 So you know that new relationship that you're in where you're already fighting? Well the bad news is that it's not going to get better, but there is some good news to this as well. So make sure that you stay tuned and watch this entire video. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. So whether you are somebody who is in a new relationship where you're already fighting or if you are somebody who knows somebody who just got into a new relationship and they're already fighting like please do me a favor and share this video all right because we're going to talk about these types of relationships where they go and what you can do to resolve this issue all right. So help get the message out there. So one of the downfalls of many people is that they absolutely hate being alone like you might be this person I know I used to be this person we're being alone and not being in a relationship is just misery right like we just always need somebody there the problem with this is that we lower our bar we lower our standards and when somebody comes across whether it's Mrs. Wright or Mr. Wright you know what I mean we cling on to this relationship and because of our fear of being alone we stay in this new relationship where fights are already happening and we're miserable and we're hoping for them to get better. Now I will say this I've done other videos about toxic relationships and bad relationships and what you could do to improve them. I have an entire playlist called The Broken Picker which I will link up in the info card above so make sure that after you're done with this video if you're somebody with relationship issues make sure that you check out that playlist. What happens when you get into this new relationship where you're already fighting it's this kind of delusion that we create where we stick around and we think that things are going to get better and yeah this is actually something that I talked about in a video called Stop Dating Broken People like sticking around waiting for somebody to change is one of the worst things that you can do and the way I like to put it is think about this the last time that you made some drastic change like really drastic change and I'm not talking about like oh I go to the gym now or oh I switch the type of foods I eat I'm not talking about one of those I'm talking about legitimate changes to your personality your beliefs the way you react to things think about the last time that you made a really solid change to your idea of who you are right because the chances are that if you haven't made one of these amazing drastic changes the chances are that somebody else that you're in a relationship with they're not going to either especially if it's a new relationship like I do want to take a second and acknowledge like this video I'm really talking about new relationships like if you're married or you've been in a long-term relationship you have kids or whatever it is like there are ways to work these things out you know what I mean this is more directed towards people who keep getting into bad relationships and sticking around way too long so there's two big problems with this the first problem is is suffering from this delusion that this is what healthy relationships are like let me give you an example from the start of your relationship you start fighting you're bickering you're arguing you're getting angry you're getting upset but then you're working things out right so you're sitting in here and you have this idea that oh well this is what healthy relationships are healthy relationships face their issues and they talk about them and they work on them together right that is true that is what happens in healthy relationships but it's much different when you get into a brand new relationship and all of these issues are coming up left and right that is a major major red flag the second part of this the second thing to really understand is most of these fights should have never ever ever happened in the first place like if you are constantly getting into fights and having to sit down and resolve them like this is you're starting off on a very very bad path because most of the time what this means and it's something that is so normal it's so normal what this means is that you guys weren't compatible you're not compatible and that's okay that's okay you know what I mean but people get into these things and they don't realize that every argument that you're getting into is ridiculous and a lot of them has to do with just your personality's clashing you know what I mean let's look at it this way okay let's say that you kept doing something that kept opening up a wound and cutting you cutting you cutting you cutting you right but you're good at stitching it back up right like you're gonna focus on the fact that you're good at stitching it back up but you're not addressing the fact that you keep cutting yourself in the first place you see what I mean that's kind of what's happening in these brand new relationships where you're constantly having these pretty ridiculous fights keep in mind keep in mind that no wedding has ever had the bride and groom get on the mic and say this you know when we first met all we did was fight but eventually things got really good and it turned into a healthy relationship like that is something that nobody has ever said you know what I mean like if it starts off that bad it's a bad relationship to be in in the first place and what you really need to recognize is this that if it's happening now is most likely not going to change but so many people stay in these relationships purely based on fear okay so let's break it down let's talk about the two major fears real quick so the first fear of why you won't leave this relationship even though it's off to a terrible start is that you are afraid of being alone you are so afraid of being alone that you stick around in this bad relationship hoping and lying to yourself that it's going to get better number two the other reason why you're staying in this relationship even though it started off very very bad is because you are so worried about what people in your life are going to think right you're worried that your your mom or your dad or your sister or your brother or your friends or your co-workers they're going to look at you and say oh look at them they just had another failed relationship you're so worried about what other people will think that you stay in this bad relationship so here's a topic that i i really need to make a lot more videos on okay and this is what it is the longer you waste your time on this bad relationship that has been doomed from the beginning the more you are missing opportunities to be with the potential right person like let that sink in for a few minutes think about how much time you are wasting on this person where you've been incompatible from the get and how many other opportunities you're missing out on trying to fix something that is going to continue to stay broken at the end of the day here's something that i often have to think about in all aspects of of life but that's related to the situation that you're in right now okay what we always have to remember is that time is our most precious asset okay time is something that we will never ever get back every single one of us has one life just one life to live so why are you going to continue to waste time on something that isn't making you happy right like think about that we waste so much time and like you don't get those years back and the problem is the problem is is that a lot of these relationships and these delusions that they're going to get better you know and and what a healthy relationship means this ends up turning into a marriage this ends up turning into the people having a child together and now you're stuck in this relationship even longer so what you need to do is especially when it's early in the relationship is get out okay get out of this relationship face your fears we can talk about those fears in another video but you need to get out of it and quit wasting your time because the sooner you get out of it the sooner that you will meet the right person for you so again again if you think that this video might be helpful to someone that you know please share it share it to give somebody that you know a little bit more clarity okay share it on facebook twitter or whatever you guys are using just share it and let's get the message out there that people do not have to waste their time staying in a bad new relationship okay anyways i would love to know your thoughts on this subject or how much time you've wasted in a relationship leave them down in the comments below okay but if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you are new here i always make videos about mental and emotional well-being so make sure you click the little round subscribe button if you want to check out some of the other videos on my channel you can click or tap on one of those thumbnails right there okay so thank you so much for watching quit wasting time and i'll see you next time