 You've decided you want an open relationship, but how do you tell your partner about it? Hey, babe. Hey. Hey, yo. This is Neve, and this is Laura. They just got married nine months after they had their baby Cleo. Oops. Honestly, they have no idea what they're doing. But whatever, they're in love. And we're here to help. Monogamous relationships are tough. I mean, are you really supposed to be with one person for the rest of your life? You do if you want to have an open relationship, but your partner's worried about sharing you with other people. Hey, babe. We need to talk. Let's talk about open relationships, because even if you say you don't want one, you probably thought about it. Most people have. And I think everyone's pretty curious if it could work. Yeah. I think it's everyone's kind of guilty pleasure. And there's also so many different ways to do it. There's one version of it that's allowing your significant other to have an extra curricular activity, little sex on the side. And then there's the inviting a person into your bedroom, the unicorn. And then they're swinging. So you and another couple, you swap partners, and that's the thing. So should we open this can of worms? Yes, I'm excited. Okay, let's do it. Okay. My boyfriend has mentioned wanting to have a threesome. And after thinking about it for a while, I'm actually open to the idea. He wants to get a joint Tinder account to find a third person that way. But I'm nervous someone I know will see it. Do you think it's a good idea? Or do you have any other suggestions for where I could find someone? Your friends will see it. Who cares what your friends think? You're having an open relationship. Maybe they would start having a little more fun. True. Or maybe some of your friends would like to get in on the action. Yes. If they knew you were interested. Fuck your friends. That's the answer. Right. If you really want to do it, do it right. Go out together. Go to a bar. Go to a party. It's not going to happen on the first night. Eventually you'll both find someone who you like is cute or you're vibing with. Right. And just say like, hey, let's get out of here. Last year we went to South America on a vacation. We were. For New Year's. And while we were there, we went to a New Year's party and we were at this table having a big fun dinner and there was another young attractive couple next to us. And we started to hang out and have fun. And they were like flirting with us, we thought. I liked them. They were cute. Yeah. We were having fun with this couple so we invited them back to our room and we hooked up with them. Right. If you have enough swag to pull this off because not everyone does and people are like, I want an open relationship but they don't want to go hunt for it. Right. Look, always a good idea to explore and be open to new things. But keep in mind that, you know, sometimes opening your relationship does come with some complications so be ready for that. And one of those complications might be your friends finding out. So for now, if you want to avoid that, there's apps like Thrender or you can just go on Tinder separately and in the messaging part be like, actually, I'm looking for me and my boyfriend. I mean, or just have sex with your friends. Just do it. Go for that. We got a call from Derek. Should we bring him into the bedroom with us here? I thought you'd never ask. Hey, Derek. Hey, Neven Laura. My boyfriend and I recently opened up our relationship and he seems to be super into it. I mean, he's seeing tons of guys, but I'm not super into it. Can we go back into being into a close relationship? This is one of the big dangers of opening your relationship because the reality is if you ever want to go back, it's really hard. If you guys were good before, you could be good again. So you should just tell them, hey, you know, I know this open relationship, we tried it, but like, I'm not really feeling it. Do you think we could close it? Or maybe say, I know we said we could go hook up with other people, but maybe like, let's just have the other person come to us and start doing more like three way sex. So that's a good way to ask him to bring the if he wants to be with someone else, bring him over. That way we can it could be as we can share it just because you're not liking how it currently is. There's so much nuance to an open relationship. You can probably don't go backwards. Go forward. Good luck, Derek. All right, we got another email here from Layla, who says, so this is a little awkward and I'm not really sure where to start. I've been doing yoga at this amazing studio for the past two years and I've become really good friends with the owners. They're a super cool, young, good looking couple. And while I've always thought they were attractive, I never really thought about them in any kind of sexual way. But lately I found out that they have an open relationship and it feels like they've been trying to get me to have sex with them. I'm not interested, but I don't want to turn them down and hurt their feelings and have it get weird at the studio. What should I do? I think the issue really is when you're in an open relationship, when you're looking to find new people, you also have to respect that other people might not have this, like they might have boundaries and that you don't have with your partner. Maybe mention that you have an STD, casual, just like the casual herbie, just like bring a pill bottle and have it like spill out of your yoga bag. Oh, my belt rags. Yeah, but that could backfire because I could be like, oh my God, you have herbies too. Listen, Layla, you just have to take a headstand and let them know that you're not downward dog.