 Very interesting topic this morning. That's something that has always fascinated me and Yes, a lot of these disorders these Mental health issues They have always fascinated me Pretty much my entire life because I've always been pretty normal as a person I behave in such a normal way. I Respond the correct way. I mean, I'm not perfect at the course. I have ups and downs sometimes But all of these things that are going on in the world, of course, they do fascinate me and one of the things that really is a phenomenon in today's world and something that really fascinates me a lot is The topic of stalking Because as many of you may know, yes, I have been a target a victim of stalking in Many situations throughout my life where for no reason at all people just want to come after me because That's the reality of it. There is No justification for stalking. I Mean unless someone is stolen something That belongs to you. Of course, that's a completely different situation altogether like if someone Stole your money or a material possession Of course naturally you're gonna want to go after them and get it back But you're gonna do it the right way You're not gonna go running out like a vigilante, of course You might do it there through the police or through the courts, but even that as we know All of these things are run by narcissists, but yes Do narcissists become stalkers Overnight No, of course not It's not so much to do as you as you think You may think that For whatever reason they have this attachment to you, they can't let go And then that turns them into a stalker But nope in actuality They were already like that all along They already had that tendency within them And this is probably something that they've learned in childhood Where they didn't have a strong attachment to their parent or caregiver They Didn't feel that bond It's like something was missing. They were deficient in something and because of that They're forever Chasing after it for the rest of their lives As you can see it in the way that they parentify you They hold you up to be their parent or caretaker this person to make things right this person to Regulate their emotions by Be in this I'm playing this actor this role that they want you to play Where it's like you're constantly in this theater And it's like one minute you have to be happy you have to smile at the next minute sad Then you're crying Then you're excited And you they just have to run through run you through all of the different emotions Which to be quite Honest they should have experienced that in their childhood And of course I'm not saying that if you did experience those things in your childhood from your parent or caregiver But now you should just never experience that again And you just have to be completely emotionless and everyone else around you needs to be that way as well No, of course not But it's not going to become this obsession Where it affects your daily life and you're going out of your way just to get that response Which is what these narcissists do of course as we know as We know So now they do not become stalkers of a night of course not this is something That has been going on with them for a very long time and it will continue to Be that way That's not going to change because they don't know how to resolve it in their minds So they're always going to be like that They're always going to be that way where they Going out trying to seek a response from you because again That is not a completely bad thing. That's not something to be ashamed of if you are seeking Even attention validation from other people. It's what you're using it for But the way they do it, it's completely different. They're seeking it in a way Where this defines themselves how they see themselves their entire reality is just based on your response your view of things Now that's That is not healthy at all But this is how they operate this is how they function This is how they do things Go Nala here enjoying the balcony. She likes to see the view, but I have to watch her sometimes when she Pokes her head out of there as you can see it's a long way down. So yes This is what they do and this is what they were destined to do because they always had a tendency to do that and I mean it is Pretty obvious when you look at it What are they? Doing their stalking They're trying to get from a to b So they're clearly trying to achieve something From dealing with you They're trying to get something out of you And I don't know what that might be it could be a response it could be your validation Maybe they want something from you. It could be your money a Lot of times it is something Sexual that you've riled up inside of them But at the same time they feel like it's something they're never going to have and that is why they become stalkers Well, they're just constantly on your case Because they've they've already made it up in their minds. They know all right. I Know I accept there is nothing that I can do to change this situation There is nothing that I can do to get the result that I want So what I'm going to do is I'm going to become a stalker And I'm going to try and pin this person down and force them to do What I want them to do or to feel what I want them to feel Yes, believe it or not. That is what is going on in their minds That's why it's all of this coercion. It's all force And sometimes it's intimidation if they can't attract to entice you in the way that they would like Or if they they think they can't do that But yeah, a lot of this it does really come from low self-esteem insecurity because I Know in myself when I look at myself on my own mind If I want something of course, I'm gonna go out and I'm gonna get it I'm not gonna force anyone to do something. They don't want to do I'm not gonna come around like a creepy little guy Not making my intentions obvious Of course, it is on the other person whether or not they're able to receive that Based on whether or not they are secure within themselves But other than that For me, no, I don't need to be a stalker at all If I want something I'm gonna go out and I'm gonna get it And of course that doesn't mean I have to develop this grandiose sense of entitlement where I can have anything I want No, of course not If I want something from another person and it's something that does not belong to me And of course it is up to the other person whether or not I can have it But if I can't have it, I just have to accept it That does not mean that I'm gonna become a stalker That doesn't mean that I'm gonna be constantly on their case In fact, I'll just do the opposite. I'll just leave them alone and completely forget about them and I probably won't even have a single thought about them for the rest of my life Knowing that they do not want me or desire to have Whether it's a future with me, it could be something short too and whatever it is Knowing that they don't want or desire anything to do with me It's so easy. Just cut them off because I'm assuming that's exactly what they want, but of course as we know there are a lot of weirdos out here where Yes, they secretly want and desire you But they're also on this ego trip Whereas like you have to get down on your knees and you have to validate them and do all of this crazy stuff when In a lot of these situations that actually doesn't matter what you do in an attempt to please them you can do Everything exactly how they want you to do you can jump through all of the hoops and They will still Reject you and turn it around as your your the creepy one your the stalker When in fact I can tell you that in a lot of these situations they wanted you all along as well but it was more fulfilling more satisfying for them to Switch it around on you and to cut you off and to make you feel like you're nothing It was more satisfying for them to do that because they look at you If you're a person like me you have this kind of attitude where it's like Yes, if I want something I am going to go out and I'm going to get it If you have that type of mentality a Lot of people they're not going to like you because they don't have that type of mentality Of course there's things that they want but they're not going to go out and get it And of course you can see that but the way they treat you when they do desire or want something with you and Yet they still reject you and this is part of the problem with a lot of them because yes They want something from you, but they can't get over their own egos their own feelings of self-importance, which is actually a compensate for their insecurities and deficiencies and because they can't get over that even though they do want something with you They will reject you and then they will become stalkers voyeurs Where they are secretly watching you and then they're trying to egg you on to become an exhibitionist because that's what they really want And I find that really sad They really do These voyeurs and you know we there's a lot. There's a lot of these people out there these days these cucks They have this fetish and they genuinely enjoy Just watching They get off on that I bet Sorry if this offends anyone, but I want to say the truth. I bet a lot of them Would honestly get off on just Watching you have sex with someone else Or even just you masturbating by yourself I Genuinely believe that a lot of them would get off on that a lot more Than actually doing it with you themselves And yes, this is another thing that fascinates me something that I could never understand Because for me It is far more Satisfying to share it with another person It really is instead of just watching them with someone else or Having to do it on my own Yes, for me it is far more satisfying to have that connection and To know that Someone else wants it someone else is enjoying it just as much as I am as well But for these types of people It's almost like it becomes a fetish to them after a while And I'm talking about this based on my experience what I've seen from people Who have been stalking me for a very long time. It's almost like They all might automatically know that you're going to resist them and they actually get off On that resistance It doesn't do anything for them To have you in a position with them Where you both let that go and just Whatever's going to happen happens Just to let it play out by chance to let it play up naturally that doesn't do anything for them And yes, of course, this is the result of childhood trauma And Yeah, it's really bad. It's not healthy at all. You're not supposed to desire these types of things You are meant to desire the exact opposite intimacy connection vulnerability not shutting yourself off and Finding pleasure In resisting someone finding pleasure And making someone resist you But you know what? I think that's actually not what they want. It's just a lot of times It's either them and they don't know how to let go of their resistance Maybe they feel like they don't deserve it. Maybe they know they're not really going to enjoy it or Maybe they think that no matter what they do, you're going to resist them because you're not really attracted to them Because they already know that you want something else or something more So even in those situations, they already know that even if they did give it to you Yes, it might make you feel good, but it's not going to be fulfilling for them because they already know that You're still going to be desiring something with someone else Yes, I understand this topic is very confusing and Yeah, it's something that's fascinated me for a very long time because of course I do look at people in situations and I wonder Why can't you just get it together? Why can't you just let that go? There's need to be important. There's need to be superior You don't want to get triggered. You don't want to be forced to accept your feelings of insecurity That's the only thing that you have to do Because when you do that, you will develop this mindset like I have Where it's like if I want something, yes, I am going to go out and I'm going to get it And no, I am not afraid of rejection. I'm not afraid of being vulnerable I'm not afraid of letting go of my pride and ego and connected to my soul Because when you do that, when you connect to your soul rather than your ego It does not even matter if you get rejected It doesn't matter if no one wants you, it doesn't matter if the entire world turns against you None of that matters at all When you connect to your soul rather than your ego Because yes, it is your ego that has this need to feel important And then you are going to be very sensitive to criticism and rejection So I think that pretty much wraps it all up The issue that these people have is it's their ego This need to feel important and honestly I think it's because Some trauma in their childhood, maybe they got rejected By someone like you before And they don't want that to happen again. Now they want to be on the other end of it And not only that, but I genuinely believe that a lot of these people actually could not even experience it I genuinely do believe that, that they can't experience these things in the way that we can And it makes a lot of sense when you think about it because you don't have that same level of Sensitivity When you're connected to your ego Rather than your soul When you connect to the soul everything is so much more Fulfilling when you raise a vibration You just look at things and I've had this experience myself many times It's like you just You look at the trees and the birds and it's like wow everything is so beautiful Everything's so amazing. It's almost like you've smoked in a joint But you haven't it's more of a natural vibe to it It doesn't feel bad or wrong But guess it is that sensitivity that they're missing and the reason why they're missing it is because they can't be vulnerable And they can't be vulnerable because they're too much connected to their ego and their pride Rather than Their soul and just being themselves Because that's pretty much it when you're connected to your ego Rather than your soul Then you're not being yourself You're not being yourself at all and not being yourself It's not attractive to normal real people So naturally that will make us resist And when we are resisting it Maybe sometimes we're just trying to make a joke of it. We're trying to just laugh at it We're just trying to tell the other person. Yes, just let your head down. Yes, just be yourself Maybe then we can actually connect. Maybe then this will be something that I don't resist It may actually be something that I do want but try Getting these types of people to understand that Because no matter what you try and do with them, it's not going to work. You try and tell them Oh, you just have to connect to your soul rather than your ego. Just Don't think about it too much. Don't ever think You just assume that everything is going to be okay. You're not going to get hurt You know what analysis is going to think automatically Oh, you're trying to manipulate me You're trying to get went over on me. You're trying to cheat me You're trying to lead me down the wrong path so you can get something out of me at my expense Like I said, there's just nothing you can do with them There really isn't you can try It's just not going to work They have it set in their minds that They're not going to get the result they want by letting things go By letting things play out by chance. So They're always going to be attached to their egos and Neither of you are going to feel fulfilled with that interaction You're going to feel fulfilled when you walk away When you try and get away from the stalker and you come back into your own space And you connect to yourself and your own sense of happiness and fulfillment. Yes You will feel fulfilled then As long as you're around these types of people there won't be any fulfillment for you You might get a little bit in the moment Even then you're just kind of entering the fantasy of the delusion you're being manipulated you're being deceived And for them there really is no fulfillment at all When they're watching you I mean of course You know, I'm not I'm not going to sugarcoat it. I am just going to put it out there and say A lot of these people they put track devices in your car They're watching you through the cameras in your phone your laptop your computer Even cameras in your home apartment wherever you live Maybe even cameras in your car and they're listening on all that of your microphones and your devices as well So yes, they are constantly watching you and these things are kind of The obviously they're bringing them some level of gratification To where it develops into addictions Because if it didn't they wouldn't even do it in the first place They're not going to keep doing something that makes them feel bad So that is how you already know that yes, they are shame-based people We're doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame And that is why whenever you come around them You always feel ashamed of yourself as though you're doing something bad or wrong because they're deflecting their own shame onto you When in actuality what you're doing is not wrong at all What you're doing is fine And yes, they do feel the shame and they also feel that They're not really getting what they want from you. Yes, they do want more and that is why they're constantly on your case Because if it really was that satisfying for them, maybe they'd stalk you once a month once a year Clearly they're not getting off in the way that they were like because I'm sure Stalkers in your situation. They're on you every day. They're never leaving you alone And it's like you can't get any peace by yourself And they make you feel like you're bad wrong or crazy for just desiring to have some time by yourself As though that's the problem now Or maybe you're desiring some Connection because you're being gang-stalked to being isolated. You just want something real And that's the problem. That's something to shame you for it's like ha ha and you can't get what you want No, you need to turn that around and see You are the ones who are bad. You are the ones who are crazy You are the ones who are wrong Because all I want is something normal something real And you need to put it out as though yes to be honest If you haven't got that then I don't want it or at least It's got to be something that it's just in the moment kind of thing I mean that that's really the only way that you can survive in these worlds These realities that they create Is by at times taking that blue pill And just letting go of your resistance to the fake world And to all of these false characters that you're surrounded by and just being like okay, we've got one night One hour whatever it is maybe a couple of days if you can last that long Let's just do what we're going to do, but we're both going to get something out of it. So, you know, let's just Cooperate in this instance And yeah, sometimes it kind of work like that Where you do delve into the fantasy yourself I mean, of course I've spoke about this in my past videos Fantasy is not bad Imagination is not bad It can actually be very healing It can help you Just don't like it. Just don't let it Overwhelm you and take over you to the point where you Begin to act these things out in reality because that's the problem I mean if you're imagining these things in your mind It's not so bad I mean, we're getting into like fetishes and sexual fantasies now. It's kind of like Where do we draw the line? And that all depends on your own self-control and discipline and you should know yourself. It depends if you know who you are And if you're able to control yourself because You know, I understand a lot of these things These are things that I actually have no interest in myself But of course I'm aware of it That yes, there are these things and they're actually very popular these days as well Got like 50 shades of gray BDSM And there's things where they they tie people up. They chain them And what else? There's even great fantasies as well For both men and women, you know, it's on both sides I mean, there's all of these different kinds of things And Yeah, that's fine in your imagination. If that's what you're thinking about And of course we all deserve to have a Safe space in our heads where we can Have this creativity and imagination, of course, that's very healthy Not only to ourselves, but to the people around us Not only to ourselves, but to the people around us as well But then these people need to know when to draw the line when it gets out of hands when these thoughts Need to actions in reality Where suddenly now they've they've become a stalker And you've made it clear that you don't want anything to do with them and they're still coming after you to where it's Pretty much become rape. I mean that is when people need to know to draw the line And anyone, you know, I'm not judging you If you do enjoy BDSM Maybe the women you have a fantasy of Being raped being forced To do something you don't want to do, you know being on the receiving end of it being submissive To a powerful man like in 50 shades of gray Of course, there was a time where I couldn't really understand that I was quite fascinated about it But I get it. I understand that I think that yes, there was a time Maybe many thousands or millions of years ago where that was the reality Where maybe a caveman would just Be a woman over the heads Just chuck her on his back and take her back to his cave and just do what he needed to do So I would assume that that's where that fantasy came from And maybe that's how it is for men as well But as I said, if it's a fantasy, it's in your imagination No one can really judge you for that. That's Of course that would be Wrong of me to judge you for the thoughts you have in your head Doesn't matter what you're thinking about doesn't matter if you're having murder fantasies after abuse Doesn't matter how extreme it is. It's Perfectly okay. As long as it's a fantasy. It's in your imagination As long as it's not playing out into reality Where you are seeking to harm someone or gain at their expense That is when it becomes a problem And I'm sure many of you can resonate with this as I have in the past A lot of things that we think about we want to do it But deep down we know we shouldn't do it or we're not going to do it Because we know that it's wrong But of course as we know Gang stalkers narcissists They do like discipline and self-control And it is completely insane how the thought the fantasy that they have in their mind It becomes something real in reality And how they're actually going out and they're doing it they're playing it out in real life And they do it so much And they deny that it's a problem because their narcissism the fantasy is more important than anything They block everything out they end up blocking out reality And they create this false character this fake world where nothing that they do is wrong They don't have to be accountable for anything because it isn't even real They're not real. You're not real It's scary It's scary. It's creepy and it is cringy Yes, it is cringy as well It's one of those things where it's just like Like you touch something You touch something dirty And disgusting like I don't know there could be like bird shit here I put my hands on that and it's like oh Now I got to go and wash my hands Because I feel dirty. I feel disgusting Just to even be around it And again. Yes, that is How you should think how you should feel When you see these things manifested into reality If it's just something in someone's head there's these thoughts that have been I mean if someone came to me, of course, I've experienced this with my clients. I've been doing this now for five years So someone came to me and they told me about Their fantasy You know these things In their imagination and I don't care what it is. It could be anything at all. It could be a rape fantasy They may fantasize about murdering their ex-wife the the ex-husband Maybe it could be something to do with Robbery stealing something it could be anything Regardless of what it is The first thing I would do and recognize Is that the first thing that would be completely obvious to me is that okay This person clearly Clearly has a lot of discipline and self-control You know that that's the first thing that comes to my head when I think about that So yes, this is something that we we can talk about and that we should talk about You know as long as it hasn't got to the point where they've created a false character an alter ego And now They use in this world, you know real life and they've turned it into their own alternate reality Then it's become a problem Now you can't communicate with someone like that now And they can't communicate with you now because it's like it's blowing up out of proportion so much where it's like If you had to go and create a false character and a fake world to protect and defend yourself against something like that then clearly the problem is with you and Sometimes you have to look at yourself as well You know that this goes both ways If you do genuinely desire to be a healthy sane normal functional person You will at some point look at yourself and think okay. Have I Created a false character. Have I created the world inside my mind? And I'm trying to pull other people into it And is that harmful Is that not healthy? Of course you have to look through all of these things And analyze it within yourself if you are a generally healthy normal functional real person You will accept that it does go both ways. You won't just put the onus on just the other person You will look at yourself as well It's not all just about pointing the finger and blaming everyone else It's about taking accountability for where you find yourself in life. But as I said Gangstalkers and this is what it is as well And it's absolutely insane but a lot of the things Why they go out and they stalk people It's because it's not really because of anything you've actually done. It could just be something like A thought that you're having in your mind you're thinking of doing something You maybe you feel like doing something You're not actually going to go out and do it though, are you? And yet they're looking at it like it's more than what it is When it's no Part of being a normal healthy person is recognizing That yes people do have fantasies in their minds Things that may be May seem quite insane What's in your mind can seem insane illogical Irrational emotional all of these things And yes, that is still perfectly normal It doesn't matter if you're having fantasies of Murder rape whatever it is all of these things. It's perfectly okay And in fact, it's it's only not okay if you think it's not okay Yes, you need to accept that these thoughts are fine Because when you accept them and you let go of the resistance to them Watch how that feeling subsides Watch how that feeling subsides It's only when It's like these people they know yes murder rape all of these things. They're bad. They're wrong But then they're resisting it They're trying to fight against it and they're like, no, no, no, it's not wrong. It's not bad They're trying to deflect the shame instead of processing it That is what causes them to go out and actually do it Which is why with my clients when they come to me people who have been through narcissistic abuse They've been through hell Of course they're gonna have these fantasies of wanting to kill the narcissist I mean, of course I've had these fantasies myself many times I can completely understand And what I do is I teach people Don't resist it. Don't fight against it. It's okay. You're in a safe space. You can talk about this You can let it go let it all come out And when you do that You will feel so much better about yourself And you will The the desire will subside You will no longer want to go out and do that You will no longer want to go out and harm anyone So it's really that simple and you know, this is completely obvious when you look at it If something isn't working you just do the opposite of what you're doing It's as simple as that. I mean this is I'm sure a lot of you understand that already it is common sense If you have these thoughts these fantasies I mean, you've already done it yourself. You're watching my video right now You know instead of going out and trying to Change them or do something to them Instead, what have you done you've gone within And you've decided to watch my videos instead of doing that This is where we differ with narcissists because they don't do that instead of going within As I know no if I can just change this change that move this here move this there. It's like a game of chess If I could just move everything around outside of myself Then I can feel better inside temporarily But it doesn't last and that's why the stalkers Eternally 24 7 they'll always be that way Fascinating I know But this is a reality Unfortunately, this isn't just some idea in their heads I could only wish that it was This is something that they actually go out and do in real life but you can Find pleasure In these thoughts and these fantasies in your imagination Yes, you can find pleasure in doing that. There's nothing wrong with that at all But also practice control self-discipline I know when to let these fantasies go and move on with your life It can be a part of the healing process. There's nothing wrong with that at all Don't let them guilt you don't let them shame you If you are Reading these books 50 shades of gray whatever it is Yes, I would have had a different opinion before but in actuality now I can honestly say But it's fine It's okay as long as you don't let it get out of hand As long as you're not putting yourself in situations where You're wanted to go out and rape or harm someone or you want someone to do that to you Of course with everything we have to know when to draw the line when it becomes toxic and healthy These types of things so yes You know, of course, I understand this is a very deep topic. It's Maybe something a lot of us don't really want to talk about But as you know, I am a truth teller. I will just go out and Say things as they actually are that is Healthy that is the normal way to do things We haven't got to cover it up and not speak about these things because We don't have to be full of shame Like narcissists We don't have to be like that. We can let the shame go. We can practice acceptance see things as they actually are It's fine. It's normal Yes, we've just talked about Rape be the sm time people up chaining them murder So what? What's wrong with that and now we're going to let these things go these fantasies and we're going to go out and move on with our lives Because that is the normal thing to do that is the healthy thing to do The wrong thing to do is to bottle it up and feel all of this pressure like You got to hold on to it because it's something you need to process your emotions It's it's a natural part of the healing process But at the same time they put the finger at you You're bad. You're wrong. You're crazy now. I got a stalk and I harass you Now we don't do that That is not the right way to do it and we will continue along this path Towards our healing journey Because we know that that is the right thing to do The right thing to do is not to bottle up these emotions No, the right thing to do is to process them and to become healthy strong people Who love ourselves and love other people as well That is the correct thing to do and we will continue to do that on this channel We will continue to talk about these things so that other people can heal because I think we can all agree. We just don't want to stay stuck We don't want to be stuck in a reality that is not serving us We're not moving forward. We're not becoming better So, yeah That's all there is to it Just looking through The live chat here Let's see what people are saying Chris you're slipping I didn't think I was slipping But don't worry. I'm still here. I haven't fallen off yet Classy cats then says eyes are one of my weaknesses And unfortunately most knocks have deep eyes Yeah, there is definitely something about the eyes in narcissists I don't know why but for some reason I think Most of the narcissists that I've seen especially when they fly into that narcissistic rage The eyes become very wide Black dark. It's like there's no life in their eyes Like they're just operating from that reptilian part of their brains They're just trying to fulfill some sort of need And they're very desperate to do anything they can to obtain that But as you as we know even if you do Trying to fulfill their needs. It's never enough. They're never satisfied anyway Dave Google Says Chris is awesome. No BS here Thank you. I appreciate that Because this is what it's about really I mean You know we live in these Narcissistic even psychopathic Societies And the reason why is because of the shame People are pushing in a way the shame. They don't want to talk about certain things And it's not good The more we continue to do this the more that the shame will grow And people will become even more psychopathic As they continue to try to dodge the shame And people like us will continue to blame ourselves For things that we were not even the cause of The correct thing to do is just to come out and talk about these things And if there's something wrong, if there's a problem Then we figure out how we're going to fix it. It's as simple as that. You don't have to go around Attacking people Doing all of these harmful things There's just no need for that at all Dave Google. Yes. Narcissists don't live in reality And again, that's because of the shame If you want to live in reality, you must Let go of the shame. The problem is It's already gone so far and they know it They've done so many things wrong So many skeletons in the closet They just can't let it all go They can't accept it themselves. You think you can't accept them? They can't accept themselves But I will admit, you know, it's not such an easy process Of course as we all Do or or as we should all do I have looked back from my past and of course there were things Where I looked back and I think why did I say that? Why did I do that? And of course we have to look back and realize we were a lot younger then We weren't so wise. We weren't so knowledgeable. We didn't have much experience A lot of us we were surrounded by narcissists We were sheltered. We were raised in this bubble So of course that's The obvious reason why There is no other reason for it other than that It's really that simple Narcissists For them it's a different story. It's not because they were innocent and naive. No It's nothing to do with that for them at all Everything they do is calculated. It's premeditated. It's thought out beforehand How do you justify that? How do you explain that? Of course they can't If they come out then What do we do? We just have to put them all in jail You know, there's there's no escape for them They the only thing they can do is continue to relish in their shame As it continues to grow within them and they try to deflect it onto you or someone else And they continue to become even more narcissistic, malignant and psychopathic And it just gets even worse where it's just Impossible it becomes even more and more impossible The more that they continue on that path It's too late For a lot of them. It really is Once they've engaged in this type of Calculated and premeditated behavior There's just no going back for them And a lot of times there's just no incentive for them to do the right thing Looks like there's a lot of Trolling and the live chat there People are asking are you a narcissist? Take off your glasses. Let's see your eyes. All of these things What I'd like to set an example for that and the best thing to do When people come out with these accusations against you I mean obviously What's going to happen for you after you've been through so much narcissistic abuse yourself All of these things you've had to go through if someone Tries to twist it on you and call you the narcissist The first thing that's going to happen in your mind is After the years of abuse everything you went through I know a lot of you you know myself. I have a lot of discipline self-control as you can see A lot of you will snap You will snap and you will be like What? I'm the narcissist It will just It will feel like an attack on your reality because You know yourself. You know what you went through. You know what you had to deal with You know, you did everything in your power To make things right with them So if they turn around and they call you the narcissist, of course It will hurt you. Yes, and it will make you very emotional Because following the abuse you want to have that discipline and self-control So to set an example if they Try to call you the toxic person the narcissist Just don't even respond. You don't even need to answer that. But what you can do is look within yourself Which is what I do all the time, of course, I self-reflect Every day hours and hours every day I'm self-reflecting right now as I'm making this video and The other best thing to do is And this is actually a great thing you can do with them If they do call you the narcissist or toxic person just say Okay What if I am what can I do to change it? What can I do to make things better? See what they say It'll probably be something superficial where you have to give them money You have to give them more of your time over your attention Even if you spend every day with them and you've already given them your entire life Trust me, it will never be enough with a narcissist And that is why they call you the narcissist because they just want more of you They just want you to invest more of yourself When as I said In my video yesterday, you've just got to write down In a notebook write down all of the things you've done for them all of the things they've done for you And yet you're there the ones calling you the narcissist Does that add up? Does that make sense? I don't think so Of course, even if you have all of the evidence in the world and you give it to them They're still going to gas like you because the only other option is for them to say that yes, they are the ones who are narcissists So there's not going to be anything grounded in reality. You can have all of the evidence in the world. It's not going to make any difference It's not going to make any difference at all Which is why yes, the reality will continue for A very long time For forever They're always going to be that way because they have to live in denial. They cannot deal with the shame So what thank you for the donation. I greatly appreciate it But yeah, that that is a Great topic a good question as well for a lot of you I have done some videos on that You know, I know a lot of you may be thinking about that right now You may be thinking if you are the narcissist Because I know myself If you are an empath or a codependent you are someone who Reflects and feels the shame and like a narcissist who deflects it Ironically, you may feel like it's you Because you're feeling the shame But it's a catch 20 22 because If you're looking at yourself and you're asking yourself Am I the narcissist And you're feeling the shame Clearly, it's not you Because narcissists don't feel their shame. They deflect it instead. They're going to be like Am I that ass says no You're the narcissist Well, they're going to mock you And they're going to try and shame you That's all they can do. It's always the person who's trying to shame you That's Is the narcissist It's not the person who feels the shame So those of you who are watching this right now, don't worry about it If you feel bad if you feel like Oh, no, what if I am the narcissist? If you feel that if you feel the shame, don't worry. It's not you. It's 100 100 percent. It is not you It's the person who deflects the shame If that is your immediate instinct to deflect it Rather than to go within feel the shame self-flow heal and process it Of course, it's not you So, well, thanks again For the donation Just going to show this beautiful view once more You can see the city in the back there I don't know if you know, but that is The second tallest building in the world And I don't know if you know, but this is the world's favorite cat Nala the one and only The world's greatest She's just rolling around having a good time But yeah, that's it for this video talking about stalking gang stalking A lot of information in this one. I hope it helps And as always, I will have more videos very soon Please give it a thumbs up down below Share it subscribe And you all have a great