 when you stop caring the narcissist does this so in the beginning you try everything in your power to make the narcissist happy you do everything you can for them you may have done more for the narcissist than you did for anyone in your life but for whatever reason it's just not good enough for the narcissist they're not satisfied and you may think that it's something to do with you you may think that maybe you could be better maybe you could do more but actually the narcissist just has these insatiable desires they can never be fulfilled they can never be happy with anything even if there was a perfect person walking the earth eventually the narcissist would tell them to pieces and many of you who watch my videos you are attractive and successful people you weren't good enough for the narcissist you may have been good enough for everyone and everything else in your life but when it comes to the narcissist you could never measure up you could never be good enough and many of you are doctors lawyers business owners you're very successful in your field you're very good at what you do but it seems that you're no good when it comes to the narcissist how can that be how is it possible the only possibility is that actually it's not you and it is the narcissist and while other people in your life may seem happy with what you're doing the narcissist just has these insatiable desires they can put you on their hamster wheel and you will be trying to run faster and faster to make them happy but I can tell you right now it's never going to happen no one has ever made a narcissist happy and no one ever will because even when you think you've achieved whatever result they want the next day the goalposts move and then they're expected a different result a different objective so there is really nothing that you can do and many of you who are watching this right now you may have gotten to the point where you're fed up you've given up trying you just don't want to do anything anymore you're unmotivated you may be in a state where you don't even want to get out of bed anymore you don't want to go to work you just don't want to do anything because you already know anything that you do is going to be criticized it's going to be brought down it's going to be misinterpreted it's going to be seen as not good enough so you just want to stop everything you just want to lay in bed all day but you know even if you do that they're going to find something wrong with it they're going to call you lazy they're going to call you selfish even if you don't do anything so it's one of those damned if you do damned if you don't whatever you do it's bad it's wrong it's not good enough it needs to be something else and when you do finally get fed up when you finally give up that is when they go into point the finger at you they're going to play the victim and say you've done something wrong you did something to them they're going to shift the blame on to you and say that you were bound to done without help or support you were supposed to be doing this for them you were supposed to be doing that you should have done this better they're still going to continue to criticize you whether you do everything or not there is no way out of it but the narcissist there is no winning there's no anything good there's nothing positive even if you end up in a state where you're hospitalized we are suffering from serious physical or mental health conditions I do if they caused it they're still going to see it as though there's something wrong with you they're still going to blame you I can tell you you can run yourself into the ground you can work yourself to the bone but you are never going to make any narcissist happy for a consistent amount of time and you're never going to get what you want you're never going to get the validation you're never going to get to feel like you're a good person who is doing the right thing you're never going to get that with the narcissist it's just not going to happen give it to yourself instead of expecting praise and compliments from the narcissist give that to yourself because trust me you deserve it all of you on here who are watching this right now you are all amazing people I don't care what the narcissist says I don't care what they're criticizing anything a narcissist says has no value how is it benefited you in any way by listening to them so please recognize your worth today recognize all the hard work you put in to become who you are and congratulate yourself don't wait for anyone else to do it because most people are just worrying about their own lives give that to yourself if you've made it this far you got involved with a narcissist and you found your way to my videos that is a big step you have come a long way already so congratulate yourself for that we are all on the path to healing to recovery from everything we went through and sometimes we need to stop and look back at everything we've accomplished everything we've achieved everything that makes us who we are today sometimes we need to stop and do that because happiness does not come from anything in the present it does not come from anything in the future it comes from you recognizing who you are the work you put in everything you've achieved that's what happiness is about and also let it come from within because that's most important don't let it come from any person or external thing if you keep depending on other people or things for your happiness you're never going to be happy because most people in this world today are not happy with their lives so they cannot give that happiness to you because they don't have it you can't give something you don't already have so get your happiness from within and share it with other people that's the message for today when you give up the narcissist is not going to stop they're going to keep making unrealistic demands they're going to keep holding you to high expectations expectations that they can't even meet themselves and yet they expect you to do it which should already reveal to you how secretly highly they view you because you've got to be at some level for someone to even expect that from you so when they hold you to high expectations and they expect you to do that and do this they're doing that because they know you're already capable so as I've said in my past videos let your haters be your motivators they're basically telling you how great you are what you can achieve the sky is the limit for anyone all you have to do is believe in yourself you can achieve whatever you want don't let anyone tell you you can't but the narcissist will get mad they will get angry when you finally give up when you finally get fed up of them they will say horrible things about you to other people they will start a smear campaign against you they won't try and make your life even worse than it may already be that's how you know they have no empathy because you may have all of these things going on in your life all of this stuff you have to worry about and then there's the narcissist always yapping about something trying to bring you down that's just one thing you have to accept narcissist don't give a shit about you they don't care all they care about is what they want and you're just a means to get it other than that there's nothing that's all there is that's the truth but you can move on you can be better you can be happier without them I know you can if you're reading this right now let this motivate you let this inspire you to move on and live a better life without these people constantly bringing you down we're trying to move up in life we don't want to go down remember that so together let's lift each other up to the heights where we want to be there's two types of people in this world there's people who build and then there's people who destroy a narcissist are definitely people who destroy you go around a narcissist they go in to destroy you they are not going to build you up and that's all it is to it some people build some people will build you up and make you feel good about yourself other people will bring you down they will destroy you recognize the difference this is the real truth here but that's all I've got to say for this if you have any questions about this topic or anything else please write it below right now and I will read it and give you my response so please write in the chat right now so I can read it just out here by a lake it's very beautiful very sunny today not me 704 TV asks do flying monkeys know what they're doing yes and no someone asks is sorry some flying monkeys may know exactly what they're doing they may be fully aware of it they may be fully aware of the effects it's having on you but they just don't care well others may not be completely aware they may not know exactly what they're doing maybe they think they're doing the right thing by siding with a narcissist by trying to help them some flying monkeys maybe narcissistic themselves central live wire asks about no contact after you move on it's not that simple with a narcissist a normal breakup might be over after a few days or up to two weeks but with a narcissist it can go on for years they can be there for the rest of your life they don't know how to let things go once you cause that injury they never stop so yes they may still come after you they may still can harass you they may try to tear you down ruin you financially ruin your reputation they may try to interfere with your other relationships in the future they may try to isolate you not all narcissists though some of them will just leave you alone especially if they have other things that are more significant in their lives because when it comes down to it all depends on what is significant to you different things are significant to different people and what's significant to a person tells you everything you need to know about them if you've moved on and you've got no contact and the narcissist is still treating you as something significant that's when you know there is something wrong with them because if you're not involved with them if you're not in contact with them if you have nothing to do with them whatsoever and they're still blowing you up they're still mentioning your name to other people that's when you know they have an obsession that's when you know they mentally ill because no normal person is going to do that no normal person is going to talk that way about someone who isn't even in their lives anymore but narcissists will do that and that should be a clear sign that should tell you everything you need to know Ocean 21 asks how can someone stop missing and thinking about the narcissist I understand that if the narcissist discarded you you may be holding on to that fantasy you may be wishing it could go back to the love bombing but you need to recognize that was a false character that wasn't even real that was put together to manipulate you to lure you into the relationship they weren't really about any of that it was just a false image but if you want to stop missing them and stop thinking about them start focusing on yourself focus on your own life spend time with healthy family members and friends focus on your passions focus on the things that you are passionate about things that mean something to you spend time in nature spend time with animals go back to your old hobbies and interests or start new ones passions are very powerful and very healing so yeah that's what I recommend to help you stop missing and thinking about the narcissist anyway that's all for this live video just want to show the lake one more time before I go come out here because it's very peaceful and it makes me want to do a live video makes me want to give something back to our community which means a lot to me thank you all for joining me on another knock survivor live video and I will talk to you in another one another one very soon you will have a great day