 look if you don't even need a therapist sometimes if you have a good friend whose life you respect whose life you respect because usually what happens they you support anything your friend does that's not a good friend you need a good friend somebody that will tell it like it is somebody that will give you the advice somebody that will tell you uh-uh that's not how you do it you need somebody that you can respect because their life is in order you need somebody you can respect because they will tell you the truth not what you want to hear right so that's a kind of therapy too but a professional absolutely