 What's happening? What is translation? I see she says you are completely different. Whatever. Nice to meet you. I don't know your names, but you're cool. Okay, go on. Should I have a break? Gosh, thank you. I'm glad you're here. Let's go. Taking a long time. Yeah, we shouldn't hurry. Sorry. Why don't you get a lap? You should like your lip when you play. You're gonna get stuck that way. It's a lovely way. You have to stop doing it now. You can sit down, you can text. You know? Down, text. Don't worry. One, two, two, ten. Two, two. Can we try again? I can't hear my toes speak. How about now? One, two. Let's just get started. We used to play this part a real game, Nina. I was reported one month ago. Two stories. I mean, if you imagine that I'm this tall. I have an almond shape. I have a little bit darker skin. And very, very long black hair. And then you join. And a voice of an angel. I did it on her. Okay. I finally... Hello. Hi. How are you tonight? Hello. Hi everybody. So my name is Kami. And I'm a working mother. And I'm really happy to be here tonight with all of you. Because tonight we are going to be speaking about some of my favorite subjects. We will be speaking about women. Yes? We will be speaking about opportunities for women. We're going to be talking a little bit about traveling the world and making your dreams come true. And most importantly, we will be speaking about women helping other women. And before I tell you my story, I would like it very much. There's a lot of you here tonight. That makes me very happy. So I would like it very much if we could all of us share this experience about love. So let me see. I can't see all the way to the back. I'm gonna... Can I ask you all to please close your eyes? Just for a few seconds. Please close your eyes. Thank you. Okay. So now I want you to imagine that you are five years old. You're at home. You're in the kitchen. And the whole kitchen smells like warm milk and cinnamon and just a touch of strawberry jam. And I want you to look over to the stove and you're gonna see someone there. It is a woman. And she's stirring in a pot. She looks at you and she smiles lovingly. And then she's gonna walk over and she's gonna pour this rich, creamy, delicious rice milk into your favorite bowl. And she leans in. She kisses you on the forehead and she tells you, Be careful honey. It's hot. Picture this woman. Picture her truly. And now picture her walking out the door to go to work. You're five years old. You're all alone in the house. And your rice milk is cold. You can open your eyes now. Thank you very much for sharing this with me. So for me, and let's face it, for how many of you not working was simply never an option. And my children were always lucky enough to still have that person by their side to kiss them on the forehead and tell them, Be careful honey. It's hot. And that person, ladies and gentlemen, she's here with us tonight. Her name is Joy and she is my guardian angel. So let's welcome her on stage Joy. Can you please join me? Can we all give a warm round of applause for Joy? Warmer. We opened our first business, a beauty parlor. We used to have four Romanians for beauty and we had one Filipina for massage. Every single evening, six o'clock on the dot, all of the Romanians would just drop everything and disappear. Nobody knew where they went. In the meantime, the Filipina would be in her room. She was praying for clients. She was praying for prosperity and she was nice and quiet, well behaved and extremely punctual. So as you can imagine, when we opened our domestic helper agency, we didn't hire any more Romanians. We got four Filipinas instead. And now we have five, four for the business and I have one for the home. So let's just say, let's just say for a second that you are interested in hiring a Filipina to be your own personal domestic helper. And the question is, how do I choose, right? Well, first of all, don't choose a woman who doesn't have her own children. No, they don't miss them. I mean, they get used to it and seriously with Skype and Facebook and all these gadgets we've got nowadays. You really get to miss anybody and enjoy. Do you miss anyone back home? Because I think not in any case, children are their reason for work. For their children, they will endure anything and a woman without children presents no guarantees. She has no attachments. She has no obligations. So who knows what she could do. Secondly, do not hire a woman who went to college because they tend to have aspirations. And then Romania is just a stepping stone for them. Most of them want to make it into Western Europe. And then you've got illegal papers, you know, mafia, complications. No, no, no. What you want is a woman who is happy to be here, who is happy to be of help. And I'm here to tell you that she really should be. You see, I go to the Philippines. I go twice a year for recruitment. And it's crowded. It's dirty. And I know you're thinking Romania or something like that right now. No, think again. People in the Philippines are born in the streets. They live their lives in the streets. And they die in the streets. So you can imagine. Now, of course, of course, there are going to be cultural differences. Yes, of course, you need to take them into account. For example, you cannot raise your voice because in their culture, this is considered taboo. These are all the more reasons for you to embrace your role. We're always advising our clients to maintain a healthy distance because obviously people are going to want to seat them at their table, treat them as their own kind. And I keep telling these people, no, to know their place. And at the end of the day, you need to remember, you're not buying a buddy. Your Filipina maid is a considerable financial investment. This girl right here, Joy. Joy. $3,500 just to get her from the Philippines to here. Another $400 per monthly salary. Another $400 in taxes to the Romanian state. At the end of her two-year stay, you are the one who has to fly her back to the Philippines so she gets to see her family. So what you get is a two-month trial period. And what we advise you in order for you to get your money's worth is during this time, really try her. I mean, try her, try her, try her. And of course, if you are still not satisfied, we will provide you with a second one with a 30% discount. You see, the thing is that they need to put you up on a pedestal. What is it that you think that you are solving by treating them as your equals? Do you feel like a big humanist? Because you're not, your gestures are not going to solve inequality. And the second that you step down off of that pedestal, that's when you're the one who's causing trouble. It is psychological. They need to know that they're working for someone who is above them. This is what keeps them going. This and the thought of their children. Back home. Because this money pays for their children's education. It pays for building a house. So do you really, do you really want to help them? Then let them work for you and maybe in a generation or two, they will be at the same level as you are. Please believe me, they are in the best possible conditions. You know who managed to save this much money a month? I'll tell you how many. You don't know any. Do you pay rent? Excuse me, do you sir, do you pay rent? No, do you pay expenses, electricity, water, stuff like that? No, you don't. Lucky, does anybody here pay rent? Let me see. Do you pay rent? Okay. The Filipinos don't pay rent. Do you pay rent? Okay. Do you buy your own food? Yes, you do. Okay. They don't buy their own food. Everything that they need is provided to them by their Romanian employer. And now, think of all of the Romanians that you know who are working abroad in far, far worse conditions, and look at the Filipinos. They go on expensive holidays. They spend their weekends at the mall. Joy, Joy, dear, can you please tell me what is a fancy food that you had when you were on holiday with the Nasers? Baluga caviar, pasta with truffle. And now, think of your poorer relatives. Think of your aunt who had 12 abortions. Think of your mother who cooked for you and cleaned for you and never got one thank you in return. Think of generations of abandoned children whose mothers are taking care of old Italian men. Think of all of those things. Your name is Ana. Boy, jump up. And I will be making baby food. I will take them out to the park to play. I will be changing the diapers and tidying their rooms. Oh my God, man. Well, these people are so, so rich. In this house, even the door handles are in lane with crystal. And you never saw such chandeliers in your whole life. Rodika, their housekeeper, had to keep them sparkling clean. And there is this one in the kitchen hanging low and the madam always passes by and she checks it. It's dirty. Oh, Rodika is in trouble. One time she let it hang too low and madam kicked her head on it. Nothing happened, but she still made such a fuss out of it. Did I tell you today give me a free day on Monday? Yeah, Monday is no fun, man. Well, I would like it to be Sunday and meet the other Filipinas and go to the church together and maybe in the evening go to a karaoke club or something. Like, madam said I should better try to integrate. Socialize with the Romanians, so joy. You can visit the galleries and you can take advantage of the fact that you are in Europe now. Yes, man. Museums are closed on Monday. Did I tell you that I asked me for my passport? Yes, they said it's best for you to go all the way on both sides. Joy says she'd first like to speak to Kami and consult with her procedure. Of course, according to Kami, everything the employers say is just that standard procedure. But Joy is very happy to have this job, so she doesn't argue about it. She was surprised that the husband was shorter than the wife and when I say shorter, I mean like, whoop, mitten. Anyhow, he's also older. He's in his 50s, she's 25, and his name is Andi Nasir. Yes, he comes from Iran, of course. And Joy wants to ask him how did she end up here? She doesn't ask him, because she thinks it's none of her business and if you will look at her she doesn't really speak unless she's spoken to. And besides this guy, this Andi guy, he looks kind of stern, severe. And at first, Joy was a little bit afraid of him. Never, never let yourself be scared by a serious man miss Philippines. She really liked smacking the kids. I'm kidding. Her brothers, not so much, just Joy. So when Joy left Manila, she had a talk with her mother and she told her mom, effort lay a finger on me and then they both sat down at the kitchen table and cried, and cried, and cried. Really, they cried a lot. So the next day, the children are with their grandparents and oh my god, Rodika doesn't really show up and there's nobody to chat with on Facebook. So Joy thinks, why don't I make them a surprise? And what does she do? She cleans the entire kitchen and she cooks them this delicious chicken adobo. When madam came from the gym, she was so excited, she praised me and she told him, look, she made such a wonderful dish but she didn't eat it. And I didn't eat it. Yeah, actually, Andi didn't even look at Christina while she was speaking which made this now horribly upset and she went up to her room and Andi followed her but then five minutes later, he left the house slamming the door. So now, Joy is eating adobo chicken by herself, watching TV in the living room. She's watching the X Factor Romania. She wouldn't stay always in the house, ma'am. Otherwise you would become a fetish chismosa. Chismosa? A word in the Filipino language, meaning, I don't know what it means. Anyhow, the next day, she's gonna ask him for two salaries in advance. I made it to pay for my mother's operation. Oh yes, mommy dear again. So let me tell you what mommy dear did when Joy first got pregnant with ma'am. You see, Joy was studying communication engineering in Manila. She was in her second year of studies and her mother stopped paying for her schooling and it wasn't that expensive. The girl was on scholarship so anyhow, because mother just wouldn't pay the rest of the tuition, Joy here never graduated. So at nine o'clock, Christina says, I have a headache and she goes to sleep, right? But Joy can see that the woman's upset. She doesn't say anything, she takes the kids, she puts them to sleep and then of course, she goes to bed herself and makes her up like this. Sleeping? Yes sir, I'm sorry. Is there something wrong? No. No, nothing's wrong. Yeah, he woke her up like that. And then the next night, Joy hears Andi and Christina arguing and of course, she doesn't really understand it because well, they're arguing in Romanian and she doesn't speak Romanian yet. But she knows what it's about. Andi has been cheating on Christina and Christina, old man, found out about it and she got very upset. But late, late in the night, Joy heard Christina scream. The next day, Christina wakes up at noon and she's all topsy-turvy and her eyes were swollen and puffy because she's been crying all night and she's wearing this big, great shawl. The glimpse of the bruises on her arms. Oh my God, me. Christina shouting at Rodica. Mure, Andi, go away. Rodica's sleeping some of the genderly and Christos into her pocket. And I told her to put a mask but she said she wouldn't because she's not coming back. In the evening, Sir Andi came into the children's room while Joy was putting them to sleep. He kissed them goodnight. He tucked them in, which he never does. And then he went over to Joy and he kissed her on the cheek. My dearest, when she was putting the kids to sleep, he hugged them and then he went over to Joy and he kissed her on the lips like this. Something really bad happened to me today. Christina, around four o'clock, she says she's gonna go to the hairdressers. She's gonna take Grandma with her. And before she leaves the house, she calls Andi. She tells him she's gonna be a waitress, seven, so it was gonna be just Joy and Little Jamal in the house. But, um, Joy, who's an intuitive person, she can feel her own heartbeat, you know, she can sense there's gonna be trouble. Sure enough, half an hour later, Andi shows up. Now Joy grabs Jamal into her arms instinctively, maybe even as a shield. Oh, sir, you are homerly. He doesn't answer. He grabs her arm. He pushes her. He starts forcing himself on her, but on cue, Jamal starts crying. So Joy grabs the baby into her arms and she starts running. She's going up the stairs. She's thinking, what do I do? Where do I go? So she goes into the kids' bathroom and she, uh, thinks, I know, I'll put the baby on the changing table and open his diaper. But he wasn't done with me. I could hear him coming up the stairs. So now she wants to lock the door to the kids' bathroom, but the kids' bathroom doesn't have a key. So the man gets upstairs. He pushes the door open. His pants. He pushes Joy against the wall. And Joy can feel his heart on. As she's struggling, she sees Jamal is crawling off the table. Jamal is falling. So she launches for the baby and she breaks free of the man, but now Joy is free. She grabs Jamal into her arms. She starts running on the corridor. She's going to her room. She gets to her room. She locks the door this time. In the meantime, Sir Andi is just left there with his pants around his ankle and his dick hanging out. And she joins in her room and she's checking the baby first times of injury and she doesn't see anything. Twenty minutes later, Jamal is still crying and she doesn't know what to do. If she steps outside her room, she might get raped. If she stays inside, the boy could die of head trauma. As she's trying to figure a way out, she hears on the door, this macaroni and cheese in the fridge. Sir, I think we should have Jamal checked. Joy Jamal is strong for a young boy. He's fine. Listen, nothing happened. So relax. Okay? And then she hears his footsteps going down the stairs. And then she hears the microwave go. And then Jamal actually does stop crying. In the evening, I locked myself in the bathroom and I texted Rodika. I told her that I wanted to call the police. Rodika texted her back. Yes, Fatah, we go. We get them, people! And goes to her room. But a few moments later, Christina barges into the room, as Joy is packing her things. I didn't mean to fire you. You're a good soul. And thank you for taking care of my baby Joy. You have to stay. No, man, I think I better go now. No, you can't go now because I can't be alone. After all, everything that's happened, I just... I need your help. I need your help to stay strong for my kids. Please, stay. I don't know what to say, ma'am. Kids' birthdays are coming up in a couple of weeks. How am I going to handle that? In the state that I'm in? Joy, listen, just don't do it for me. Just do it for the... Okay, ma'am, I'll stay until Anna's birthday. Thank you, thank you, princess. Don't regret this un-pack your things. And I have a present for you. You should leave on me. There's been a lot of love between us lately. And so I was thinking that you could help me. And I could help you. We could help each other. We could make him pay for everything that he's done to us. What do you say, Joy? Are you in? What do you mean, ma'am? Joy, you're a grown woman. You know what I mean. You want to set him up, ma'am? You did it once, so he'll do it again. Come on, Joy, let's do this. I don't know what to say, ma'am. Of course, I mean, of course, you need to think about it. Take your time. Of course, take your time. Think about it. You have until next week. The police. It's going to be very difficult for us to find work for you. Listen, did anybody see you? Did you tell anyone about this? I see. Do you have any marks on your body or bruises or anything like that? You don't. I see. So then there's no proof. See, well, darling, you should have called me sooner. You're sounding a bit confused right now, Joy. Mm-hmm. Yes, listen, Joy, I understand. But look, he hasn't done anything since then, has he? There you. It's an isolated incident. There's really no need to worry. But of course, if you can come into the agency on your day off and we'll set you up a meeting with our therapist, and I think that's going to do you a lot of good. Mm-hmm. Of course, honey, we will try to find you when you employ her right away, but listen to me very carefully. In the meantime, it's very important, hang in there. Okay? A few questions about that night, you know, when Andy... Do you know what I mean? When he tried to rape you, man. Have your hair down. Because I remember telling you you shouldn't have your hair down around the house, because that would be dangerous for you and for the children. Did you have your hair down? No, ma'am, my hair was up. When he pulled down his pants, did he have a heart on? I don't know, I didn't look. Was he breathing normally? Was his breath more like... or something like that? Was his shirt open because his chest gets really really red sometimes when he gets turned on so if his shirt was open then maybe you saw his chest maybe he nibbled on your ears or maybe he grabbed your poop. Jesus Christ, Troy, what did he do? She asks Joy to wash all of the windows again. What had started out as a favor was now expected of her. I'm working as a nanny and the cleaner. But Joy, hey, until the kids' birthdays. With all due respect, ma'am, I came to this house as a nanny. Now I'm working as a nanny. But Joy, you said you'd stay until the kids' birthdays. With all due respect, ma'am, I came to this house as a nanny. Now I'm working as a nanny and a cleaner. But Joy, you said you'd stay until the kids' birthdays. With all due respect, ma'am, I came to this house as a nanny. Now I'm working as a nanny and the cleaner. You said you'd stay until the kids' birthdays. With all due respect, ma'am, Ma'am, I came to this house as a nanny, and now I'm working as a nanny and a cleaner. Joy, you said you'll stay until the kids' birthday. With all due respect, ma'am, I came to this house as a nanny, and now I'm working as a nanny and a cleaner. Joy, we've made 3500 for you to come here. You can't just butt out whenever the hell you want to, okay? I'm fortunate to come here. Yes, and we gave you two sellers in advance when you asked for your mother's operation. We treated you as part of our family, and all it did was lying. The money I owe. How will you get it? So she came up with a plan for me to pay them back the money I owe them. I will also be working on my free days, doing some of the larger house chores, like washing all the windows and cleaning the rocks, scrubbing all the floors. Hygiene standards reach unprecedented levels in the Nazareth residents. Today we see Joy giving a couple of old toothbrushes to scrub the spaces between the tiles on the kitchen floor. It's midnight and Joy is still brushing. I'm changing every day. I did not listen to her. I went straight for the door, but the door was locked. Okay, my first employer is an Iranian. He did something wrong with me, so I decided to go run away with the family. I get my luggage, all my things broke already like that. That Iranian tried to do something, kissing me in the morning, something like that. He tried to do something when his husband, her husband is not there. The last time that we have an encounter, I go so early in the house. He knows that her wife is not there and the oldest daughter is not there, just only me and the son. He tried to do something, advantages. I'm so thankful because the baby is trying to walk right now. At the time, he is in danger and he took out his phone to try to do something on me. I tried to say to her wife like that, what happened? Her wife tried to change the world. When I smoke in the house, it's fantastic. When I talk to strangers, their voice is small. This is how a doctor in law is. This is how a doctor in law talks to you. Now talk back, all your law is small. Wow, an advanced joy. I told you, I told you, have patience until we find you a new employer. My father sent me one of her employees to meet me. And when we got to the Nasser's residence, housekeeper, and instead of my luggage, she gave me a black garbage bag. When I looked inside, it was shredded with the scissors. I asked her, what happened? I was speaking English. And my passport? Joy, did the Nasser's ever tell you that you were fired? Or that they terminated your contract? Joy says, no. On the contrary, they always insisted I stay. Why? Because they did terminate your contract. In fact, they ended it two months ago. So you've been in the country for more than two months without a work permit. And that makes you illegal in Romania. Join us and understand how to see if possible. She feels like she's sinking into this endless nightmare. I know Nasser's are powerful people, but I think others should know what we are going through. Miss Laura told me that I should sue them for ending my contract without telling me. The police. And after a long wait, this middle-aged policeman is going to sue me. Miss Laura, what do you want to say? Tell us, we don't want to make any complaints. Who is in our passport? Tell us, Nasser. Tell us. What happened to you? It doesn't matter. Miss Laura is illegal. She was arrested on the street. Do you know how she was arrested? And so on. But she's illegal. I don't want to sue her. Don't you know how she was arrested on the street? They locked me in. They cut my suitcase and my clothes. Serenity harassed me. They lied to me. Aren't all these things illegal? Yes, they are. But so am I. Migration for migration. And they are buying me a ticket back home. I have to start up a new business back home. I think she wants to make a cut of an example out of me. Joy. I mean just think of all the other oppressed. She carried all my luggage. And when I was putting them on a luggage counter, she told me. Listen, Joy, we still have 20 minutes. So listen, if you just make a statement, it's called a right of attorney. It authorizes me to represent you in Romanian court. You can go home. You can still sue them. You can make them pay for what they did to you. Joy, you deserve this. Don't you want to make them pay? Not for me to punish them. It's your better not mine. God willing. A routine check with your seatbelts fast integration. City transport, we do not use not much our prints. All of the documents are in order. We provide medical assistance, inviting them to serial shop owners. Others, they wish to become street vendors. Selling what's, uh, Filipinos. Return her adaptation impossible about the Filipinos. And, uh, well educated, keen on this woman waiting in front of our locked gates. And it was a Filipina. Yeah, we'd been kicked out by her employer. And of course, we helped her find accommodations that very weekend and my responsibility. Rules and procedures. And these rules and procedures, they are confidential. And I am bothered by these journalists who wish to stick their nose into our business. Take this journalist, for example. She publishes a piece. Not helping solve the real problem. Because of this, we are not part of the solution. We are part of the problem. What I ask you, the job we have here, people who can work in Romania. Um, and before we begin, may I ask all of the men in the audience to please stand up, please. All the guys, stand up please. Ladies, I can't see all of you back. If anyone who is not standing, please encourage them to do the entire adult female population. So this is 8.8 million women. Now out of these women, 42% are sharing all of their children with their partners. So 58% have 5 million women who do all of the work in the house alone, by themselves. So what are some of the things they do? Can you help me out here? Anything, washing dishes, cleaning... Washing windows. What? Sorry, windows. Windows, floors, both of them, hate them. Okay, hey, you do those too. They wash all the windows, they scrub the floors. Uh, what about... They do that. They do. Do you enjoy it? I personally couldn't cook that much of you. Obviously. Millions of women, right? They do everything. They take care of the house all by themselves. And this is why I like to call this group the Loving Wives. Because, because, wait. They do it all for free. And which is some? Joy and the other Filipinas are making, what, $400 a month. This is 5 million women. Times $400 a month. The Loving Wives save us $100 a month. In a year, these women are saving us $24 billion. This is what I like to call the economy of love. And since we're talking economy, we're talking economy. Don't think that we should take any special measures to encourage these women to stop working. They choose to do it. They choose to do it for free. And even worse, I do not think that we should encourage them to demand to be paid for the work that they are doing. That being said...