 You were born sex positive I was born a freak. She's born. Yeah, I came out the womb Hi guys, this is Mandy B one half of the horrible decisions podcast. I'm excited I'm about to talk sex here with Shamboody So I hope that you guys enjoy if you like our conversation be sure to follow me at full-court pumps everywhere Hi there. Hey girl I'm so excited and that's excited with two s's to have you today I also feel like there's nothing I'm going to ask you that you haven't already covered now It's weird because the more I talk with people. I'm like, I've definitely said this already like fuck like Someone can I say yeah 100%? Okay? Okay? This is gonna be demonetized regardless Oh, okay, so we these interview as soon as the first three minutes began. I was like, yeah, this is demonetized Yeah, no, we don't make money on YouTube. Yeah, it's okay. They're like, oh, I'm talking about second deck again. Yeah So I'd like to start as far back as we possibly can And that to be said when is the first time that you acknowledged your sexuality your sexual self early? Like I think that this is also something that isn't talked about often I remember like hunching my teddy bears. I remember playing house With my mom's friends kids or my dad's girlfriend's kids and us like just Rubbing on each other because there's a sensation there and literally just trying to figure ourselves out I would sneak to watch porn when I went to my friend's house because her brother had a computer I don't know sneaking to walk talk sex with Sue Johansson and bliss that came on at night And it was super soft core porn because it played on TV But just like really being interested in sex and everything around it and again, I grew up in the 90s So uncut was on TV. I'm seeing ass. I'm seeing, you know, just beautiful human beings embrace their bodies and things like that So I knew for a while like that I would kind of be a sexual being You know, I remember having the talks with my teachers like I was fast and I was like I'm not even kissing or hunching or like I thought tongue kissing was the most disgusting thing in the world But it was also just my body So being in school, I couldn't wear short skirts that maybe a smaller girl could because of my curves I had probably see or de-bressed in Middle school and high school my thighs So I think just for a long time I was sexualized or deemed as someone sexual even when I wasn't trying to be But during that traditional period where you were getting all these negative messages You were being told that like your body needs to be covered up. Yeah, that you were fast Even though you weren't sexually active. Yes How was your friend circle around you and either debunking those myths or promoting them? Oh, no, they promoted them My friends definitely started having sex way before me. So it was just like a thing to do like by 16 I think Every one of my friends had sex. So I think that that conversation isn't even had like We're having sex early a lot of everyone that I know had sex early and we're acting like it's not happening It's happening So just having the conversations earlier because had me and my mom had the conversations that we're comfortable having now I Probably would have seen sex a lot differently But who's to say that she was in a space where she knew I don't think any of us really have that sex talk We learn sex as we go. Yes to me sex education is like the longest running bad joke Because your grandma and you can relate about how inept and shitty it was you and your mom can relate and probably you and your Friend who has a daughter's middle school? You guys can all be like it's a waste of time. It's a joke I didn't learn anything right, but we know through the power of research Conversation honest discussion a lot. How much is transformed so much our lives? Absolutely I just and that's why I think I'm so open with having all my conversations Because we shouldn't be disgusted or shamed about even the conversation of sex We should be able to talk about it the same way we talk about sports The same way we talk about our favorite books the same way we talk about our hobbies It's something that is a part of our life And I just hate that there is just the stigma the taboo the shame surrounding something that we all do You were born sex-positive I was born a freak. She's born. Yeah, I came out the womb Making sure something was in my mouth You had this notion in middle school that once you started having sex it would be opening Pandora's box Yes, so now take me through to the place where you started high school. Exactly is when I Had sex for the first time the first person I had sex with was actually my crush from middle school and He was maybe two grades above me, but I got to high school. I was braiding his hair So yeah, come on. Let me break your hair And there we go it happened I feel like it's It's probably the most Uncomfortable space to be having sex because I look back and there were older men that I was having sex with they were 21 22 I remember even What was it my junior or senior year of prom? My boyfriend was above the age to where he could even come. I think he was 22 And we look at a four-year gap as adults like oh, that's nothing but yeah when I'm an impressionable teenager and You may just be hotter to me because you have a car or your own apartment It's just like it it kind of sucks that those conversations aren't had more like don't go and fuck the guy who's 24 even though you're 17 that's not okay Yeah, you're still not at a space where you need to be dealing with someone at that age What would you say, you know if you met a 16 17 year old now who was having experiences of Active yeah, I think my immediate Question would be like what does that person want from you really just asking someone who's 16 or 17 years old Having sex with someone who's 22 23 24. Why why are you guys having sex? Like is he introducing you to people? Is this something that you do you view him as a life partner? Even looking at that we can have high school sweethearts and guys are age and like oh my god be obsessed with them But these older guys. I don't think those feelings were had With me or any of my friends. We were just hooking up with older guys Mm-hmm, and it was brag worthy because they had cars and jobs or their own apartments or oh my god They took me here, but it's they weren't they didn't have anything to them Did it make you feel like sex was all that you had to offer? For a little bit. Yes Yes, and then that's the thing too we come in thinking that our pussies are the best We come in thinking. Oh my body is banging They're gonna like view me as more than or if I if I'm sloppier with my head It's gonna be better than whoever else he's having sex with so yeah, we go in thinking that we're special I always say people too like sex is a part of a healthy balanced diet So it's like a full life you're focusing on your family your friends your career your self-growth your self-love your self-care And then sexuality should be a healthy component of it Do you feel like sex when you first began it was a healthy addition to your life? I mean, I just was having it. I was having sex with so many people And then I was just like why did I just I? Got nothing from it. I wasn't even coming. I wasn't orgasming at the young age I don't even think men were focused on whether I was pleased or not I was also getting head without being able to vocalize. I really don't even like head So I was allowing people to do things to me because they wanted to do it without me even being able to vocalize And I really don't even like that. Oh, you're hurting when you're stuck in my tip Outside of me just allowing him to suck on my titty Like there was a lot of things that I was allowing men to do that I didn't like but I figured if it was pleasing them and that's what they wanted to do I was gonna let them do it to me. So It was bad. It was a whole bunch of bad unhealthy Pointless sex When did you start defining what you like in sex and how did you find the courage to start vocalizing that maybe like 23-24 So it just started the narrative with the people I was talking to being able to say I like when you do this But I don't really like when you do this does it turn you on though? If it's something you like let's compromise So it almost became just more like let's make sure we're doing this for each other Yeah, not just for one person. I started having partners where they were just as open with experimenting They were open with both of us just seeing our limits and when I started getting those partners That's when I was like, oh, this is the sex. I want I don't want to go back Now you said you don't like oral was that before or I was getting no I don't like head. I like giving head. So and I deal with women too. So it's not even a man woman thing Who gives better head? I know I get up with penetration. So No, that's so amazing because with the whole like clitoris see movement of people understanding the clip and how it works now It's almost like it's shifted. So fast enough I had this conversation a day with somebody who was like men need to know more about the clip and I was like, right? Yes, yes, but no, yes, but no because it's like you can't also ignore the other percentage of the population Because in many ways the way that you orgasm is the enemy to majority of women and I say that like Horsesley because we're trying to you know, we as an I don't orgasm from penetration I require clitoris and like oral sex 100% of the time. Shut up and see. Yeah. Yeah, the way I'm saying shut up is the same way They're just like shut you don't need fucking ahead Yeah, this is book that's called come as you are and she says it's a base on the rule of thumb Okay, so the distance between your clitoris and your vaginal opening if it is shorter than the width of the thumb You will more than likely be able to orgasm via penetration Interesting. I'd be curious to know when you go to the bathroom. I'm gonna show you Oh, I was just gonna show you. Okay You tell me what does it look like girl like a thumb? Like a thumb space. No, that's very interesting. The clitoris probably too sensitive for you So that's the crazy part like it's so funny because as I talk sex people are like girl, you're fucking confusing Masturbating I only come off my clip. I don't like shoving anything in my pussy. So I don't use dildos I don't put vibrators in me. I like the sensation of a real actual cock Do you feel like your partners don't know how to Translate what you like when you self-pleasure into their action. I Don't know. So there's a whole like routine. I do like I'm so I'm very visual So I have to watch porn while I play with my clit and do you need a vibrator? So I have one now and it's it's changing my life I'm like I should probably get the fuck rid of it because I'm literally just like I don't really need you But I'm like, okay. No, I really just like the human body on top of me I Don't I haven't even tried to bring it in like like I said when I can have a hard Take that's what I want. I'm curious about you have gone through so many different changes a whole lot Yes, and you have gone through times of different Aspects mentally about sexuality. Basically your body has responded different to sex. Yes You also went through a very big weight loss. Yes. Well, too. Yes, I would love to know how that impacted your sexuality So yeah, I went from 230 pounds binding on only five foot one And now I'm about 155 so about 80 pounds I dropped but for a long time and even within my transition of losing weight. Um, I Realized the fetishism that existed with the men I was having sex with because they would tell me oh, don't lose any more weight like you're gonna lose your hips You're gonna lose your ass the things I like about you You're gonna lose or I remember even one guy who I had not even had sex with yet He's like, well, can you sit on my face before you lose all that weight? And it wasn't until I started losing weight that those things started coming to the forefront like Holy shit. I was I'm being fetishized people are using me But still also maybe not Promoting that they like bigger women. I remember wanting the lights off With having sex because I wasn't comfortable even though I portrayed a you know public, you know persona of Body positivity and confidence and as I walked in the room I struck my my you know size 18 jeans and things I wasn't happy inside and I'm seeing now too with sex like and how I choose my partners I'm more confident in myself of doing it But yeah, there's just a lot that's happened with over this last year and a half Do you notice difference in the way that your body feels like literally the sensations around sexuality have they changed? No, I still like to think I'm thick. So I'm still throwing that ass back But I noticed difference like in myself like I'm looking in the mirror now. You can have the light on I'm doing more positions. Like I'm finding ways to ride like I just rode a dick anally Never would have thought I was gonna do that in life What are some pro tips because I do think that you're a sex expert Okay, I'm gonna take it much better in bed than me a hundred percent I know that without a shadow of a doubt Jared by all means What are some tips you would give to somebody to say here's how you improve your bedroom badassery three tips Three tips communicate Whoever your partner is first of all, we need pro tips because we know that shit already Watching a channel Okay for oral To make it sloppier if you feel like oh my god My mouth is not wet if you take it and you only have to gag once put the dick to the very back of your throat Just go down once and you're gonna get a gag reflex But that's gonna create a lot of saliva in your mouth to where now you can spit on it If you want you can go down the shaft. So that would be for sloppy head Wow If you're interested in going below the balls and Possibly eating ass for the very first time when you go down there lick literally between the balls and the ass Get it really wet through the head keep all of this bit going make the balls Also very sloppy and then what's happening is that slide is going down to the ass So then you could even just rub this bit up and down the ass with your knuckles Don't scare them with the finger because they might think you're trying to poke But just with the knuckle just rub it and again that can be before you even go all the way down there Just to see if they're they're tempting up. Oh for the big girls First store when it comes to I would say either if you're having sex with someone much smaller than you Or maybe their dick is not as big as you would please Be a force and be dominant and spread your own cheeks So don't wait for the guy to figure out how to maneuver from the back I think it's very easy from the back to literally you can go and just spread even one and that helps them get deeper into your pussy It helps you feel more of whatever dick they are offering you but you take all control of your body And you go to spreading and helping Things get out of the way so he can get to your hole I love that safe just in general because when people say oh ban sexual partners It's like you are the consistent you were the commentator. You are actually experience you are So if he's not deep enough or you feel like maybe he's not getting it all in you have to also be there you're it's partnership Yeah, you're having sex. So yeah, he could probably be fucking you bad But you're really not you can help so yes You go back there and get that ass out the way so he can get deeper. So those are my three sex pro tips You