 You become as your peers, and that is why this is so important. Next thing I'm going to talk about is fashion. It's really important to get a sense of fashion. Why? The first reason why is you tend to become like how you are dressed. How you dress affects you, affects your behavior. If you're dressed very sloppy, you will feel sloppy. If you dress very business-like, very straight, you have a tie up your throat, you will be very professional. If you're dressed in a party outfit, you will feel more like partying. The way you dress actually affects you. That is one of the main reasons why it's important to dress up, why fashion is really important. It affects your behavior. It puts you into a stereotype. It's really easy to live up to that stereotype. Actually, it's hard not to live up to that stereotype. If you dress up like a chode or whatever you want to call it, if you dress up like a normal guy who is shy, if your clothing puts you in a stereotype where it seems like you're shy, it will be hard not to be shy because you will fall into that stereotype. When we talk about fashion, it's really hard because there is such a variety of different styles and different tastes, different flavors. Generally, a lot of guys really handle this easily. They have a cool haircut, they have awesome shoes, their pants look really good. That's awesome. That is really good. It's really important, it's super important, but some people don't even think about it. Or maybe they do, I don't know, but they don't seem to be thinking about it. And that is why I'm taking this up because you should always review your fashion. What is this saying about me? What stereotype is it putting me into? And is it a stereotype that I want to be put into? And is it a stereotype that helps me? Do you understand the importance of this? Another thing about fashion is, there are people who can dress up good, but they look really normal, like they blend into walls. And then you have the, I just got into community and mystery taught me peacocking. And now all of a sudden they look like, yeah, like a peacock. They look like a bird, walking bird, like they have feathers up their butt. That is also like, it's extreme in the other end of the spectrum. What I am suggesting is, you know, find the kind of style that you are comfortable with, that you feel like it puts me into the stereotype I want to, like if you're like rock music, dressed like a cool rocker, if you like hip hop, dressed like a hip hopper, but put your personal touch to it. Try to make it original. I mean copy and then do your own version of it. And the more you actually, the more time and effort you actually put into your clothing, the way you dress, the way you look, your hair, the better you will become at it. I mean today I hear all the time people saying, people, especially women, they say I'm really good looking. That wasn't always the case. I really experimented with myself. I really, you know, tried to make the best out of me, to really become the best self. And in all areas, and this fashion and looks things, it was one of them. And now I feel like I've come to a place where I feel really comfortable with the way I look. And I've come, I got into a point where, you know, it gives me a lot of advantages. Everybody can do this. I don't care what you think about your jeans, your nose. Yeah, that's actually a funny thing. The first pickup technique I taught myself, let me tell you about this. Today I hear all the time that I'm a really good looking man. Let me just tell you this to put into perspective. When I was 12 years old, I was really shy about my nose. I had a complex like my nose. I was like, it's huge. It's horrible. The first pickup technique I taught myself was we went to these disco takes like they had discos for kids. And the way you would go about, you know, try to hook up with some little girl was you would dance. You would come up from behind and you would dance with her. And then there was this crucial moment where the women of the girl turned around to see if you're hot. And if you were hot enough, you could dance and eventually you would kiss, right? My pickup technique was when that crucial moment came, I would be forced to look straight forward. They would like, I would never allow them to see me from the side because I thought that would be so horrible. No! And I was convinced about this. I was like, I'm not good looking from, you know, if you look at me from, you know, straight forward, I look pretty decent, but from the side I look horrible. I really thought that. And today I consider myself a really good looking guy. And the reason why I'm telling you this is because I know a lot of people don't think they are good looking. A lot of guys walk around and they're like, yeah, no man. I was born ugly. I don't really buy into that. I really don't buy into that. I remember once I saw a similar convention like this one. And this one guy speaking, I don't remember his name, he had a really good speech. But I realized something. After 40 minutes of him talking, I realized, wait a minute, this guy is actually ugly. But I didn't notice it. It took me 40 minutes to notice this guy is actually not, like, his face is kind of weird. He's not really good looking, but it took me 40 minutes because he had such great style. He had really nice pants, really nice shoes. His jacket was just amazing. And his haircut was awesome. It took me 40 minutes to realize if you think about it in the sense of jeans, he's not that good looking. But nobody will give a fuck because he knows how to dress up. So don't shoot yourself down. Don't feel like, why should I work on my clothing when I'm ugly? It's not true. It is not true. Unless, like, there is something totally wrong with your face, there is no point for you to think that you're ugly. I have actually a friend. Half of his face is burned off. Like, literally burned off. He was in an accident. The other face, the other side is quite normal and he's actually quite good looking. He gets late. Like, women find him attractive because he is comfortable with his burned side. He looks like Two-Face, you know, from Batman. He actually looks like Two-Face. When you see him, the first time you see him, you think, man, that is so horrible. But then you start to get used to it and you see that he is really comfortable and he has a great sense of fashion, great sense of style. And, I mean, he doesn't have a lot of hair. You know, this side is quite burned, but the little hair he has, you know, he makes something great with it. And after a while, you're like, man, he becomes normal. He becomes really good looking, even though half his face is burned off. So this is super important. Having a great sense of fashion is super important. Take time. Watch people. Watch how other people dress up. If you see someone you think, oh, man, that is really nice. Like, that's a really good outfit. Try to copy it. Try to make your own version of it. Don't leave it up to chances. This is super important. This is the first impression. And not only the first impression of what other people perceives you, as I said, this is the most important part. How you dress affects your behavior. If you dress sloppy, you're going to feel sloppy. If you're dressed in a very business-like way, you're going to feel business-like. The way we dress affects our behavior. This is the most important reason for fashion. Is this clear for you? Cool. I'll jump into my next point. The third way to become a more cool person is you have to pay your dues. You have to pay your dues in life. Now, what do I mean? See, I told you before that some people, they think that, like, I remember one student I had. It was quite ridiculous. His life was really boring. And he said so. He said, my life is quite boring. I sit at my couch most of the time. I come home from work. I sit at my couch or the computer. And I watch a movie, play a video game, not go to sleep. And he said, but I'm not unhappy. I want it to be like this. I just figured out, you know, I'll get some game and I'll have some women in that picture. And then I'm good. I was like, no, that's ridiculous. You can't get good game and still have this because 90% of your game is not your game. It's you. If your life is boring and even you think it's boring but you're not unhappy to change it, then it's not going to help. You're still going to be boring. Your sales pitch is only going to get you so far. And not only that, some other people, like, if you're overweight or if you're slacking or if you're broke, if you have issues that are distracting, that are like a burden in your chest, all of this will affect you. If you don't handle your life in a good way, you're going to be troublesome. You're going to be having worries. That's not going to help you. How many people here have seen like material on how to handle your state? How many people? Like how to pump your state? How many people have seen how to pump your state? Like how you do the starfish or how you dance to get into state? How you listen to good music? Do you find those things effective? I do. Those are really good state management tools. But the best state management tool or whatever you want to call it, the best thing I've ever heard, the best advice to get into good state has come again from my co-instructor Kian. He understands this perfectly. He says, you know what your state is? If you want to have a good state, great state on Friday, do you know when you start working on that state? Monday morning. Your state on Friday, your state management on Friday night starts on Monday morning. How do you handle your life? When you go to work, do you slack or do you do your things? When you come home, do you clean your house? Do you cook like a healthy dinner? Or do you eat pizza all the time? Do you work out? Like when Friday comes, are you like, yes? Are you proud of yourself? Or you're feeling like, man, this week has been awful. Yeah, let's get drunk and go out and be distracted. Your state on Friday nights, your state management begins on Monday morning. This is paying your dues, taking care of your life, handling your issues, improving your life, making it better, making it something you can be proud of. If you're overweight and you're unhappy about it, do something about it. I mean, the important thing is not that you have to look like a statue carved out of stone by Michelangelo himself. That's not the important part. The important part, are you proud of who you are? If you're not, it's going to be hard to convince anyone else to be. You need to pay your dues. It's super important. If you have something unresolved in your life, you need to solve it. Are you with me so far? Lastly, oh yeah, I can stand up because I have a black shirt. Cool. Lastly, the last way or really good way to improve your coolness or become a better person, attract whatever when it comes to women is you need sexual experience. And I know this sounds kind of harsh or kind of counterproductive. Like, it feels like catch 22, doesn't it? So to get sex, I need to already have sex. I know it sounds counterintuitive or like a catch 22 phase, but it's actually not. See, when most guys think of sexual experience, they think about not just in the belt, how many women have I slept with? You know what? When I was 18, yeah, before I turned 18, I had slept with like, I don't know, maybe 50 women. And I had friends who had only slept with two women. They were more sexual experience to me. You know why? Because out of those 50 women, most of them was just one I stands. While my friends who only slept with two women, one maybe was a one I stand. The other one was a girlfriend. They had sex with every day for like two years. That is like 700 lace. Well, I had only gotten 50. Do you see my point? It's not the not just in the belt. It's going to be like, if you're a virgin, say for example, you're a virgin, then it's going to be hard, but you're going to have to struggle. You're going to have to struggle to find, to get over that threshold. But not only that, some guys, they even had girlfriends, but they still had sexual experience. Why? Because they didn't put any time and effort into the sex. They just did it as a standard routine. You know, we're together, so we have sex. Dick in, dick out, dick in, dick out. They didn't experiment with it. In order for you to be sexual comfortable, you need to experience and experiment with your sexuality. So try, what I'm trying to, what I'm recommending is, find a partner. It doesn't have to be a girlfriend. It doesn't have to be a fuck buddy. Just someone who is as curious as you are about sex and explore it, explore sexuality. It doesn't have to be that you need to sleep with 20 women. Now I'm sexually experienced. I've had a lot of variety. I've had a Chinese. I've had a African. I've had a Latina. That's not sexual experience, man. That's, you know, it's just, you know. Yeah, it's a smorgasbord, yeah. It's not sexual experience. It's just, you know how different women look naked. That's what it is. Sexual experience is exploring your own sexuality and also the female sexuality or the opposite sex sexuality, something. And that is what I recommend you guys to do. If you're a virgin or if you're a partner less, I really urge you to try to find a partner. It doesn't have to be the woman of your dreams. It doesn't have to be someone you connect 100%. It just has to be someone who share your curiosity about sex and explore it. Get sexually experienced. Get comfortable with your sexuality.