 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْآنِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِهِ آيَاتُوهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ الْمُنْزَالُهُ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوَّالُهُ جعفة ربنو محمد يسaid رحمه الله إذا بلغك عن أخيك شيء أنتكره إذا أخيك أخيك ما تكره something you dislike reaches you regarding your brother فطلب له من عذرين look for excuses for him فطلب له من عذرين look for excuses for him فطلب له من عذرين look for excuses for him فطلب له من عذرين look for excuses for him your muslim brother or your muslim sister and the information and news reaches you regarding them something they said about you they backbited you they gossiped about you they did something behind your back it reached you فطلب له look for excuses فطلب له من عذرين look for excuses for your muslim brother and your muslim sister إلى سبعين عذرين look for 70 excuses فإن لم تجد you looked for 70 excuses you couldn't find فإن لم تجد he said فقول لعل له عذرين لا عارفوا then say maybe he has an excuse I don't know of this really shows how clean their hearts were they would say to themselves my muslim brother and sister said this about me maybe they were angry maybe they were tired maybe they were hungry maybe they slept of the tongue maybe they didn't mean me maybe maybe maybe nowadays if somebody does things like that we say you're so naive you're not clued up you don't know the reality of this world we portray onto the people our negativity we want people to see things the way that we see it because we have bad hearts we want that sincere, honest, genuine person to be like us but the truth is that person is better than us who is making excuses for everyone it's an indication that that person who is making excuses for everyone is a person who is good generally speaking people make excuses for everybody is a person who is good hearted it's a person who doesn't harm people or doesn't like harm for people and the people who don't like to make excuses for people are generally speaking people who they themselves are people who love harm for others they do the same they back by other people and so they think the way that they think of others and the negativity that they have towards others and the way that they perceive others is in that way they think everyone is like that as well like in the set if they want to like that they believed if it reaches you something regarding your brother and sister فطلب له من عدري look for an excuse إلى سبعين عدري up to 70 excuses فإن لم تجد you couldn't find any excuses فقل لعل له عدري لا عرفه then say maybe he or she having an excuse that I do not know of may Allah make us from those people who are like that especially at a time now where we're forced to stay at home with one another we're seeing each other things happen between us when someone says something to us a person speaks about us we're in the family environment and a lot of the times things happen here when you're at home with the family when you are with cousins and relatives and you're all at home you're forced to share you see people say things and look at you in a particular way things reach you from family members فطلب look for them من عدري إلى سبعين عدري فإن لم تجد فقل لعل له عدري لا عرفه فقل لهم عدري الله يقول في القرآن وانزعنا ما في صدورهم من غل إخوانا على صور المتقابلين that their hearts of the believers are cleaned just before they enter Jannah they stand at a place called the Qantarah this place is after the Surat after you go by the Surat everyone stops there and they're told to stand and wait at that place الله cleans everyone's heart towards one another and everyone forgives each other and before they enter Jannah their hearts have to be cleaned for one another we should try to do that now if you look at the Qur'an الله تبارك وتعالى He says to us at times when it's really hard for you to forgive someone الله says in the ayah وإن طائفة تاني من المؤمنين نقتلوا if two parties of the believers fight one another فأصلح بينهم try to bring peace between them فإن بغت إحداهما على الأخرى فقاتلوا التي تبغي حتى تفيئ إلى أمر الله if one party is stubborn and hard headed doesn't want to take the resolution doesn't want to take ceasefire doesn't want to stop the fight wants to carry on الله then tells us سبحانه وتعالى be on the side of the ones who have been oppressed and fight against the oppressor so of course there's going to be bloodshed there's going to be harm there's going to be chaos there's going to be anarchy all of this is going to take place after all of that what does Allah say He says killing one another fighting bloodshed all of that الله reminds us what but you are brothers right you're still brothers إنما المؤمنون إخوة that the believers are nothing to each other except brothers and sisters الله doesn't do that just in سورة الحدورات He also does it in another place in the Quran سورة البقرة الله تبارقة عليه He says الله tells us قصاص قصاص is what قصاص is a capital punishment is that when someone kills another person he's killed for that person he killed an eye for an eye you did something to someone you're going to get that and the same of the same of what you have done but the same thing that you have done will be done to you after saying that what did Allah say He says الله is mentioning brotherhood at a time when someone killed your family member or someone who's caused harm to your family member or someone who's physically harmed you and made you lose a limb الله is saying if you forgive your brother he's telling you that this doesn't cut the ties of kingship that this does not cut the أخوة to إيمان the bond of إيمان so this is what the Salaf understood which is to think good of the Muslims and a lot of the times where why people have conflicts and arguments they don't get along it's not what they said to each other it's actually not what they said to each other or what they've done to each other a lot of the times is what was built in the silence of both parties things that people have been thinking oh yeah I know why he's looking at me like that I know why he doesn't want to do that I know I know it's all speculation if you sit down and I deal with situations like this consultation people come to me wife and husband have conflicts friends business partners landlord and his tenant I always listen and I end up seeing that the majority of arguments of people is based on so one evil thoughts of one another رداركة the poet he said when someone loves someone and he's pleased with someone he only sees the good in them when someone hates someone and doesn't like them even if that person does a thousand good things he's always going to see the evil in them he's always going to look for the faults in the shortcomings so don't be a person who has a preconceived thought or a preconceived notion regarding people or things and then you portray that onto everyone else the eighth إن شاء الله تعالى act of عبادة the Salaf رحمه الله used to come with is التغافل وطالب السلامة they used to behave in a way رحمه الله look at this my beloved brothers and sisters التغافل you know what تغافل means التغافل is to make yourself heedless they used to see something occur from a Muslim brother of theirs or they see them do something which is not pleasant and they pretend they never saw it imagine that they don't bring it up they don't shame the person they don't they just pretend like they never saw that happen and they were well aware of it they saw it this is even greater than the previous one التغافل is to be heedless of it ignore it like it never happened like it's occurrence and its absence is both the same to you وطالب السلامة and also looking for peace in every situation اليمام رحمه الله he said السلامة تسعة اعشارها في التغافل 90% of harmony and peace and tranquility between people 90% of it is based on التغافل is to be heedless of it is to ignore it why is people they don't pick up on everything they don't make something out of everything if you stay with the quramaa the generous people the غولاما the wise people they don't have to always be scholars the wise people the mature people when you stay around them and you're with them you see that they don't hold account they don't hold people account to everything they say or do محمد ابن سيرين he said اذا ذكروا عنده احد محمد ابن سيرين if someone was mentioned in his presence بصوء but he was mentioned with evil and he was criticized he was critiqued in his presence ذكره هو بالقير he will come and he will mention that person in good someone would say something about someone in his presence محمد ابن سيرين will look for something good to say about the person you wouldn't want to be in a place where that person is being slanted being insulted belittled a man came to جاء رجل الى وحم ابن محمد ابن فقال a man came to وحم ابن محمد ابن and then he said to him مرارة بفولان I came by so and so so he's talking to this great imam وحم ابن محمد ابن he said to him I came by so and so I walked by so and so وهو يشتوموك and he's insulting you his name calling you I came across him so and so and he's saying something about you فغضبه he got angry with him وحم ابن محمد ابن became angry and then he said مالقية الشيطان ورسولان غيرك could shaitan not find a another messenger other than you was there any it was there not another messenger he could find other than you why would you mention such and such why would you try your best or even bring up something a person said about another person يعني شيطان could not find any other messenger except you and the man went quiet and the man went quiet خالد بن وليدن one time they came to him and they said to him خالد someone said something about you and then he said to him هذه صحيفة فليم لأها بمشا that's his scroll that's his book let him write whatever he wants inside it smart clever he didn't respond he didn't entertain what the person wanted to say and he also رحمه الله رضي الله تعالى عنه he didn't say something about your response generally some people they did that we all fall into that and allow us to follow the actions of these great imams الامام الشافعي رحمه الله he said من أحب أن يقضى له بالحسنة فليحسن بالناس الضن الامام الشافعي he said who would love who loves for himself that he ends his life with excellence if he wants to be on a good path and he wants to finish his life in that way فليحسن الضنة فليحسن بالناس الضنة he should think good of the people if you really want to live a good life if you want to be a person who doesn't have problems just think good of people فليداريك الكثير من الناس who are stressed who are going through mental health issues anxiety and this and that are people who are letting other people living their minds without pain you're letting another person living your mind you're letting somebody else live in your heart and you're thinking about them and they're not and if you really think about and even if you were to look at why you're thinking about this person it's all based upon speculations لذلك الكثير من الوقت ان الناس فقط يتحدثوا مع بعضهم ، يجب أن يجدون أن يجدون أن كل هذا wasn't the truth wasn't the case now i'm going to move on to the ninth act of act of عبادة that the and this is accepting the truth when it came to them there is not a person that i bought the truth to and then he accepted it i've bought the truth to him and he accepted it إلا هبت who accept that i will venerate that person i glorify that person he becomes something in my eyes he becomes an honorable person there is not a person that i go to i tell them the truth i tell them what is right from what is wrong and then he follows it he says is that the case okay i follow it except that person i venerate them i glorify them i i i see them as to be someone great and there is not a person who becomes arrogant when the truth is brought to them except that he drops from my eyes he loses the value he loses and the station that he had even if he had it before also at the moment we said and this brother's really comes from their time and how good they were nowadays if anybody brings you the truth you try to belittle them first who are you what made you think you can tell me the truth get out of here how old are you again all of this the truth is the lost property of the believer my brothers and sisters the truth and the haq is the lost property of the believer and if you found your property in the rubbish bin you found your phone in the rubbish bin would you say no i'm not going to take it no you'll take it so even someone evil brought you the truth you take it from them it's yours the lost property of the the believer i never debated anyone يعني never did i ever debate anyone except that i wished i loved that Allah gives this person the ability to be upon the truth يعني الله makes the haq come from their mouth i wish and we know when we in debates we always want this person to lose we want to win we want to be the upper hand we want everybody to look at us and say whoa hey how was i we love that that's the way that we are like in that their heart was so clean that they wanted the truth to come regardless of who he came from يعني am i a poet i'm arguing with if Allah brings the truth from his mouth that's what i want يعني ما نظر توا احدان شايف عيسين i never debated with anybody except that i wished Allah تعالى بقوة the truth out of his mouth that i wished Allah تعالى make this person upright steadfast so this is very important this is what the salaf رحمة الله love السلام عليكم if you're enjoying these videos and you like to keep up to date with all of the courses we're going to be running make sure you head over to amauathome.com