 He's a gentleman. Make sure I can get this thing situated. Y'all give me a second. Let's see. Can you hear me now? Trying to get this here microphone working. Okay. Can you hear me now? Okay. Cool. My microphone was acting up. You know that they were trying to block me. But we worked it out. Okay. So wanting to pop in, do my bonus Q&A on Wednesday, last night, made up for Sunday. And you know, I've been studying a lot lately, watching stuff, keeping up with everything that's going on. So I've been a little, a little tired, but trying to hang on in there. Now remember, if you have a question, Marriotta, that book is not released. It's actually just a book that a young lady sent to me. She's in another country and she was considering publishing it, but it never came out. I just got to read it because she was asking for my opinion on it. Thank you for watching that. This shirt is not actually for sale. This shirt is a website. It's a actual website. That's a little dash itself, dash, love, dash, you. That's an actual website. It's a membership site with courses on it. Ms. Chris, I don't like being on camera and I try to record a podcast on my phone and hate my voice, LOL. Is it okay you just make posts on social media? Absolutely. Just make posts on social media. If you don't like video, if you don't like your voice, just write. You know, that's how I actually built my brand just with the written, written posts. I didn't start doing videos until like two years in and then I really didn't start doing videos like consistent. Y'all forgive me. I had a alarm went off on my phone, but I didn't start doing videos consistently until last year. Can y'all still hear me? Let's see. Sierra, you submit questions just like you just did. If you asking the question for the Q&A tonight. Now, if you mean like for videos, them questions, they just come from like comments and stuff that I get messages, DMs and stuff like that. Are you sure there's still good men out there? Yes, good men out there now, but because of the situation in the world today with relationships, the men are having a hard time finding good women. And I'd be honest with you as a man who deals with women all day, every day, coaching, dealing with these questions with the comments. I'll be honest with you. The state of women right now is not looking that good. I had a lot of hope for the state of women, but it seemed like the loneliness or the singleness, a lot of women starting to lose their mind and I'll be honest with you. So if you could be sane and you could be emotionally intelligent and you cannot let your mind go to conspiracy and just get too toxic and bitter. But a lot of women today is just going down the drain, just argumentative all the time, just frustrated, just looking for anything to nitpick. It's like I have this shirt on and I know women will be... I don't like that they start with an S. Do you know the science behind the letter S? The upper curve in it actually stands for sexism and the fact that you're wearing it and so it's like I'm noticing a lot of women losing their mind. And these everyday women work good jobs, you know. But so the men kind of in a place today to where they're like, I was talking to a guy today and he 30 years old saving himself until marriage and looking for a queen, you know, and has not been able to meet her. So it ain't, you know, he was asking me, hey, doing some matchmaking. I said, bro, I'm keeping my eyes open, but to be honest with you, I ain't met a woman. That's 30 that I feel like on your level. That I feel like you're really vibe with. Keisha, oh, God bless you. Tony, I need help. My ex is my drug and I'm sick of it and the way I feel for him. You're going to need coaching. You're going to need coaching because you're going to need to tell your whole story. You're going to need to get a plan for you and you might need therapy as well. So when it get that deep and you feeling that and you using that type of terminology, that kind of lingo, you need a little bit more one on one. In a relationship, should you check your and thank you for that blessing? I think for that blessing, Keisha. In a relationship, should you check your boyfriend's phone? If so, how often? No, you shouldn't check his phone. You shouldn't check his phone in a relationship. This your boyfriend. And I talked about that day on the video. So make sure you get time to watch it. I'm saying what I said on the video is that if a man is honest and he living clean, he will give you that access, but you shouldn't be playing blues clues. Sherlock Holmes. When this your boyfriend, because that is a form of. A B USC. And so you shouldn't be doing that. Now, when you get married, y'all one, but you still shouldn't make a habit of it just because you living in a prison of paranoia at that point. When somebody doing wrong, it's going to come to the light. Eventually it's going to come to the light. You don't have to go out, you know, chasing for it, digging for it. Let me see. Now y'all put that hashtag Q in front of your question. And, you know, y'all try not to fill up the chat just with, you know, a bunch of randomness, you know, just a little random stuff. Because, you know, try to keep it for the questions that if you got to say something, say something, but it just kind of run all the questions up that I'm over here scrolling for nine years. Linda, I'm a 26 year old version never been in a relationship. Only talk to two guys my whole life after seven months, a year to a year. It never works out. Is it me? Do I need coaching? Yeah, you need coaching. You're 27. So you should I'm 26. You should have a job. You should be old enough to afford coaching, but you're going to need coaching and, you know, but again, I was talking to the guy was talking to today, saving himself until marriage. Actually a virgin 30 years old working on himself doing, doing good, taking care of his body. And a lot of times all of the women that I meet that's a virgin or saving themselves, 99% of them that I've met through coaching just something to win off, something to send them left. And it just a little alarming, you know, like socially awkward. And so it kind of takes some time to where you may need to, not you, but when you're afternoon and you're single, you got to make sure that you still learning and you understanding perception, you understanding male energy, you understanding relationship dynamics so that you don't become like weird, you know, like sometimes it ain't anything, but you just get so much in your head that it just changes and it suppresses your natural personality because you overthinking things. How do I get other women to watch you and take your advice? You can't don't worry about that, you know, they life is the best teacher. So messages like mine is really for when a person keep bumping their head, like the people I'm coaching, they say I bumped into you, I'm going through some I was on YouTube searching question and your videos popped up, you know, people got to come when they ready. Tony, do you know how likely it is that the person that the in person coach training will happen in June, I'm in DC and would like to attend in person. But if not, I'll take the online training. Well, what you could do is if you sign up for the in person life coach certification, you can join the online one, you know, you could join the online one at no additional cost. So that way, if it doesn't happen, you got the online course. And if it does happen, it's not till June 6. So and it's in Atlanta and you see what that man up there in Georgia doing, he opened up bowling at his Friday. So it's looking like it's gonna go down in Atlanta June 6 because they opening on up. That man say, hey, if you die, you die. He said, we finna get back to business. So just be safe. Come June, I'm still gonna be safe. I'm still gonna be giving your elbow. I ain't shaking no more hands till 2021. I told him my ex daughter's father called through a video call after he told me not to call him because I didn't send him child pics after we went to court. I asked him to come see her. He says no. Was I wrong? Yeah. You was wrong because if that's his daughter and he asked for pictures of his daughter, then you should have sent him pictures of his daughter, especially if you talking to him, you dealing with him. It'd be different if you have no interaction with him. So, you know, don't don't be nasty just to be nasty and then be confused when it backfires, you know, do do everything to let a man who trying to be in his child life be there as long as he's not bringing toxic negative energy. And if it's getting that deep, then you probably need to work with a like a family, you know, co-parents and coach, which we have that on my mentor.life. We have co-parents and coaches. How do I gain more posture in my business? You probably gonna have to, I don't know if you meant the word posture, Chrissy, but you probably gonna need a session for that. You know, it's a little too vague, a little too broad to really understand that angle. Are guys attracted to alpha females? You know, I've been hearing this word about alpha and beta, you know, I tell you this, men not really think about them ABCs like that. A man is attracted to everything walking. Everything walking, everything got some legs, a man gonna be attracted to it. Now, who a man will respect is a woman who knows herself, who respects herself, who loves herself. That's who a man is going to respect. Whether you call that alpha or not, I don't necessarily call that alpha. I just call it a woman who knows and loves herself, who respects herself. It's type of woman hell. You know, a woman who's not gonna just take crap. Ladies say so, God bless you. God bless you, pardon my life. Purchase a woman's influence, can't wait to read it. God bless you on your queen and family. Hey, thank you, I appreciate that. Bolay, hey Tony, God bless you on the family. Thank you so much, pardon my life. My son's dad does not call our son. We were childhood sweetheart from 11 to 18. Had him at 17, he was really, he was really in love. So why would he do this? We are in different states now. This happened recently. Well, you have to change what you're saying about it. Because he really wasn't in love. He was too young to know what love was. A man don't know love till about 25 years old. Y'all were together 11 to 18. Think about what you're saying now, 11. A man don't know it left from right shoe at 11. He really start brushing his own teeth about 15. You know, putting his own socks together about 15. You know, so y'all was children. And what you got to understand now, women, you much more mature. So you maybe felt love. You probably felt love. You probably knew what love was. And I remember I learned this a long time ago. That when a woman body starts to menstruate, that's essentially her body saying, we ready for birth. And I have clients who gave birth at 11 years old. That's the difference between a woman and a man. A woman's body, some women, a lot of women can give birth at 11, 12, 13. So think about that. So the brain, if the body is going to do that for a woman, then the brain is not far behind it or ahead of it when it comes to maturity. So when you think about that, women mature much faster than men. A man, that thing think on its own and it's just, it just should not. Okay, it just should not. After he does that, his body has to do nothing else for a baby. So when you think about this, you know, you maybe loved him, but he didn't know what love was. He barely knew it was left from right. So then when you had y'all son, it shocked him. He didn't know how baby were made still, really. To be honest with you, because just men not thinking like that, they're not educated on that. It's not their body that has to do anything with that. So when that baby came out, that's why you had him at 17, 18, your man was gone because he still was a child. He still was immature. He's still scared. And now he's not calling because he wants that distance because it scares him. It makes him feel inadequate. It makes him feel less than he already feels like a failure. He feels like he made the biggest mistake in his life and he can't do anything to change it. And to confront it will be so painful and he doesn't know how to deal with that pain. Now that's an explanation, not an excuse. Y'all, a lot of time we confuse excuses with explanation. That's an explanation that he can use as an excuse. Tony, if I'm in a serious relationship with a man and I don't have male friends, would I be wrong to tell him to cut off his female friend? He has known years before me. Well, I'll tell you this. If he really bought you and he really wants to be with you and he really sees you as his wife, she naturally will start to take a back seat. He naturally will put her in a back seat. If you looking up and he on the phone, he can and they all super deep and close and he giving her his secrets and hopes and fears, then yeah, you got to speak on that. You got to speak on that and you got to let him know like, hey, I'm not really comfortable with this and you see his reaction and what he says from there. How often should a new couple spend time together? Right now, y'all don't need to be spending no time together, especially if y'all got to go out of the house at any point in time. But after this hill situation, then you need to spend time together every day on the phone and in person when you can, but without neglecting your responsibilities. Flaming heart, God bless you. Pour out in your life. Just blessing you for how much you bless us. God bless. Hey, bless you. Bless you. It's a tough time. Y'all don't have to send them blessings. Now I know it's tight times. Y'all don't have to send them blessings. Listen to them. Okay. I'll be on here to answer these hill questions. Everybody in here that get the right question already paying a monthly fee to be a part of the blessed tribe. So I want y'all to understand that. Okay. Cause I'm seeing them stimulus and came and gone. I'm getting a lot of emails coming in. I'm stimulus and came and evaporated. So y'all a don't don't don't waste that on me. Now before every question, wait until he stops speaking. Now y'all listen to the ground rocks. Now y'all hold your question if I'm talking and then pop it in there when I finish. Do you think a liar can change 30 plus? If so, how would I know they've changed? Well, a lot going to a lot going to tell itself, you know, if a person lying to you, then the truth going to come out. So what you have to do when you dealing with a liar, you got to let them know like, listen, I can't build an empire with a liar. So if you're going to be lying, we can't be together. So I'm telling you like this right here. One of the worst things line is just as bad as she in my eyes. So this what you saying? So if I catch you in another lie, I got to go my separate way. And I mean that with every where everything in me. Let your liar know that so that you lie understands the repercussions. Can a relationship be fixed after eight years of doing everything wrong? And both want to try. I'll be honest with you. You've got about a 1% chance for that to work out. And I'm going to tell you like this right here. A man don't really want to try. A man always say he want to try eight years in what you've been doing the last eight years. My boy, what you've been doing for eight years. My boy, you didn't have all of this time to get your life together. So what you got to understand? Man just say they want to try just to keep you stuck. Just to keep you stuck just to hold you there. Just so you can't move on. And then while he getting his feet wet and doing what he want to do. And then when he find a woman to leave you for, then he going to leave you high and dry. But if I don't get somebody eight years of my life and it's still a mess. I'm going, I'm moving on. I'm moving on. I don't care. We don't have a football team together. I don't care if I got 11 kids eight years. No, I got to go because it just, it don't take the human brain that long to figure somebody out to learn somebody. It don't take that. I made it to six hours, eight minutes, phone time. He told me through text. He has a quarantine buddy on day four. She was downstairs and he just got out the shower. Deal breaker. Right. Yep. This deal break gone by today. I'm not sure. God bless you. God bless you. All right, Tony, would you recommend a new business open up a line of business credit? If so, how much? No, I wouldn't recommend that. But do a shoe strain budget, you know, do a shoe strain budget, you know, and find a way to earn money using your gift in your business. It's a lot of free resources out here in business to where you don't need a line of credit. You don't never want to start a business with no line of credit because especially today, the line of credit is trash. You hear me? They be coming with all kind of, with all kind of interest. So use your gift creatively to make money through Etsy shop or fire, Instagram, Facebook, all and the likes and then bill from there. There we go. Bless you. Thank you. Appreciate your wisdom and humor. I'm cracking up cleaning my house with my earbuds on and my son says, you listening to Tony? Period. Okay. Okay. Everybody have a good old time and your son know who I am. Hey, tell, tell son. I said, what's up? Tell son. I said, what's up, young man? Tony, I'm 27. A guy I'm currently dating is 36. Yeah. Yeah. How do you feel about such a large age gap? What advice do you have? Not be honest with you. My rule of thumb is five years. But if you under 10 years apart and the man is older and the man is older, then it's not the same as if you're a woman dealing with a man. And that's nine years younger than you. Because to be honest with you, which is kind of sad to say, but a 27 year old woman is really equivalent mentally to a 37 year old man. In a lot of cases there are immature 27 year old women too. But in a lot of cases that that gap, the maturity gap can be about 10 years when men just accept responsibility and mature in the area of relationships slower. All the time, my daughter knows you too. She said, there's Tony Gaskin. I love him, Mom. Hey, God bless you. Once you get old enough, now she's going to be getting that knowledge in. Running these men crazy. These men ain't going to know what to do with her. Hey Tony, I have a coaching session with you soon. Is there anything I need to do or have in preparation of? Fix my future, please. No, no, just calm your brain. My sessions, they flow. It's flow. It's spirit-based. I don't have this outline of questions and all of this that's put in a box to where it's cookie cutter for every person. I feel your vibe. I feel your energy. I ask you some questions and we flow and we get to the heart of the matter. Just calm, relax, chill and just answer the questions you ask and it's going to flow the way it needs to flow. Crystal, God bless you. God bless you. Do you think emotionally a man can change without counseling or without a life coach? See, the thing about it is the counseling or life coaching doesn't have to be a person. So technically, yes, he could change, but he has to change what he's listening to. So if he's listening to videos, relationship videos all day, if he's listening to relationship audio books, and he's reading relationship books with you and y'all talking about it and y'all discussing it, if he is getting free mentorship, if he's reading his Bible, whatever it is, if he changes his input and he really wants to make that change, then yes, he could change. Because technically, for me to make my change, I read the Bible every day and I listened to audio and I made a decision in my mind that I wanted to change, but I didn't actually pay a therapist or pay a life coach because it really wasn't a thing back then like that in the community therapy and then life coaching really wasn't around in 2007 like that. I didn't know a life coach. My dad was a pastor life coach, so my wife allowed me to work with him and it didn't cost me, you know, actual money, but it really was the input that I changed throughout the music and just listening to podcasts and videos all day long. And Angelica, God bless you, part of your life. How do I let a guy know I don't want to be his friend? Our friend's on him because I wasn't attracted and he smoked, we kept in touch and talk about everything I feel bad, but I know he will leap if I was willing to be a lily pad, never slept together, okay? You just got to tell him. If you don't want to be his friend, you just got to tell him. I posted on my Instagram, it's a chapter in a woman's influence talking about that that said just say no and it really is just talking about just being straight up. Just tell him, man, you know, he a grown man. You got to realize his uncle customized, his daddy customized, his coach customized, his teacher customized. You saying, hey, on your phone call tonight, you saying, hey, I don't think it's really a good thing that we keep in touch like this because we kind of had a little feelings for each other and I don't want to block your blessings. I don't want to block my blessings. I think we ought to go our separate ways. You saying that, that ain't going to crush him. He ain't worrying about that. He going to say, all right, bye. He going to hang up before you get the last word out. Millie, God bless you, God bless you. Every time I see my ex, I get a lot of anxieties that weird. We have a son together, been working on myself, going to therapy, watching your videos. What do I do? No, it's not weird. That's normal. It's just your brain reacting. It's just your brain reacting to that soul tie. You seeing somebody that's triggering those feelings, those emotions, everything that you felt. So it's just like, if I smell fried chicken, my stomach, my brain going to go to talking to me. If I see somebody that's scammed me or somebody that I've been talking about, they back. I'm going to feel something. It's just your brain reacting. So it is very, very normal. But the more knowledge you get, the more confidence you're going to build, the stronger you're going to get, and the easier it's going to be when you see him. So don't overthink it. It's normal. Juju God bless you. If a guy is following his dad's footsteps, does that mean he will forever be like his dad? Yeah, it's a good possibility. It's a good possibility. A lot of men don't surpass their dad, especially if he idolizes, look up to his dad, respect his dad, and following his dad's footsteps. It's a very good possibility. And I noticed that with a lot of men, that they don't want to be married if their dad didn't marry their mama. If their dad was a player, if their dad was in the streets, a lot of men look up to their daddy and follow their daddy. So, you know, you got to realize that. Louisiana Beauty. I see what y'all be doing. Some of y'all comments, y'all come on late and start the video from the beginning. So y'all be commenting. They pop up, but you comment on something I said 10 minutes ago, okay? I just realized that. Louisiana, God bless you, man. Why in your life? Bless you, Tony. Thank you for helping me sort out man sending to this woman. Oh, okay, sending heart to this woman. We spoke about it, but he still did it. When I told him this won't work, he started to get aggressive. I got out early and said, God bless you. Now, I take a lesson from what she just said. She saw the red flag. She addressed the red flag. He's going to test her, try her to see if she really bought that life. She's from Louisiana. He wanted to see if she bought it, bought it, like no limit soldiers. She showed him, yes, I'm bought that life. You want to try me like a baser. I'm up out of here. He want to get aggressive, but the thing about it is, he don't know you well enough. So he didn't go all the way. That's why I tell y'all all the time, recognize crazy early because see when you play with crazy, you give it fuel. He gets stronger, stronger, stronger. He get crazy, crazy, crazy. So now you play with him for too long. Now he going to go all the way. But see when you catch it early and you get out there early, he don't go all the way because he's not as comfortable with you yet. Tatum Swift God bless her God bless her Tatum. That's an amazing little name. Tatum Swift, okay. Nice name. Is it good to take things at face value or always question the obvious? Now, if you want to question the obvious in your mind, that's between you and your mind and the Lord. Don't question all the obvious with me at my expense to have me answering the obvious, okay? But in yourself, you want to think about it? Okay, do that. But again, like I told y'all, I'm noticing it's a lot of women losing their mind. Don't think about stuff too much. And that's what my wife then taught me. Don't overanalyze. You get analysis paralysis. So don't go too deep. Don't go too deep with it now. Angelica God bless her. God bless her. Pour out in her life. Now, hi, I can't make no video like that on YouTube. You can't talk about all that right there. You need therapy, sister. You need therapy. Don't y'all be afraid to open your wallet and get some therapy. Later told me one time I was building my brand. She said, Tonya, sometime you're going to have to pay for something. Everything in life ain't going to be free. I got y'all spoiled doing an hour video every day, but everything ain't going to aim for a video on YouTube. Sometimes you just going to have to get on psychologytoday.com or you're going to have to get on my mentor.life and get your therapist or get your life coach and do the work. Do the work. I slept with my ex after he said, we should have not done that because we still need to work on each other. What you think about that, Tonya? I think you played yourself and he let you play yourself and he told you you played yourself. So he said, wham-bam, thank you, ma'am. Just to let you know that was stupid of you, what you just did. But hey, thank you. I already got what I need. So now I just want to let you know how stupid you just was. So, okay, thank you. I'll come back around in a month, two, three months. Try to get me another little wham-bam. Thank you, ma'am. Then remind you again how stupid you is to be sleeping with me. So that's what that is in English, okay? So understand that. Don't play yourself like that again. Blue sky, God bless you. God bless you. Put out in a lie. Hi, Tony. Do guys like women wear glasses? I seem to get approached three to four times more when I am out and about than when I am out and about. When I am out and about than when I wear my glasses. When I am out and about than when I wear my glasses. I don't know, sis. I don't understand what you're saying. If they approach you without your glasses or with your glasses. Because now, it's just depending on what your glasses do until your eyes. I remember I used to go to school with a guy. His glasses would make his eye look this big. And so it's like, you know, so I pay attention to the to the feedback, okay? Pay attention to the live feedback. Should a 30-year-old woman stop dating a 38-year-old man who is slowly improving? Dated for eight months. Two to three days, we did not talk. No specific day. We text daily. No, yes, he meets all my standards except consistency. Well, the problem with that is he's 38 and inconsistent. So if he's 38 and inconsistent, understand he's not eight. He's not 18. He's not 28. He's 38. So if he's 38 and inconsistent and it's been eight months and y'all already took a two, three day break inside of a year, it ain't looking good. It ain't looking good. So you got to go through every little thing. But, Sandra God bless your part and our lives, Lord. Met a man 60 years old. Met up before the shutdown. Hung out, talked for three hours. Then he went silent. Texted two days ago said that the virus changed things. Told him my number hadn't changed. Was I wrong? Um, know you wasn't wrong and you need to go on about your business because things, when it's shut down and he's, he blaming it on the situation we in, he got him a little quarantine buddy. Gone about your business. See, the older man is the less games you got to play with him because he done been here long enough. Okay, he done been here two lifetimes. You know, it's like you feel like you done lived the life by 30. So he's 60 like, come on now and you done been here long enough more boy, to have your game, you know, air tight. So to know what you doing know your way around relationship and a woman and if you still can't get it together at that age gone about your business. Millie, God bless you, God bless you. Tony, how do I help my sis who found out her boyfriend cheated on her with his baby mama. She is still considering taking him back and says that says that's the man God wants her to be with. Help me help her. Thank you. You know what? I mean you could do what you could do. You could send her a video every day. You could send her a book. You could send her quotes. The stuff gonna go in her mind. She gonna think about it when her head hit the pillow but you can't stop her. You can't stop her. Send her the scripture. You know, that say God ain't off the confusion. You know, do what you got to do and help her how you gonna help her but if she does not listen, don't cut off. Be there for her because if you cut off because she don't listen to you, he gonna put her on an island and nobody gonna be able to hear her screams. So you need to always be an ally regardless of what she decides cause she'll wake up and smell the coffee one day. My sis boyfriend popped up at my apartment one night trying to sleep with me. I told her about it and she cut the family off for months. How to help her see her work. Wow. Everybody sister struggling, huh? Hey, I'm gonna tell y'all the truth. I'm gonna tell y'all the truth. My sister struggling. My own sister being in her own little struggles with these sorry, no good men. But y'all hear this? Y'all hear this? Y'all hear this? This is what I be dealing with. This what I be dealing with. And I'm gonna tell you this 10% of it. Y'all don't see all the emails I see. Now listen to what she said. Now listen to what she said. She say my sister boyfriend popped up at my apartment one night trying to sleep with me. I told her about it and she cut the family off for months. How to help her see her work. Listen that thing is serious. You ain't gonna be able to help her see her work. You know you got to pray for. Now one thing what I do in my family, one thing what we'll do. Me and my daddy. We'll call the police. Anonymously. Uh yeah, can you send an office over to 1-2-3 Main Street. Thank you very much. Yes, yes. Get there right now. 1-2-3 Main Street. Okay. My sister got a man in the house. Ain't supposed to be there. I'm on the phone with DCL. Ah yes, I'm in the DCL. Okay, yeah. Ah yes, I got a case over there. 1-2-3 Main Street. Got a man who got a long rap sheet. Got eight felonies and he is now with three kids right now. And he was known for child abuse. Yes, please send a report over there right now. Yep, bye. You know what they called me? DCF game over here. Oh, they did? What? So that's what you got to realize. That's how sometimes, that's how you got to help family sometimes because sometimes family don't want to help themselves. So sometimes you just got to call the police. You know they got into it. You know they got in the fight. You know something going on. Call somebody and tell somebody. I'm going to tell you. Ah, now hold on. I missed somebody who put a question in here. D. Love. There it go. There it go. I God bless you D. Love. I feel dating a guy who didn't have a father in the home is a huge challenge. Agree or disagree? 9 out of 10 times yes. 9 out of 10 times yes. That is the case but there are exceptions to the rule. Tangelica high Tony been catching your videos to the TV and my husband has been watching them with me. He said you're giving away all the game but he can tell your spirit led. He looks forward to your videos. Hey God bless you. God bless you. See men know men. I try to tell y'all that men know men and one thing that I could tell y'all honestly a real man ain't never looked me in my face and tell me I'm lying. A real man ain't never looked me in my face and tell me I'm lying. Not online. Not in private. And I'll be honest with you. Like that's why a lot of men don't really mess with me like that like good or bad. It's because one thing men know that if a man will get online and tell all this much game that he might be crazy. And so it's actually more fearful like when I see a guy he giving away the game I just got to respect him. I said I respect him but guess what I don't want no hands with him. Because I'm like if he that bold to tell that kind of game that man never got a set of hands on you feel him. And if he ain't got no set of hands he got that iron for you. You hit me. And so you got to be protected and so real men know real men. Real recognize real. So your husband you know he real. And he can recognize what look familiar and what don't. I missed somebody messaging here. So I'm going to have to get back to somebody who sent us the super chat. So I'm going to try to scroll up. So y'all hold your messages for one second. Lena TV God bless you. I'm in school pursuing medicine. I have some trust and trauma issues and I'm a person. I do want love but online dating has been rough. I'm tired of ghosting pigs. I don't think I'll ever find anybody. Well I'll tell you like this if you think you're not going to find anybody you are not going to find anybody. Okay. I will tell you that. So what you're going to have to do keep doing what you're doing you in the right place. Keep getting your knowledge keep learning keep growing. It's going to build your confidence. Now from your picture up there that I seen look like I seen some blonde hair. So what that mean you walking around you jumping off the page every man in the world seeing you. So all you got to do is just create your routine you need to be at the gym on Monday Wednesday Friday you need to be at Starbucks on Saturday you need to be at the mall on Saturday you need to be at church on Sunday you need to be in your life group on Wednesday night. If you just create your routine you walk around with that hair. Every man is going to see you. You're going to have more than enough men approaching. You don't need to be doing online. They know stay off the online stay off the online day. Y'all give me one second somebody . John. I find you message. God bless. Do you think it's right for a wife to keep love making from a husband because he is mistreating and things are rocky. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Because he breaking he breaking vows. So you don't reward him by giving him your body. You're not you're not on floor mat. You got to let him know but that ain't going to be the only thing you're going to have to do more than that. You're going to have to do more than that. You're going to have to get some coaching. You're going to have to let him know a we coming down to the wire this thing about to be over. If you ain't going to work for this thing I'm going to have to get on up out of here. You're going to have to do more than just keep your legs closed because in this day and age you keep your legs closed ain't going to do nothing to a man. They teach him no less because he got handled and he got all these nasty websites okay then he got the women that you know he could cash out and Venmo and PayPal to get nasty stuff sent through snapchat and the DM likes a whole lot going on in this day and age so he really ain't going to learn no lesson by you with holding that he going to learn a lesson by you saying listen I'm about to get on up out of here if you don't change your life glam dog I bless you poor out in our life. Hey Tony I'm 22 and my mom is toxic. She's draining me emotionally mentally and financially when I try to talk to her she says she's mama. I want to cut her off without seeming disrespect for how your phone broke. Your phone broke if you live with it you need to get somewhere to live but listen to me don't ever let somebody dry you to a early grade just because y'all got the same blood in y'all veins she talking about she mama and that's the problem right here what you said glam dog I hear there's so much that is getting sickening I'm here so many women who their biggest problem in their life is they mama you got to check your mama you going to have to speak into your mama life you going to have to start sending her a video every day you going to have to start putting scriptures up where she going to see it on facebook you going to have to let her know if she don't want to get right cut off your phone bro okay your mama guess what I'm talking to father god and I need a friend indeed call on because I'm casting my care to the lord and you one of my cares that I care for but I can't carry it so I'm giving you to the lord you hear me I didn't had to cut my mama off for a period of time I had to cut my dad off for a period of time I had to cut my sister off for a period of time that's my only family that's my only family but everybody in my life know one thing about me you bring that drama you bring that ignorance you cut you get out you get out talking out the side of your neck with Tony you going to get cut off anybody can get it I do not care who it is okay I'm going to cash you to the lord so if you come to me bring good energy bring good energy and that's what you got to let your mama know you know see disrespect the Bible tell you to honor your parents so what that mean is don't curse your mama don't put hands on them don't curse I but the Bible tell you that a husband and wife for sake they mother and father and cleave to one another it's time that you going to get separation you so you can separate without dishonoring and disrespect them you can get distance stop answering every call and responding to every text and say I don't have it when she asking for money and not be dishonoring her so understand that now and God bless your poor little life how do you open up to a man when it's not easy to open up with anyone period you going to have to start practicing that you going to have to sit down and learn that you going to have to see your brain going to do whatever you tell it to do so when you feel a little tension and you shut down you hard wire your brain to keep telling yourself I don't open up to people I don't open up to people I'm very quiet and shy I'm very quiet and shy but look what I'm doing and nobody who watched this video will ever believe that I'm quiet and shy but anybody who know me like people who go to my son's school people who play on their sports team they find out who I am and what my name is and find out what I do they be blown because they never heard me say a word but I tell myself this what I gotta do so I get on here and I stretch forward so understand that you going to have to just push through communicate and every time you do it you rewiring your brain you building your emotional intelligence every time you push through Wendy God bless you God bless you Canada been with grown boys most of my life because I didn't know how a man should treat me now I'm with a God fearing man who made some mistakes in the beginning and he doesn't know I know what should I do about it if you there let it go if it wasn't bad enough for you to leave then let it go let it go you know if you catch him doing it again then go ahead and dress it but if you there and you got good energy and you calling him a God fearing good man then what he did you must not see it as that bad so there's no sense in digging it up and talking about it if he not already changed and you not already decided to stay now because if you don't talk about it you don't have to be about it so when you talk about it okay what's the repercussions after this so you know sometimes we just grant grace when it's something that is not really a super deal breaker and it's something that your heart feels it can handle because you dealing with a human so understand that Annie K. God bless you what does it mean when a man says he wants to build with you I respect you and you're helping him I'm a better person not yet dating just talking a lot on the phone we're 23 it basically mean that I'm 23 and I got time to waste and you seem like a good person you seem like you got a good heart so I'm going to use you for your energy I'm going to let you deposit positivity into my life I'm going to let you be here but if he's not making a move and trying to get serious and say let's date let's be exclusive when you hit that three month mark five month six month it's time to move on with your life if you desire a serious relationship with a serious commitment because some men will just see you like a fan you know you you TMZ and he'll just see you like a fan and he'll treat you like a fan like Papa Ross he'll let you be there and be a support system but really he turn you into a test dummy and then when he find what he wants he'll move on so you got to set your own timeline that you're going to give to him and when things don't pan out in that timeline and your heart is not secure in that situation don't let it become a situation ship instead of a relationship and then you abandon ship and go ahead by your business okay he would very God bless you now see when he 499 pop up I got to go ahead and grab the because they'll disappear then I can't find him in the trap in the chat my kids lied on my boyfriend I made him leave and he having called at all in days he's mad he calls to talk to my sis about us will he return first thing you need to do is really really figure out if your kids lied on you got to really talk to your kids and see if they lied on and you got to make sure they ain't saying that they lied on because you acting a fool and you throwing stuff and you going off and you walk around looking broke busted and disgusted looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him so make sure your energy is not making them say they lie how do you know they lie because one thing I deal with all the time is kids telling their mama something and they mama thinking that accusing the children of lying and then the man but why doing what he want to do because now he knows mama ain't got her children back mama ain't gonna protect them God thought of God bless you God almost ain't see you God bless you God I used to fill these chats with questions about my ex baby daddy 3 months post break up and working on my 3 B's daily I have a son now for those y'all don't know what the 3 B's is that's brain brand body brand body from one of my books I have a son under 5 so I took your advice and no longer date text or interact with any man thank you Tony life is good God bless you you got to do keep focusing Shakita Harris God bless you you be showing up and showing God bless you JT bless you bless you Tony I just want to say thank you you totally transform my mind and perspective concerning relationships and my purpose God has used you to help me know and understand my worth my purpose is to help other women and to thank you God bless you JT God bless you y'all trying to make a grown man cry now y'all give me all these thanks and all that now okay tell Lord thank you now y'all gonna have me on hand tears K Love God bless you now I'm trying to wonder if I lost somebody chat up y'all hired my baby daddy miss treats me when upset takes money back he gave curses me out my name threatens only when mad you gonna have to crush them shells you hit me and you gonna have to crush them shells and how he taking back money he gave what he strong army when he get rather strong on you need to have the 911 on speed now okay let's tell me you dealing with a grown boy you dealing with a grown boy if he crazy if he really bought that life then you need to get distance you need to get on child support you need to get you on government cheese get you another stimulus check and you need to take care of your own situation if he crazy if you know crazy he just jumping frog because he really he's soft as a cotton candy and hot son and won't bust a great then you need to get them boys in blue on and let them know that they shoot first ask questions later because they'll rather be judged by 12 and carried by six so you got to let him understand listen to me act right act right are you gonna get dealt with one thing y'all got to stop doing stop letting me man run you crazy because he meant is soft okay a real man gonna treat a woman the way she need to be treated when you got a man that's out here playing games and dog and you out and doing all of that they'll he's soft okay he butter made all right you got to realize that you got to see through that and when you call them boys in blue he gonna be like them kids in school you hit me you got the you get that child support office owner because he don't want to drive life suspended listen to me he would bear they admitted they lie because they were jealous that their dads aren't in their life you might need to take that lesson and stop dating and be a hundred percent mommy because when you a hundred percent mommy children don't desire a daddy like that when you doing everything you doing but see what it is mama listen to me you sniffing this man booty you got this old stanky booty rusted man in your house and that's why they jealous and guess what they jealous because he sorry and that's why he left after they lie so if he was good they'll be happy for step daddy and won't be worried about they daddy because they'll be happy that they daddy gone because they love a mama but because they see their mama is lost and chasing this stanky booty man they want to get him up out there and get they daddy back that's what you got to understand come on 980 this real life here 980 don't tell it y'all 9 I can't lie to you but you got to sit with this here truth you got to sit with it 9 sit with it let it sit on your heart hold on hold on somebody bless me here Christy God bless you poor out in our life poor out in our life son's dad said sweet nothing touch my feet when dropping things off ask when he last ex said 2 weeks ask the favor jokingly said ask girl says I don't privilege to joke with him because of the accusations I made when we were together you all gonna pay for a coaching session you gonna need a coaching session and what you gonna have to do with him you gonna have to cut this thing off cut this down to a business relationship y'all should need being touching distance and if he got to keep touching feeling then you need to have a mediator you need to have your mama your cousin your best friend they need to be there take the child to the door take the child out to the car okay let them do the drop off alright and in K in response us being 23 he asked me to date and talks marriage and the future with me in it I am just taking my time cause it's long distance you doing the right thing cause 9 out of 10 time long distance is not real 9 out of 10 time long distance is not real long distance real ain't real for a full grown man let alone a 23 year old let alone that hold on miss the actual God bless I've been divorced from my ex-husband for 3 years he cheated with a male why does he still come back to fake apologize and check on me it's a soul tie and he also dealing with other spirits so those spirits that this your ex-husband if y'all don't have if he ain't coming back to see children that y'all have together and he didn't cheat it with that man he got other spirits that stern up in him and you need to keep them spirits away from you and so just you done with them you done with them let them talk to the dial tone let them talk to the voicemail but don't let them get in your presence because why he over there and that other man behind he being brought back that 19 to you or being brought back that health and you slip up and fall in the bed with him and he put that health in you hear me when I say health that's them for HIV okay so just tell them go on with your boyfriend and leave me be because I'm moving on with my life and you got to be real with him you got to be direct with him so bring the God bless you you spoke about coaching men who want to date the media standard of beauty light skin eyes if a man sees and attract a woman without that well he still feel he's settling me preference the rock um yeah he will feel like he's settling if he's program like that because see if that's what he thinks is attractive then he not going to thank you attractive if you not that if you not that so the thing about it is men who program and they they immature they believe the best is what the world says the best is what the media says the best is so if the media say this type of woman right here is the best guess what he want the best somebody like the rock he want the Bugatti so if he want the Bugatti he want the Lamborghini he want the Rolls Royce then he going to want the Rolls Royce of women who is the Rolls Royce of women if he can't decide for himself he going to let the media tell him who the Rolls Royce of women is so the Rolls Royce of women based on what the media says is a woman with a certain complexion certain hair color certain body type then that's what he's going to believe is his Bugatti in women so that's what you have to understand about that don't ever try to be something that a man want if you not what he want if he can't see your beauty if he can't see what you were if he can't see what you bring to the table then he's not worth your time because that means he's just going to drag you through the mud and dog you out anyways so never seek approval you need to be seeking love not approval Lynn W. God bless you I listened to your podcast and videos one year ago called up and they became part of my daily life they were the catalyst for me in a 10 year relationship with a grown boy your philosophy has literally changed my life thanks Lynn God bless you God bless you I so appreciate you sharing that with me Keeley forgot to add Keeley God bless you now you can show it up on here again and showing that you show up God bless you listen to me now listen I got 32 moments my wife said okay Tony you go do your live at 9 and I'm going to do my work out at 9 so you know let me say I think I miss somebody in here that popped in hold on okay Nell that's why I miss God bless you Nell if his mom puts me on game about what her son is doing and lying about is that okay well I'll tell you what I don't know if mama trying to get you up out of there but yeah it's okay but I mean you look like a fool if she telling the truth and you stand but I I'll be trying to question you know why she doing this most mama won't do that so it might be she trying to get you up out of there she could be trying to get you up out of her son life most mamas ain't going to tell them what they son doing unless she just really try to raise him as a good man and she's super disappointed with him being a grown boy and she just like I'm not with it I'm not going to put up with your grown boy stuff so unless that's the case I don't know beyond which I just be trying to get out that whole situation that family got too much drama mama snitching on the son whether it's right or wrong I'll just get up out of here it's just too much going on for me okay mama cuz I got to go um shana with god bless shana god bless her now when they now look at her poor out in her life lord poor out in her life show up and show out um shana thinking shana fitness mom god bless god bless her shana shana thinking I should try to work on marriage one last time 20 years both distant he's not trying at all should I show effort first he's putting effort into other things what do I look for what do I look for from him if a man is not trying and a man don't want it cuz understand a lot of men will lie and say they want it when they don't want it so when a man not even lying to say he wants it and a man not trying it's over with it's over with you cannot see men have a king mentality and what that means is when I say king I mean the old days traditional traditional king to where a woman ain't had no rights a woman was a piece of meat a lot of men have that mentality so when you go trying to cater and serve a man he gonna put his foot on your neck he gonna take everything from you and give you nothing in return for relationship to work the man has to want it he has to want it he gotta wanna try he even gotta wanna lie to say he wanted so understand that he ain't trying he focus on other stuff you gotta move forward and see when you cut him off completely and you show him that you don't need him that's when he may wake up and realize that these 20 years he gave you mean something and he need the man up but if you chasing after him he gonna keep running and let you keep chasing and while you chasing you gonna be running and watching him with another woman and he just gonna let you keep chasing knowing that with every step of the way every mile of the way you getting crazy and crazy and crazy in love for him because now you feel like you're losing your hard work that you gonna put in for 20 years that she finna reap the benefits and he gonna have you right way won't you stop broke busted and disgusted Taylor Perry God bless you God bless your daughter's father barely cause our daughter to check on her or FaceTime since he has met his new girlfriend also doesn't pay child support after he put himself on now when stuff open back up I'll be letting that child support court know okay I'll be letting that child support court know we need we want the license re-vote okay we want to warn out phone we want we want everything we could get I'll be trying to let him know cause he wanna play that game okay we finna bring the man involved you can't be man enough to handle your responsibility we gonna let the man get involved and you know that man don't kill nothing about you you finna lose all your rights my boy and so listen don't play do not play because it's about your children okay you got to do what's best for your child and what you got to realize is he's still lost he's still confused he's still a grown boy and he's he giving all this woman all this time and trying to make it look like she the only thing in the world and if he doing all that FaceTime and with his daughter then his woman his new woman that he trying to bait he trying to bait her that's why he doing that she gonna think he got baby mama drama in that she not the center of his world and she probably gonna leave and that's what he trying to avoid cause he just trying to game her that's all the deal how do I find out if a man is marriage minded without asking directly I'm assuming that it's a bad idea to ask him I just want to know that we have the same goals and not waste time you'll be able to tell it you know like the good book says you will know the tree by the fruit it bears so a marriage minded man he gonna move the same way you want to move he's going to be intentional he's going to be direct he's going to be proactive he gonna be setting up dates he gonna be making phone calls he's gonna be building with you making love to your mind trying to get to know you he gonna be doing all those things that you gonna see okay this is progression but if it feel like y'all just sitting still wasting time then you got your answer so you don't have to ask most questions you just got to pay attention and if you pay attention you gonna see what you need to see God bless you God bless you Vi or V Hi Mr. Tony what can I do notice boyfriend checking out another woman try to play it off I called him out he denies happen again three to four weeks later I'll be honest with you I'll be honest with you when they say pick your battles that's a battle you really don't want to pick because it's just like a man gonna see everything he gonna see every woman he gonna see that and it's yes it may feel disrespectful and yes it is disrespectful so call him out and call him out the next time call him out the next time but the thing about it is that's literally just biological it's like a lot of people don't understand that don't realize that but I literally had to become like a Navy Seal and I still struggle with it like it's I'll be honest with you and women don't understand this so y'all can't really speak to this and most men can't articulate it when a man see a woman it's innate in a man to reproduce to pursue so when a man see a woman it's literally like your whole neck just do like this and y'all know ain't gonna lie to you I'm a grown man I'm a faithful man I'm a real man if I'm telling you this this is real this is real it's like your neck do like this and it's like you see her in your peripheral but you know you're not supposed to be looking and especially your woman with you so you like this right here you fighting your neck your neck doing this and then it start to feel like you starting to and then you get sick to your stomach feel like you about to throw up you about to throw up and you like oh my goodness oh my goodness then if they don't want to come out here like you want to come out the bottom come out and you like boy and what it is is you biologically wired as a man to pursue women to reproduce it's an animal instinct and it makes no sense to women it made no sense oh I do not believe that that is so immature so here we go making excuses for men so you mean to tell me you cannot control where you look at and I'm like oh my goodness listen to you if a honest man who give you all the game I give you telling you that it's just you know it is in a and a man got to be on a other worldly godly level to get to the strength to where he can just then that say so true this is why I look at other men too and I have noticed that I have noticed that that I didn't notice my wife if he if it's tall dark and handsome it ain't like she's lusting but it's just human nature you gonna see it you just and I'm like cause I'm 5 10 so anytime I see 6 4 and she 5 8 I'm looking at the corner of my eye to see if she's looking at 6 4 over there and it's just human nature when you see something that's a tractor you just want to look at it even if you're not lusting so don't get so caught up in that you just got and one thing I know about my wife sometimes she'll say some if I'm kind of looking in the direction and I'm like baby I ain't looking at one I'm not even looking at that one come on now calm down okay and just by accident I might just got me a eye full of ham hopes listen what I'm telling you now share it God bless your ex-husband kids dad is in their life good relationship but not much guidance or example of how to have healthy relationship y'all with these abbreviation y'all really y'all really test me like I went to abbreviation university have a healthy relationship is there anything I can do to show how I'm single having dated in years been focused on raising our boys all you gotta do is just be a decent person okay just they don't need to see your healthy relationship if they see a decent person with character because love is a moral act so if a person has morals then they're gonna be able to love so when you teach a person how to be a decent person then they're gonna be able to adapt in a relationship because they understand treat people how you ought to be treated talk to people how you want to be talked to they're gonna understand those things and that's gonna teach them how to be in a relationship Courtney God bless you thank you Tony for the work you're doing empowering women to recognize where we are all queen I love when y'all send that old blessing with that old statement because when I be reading these questions it'd be a drain answering these questions especially like this right here now I ain't got no cars I ain't got the time to sit and talk to the coaching staff okay what's the answer for this all right and I'm just going hey y'all give me that love that little rest when y'all send that blessing with a compliment or look word or encouragement just reading like my Gatorade heaven sent God bless you I'm back in the game now hi Tony if you have an LLC for your coaching biz but market yourself using your first and last name do you have to get a PBA to accept payments using your name instead of the LLC no no you don't no you don't because your payments will use you create your square account on square up dot com or you create your PayPal account in your business name so when y'all book me for coaching you'll see it says Gaskins productions or it says soul writers LLC so a person understand when they pan you professionally that they pan a company they even though they know your name Jane though they know they're going to pay your company so no you don't have to you don't have to get a DBA you don't have to get a DBA you just use your LLC I feel like somebody was up there in the chat and it disappeared on me so y'all let me see real quick I might have been wrong I might have been wrong hold on let me see I got that one alright let me see I'm trying to look for the little Q9 there's so many little messages in here hey I got 18 minutes now when you post a question put that hashtag Q on there and I see y'all scroll way up now then yeah someone they disappeared on me hearing you talk about the Lord really makes me want to learn more learn the good book which book do you recommend first I started with the book of Proverbs it's a book of wisdom and it's just very relatable very practical and then I went to the New Testament and I Matthew, Mark, Luke and John I started in John and then I read from John all the way up to Revelation I didn't read Revelation then I go back to John read through again a lot of practical wisdom that helped me live my life helped me decide how I'm going to live my life and gave me a lot of guidelines and when I tell you it really works it really works like in this crazy season right now everybody going through I'll be honest with you in my life I've been an entrepreneur since 2007 I've been full-time entrepreneur since 2011 in the midst of what we going through when the world is going through all of this my best months have been March and April in my entrepreneurial life and I attribute that to my walk with Christ because what Christ guarantees is peace in the midst of the storm so when everything is chaotic around me when so many people struggling and going through I feel like he's showing me because of your faithfulness 13 years in strong working with integrity and not being afraid to say my name when so many people that do what you do is afraid to say the name of God and a lot of people I notice now that do what I do that didn't used to say the name of God now they say the name of God because I made it acceptable and they watching me unless they was already a pastor I'm talking about people who not pastors who not associated with the church now I see secular coaches saying the name of God because they think it's cool now they're going for the wrong reason they're going to get exposed but I feel like that's why God's showing up to let me know ason I got you see love God bless you you must hit the lotto because you was in here last night blessing me God bless you just bless like that sister man poor than her life Lord send her a blessing Lord come on now Lord hit me Lord and here go Keeley Keeley blessing me again come on now Lord don't leave these folks hanging thanks for being a blessing to us Tony want to bless you one more time before logging our blessing to you, your wife and your family blessing to our blessed tribe also good night God bless you be showing out in my life Courtney, John God bless you bless you Lord hey Tony I love your videos you have talked me so much and prevented me from making a lot of pain for my stage thank you bless you hey I'll be praying over y'all for real I don't think I'll be playing about that I'll really be praying that y'all get a blessing because listen you ain't got to do that in these times right here Vakisha God did the same thing for me hey I'm trying to tell you $700 I work for furniture for $200 look at that 2011 hey I'm looking for your question now I can't really see him make sure that y'all um just your notification how long should you talk to a God before seeing if he is serious or will you know right away you won't know right away because if it's right away if he's seen too serious right away like in the first two weeks that's when it's a red flag in the sense of like already saying I love you are talking marriage but typically the first three months you'll know by the three month mark a man should be saying look what are we can we be exclusive will you be my girlfriend by that by that 90 day that's what he should be saying hey Tony talking to a God he gets off the phone around sometime every day says he's going to call back I started not responding when he wants to text then after 9 or 10pm after promising call after 9 or text after promising to call back Tony was I wrong okay let me see this again so it sound like you saying he getting off the phone every day saying he's going to call back and then you started not responding when he try to text you after 9 or 10pm after promising to call back was you wrong no you weren't wrong you weren't wrong you're doing exactly the right thing that's what you're supposed to do that's what you're supposed to do you're supposed to reinforce a behavior that you don't want to see repeat itself you only reinforce the behavior that you want to see repeated Tony you said in another live that guys won't understand a woman not running to get on her back running to get on her back when she already had children but in my case I am divorced and got on my back for my ex but not for everyone okay alright you just wanting me on that God bless you alright stay off your bike even for your ex um travestle God bless you God bless you and yes I did say that and you know what I saw today a comedian did a skit on that said to the woman oh you got a child so what's how much you wait until married and telling her he done with her and that's how God be now God do be that because remember I say a man look at it like riding a bicycle he know you know how to ride a bicycle and then now you want to walk when you got a bike right there so that's what he's saying so he looking at your children he like what you mean you don't sleep with a man before marriage what is these you mother Mary God just put these in your stomach and so that's what I mean that's why he question you but you still stand your ground now how soon should you reveal that you are a Christian day one but see you don't have to say I'm a Christian they ought to feel the presence the humility they ought to feel the love of Christ they ought to feel that something is about you you hear me and if they ask then absolutely you're a Christian hey Tony I meet guys who attack my beliefs so how soon should I reveal my beliefs listen if a man attack your beliefs that's not your husband you reveal your beliefs on day one you dealing with old atheists you dealing with old pan-African you dealing with old muslim whoever whatever religion he is or whatever religion you are if they are different religion and they are attacking your beliefs that's not your husband go on about your business a lot of these men don't know they left front they right and want to be trying to argue with somebody about what they believe in they be trying to tell me about my belief I say listen compare your life to my life and then you tell me who's serving the right God cause I'm tell you here I ain't missing nothing over here God showing up and showing out in my life but you over there looking broke busting and disgusted and angry with your hands in a wad and over there doing all that yelling on that camera and I'm over here blessing highly favored why because of who I serve so you better be trying to get with it so they're trying to knock it hi Tony how do I let my child's father talk to her when every time I let him he gets disrespectful with me and when he calls and when he calls him he responds with a text that is the wrong number he cheated with over 40 women and put in my face what to do since I understand that you really want to talk to somebody I could tell by your message you really want to talk to somebody you really want to talk to somebody cause now what I want you to do is read your message back just sit there with your message and just read your message about three times read your message about three times okay and the answer gonna jump off the page to you okay when you read your message about three times you're gonna receive your answer and what you hearing in your spirit I'm confirming for you you already know your answer you already know what to do go ahead and do it okay go ahead and do it and when you able when you are able coaching or therapy it will be a blessing and it will help you so don't run from it but you know what to do with that sister you know what to do with that it's a grown boy let them talk to you through the child support court okay let them talk to you through the child support court let them talk to you through the mediator purpose p god bless you poor out in our life thank you Tony so much you are a continuous blessing in my life to god be the glory hey y'all I got eight minutes hey thank you for that I got eight minutes getting late now some people gotta go and get the bed and get ready for work in the morning work from home and having talked to my ex for three weeks stop all of the red flags is his b-day today thoughts on sending happy birthday texts should I just leave it alone leave it alone his momma doesn't text him his sister his brother all his friends he doing fine he doing fine without your birthday text when you leave your ex alone and you done with your ex for three weeks then you go and you send him a happy birthday and let him know he still got you let him know he still got his hooks in him let him know that he's on your mind that you miss him and that you just could not help yourself but the writer um Thali don't tell her nothing just let her live let her live Thali let her live and she'll learn what does it mean when my boyfriend says he is scared to get married because he hasn't seen my bad side show him your bad side do you got a bad side let him know you ain't got no bad side let him know that you ain't got no reason to show him your bad side if he ain't doing nothing bad but that's just an excuse that's just an excuse that's all it is and I don't see any questions in order now I got seven more minutes on here now so y'all put the um cue on there now so I can see it brief Phillips God bless you your wisdom is worth more honey you give women the confidence to cut a grown boy off quickly thank God I appreciate that broke up with my baby daddy sleeping in a separate room until I say for a new place for y'all wants us to kiss and hug how transparent should I be with her now you see how you see how that baby know you see how she know four years old no kiss and hug kiss and hug now I'll be honest with you is she old enough to know that mom and daddy supposed to be kissing and hugging for one you need to talk to her because she kissing on little boys at the playground so that's one you need to talk to her because that's what they be doing trust me because my son just turned six and I know there's plenty of little girl kissing on him talking about he her husband so that's one you need to go and talk to her listen girls don't kiss on boys and you don't kiss on girls and you only kiss daddy so that you need to have talk with her first another thing you need to talk to her just go ahead and let her know mom and daddy are not kissing and hugging right now and explain it to her in her language and just let her know don't go create no soul type for no child that don't know no better don't know what a soul type is don't go hugging and kissing because she don't need to be seeing that anyway because she on the playground tongue it down and then Jerry and coming home with the 19 because she watching her mom and daddy kid so you kid you got to put it in their language but go ahead and express to her what's going on can you talk on being on different level spiritually and intellectually can a relationship work yes it can work yes it can work but see the thing is it's like what is the foundation so it's like if the foundation me and my wife our foundation is Christianity but I may be here sometime with the Lord and she may be here she may be here sometime with the Lord and I may be here but the foundation is the same and then when you think about intellectually you know you gonna think different you gonna move different so you balance each other out you balance each other out so the key is if the foundation is different so if he want to smoke and you don't smoke that's totally different if he want to you know club and watch nasty movies then you don't want to that's totally different so understand that right there but if the foundation is the same y'all can make it work I got about three more minutes now if you got a question and I miss you and you been on here patiently go on put your question in here now Victoria you gonna have to talk to you therapist about that now that A word on here that A word with childhood can't really talk on that too much on here same try coaching but try coaching that's about what you need to do try life coaching if your therapist fired you try life coaching so you can turn your pain into purpose Wendy God bless you I'm a student and been with my boyfriend for five months met him at my house two years ago started dating five months ago and sinned after a month we're trying to get right by praying and him moving out he wants to marry me in one year I'm 23 he's 30 next smart steps help do what you're doing you're going the right way let him move on out keep your legs closed y'all keep on praying you ain't got to pray together because you don't know if his prayers getting past the ceiling because you don't know what he doing in his quiet time so you pray for wisdom and discretion by yourself you pray for wisdom and discretion by yourself you could pray with him too now but understand them prayers might be hindered if his heart and life ain't in the right place some people prayers don't get past the roof so you need to pray by yourself for wisdom, knowledge, understanding discretion, strength all of those things and that's what you're going to get alright now I got a couple more minutes now merge God bless you bless you Tony thank you for always working in your purpose lives are being saved hey God let me see if I miss any last little buzzer beat on here I got to get going boundaries with family how to be respectful and stern just like what you said what's respectful not yelling, not cursing not talking down not calling them out their name but stern hey mom listen I don't deal with negative energy so if you want to talk to me you're going to have to be positive because I'm building my life I got a lot going on and anybody who's going to be negative I got to remove from my life and I just want to be clear with you on that that is respectful and stern hey God bless you all now this is my last question right here is it normal for family to question new boyfriend at first meeting about what his on 20% battery got to go about what his intentions are in a relationship or is that inappropriate it's inappropriate it's inappropriate and immature so you got to check your family they should be wise enough to watch and see what he's doing feel his energy do that what they don't realize is they put you all at odds and they make it harder on you by doing that being immature trying to look tough when they just could have met him shook his hand, asked him some questions about life, listened to him talk got to fill him so you got to check them hey God bless you all I really appreciate you for coming through here tonight I think I've tried to do the bonus on Friday night especially since you can't go to the movie because we still in this hill situation but now what they've been doing with this they've been taking a long time to process it so when I finish if you missed it somebody just say I'm late what's been happening is sometimes taking 24 hours to process I don't know if they got to let the robot listen all the way through it to make sure he ain't talking with no propaganda what have you but it's been taking longer than normal to process share glam rocks two bella mama tish and once somebody caramel kisses I think I got all five of y'all the moderators God bless I appreciate y'all and last thing I'm going to say to you for those of you aspiring life coaches make sure you got the coupon called my mentor my mentor and when you go to Tony Gaston's academy.com make the life coach certification make sure you use the coupon called my mentor it's going to give you a little blessing in this here season ok it's going to give you a little blessing two bella God bless you alright now we'll talk I'll post a video tomorrow morning