and so that's all it be so rewind this screen recorded and anytime you see one of these men and this type of men is just clowns you know I try not to name call but any type of men is clowns and it's like come on man use common sense it's like every man know why men don't support a message like mine because it's exposing the darkness but it ain't a man in the world that can tell me how to say it's something wrong that me saying that we need to have strong relationships we need to be faithful to each other we need to raise our kids in the home loving and caring and showing them the right way that me showing that that me saying that ain't nothing wrong with that ain't a man in the world that can say oh that don't make sense we need to cheat on each other we need to have open relationships that don't make no sense to be faithful and to be monogamous and to raise your kids the right way and be good example man that don't make no sense man what you talking about is being quiet or their rather hate and that point playing period and that's why I got to be louder because one thing about it if a hater gonna hate I'm gonna give you something to hate now I'm finna put my foot on your neck now if the devil mad I'm finna stomp on my I'm not finna take it easy on the devil or you wanna get loud or you wanna bark or you got something to say oh I'm finna be even louder I'm finna disrupt your game every single woman you taking advantage of and playing with finna be on to your game finna be at your life you finna be at home by yourself with a bottle of Jurgens and your little subscription to your website taking care of yourself with Hangella that's all I'm finna leave you left with since you wanna jump bad and have my name in your mouth and go to talking about this and that and yappity yapp cause you don't wanna see us advance you don't wanna see us grow because you're working for the devil so listen, I'm finna leave you out here starving I'm finna expose the darkness I'm finna shout so much truth you start to throw up at your mouth you're just throwing up them demons you're throwing up them spirits I'm finna have you sick to the stomach when you go to sleep you gonna hear my message in your head it's gonna chase you it's gonna run behind you you not gonna be able to get away from a message you gonna turn on the radio you gonna hear my message you gonna turn on the TV you gonna hear my message every woman you meet she gonna be listening to a message from a real man cause we finna shift this thing we finna get a devil of black eye we finna turn her up on his head so guess what I was land dormant I was hibernating but now you don't woke up a sleeping giant and now I'm finna come out there with a conviction from he who sent me I'm finna be turning over tables just like his son did so listen to me thank you thank you for having my name in your mouth thank you for calling me out thank you for waking me up thank you for reigniting what God said in me in 2007 thank you on bike and you gonna feel me boy we finna set captives free we finna have a healthy relationship we finna have a whole relationship we finna have real love we finna have faithfulness we finna have kids being raised the right way everything finna shift everything finna change watch what I tell you the work bout to get done hey this is Tony gas and God bless you I went over 20 minutes God bless you all watch this hill bike if you missed any of it and thanks again to the moderators and a blessing on hill thank you to the person that sent me that cash out too share posted my cash out I really appreciate that share hey God bless you all and we'll talk soon we'll talk soon it's up right here I gotta say this right here