 We are feeling romantic like Sanjay Fena and Sanjay Robina. Thank you. But before that, did you see aunty Angelique Kijo and aunty Emi ala did just bring in some type of sexy back to Africa? What a time to be alive! What a time to have melanin, guys. Miss Jenin and Sumbwa, but nima umo na kadudu. Na kwa kadudu kami fae niskev zore. Atwait 5 on Facebook, atwait 5 on Twitter, hashtag is find the money. My name is Valentine or atkala mival. And it's that time we're crushing on our gentlemen, but have a very important question. The topic of the day nika mati iya roho chafu. Alamoza duku duku, let's just think in a little bit. Zank, zank, imingia, imingia. Aya kablasa ingia izami kabsa kidufumpara ro. Let's say hi to our panelists. Hi guys! Hi! I'm a little bit extra, I'm sorry. Yo, yo, catch up with me, sendo. Namusin yo, gope. What's your name? My name is Shemochin. Shemochin, you have the whitest shoes I have ever seen. Do you know I'm not as brave as you? Missy as if I've took a suit. Sanda tembe awapi. Unless they are carrying me. No, you know I'm a gospel man, so I have to dress well. Injili hadi bhiatu. I already feel blessed. Basa damas represent well. Wait, wait, wait. Where can we find some media? Now, I mean Facebook, you call me Prince Shemo Dwar. You're a prince even. Ya, also YouTube, Prince Shemo Dwar and Twitter, Prince Shemo Dwar. So let's eat and see KDF. Ah, nene no nimsuri, nimaisha. Hi sir. How are you? I'm good. You look like you are distantly related. Amma ni mwili tuina tu danganga. Maybe. I want to know who I am. My name is Paul. My friend calls me Pavaro. Pavaro? Yes. I didn't expect all that swag from you sir. Ya, you don't know. This is a software. I can see you from Westphal. That part where they are not too sure what humble means. No, I'm from this side of the lake. Really? Yes. I can tell me kula samak. Where can we find some social media? On Twitter, it's at Small Modest. Facebook is Pavaro. Instagram is pavaro underscore one four. Yes. One of my favourite parts about this job is meeting amazing people. Your personality is so bright. I love it. We could be friends. See, after this, we could be friends. Best friends actually. For real, so sweet. And she's so energetic and she's funny. To me, test mic with jokes. Just imagine that guys. Imagine. What's your nickname? I'm Angela Michelle. Just call me Angie. That's what everyone calls me. Social media. Instagram is at Angie Michelle. And on Viscate, Angela Michelle. Okay. Maybe I can start with you. I understand kama tia rochafu. Watu kuongeliyana kusengeniyana. It's usually a shorty type of situation. Apon dote patawastana. Maybe you'll make a gap o kambi wana kongeliyana. But in your face, oh my God, you look so nice. Aw, you're so cute. But meanwhile they're not doing nice things. No. But I've come to understand boy child kuna witu yu piti anawa hongi. And this suicides, by the way, we are going to stop, can do, can die. By force. Are we together? Atakam tanzaku hongi tuwashkisha wu mama. I don't care. Me bora wishi maisha. Therefore, I just want you to live long and be happy. Are we together boy child? Together. Yeah, kuna getting. So let's chafunguarao msi ugope. Yeah, chafunguwe. Okay. Have you ever heard of a case where, like mtu ame, usually for girls, let me start where I know. Usually for girls, maybe umendelea some type of way. Or you have something brand new. Or you just have something that nafanyam tuwashkisha some type of way. I love where it came to then she starts lying about you just because she's feeling some type of way about what you have or what you're doing. Yeah, actually it's always the case when you're just getting successful and everything. Everything is going right. And then people will just start like, no, she has a sponsor. They just hate us. You don't even have a sponsor. Actually you're working your ass. And then they're like, this girl she's not getting money the right way. She's just getting money off men and such things. Those are just haters. And it's just so sad that people will not believe in you and will see that in you. Not everyone wishes you well. Even your girlfriends. It has. When the rumors start from someone you thought was your friend. Yeah, they especially come from them. Those that you call your friend. Your closest ones. I want to give you a very good example. No, fikiya tu sayi gentlemen. Just give me the next slide as we start downloading this information. So, mimi kwa na joe nimsuri. Because there was a period of time that mimi kwa na pitiya vitungumu. Na ali kuako. And I was grateful for that. But soon after, nika realize ana kumpit na mimi na mimi siyukuapo. Siyukuapo na wewewe. Oh my God. Valako evi. Wacha mimi fanya evi. Valako. Oya na nini. Moshi aviyombo. I don't even know. I can't remember if I left the gas on. Yani mis kwa giapo na isoma competition. So, I found out now iso vitu zandani ya roho na mwambia. Ananda saku sambazia wengine. So, by the time to maybe Pavaro is meeting me he has this sympathetic look on his face and I don't understand where it's coming from. So, you see what I'm talking about. We have a one case study. We have four case studies by the way because gentlemen are very simple creatures and they're not very complicated. Okay. You have just arrived in the big city with your bros. So, you've come to the big city and once in the city so, you know what I'm going to page moja. You're all hustling but barum na taftaka room wa ta kani hostel and then for some reason over the weeks, the months pass you thrive better and in turn, na your friend Haizi how? Na situlituka na e ma shambani. Suddenly now you have a one-bed room. Suddenly na atu na tumapesa kwa wazazi. Suddenly wu manza kuitu atu ife. Na ya veve famous in the village because wu na nua piki-piki na unendeli atu me jengia mama kukitu. What is the problem? Sasa wu na jua kuna watu anataka kwangalia kuna watu anataka kwangalia village wu na fanya. They don't concentrate on their own success life. People who they want to take you as a role model but in a negative way. How now? Like, they feel success is being better than others rather than them achieving their goals. So wu na pata mutu ya ya kekwa na wu me saksid na ya me fei na na feel ah wu wu mutu sasa ni wevena zaku mshika. Na wu pengine wewe wu me eka goals sasa ako what you want to achieve within a certain time. Wu me kuja town pengine wu li kuakule nyumbani ushago but your mind will sing somewhere. Sasa wu me juki fika town people think you will be that primitive. Yet your intelligence maybe studies or what wu me kuwan ku kuja town so they think you may just take time ku adapt but after that wu ta spring up very fast. Then yae jwa me relax anaza ku compete na wewe. You cannot compete with me if our goals are not the same. So juman anaza kuwan na wewe. Ya, that's what I think it happens. Na juman wu kisha kuwan na austel mizuri ama nyumbayako wu mejipanga vizuri anaza ku fikiri ama wu mengine and they don't have a correct answer they are just guessing. Pava, can I switch this up just a little bit for you I tell and make it for you. So wakua willi wu me tukoma shambani Mwaja to say me Shem vinya me sema has a goal, has a focus I want to do this, this, this nujpati a time. Wu mengina me stuka ako nero bii Sle queen here there everywhere ya watu So bashment pate after pate ama nikiwa na ii life because ii life naza kuchanganya by the way please don't think it's for the week this life naza kuchanga naza kuchanganya So one is sucked into an endel cycle of wuna pata hela wuna kauna tumiliya wuna tumafiai na kuluwa wuna nzaku jam Oh as chana Oh Meanwhile your friend is very very busy fasting even just so that he can save to do something Please help me understand I think it's just the perceptions that these two people have because even two people were born of the same parents and all the same and they can't act the same So much wisdom in here because it also goes again with the life experiences because the way I've experienced life is not the same way he has experienced life how I view things you know the same way he views them I feel to be free to hang around in the company of the friends and the girl and everything to him he had a goal to achieve and that's why he came to look for it but Shumi ok there is what is called this time management maybe I'm slowing and doing 1, 2, 3 but with him he want things to be done fast Popcorn generation Yes you see So you have to take your time and look at these two people what they like their talents and everything So the problem is when one is actively trying to bring another one down now how is the the one who is can I just use I'm sorry can you be the serious one the one who is focused pava roukwe tu ki kevo iwi so what happens when kevo is actually actively trying to bring shem down just because of his focus just because maybe he sees something that he would want to have in himself how do you deal with that as a guy how do you deal with the story of Naisha over hands No fighting is not the best option I think you can advise or you can look for a counselor because you want this person to reach where you are and in good faith but maybe the guy is not seeing the sense maybe he is still he is still captured by this adults of the mind but he will come to reason one day so instead of fighting the guy try to bring him on board you don't fight you don't tell the friend you rather bring him on board and show him this is how things should be done and this is the way to go you see I like that and you have another design for this question just for you assuming you are dating our kevo and you can see his active leg kwa tukwa numba na za tukse maveni na ni amem sumbuwa naji fanyaga siju hi assistant Jesus kwanza za atiju a kona via tuza waitza za tutapumuwa every other situation that is not nice anamrushiaiaiaia just because you can see maybe a kona kakitu a kona kukuna there is something that he admires in shem but your admiration but like toka positively ina toka kaji elasi how would you advise him as his girlfriend okay it all starts with first they don't find where the problem is okay you get to know whether it's the success or something that is bothering him you just have to you have to talk to the person like me talking to kevo and telling him maybe inspiring him trying to get him to do something that is going to get him to a place where he wants to be not just hating and stuff because all that complainers will never get anywhere first of all you have to make them know that they don't just keep complaining to you every time but anyway it's so tiring when someone is always talking about some person and some person it's tiring it's exhausting in the mind in the heart so much because you're tired of these stories just tell him to get there he has to get there ando atiaiaa achekuongiaaongiaa atiaiaa watcha watuaongiaa watcha watuaongiaa like me yae are focused on getting there first and not you know maybe you know people don't see the struggles that these successful person has gone through wanonangatulik it's just a smooth path but it's not that way no it's not it's not now you have to you have to show them that anyway this guy did not just get there smoothly he struggled so all of this is just not it's not making sense you also have to you have to struggle to get there it reminds me of tokiwa high school amma tokiwa primary when we went to school basically it caught me by uniform and at that point kilantulikwanafanada whether you're from money you're not from money the uniform is the same color are we together maybe you can purchase purchase you may get an impia but but only you the uniform and when you finish or when you graduate and you move on and then unanzosaku una differences ako unonamu to Dubai where we are sasa una pigazi streets kigonguna strong winds wigina enda you know sometimes this life is can be different but you can't hate where you are right now nasi awanome teke no I would like to imagine that being content is is being okay but having ambition and drive to to work for more are we together we are having wisdom on stage today you seeing these wise people I hope you are alright case study number two also remember if you have something to tell us at white 5 on Facebook at white 5 on channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the money so as soon as they give me the second slide I want to read for you something it's very random because I just found it no I did not steal it just the paper laying around and it says a friend is the first person who comes in when the whole world has gone out a friend is the first person who comes in when the whole world has gone out do you think that's true it's too much feelings for guys no many people many times we feel like people help you when you are in problems are true friends but also I think it is a two sides thing people should also be there to celebrate in fact when we celebrate success we always want even to invite people who never participated because you don't want only to appreciate those who helped you and leave others alone others who didn't do anything and there are some people who have worked with you who are making the second away but who came to success successful one has a kukushuku they never get to the last time exactly they always feel such spirit of competition start getting in na manasema wu muntu ni mimi ni me kusahidia wu muntu ni mimi ni membeba sikweziata wu ani ungeleshi wizuri nani kuwata namlipia ono yo kia tu ni min limbaia so let us not feel like muntu wa kikusahidia saha na oku kitaseka is a true friend maybe he is investing wu wutama wu jah wu wutama wu wutama wu wutama sa idea wu kisha kwa successful ye ye hata kwa na fanya yaake hata kwa na semaa mimi na investa apa so you find how can you help someone to be successful and at last when you failure you are depending on him it may be possible that he is better than you but at least reach some point reach somewhere don't just help people until you you cannot help yourself until kwa kifika mali wakuza kukusahidia na asa kusahima hati wu wu muntu wa minisa wu or what may be they are helping other people let us help people to help others not to come back to help us ya actually on that point I will say that many people just love gracing themselves they get you somewhere and then they will always be bragging about it like in high school we had these girls who used to they used to get you they used to be like the the ones who hook you up with some guy so in you guys kwa wata niya fanki ya alafuwa watu ndia watu watu ishi kusahima you know kama simimi this relationship wouldn't be the way it is and stuff kwa nga tenda wema nenda zako thanks apuwa nenda zako wana nga shinda apu kiji sifu niwewe watya mwenye mwenye pata ya relationship wacha kusahimi but there is nothing wrong with that because maybe I am seeing a talent in you that I don't have so maybe I can mold that talent so maybe you are you his father? no you are just a friend but you have a talent so you are going to expect something I just want to uphold you from where you are because there is a certain talent that is lying and how do you call it? na ita ku benefit badai ya you are a friend no that's not helping the only way I am feeling but it could make sense to me personally is if this scenario had a mentor and mentee type of situation anyway kama mkubo nuna maybe I see Angie and I see do you do journalism? no I want you on a camera you have so much charisma so that's me putting life into her not that it's kumoja I'll expect her to say my name every time she opens a show no but that would make sense to me but if it's kumoja kutu iwi atu menpaata iwi atu na invest when someone invests next nishoka so nini na mtafanga but it's like if somebody has given you a loan you will return it back in all cladness is a loan a help? no wait the thing is if you actually have kumbalon had a arudisha syndrome but if you are just giving money just for the sake a jaku itisha and you want it back from nigen kia ni muna sumbo asa then it could have come up in a very clear context this is helping you as a friend or it just feels like you are down you should help me you should be alone you should be alone you should be alone ni biashara full of those integrities loan ni biashara na wana semu silete urafiki kwa biashara agura weni uta perna loan na badu maintain nile urafiki because we always say usilete urafiki kwa biashara like when you help someone you are helping him as a friend and he may not give you back what you gave him but something else it is not wrong to help lakini look at this scenario mua limua nasari skola li kufundisha at last kwa kwa ingenia atakwa nabra kwa village ati mimi donili fundisha hu mimi ni mua limua kwa but in this journey of education you have met so many teachers kwa kwa lewa but it is not wrong for some to be proud of you come on if I am in that level and I bring it to my level I will be proud I think that the problem is when you start feeling entitled to something just because you are part of my journey I think that's where the kakini gets in okay we are ready for slide number two thank you very much my name is valentine still and you can still find us on Facebook, WhiteFive channel on twitter hashtag is why in the morning number two you just got a new job fresh out of campas within no time your work ethic has impressed very very many people and you get a promotion and this actually does happen these are true life stories but your boss sees you na na feel threatened sa sauni nani onna wu jana me tokha api and tries to put you in your place usre patam tu and I've heard the boss like this ones I don't know top problem ones ali kwa nani pea kazi nani kazi ya 3 hours na akuna kitu nimi me kwa niki fanya let's say from maybe lunch time nili ma liza because I'm fast she gives me work for the whole day I finish by lunch time saa mona nimi meka nimi meka nimi meka then when I'm supposed to be going home at 4 ndi ususa na nini kwa anoni niki zia kazi for the rest of the day siyo nika matia rochafu rochafu kwa za na ngojia kuna nini na park ndi ususa valentine just come there's something on my day brahra na where's the same na no may a time that I supervise actually that time I supervise kwa za yosiku hana kitu yokfanya her husband seju is doing work so now she's free she has time extra extra time now she wants to chill with val ebu help me understand how you deal with that okay the way you deal with that is actually you have to know how your boss is no okay you can exercise some patience with your boss until it gets to a certain point where you can't take it anymore maybe you can try talking talking communication but but then there's some bosses who won't take it lightly and they'll actually fire you sorry for trying to to stand up to them know your place yeah maybe you can I think you could talk to someone more prominent than them or someone who's almost to the same ranking as them so that anytime when you're getting fired at least you can have some backup who will help you because these guys okay some guys even go telling others so that they can all be on their side but then you can explain this to someone and make sure that they understand you so that they can back you up in the end yeah see her story is nice but life doesn't work out like that and sometimes muyanakusumbua and the big bosses pet as if any other anything wrong so now where we come on my name tenda kumangelesha it a bidi don't come and be a jibro what are you going to say how is the conversation going to go now you must understand you at a personal level if you want to be successful they are going to be challenges but now such situations as ikwangitu like zina tutaki ama bae but who has peers in a to train because not everyone who is going to support you fully and even those who are supporting you may at some point stop so ukekuwa umeya jiriwa mahalin unakamukonashida na uyo boss like anafil threatened by how good you do your work that one first should not stop you from doing your good work because you never know pengine you are the solution who has come everyone wants good things and if you have an opportunity to do good even if it will not harm you a good result at the end and sure you do good because at one point it will always pay at a kama sayizo imeku panish but remember for you to throw a sling sometimes you have to stretch it backwards ama stone you are yet embarrassed some of these things they happen and you must know what you want and go where you want to go and understand that you will threaten people's places at a kama waku ju and that is very complicated afadali ufua tani na watu waku umeyako but when you realize that people who are ahead of you people who are your leaders even in organization feel threatened then it is a good sign you have value but you should know how to manage it because they can kill it but now have some wisdom how to handle them because at the end you want to succeed but you fail because they don't like you that one will not happen and I have also learnt if you try and run away from a situation or a problem or a place that has a particular person who has a certain personality okikimbe ya sasa umetokapa maliunenda sasa uta mpata times times 2 anana ni times 2 times 2 so just learn your lesson nani in fact I don't know if you subscribe to this Christianity that he is so proud of but I thought you were going to give me that story for nani alikwana ni nina na brothers work josef josef that one the one whose old brothers sold him as a slave my friend kamatia rochafu sujiya kenda api umungine piya kamatia rochafu akajipata jela pa kamatia rochafu but she never changed he did not change but wali misaidiya wali misaidiya wei unafkiriya unampinga kumu unamsaidiya kufikamaliya ya actually his value is helped talk to me but I think you see these people they were working in the same place then one is promoted now the moment you become a threat to someone it means you have something that he doesn't have is like you are important in another way so that one should not buy you from doing your work I think it's just an eye opener that there is something that you have which is missing and you have contributed it to make sure you make it to the maximum so that the person will run away rather than you running away they will see which would go I want to start now giving you life advice but before that let's come here to our Facebook at WhiteFive on Facebook sorry at WhiteFive on Twitter hashtag is what in the morning and man James says na jwen mechelewa kungoja kuku kuku takia wishing but better late than never happy international women's day to you valent friends my current friend right now is Angie so happy international women's day thank you na jwen gino na nini nambali imagine titi na roja titi na roja imagine good morning what inside is always I'm really enjoying today's playlist when the circle kwa bagwa di tamati super director and DJ stroke DJ Brenda you have been given a very big compliment we have angel babes simple susapo kwa heras you show them what they need to see and tell them what they need to hear hashtag heras they say wambia wambia wapia headline tarif watapia wenewe even when wunajua witu kwa ground na different one wakonfuse kama death na life there's a me in my one so kia tu nyumain na kambelis alafu caption confuse your enemies dan kan undigo says hashtag when the morning from a very north every year one hello okay always ignore them ata kisema nini nyamazia kwa if you fight back watazidi tutarudi apo tutasako liukitu but that's a very very very heavy compliment and my James wapia full dose watangani giwe ata kisema watakisema mchana oh si kuatalala I see you Sarah Pendle hello hi oh yeah so sweet na jirembesha na kukam changanya hao kama dia roja kule I don't like to react with girls just enough time nga nongia behind my back contact lesiango nima chali too and my mom okay I'll see you and you can see it's very heavy on the girl's side but clearly piya boy chalda nomi ya kisiri si kisiri si we gotta help them all right give me the next side as we continue we're running at a time but guys don't you feel your blood pumping do you have a question all three of them have wisdom pavaro angi shem kwa tsa shem ata kongezia diva don't be a fave don't be a fave all right so the next case study is drum rolls these you are charismatic by nature your bro is not he lashes out by speaking in love you and this I have seen two reactions let's say shem you're very charismatic you command a crowd pavaro you're very charismatic you command a crowd but the person maybe you're close to is not as charisma like anona angi anachanganyuki wakwanza like wo tendo umsalimie in your head you're registering yes she's beautiful but unamongele shatukam to you see but your friend atastama ashangai gaya sweat even around maybe peers or even you know older generation like generally you know how to carry yourself conduct yourself with respect and dignity you know but mwenzako mwenze and I'll tell you a story kuna mtu time flow nili kwa nani katia so nami mi as usual siku apos very very businessman in my own business so mwenyungele shatukam skwana load nani katia actually but we're just having a conversation so mwenyungele shatukam mwenyungele shatukam sa nika tokapo nika kutana mtu alituona to kiyongia kuja kwa masuki akani mbe umse akona okedi niko wakana nonsense are you bringing now to my table what is this who asked you what are you even telling me do you even know what you're talking about sesa nini me kuleta apashwali as in I was so confused I just looked and then I left them fom ni gani apos asa wanome kitu ninajua you cannot avoid people in your life that's first thing you cannot avoid people and also such situations is how you meet right people there is always that's incident kutana mtu umpia and maybe it's the right person you have always wanted but why are we so concerned about other people's issues that we don't have peace kwanini we ume onawatu alafu we we kiviyako ume jijazia alafu na asa kukuja kua ribia and that's why so many of these people are irrelevant look mtu kamaezi manage me shayake in fact so many successful people you know them by they are talking how to see if it wa me akua ya because they know what it takes to be successful we wujuhia watu wakana ungele anini but they don't know what it takes na sema akuna ukedi na we mbona hi ukedi ake bi jaku shtuwa kwa sabaku na pada pengine you are friends ukia ga liya vizuru ukiri saita pada they are friends but monu na ribia rafki ake mbona hi ukedi jaku fukuza di unata ke fukuza mtu mengine so let's allow people to be successful and let's celebrate them let's allow people to be successful we have so many problems in this world we are lacking problem solvers not really we are not too many we just don't want to solve our problems but I think we should not criticize our brothers too much you see a lot are going on at the moment if you look at the socioeconomic problems this issue of I don't know I can put it but you see we empowered ladies much then we left the boy child then we did not train this boy child how to live with this empowered woman that's where the problem starts but this has nothing to do with the lady this is a lady being sought after by two different people na moja na jaribu kukata mendoza ke mugu but in that scenario it depends with the behaviors ok the behavior is say that someone will tend to behave the way it behaves because of a certain reason so you have to understand this person first why is he doing all this this is this is this is a life story ok that's like telling me at the where where you don't know how I slept me why am I not coming to do things to you one problem we have many of us want success but we don't have character that can handle success the manner una una key tu you want it but there are things that you have to deal with on yourself how do you manage yourself there are so many things are going on you don't have to talk about everything so una una mitu ana enda ku succeed but your own character stops you so our character also should help us in as much as we talk about empowerment everyone should try to be responsible jaribu tuku manage your life in a good way you may not be that good but try to be better every day wuki ona mitu anga liya ben yuna ishi na watu because if you talk to a person even in the street you meet so many people kila kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kwa kila kwa na rash mali we umetoka we umetoka wuko ume we stay muko but unashanga ni ni ena ena rash yana enda kuokua wuko so everyone is in looking at his own business but we wekama we unataka success na karakaya waku wuki pewa pesuta asa kumisbef misbef so that's why some people maybe I'm not rude but they are good when they are not successful because they may be worse okay they are telling me we are running out of time so maybe we can conclude on the topic you know I will say there are people who are born competitors like naturally everything about them is about competition you'll find people kama weni umesema uya na kwa mbea uya kuna ukedi ukedi kuna wani atakuza kwa mbea apana uya na kwa zianda kwa kitanda chalana ee like really kuna utituat kakwa ribia wengine so that they can have you what people don't know is that you might even like someone because of their own uniqueness not because they look like this guy if everyone was to look like the other one kuna watuata watapenda inwa if techno wouldn't build itself because whoever is there they want to be like who away there wouldn't be any techno you just have to be unique in your own ways and success success will come will bring itself in conclusion ok, what I think these are the guys that we should recommend for the amen conference they go and get more on how to do this because or else we'll just be creating up a generation that will be full of chaos each and every person need to participate and make the world a different place to live I like that from where I stand not everyone no one has it all together by the way nobody has it all together it's just how we manage ourselves so it's going to be alright ok? sometimes a little competition is very good but hey, relax nani senje zero makasiriko 22ndia we together at Wtf Facebook at Wtf channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning we suggest you have an amazing day and an even better week