 What's going on, you guys? Abundant mindset. This is something that you've probably heard of and probably why you clicked on this video in the first place. If you've ever been told that, hey dude, the reason why you're not doing well with women is because you don't have an abundance mindset, you have a scarcity mindset, then this video is for you. Because I remember people used to tell this to me all the time and it was very frustrating for me because I didn't have an abundance of women that were wanting to get with me. I had zero women that wanted to get with me. When you're walking through life and you don't have a whole lot of options, how do you become somebody that is going to get those options or feels like they can get those options by having that mindset, which is really some of the keys to being a confident guy that women are really attracted to. Women don't want a guy that doesn't have options, doesn't feel like he has options. They want a guy who has options but chooses them. When you're in a position of scarcity where you feel like no women are into you, you feel lonely, you feel unloved, it's very difficult to create that mindset. I'm going to give you a step-by-step process that I give my clients that worked for me and was able to change my life into the way that I wanted it to be, which is to have an amazing dating life, which is hopefully what you guys are trying to do when you're watching this video. I'm going to talk a little bit about my story and I'm going to give you three ways that you can start doing that in your own life today. All right, cool. Let's talk about my story before I get into the three ways. The three ways basically, they come down to three main points and I went through I guess a trajectory on it. They're more or less in chronological order, but when I first started this, I think I remember when I was in college or after college, immediately after college and even some bits after that, there was times where I had an incredible scarcity mindset. I really felt like there was no one out there that I would be interested in that would be interested in me as well too. I just didn't think that that was going to happen. A lot of the reason for this was because number one, my behaviors and number two, my negative mindset associated with the whole dating process. I had negative mindset towards women. I had a negative mindset towards a lot of different things in my life that just made it impossible for me to be successful. If you're watching this video, changes are you probably have some of those things going on. I'll challenge those in a bit. What happened was that when I would go out and when I would try to meet people, I would end up either having them not be interested in me at all or maybe I would get one. I remember when I was going out a lot, I would maybe get one woman that I was interested in like a month or something like that. This is me going out every single week, like a few times a week, I would maybe get one and once I met her, I would immediately scare her off. Maybe we would text for a little bit. We were going like one day or something like that, but my neediness, my just like incredible amount of scarcity mindset drove them away immediately once they started talking to me because they realized they're like, oh my God, this is the only person I'm the only person that he feels like he's got a chance with. And so as a result, they would run for the hills immediately. So how did I change my mindset from that? Well, over time, you know, just by going out on that, you can kind of like bulldoze your way through this if you really want to, but I don't want you to because it takes too long. You know, I eventually started to change my mindset slowly, but surely I went through the steps that I'm going to give you now. And eventually I got to the place that I am today, which is, you know, someone who really has an abundance of options, really feels like he's a guy worth talking to, really feels like he's a guy worth dating. And as a result, I get more than 80% of the results with less than 20% of the efforts, but the numbers are probably skewed even higher because of that. So what was the first thing that I did to change? First thing that I did to change is your first tip is I realized the reality of the situation. Most of you guys have some warped expectations of what your life should look like and what it's actually going to be when things are going well. OK, most guys out there do not have women flaunting all over them. Most guys out there do not have, you know, an incredible dating life. Most guys just have like a pretty normal thing, probably similar to what you have or more similar than what you think. So one of the reasons why I was in a scarcity mindset and what a lot of my clients are is they assume that, you know, all the other guys are doing well or all the guys that they look up to and, you know, on social media or whatever, their friends are just doing incredible. I'll give you a little clue about guys. Guys talk a big game, but most of them don't have nearly as big of a game as they talk themselves up to have. Even the celebrities that you see. If you saw their lives, you probably wouldn't be as impressed as you do have it in your head right now. OK, so the reality of the situation is most guys do not have nearly as many women flaunting over them as you probably think. So once you understand that and you understand that women take, that women go through like kind of a different process than men go through. So a lot of times I'll have guys that think they have no women that are interested in them, but I'll look at what's going on with them. And I'm like, you, dude, these girls are all interested in you, bro. You're just expecting them to sleep with you immediately or you're expecting them to like doing these incredible things that they're just not going to do right away. Women take time. And so once you relax and you have reliance in yourself, those opportunities come about a lot more because you're not messing them up by thinking that they're not into you and you're just like, you know, destroying the opportunity that's available. So there's usually a lot more opportunities that they're not even seeing by not realizing the reality of the situation. So stop comparing yourselves to people on social media and your friends and things like that because in reality they're probably not doing nearly as well as they claim to be. I mean, social media is literally just a marketing tool for people trying to pretend how cool they are. So if you go by stuff like that, there's no surprise that you're going to be someone who is in a scarcity mode all the time. Number two, once you realize the reality of the situation, you're all cut from the same cloth, start giving yourself credit for the little things. I have a guy who is in very high scarcity mode, one of my clients, and he's developing an abundance mindset. The difference between him in a scarcity mindset and the difference between one of my clients who's in an abundance mindset or someone like me is very stark. But the results actually aren't that different. For instance, they'll go to a social event or something like that and they'll see a lot of pretty girls and maybe they'll talk to a few of them. Now the guy who is in the scarcity mindset will talk to a few of them and maybe some of them will talk back to him. He might not get a phone number and then he'll walk away feeling deflated, feeling like nobody likes me, I couldn't even get a phone number. The dating is hopeless, blah, blah, blah. He's telling him all these negative things. He comes away from that event thinking he's a failure and as a result he feels that he is a failure as well too. Now the abundance mindset guy might go to the same event, might talk to a lot of different women, might even not get a phone number. But what that guy will do is he'll walk away thinking like, you know, that girl when she was talking to me, she smiled, she liked me. That kind of cool confidence that isn't so based off of these like minute results that you're getting that really develops into the abundance mindset. And what usually happens with that guy with the abundance mindset is maybe he talked to one of those women earlier, they ended up liking him, they liked his energy and even though they didn't give his phone number, they didn't give him their phone number at the time, maybe they see him later at a party and then they hit it off. But the guy in the scarcity mode, because he was so negative towards it, he assumes that person doesn't like him. If he's caught with that same situation, he'll mess it up, okay? Abundance mindset guy can have the same results but have a completely different mindset when it occurs, okay? So start developing that, that's how you develop confidence and then longer term, your results are going to be incredible. Remember I said that women can take a little bit longer time than men do. That's part of the reason why abundance mindset guys tend to do so much better. And number three, I took consistent action, all right? So if you're a guy who's in scarcity, chances are you're probably not taking as many actions as the guy who's in the abundance mindset, okay? The abundance mindset guy is happy to go out, he's happy to go to those social events. The scarcity mindset guy thinks, what's the point? I'm not going to meet anyone I like. I'm not going to meet anyone who likes me, all right? Abundance mindset guy feels like there's opportunities all around him and so he's excited to take those opportunities, okay? Now, if you are in scarcity mindset, start acting like you are in the abundance mindset by taking the opportunities available to you. Go out more. If you're just swiping on dating apps, that's better than nothing. But most guys that I find that only swipe on dating apps are not getting the dating life that they want, okay? Most guys, and if you're most guys and you're just on dating apps, you're probably not experiencing the dating life that you want. So what I recommend that you do is get out and start doing things where you can meet women. You don't have to go out to bars and clubs if you don't like them, but you can go to things that you enjoy doing where you're going to meet women there, okay? And again, don't go in with the attitude where it's like, oh, I went to one event, didn't find anyone that I liked or no one liked me and then you give up, okay? That's the scarcity mindset. Come with the abundance mindset, okay? Now, if you have, if you've started to do these things over time where you're going to start to see, is you're going to start to see your mindset shift once you realize the reality of the situation that we're all cut from the same clock, people aren't doing nearly as well as you think they are. And number two, you give yourself credit for the small wins over time. You start building confidence as opposed to tearing yourself down. And then number three, you're going out and taking actions consistently. That's the recipe that I recommend for all of my clients to start developing an abundance mindset. Now, obviously I don't know what's going on with their situation, so this is something that I work on with my programs and if you want to check out some of those, I'd recommend you sign up for one of my free trainings, but in general, this is something I help out with my clients every day. It's something that I was able to do in my own life. So thanks for watching, guys. If you have any questions about this, put them in the comment section below. Tell me where you are on your journey, what things helped you develop an abundance mindset. Thanks a lot and good luck out there.