 What's going on you guys welcome to the single guy channel my name is Lloyd so today We're gonna be talking about how to talk to a girl how to pick up a girl how to get a girl's phone number Who is sitting next to you or sitting by you sitting at the same table? So this is pretty common if you're doing work at like a coffee shop or something or the library or Maybe you're just sitting next to somebody the DMV who knows there's a lot of situations where we end up sitting next to a cute Pretty girl, and if you just sit there and don't say anything and you're a guy who's single You're a guy who's looking for a woman. You're an idiot Okay, you just wasted a huge opportunity to have a conversation with a nice pretty girl Okay, so how are we going to do this? I'm gonna give you a step-by-step process you guys about how I always Sit down and talk to a girl who's sitting next to me whether it's like I said at a coffee shop or a library or something like that Okay, I'm gonna give you two cases the first case where you start talking to her right when you sit down Which is probably the better option you guys should try and talk to her as quickly as possible Or if you've sat down and you've completely messed it up and you've like you've been sitting there for a while And it's getting kind of awkward. Okay, or maybe she sits down after you Okay, so the first way first You see her you're at a coffee shop a library You're looking to get some work done or something like that Or you're waiting for your number to get called to the DMV Who knows you see a cute girl and you want to sit down next to her now? Obviously if there's nobody else in the coffee shop or in the room Don't sit right next to her If she if there are some people around what I would do is maybe like Maybe sit closer to her obviously the closer you sit to her the easier is it's gonna be to talk to her You don't want to sit too close to make her uncomfortable right away So sit like I don't know give her like one C Okay, or maybe if there's nobody else there maybe give her a couple seats of space So you're giving her some room some space you're not crowding her area But at the same time too it's close enough that you guys can talk to each other now when you sit down I try and like look at her make eye contact smile or something like that But if she's not giving me anything then I'll just say with a very Not I wouldn't say commanding but you know a tone where she can hear you and I'll basically say hey How's it going? I'm Lloyd or hey, how's it going? What are you working on or is this seat taken or something like that? I'll just say something say anything. Okay, whatever you say She's gonna either do like a oh no that seats Totally fine. You can take that seat or oh, I'm good or maybe she'll actually give you a smile and she'll start talking to you Obviously she starts talking to you that's better than her giving one word answers But it's okay if she gives you a one word answer So typically what I'll do is if she looks up and she's just like oh, I'm good And then the kind of like looks down. I'll be like I'll just move on to it to another topic I'll be like cool Well, what are you working on and then maybe she'll say oh I'm just doing some work for this this thing or something like that And then I'll kind of tell her what I'm doing too because if you just ask her a question She's gonna get weirded out She's gonna think this is an interview or why is this strange guy just walking up and asking me a bunch of questions so tell her what you're doing usually I'll say like yeah, I got to get this project done right now or I'm working on something or yeah, I'm gonna be here for just a few minutes that I get some fresh air. I Don't know whatever it doesn't matter and then what I would do after that is if she's playing ball If she's talking to you maybe ask one or two of the questions of the five questions I ask every girl when I'm out which you can check it's a video that I have it's probably one of the Fundamental videos that I would watch if you're learning how to start conversations with women that you don't know Okay, so I'll usually just go into hey where you from are you from the area? What do you do? Maybe a couple of those questions if she's giving very short one word answers probably means she wants to work Don't bother if she wants to work not a big deal or if she wants to be on her phone and not talk Not a big deal. Okay, so if that happens basically, I'll just kind of like do my work and then maybe I'll try again later, okay? Now if she is talking to you if she is like asking you questions about your about your stuff They continue the conversation as you normally would Basically watch some of the other videos that I have ask about her interests ask her a lot of how questions how questions I find to be a lot better than why or what questions meaning if she says that oh, I'm a marketing consultant or something like that I could say cool. How did you get into that? That's a very good follow-up question to ask and if she's down to talk talk to her, you know Be happy have that good fun positive vibe between the two of you Maybe tease her a little bit once you've built up some rapport don't you know walking it and teasing her with the strange guys sometimes can Can go the wrong way if you don't know what you're doing Okay, so that's if you started talking to her right away Okay, and I would recommend that you talk to her as quickly as possible because the longer you wait if you're sitting next to a girl The longer you wait to initiate a conversation Usually the more uncomfortable and awkward it's going to be but let's say you fuck that up Let's say you sat down and you haven't said anything or maybe You didn't notice or something like that and it turns out to be a really cute girl Okay, how do you handle this type of situation? There are a few things that I like to do to start the conversation The first thing that I'll do is this is a kind of a cheap option You could basically say hey, I gotta go like you basically say hey, what's you know? I'm Lloyd with your name. Okay, cool. Nice to meet you Amanda. Hey Amanda Can you do me a favor? I'm actually gonna go to the bathroom or I'm gonna get a coffee really quick Do you mind watching my stuff for just a second if you're gonna be here? Thank you so much I really appreciate it. Okay, then you go up and then you order your coffee or whatever We go to the bathroom, then you come back and when you come back and sit down You thank her and then ask her how she's doing how her work's going and then you start the conversation from there You know moving to the five questions after you've built up a little bit of rapport Maybe get some flirty banter going some teasing or something like that That helps. Okay. That's one way the other way that you can do it And I like to basically if I'm working typically people are not going to be working continuously for hours Okay, they just the human mind can't work like that So I like to take breaks after like 15 minutes of work Then I'll kind of like look up and see if she kind of looks up at me if she's observing me If she's looking at me, that's usually a good thing, but if she's not totally fine I've worked with that tons of times before too So if she's just kind of like looking at her phone looking at her work not really paying attention to anybody else But her a lot of times the hotter girls will do this They're used to not making eye contact with people because they don't want unwanted conversations So if you are in this position Basically, I just kind of like, you know kind of relax maybe do a little stretch and then rather than me talking to the the girl who's like really working really hard Maybe I'll try and engage some of the other people around me Okay, so if there's some other people working at the table and I'm a little nervous to talk to the girl that I want to talk to I'll start talking to the people around me And then once we've got a little bit of banter going and I'll see if she kind of looks up and when she looks up That's what I'll engage her in the conversation. So I'll maybe say hi to the guy sitting next to me But like hey, man, how's it going? Oh nice. What are you working on? Okay, cool. Nice. Are you like do you work in marketing and stuff like that? Okay, cool. Yeah, I used to be into that sort of stuff too And then I'll kind of like see if the girl may be over there. Let's say she's sitting across from me I'll see if she I'll see if she looks up and then I'll be like, oh, do you work in marketing too? Oh, you do? Oh, nice. Yeah. So like I was selling telling him I used to work in marketing actually and then so now you're you have a conversation You've started the conversation asked her how her work's going asked her, you know What she's up to how she got into it those kinds of questions built up some report and then like I said get into You know more flirty kind of playful banter Okay, that is how I start a conversation again if you're nervous try and talk to some other people first Maybe you ask to go to the say hey, I'm going to the bathroom doing watching my stuff Don't sit right next to her when you first get to her and try and talk to her as soon as possible Okay, if you the longer you wait the harder it's going to be and if she doesn't want to talk you guys Totally fine. Let her do your work. Let's sorry. Let her do her And then try and engage later. Okay. All right, and the final point is how do you ask for this girl's phone number at the end? Let's say it's going really well or you could say I got to go right now But I'd love to continue this conversation. Do you have a phone number? What's that or like an Instagram or something and then I'll usually get that I like to get the phone numbers as opposed to an Instagram Usually a little bit better. I don't want to be Smothered in a bunch of DMs from other guys. So I like to get the phone number instead So that's basically my step-by-step process for talking to a girl who's sitting next to you again guys This works in a variety of different scenarios But in this case I chose one at like a coffee shop or a co-working space where you're working next to people Oh guys, by the way, I just had a few spots open up in my one-on-one coaching program So if you're looking to get coached by me one-on-one Basically fill out the form down below and if you feel like you're a good fit, we'll get back to you Thanks a lot you guys if you have any questions put them in the comment section below Subscribe if you haven't subscribed yet. Thanks a lot and good luck out there