 When the narcissist knows they have lost you first, let's talk about Before they know that they've lost you Because before they know that They're going to keep coming after you as long as they think that you're still susceptible to them at ablation As long as they think that they can pull you back in That's when if you've already left They're going to try to hoover you They're going to come back with a love bombing the fake apologies false epiphanies future faking All of that stuff they're gonna come back with that and They're going to try to win you back and they're going to try to do that because they Think that they still can Otherwise they wouldn't try if they really know that you're done They're just gonna leave you alone, but at least They're gonna not pursue Any more of a relationship with you Because when the narcissist really knows that they've lost you They're not just going to walk away and let you move on with your life No, they're not just going to let you do that That comes with a cost when you're dealing with a narcissist And this is when you really start to know what you're dealing with Because a normal person after a normal breakup It might last about a Few days two weeks at the most And then it's done you move on with your life That's a normal relationship with a normal person With the narcissist It can go on for years It can last for the rest of your life Because these people just don't know when to let go They don't know how to let go Because they've got no other purpose or direction So when they know that when they know that they've lost you They will try to make your life hell They will target your work life your family life They will go after your friends and family and try to make their life hell They will do all of these things To hurt you to pull you down Because for them it's very difficult to move on they haven't got the tools they haven't got the resources And I'm not I'm not just talking about money I'm talking about up here They haven't got that because if they really had that then They would know when it's time to move on I just get on with their lives When you try to break up with a narcissist They will hold on for dear life They will do anything to tear you down They will stalk and harass you They will drag you through the courts They will do all of this stuff To keep you attached to them Because they know that you're not going to willingly Be in their lives anymore They have to drag you in it's either that They have to watch you walk away narcissists are all about power and control and They don't feel any sympathy for you When they try to strip you of your free will when they're trying to pull you back into their realm They don't care when the narcissist Knows they have lost you They go looking for you. They will dedicate the rest of their lives To hunting you down And pulling you in because you're the most important thing in their lives They haven't got anything else There's nothing more important to them It's like an obsession and addiction But all along When you were in that relationship They targeted your self-worth and self-esteem They made you feel like you were nothing But then it just makes you think if that's true Why do they keep coming after you? Let's say you've got a cheap watch cost you maybe $20 and it breaks Or you lose it you're not really gonna waste much time looking for it Maybe you might search for it for five ten minutes But after that you're going to forget about it Because it's not that important to you But let's say It was a Rolex watch 10 $20,000 It's expensive Or maybe it's a watch that someone gave to you It has sentimental value You're not just going to spend five or ten minutes Looking for that watch You're gonna spend a Lot more time Looking for it Because of its value So all the time they teared you down Made you feel like you're nothing Made you feel like you're not good enough They were lying to you They knew exactly how great you are That's why they didn't want to let you go And that's why when they know that they've lost you They go looking for you They can't just leave you alone But at some point Even if it is a Rolex watch You may be looking for it for a few weeks a few months However long it may be At some point you have no choice But to forget about it You can't keep looking for it You have to accept that it's gone And that's the same thing with these narcissists Especially if you Move to a different town A different country They have to just forget about you Listen, if you go to a different country What are they gonna do? Are they gonna come chasing after you? That's why the best thing you can do When you're dealing with these types of individuals You've just got to get far away from them That's really your only option In these situations Because as long as you're around them They're just gonna keep coming after you all the time They're never gonna leave you alone Which is why your only option is really To cut off all ties to the narcissist Anyone who knows them Family or friends, it doesn't matter Let them go Because that tie to the narcissist Is only going to hold you down You have to cut ties Elevation requires separation Remember that You have to get as far away as you can From these types of people Because as long as you're in their proximity They're going to see you as an easy target When the narcissist knows they have lost you I saw a few donations there Thank you, Tima Wima And Pony's Picks Pony's Picks says she knew where I was at Showed up at the bar I was at Started to hoover me in person LOL Played it as cool as I could Yeah, that's really what you've got to do When they know they've lost you and they come chasing after you They really want to see that reaction They want to see you cower in fear They want to see you as though you're ashamed Regretting your actions As though you made the wrong decision No, don't let them see that Don't reveal your emotions to the narcissist Keep them to yourself Because they're only going to see that as a weakness They're not going to see her as they are He or she is feeling down How can I build them up? How can I make them feel better? Maybe I should leave them alone No, they're not going to think like that That's just going to tell them To plow through harder than ever before Which is why it's really best just to leave And get as far away as you can from them as you can Because it is very hard To hide your emotions At times When these people come in front of you And you have to see that It is hard because After everything they've done to you And you're trying to get away, but they won't leave you alone It can be very hard to hold that within And they feed off that They feed off that They feed off your fear and shame They want to keep you in a low vibration Which is why you have to avoid them at all costs Thanks for the donation again In Ag 27 I really appreciate all of the donations on here It's great help As many of you may know I have been away for five weeks And of course you know when I'm not making videos I don't make much money My revenue on the channel now Is under 50% of what it was Before those five weeks December was my worst month of the year And normally it's my best month So it was quite a big difference there And also I've had a lot of fees that I've had to deal with And I'm still investing In new equipment all the time Just got the new Alienware X17 And as you can probably see I got a new mic as well Clearer audio And when I take these trips I always bring you with me Of course The revenue that I've earned From this channel I use it to better myself To improve my own life After everything I've been through with the narcissist But as well Even when I'm taking these trips Whether I'm going to Thailand Or the Lake District, whatever it is I want to share that with you I want to invest it back Into our community Because that's what this is all about Reciprocation Something you will never get From the narcissist But that's something we can get from each other And I see it All the time on here All the views The comments, the likes The donations So many contributions From people who really feel What I have to say on here Which is honestly The greatest contribution of all Greater than Any money that anyone could donate Because you give me a voice You listen to me, you hear me You validate my experience as well And I think You can't put a price on that The validation Something a narcissist will never Be able to give to you Thanks for the donation leaps in Anyway I'm just out here Going to walk through the forest there To go to the waterfall Unfortunately the signal does cut off On the way there So I'm just going to end this right here Again I really appreciate All of you on here All of your contributions It means a lot to me And I look forward to seeing More growth On this channel I know this is just the beginning I have so much more to share with you So yeah Thank you all And Have a good one I will talk to you soon