 When the narcissist realises you don't want them, at some point you realise the relationship is pointless and useless. You get tired, you don't want to see or experience any more of it, but narcissists are very needy and clingy, they're very insecure, they need too much attention, they need emotional support, they need to dominate you, they need to feel like they're superior, they need to have the benefits and conveniences they get from being with you, they need your connections and they expect you to go along with their agenda, they expect you to comply with their demands, they expect you to submit to them while they abuse you, while they complain about everything, while they persuade you to do things their way, because if you don't follow their agenda they will get mad, which leaves you walking on egg shells, it leaves you to become extremely cautious about your words and actions, because they're easily offended and upset, until you finally accept that you don't want to do it anymore, because there's no positive aspect of the situation, you're not getting anything out of it, it's just breaking you down, they're not contributing anything of value to your life, they're just taking value away, they're not making you a better person, they're bringing out the worst in you and they're not going to be there for you when you need them, they're not going to be loyal to you, they're going to jump ship and when you realize that, you may wonder what you're even doing with them, but you can't talk about this to them, because they're going to tell you that you just need to give them what they need, but eventually you just get tired of dealing with them and because the narcissist is self-absorbed and lacks empathy, they're not going to share your experience, they're not going to put themselves in your shoes, instead they're going to see it as a competition, as though you think you're better than them and they're going to try to beat you to the punch, they're going to try to get you before you get them and they will often do that by playing the victim, by acting as though you've done something to them and they will have to have the final say, they will have to express the final point of opinion so that they can maintain that authority over you, you can't have a logical argument with a narcissist, they will just become even more needy and demanding because they see it as a threat to their control, so they will just point out everything that is wrong with you, but it really makes no sense, because if you're so bad, why do they require your loyalty and commitment to their cause, when the narcissist realizes you don't want them, they may try to sway you, they may try to persuade you to stay, they may try to love bomb you, they may act kind and helpful because they believe they have a chance, they think they're the best thing since sliced bread, they think that you should want them, they think they can manipulate you once again by being what they think you want to see, but they're not about that for real, you've already seen who they really are and they're not going to change and when you finally realize that they will ghost you, they will cut contact with you and they will act like they were the ones who left you as though you couldn't meet their standards and expectations, it's their way of regaining control over the situation and putting themselves in a position of authority, so that they can feel more confident and secure within themselves, but if that doesn't work, they will go all out to stop you from moving on, they will start a smear campaign, they will try to isolate you, they will stalk and harass you, they will do whatever it takes to bring you down because they don't want you to be good for anyone after they're gone, they're very envious and jealous, they can't stand to see you moving on without them, thank you for watching, I hope this video resonates with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, if you would like to donate my PayPal link it's in the video description, coaching inquiries, you can email me at coach.narcsurviver.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon