 When the narcissist realises they shouldn't have played you as your relationship progressed with the narcissist They became more and more demanding of you while being less appreciative While giving you less in return They devalued and degraded you no matter how much you tried No matter how much time energy and money you invested They made you feel like you could never be enough for them They made you feel like it was your fault When really they just had these insatiable desires They couldn't be satisfied But they saw it as though there was something wrong with you As though you wouldn't you weren't good enough for them And that is when they began to seek out other sources of supply Other people who didn't know what they were really about Other people who hadn't been drained of their energy They kept you as their primary source For their stability and security While they were out seeking other sources of supply People to provide them with attention and aberration People to cater to their needs And at some point They found someone who they believed to be a suitable match As their secondary source Someone to keep on the side And once they were sure that it was good supply They were ready to drop you They were ready to leave you behind And make this new source their primary source But just because the narcissist moves on to someone else It doesn't mean that anything changes The same cycle just repeats itself again and again The only thing that changes is the person they're with They thought the grass was greener on the other side But as time goes by The narcissist begins to realize that their new source is human too They make faults and mistakes They have flaws in their perfections They're not perfect And that is when the narcissist begins to devalue the new source But rather than just looking for a new secondary source of supply They will look back And remember everything they had with you They will realize that they had a better situation when they were with you Because you were always there for them You did everything they wanted You were grade A supply But at the time they couldn't see it They took you for granted They acted like they could find something better But then they quickly discovered That it wasn't so easy to find someone else like you Someone who is willing to tolerate their BS Because most people will not put up with it Most people would throw them out the door And while they may not have realized it at the time Once they've moved on to the new source It hits them like a ton of bricks They realize everything they had with you They felt safe and secure As though they couldn't do anything wrong As though no matter what they did You would always be there for them But now they've gone out into the cold dark world And realized that most people aren't going to put up with that Most people aren't going to want to hear it And that is when they realized that they shouldn't have played you That is when they realized that they made the wrong decision And in any situation They always see the past as better than it was They never appreciate their current situation It's like they're always trying to go back to where they were Rather than trying to move forward from where they are now They live in the past And in their minds the past was so much greater than where they are now Because you were there for them Through thick and thin You remained loyal to them Despite everything they said and did to you When most people wouldn't have stuck around They wouldn't have tolerated that disrespect When the narcissist realizes They shouldn't have played you They might leave their new source And try to hoover you They might try to get in contact with you again Because they remember how much easier life was with you But they will only try to come back If you haven't progressed since they left you If you are in a place where you have moved on And you're doing better without them They know they can't come back Because they know you're never going to validate their false self now If you've managed to progress more than you ever did when you were with them It reveals who the problem was in that situation It reveals that they were holding you back And they realize that you have come to that conclusion So they're going to stay hidden You won't hear from them anymore But that doesn't mean that they don't realize that they messed up That doesn't mean that they don't realize that they shouldn't have played you They know that they made the wrong decision They know that they were in a better situation with you But they also know that they cannot come back to you They know that it's never going to be the same After what they did to you So they have no choice but to stay hidden And try to move on with something else But just as they were with you They will never be happy They're still the same narcissist Just as they were with you Regardless of what they try to make you believe They can never be satisfied with anyone Because 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