 that's the pastor's wife we have enough problems with pastors preachers not adhering to godly standards as it relates to the word meaning we've got a lot of pastors who do not hold to the teachings of the scriptures they go outside the scriptures they lean on their feelings oftentimes that even shows up in their lifestyle because now we have problems with pastors who live a lifestyle that just doesn't say that they are a pastor now some of you've seen this video before it's going around about the gospel singer slash pastor I believe he's still a pastor I'm not sure he is I know it was Dietrich Haddon. Dietrich Haddon has had some issues in his life that just doesn't seem to show that he is very interested in being godly or at least having a repentant life from some of the sins that he's had in his lifestyle he and his wife his former wife and their marital issues but doesn't seem to be pretty repentant of that him speaking out against Christians who had a problem with Beyonce's album Church Girl and the songs never problem that Dietrich Haddon likes to skirt the line I don't know much about his wife his current wife I know they haven't been married very long I don't think so but what we see happening at his 50th birthday party that just should not happen. Now the first question that I would have just even walk into the room if I'm there or even he should have this question before they leave the house is sweetheart are you going to wear that because the Bible is clear on how a woman ought to dress in 1st Timothy 2 9 Paul says likewise I want women to adorn themselves proper with proper clothing modestly modestly Dietrich and discreetly not with red hair and gold or pearls or costly garments but rather by means of good works as is proper for women making a claim to godliness that's the issue now the issue about braided hair and gold and so forth that's just speaking kind of of that time for the point is to kind of make a spectacle of yourself and to be modest and to show the example of a woman who claims to be godly the shirt that you have on with the little broad deal whatever I'm not sure what it is again I'm not on women's fashion but that's not what you would think that you would see on a preacher's wife that's not what you think you would see on any mature man's wife this is 50th birthday and so I don't know how old she is I'm gonna imagine that she's a little bit younger I don't know how how young so I won't go there but that's just not a good look for the pastor's wife not saying anything about her look okay fine she's nice looking woman but still you shouldn't show that as the old saying goes leave a little something to the imagination not for us to see and for other men to gawk at but then getting back to the dancing the lewdness and he seems to be enjoying it he's loving it she is acting out a sexual act on her husband in front of the people and he didn't really have a problem with that first of all she's this is something I guess she she knows how to do she's been doing it I don't really have a problem with what you do at home but when you bring this outside one the dress but then to the action and then everyone around you laughing shouting sharing you on and so forth and then there's a problem with that Paul says this about the qualifications of a pastor a preacher it's a trustworthy saying this is a trustworthy thing if someone aspires to this he says the person should be then above reproach the husband of one wife in other words not having more than one women um temperate prudent respectable hospital able to teach and you should have also as we go down further he says that you should have a good reputation not just with the people in the church but also outside the church problem here we have that is one the reputation that he already has is not that very good it's not that good but then the reputation amongst folks outside the church they'll look at this and they will impune the body and that in lies a huge problem there in lies a huge problem that you should not do anything to bring down any sort of condemnation or ill repute or bad look on the church Paul says this way that whatever we do we should do to the glory of God whether you eat or drink or dance do it all to the glory of God why give no offense either to the Jews or to the Greeks or to the church of God which is what you're doing you're bringing a fence to the church of God just as I also please all men and all things not seeking my own prophet to satisfy myself but the prophet of the many so that they may be safe that's the goal that they may be safe not that you enjoy yourself listen if you want to enjoy yourself and your wife find do that at home but that's not it and then when you hear the response that it gives it's just really disheartening I want them to run their mouth because it's something to talk about it's something to to happen to have the conversation at the table about this because it's time to be free in God and without being in sin it's time you go find you a wife that you can grind on you and pray with you when it's done don't get no woman wrapped in swaddling clothes I've been done I can't do that so it's time it's time if we don't do it man we don't lose so many more marriages man we got to show them the truth that's all we love you brother free in God doesn't mean free to do whatever you want to it doesn't mean that we have absolute liberty to even look like we're sinning remember the Bible says to avoid the very appearance of sin that's not what he means by being free in God not to go and do what you want to do and again to bring a bad name or bad bad mark against the body that's what's happened but what you're doing is you are not only simulating the sex act but you are giving approval for anyone that has anything else to say that it's okay to do this in public the problem with the marriage with marriages in America isn't that men and women aren't just letting themselves go enough no matter fact that's the that is the problem they are letting themselves go too much they are releasing their inmost ambitions and no one is saying listen there is a godly fact that you have to remember to have at all times whether you're in the house outside the house and so what Dietrich had in his doing is clearly wrong if it were left to the confines of his home fine do what you want to do but when you bring this out here and you want to hoist your you and your wife's sexuality point everyone else that's not a good look and the only way that you show someone the truth is by the word not to go outside the word not to do what you want to but do it his way again do everything to whose glory not yours Dietrich nor even mine but to the glory of god and so this this this just should not be and rather than defend yourself come out be mature be godly and say you know what that was the wrong thing we apologize it will do our best not to do this again but if that's not your heart then i don't expect to see an apology or anything repentant about that so but guys let's be clear this should not be you are disrespecting even if your wife did know it you are disrespecting her by even allowing this to happen and then take part in it because now you've reduced her to a sexual object instead of a godly vessel of god amen