 Welcome to Psychic Medium Tony G or Tony Green. I'm Tony Green. I'm gonna get this show started as quickly as I can today but before I do I just want to say good morning to everybody and to say I hope you had a really like just an amazing weekend. We're going into fall now and the weather is changing and this you know summer is my favorite time of the year absolutely 100% my favorite time of the year because we can't just do so much during the summer the the weather is beautiful and there are so many beautiful flowers out and I just I love summer I'm I'm truly I'm a true summer baby but now that we're going into fall and the evening is getting cooler where I live it's just it's kind of I don't love it I definitely do not love it it is not my favorite thing I can't bike as much the wind picks up the wind is colder oh life is tragic okay so today I will be taking collars and answering their questions helping them connect to loved ones on the other side I will also be answering questions for people in the chat section of YouTube so everybody on YouTube if I miss your question please forgive me because I don't always sometimes the chat goes really fast and I can't get to everybody I can't excuse me I can't get to everybody or I might miss your question as more people come on and just start popping questions in for me also if you would like to call in and ask your question on air the number is 845-277-9131 again that's 845-277-9131 if you do have a question please make sure you have an exact question or a connection and for a connection if you want to connect with a loved one on the other side I just need the first name of the person and their relationship to you like Judy my mom like my grandpa whatever it may be and then I'll do the best I can to do the best I can for you so for those of you that I my throat is getting super froggy so I'm going to say that this is someone trying to come through for someone because believe it or not that does happen okay so I'm hearing that somebody somebody who's listening maybe will not come through in the chat or on the call log there's somebody who's crossed over who's on the other side that had esophageal cancer esophageal cancer definitely something with their throat it made it very difficult to talk they could not oh my goodness gracious they could not have good communication especially during the end they want you to know that they're okay they made it home and they're just singing this one part of this one song which is it's a post Malone song of is I'm better now but the song is like a kind of a breakup song but they're just this one verse I'm better now I'm better now so just so you know that and now my voice is back we'll see how long that lasts for okay I'm gonna say hi to Heather and Kathy you guys have they been waiting a long time on YouTube for me I did answer your question Kathy I hope that was helpful for you if you call in I might be able to give you more details about that and Heather thank you for checking in with me every Monday morning I know Genevieve will be on soon if she's not already on and I know Matthew Moore listens every single week thank you Matthew for for listening and joining into the show so I see a couple of people I think I saw Cheryl or Cheryl oh is on thank you good afternoon Cheryl I'm wondering if my wedding rings will ever appear again um well Cheryl that's kind of an open yes they have appeared again just not to you okay um I'm getting two things for you Cheryl and if I'm wrong I want to apologize I see like a children's toy toy chest look through the children's toy chest now I'm not saying you're going to find the wedding rings there but I do feel like I don't know why I just feel like you need to go through your children's that your grandchildren's toy chest and you need to look at what's in there or a toy chest that you packed away or a toy chest that you packed away like a chest a chest that you you packed away at the same time as uh losing your your wedding this is not a wedding ring folks it's not I point to it but just because it's a ring I'm I'm not engaged I'm not married I don't I don't like to play reindeer games with people so no not engaged not married um yeah I know that was a crazy way of saying that um um but okay um a chest that you packed some things away in right around the time your rings went missing if they're not in the chest they might be around it um I just feel like you need to go through a chest whether it be a toy chest or something you put clothes in whatever it is they're showing me it's in something that is like filled with something that maybe you put away for a while like you were packing things away I'm not sure if that's helpful Cheryl I certainly hope it is I'm going to take one more question from YouTube because my YouTube people get really I don't always get to get to them um because I'm so busy taking callers but my I love these guys too so I want to get to them so the next person is uh oh thank you I I can't pronounce your name well actually the truth is I can't see your name but it starts with an M um thank you so much for the compliment that's that's truly so kind of you that is very kind of you um it really was so helpful Kathy absolutely my pleasure Kathy wanted to know if she was going to get a specific job Kathy here's what I'm going to say to you I do feel like you are going to get that job I get a solid yes on it but I feel like there's going to be something with that job that's going to make you kind of go oh wait a minute wait whoa you didn't tell me this during the interview you know we can take a job and keep looking we can accept a position and keep looking I feel like there's going to be something Kathy um that either right when you accept the job or right after you start the job you're going to find out they're going to have some demands of you that that are you didn't expect or that they didn't verbalize and you're going to have to make the choice of okay do it do I want to do this it's okay to keep looking sometimes we get a filler position and I feel like you need to take that position if you if you don't if you don't have a position take that position and another position is going to come but that position will come for like um I want to say like a month and a half yeah like a month and a half the next position is going to be presented to you and it's going to be a much better opportunity okay now let me tell you something p I've been called out on this when I tell people just take the job until you find the better job people are like well the companies you know if you make a commitment to a company listen if you're not working out that company is going to let you go quickly they're not going to be like well she's not working out we're going to keep her on for the next you know whatever they're going to let you go they're going to replace you they're going to call the next person who applied and put that next person in your place companies just do that okay so don't feel for a moment um that if something better comes along for you that you cannot take it okay you can take it um and companies do the exact same thing if you're not working out you're going to be replaced and so if they're not working out you can do the same thing okay do it with integrity of course do it with integrity but yes um okay I am going to go to our first caller our first caller is going to be seven two seven hello seven two seven how are you today I need to back off this I keep cutting my head off on the camera I'm good how are you I'm good thank you so much for calling in what's your name were you calling from um my name's Lisa I'm calling from Florida okay Lisa how can I help you today what's your question or connection okay so the first thing I'm hearing is that song from frozen let it go let it go let all the BS go um what I'm going to say to you is there are just some toxic people out there and I've used this statement before and I know it sounds really harsh but you know I just want to say there are adult bullies and narcissists and yeah and what I'm going to be nailing it yeah and what I'm going to say is if somebody's a trash bag full of garbage that needs to be taken to the city dump you don't have to take them to the city dump but you can sure enough keep them on your curb so they can no longer affect you um I have had someone in and out of my life that I kept giving them another chance and giving them another chance and a full grown adult woman and you know at some point you just have to say this is not my energy I am permanently letting this go I'm not this kind of person I don't want to be around people like this I don't want this energy this behavior this toxicity in my life now people mistake empathy with um protecting yourselves like we sometimes people will say oh but and make excuses for people these are full but grown adults if you don't know how to behave if you do not know how to not lie not cheat cheat lie or if you do not know how to not be toxic or not be a bully if every time I do something you don't like you're telling everybody you know or you're just continually lying or you're just being a an adult bully an adult teenager get to step in there are millions of people in this world there is no need to have people in your life that do not honor who you want to be who you are moving forward as amen so amen what I would say to you is yeah they're going to keep being bullies because bullies bully that's what they do but you need to cut it and move on with your life and just don't even the one thing that I know is what you pay attention to is what you are being what your acknowledgement what you're being ignore what will come to you I can't why can't I say that sentence right now what you pay attention to like if you're paying attention to oh my god are they talking about me oh my goodness are they this are they that you're going to be more aware of it so leave them with love you know say god bless these people but bless them away from me and then don't let that energy come back to you and and don't feel bad about moving on from people who can't behave like an adult who can't have character and integrity because they're not going to change at this point they are not going to change at this point okay yeah I hope this was helpful for you yeah I know I agree with everything you said I'm just um cut them off and block them from the energy work I'm not accepting and thinking about them but my main question was do you see them like letting go of the idea that they can be around me after it cuts them off block them then everything I can are they gonna let go yes um but you have to um they are going to let go they're gonna try to reach out one more time what at least one of them is gonna try to reach out one more time you know we always think we have to give a response to be nice or kind you know I don't you have to like no no yeah good as long as you have no as long as you have absolutely no response they will go and I I do hear and I'm gonna tell you this I do hear that they're going to have bigger fish to fry and people like this need somebody that keeps that energy going back and forth so I feel like they're gonna pick a new victim so to say and have that person be their antagonist energy you just move on and live your life the way you live your life and thank you so much for calling in I'm going directly to the next caller who is 386 386 how are you today I'm good thank you so very much Tony for taking my oh my goodness absolutely my pleasure how can I help you what's your question or your connection you would like to make okay some insight in I'm gonna make us like correction in your statement you are trusting but sometimes we want the end goal so badly that we're not looking at the race we're running okay so we are wanting it to be like a 5k when we should be looking at it like it's a marathon and what I mean by that is we meet somebody and the first three months always go fabulous and the first three months are fabulous because we haven't seen any warning signs we haven't seen any real flaws everybody's on their best behavior even us we are on our best behavior we're showing up as that really you know who we think they want us to be after the first three months we slowly slide into who we really are and that's when we figure out do I like this person or do I not that's when we start asking the real questions and we put the real pressure on so around the six month mark we're typically looking at the other person going okay where is this going that now let me be one million percent clear about this if you are letting somebody slip their ding dong in your ho ho or slip their ho ho in your ding dong whatever it is you have a right to know how serious they are about you you have the right to know what their intentions are if they do not want to answer if they are evasive in their answer or if their answer does not match the energy that they're putting in or their behaviors you've got your answer we want to believe that it might be something different and we also want it to go very very quickly like we want that commitment we want it locked down that's the nature of a woman that is we are nesters it's not always our fault we especially women once we get to a certain point we're not playing anymore like if we're 18 we can play once we're like past a certain age we're not playing anymore like listen if you want to play go get yourself a toy go get something you can blow up and play with I'm not that person okay I'm I'm not a blow-up person don't don't play with me now I am going to tell you you already know the answers to the questions you're asking and I am also going to tell you as difficult as this might be to hear and I'm sorry because sometimes we're hoping somebody will say to us no this person is really like this and it has a shot but the truth of the matter is somebody who goes to or takes a break for a month yeah after that you need to reevaluate why are we putting up with this and why did we let them just pop right back in and start over like there was never anything wrong so what what I'm going to say to you is this going to be a long term relationship the answer to that question is well how much do you want to put up with from this guy how long do you want this to go on this can be as long term as you want it to be as long as you're willing to concede and what's the the approach as long as you're willing to concede and you're willing to allow this type of behavior okay you already have major major red flags going off here sirens buzzing for you to stay in this situation you basically at this point have to dumb down and say these things are not big deals but you're calling in and you're asking about them because you know beyond the shadow of a doubt these are big deals these are deal breakers so for you moving forward I'm not going to tell you leave a person stay with a person because our heart is going to do what our heart is going to do our heart is going to override the mind every single time so I am going to tell you you have to decide what do I deserve as far as behavior and treatment go and then stick to that and you need to know you need to know like you know like you know just like I said to the last person there are millions of people in this world if this is not the right person if this has happened it's the universe or God or your angels or your loved ones on the other side showing you look we're trying to take we're trying I'm gonna I'm sorry I'm laughing as I channel this we're trying to take the trash out stop acting like this is good will and bringing the used goods back in your house oh my god you are not good will don't don't take it somebody else's garbage I'm so sorry I wish I could see my face I'm so red right now okay what I'm gonna tell you oh I think that's hilarious I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm laughing because I know this means a lot okay but here's what I'm gonna tell you sweetie sweetie listen to me listen he showed you his intentions because anybody who truly cares about you and wants a future with you and you can ask any man don't ask another woman because we don't believe other women ask any man friend you have if a man believes you're the one he's not leaving you for a week he's not leaving you for a month because he's afraid somebody else is going to snatch you up at bottom line if he left you it doesn't matter if he said it or not sorry anybody who is afraid of losing you anybody who thinks they want a future with you and is afraid of losing you is not gonna and the term is abandon you take a break ghost whatever word whatever verbiage you want to use they're not going to do that because they know you're there they know you're a catch and somebody else is going to come snag you up so I'm going to tell you right now I you're making excuses for this and you're making excuses for him and that's okay I've been there I've been in this situation where I wanted so badly to believe this person loved me as much as I love them but no they might not have been capable of it that's not my problem that's their problem but I had to get to the point where I realized if this person really cared about me if this person truly loved me they would know there's a line behind them waiting for me and or they don't care and they're just walking away because they don't care if I'm here when they get back or not so you know what I say thank you next thank you next if you cannot come corrected if you cannot be a full grown man in this relationship then I'm going to find one it's that simple if this guy cannot show up and be a full grown man who's ready for a committed situation like you are thank you next and let me tell you if you let this guy go if you let him go and I'm sorry to say this but you probably should within a month to a month and a half you are going to meet somebody brand new who is looking for everything you're looking for now us people of people in general we want to win we want to win we want to prove we weren't wrong right we just want to prove we were not wrong and that we went through all of this for some reason because it's going to lead to something bigger and better maybe the bigger and better is with the next person yeah you're so good on everything you're saying oh thank you so much well I I am speaking from experience please trust me on this I am speaking from a lot of experience believe me I I've had exes that have slept with my friends great friends by the way I have had exes that have asked out my friends I have had exes that just like like this disappear for a little while then think they can walk right back in like nothing ever happened yeah no no no no no no sweetie I am not a rental car I am not a rental vehicle you don't get to show up and drive me whenever you want uh uh uh no we don't play that game anymore because now I we have self respect and self work I just told him the shelf ornament when he called wanted me to come over and I was like three hours later when I come over called it right or right calm you think I'm a damn shelf ornament okay sweetie here's a thing I'm not I'm not your oh I'm so sorry I accidentally hit the button here's what I'm going to tell you it's good that you said that but you still went after a month you still went and I really I wanted to keep letting you talk but I'm at the 29 minute mark and I want to thank everybody who joined me today thank you so much I will be back next Monday at new taking calls answering questions