 When we're focusing on rigidity, we're shrinking our comfort zone, and we're stationary. And that word comfort is, I love playing out of homology, as you probably realize. You know, comfort means with strength, fortice. Like build a fort, same Latin root. So what helps us get with our strength? It's not running away. It's not erasing. It's not having a different history than the one you have. The strength that you would have would be to take that and channel it towards a life worth living. And it turns out that's possible. It's not very far away. We're kind of living inside cages that are made out of rice paper. They're really thin. They're really close. They look really scary. They're actually not. And so the dictating voice within that turns everything into problem solving isn't the only way that we can interact with the pain that we've had. Can I give you an example of as recent for my own life? Sure, please. My mom died at age 91. If I were just to ask you, you can only say the words good or bad. I'm going to give you a seed word and you have to say good or bad if I say happy. Good. Good, of course. A sad. Bad. Bad. Anxious. Bad. Joyful. Good. How do you think it felt to sit next to my 91 year old mother and watch her die? Of course I would imagine. Very sad. Yeah. And when I got that call that she was in her third day of pneumonia, you know, and I ran to the airport and I blasted and I got there just in time that she did a little shake overhead to know that she knew I was there. But not now even talking. And I watched her feet turn black and I watched her breath space out. And then that last one came and there wasn't another one. It was incredibly sad and I would have paid $100,000 to be there. And you just told me sad was bad. I heard it. You said it. And everybody listening would have said it. And it's a lie. It's the part of us that fixes your car, does your taxes, I get. If we just draw it up, we don't leap out of the morning saying, hey, I want sadness. But you know, think about this, don't you buy tearjerker books? Don't you go to movies that are scary? I mean, there isn't any emotion, not one, that you don't pay good money to produce. So what the heck are you doing when your mind tells you that's bad? It's a lie. And so the rigidity comes out of the small tiny little space we tend to live in that the mind, the problem solving, judgmental mode of mind knows to do instead of this vast space that we have that are more conscious part of us knows how to do where sadness has a purpose. The reason how sad watching my mom die is because I love my mother. That's the way it comes. And respect that, but she stood for, there was a sweet quality to that sadness. It was a bittersweet quality. It wasn't all painful. I mean, I could feel in the pain of it that there was something that honored her, that dignified her. It was important that I was there with my sister and my cousins watching. Yeah. So I don't know, the judgmental part of us isn't the whole human being. It's only one thing, one part of us. The passengers in the back don't really know how to drive, but we do. And I want those passengers, but I don't want to turn my life over to them because they tell me things like sad is bad. They're that dumb. To go along with that, you're talking about tear-jerker books and some movies that are sad. I mean, for myself, I can name so many artists. Jason Isbell is one artist that who I love who has made a career out of all country songs that will tear you up and make you cry. And in fact, being at some shows where I'm like upset, but yet it feels so right in that moment that you don't want to feel anything else. And how do you even begin to explain that? Yeah. We seek it out. We feel it. We know it's important, and yet we can't explain it because you get to that explained part. Now you're into justifying it, and you're into this problem-solving mode of mind that is good for doing some things, but not everything. If I even said, oh, I'm going to play you this song, it's the saddest thing you've ever heard, the first thing you're going to think of is, I don't want to hear that. I don't want to hear that. But no, you got to. It's the most amazing song I've ever heard, and I just love this feeling. No, I don't want to hear it whatsoever. Turn that off. So, of course, yeah. Well, if you ask yourself to think about the moments in your life that were most transformational, that are most meaningful, that really impacted your life, make a list. Some of them you were crying. Yeah. I guarantee some of you were crying. In fact, even the positive, unquote, values, because they're so close to places where we're vulnerable, my marker when I'm working with somebody, I know they're kind of digging in when I can see their eyes tearing up. I mean, if you say something like, I want love in my life and you really mean it, and you've been on a journey that is deliberately almost, not because you're evil or trying to hurt yourself, but because you don't know in the alternative creating relationships that are superficial because then they're safe. You don't let people get beyond the armor and the barrier you put around you because you've been hurt in the past. It's really so vulnerable again. It means vulnerable. Vulnerable is vulnerable. When people are close to you, they can wound you. If you just got somebody to the space where they'd say something so sweet, so wonderful, like, I want love in my life, they're going to tear up. Why? Because these values are a rich soup of yearning and of need and informed by pain. So the dumb part of us is to say, no, no, no, don't play that song. Don't bring me down. No one won't. The places that are really meaningful in your life have that quality. Not always. There's joyful moments, the victory moments. It's all those things. All of them. They all have a place. But the sorting part of us that sorts it into good and bad, that part of your mind doesn't understand that and never will because that's not what it evolved to do. It evolved to solve problems. And I love this concept of psychological flexibility because when we think about rigid, there is no movement. There is no action. If you want to become flexible, you have to do things. You have to experience things. You have to take action. And this is such a huge principle, John and I even literally have it tattooed on our bodies, B over A. This concept that living rigidly is A. It's your comfort zone. It's where you feel that sugary soup. But in order to live life, you got to confront the challenge that is B. And B is always going to be more difficult than A. A is in your comfort zone. B is outside of your comfort zone. But the more you choose B, the stronger you become, the more flexible you are psychologically, physically. And it opens up a whole other world to you. So we've baked it into our courses, whether it's the boot camp or core confidence, comfort zone challenges, putting yourself in a place where, yes, I'm outside of my comfort zone, but through gaining that experience, and there's going to be moments where it goes swimmingly well and I'm crying tears of joy, and there's going to be moments where I'm crying tears of sadness because I failed. But that's how we start to develop that psychological flexibility that is going to help us in life. There is not going to be this endless stream of high moments, and we've had guests like Sugar 8 Leonard on to talk about it. Someone who's incredibly famous, who had everything at a very young age. And what happened? He was chasing that dream and it led to substance abuse, right? When we chase just the positive, just the sugary soup, it puts us down a path that ultimately harms us.