 This must happen before the narcissist returns. So the narcissist discarded you. Or maybe you left them and they were left without supply. So they had to go and find supply. Either way they got the supply eventually. And it looks like they just forgot about you. You don't matter to them anymore. You're not important. And many of you are wondering what about the Hoover? When is the narcissist going to come back? That's why I decided to create this video. Because there is something that must happen in most cases. If the narcissist is going to come back. And yeah in most situations it won't really have anything to do with you. Unless in the rare cases if you find a way to become maybe more of a secondary supply to the narcissist. Because that's really what they're going to be looking for after they've discarded you and they've moved this secondary source to the primary position which is what you used to be. So yeah that is one scenario is that they may come back to you if they think you could be a suitable secondary source of supply once they've made the new source their primary source. Other than that for them to come back they would have to get bored of their new supply. They would have had to have learned them known what they're about and just found that they're no longer entertaining. And then they need that new adrenaline rush that excitement again which they may want to have with you again depending on how it ended. That's really the main possibility of how it may turn out. I just wanted to put this out there because I know this isn't something that I've spoke on often but I think it's important and I hope that it does bring some clarity to you just out here on the rooftop enjoying the view but yeah try not to think too much into it as well because that's really what they're going to want you to do is to be overthinking and overhandleizing about it and then wondering why you went wrong what mistake you made and instead of playing that game you can just go and focus on your own life and just forget about that just don't feed into it but yeah that's all I really wanted to say about that there's not much really to say about it but I do think it's an important topic because many of you wonder why aren't they coming back when that's what I've talked about in many of my videos how they do tend to hoover and that's really it they've just found someone who maybe a doormat someone who's like their emotional punching bag and this person is foolish enough to help the narcissist and to give them what they need they're just letting the narcissist abuse them and walk all over them and depending on how big of a fool this new person is the narcissist could be with them for years maybe even for the rest of their life in some situations I mean that's what it comes down to really I don't want to say people are fools at least that's how the narcissist would look at it but it's more the people who stay with them the longest are the ones who are unaware uninformed they lack knowledge and experience about these types of things otherwise they would be out of there very quickly if they knew what they were dealing with so that's all it really comes down to and that's why it may take some time for the narcissist to hoover you if they have managed to find someone who is more foolish than what they thought you were I mean I'm sure many of you like myself when you look back you will think yes I I was a fool of course I mean I don't think any of us would say yes I was in top form I was in the right state of mind when I met and stayed with the narcissist I mean of course not we're much wiser and stronger now after dealing with them so when you look at it whoever the narcissist moves on to if they're with them for a prolonged amount of time that person is just a bigger fool than we were that's all that really is so don't worry about it and just focus on your life focus on building yourself back up recovering and if you need any support you know I'm here you can book a session with me anytime just go to my website it's narksurvivor.co.uk and book a session with me and we can talk about this more in depth and I hope I can comfort you and give you the support you need to understand what you were dealing with and just move on from this and create a better life for yourself and thank you all for joining me I think the signal isn't too good up here but I hope this video resonated and if it did please give it a thumbs up thank you all and good night