 Boom, welcome back to the 21 convention 2022 of Orlando, Florida Celebrating 16 years of 21 studios and the 21 convention live events being held at 21 summit super duper triple event And our next speaker is actually an alumni returning speaker to the 21 convention first speaking in 2016 at our event of Miami, Florida And again at our 10-year anniversary in 2017 His returning speaker from those events. He's also the founder and the of ours Amarata and the author of the alabaster girl. I think above and beyond that though He is a legend in the manasphere He is a godfather of the manasphere or more specifically a godfather of the seduction community And you guys probably have heard about through all the fame and the media it's picked up over many decades There's a true godfather of that. He's old school. I mean this guy's been around even longer than me And I found it in 2005 and I was still very young. I Grew up watching this guy very inspired by him when I was very young as a teenager So I'm very proud to have him not only at our events, but back at them again for his third time So without further ado, please let me welcome Zann Parion to the stage Okay, we go Get my water. I have no power point for you guys. I don't even have a speech That's the truth I've been talking for 20 years on stage as Anthony was saying for 20 years All around the world and and I just I thought what am I going to talk about here? It's been a couple years because of coronavirus that I did talk, but it's like I have nothing that I have to earnestly say to you you're gonna you're gonna like this I'm just gonna riff on a few things. I think I'm thinking about I'm curious about that I love and Interesting like Anthony was saying that I've been doing this for a long time 20 years and there's something changing in me after all these years a new phase I guess I'm 58 years old It'd be 60 and a year and a half or year or so And I'm thinking you know, there's guys out there who are looking to me as a father figure Which is interesting and you know that part of the theme of this conference is that is the idea of the patriarch the benevolent patriarch which is a beautiful concept and And I'm shifting into a kind of a different phase where I'm thinking I'm gonna I don't travel as much as I used to I don't talk as much as I used to but I sure believe in a good message That I'm gonna try and share a little bit with you and I hope you get it You know, I'll just throw some ideas in the air and and let it land on you on your shoulders and see if it see if it resonates With your with you and your experience Talking about this the idea of the patriarch my my concept that I that I that I'm thinking these days is what exists This this phrase what exists because of you What exists because of you? Which is the concept of legacy? What does that look like? What's the concept of legacy to you? In your heart a living legacy not something after your dad necessarily, but what are you creating in this world? What do you have to look forward to I think the worst deficit in the hearts of men and women is When they don't have anything to look forward to nothing that they're yearning to war And I think about my what you know, what exists because of me. I Have a daughter. I talked about in the patriarch side yesterday and I'll and I'm very closed about private about this because she's my She's my darling She's the lily of the valley to me and I adore her and I love her and I was early 20s when she's there in her 30s now I was there my early 20s when she was born and I did not have your dad I was a single guy chasing girls And she would come over two three times a week and I didn't know how to be a dad So I just played we'd shoot paint my toenails and we danced to Madonna And I loved her every minute of every day To the point where air all these years that I've been speaking nobody knows it for 20 years that I'm probably speaking including today Every time before I go on stage All over the world in South Africa to Panama to Stockholm. I always call her Because as soon as I hear her voice, I'm good There is nothing That can attack me When I hear her voice You might have some naysayers while you say that women are blah blah and you did it. Yeah That's okay. I can live with that because I have her and I believe in women because of her I believe in that I believe in the hearts. I believe in the kindness and gentleness and and Grace of the female spirit because of what I see in my daughter. I'm good It gives me a lot of a lot of relaxation and comfort and I don't feel the need to try Try to convince you of something, you know, I just really believe it And I also believe in men. I am I'm here for a good message for you guys Because the world is broken societies in anarchy There's no good messages Save one What exists because of you is that is the thought in the process? I've been sitting in, you know I'm shifting into a phase where I'm sitting in my in my study I have a study my man cave in Romania and I sit there in my rocking chair. I got a rocking chair now I love it. When I was a kid, I used to sit and dream and I would read like, you know Fiction books as a kid Tarzan books and stuff and I was sitting in a rocking chair and All of the years I've been traveling and speaking and wandering around the earth in different places I didn't have a rocking chair and I randomly bought one And I realized what I've been missing all these years. I can't think without it I do all my zoom calls in a rocking chair. Yeah, okay guys. Let's go I need it. So I'm sitting in I'm shifting into this I'm shifting into a real patriarch type of phase. I can feel it. I have something to share Gather around and what would I say to my young self? My young self was so lost and lonely It's so alone What would I say to that to him now knowing what I know now? Incredible I Would say blessings upon you my son It's gonna be okay Because I believe that's gonna be okay. You know, I know it's gonna be okay because I've seen it. I've seen a lot of things I have a beautiful girl in Romania that I've been with for 10 years 10 years Long-term relationship. I showed some of you guys the tax they got from her yesterday, right? ten years and it's got the the the height and the depth of devotion and admiration and Love and I tell you It's not fair to me that I have a daughter of of that beauty and a girl of that beauty and And other guys do not that's not fair It should be for all So my mission just is to give you some concepts and ideas that you can have it too because it's it's for you It's available to you and that's not what the message you hear from this modern society You don't hear that from the modern world, but I'm a real believer in it. You know, I was telling a story yesterday Last year and a half ago my niece Contacted me and said uncle John. My first name is Jonathan. My middle name is Anne. So my family caused me John okay So she said uncle John Ever since I was a little girl. She was getting married Ever since I was a little girl. I always dreamed about that you were gonna be the one to marry us I'm like what I had no clue. She never mentioned this. I can't marry you. I'm not I'm not a reverend Well, you go online to get ordained. I'm like, okay, so I went online and got ordained. I'm reverend Jonathan's and period And and I got ordained and I flew to Michigan A year and a half ago in the middle of corrupt COVID and I thought okay It's gonna be a small eight-person COVID wedding, right? Nope, it was a big giant thing on the lake with swans and unicorns and Floating things and it was a giant wet legacy in the movies with the gazebo and everything like ah and I was nervous I was nervous to talk at her wedding only had to talk for 15 minutes or so And I've done a lot of public speaking and I do not get nervous. I was nervous there because I Don't know why I just really wanted to give a good message for her, you know my niece and I'll tell you what my message was because this is this is to me The essence of a loving long-term beautiful relationship that goes as long as it needs to go That's available to you Little tiny little secrets. I tell you I know a lot Devotion, how do you? This is what I said to them. I'm marrying them. They're here and here the people are, you know, eight bridesmaids and eight dudes Hey, okay, and this is what I said because I really believe it I said you and you gaze upon your beloved This is your beloved That's a word. We don't use anymore. We use we use my significant other my partner Date night work on a relationship. We use these phrases that are that are soul-killing And we don't have the concept of the beloved. This is my beloved in whom I am well pleased And if you have that If you look at your significant other as your beloved Something's changed already. It already has a magic and a mystique Because that's your beloved. It's a biblical word. We don't use it anymore But it's real so Look upon each other as your beloved which we're starving for in this modern world We're starved for that and then do this if you want If you want your wife or your girlfriend or your husband But I'll talk to the man. I'm talking to men. So I'll say it from this perspective, but it's it's both ways if you want devotion Which is another word we don't use Because you want devotion you want to be devoted and adore your girl and you want her to do the same thing too Because I'll tell you this If your wife or your girlfriend is not proud of who you are as a man What's the point if you're at a party and you're standing here talking to the guys and she's over there and You glance over at her and you think yeah, that's my girl. I'm proud of who she is as a person I'm glad that I know her and She's thinking the same thing if she's not really on your side Your best supporter your best cheerleader and she wants you to succeed and your business is failing And she's there with you if you don't have that that that devotion That she's proud of who you are and what you're trying to do and what you're trying to become What's the point and how many relationships have that? So how do you do it? It's up to you guys say wait to have to find the perfect girl. No, no, no It's you set the tone You set the tone and it's simple an Example all the and I've watched this for years. I've been studying this thinking about this for years all the greats in history Let's say it that way all the men who have these beautiful adoring relationships with beautiful women that they love You know what they do they all have in common They give little seeds of appreciation every single day to her Not giant compliments, not a bouquet of roses not hot air balloons No big gestures. They're on their computer and she's walking by with a load of laundry or whatever And he looks up and he says my sweetie. I just want to take a look at you That's all I have to say and he goes back to your playing Call of Duty little seeds of appreciation and If you and if you're proud and you're interested in what she's trying to do with her career her life And you want to know when you visit her. Let's visit. I want to know tell me Even if you don't understand it My girl is an architect. She does these incredible designs and she works on AutoCast So I'm looking over her shoulder because people are like what I have no idea how you do that But I'm interested I Spend a lot of time Just I just realized this I spent a lot of time visiting my girl We've been together ten years and I visited we want to visit okay have a glass of wine sit on the balcony Just visit Little seeds of appreciation if she feels that you're that she's seen by you If she feels that she's seen by you she'll follow you to the ends of the earth We had caught up in her jobs and yeah, okay. I got this my wife now and it's that's take care of so now I get a concentrate over here All you have to do is like See her every day Anyway, that was kind of my speech at the thing And I know that Modern society is not constructed in that way. I know that The problem with marriage in the West is that the government Puts a layer of of Something over it that makes it a little weight a little dicey for me. I got that but if you have this concept of the beloved And you read retain that in your heart all those things are protected against you know There's a conviction in men. That's missing today. I Was talking to the guys yesterday at the table and they said, you know the testosterone in men is Way less than it was 50 years ago. I remember Really, maybe I'm barking up the wrong tree when I talked to guys. I say hey your horny guy. Let's go Maybe they're not Because I am you know The feeling of that that I think your sexual energy your desire to bend the world over is God given And we hide it But that's who we are that's our masculine edge as we call it What's missing and I'm thinking wow They don't you feel the same thing as me the guys say to me in coaching they say so How do I become more of a sexual creature? I'm thinking you watch porn all day Don't tell me you're not a sexual creature It's just that you hide it from the world. You're afraid toxic. It's toxic shame shame Shame on you Right, but you think about anything that's been created in history. It's this thrusting Penetrating nature of man. That's what created all the cities. That's what our civilization is based upon and It's a beautiful thing So do not listen Do not listen to the media to the screeching voices that say it. No, it's wrong Don't listen to it In all these years I've been public speaking and writing I wrote a book and alabaster girl Go to alabaster girl comm get a copy of silent and send it to you and I go back to me In all these years, I've never you've never heard me say anything about social issues I've been talking about men and women for many years. I don't talk about feminism. I don't talk about pornography gender fluidity wars All these socials I don't talk about them. I know They are impacting the daily life of men and women are constantly I get it. I get it But there's enough voices talking about those things I was on a radio show one time in Montreal And it was a woman's she has a sex radio show and at the end of it. She said Zana, I asked all my guests this what's your what is your What is your your your concept or what do you think about this the idea of pornography? and I'm like Radio silence again have that right? I'm like I don't have a response to that and yes, I know that pornography is is affecting our our sense of The way we view our bodies sense of intimacy. I get it. I get it But I don't think on this these social issues What do we do with ours and marata what I do is we run around it because you can't win If you walk into the swamp look at dr. Jordan Peterson blesses heart He has a beautiful kind respectful honorable message for young men Take control of your of your clean your own room start there You clean your room that all these rooms are cleaned and there's some sensibility comes back into the world It's a good message for men But he's trying to to fight medusa And it's destroying his health You can't win guys Society in the media is too strong Right we're trying to battle against it. Just go around it Leave the screeching voices behind Don't pay them any heed Go around them The bible says whatsoever things are lovely think on these things and I I I implore you to do that Because it's upon you to go into the into your communities into your relationships into your life As that man whose life giving the idea of Masculinity is toxic Is a sin that idea is a sin Masculinity is not toxic. It's missing It's absent There's a danger in the heart of men Which is your thrusting desiring nature to bend the world over That's why I view it anyway You have this nature you have this this this power to destroy This the guys are talking about it this weekend This beautiful anger That's used as a tool as opposed to lose control Anger is a beautiful tool And we've been suppressing in all our lives but anger is good It's a beautiful tool to use And the problem is this Because we have this danger in our hearts Which is a beautiful god given created way we are The danger the ability to defend and protect And you know that the metaphor I use is the caveman's outside the cave And his loved ones are inside And he's fighting the saber-toothed tiger with a stick So he got But he's going to fight because his loved ones are there right That that spirit of danger the the ability and the desire to destroy something to protect Okay, and the problem The problem we have is when that danger Which is inherent in us in men is turned inward toward the cave That's where you get Relationship abuse Children molestation school shootings This idea of the incel Because the anger is directed in and not out here lovingly out this way and we're protecting That's my metaphor So I'm a very I'm much a champion for men and I have a lot of hope and I have a lot of faith in men Which you'll never hear anywhere in this modern modern age I really believe in men. I think they're cool and I think they're they're you're masculine edge your desire Your sexual nature as I said is divine So do not listen to anybody that says anything else Take it to heart Understand it love it love it Aristotle said Start with first principles What do you know to be true? That's as simple as it needs to be I talk about conviction men do not have this concept of conviction anymore What does that mean a 22 year old guy will say to me? Well, I don't have conviction I don't know yet. I don't even know what I want to do with my life I don't have conviction. Yes, you do You know what you know You start with first principles. What do you know to be true? I know that I'm standing on the street here with my friends That's true. I know I see a girl over there Who's attractive to me? I like the way she looks that's a statement of truth that no one can say that's not true I negate that That's a statement of truth. I would like to meet her I would like to meet her and with my friends, but I would like to walk over there and say hello I'm Xan I would like to meet her. That's a statement of truth. You know that to be true. You're convicted of these things There's a universal truth that you believe in your heart You have conviction about these things You can rest on that and say at least I know that And all you have to do when you go and talk to the girl you speak These statements speak the truth. You know, I was over there with my friends and I saw you over here Statement statement and I had to come say hello And I'm nervous. That's a statement too, but I had to come say hello. Anyway, what's your name? That's as simple as it is And that's all you need. That's all you need So You know, I'm watching the time here I'll get some water Is this landing with you guys? Ha ha ha testify I'm fascinated by the concept of I'm writing this another book right now I'll tell you briefly here. I'm writing this book. I've been struggling with it for a long time I got a lot of notes and a lot of words written and I and I see it in my head And if I can get this book out the way I feel it then that I'm envisioning it I will love it probably more than the alabaster girl. I would love it so much if I get this book out of me But it's hard. I'm not very prolific. I'm not a blogger. I don't want to write a bunch of essays, right? So I pick at it and look at it. Oh But I think I'm going to break it into two into two books Because I'm writing this I want to write a it's two different concepts One is the concept of men what I'm talking about here now a man talking to his younger self What I would would have liked to hear From that future self You know So I'm I'm thinking about breaking it into two books um The idea Of self-help which is Imagine this we didn't have self-help in all of history It's new I think Is it not new We have this idea that before I can be standing on this earth as a is a well-rounded Uh confident man I have to resolve my childhood because my childhood sucked Had all this abuse and all stuff happening to me. I've got to resolve my childhood So I have to go to therapy. I have to medicate Which is our modern theme But think of it this way There has never been a happy childhood in any culture in any century All childhoods were broken The children were Were hungry disease famine migration Mother gets can't feed herself because she's feeding the children sister gets dragged away and raped dad gets dragged off to war There's been no happy childhoods in all of history. We were the first generation says I have to resolve I have to come to terms with it All other children in history said okay, that sucked I'm out I'm I'm out of here man. They go build cities We're the only ones that naval gaze and say no, no, no How come Nurture me nurture me We're the only generation that does that imagine this You say to me. Oh, yeah, I went on an adventure. I traveled I backpacked across europe For a year That's not an adventure. You went from atm to atm And you could call call mom if you run out of money 300 years ago Those young men would go into the sea in a wooden ship. They had no medical insurance They didn't have their savings saved up. They just went one way. They don't know where they're going We have to have everything all plotted and planned and comforted comfort comfort We have so much comfort around us and we complain the most And we and we we say I'm a victim and I need Counseling and and I'm not against, you know careful counseling where it's needed right But I tell you self-help The 20 years ago. I said the number one genre of books in the world is romance novels That was true back then. You know what it is now self-help books Everybody's got those books on the shelf and you can always buy another one. You don't read them You don't need to read them because I got the answer right there right within I had it. Oh, and oh this one. Yeah, this one. I'll buy this one too And we have a little affirmations and a little facebook things we stick on Right You don't need it You know what? I had a broken childhood. I won't even go into that. I was I left home when I was 13 I went into the wilderness Further into the wilderness we were already in the wilderness. I went further into the wilderness No electricity no running water had a knife on my side a rifle on my back as a kid teenager and I helped A trapper named John Terry run a trap line That's what I did I know how to survive in the wilderness. I had to start a fire with my hands You know how to catch a fish with my hands 200 miles away from any civilization No, not 200 60 miles away, sorry But far away enough away there was is it's a major trip to go into town to get supplies And I helped with the trap line my formal education ended at 13. I have not gone to school since 13 years old I'm an uneducated bum I was a homeless bun too for a long time as I was traveling um At 18 I looked around realized there's no girls. I gotta get out of here. I love girls And I came out into the into the world and I was completely unequipped socially I was the the most needy petty Sticky Jealous guy because I didn't know how to I didn't go to university or college to get some social understanding. I didn't know I got my understanding from movies, which is romantic comedies, you know Which is the guy the nice guy always wins at the end and I don't think so So I was really that guy and I He had some embarrassing you know back, you know the movie hitch where he's Yeah, he's looking He flashes back to his college days and he's got braces and the girl's getting into the car With the cool guy and he's like leaning against the window crying. I'll be there for you I saw that in the movie theater and I was like Because I did the exact same thing I have an image of me. I'm not kidding. This is embarrassing to say But I have exact same thing I'm crying Probably 20 or 19 or something. She's getting on the back of a motorcycle this girl I was dating getting on the back of a motorcycle with some cool guy and he's like, who's this guy? Who's this loser? She goes, I don't know. Let's go and I'm crying and I'm saying, I know I'll be here for you when you come back Yeah, I was the quintessential nice guy who's It's embarrassing, you know and um So I'm talking to that young guy He doesn't have to be that way You don't have to buy into any of the modern discourse It's a better beautiful message My thesis Well, I'll say it this way Nietzsche said God is dead And everybody knows this quote, right? And we think okay when Nietzsche was affirming my atheist beliefs. Yeah, he's an atheist too Nietzsche was a staunch atheist, but the rest of the quote is this He said God is dead God will remain dead And we have killed him So what he was really saying Get ready Because when you strip God and the transcendent out of modern society Good luck And he was an atheist But he knew this this the saving grace and the salvation of community That the concept of God and the transcendent had for had for communities Around the world you strip it out and look we have today political, you know unrest relationships in you know antagonistic No sense of the beloved that we used to have Right, that's why we have this turmoil today and this this angry discourse My thesis is this is what I'm trying to write about and it's hard The alabaster girl came out of my experience 100% my experience for 10 years I wrote that book and the whole time I was writing it. I never read a book and I love books I'd go into an airport bookstore. I love bookstores I'd go into a bookstore and it'd be in there for like three minutes I'm like I felt guilty because I should be working on my book and not And I also didn't want to influence it anyway So I didn't read a book for 10 years. I'm no kidding and I dumped it out of my system and it was like it was vomited out of me And I was empty. I did public speaking for the next two years after that. I'm like I have nothing to say because it's all there and I'd start to tell a little story or anecdote and the people in the audience go Yeah, yeah, as I'm saying it because they read at my books and I have stalled So As you can tell I don't talk about anything. I know I'm talking about what I'm interested in knowing What I'm curious about right now what I'm thinking about when I sit in my rock chair. This is what I'm thinking about That's cool So Nietzsche said god is dead and what we have the the symptom of our modern times, sorry my voice is scratching The symptom of our modern times is that we've we've turned our face away This is my what I 100% believe We've turned her face away in all things in art in architecture in relationships and politics We've turned her face away from beauty And we celebrate ugliness art for example Where's arthur is he here? Right art used to be about the art to show you something to give you a transcendent experience into into something beyond And now It's all about the artist. How can I shock you? Look at me celebrate me Our symptom of our of our self-medicated victim Me me me generation And so we've turned art now was like shit on a stick Or tracy emmons unmade bed bought by the tape museum in london for 2000 euros No two million euros with my saying two million euros her unmade bed She said there's some vodka bottles and we use condom and and she sold it to the tape museum And it's still there gathering dust and get some mold on it and stuff Because they paid two two million pounds for it So it's it's all about look at me look at me notice me look at me And art used to be about giving you an experience to connect to the the transcendent the divine I don't care if you're religious or not. I don't care if you believe in god or not All here's the thing Whether you're a buddhist or muslim christian atheist You know what the common denominator we all have We all have the longing for beauty We all get a tear when we see a painting that moves us And and beauty has a quality of dawning on us it dawns on us and we become aware of something It stops us in our tracks You get goosebumps The french called frisson And science cannot explain how we get why we why or how we get goosebumps. They can't explain it But because you're touching you're reaching out to something that we've lost and we're all longing for A notion of the transcendent whatever that is to you That's what we're longing for that's that's the deficit in our society That's why we're broken men are not Toxic men are heartbroken Your heart has been broken by society in the modern age You're not wrong No one teaches you how to do life You can forgive yourself everything because Nobody teaches you how to do life. You're sincere if you are sincere If your heart is sincere and you really have an honest effort to To go forward you can forgive yourself all seeming mistakes Because you're sincere you're a good boy It's gonna be okay And modern the modern society will say no that's not true so My whole thing is my my whole belief is that we've we've We've turned a face away from beauty and I don't think beauty is in the eye of the beholder or subjective or object I think beauty is a real physical thing as in physics I think when the when the universe was began whether it was a prime mover that created it or the big bank that created it At that moment just like gravity just like molecules just like everything Beauty was a physical thing an electromagnetic field that was created and it's a layer we all feel You can feel it when you hear music Some music will will move you to tears Or give you a shiver down your spine. That's connecting to something beyond our can beyond our experience Music has a quality I was talking about this yesterday is incredible That nothing else on earth has if you see ballerina is on the stage here swan lake and they're They're floating around they look like musical notes You could you can imagine the metaphor of musical notes, right? They're moving and interacting and It's beautiful right and it's light and airy ease and delight and you see this it's like musical note However at any one given moment on that stage one ballerina Passes behind for split second behind another and is obscured And it comes out the other side music Does not have that quality if you take one musical note and you pass another music note behind it you get harmony You can see through one note to the next. That's incredible No musical note obscures another it adds Ads layers creates a new transcendent thing That's why music moves us so much. It's the closest thing to the divine we have the direct conduit Incredible And that musicality is what we're missing We all have the longing, you know Odysseus the the oldest story in the western culture is the Odyssey Odysseus is trying to go back home. He wants to go home home to Ithaca That's all we're longing for in this modern age, too There's a discordant Tone in the air because we haven't we returned to the home note We haven't landed back home We can feel it. We feel discombobulated disenfranchised angry jaded That's what you're feeling in this modern age And we're all longing for home and we don't know how to get there We have a longing for what we don't know what we're longing for And my thesis is its beauty To reclaim beauty in our hearts And my beauty doesn't need us to save it because it's there. It's physical. It's real. I think I think it's a real thing But you all know when you see a painting that moves you when you see a sunset When you see the smile of your beloved smiling upon you and saying I'm here for you What a heartbreak we're missing that it's not fair that we're missing that It's not fair that we don't have that Right. It's not fair We have to reclaim it. We have to fight for it. You know, we have to go there And I talk about a lot about conviction in men I'll tell you a little story here actually Take my water Here's the difference between men and women. I say I have a lot of absolutes This is women and this is men There was a study done Where they took mothers and their little toddlers little girls And they took them into a room and they didn't tell the mothers anything except for this instruction room was full of toys and in the middle Of the room was a a low table a small table with a toy cow And the instruction to the mother was you can take your child can play with anything in the room, but you can't touch the toy cow So the mother would come in there with it with the child the cameras and you know all this kind of stuff Say, okay, sweetie, you can play with anything in the room here, but you can't touch that toy cow Of course now it's the object of desire right and the little girls like And they're playing with it all over here and a toy truck over here and they keep looking at the cow And then they look at their mother's face Like this and mother just has to raise an eyebrow And the little girl goes back to playing with the with the doll Right you can you can envision this right they did the same Experiment now with mothers and little boys Same instructions the mother would say sweetie, you can play with all the great toys here, but you can't touch the toy cow And now again, it's the object of desire The difference was this the little boys had a straight for the cow and had to be restrained by mother They never once looked at their mother's face That's the difference between men and women. We all want the same great things. We all want the same successes the same Equality of outcome. We all want this we want it and it's a beautiful noble thing The differences men do it Staring at that and women do it in the context of others Women have been reading faces their whole lives and you have not that's why they're they're they have far more social understanding than you do It's interesting. No, I think it's interesting so Anyway, that's that's kind of my talk guys about the idea And I About reclaiming beauty and I think that's if we can turn our hearts toward that and not walk into the discourse You can't win if you try and you know, if you try and Wait into the the conversation that's all over the media and all over social media and all over the the world right now You can't win. You'll break your health break your heart But mind but I really believe in something I believe in there's a good message for you. There's something waiting for you There's blessings for you. I really believe it Come away Come away from it all come away a human child from the water in the wild With a fairy hand in hand For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand It's true the sadness in the world is sadness in your heart men are sad women are sad and it's it's our lot in life But you take that sadness which is a component of beauty You create beautiful things for others You're carrying the fire when I'm talking to you I'm sitting in my rocket chair going forward here I'm sitting there. So I'm not going to be doing this It's up to you and you and you You're carrying fire For the village Don't you dare drop it go and do that likewise We can't wait for somebody to give us a good message. No father figure you're gonna come and say hey, it's Here's what you do It's on you As I said, there was no happy childhoods in history and they they got off and they and they built our civilization I think about the guys like Casanova 300 years ago 250 years ago They couldn't go from atm to atm if he wanted to go from Paris to Warsaw He had to ride in a carriage in the middle of winter with furs on his lap freezing cold with no springs Bumping all the way and it would take him eight days And he went there one way With no money But he wrote in his book in his in his memoir Beautifully his philosophy which I read when I was 18 like I want I want this he wrote I just trusted to the to I relaxed in the arms of life and trusted that would take me around would have to have to be he trusted And he loved it Yeah, so That's the message. I wish I had had when I was young and I didn't have it And a message that's for you And when you have the concept of the beloved in your heart Which we need to return to we need to recall this back into our into our into our vocabulary into our voice If you're looking at her like she's my beloved she'll feel it across the way Because this is it's it's physics. It's it's an energy. It's it's quantum physics and that's a quantum entanglement She can feel it Vibration happening between you And your and and your loved one and vice versa If she's proud of you if she's thinking about you and proud of you Like right now. I know my girl is You could feel it. It's in your heart. It's like I'm good You can say whatever you can attack me however you want. I don't care because I got her So my message is a is a message of hope And after 20 years of standing on stages and coaching men All over the world. I have a lot of hope a lot of faith I really believe I really believe in this in trying to have a better conversation. I really do so I have 15 minutes left. I can take a question Everybody wants to ask me a question Or what else can I riff on? So I have a question how you Said that men are asking you today. How do I become a more sexual creature? Yeah, and you said you've been doing this for 20 years. Yeah, has that changed in 20 years? Like people weren't asking that And no, oh, sorry. Okay And I you seem to say that you think this is because the media is like telling men to suppress their desires But I wonder if it's also because like you said, there's this lack of beauty That it is changing men's desires because wow, what a thought. I never thought about that but yeah Something is something is broken in in in our perspective in our hearts of men, you know and to to to say that men That masculinity is toxic. It's it's It's such a it's such a sinful thing to say Because masculinity is is our divine nature You know And and I'm not talking about this Chauvinist that control domination. I don't talk about that. I'm talking about true masculinity, which is wrapped A wash in respect and kindness and curiosity and empathy You know all these beautiful things People read that read my book and they read the tops of the bumps They go over the bumps like this and they read. Oh, Zan says the curiosity authenticity and the complimenting I do all these things already and they become a nicer nice guy And they miss the bottom part of the book Which is our the the the god-given sexual nature, which is our beautiful energy to End the world over which women are star for men are star for so. Yeah that idea that Sexuality is something that we should be ashamed of Yeah, that's that's a sin, you know and when you and here's the thing Here's what women don't know. I'm gonna talk to the women's later today. I'll say this some of you I mean to say What women don't know is they have this capacity To rebirth men They birth men, right And they have the ability to rebirth men when you Make love to a woman that is Beautiful to you Maybe quote-unquote out of your league and she willingly receives you As opposed to getting her drunk and you know banging her She willingly opens herself to you says I receive you And any of you men will know what I'm talking about here The moment you penetrate and enter into this inviting spirit All is forgiven Because of her because all your rejections all the hurts you've caused all the hurts you receive In that moment You it's almost you almost get a tear in your eye because all is forgiven because someone receives you says yes I receive you I invite you That's a heartbreaking thing for men And women don't know they have that capacity But it really rebirths us and makes us feel that I can stand on this earth and You know, there's a lot of men's movements with a lot of men surrounded by men But we can't have a men's movement without the saving grace of the female spirit Around it wrapped around it has to be The tide has to rise all the boats once That's why you know, we have this feminist movement over here And it's and it's it's raising its voices here and the men's movements over here raising their voices But if they don't if we don't do it together It has to fail it's gonna fail okay you talked a little bit about Going around the culture Just I don't remember exactly how you put it but going around Putting the voices out of your mind and finding a different way I'm curious if And pardon me if I'm getting a few of these facts wrong But my understanding is you and a bunch of other guys in the manosphere like ruche I think Andrew Tate perhaps Ended up in Romania. I'm wondering if that was a response or a coordinated Effort of some kind that's a good question. I was traveling for years with a carry-on suitcase and one pair of shoes And I lived for three months a month. You're all three months in Panama three months in South Africa. I just all over just wandering and homeless bum And I ended up you know what I went to Nicaragua to work on my book My book is 90 done now. I've asked the girl and I thought man I need to be put in jail for three months or sucking a dessert on so I can finish this damn thing, you know So I artificially did it. I went to a small fishing village in Nicaragua for four months You know, we spoke in English I ate one fish a day and I learned a bit of Spanish and I sat there Watching the fishermen go out And I sat there and you know the edge of the jungle and to work on the book and When and the people were so Full of light poor Not nothing to their names And I'm thinking I remember this this one young guy and his family would ride the bicycle and he'd walk beside the bicycle There's two kids and his wife was riding on the bicycle. He would come by and I say He's buying another bicycle. How much is bicycle car? Oh It's in your I don't know and I go to the town of Leon and here's some bicycles and they're 50 dollars incredible man, but that family was so beautiful so happy so full of light and joy and I was surrounded by this And I and watching these people and how happy they were and they had nothing And I'm from the west right from from from modern culture And I flew from there to do a major conference in Amsterdam. I went from four months in the jungle To Amsterdam and I'm sitting surrounded by guys and they're introducing themselves and say, yeah, you know, I'm so-and-so and uh And and they're afraid to talk to girls They're they feel like I'm lost in this world. I'm thinking man. It just really shocked my heart That's why I came up with the phrase That I wrote in my book every great life Has had in it a great renunciation Every great life has had in it a great renunciation Those people had nothing. They were happy The men I'm talking to you were completely Dishappy unhappy Right and so Well and along with your question or answered your question One of the guys in the audience in Amsterdam said I'm from Romania. I invite you to my country. I'm like Romania If you're canadian like me or american you come to europe you go to you know, you go to spain you go to italy you go to france, right? And so you never think to go romanian, but I accept all invitations you invited me I'm gonna come so I went there for a month and I and I stopped traveling there's something in in I did the 23 and me test and my grandfather Is he is ukrainian born in ukraine, but I found out they're born on the border of romanian ukraine And I'm I'm canadian my father's ukraine are canadian, but my ancestry my dad's side was all northern romania And I so I think I just uh landed in my dna and area and the weather is what I like and I just stayed I've been there 10 years now more than 10 years So I don't know why the other guys went there. I've never met them Uh, okay. I just thought it was curious that everyone ended up Yeah But it's just you know, it's just uh, it suits me in some way. That's all I know I stopped traveling. I'm like good now. I got a rocking chair. I'm good I've heard the women are nice too. The women are not bad Yes, the only thing I've ever loved in my entire life My only thing I've ever adored is women my all my hobbies I play just enough guitars I'm seriously The guys that go fishing I remember they go fishing off vancouver island back in the day and say We're gonna go out there and we're gonna cast nets and we're gonna grow beers and be man. I got two weeks Oh, yeah, I want to do this too. That's cool. Is there any there's not gonna be women out there and I would not go I just adore women and it's and and there's an abundance of women In romania for sure in my kind, you know what my dna kind so obviously, yeah Yeah Thank you xan. You bet Some of these are comments. Maybe there's a question at the end But it's just as you were speaking That really resonated with me and I realized what we're dealing with in culture you go the last you know a couple years You know, we've been conditioned you're talking about beauty that you know that the masks that don't work We were told to believe that vaccines that we're told to believe in that obviously don't work We're told to celebrate fat chicks on the cover of sports illustrated We're now we're being told that we're supposed to celebrate an unmade bed and shit on a stick and It's just it gets confusing especially for young men like you know And now boys are maybe they want them to be girls And it seems like this is just the world's way of trying to humiliate us or Emasculate us in another way as men and not only is your message a message of hope. It's really is a call I don't call the duty is the right thing But that we need men good men good dangerous men to get out there and that's really what I heard from you. Yeah Um And that's that's a question or comment that stuff is floating around us in the consciousness of the world, you know These things Are something good stripped of beauty for instance pornography, which I never really talked about pornography Is intimacy stripped of beauty? And I don't judge anything think about pornography when the video ends and the screen goes dark All you see is yourself reflected We're missing The the beauty concept of it and all the things you just described is society stripped of beauty art stripped of beauty Like I said political conversation stripped of beauty We've turned our face away from it to our deficit to our To our peril Nietzsche warned about it the last 200 years science and technology, which I love science and technology. I'm a futurist I like it. I'm you know, I want to know um But we've replaced anything of the transcendent the the the the call to a higher Power whatever that is we've replaced with science and technology and we have no place to turn So all the things you just described exist. I get it And why think on these things? you know consider Consider something else Consider the concept of if you had towards beauty guys say to me Because I've been saying for years, you know head toward the light And only the light and they say to me what if there is no light? Which is exactly what you just described There is no light Well, then be the light You have to stand on the earth and take and stand up and forgive yourself Look in the mirror Put your arm around yourself virtually because nobody's going to do it We can stay victims and stay hurt and stay or we can say you know what I've got you and I'm I'm with you It's a conscious choice And so I said be the light. So it's coming upon you. I can't I can't talk to everybody You know and and and and I really believe it for my young self So I believe it for you too We don't need to hammer against these things or Or or be discouraged because this is how to go so wrong Let's create something out of it create something to go go go around it and just have a good conversation over here Let's sit in the company of women again Which we adore and the company of men again, which we adore As opposed to this the battle and the fight and the whole thing Yeah So come visit me I have a course you can sign up for I have a membership. We have members for uh 15 years. I have a membership called the Amorati ours. Amorata is fake latin Ours. Amorata doesn't mean anything. But what happened was About 20 years ago a woman introduced or interviewed me for McLean's magazine in canada and she said Zanz Zanz influences are Casanova's memoirs and The ours Amatoria From Ovid the roman port 2000 years ago. He wrote he wrote a book called the ours Amatoria, which is real latin And it means the book of the art of love And it was you know a book for men and young roman men how to how to get a wife and how to get a seducer girl The ours Amatoria, but she misspelled it In your article to ours Amorata. So I absconded it I took it it's registered trademark and I've had my brand for all these years ours It doesn't mean anything So we have ours Amorata and then we have the Amorati, which is also fake latin Which is my membership. It's the guys we've got hundreds of members around the world for 15 years We have a conference twice a year We just I just came two weeks ago from a major conference my own conference in romania And we had a big party on the on the friday night to start it with all of these guys came from around the world we invite all the girls we know and This is just a side no I got a minute left and guess who crashed my party who I haven't seen in eight years They showed up at the party was mystery from back in the pick-up artist days Mystery showed up mystery and becks. I'm like, why are you guys doing here? They came and they're they're still in romania they came to To the party and it was uh, I haven't seen them in years incredible 20 years, I think you know, what's what has I wanted I didn't get a chance because I had to fly here I wanted to talk to mr. You know 20 years ago. You were this famous pick-up artist guy 15 years ago What hath god wrought in your life? What have you learned? What's changed for you? I didn't get a chance to ask him. I'm curious. Aren't you curious about that motivation? Why this rather than that? I'll tell you one more quick story related to motivation because motivation to me is the most fascinating thing that's what I'm trying to write about Why are we drawn towards something and not something else? And the story I have is this When I was a boy, maybe 10 years old I saw a preacher And the preacher was talking in front of a group of about 20 people 15 20 people And he was smiling and benevolent and leaning into the crowd And he was preaching his message of the you know, the the the end is near It's a seven day advantage preacher And he was he was talking about you know, like how I want this this great message for you To to to receive god into your hearts because the end is near You know, and he was benevolent and kind and rejoicing in his message 20 people sitting around like this and I remember him And he said this phrase. I'm there. I'll never forget. He said this phrase I want you to get this good message because I have a real burden for young people I have a burden in my heart for young people. I remember him saying that I've always thought about that, right? 45 years later or whatever it's been Somebody sends me a youtube video of the guy I was a little boy when I saw him last And somebody sent me a youtube video and and here's this old guy now with a group of 15 20 people And he's smiling and benevolent he's old and he's saying this message of like a this great message I want you to know this and get god in your hearts because the end is near And I'm excited for you to get this and and have a real burden for young people He said this on the youtube video. I'm like, wow And I said I have to go find this guy They flew across the world to see him Because I had to find out what Why did you never get discouraged? No one listened to your message then And you never flagged you never got discouraged you kept saying it You still believe you still had a good message that you believed and you still had this burden for young people How did you never get discouraged never grew never got expansive and your audience has never grown It's just the same thing you never lost hope That you you were motivated to keep going. I said I have to know and I sat at his feet and said you got to tell me why Old guy I went to see him flew up to see him And he looked at me goes. Hmm. I said, why did you never get discouraged and quit? He said well I think I just have a burden for young people And then he died Died just shortly after that cancer. I'm thinking What else is there? Why do I have that? Do you have that never got discouraged just pure motivation or you know, you know that to me is is Shocks my heart And that's where it has to go for us for you men. That's my story