 So the last one we looked at was the Bob principle where Bob has a problem with everything. So Bob has a problem with everything and everyone so that we really need to seriously see is Bob doing okay rather than everyone else with whom Bob seems to have a problem. So is Bob doing okay? So in this case we're looking at ourselves and we're saying am I doing okay? Am I the cause of the problem? Am I the cause of developing that problem into something big than it already is? Or am I being a problem solver? We need to, it's a hard call when we actually looking at ourselves as asking that very objectively am I causing this problem or am I really solving it? Am I doing everything to solve it? So we make that correction that also helps build trust rather than create problems and rather than allowing problems to fester and grow if we are problem solvers then it builds trust. Okay, let's look at the next one which is the approachability principle. When we are approachable, when people find it easier to access, to have access into our lives or have access to us, whether to communicate, whether to discuss, whether to, it could be for, you know, whether to inquire about certain things and when people find it easier to first of all approach us and to communicate with us, to interact with us. It's not like a big thing for them to think through and overthink and come to that place of, you know, actually being able to speak to us, being able to communicate with us. Then it puts them at ease. It puts the team at ease. It puts whoever wants to interact with us at ease and this helps again in the area of trust. Okay, so again, you know, we are asking ourselves, am I, am I approachable? Okay, do people find me approachable or, you know, have I unnecessarily put a lot of things in place so that access to me and approach to me have made it difficult, right? So it's very, very important that people find us approachable, people find us easy to communicate with. Yeah, I'm sure, you know, when we, when we look back, we can, we can, in our own lives, we can see that, okay, there are some people who are easy to get along with. And then it's always joy to work with such people, right? It's always, we look forward to it. But there are some who we find very difficult to get along with, work with. It's always a, it's always a effort, like it's always a, it's always a challenge. Okay, so it's good to look, you know, what creates that? Why is it a challenge? What is it about that person that, you know, it's a, it's a good, it's a good case study and how not to do, how not to be, right? What is it that, that causes this kind of a dynamic and it's difficult to work, it's difficult to get through, it's difficult to communicate and work alongside, right? So we can avoid all those things in our lives, okay, the simple things. How to be more approachable to exhibit personal warmth, right? To not be that aloof person who is so engrossed in his or her own thoughts, in her own world, okay? When you walk into the office, when you, you know, walk in, interact with, when you meet others, sorry. Are you, are you exuding that warmth, personal warmth, meaning are you friendly, are you, are you wishing them, are you just inquiring about them, you know, just a simple hello with a, with a great smile and, you know, and a couple of words to find out how they are and, you know, what they're doing, okay? Now that's, that's what we call as personal warmth, right? You warm up with such a person and do you exhibit that, you know, do I exhibit that? Yes, it is, you know, there are times when maybe we get up and then we are so bogged down by the challenges, you know, things, problems that need solving, things that need to be handled, you know, maybe there are, there are the list of things to be done in a particular day or within that particular hour, you know, it's, it's a whole lot of things that we need to do, but let's not forget to, to, to be warm and friendly with others, right? Even, even for a moment, let's not, let's not forget that. Yeah. The second thing is to appreciate differences in people, to appreciate that, you know, well, not everybody's the same to appreciate the differences. Generally, I would say to appreciate people, to see the qualities, to see the gold in people and to appreciate that and to mention that, right? And to be, um, and to be sincere about it, right? Well, if we, uh, if you're not sincere about it, if it can come across as being very, very, uh, inauthentic and maybe it can come across as, okay, what is the agenda? No, why is this, uh, why, why is this lack of authenticity? Why is this flattery, right? It can come across, uh, very, very clearly as, uh, as, uh, you know, the person can think, okay, why is this person saying this? Why is this flattery, right? So, um, be sincere, but, uh, appreciate, and appreciate the differences, right? Not everybody's going to be the same. So, which means that you, you know, even as we look at others, you see that and appreciate that, recognize the difference in people, differences in people and, and appreciate that. Okay. Um, the third one is to maintain an even temperament, being consistent. Okay. Um, and I don't know if you worked with people or worked, you had bosses who, you know, you, you walk into the office and then you see them, one look and you know that, okay, uh, boss is in a bad mood or everybody's whispering, saying boss is in a bad mood, boss is in a bad mood. And, uh, the thing is, you know, certain days boss in a bad mood, certain days the boss is in a good mood, right? So it, uh, so what happens is people are guessing, you know, is he in a bad mood? Is she in a bad mood? Is he in a good mood today? Right. And, uh, and that puts them in a difficult place. They cannot be who they want to be, who they are. So to be consistent in our mood, right? But having said that, uh, we, we have our challenges. We have our challenges. It's very difficult while we, while, you know, we, we need to, um, um, we need to, you know, focus on the task at hand, but at the same time, when we go, when we work as a human being, there are all these challenges, which, which are there with us, you know, things that happen at home, things that happen in our family, you know, uh, we cannot just completely cut away. It's there, it's there with us on our minds, right? Things that we need to do at the end of the day, get back, make some problem, uh, with a spouse, maybe something with, with, uh, with our children and, and, you know, all that is laying around my, as much as possible, you know, we, we need to, uh, we need to try and put that aside in the sense we trust in the Lord, uh, we commit all these things to the Lord and, uh, we come to a place of focusing on the task at hand, right? And particularly I'm talking about a very formal kind of, um, you know, work situation or even, even if it is going to be, you know, something like a semi-formal, um, uh, relationship at work or ministry, right? It can be the culture can be very, very, I'm sorry, very, very informal and even those, you know, in the sense that people will, uh, we're able to talk about things at home, we're able to, you know, it's the culture, uh, in that particular place where you can talk about challenges, home, et cetera, and, and at the workplace, right? Uh, there are, there are, there are some places where you can't just bring that in. You know, it's an absolute no. You just focus on what needs to be done and you get it done. Like it's that kind of environment. But anyway, so whatever be that environment, we need to be, um, you know, we need, we need to, uh, not let the things or maybe, uh, our personal lives, not let what is happening in our, um, you know, in our homes, in our families, not let it affect, affect us, or we need to deal with it, rise above that challenge, and not let it affect our interaction with our colleagues, interaction with our team. Okay. So this consistent, being consistent in our, uh, in our temperament, right, is so very important. That also makes it, makes us approachable for others. Okay. Being sensitive to other people's feelings, right? Uh, in our decisions, in our, in our interactions, being sensitive to others. Now, um, being sensitive means, meaning being aware. Okay. This, these words will have this kind of an impact on people, right? These, uh, decisions will have, uh, this kind of consequence, or this is the, you know, emotionally and relationally, this will, um, this, um, this is possible. I mean, this is what it will happen, uh, with other people, right? To be, to be aware of that, and to be sensitive of that, right? Um, like, again, coming back to that policy, that principle, what we see in efficient speaking the truth in love, growing up in all things. Speaking the truth in love, that doesn't mean that it's a very, um, you know, always speaking, uh, you know, things that are pleasing to others, that others will always find it, find us lovable and, you know, it's not that. But speaking the truth, being firm, but in undergirding that with love. Okay. So being sensitive, okay, to others' feelings is very important. Okay. Uh, be realistic about others' weaknesses and also your own. Okay. Um, people have, people do have areas of, uh, areas that needs growth and change, and so do we. Okay. So be realistic about that, not to hover that up, and, uh, at the same time, not to overly just put it on display, right? To be realistic about it. Yes, I recognize it, and that you have a, you know, this area of change, and you're dealing with it, and at the same time, with others. That also, you know, comes from that place of being sensitive to others, other peoples, where they are, other peoples' needs, and their feelings, right? Um, then develop the ability to forgive easily, and also to ask for forgiveness. Now, this is a big one, right? This is a big one which challenges us, um, um, and it's, it's a difficult one, right? To be able to forgive and to move on. And to do this, again, I just want to repeat that, to do this in the right way, right? When we, when we forgive, it is not to sweep away or to condone the wrong thing, right? Um, that is doing it the wrong way, right? To be able to forgive, um, but to, to address the wrong, right? To address the wrong, to address, um, the negative thing, but to go beyond that and to forgive. And, uh, to communicate that, to ask for forgiveness, if it is, uh, something that we have done, to ask for forgiveness. And, um, and this is, uh, this really, um, you know, builds trust in people, you know, and, and displays sincerity and, uh, authentic authenticity. And it can only come from a place of being secure in Christ, right? To ask for forgiveness. Um, and maybe if it, if something was done publicly, uh, if something was said or done publicly to hurt or to wrong a person, to ask for forgiveness, maybe in that same setting, or the public setting, um, if it was, if it was a private setting, that is fine, right? To ask for forgiveness and to, uh, to move on. But if it was a public setting, you know, which, which might be difficult for us to ask, especially if, uh, let's say if, uh, if you're a leader of a team, or if you're a spiritual overseer, right, if you're a pastor, and, uh, you know, and things were said and things were done in a public setting, like maybe in front of the whole church, maybe, maybe in a, you know, in a group setting, who once we realized that that was wrong to ask for forgiveness in a, in a similar setting, or the same kind of setting, right? It's very, very important. Like that builds trust, like nothing else can, and that, um, you know, shows sincerity, uh, and truthfulness, like nothing else can. At the same time, knowing that, okay, this person, I can go to this person, right? This person, sorry, this person realizes what was wrong, and it's, is not afraid to admit it, uh, whether it is wrong. So, um, this is a big one, right? And if we would have it, you know, as leaders, as ministers, if we would follow this difficult principle, if it make it part of our lives, then it would really change the whole dynamics of the team and the ministry that we are leading. It's not a, it's not a display of weakness, like when, um, and it's not like we, you know, we ask, we make a big thing out of something small. No, if it was, if this was done, and if this was done publicly, to ask for forgiveness and to apologize, you know. And I've, um, personally, I've seen that in action, and, uh, and it really changes, um, it changes us, because it's a, it's a big step, right? If we are the ones who are asking for forgiveness, it's a big step. Excuse me. Excuse me. And if, um, uh, and also it changes the lives of people around, um, it communicates so much, um, of sincerity and so much of strength. People don't see that as a weakness, but, um, uh, but people understand, right, your heart. So, uh, so this is, uh, something that, even though we're looking at, you know, uh, it, we're studying it as a the approachability principle and building trust, it has so many, uh, um, outworkings of that, right? Um, yeah. Okay. Then the, then the last one in this about building trust, me building mutual trust is the foxhole principle, in a sense. It's just, uh, you know, even, you know, what a foxhole is, you know, in the, in the army, um, especially during war, they just dig a foxhole, uh, and it's called a foxhole with a small one which, uh, in which you can be and which can take one more person there. And, uh, it protects from the enemy's bullets, um, in the time of war. So it's, it's, it's a foxhole, you know, which has something for you and then for another person, another soldier. So the foxhole principle is that, uh, just to recognize that nobody is, uh, an island, right? Nobody is an island. That we all need relationships, um, and relationships in good times and especially in difficult times. We all need, and we, right, we are created to be in community, right? And, uh, we all receive strength and support because we are the body of Christ and also in all our other relationships with family and friends and so on, uh, and even in formal relationships and office and colleagues, right? Um, we are not an island isolated, but we are, we are actually a network. We are part of, uh, a body. Right. So these are there to keep us strong. So recognize that, right? These are there to keep us strong. These are there to, so that we can help in times of challenging times and, and, um, and there's trouble. So rather than striving to isolate work towards being part, right? Rather than pulling away and isolating, uh, the work towards being part of something, uh, which involves, that's a foxhole principle. Keep that in mind because, uh, maybe this should have been the first principle. You know, the thing is, uh, sometimes we, we have that, you know, because of who we are temperamentally. We have the tendency to just pull away, right? And just pulling away doesn't help in building mutual trust. Rather than, you know, rather than pull away, if we were to have the opposite, we were to do the opposite, be in the midst, be with people, recognize that, uh, we are not designed to pull away, but rather to be in connection, uh, with people and of course with God himself, right? So that's the foxhole principle to have that mindset. It just, it can help us, um, to, to really recognize the fact that we need one another and therefore we need to build trust, right? Okay. So we looked at five and, uh, any questions here or any, any challenges that you, you feel in, in, in actually working out any of these principles, any questions, uh, or maybe some experience that you had, um, none whatsoever. Yeah. Um, I have a question. So we learned in the Bob principle, like sometimes the mistake is on our side, right? Yeah. So, uh, I think when, when the mistake is on our side, the first thing that hits us is guilt, a lot of guilt. When you understand that your system is stick, uh, there's a weight of, uh, guilt, uh, it, it happens to me. So, uh, how do you overcome it? Uh, maybe by analyzing, maybe, but sometimes when you remember it again, it again puts you in the guilt. Uh, that's what happens to me sometimes. So, uh, I just want to get a little more deeper how to, uh, I feel like sometimes forgiving others is very easy, uh, because we learn a lot about forgiveness, how Jesus forgave everything. But when it comes to us, uh, when we know, like, we should do this thing like this, we do study the Bible, we do study, like, uh, this is how we should walk this, how we should talk and so many other things in the Bible. And then still you do a mistake. It's like, it's like a big, big burden. So, uh, how do we forgive ourselves? And, uh, this is something that I, let's do a little more deeper. I thought I can. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it is, uh, yeah. So when we look at, uh, the Bob principal and also see that, okay, um, uh, uh, the problem is with us and, uh, you know, the Bob principal is that, um, it's, um, just to clarify that, uh, you know, if we are having problems with each and every person that we interact with, no, that's the Bob principal thing. So, um, in the, you know, why are we studying it? Because it's about building trust and this problem interpersonal, uh, you know, challenge that we have with each and every person that we interact with, right? Then, you know, then we are just calling it, you know, John C. Maxwell calls with the Bob principal and it's, it's good to look within and say, okay, is the problem with me? I seem to be having a problem with every person, you know, maybe in the team or over, I'm overseeing or whatever I'm working with. Um, then, you know, is the problem with me? No, it's a, it's an important question to ask. Okay. And, uh, that will actually set things right. If the problem is with me, you know, what should I do? Okay. Uh, I think your question is a little, uh, different in the sense. Okay. If I, if I have, uh, I recognize that it's because of, uh, me, that this situation has gone wrong, then, um, you know, how do I overcome it? How do I set it right? Right. And because of this overwhelming guilt, uh, uh, thing. Okay. So guilt is a good indicator. It's just like, uh, you know, uh, a temperature that we actually, uh, have because the temperature itself, you know, fever itself is not the, is not the thing. It's an indicator of something that's happening, you know, wrong, uh, somewhere in our body. Right. So guilt. Okay. Uh, it's a, it's a good indicator. Um, but we go beyond that. Okay. So this is guilt. I'm feeling guilty. Uh, and, uh, the thing is that God does not want me to stay in that place. That is to, to recognize that. Okay. God does not want me to stay in that place of guilt. I need to move on. Okay. So I need to set things right. If it is in my power, if it is my control. So that means that I need to, okay, whatever's wrong has happened. Okay. Let me set it right. Uh, if it involves people, you know, do I do something, reach out, uh, own up, set it right. If it's just for me, you know, I did not do certain things. I did certain things. If it involves me, what can I do to set it right? That's the, that to have that mindset. Now, to take on that mindset, the mind of Christ, to say that, okay, uh, this is what I want to do. I will talk about, you know, a righteous man falls seven times, but every time he picks himself up, he rises up, and this rising up is important. Yes. Uh, for some, you know, uh, uh, like for us who are, some of us, you know, it's, it's emotionally draining and it's difficult. Uh, but to come to that place, saying that God wants me to, you know, when we, when we realize that, okay, God wants me to come up. God is not wanting me to push me down and wanting me to stay in that place. God is lifting me up. He wants me to come. So let me go with that. Okay. Uh, so to have that mindset will, will greatly help because you know that, okay, God wants me. God doesn't want me to stay here. He wants me to rise up and start functioning again. Right. And be successful. That's, because God wanting the father wanting for the child. He wants me to do that. So, um, that, that would greatly help us in our motivation. Right. So, so to come to that, you know, make that shift and say, you know, my answer is I'll do what God wants. I'm going with what God wants. I'm not going to stay in this place. Right. Uh, because it's not going to help. It's, it's difficult. You know, it's a national tendency to stay in that place, be weighed down by that kill. Um, it's, it's difficult to make that shift, but to when we start doing that, we start recognizing that through what God wants and we say, I'm going with that. Right. I know it might feel, uh, it might feel fake sometimes. I might feel that, okay, I've not earned it or I need to punish myself, you know, um, but no, this is what God wants. It's not going to help me to be in that place. Okay. And some practical things, of course, is to, is to, is to look at scripture and say, okay, I'm going with scripture. I'm agreeing with God. How does he look at me? One day on one night, he is faithful. If I confess, he is faithful to forgive me and cleanse me off everything. So I'm picking myself up and I'm going on. Right. Um, and it's, uh, it's, it's also part of renewing our mind. It's not that we are taking things lightly. It's not that we are, you know, excusing ourselves, you know, giving ourselves a clean ship too easily. It's not like that, but it's really a, you know, part of renewing of our mind, renewing our mind to the truth of God's blood, God's expectation, the way God sees us and renewing our mind to how we need to see ourselves, uh, will really, will really help us bounce back quickly. Yeah. I hope that helps. Yes. Any other questions on this, um, this whole thing of trust? Yes, faster. Yeah. Um, how, as a, as a leader, how can we deal with, uh, certain individuals, especially when we talk about forgiving others, when they do you wrong or they act wrongly? And in life, there are certain people who are arrogant or proud in as much as they cannot accept their fault or accept their guilt. And then such an individual draws something wrong or does something that is not good. And he tried to bring it to him in the form of, you know, restitution or reconciliation, but he doesn't accept that what he did is wrong. How can you handle such a situation? Yeah. So the question is, in what way is this person? Okay, let's just say this, hypothetically, this person has done something wrong. So in what way is that person related, you know, to you? Is he part of family? Is he part of team? Is he serving alongside and or is he, uh, you know, you know, someone else, right? So in each, in each situation, you know, relationally, uh, we, we can actually, uh, handle this whole thing in a different way, right? So, uh, if he is when serving alongside, this person is serving alongside, uh, in a team, then it's very important that the person, uh, you know, sees what, what, whatever, you know, he or she has done, uh, to be wrong, to have that. So it's important for us to see, have that, uh, um, have that conversation and to, and to present our side of the story to say that, okay, this is why I feel that, uh, you know, this is wrong, right? We agreed. This is our agreement. This is what we are looking at it. And, uh, and maybe the other person sees things differently. Okay. Uh, and maybe the, give you that opportunity for the person to share why they did that and, and, um, you know, and to, and to look at it in the light of scripture and to see that, um, well, uh, this is why you see, and you, you know, you know, and if, if I'm saying it's, it's wrong and what the person did was wrong and then maybe that was a wrong call from my side, you know, I need to change, right? But if, uh, if looking at the whole problem and the whole situation and if he realized that, okay, what this person did was wrong and to, to come to an agreement of that, but you're saying, okay, no matter, uh, what this person is not agreeing to it, right? So if the person is, uh, personally from our side, we can actually forgive and release, okay, extend forgiveness, okay? Because we know that something has been wronged, uh, either we have been wronged or the, you know, something has been not done, right? So we, we can actually forgive, uh, in the sight of God and we, we extend forgiveness with release, okay? But it has to be communicated, certain things have to be set right because that, that particular wrong, what was there done has consequences, has consequences in a family setting, has consequences in a, in a ministry team kind of a setting. So that consequence has to be kind of spelt out, right? Say that this is why, uh, so I don't know, I don't know, we don't have the specifics of it, right? I, uh, so, uh, but this is the way to handle it, to say that, okay, if it's a ministry team, to say that, okay, uh, I strongly feel that this, this is the expectation and this is what was set right and it was not kept up and that's why it is wrong. So if you have the authority, you can say, well, because it was wrong, I feel that, uh, we can't work together. You see it, you see it differently, but I just feel that we cannot, you know, proceed with this or say you take some time off and think about what I said, okay? Maybe now you're emotionally all stirred up and all that, you're not able to come to a, you know, we're not able to agree on this, but you take some time off and think about what I said. The reason why I feel this is wrong and you're not accepting it right now, but you need to take some time off, uh, time off serving, time off being in the team, maybe and think about it and let's, let's approach this again. Let's talk about this again, if you can do that, right? And, uh, and hopefully the person will see your point of view. Yeah, but, but I guess, you know, all this, we are assuming that, you know, this, this whatever wrong was done is you're absolutely clear about it, right? The facts are there, you're not assuming that it was wrong. You're very clear in the light of scripture and the light of, you know, everything that it was wrong. So yeah, um, yeah, so that's the way to go about it. I hope that helps Isaac. Okay. First off, uh, I agree because I'm, I, I believe healing or correction is a process at certain point. And you say, it's, it's on the keynote that at least it has to be communicated. Maybe at the time the person cannot accept, but in due course, yeah, he can renew what you have said and it can prevent further occurrence. Thank you. Right. Right. Right. And if the person is, uh, you know, if the person is someone whom you're ministering to, you know, person is in a congregation ministering to and still doesn't see, I mean, doesn't see that what you said was, uh, what the correction that you're, uh, what you're, what you're bringing forth and that person is not accepting that what they did was wrong, then there's not much you can do. Right. You can just resent the truth and say, this is how you need to live and you're not living this way. Therefore, it is wrong. You can just leave it at that and allow the person to think and work through. But if what they're doing is affecting others, I was saying, you know, from a church, congregation, member perspective, if they're, what you're doing is affecting others, then that needs to be addressed. You know, if what they're doing is affecting them personally, uh, is affecting their spiritual life and affecting them individually, uh, then what we can do is present the truth, ask God, you know, trust God to work on their hearts so that they can change. But if it's going to be affecting others in the, in the congregation, then that needs to be addressed and say, okay, if this does not change, then something has to change. You know, if we cannot allow it to like damage others' lives, affect others' lives. Um, so the cost of that, the consequence of, uh, you know, that has to be communicated and say, uh, if this does not change, then um, maybe we have to take some action. Yeah. Okay. So, uh, that is good. Any other questions? Any other on rebuilding, on rebuilding trust? Anything we can look at? Okay. So, um, here are some thoughts. Okay. Um, when it comes to, uh, building relationships, you know, it's like, it's, we can ask ourselves, you know, like, we can look at it, you know, am I nurturing? Like, am I investing? No, that's the next thing that we're going to look at. Um, this, am I doing things to build this trust? Am I investing something to build trust in the lives of people? Right? Um, so we need to look at it that way. We can look at it that way. Am I doing things with my actions, my thoughts, my words, everything? Uh, is it building trust in people? Or is it really, uh, you know, like, my communication, my actions, um, my inconsistency in doing things? Is it eroding that trust? We can, we can make change. Or we can, you know, make corrections. Okay. So if, if we need to set things right, you know, here are some things, um, you know, uh, just sharing some, uh, from, uh, John C. Maxwell's notes. So then something that we can do. Uh, if trust is broken, I apologize. Um, we need to ask ourselves why did I break this trust? Okay. Is it something, my wrong believing, my wrong, you know, action, something that, that is going on in my life that I'm breaking trust when I'm, you know, my, uh, my whole thought process, my thought pattern, something that I need to change the way I look at things. You know, maybe I take people for granted, you know, I need to change that and correct that in my life. Okay. So ask myself, correct that and to recognize that it's going to take time to rebuild. You know, sometimes we, uh, we broke trust in people's lives and then we expect a turnaround overnight. You want things to be as they were and we want it right now or maybe, you know, in an overnight thing, but we need to understand that we're dealing with dealing with people, we're dealing with emotions in the same way it is difficult for us to trust. When trust is broken, we need to understand that it's difficult for them or the others to trust us when they're the place, the trust they placed in us was broken. So it's going to take time, right? Um, and to rem, remember that it is restored when trust is restored by action, by deeds, by works and not just mere, mere words in the sense, not just saying that, yes, uh, I will do this or, um, I will rebuild trust. I will ensure this happens. It's, it's to follow up on that with action. Okay. So it is the work and it is a deed behind our words that will rebuild trust. Okay. Um, so doing these things, well, you change that you want, you know, it happened immediately, you may not even earn that immediately, but it will definitely stop us from, you know, from losing trust or stop others from losing trust in us. If we would do this, right? Okay. So just wanted to share that. Okay. Um, okay. So let's look at, um, uh, okay, we have about six more minutes. Okay. Let's look at, um, the whole thing of, um, uh, you know, when we look at relationship with people, we need to look at it as investment. Okay. So this is something to be nurtured. This is something that's going to take time and effort. Okay. So all relationships can change for the better. The relationship can grow or will grow, but it requires something, it requires nurture and it requires investment. Okay. And, uh, well, if you look at family, if you look at, uh, you know, marriage, if you look at friendship, we did this, you know, we did this naturally. And you look at friendships, you look at some, you know, some of the, you know, best friendships that you've had or you have, you see that we've done this investment, but we didn't think of it as investment, right? We, the spending time, the giving, um, the sharing, the caring, the helping, right? We did it, or maybe as children, maybe as youth, over the years we did it. And the friendship is what it is because all these things that we did, and we didn't even consciously think about it, but we did it anyway. We spent time, like we listened, uh, we shared of ourselves, we shared things with us, we helped in times of need, um, and, and all this nurtured that friendship, right? And it's so much easier because, um, when you look at family, when we look at, you know, you have this, you have this, let's say this bank balance of that investment. Right? We have this history of all these years of investing and sharing and caring and all that is there. And, um, we forget that it takes that for the relationship to thrive, right? It's, it's that history of investment. It's that history of nurture and care, which has actually brought it to what it is. And, and also the opposite of that, the flip side of it is also true. It's the history of lack of care, lack of nurture, maybe selfishness, which results in poor relationships, which results in, and, and we know it takes two people to build relationships. And, um, we can't just be hard on ourselves and say, okay, I did not do my part. Maybe it's the other person also. But at the same time, you know, we need to understand that it's this history of nurture and investment that results. It's no balls into this, what we see today. So if we understand that, then, then we, we can know that, okay, I need to do some things intentionally now. Okay. Um, this, uh, this team, this, uh, this ministry team, this team that I'm working with, this, uh, uh, this person whom God is placed in my life to mentor or any kind of, you know, relationships that you are looking at, um, you then you realize that, okay, it requires nurture. It's not going to happen automatically. Right. We did it when we were growing up, uh, in school, in, in college, and, you know, we, we did it naturally, uh, as, you know, as people who were as, as kids growing up and we spent time in play and, you know, sports and hobbies and all that. And it was, it's so much easier then, but now as adults, um, well, you don't have that kind of a luxury of, you know, of time where we play or hang out and, and all that. And also the, the dynamic of the relationship is, is different. Right. So the only thing that we, we can do is to understand that, yes, it requires investment. It requires nurture. Okay. Um, that's, that's, if we understand that, then we can, we can actually make a big change in any of these, any of the relationships. Okay. So the next class we'll look at, probably we'll watch the video also, uh, where we, uh, John C. Maxwell talks about these principles. Um, he talks about the garden, uh, looking at, uh, the relationship as a, as a garden and how it arrives when it's, when there's care, when it's watered, when it's nurtured, um, when things are, you know, weeded out, uh, which are unnecessary, which choker relationship and, and, and, and other principles like the 101 principle, 101 percent principle and celebration principle and so on. Um, you know, basically, you know, simple, uh, you know, thoughts of wisdoms, uh, that we can actually practically, uh, carry out and which helps us in relationships. Right. So, so we'll look at that in our, in our next couple of classes. So we'll stop, uh, right here. Thank you so much. God bless you. Bye-bye. Thank you, Pastor.