 Hello, family. Welcome again to another NARC Survivor Live video. In this one, we're going to be talking about how all narcissists end up losing. Because, yes, they may be able to manipulate you in the beginning and create this facade as though they have something of value to bring to you. But you end up being the one who is bringing all of the value to them as they lie to you and they future fake and it gets to a point where they're just unable to sustain it. They can't make it last. Everything they touch falls apart. While everything you touch turns to gold, but when they're leaching off you, they're draining you, even you can't sustain them. Even if there was a perfect person walking the earth, they would not be able to sustain the narcissist because they have a void that can never be filled. They will never feel whole or complete and you may have felt complete before you got involved with them, but that's exactly what they do. They bring you down. The whole point of this disorder and why it's such a problem, not only for the victims but also for the narcissists themselves, it's that it's characterised by denial and their disorder does not allow them to produce long-term success. So it may look like they manipulated and exploited you. Maybe they got what they wanted from you and then they got bored, they ran off, they moved on to someone else. Well that's how it may seem and they will try to portray it that way but it never lasts for long and it's because of their narcissism. They want to be in a position of authority. They want to have power and control over you when they don't have the qualities, the abilities, the experience to even be in that position to begin with. So it's like they want to be the captain of the ship but they don't even know how to steer it and when that ship goes down, they're not going to want to go down with it. They will jump ship and they may have jumped shipped with you. At some point they get bored of using the false character and when that goes, everything else goes along with it and that included you. They stopped using that false character that they were using to manipulate you so then they've got to get rid of you as well because the whole point of that false character was to serve you. It served no other purpose other than that and this is what they do. They create these false characters to appeal to their victims to reflect back to you your own qualities and virtues while knowing fully well that they are about that at all and they go from person to person using these false characters until the point where it begins to fall apart and where it falls apart is when you just can't do it anymore. You get tired, you get fed up, you just can't keep giving and giving and getting nothing back in return and the relationship it's always just this one sided transaction where you're having to give all of your time, attention, energy and focus to them and you're getting nothing back in return other than lies and future faking but then it gets to a point where you can't sustain them and that's how they all end up losing because no matter who they get involved with just as it happened with you that same thing is going to happen again I mean you just got to think most people they're not going to be as tolerant as you were they're not going to be as patient with the narcissist they're not just going to keep giving and giving they're not going to be as kind, loving and empathetic so what type of person do you think they're going to run into after you? of course it's going to be someone who can't sustain them at even a fraction of the level of what you are doing they're not going to find anyone like you ever again they're not going to find another empath but in all honesty a lot of them don't even care they're quite comfortable with their own kind they prefer to be surrounded by other fake people and if you look back you will notice once you started to see beneath their mask you saw what they were really about they began to feel very uncomfortable around you yes they feel uncomfortable around anyone real and anyone who expects them to be themselves instead of allowing them to wear this mask so that should already tell you where they're going to be next if they have discarded you because they've got to be around people who at the very least fall for their mask if you don't fall for their mask you won't want anything to do with you unless you feel comfortable around them and you're only going to feel comfortable around them if you're the same if you're just as fake as they are if you're not it's going to cause all sorts of anxiety for them they're going to feel triggered there isn't even one example of any narcissist who didn't end up losing they all go down in the end they all end up miserable they all experience failure and just look at it through the timeline of your relationship with them that's typically how it goes throughout their entire lives it starts off with the love bombing before you know it they devalue in you and then they discard you during the love bombing phase you're doing everything you can to make them happy to sustain them but no matter what you do it's never enough and before you know it because they're so insecure they end up devaluing you putting you down making you self-conscious or the while you're trying to boost them up you're trying to make them feel better about themselves but it doesn't work that way no amount of praise or compliments will ever be enough because that's meant to come from within we're meant to validate ourselves but they're so externally focused they're always locking outside of themselves for someone to complete them but no person on earth is ever going to be able to do that and in all honesty no one would want to this is why they use a false character it's why they manipulate us because if you knew exactly who they were from the very beginning and you didn't fall for their manipulation you would have left right at the start you wouldn't have wanted anything to do with them and they know that because they've experienced it before they were abandoned by their parents in childhood they have these unmet emotional needs and this is why their attention whores they constantly seek an attention and validation from whoever will give it to them but no matter what you do it is never enough because they have these unmet emotional needs from childhood so they can't regulate themselves they can't validate themselves they require an external regulator external validation but no matter what you do they're always going to end up devalming you and putting you down because it gets to a point where you see through their mask you no longer fall for their games and then it resurfaces their insecurities they start to feel very insecure around you and then they start devalming you they start putting you down so even when they have a perfect source of supply which is what you may have been to them even when they've got that it's only a matter of time until they begin to devalue and degrade it until they seek to destroy it because you're reflecting back to them how they're not good enough how their mask, their false character isn't even real so even though you may be there trying to sustain them trying to make them happy they're going to turn against you they're going to see you as their opposition as their competitor because they feel inferior to you they feel beneath you they feel less than you and that is why they want to bring you down that is why they want to pull you beneath them and this is the problem for a lot of us we need to understand this truth that all narcissists end up losing throughout their lives and in every relationship and if you were aware of this at the very beginning you could have dodged a bullet you could have got out before you got in too deep but unfortunately you didn't know if you had known then you would have laughed at the very beginning or if you could have, you never would have even met them but you didn't know and yet the crazy thing is this arrogance, this sense of entitlement that they have it comes from them manipulating people it comes from their past success of manipulation getting one over on people making people believe something that isn't even true giving them a deceptive outward appearance yes they base their success on that on something that isn't even real something that doesn't even exist so of course you can see how they are bound to fail because they're basing their success on something that doesn't even exist on something that they've never experienced any real success with because how can you experience success with something that isn't even real a false character that you're using to manipulate people and yet that's exactly what they do and it gives them this arrogance this false sense of superiority when in fact as I've said it before narcissists are losers they have nothing of value to bring to you and that's why when you get involved with them you feel like you've been robbed you feel like something is missing and the reason for that is because you're giving out they're manipulating you into feeding this void into giving your time, attention, energy and focus to something that doesn't even exist because that's the only way that they can get it they can't get it by being real if they were real you wouldn't want anything to do with them you would have left them right at the start but if you knew this right at the start you could have grey rocked you could have shut off your emotions cut off the supply and those of you if you have been skilled enough to recognize a narcissist before you got deeply involved with them I don't think many of you may have been able to do that but in my experience I can say that yes in fact I have so I can talk from experience in that if you do withhold your emotional reactions and you don't give them their supply here's what will happen you will keep your energy you will win you won't feel like you've been robbed you will still feel strong you will still feel powerful and that relationship will not last very long if you want to detect a narcissist all you've got to do is withhold your attention and validation because that's all they're looking for and that's really what separates them from the rest of us they come around you only for narcissistic supply and if you just cut that off from the very beginning they will leave you alone very quickly because they cannot be around a powerful person a person who is in control of themselves and their emotions which is why whenever you get involved with someone new this is exactly what you need to do maintain your source of strength and power withhold your emotional reactions and watch what happens do they stick around are they able to remain in your presence when you're not feeding them if they are then that means they don't have a void that means they're able to generate their own energy and emotions from within but if they don't that means that something is very wrong because a normal person shouldn't be so heavily dependent on your emotional reactions they shouldn't need supply and that will reveal to you if this person, this character that you are dealing with is real because if it's real it's going to be generated from within they're going to be able to sustain themselves they're not going to need your energy they're not going to need your emotional reactions they're not going to need narcissistic supply and this is how you know that the person you are dealing with the narcissist they're all going to end up losing because they can't generate their power or energy from within they have to get it from you and if you cut that off you cut off the supply you shut off your emotional reactions and you grey rock you're observed but you don't absorb they won't be able to remain around you they might go straight from the love-bombing to devaluing you and people talk about how the devaluation phase doesn't come in until at least after a few days maybe a few weeks in some cases even a few months actually no a narcissist can devalue you on the same day that you first meet within five minutes this is a test that you can do don't give any supply don't feed them don't give them your energy watch how they react because a normal person if you're not dealing with a narcissist they're not going to go from love-bombing to devaluing you if anything they're going to become more empathetic more affectionate that's how you know that you're dealing with a real person who can generate their own power and energy from within that's how you know that you're dealing with someone like that you're dealing with the real thing but when it's someone who you don't give into their demands you don't give them what they want you don't give them your energy and emotions and they turn on you they get mad they get angry they start devaluing you putting you down making you feel small that person doesn't even exist they're fake because they can't sustain themselves from within but narcissists are actually quite comfortable around other people like that other people who are fake other people who can't even sustain them because they have no power or energy that they can generate from within yes, narcissists are quite comfortable around other people like that just like their family, look at their friends they're all fake they live this facade and you may know that from your own family if you come from a family of narcissists just look at how they're all born together over your destruction and you're scapegoated yes, they're quite comfortable around other fake people people who have nothing to give to them and yet they alienate you they turn against you the one person in that environment who is actually real the one person who can generate their power and energy from within and it's crazy when you think about it but this is exactly how it is and of course knowing this it makes perfect sense that yes all narcissists end up losing and this is why you should know that if you were involved with a narcissist and they devalued you, they discarded you they ran off to someone else you've just dodged a bullet because if you thought it was bad up until that point it could have been a lot worse they could have got a lot more out of you but this is how you get out of it before it gets to that point take away your emotions observe yes, this person is trying to manipulate me they're trying to get a reaction they're trying to get their narcissistic supply but just shut it off watch how they react that will tell you everything you need to know it will tell you what type of person you're dealing with because in this world that we live in most people are narcissistic statistics show that only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths so when you cut off that supply you stop feeding into them that's going to tell you what is at the core the essence of their being because if you're not giving your power and energy to them and they can still exist they can still remain around you no doubt that you were dealing with a person of substance you were dealing with something real because otherwise it doesn't make any sense a narcissist cannot exist in that space they can't exist in an environment where they are not being validated where their false self is not being upheld where they feel like they've got some type of power over you that's the only environment that they can exist in they've got to feel like they've got some advantage some power over you they can't humble themselves they can't be modest they can put in a show and act like they are but even then that's still just for admiration but if you're not giving any power or energy to it then the show has to come to an end they can't sustain it they've got to walk off the stage so when you're dealing with someone and you're not validating anything you're not giving your power or energy to it and they're still good they're still okay they're not devaluing you they're not discarding you they're still there that's real what you have there is real and this is how you know but you look back at your relationship with the narcissist they were just constantly sucking you dry draining you of everything you had your time, energy, money and resources and this is how you know that they can't sustain themselves this is how you know that whatever situation they get into they're not going to be able to sustain it they're not going to experience long-term success in anything because they're not independent they need an external regulator they need narcissistic supply and even when they get it they end up destroying the person 313 live viewers and only 40 thumbs-ups if you're finding this video helpful please hit that thumbs-up button down below to show your support but yes, this is really how it is they all end up losing they all end up going down in the end and that's just the only way that it could ever be for them it doesn't matter what type of narcissist you're dealing with no narcissist ever wins I've said it before and I will say it again love always wins in the end and you can win right from the beginning before you even get into it and how do you do that? you do it by loving yourself because if you love yourself they just can't even be around you because they're very insecure they don't love themselves and we only love people who do love themselves that's what attracts us we just got pulled into this image this false character of a person who is confident who does love themselves they gave us a reflection of ourselves we fell in love with ourselves because they don't really love themselves at all they're actually very insecure but this is how you know that despite all of the manipulation and gaslighting you do love yourself because if you didn't, you wouldn't have fallen for that false character that illusion of self-love narcissists are very insecure they don't love themselves they hate themselves and when you stop validating the false image then they start hating you they hate people who try to love them and try to help them people who could actually care about them those are the types of people who they hate so of course where do you think they're gonna end up where do you think they're gonna go things aren't gonna turn out very well for them if they rejected you they discarded you they discarded someone who actually cared that is a very impulsive reckless person because when you're around someone who cares you should hold on to them for your life but of course you care because you care about yourself you love because you love yourself and that makes them feel inferior it makes them feel very insecure so then they have to devalue you and even discourage you so they can't be around anyone who loves themselves anyone who actually cares about themselves anyone who has any self-respect they run from that especially when you are aware of these traits within yourself anyway that's all I've got to say for this one if it was helpful you can give it a thumbs up down below to show your support let me know your thoughts in the comment section hit subscribe, click all notifications if you'd like to book a one-on-one with me go to my website it is NARC-survivor.co.uk follow me on Instagram it is NARC-survivor YouTube and if you'd like to donate you can leave a super thanks or a super chat or you can go to my PayPal it is PayPal.me.NARC-survivor thank you all for watching and as always I look forward to speaking with you in another NARC-survivor live video very soon