 So, I had a situation with a student recently. He basically came to me, he got into a situation with the girl that he was talking to, so, you know, he started talking to this girl, it was at a party, and it got kind of heated. She said, oh, you probably wouldn't know, you probably wouldn't know a lot about that, and he's like, oh, actually I do know a lot about that, and he just proceeded to try and put her in her place. And then she reacted negatively to that, and then it just kind of escalated, you know, one on top of the other, until eventually they both ended up parting ways, hating each other, and he was still angry about it, you know, even when we talked about it, it was like a couple days afterwards, he was still angry about that situation, you know, he came in hoping to make a connection with this girl, and they ended up propelling each other like, like Magnus, okay. And this reminded me a lot about, this reminded me a lot about, like, what used to happen to me when I was younger, okay, now look guys, there's just some girls you're not gonna get along with, but if you're anything like me, when I was younger, I used to get into arguments with women, I used to get into arguments with people in general all the time, but a lot of times with women, okay, I would go out, I was in my early 20s I think, and like almost every night I was getting into some sort of like spat, and for me I actually really enjoy that sort of stuff, that kind of energy, but what I'm doing with a girl that I like, sometimes it can get bad, actually sometimes if you get into that kind of like argument, you can channel that energy, and if you take into somewhere positive, you can actually like generate some good, flirty energy between, it's like sexual energy between the two of you, and it can be fun, but a lot of times it doesn't happen, it ends up with you both getting mad at each other, and it just doesn't work out, and both of you end up feeling kind of like not good afterwards, and sometimes like I would be like fuming after whatever it was like, I wouldn't get into a whole lot of like political arguments, but it would just be like people being rude to me, or I would perceive them being rude to me, or something like that, and I would take a bridge of it, and I would just want to like lash back out at them, okay, and it sounds like that's what this guy was kind of doing, okay, now, if you are, if you feel like this is happening to you, where you are getting into some, you are afraid about getting into some arguments, I highly recommend that you watch this video, because I'm going to tell you why it's just, it's just not worth it, it's just not worth it to get into these kind of situations with women that you like, or with women in general, like honestly with people in general too, but like a lot of, in a dating context, definitely with women, okay, because I used to go out in this how it happened to me all the time, and I remember my buddy, he called me up, and we were talking about like the night previous, and he goes, bro, like why you keep getting into these arguments with girls, like why do you keep doing that? And I'm going like, well, because they're being rude, or she was being like, she said some, some shit that was wrong, or, or whatever it was. And like, I'm saying all of this stuff, and he's like, dude, who cares? Who cares? It doesn't matter. And I let that sit for a little bit, and I'm like, it doesn't matter. Like, do I really think I'm going to convince her of my opinion over this? Probably not. Maybe there's a chance you'll hear my point. Probably not. Is convincing her going to make my life any better? Probably not. Okay. There's going to be people that have differences of opinion in me. That's okay. There's going to be people that are rude to me sometimes. That's okay too. And some, and for me at the time, it was like, oh, if someone's rude to me, I can't let that stay. I can't be a pushover guy. Like I'm not that guy anymore. So I have to yell back. Okay. Yelling back is not the high value way of handling situations. It's not. Okay. When people are rude to you, when people are nasty and they do leak, they come, sometimes they go, oh, shit, Tess. The worst thing that you can do when someone does that is to react, especially in anger. That's the worst because you, because if you show that it gets underneath your skin, that shows that that person can affect you. When a woman does this to you, you basically just prove to her that she can get under your skin. And if she can get under your skin, that means you guys aren't a good match. So I'm talking to my buddy and I'm saying like, yeah, but these girls are being rude and he's like, dude, shut up, shut up. It doesn't matter. Who cares? So he tells me this and he's like, and I'm like, but what if she says something mean? He goes, bro, if she walks up to you and is like, you know what? Your breath stinks. Just be like, yeah, well, I think you're really nice. She walks up to you and says, oh, you're skinny. And he'll be like, yeah, well, I think you got a good body. Okay. No matter what somebody says to you, just be nice, bro. And that stuck with me. I remember thinking that I thought about it all the next day and I was like, yeah, why wouldn't I just be nice? It doesn't make any sense. So the next time I went out and I was talking to a girl, talking to a girl that I liked and see she said some shit that annoyed me. That was mean. Some people would have reacted to it. Instead, I was nice. I was just like, yeah, well, you know, I think you're kind of cute. Didn't matter. She says something rude to me again. I'm just like, yeah, I know. I kind of am. Well, anyway, tell me more about yourself. Didn't affect me. Said it to me one more time. And I'm like, yeah, you want to get a drink? Okay. By after the third time, she gave up and then she actually started being really nice to me and then she ended up coming back home with me. Now I'm not saying the goal should be to just sleep with a girl and be nice to her and lie, but she actually ended up being a really cool person for me to hang out with. Now, this doesn't happen all the time. If a girl's being rude to me, usually in the end, I'll stop talking to them. But a lot of times when people are being rude to you, it's a part of their insecurity that's talking. When I went home with this girl, she told me about all of her insecurities with men. She told me about all the times guys have just been rude to her or ghosted her and done all of these bad stuff. So she has a negative opinion of men or of guys in my situation that are hitting on her at a bar. And so naturally, she just gravitated towards that. But after each point, I didn't give her a reason to hate me. I was nice to her. And so what ended up happening was that she's like, you know what? I'm kind of in the wrong. And then she just backed down. She followed my lead. And as you know, that's the man-to-woman connection. It was smooth sailing after that. We both got along great. What happens in these circumstances is if you are the guy who reacts, if you are the guy that lets somebody get underneath your skin, you are giving them all the power. And if you give a woman all the power, well, then she's not going to be into you. And that's something that, you know, I talk of, this is a big section of the practical approaching system where I talk all about this and the different situations. And you see it happening to me. Like you'll see it in the infield footage. You'll see girls fucking with me, but I don't react. I laugh. I'm like, that's funny. And then I move on. The more you let somebody get underneath your skin, the more power you are giving away. There is no reason to ever argue with a girl, a woman, a person that you like. Okay? So I leave you with that. So if you can think of your life, if you are doing this, and I'm not saying just be nice for the sake of being nice. If you don't want to deal with that kind of person, dude, there's plenty of women that I've been nice to that ended up liking me in the end that I've just said, you know what, that girl's not for me. I'm going to talk to somebody who's going to be a little less rude or less insecure. And you're fully within your rights to do that. But if you argue with them, if you start yelling back, you're making a huge mistake, and that's a lot of wasted energy that could have been directed towards something else. Anyway, I'll leave you with that, you guys. And by the way, the practical approaching system is going to be available for the next two days. So if you guys want to get on this, I'm going to be shutting off sales soon. Please click the link in the description box below, and I will see you there. Thanks a lot. You're the look out there, you guys.